>>1992541I wish she could just understand that the reason people remain mad at her is because she retains the mindset of being the biggest
victim of all. I sympathize with the fact that it's difficult to acknowledge the hurt of others when you are feeling hurt, but she's devolved into demanding people acknowledge her hurt first and foremost and refuse to talk to people harmed by her and her crew unless they push their own hurt to the side and accept it if she wants to yell. If only she just acknowledged that what happened to others due to Marl and her own unhealed traumabrain sucked. She HAS acknowledged in the past, yes, in a large google doc, but she acts like that's the end all be all. An apology means nothing if your behavior doesn't change going forward. If you apologize without changing your behavior, it's just manipulation. You want the benefits of having apologized without actually having to put in the work to make that apology mean something. Actions speak louder than words, as they say.
When people bring up the fact she or her ex husband have harmed people, she defaults to getting defensive. I can't blame someone for getting defensive in that scenario, as I'm sure being harassed constantly takes it's toll on your mind, but the harassment would slowly but surely subside if she was just honest and continued to apologize when people brought things up, instead of screaming first that people are being inconsiderate and saying you already apologized and you were justified all those years ago regardless.
She just needs to stop. She needs to stop making these massive textdumps full of info that accidentally incriminates her. She needs to get her story straight. Even as someone who wanted to believe in her, slowly but surely going from "i had no idea about the dogfucking" to admitting to having been raped by two dogs looks so bad. You wouldn't be mixing up your story like that unless you had something to hide. Personally, I like to make sure people know everything bad I did in a scenario where I was wrong and make a point to make sure my behavior is not a pattern once I've realized I was fucking up. Because it's very true, trauma, especially prolonged trauma, can make you act in odd and
problematic ways, and certain things can become normalized
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