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ok I made a mistake I meant to copy paste>>If I ask him to not masturbate for a week he'll do it
the not watching pron thing is good
I didn't want to be TIM but basically we sometimes don't see each other for a whole week and we both agree to not masturbate so we can keep our sexual energy for each other
none of my ex bf ever agreed to that before.
>Genuinely loves me for who I am - I'm a thinker, whilst he's a doer, but still listens to my philosophical rants and engages with them as much as possible
>Invested in understanding how to support me with my bipolar as soon as we started dating, still supportive 4 years later
>Has never judged me for my past, also never gets funny about it (has an admirably small ego)
>Is an incredible and involved father to our 1 year old, especially in comparison to other fathers I know
>Provides so I can work part-time and raise our kid
>Have trauma surrounding sex which he is very considerate of; doesn't watch porn and, if I'm having a bad time, will stop mentioning sex altogether until I'm okay again
>Is a smart, thoughtful, caring, truly nice guy, who also happens to be very sexy and attractive heart eyes
Honestly, I feel so lucky to be sharing my life with this man and to have had his child.
>>113327> he’s kind of a sub except in bed
can we please stop applying terms like subs and doms to normal non-bdsm relationships
In bed my favorite position is missionary and my husbands is cowgirl(their is no or doms or bottom in this )
This thread hurts to read :(
especially this one >>113331
I'm so jealous
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this thread is depressing me. i want romance in my life. i feel like every guy i meet is obsessed with fucking and dumping.
I don't know what to say
Its mostly luck finding a good guy as majority of men are shit
Yah, so fucking what? Plenty of men (and women) out there aren't even capable of bare minimum. Sounds like you're bitter that other people are happy. >>113370
I met mine by taking a complete chance on someone I met randomly and wouldn't have usually gone for. If the vibe is good (and the idea of getting physical doesn't turn your stomach obv), give them a chance.
No man ever took an interest in me until I was 24, and I found my bf on tinder.
He's seriously out of my league, even if he doesn't see it that way.
Just make an effort with your appearance anon, my photos weren't even that great.
Good luck, you'll find him one day!
Pretty sure this is the same anon from another thread who went on about how paying for everything for your spouse and buying them gifts on the regular is "the bare minimum".
I've noticed this is a pretty common cope for lonely people.
You're living the dream anon!
Wish you the best!
>>113438>>6’4 which is great since I’m taller
How tall are you ?
also are you two deciding to have kids
oh I may have misinterpreted what you were saying a
I assumed you were saying you were taller then him
I've been almost seven years with my boyfriend and I still think he's the best thing that has happened to me.
> takes care of his looks (goes to the gym, buys nice clothes for himself)
> smells divine even when sweating
> is funny and still tries to make me laugh all the time
> intelligent and likes to challenge me, great at speaking about feelings and thoughts
> still takes care to remember anniversaries and having semi-regular date nights and buys me flowers and chocolate every once in a while
> is a sub in bedroom, let's me have my way without being a dead fish
> has supported me through bipolar disorder, doing extra chores when I've been too depressed to do my part, buying me surprises to lift my mood, even gone to therapy with me when I first started going there to show support
> has promised me that I can be a stay-at-home mom when we get a child and that I can stay home even after that to pursue my dream of becoming an author, which he knows won't be easy (honestly though I think I will just work part-time if possible, I don't want to strain our relationship with money issues)
Our relationship has always been very steady and loving, we've had only one fight in all these years. I love him so freaking much, he is my best friend.
nta but>only had one fight in 7 years>a hassle
>>113671>is a sub in bedroom, let's me have my way without being a dead fish
Can I ask what exactly happens in the bedroom ?
like do you do any femdom stuff or is it normal PIV with oral
Oh I thought by "sub" you meant you would take charge more,or be the on top not full on femdom
I don't think I could ever be with a man thats into femdom
Aww anon, that's so sweet! I wish my husband wrote a poem for me. He's pretty good about the comfort food though.
What kind of accent does your bf have?
Thank you, I would have never thought of writing one myself before, maybe you could drop a hint or write him one first? Even just a little funny one.
I don't want to be too specific but a local manly kind of accent, so it made him shyly reading a poem even cuter.
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he isn't conventionally attractive hence we were 'just friends' at first. but his personality, devotion and the little things he does drew me in.
>fell in love with me at first sight
>platonic friends first but later fell for him when he confessed he loved me all those years ago
>doesn't play video games or watches tv/movies unless i force him
>shares a hatred in anime with me
>has niche hobbies - reading, writing, poetry, cooking/baking, outdoor activities like hiking, kayaking canoeing, gardening, guitar
>does whatever i tell him to do - literally anything
>i.e. i told him to write smut/romance novella for me even though he's against all forms of pornography
>writes songs, stories and poems for me whenever i feel down
>does majority cooking and cleaning; he'd do all of it but i feel bad and help out sometimes lol
>learns recipes for me after discovering what types of food i like
>will go out in the middle of the night to curb my cravings for a french fries
>obliges in my creepy fetishes despite being über vanilla (i.e. cross dressing in women's lingerie, licks my weird erogenous zones like feet and arm pits)
>gfless and kissless virgin
>shy prude who hates nudes - i kept trying to send him nudes of myself while we were LDR and he told me he'd rather wait and see me in person
>only attracted to me (idk if he lied about this but this is what he claims)
>works out and eats right so he looks good for me
>lets me dress him up to my tastes
>gets interested in my hobbies and invests time in them i.e. watches my dumb tv shows
>accepts my decision for non-penetrative sex (medical reasons) even though he has a rather juicy dick that's gone to waste
>will never let me give him a BJ
>his favorite thing in the world is to give oral because it 'shows' his love, devotion and appreciation for me
>cheesy hopeless romantic
>not afraid to show his sensitive feminine side
>gives long massages without expecting me to massage him back
>randomly caresses me softly - just rubs his hands up and down my body while we're lying in bed and plays with my hair
>always compliments me even when i feel hideous
>accepts my flaws: acne, stretch marks, cellulite, overweight, hairy (i don't shave sometimes and i turn into bigfoot), moustache on upper lip
>will take my last name instead of the other way around
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you are living the dream
To all anons with awesome boyfriends, how’d you meet him? Help.
I need to find my perfect bf >>113802>>113313>>113323>>114315
this is absolute bait but honestly goalz
>against anal >will never let me give him a BJ
Is this that same guy who doesn't eat fruit?
Must be his twin.
There was an anon who posted in multiple threads about her socially inept bf who did nothing but exercise and read. And she also just casually threw in there that he didn't eat fruit.
Actually…I'm pretty sure that was necessaryspeed4? I guess mods would ban this anon if it was her.
I love this thread because like >>113424
I hate gushing over my bf with even my taken friends since they're in kinda shitty relationships atm and I feel bad.
>is literally my ideal physical type and ridiculously attractive/out of my league imo; I'm still crushing on him to an embarrassing extent 2 years later>is an amazing cook and does all of the cooking for both of us, regularly makes me breakfast in bed>buys me whatever I want or need (makeup, skincare, food, crafting supplies, weed, etc.)>surprises me with "just because" roses, chocolate covered strawberries, and plushies on a regular basis >writes me long love letters that he hides in beautiful cards for every single holiday >loves and respects women, hates misogynist bullshit so he's relatively picky with his male friends (but also doesn't have a bunch of thirsty female friends)>is a loving, supportive brother to his siblings and is always looking out for them; same with his friends>I've got adhd/anxiety and a chronic illness and he's constantly doting on me, helping me with my medications, going to appointments with me, buying me gifts whenever I'm having a really bad day/week health-wise>amazing with children and animals>buys and does everything for our dog who's just as obsessed with him as I am>very physically fit and takes great care of his body; doesn't care that I'm not kek but is always super supportive and helpful when I try to actually hit the gym>has a really clever and fun sense of humor and is always making me laugh>excellent listener, not just when it comes to serious relationship/personal things, but also actively placates my autistic screeching about shit I like>insists (bc I'm constantly wondering even though he doesn't give me a good reason to) that he doesn't care that I'm still a (penetrative) virgin due to medical and other reasons and is constantly bragging about how sexually satisfied he is in our relationship>speaking of which, huge dick that I can't wait to actually put to proper use >no degenerate kinks or fetishes, but will try/do anything I want in the bedroom >always wants to have sex whenever I do, but never throws a tantrum or makes me feel bad at all if I'm not in the mood>is always telling me how beautiful/gorgeous/sexy he thinks I am despite how gross I feel like 99% of the time >supports all of my hobbies and interests, even if they clearly aren't his thing he's always so sweet and enthusiastic about them >very neat and organized, always keeps our place super clean even when I've made the mess >rubs my back until I fall asleep every single night>never judges any of my overt weirdness and genuinely finds it cute and endearing>highly empathetic and gives me and my friends great advice and consolation>wants to support me financially while I pursue my dreams (writing/art) >helped me take care of a sick, dying relative for months before their passing>we've both lost a parent, so we take really good care of each other when it comes to grief and similar traumas>does a ton of work around the house, fixes our computers, car, etc. by himself >will drop everything to help me with anything at all or just be there for me if I need him>insanely affectionate; always kisses, hugs, cuddles me, and tells me, and anyone who will listen, how much he loves me and can't wait to marry me every single day
I'm gonna stop there because I sound insufferably spoiled - tbh most of this is a 2-way thing, but I just wanted to focus on him obvi - but yeah, I love him so much and can't believe he's even remotely real. I'm so fucking lucky.
'Not my nigel' is a phrase used to describe women's defensiveness against feminist critiques of men because their
boyfriend/husband is great and not sexist and it doesn't apply to them. Like, for example 'men are bad' 'well my nigel isn't!'.
Anon using it in the subject is just tongue in cheek, it doesn't mean 'good boyfriend'.
What bugs me is that if roles were inverted everyone would be angry at what an abusive
relationship this is. This is sad and worrying and you're the worst.
This actually sounds like a ticking time bomb, like one day he'll get fed up of the power dynamic you have. When you find a man who is a people pleaser like this: don't take advantage
My first bf was basically like this and I fucking broke him by thinking that dynamic was 'so cool'
You're either a liar or an abusive
cunt. You don't deserve him.
Shut the fuck up anon. You sound bitter and triggered
as fuck. Who hurt you?
Lmao bragging about not eating fruit>>125134
this is too wholesome
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I’m pretty sure this is you anon
These both sound amazing, truly ideal tbh.>>125166
I think it depends, we don't know if he's actually a people pleaser or if he just has that dynamic that with her. Besides if you have good communication you shouldn't be breaking anyone.
It sure ticks alot of the boxes on what we know about Pheebs..
The no penetrative sex thing.. if there's a medical cause then get help cos it's not a realistic expectation for a young guy to truly accept that long term, resentment will pop up eventually in a no bj and no sex relationship ..
why is everyone so angry over what i put in my post? >>125155>>125161 >>125172
i don't see how abusive
i am in it. maybe it's because i left a lot of information out, worded things strongly and just wrote what i find are the most endearing sides of him. he is a pushover for me only but i don't take advantage of him. he's just considerate and thoughtful, doing most of the things he does out of his own accord to make me happy. >>125166>>125227
i'm not quite sure how to describe our dynamic but i really enjoy teasing and flirting with him over how prudish he is. there aren't any power-play dynamics and i don't know how my post implied that?>>125119
all of this is not bait and is actually true believe it or not.>>125252
i have a tilted uterus and vaginismus so PIV is super painful.>>125206oof
… i actually have a waist
I've spent two decades dating with similar medical/PIV issues and you can often make it years into dating someone before they tell you the truth. I was married to one perfect seeming partner for two years before I was suddenly informed it was a make or break deal. That was after 5 years together and lots of communication on the issue. That pattern repeated itself (minus the wedding) for two more long term relationships. I found online communities where alot of women are in the same boat. It's not a failure on our part but it's a harsh reality, often several years in it can become an issue, even after marrying and buying a house together etc
I think couples counselling before marriage is important when certain types of intimacy are off the table. Not trying to be negative but looking back I wish I had more realistic views in my twenties
Hi I'm >>114315
Honestly, I met him a year before we dated and we hung out from time to time. He was from a streamer's discord and was the only one up late enough to talk to (since he's European). I thought he was funny and kinda cute. He asked me out kinda saying it like a joke and wasn't expecting me to respond positively.
Our relationship was a little awkward as first but I got to know him more and it was nice. He's honestly the funniest guy I know and hearing him talk gives a smile to my face :). Our relationship is getting stronger and stronger. It's the heading towards our 2 year anniversary and I am visiting him soon. Eep I'm excited.
Not everyone who disagrees with you is a man, retard. It sounded like she puts no effort into the relationship and he's doing all the work.>>125357
You should get treated, anon. Unless he's asexual, he's not gonna put up with no PIV, especially since he's against anal.
..And he refuses BJs
There is treatment for vaginismus, I've successfully had it and have dealt with cervical issues on top of that, I don't know why some women are so quick to say 'oh well no sex for life'
He gives her oral though? The tell-tale sign of a man being gay is being repulsed by cunnilingus or touching a woman's genitals.>>125606>>125613
Eh, I think if someone doesn't want PIV they shouldn't have to train themselves to like it for someone else. Most men wouldn't do the same thing for women if it was painful/uncomfortable. Sounds like they are compatible since they both don't seem to mind no PIV
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My Nigel is perfect for me. Brags:
>gets turned on the most from giving me oral
>is actually amazing at oral and is the only guy to make me cum from it ever
>hard worker at his job, is building a great career/accomplishing his goals
>is humble and not some egomaniac like most guys
>very thoughtful and kind to everyone he meets, is well liked a d respected by everyone he knows
>we have all the same hobbies and the same sense of humor
>never lets me buy my own food
>doesn't want kids
>DMs private dungeons & dragons games just for me
>always compliments me and loves my natural body (doesn't nag me to shave etc)
>doesn't judge me even though my room is like pic related
I could go on forever really. Hes just so good!!! I feel so lucky and tell him a lot and he gets really shy and loves the attention. So cute
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My Nigel made me this
Eh I'd rather a guy get an erection just from smelling me than nu males who can't even get or stay hard
Eating ass isn't everyone's cup of tea but I like it and oral on my ass and pus is a def for me, everything is better when you let yourself be nasty
Most men willing to go down on women are also willing to eat ass, but sadly there seems to be surplus of young men who are afraid of giving basic oral sex to women, so obviously eating ass would be out the question for them.
This doesn't include men who are bothered if the woman is smelling or tasting bad, which even then is fixable with diet and giving up smoking, drinking, drugs, etc.
Most men willing to go down on women are also willing to eat ass, but sadly there seems to be surplus of young men who are afraid of giving basic oral sex to women, so obviously eating ass would be out the question for them.
This doesn't include men who are bothered if the woman is smelling or tasting bad, which even then is fixable with diet and giving up smoking, drinking, drugs, etc.
In my experience a good deal of men are dying to eat ass and it's women who are turning it down about half the time, at least that's what my group of friends share
I don't like receiving it and have had to explicitly state to guys that I don't want their tongue wandering after noticing guys go ahead and do it -right after I say not to-
i thought so. who uses the terms 'chads' and 'betas' anyways if not men?>>125629>>125630>>125631
he's definitely not gay or trans. i make him wear girlie things because i like men wearing stuff like that and i'm bisexual myself. i just did it as a joke to see if he'd actually did it and he actually did surprisingly. he told me before we became a couple he used to fantasize about going down on me all the time and never once thought of bjs. he actually fantasized about eating me out more than PIV. >>125606>>125539
like all men, he eventually wants to lose his v-card so i'm hoping i can deliver once i get my medical problems figured out. i'm in a bad time in my life rn to worry about all that so i've been delaying it to get it fixed. for tilted uterus, i heard you just can't do positions from behind because it pokes the cervix painfully.
>>126193>basically a cat with opposable thumbs
This sounds like an actual healthy relationship. Good on you anon
They're not scrotes she's just abusive
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>super socially competent, people like to be around him
>has a lot of hobbies, made a career out of his guitar hobby
>is a fulltime carer for a severely disabled guy as a job (have a lot of respect for the patience this takes, and how genuinely proud he is to be helping someone who needs it)
>great at oral, loves giving and is never sexually demanding in return.
>focuses on my wants in bed, respectful and gentle- no real fetishes but we have a very ''mild'' femdom dynamic
>cooks and cleans, accommodates my specific dietary needs without any complaints.
>despite being a farm-raised swede in a family of picky eaters, he loves trying my countries food and loves when we experiment with cooking.
>gave up porn and took time to read up on the problems with porn after we discussed my issues with it
>discourages his friends from consuming porn, vocally expresses that it's exploitative
>has lots of female friends, listens to us often.
>when an acquaintance spoke out about his close friend/roommate raping her, he immediately believed her without question, moved out and cut off the rapist.
>respects my strong beliefs on feminism and goes out of his way to read up on it too since he sees how much it means to me.
>raised well and loves his mom, when we visit his parents he always works extra hard to clean up/help around the house so his mother can have a break (she has 5 other kids)
>proud of everything I do, is always telling his friends about how cool he thinks my job is/how much he loves me
>we never fight, he never raises his voice at me and we always come to a healthy compromise when we have disagreements.
>has a genuine understanding of fashion and a very distinct style
I love him!! He is so devoted and respectful, I cannot believe sometimes that I've found someone so compatible with me. I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
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I know that it's a cliche thing to say, but when I'm with him it really does feel like the outside world and all of my worries melt away - like it's just me and him in the world!
I really do love everything about him. I love his weirdness and how he teases me. We have the same hair colour and almost the same eye colour and quite similar personalities, so we always joke that we're actually aliens from a different planet, heh. I love dumb things like that. He's genuinely like a guy from one of those silly otome games. I've been learning how to flirt in French recently because of him (he's fluent in it) , and now we can hold full on conversations in French just flirting with each other. I can't even hold a 'normal' conversation in French, but ask me to flirt with you in French and I'll be able to, all because of that dork. We get along so well. I really believe that true love exists now, and for all anons reading this, I really wish the best for you and for you to find it too if you haven't already!! I know I'm gushing and I'm kind of sleepy but he just makes me so happy it's unbelievable. Anons, the world is good sometimes. REALLY good. I feel like what I'm writing right now isn't even enough to just express how good he is, how much we get along and just how well we click together like?? Is this real life??
Life without him would be so boring and it's not as though I need him or anything (that's a bad mindset to have) but it'd be like having a cake without icing. You can still enjoy it, but it's missing it's colour. I'm so sure about him. I really hope that this works out, everything feels so natural to me. I'll try my hardest for this to work out.
>>131264>how did you meet?
I'm not gonna lie… we actually met on R9k
At the time we were both insanely lonely, and he started a thread about wanting to make friends. I wasn't interested at first but he sounded really nice and welcoming in his thread so I asked for his discord tag! We both don't browse it anymore and he's not like most typical anons there for the record. I know it's an odd way to meet. We talked for months and just developed feelings for each other naturally. Found out he didn't live too far away from me, met up, and just completely fell in love! We're really considering moving in with each other and getting engaged in the next couple of years.
>Did you ever experience any hardships?
My first relationship was very abusive
, and I think anyone's first romantic experience leaves a mark on them for life, unfortunately. I know that he loves me, but sometimes I find it so hard to believe that I have him and that he loves me because of untreated trauma or whatever.
It's not his fault at all, it's my own insecurities. But compared to most others, I think our relationship is relatively argument free and I can't really think of an instance. Sometimes he has doubts because of the distance and he's just the type of person who looks at things that can go wrong, but I think everyone has some worries in relationships.
Thank you for your kind words, anon! I hope you get to experience this too!
I'm so happy for the both of you, thank you for sharing! also I'm so sorry you had an abusive
relationship before and I'm so touched that your bf can nurture and give you all the love that you always always deserved
I think he'd be considered conventionally attractive
He was pretty popular in Highschool and never struggled to get a gf if he wanted one
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I was browsing the old 'fetishes you're ashamed of' thread and came across this and realised this is exactly what my boyfriend is like. I feel so incredibly lucky. He really is the ideal bf to most girls. I'm so happy that I snatched him up lol
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very happy anon here- for a long time I was in an incredibly toxic relationship with an abuser who would threaten self harm and suicide to keep me, even months after I admitted that I wasn't feeling the connection anymore. I would tell my therapist that after that I'd never be brave enough to be in love, but actually, I ended up with the most wonderful boyfriend and I still don't know how I got so lucky.
He supported me through the messy aftermath that came with the abusive relationship, we're both aspiring illustrators, I felt socially alienated as a child because of aspergers but he has it too and I feel like we're two awkward aliens that seem to really get one another without much thought. He's a mind reader, he's so motivated and aspiring and he encourages me in all my goals, he makes me laugh so much and we can talk about anything. Intimacy with him is warm and being with him makes me feel right at home. He's incredibly caring and thoughtful, something I was always (admittedly) cynical about in men for a long time. I guess I just hadn't found the right person until I met him.
I really am so happy I got to meet someone so full of life, I don't get that awful little trauma response niggle at the back of my head with him and we get along so well that we never fight, just lots of good heart to hearts. A cute bonus is the little doodles he will leave me to make me smile, or when we draw together and talk for hours without a care in the world.
I can't wait to see him after lockdown.
That he dated women his own age, doesn't excuse the fact he jumped on the opportunity to date someone who's 1. a teen and 2. less than half his age. An opportunity he specifically chose to create by setting his age range as low as he could. Something he should have never done in the first place because an adult man of 41 years of age has no business dating a just barely legal teen(!!!) That's not "being open to meeting someone younger", that's predatory and a huge red flag.
The huge gap in life experience, stage of life, brain development and maturity is inexcusable, it's never for the right reasons. If you think otherwise you're either in denial and kidding yourself or extremely naive.
These reactions are pretty understandable given the tiny amount of info you have about the situation. But 18 is not a child & of all the billions of people in the world, not every single relationship with an age gap is going to be unhealthy. This might be cringe but we are literally in love (this is from someone who didn't believe in it before). Neither of us expected to have this connection we thought it would be a one time thing, but we've been living together for years now & both are lives are improved by our relationship. I was a druggy dropout before we met & now I'm at uni, have a job, so much more stable & happy because of how being with him makes me feel.
Honestly I'd rather be with him than some pornsick insecure scrote anyday.
Gtf outta heeeere
Hope you enjoy your wilted senior citizen desperately clinging to your youth when you're a grown flourishing woman in your 30s stuck with a 50-something limp dick manchild. In all seriousness though anon this is sad, you are
mentally still growing and your brain won't even be done developing until your mid-20s. Your "love" knows this and could give a shit, he got to bang a barely legal girl who is now growing more and more attached to him. Trust me, when you yourself are in your 40s you will look at teenagers as the children they are and be disgusted that this "man" wanted to be sexual with one. Sorry you're going through this and sorry you're so blinded to it right now. Been there, thought my relationship was "different" and "special" too. Hope you get out sooner than it took me and get to enjoy a relationship with someone your own age someday.
He's done the whole marriage & kids thing already, had a vasectomy & never wants to get married again so won't be trying to get me to do any of that shit.
Since we met he's gone out of his way to make sure I'm financially independent because he wants me to be my own person & free to ditch him at any time (not that I want to lol).
He's sane and aware of the issues associated w/ big age gaps & tries to avoid them. Like he knows I value his opinion of me too much & tries to discourage that etc etc
>>162575>dominant in bed, makes me feel smol & feminine which I've never experienced before meeting him>You being 18 & him being 41
Gross, obvious predator
Lay of the molly & stims anon
I've been doing it ~monthly since I was 15 but still getting good grades in a STEM subject at a fancy uni rn.
Sensible dosing and supplements go a long way but maybe I am slowly giving myself brain damage to be fair, at least im having fun lmao
After a series of only dating men who use me for sex or do nothing for me I finally found my ideal guy
>takes me on interesting dates all the time: cake decorating, baking classes together, picnic by the lake, dinner on a boat, etc.
>takes interest in all my hobbies and helps me with them
>used to be into lolita and he would regularly buy me dresses every month
>if we go to the mall he loves seeing me try on things and then buys me them
>brags about me to his family and all his friends
>his mother said something a bit rude about me and he immediately stopped that shit and stood up for me
>takes care of me on my period and makes sure he always has tampons, pads, chocolate, and a heating pad at his place
>whenever I'm craving a food or constantly change my mind on what I want to eat he goes for it
>is super encouraging, hypes me up for even small accomplishments
>if I'm venting about something he'll get really upset with me and it makes me feel really good
>super protective, gets angry even if other guys stare at me for too long, not aggressive but willing to throw hands for any guy who disrespects me
>helps me take care of all my animals, if I'm having a depressing day he'll come over and care for them and me
>super understanding about my mental health issues, even left work immediately when I was having a panic attack to come over and help me through it
some minor things that previous boyfriends didn't ever do that I didn't realize i'd appreciate so much
>always carries my bag
>if it's raining and he has no umbrella, he'll put his bag or whatever he's carrying over my head
>always makes sure he's walking on the side closest to the street
>drives extra carefully when I'm with him
>always makes sure he has "girly" scented shampoo, conditioner and body wash for me
I'm a mess and I never thought I'd ever have such an amazing guy. I feel lucky every day.
>>162636>Tried to be a responsible adult in a mature relationship and failed, abandoning original partner and kids
Yes a true catch.>>162640
This dude sounds genuinely great, happy for you anon. Where did you two meet?
This is a 23 year age gap. By the time you're in your prime 30s, he will be 60 and basically geriatric. In your 50s, do you want to care for a 70-going-on-80 year old by yourself?
You know why he wants you financially independent? Because he has no intention of supporting you. You don't want marriage and children? Good for him, because he has no intention to make commitments like that to you anyway. You're a NSA plaything while he tries to forget the wife and child life he left in the dust and who no doubt still collects money from him.
You're his messy spazz teen girlfriend he gets to fuck to feel better about himself, and hell you even indulge him in a monthly coke and molly bender so he can feel young again. By the way, a monthly coke and molly habit is NOT normal or 'off drugs.'
Get some self-respect.
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I can't wait for when he gets an old man neck vagina so I can lick it <3
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Boyfriend is a cutie patootie. He always tries to make sure that I have enough attention from him and doesn't hesitate to initiate physical affection. Cuddling him is the best. The other day he went birding/hiking by himself, so I asked him for a few twigs so I could make a Christmas star and he brought back a garbage bag full.
>I also like how he pats me on the head sometimes
>calls his grandma every Sunday, always super excited to talk to her
>doesn’t pressure me for sex, but when we do it it’s amazing
>will curl up in my arms and make the most adorable whimpering noises as I pet his hair and stroke his back (he’s a scrawny scrapper, like the type of guy who would chase a thief or break up a fight)
>always wants to lift people up and support them as best he can
>has the exact dominating qualities I love in a man, I like to say it’s his “dad” sense
>if something is wrong and I smile and say “it’s nothing”, no matter how hard I try to lie and say I’m fine he will get me to talk…I’ve never had that and it’s helped us so much
>understands that fighting and making up is part of a healthy relationship, whereas with my ex we didn’t fight because I gave up
>talks about growing old together
>super polite in public and has good manners
>will be dead asleep and pull me into a hug, even his subconscious knows how much he needs me
>we had similar upbringings and quirks (autism, social anxiety, panic attacks) so if one of us is not okay we know exactly what to do
>really good relationship with his family
>the things he gets frustrated at are generally the same things that bug me
>good with kids and animals, in the protective dad or big brother way
>likes gaming but doesn’t just sit and play 24/7, likes to be athletic and go on adventures
we are getting married next year, hopefully! I love him so much
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>start flickin the bean, fantasize about all the hot shit bf has said during sex, you know, pretty standard dirty talk
>invariably also remember the time he got teary eyed seeing me naked and said he has never seen anything so beautiful
>remember how he always tells me my eyes are so huge and pretty, my nose is such a perfect nose, this silly christmas jumper looks so hot on me, my butt is the cutest
>remember how much he loves holding me tight and just kissing me all over after making me cum, licking me, making sure I'm feeling good and safe
>suddenly crying too much to masturbate because of how loved I feel
I had severe body dysmorphia from previous relationships with coomers and an abusive guy who would pick apart every detail in my appearance, plus reading years of trp material. I didn't think anyone would find me desirable, or be interested in my pleasure or touching my body at all, I only saw myself as disgusting and thought that all anyone could see in me was flaws. I never really told my bf about this because I didn't want him to compliment me just to make me feel better, and I didn't expect him to even stay attracted to me after really seeing me because he's a chad looking guy himself, but he has always been so loving both physically and emotionally. Recently I've slowly started feeling good about myself and seeing my body through a more realistic lens. I guess his hotness also helps, if he didn't genuinely think I was attractive he could easily get any tinder stacy.
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>i was his first everything
>has a lot of friends but does not interact with females more than necessary
>works out almost daily
>does the cooking does the cleaning and does not let me lift a finger, have to force him to let me do things for him
>is the independent type but very affectionate when we're together
>animal and children magnet, would be a far better parent than myself
>has a likeable personality so I'm not embarrassed showing him off to my friends
>doesn't watch porn and never developed fucked up habits before meeting me
> has a huge dick and is loud in bed which is just chef's kiss.
>perfect balance of masculine and gentle
and the best part…
>patiently listens to my radfem spergs even though he may not agree with all of it and is always open to discussion
Good taste anon.
He shall also be 2d husbando tiers of attractive and mine forever.
No talking or looking at other women even while I'm not present. bahahahaha
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why are all the good traits the most of you are saying about your boyfriends shit like him being a doormat and buying you everything and 'he never watches porn' (you guys good?)
why not "he engages with me in my interests" and "he lets me do nice things for him", because instead im hearing "he puts up with me talking at him like a wall" and "he refuses to let me do anything myself" which is,,, guys. come on. these aren't relationships. where is the emotional give and take? shouldn't your favorite parts be things that have emotional meaning and not "he spends a thousands dollars buying me makeup"?
a lot of this sounds like guys who have low self esteem and you're taking advantage of them. seek help.
this should not be the 'ideal'. you two should be equals, not this fucked up power dynamic a lot of you are describing. and i don't buy the 'lol theres stuff i didnt mention1!!'
He actually watches movies I recommend him.
I can see on Spotify he checks out the songs I listen to.
When he visits/stays over, he brings fresh groceries.
Kisses me on the forehead for goodnight and good morning.
After a year, he still gets several boners just by being around me (lol sorry if that's cringe, but a lot of my friends warned me with months passing the lust drops. Which didn't happen yet.)
Drives me home or from train station so I don't have to commute with a heavy suitcase.
Cooks, or we cook together. We take turns in making breakfasts for each other.
Took care of me when I had covid, and early in the relationship I got drunk and vomitted all over his room, also flooded the bathroom… he tidied it all up and never complained, just teased me to hell about it.
Asked his friend to recommend me at his firm so maybe I'll finally get a job!!
We have almost the exactly same love language. We both don't care for gifts at all so I don't have to stress over getting him something nice for occasions (this actually gives me a lot of anxiety).
He struggled with mental health before so he's understanding with mine.
He's a feminist and a leftist. Has some "male-y" views still, but willing to listen and change when I explain my view.
Loves to listen to me playing guitar. I'm very basic, but he has no musical talents so he's so impressed and always asks me to play more. I've never played for anyone, it's so weird for me that someone actively wants to listen to it, lol. It's a nice feeling.
Doesn't have a big social media presence.
Always does foreplay, always tries to get me off first, is a good kisser.
Of course there's stuff that annoy me, but overall, I can't believe I found this man on tinder, and the first time I met someone off it.
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salty about a year old post cuz your boyfriend ain't shit?
ok, let me tell you about my boyfriend then>sporty and tall, got me into doing sports again>bald, luckily he sports a Jason Statham look that fits him, I don't care I like bald guys (maybe becuz my father was bald too)>earns somewhat less then me, but isn't bothered by it and I'm not either>he does all the cooking because he's more talented and creative at it while I do the dishes and most of the cleaning, I'll let him do the dirtier or physically hard works around the house though>gives great massages, has very good, strong hands>he's a racist, hompohobe, hates minorities and feminists, obviously we don't agree in most things politically, but I don't argue with him anymore because arguing with him makes me anxious as he's way more knowledgable in these topics than me and the last time I tried he debunked the wage gap with the data I gave him from the company I work at>he used to watch porn, but he's against it now, not because of me, but on principle>has never eaten my pussy, I give bjs when he asks for it rarely, but I suspect it's because I'm not good at it, he has a big dick and it's tiring for me>he is faithful, wants kids and a family and I think he will be great father as he is good with kids and animals like him>he likes memes and internet culture, sometimes he has black homour, sometimes he's childish like me, he's fun to be around>once he noticed how much thinner I was on a high shool picture he made remarks about my weight which upset me very much and we got into a big argument over it, since then he's more careful with his words>generally very calm and rational and he's great at calming me down whenever I'm upset about something>he WOULD BE a great listener if he could stop with his bad habit of interrupting, he does this to everyone, not just me, it's the way he is, he associates very quickly and likes to add his thoughts on remarks on the spot, I kinda accepted it, but it still makes me mad when he does it>he listens to my advice and needs if he finds them reasonable, I think I enriched his home decoration and general outlook, and his garden a great deal and he improved my diet and health a lot by his cooking, we are challenging each other and growing together
Despite all the fairy tales in this thread I love this man with all his flaws and wouldn't trade him for anything, becasuse this is what a real boyfriend sounds like, unlike these I suspect half-imaginary, half closet gay beta doormats. You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
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>>173174>nigel thread >bald racist homophobe boyfriend>doesn’t eat you out
Ok nice. I can't wait for you to divorce rape him.
Also>You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Then why am i happier than you? I can show off my boyfriend but you can't. KEK.
>>173197 >together for 7 years, have weathered many storms
I've never reached the 7 year mark so just wondering if you think the '7 year itch' is really a thing? Or if there's a different year that you thought was the tough one
I honestly seem to get the 2 year itch. Don't know what that says about me lol
Because > "he engages with me in my interests" > "he lets me do nice things for him"
are very common things? most relationships are based on compatibility in terms of hobbies/interests so i wouldn't mention it tbh. and i don't think there are many people out there who would reject someone being nice to them either.
Gtfo and go back to tumblr lmao
First L. Naked mole rat ass, lmao.>(maybe becuz my father was bald too)
We've known for years that the ugly bitch, Freud, was 100% trying to normalize his own fucked up family trauma, distorted sexuality and mental illness by projecting it mainly on women (with a strange focus on gentiles). Stop pretending this is rational or healthy. >earns somewhat less then me
Second L.>he's a racist, hompohobe, hates minorities and feminists
I really should've just stopped reading at bald, huh? Lmao it's going even more downhill. And you're dating him whilst in the process of being ignorant, so you just seethe in anxiety whenever these topics come up. A mess.>has never eaten my pussy, I give bjs when he asks for it
LMAO why even post this? What is there to like about this? What do you want us to say? "Based anon, my bf's never eaten my pussy either, I love only ever giving oral and never receiving"? Did you want us to mock you?>once he noticed how much thinner I was on a high shool picture he made remarks about my weight which upset me very much and we got into a big argument over it
Massive L. He really called you fat, realized his fuck-up when you didn't internalize it like he wanted you to, and now sticks to more subtle forms. >generally very calm and rational and he's great at calming me down whenever I'm upset about something
Kek, the calm, rational anti-feminist racist homophobe>he WOULD BE a great listener if he could stop with his bad habit of interrupting,
LMAO you just said–>he listens to my advice and needs if he finds them reasonable,
"If he finds them reasonable", and let me guess, you listen to his advice way more than he does with you, right?
So, you have the nerve to tell us all this, essentially insulting yourself, and then claim anons with better relationships than you are dating men who don't exist, and if they do exist, they're gay. Got it, kek. What a fucking cope. >You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Are you sure you're not just talking about yourself? You're dating a bald, racist/homophobic broke scrote who called you fat, won't eat your pussy, and won't stop interrupting you. Nobody wants that, unless they're actively looking to self-harm.
>>173174>has never eaten my pussy
Why are you listing negative traits on a thread that's made for listing positive ones. What are you on?
>becasuse this is what a real boyfriend sounds like, unlike these I suspect half-imaginary, half closet gay beta doormats.
Oh lol. Read thread descriptions before you sperg out anon. It's meant to be a bragging list! Of course anons aren't listing off negative traits like you are. You're missing the entire point of the thread.
Here's my brag
>full head of hair despite being older
>snappy academia dresser
>does hassle chores like dishes and trash unprompted
>doesn't fight me when I do ask him to do something, and he actually does it
>does his own laundry and takes care of his hygiene
>goes to work diligently and is liked by his coworkers
>always asks me if I want snacks or food, sometimes surprises me with things anyway
>verbally and physically affectionate
>always affirms his attraction to me and validates my looks even though I know I'm not conventional
>doesn't care that I'm weird and likes it in fact, he laughs at my jokes
>frequent sex, mostly missionary while we embrace and look at each other, no degen shit and he never asks me for blowjobs
>I don't ask him to eat my pussy because that doesn't get me off, but he will use a clit toy on me if sex doesn't always get me off
>doesn't watch porn and admits he hasn't felt desire for it ever
since we began our relationship
>never puts me down and is sensitive to emotions
>wants marriage and kids with me and has set timelines, bought me the exact diamond and wedding ring I wanted despite it being over his typical price range
>wants to be healthy for me and our kids and really tries
>isn't rich but he wants to provide me things to the best he is able because he loves and values me that much
>drives me places (although tbh I prefer to drive cause I love my sports car and he has shitty eyesight ngl)
>appreciates my cooking and compliments it frequently, sometimes he helps cook with my instruction and at the least will clean up everything when we're done
>we both have mutual interests and even the same college degrees and honors societies
>public announcements of his love for me, isn't afraid to show it
>polite and decent, supports my feminism
I just feel genuinely loved and cared for, in a way I've never felt in past relationships.
It sounds like the same scrote but post 691513 throws me off because when she's trying to describe his looks, she mentions that he has hair, but in this thread she's saying he's bald.
Possible she could have lied in that older post as a cope, because we would have laughed harder if she admitted she was dating a bald
37 year old racist /pol/tard.
He sounds fucking ugly. What's the point of being with an old asshole who's not even attractive?
Like don't you want your "master race" man to actually be a representative? Lmao.
>You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Incel larping as woman happy with her mediocre boyfriend falls out of character KEK
You are never going to get women to stoop so low for men like you, scrote
We're married now!
I thought it wouldn't be possible but he's even more loving with me than he was before. We're going for a baby after we get vaccinated for covid.
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it's me again, back with greentext and still smitten as I was when I posted this
> big, soft and bashful but also has this firm side that comes out when he's caring, for instance he knows my joints and back are bad so if I'm overworking at my job or freelancing he'll be lovingly firm about me needing to rest more, he's really thoughtful and the right mix of assertive but also thoughtful, I really love that about him, he's like a house husband> same sense of humour, joke that we're almost like the other but we have comfy differences too that make the relationship interesting> turns out he might be demi like me, really passionate sex life blossomed between us unexpectedly, he is endearingly into me and it melts me> both art grads so we have doodle dates together and he leaves cute drawings for me while I'm at work or he wants to leave fuss> delighted that his family and me get on and always includes me, his sister and her bf invited us to come play Minecraft with them and it's been really fun> really passionate about making comics together and the most supportive person>is really caring towards his family, especially his sister and mum, this is refreshing when my abusive ex disrespected women, but my partner is incredibly respectful > no social media addictions> thinks I'm the most adorable girl in the world and genuinely means his compliments> pretty quiet and stoic around people he doesn't know but he's like an excited puppy when he opens up about his interests> makes me feel looked after and heard and despite the lockdown he'll find ways to do sweet things like orders me pizza when I'm sick or overworked, we sleepover call and he'll whisper sweet nothings to me until I fall asleep and then he sleeps happily> always really appreciative of my efforts and I don't think there's been a day he hasn't expressed this, thinks he's the luckiest boyfriend > we can be silly together and comfy but we can also sit down and have mature conversations, as a result, to this day we've never had an argument and both of us like to address things comfortably and can't stay annoyed at the other because we love eachother too much> incredibly honest, has never kept secrets from me or vice versa, endearingly will just turn around and talk about his feelings and always wants to tell people the truth> more mature than he realizes, I think> has never had an ex or anything messy with any girls in the past and has worried sometimes that he might be inexperienced but he's always been so good to me as a boyfriend> stubborn in the good way, dedicated and passionate> used to have communication issues and that was the only issue we've ever had, once we talked about it he grew with me through it and this issue resolved, and he cares about growing together which I thought was a green flag> kind to animals> likes anime and games but isn't a degenerate or overly obsessed with them, more into cartoons> really hot, gets a little more teasing when he flusters me for someone so bashful, gap moe af> always compliments you and makes you feel noticed, takes interest in your day and very easy to chat with> typically end up chatting for hours, little hypeman> humble and kind> doesn't care if we have kids or not and has never and would never pressure me> really smart and intelligent> doesn't care about gender binaries, will happily swap clothes and likes the same comfy fashion> big spoons me when I need it the most> encourages me in everything I do> gets horny over me over the slightest thing like my scent or wanting to be close to me, lovingly feral
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Just visited my guy during a work lull when he's been slammed like all day
>mfw he instantly gives me a bowl of icecream
My boyfriend certainly isnt perfect, he's even quite average compared to some of my friends bfs but at least he has a full had of hair at 35, loves eating pussy, makes more money than me (but tbh, i am a student…), isnt racist, isnt feminist but also isnt anti-feminist, also doesnt watch porn, knows how to cook AND to clean (he's in fact cleaner/neatier than me), never pointed out my physical flaws ever,… Like this isnt even bragging, its the bare minimum. I would unironicly rather kill myself than to be in a LTR with a man like your boyfriend.
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I wonder where can you even meet a guy like this?