>>528707Nta but I disagree with this. I used to not be attracted to anyone physically, but liked them “as a person”. I’ve concluded that I’m a lesbian (after I stopped feeling this way and also became physically attracted to people) though it took me some steps to realise I have strong platonic feelings that are completely non-sexual and non-romantic towards both men and women. For me, that was the confusing factor. But physical attraction and emotional attraction are two very different things even though both can be “sexual” attraction, and it can confuse you - make you feel like one type isn’t “
valid”.
I actually think a decent amount of OSA women seem to feel more “emotionally attracted” to guys than physically attracted, of course this is by no means the majority but it’s common enough. On the other hand most bisexual women are entirely physically attracted or emotionally attracted to women, the former tending towards flings or sometimes hardly even that (like enjoying threesomes), the latter getting crushes and dating women but only sexually fantasise about husbandos etc when not in a relationship or sometimes even in one, even if they enjoy sex with their female partner. Funnily enough these ones are the ones more likely to call themselves “lesbians” or “mostly bi” despite expressing more physical attraction to men, because they genuinely feel like they only really “like” women. I guess it’s the “energy”?
Anyway, I can understand how it can feel isolating to not relate to other people who should supposedly be like you. Bisexual is a wide label and honestly I feel like other descriptors are more accurate… I feel kinship with a Kinsey 5 bi but Kinsey 2s are basically straight women to me. Just completely different people. For that reason I understand how people struggle with identifying with labels.
And even then, the other anon is right in that your attraction is always going to be a different experience to a lot of people. Even beyond sexuality, how we experience it varies from person to person.