>>458828I'm being so serious, do you even want a girlfriend as a person you'll plan your futures with, or just as a symbol of a put-together life?
>>458855No matter how attractive a person is, constant self deprecation is going to wear others down and make them walk on eggshells around you so you don't launch into another pityfest.
>which based on the replies seems to only be have more confidenceNo. Confidence without anything to back it up is fake. But you can earn confidence by upping your worth through skills (job, hobbies, knowledge), money (job, financial planning), and charm (hygiene, fitness, looks, social skills).
>I don't know how to talk to people either.Do you have friends? Practice social skills through small talk and making (new) friends. You can start with small goals like saying "Happy holidays/Happy new year" and smiling to people you meet for the next two weeks.