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No. 120684

Reading the pink pill thread makes me wonder where have all the good men gone? What makes a good man? How do I find one? What are his characteristics? I want to land a good man that isn’t necessarily gorgeous and rich, just someone who is a good human being.

No. 120685

>>120684
Well the pink pill thread has an anon dropping pages from Why Does he Do That by Lindy Bancroft which is about recognizing and avoiding abhsive men. Maybe getting the book is a good place to start so you can at least avoid the worst of men. I don't think that anon will post the whole book.

I disagree with the phrasing of 'where have all the good men gone' though because it implies there was a plentitude of good men once that doesn exist now. It's probably always been the same, just bad in different ways.

No. 120707

>>120685
Bless that anon but those are negative traits to avoid. What are positive traits that are worth noticing?

No. 120718

>>120707
1. they get along with their mom and/or have platonic female friends

No. 120720

>>120707
Pay attention to
>how he behaves when he's wrong about something
>how he acts when he's physically stressed (hurt/sick/tired/hungry)
>how he treats you when you're sick or feeling unwell
>how he treats people that he could be a dick to without consequences (ie. service workers)
>how he reacts when you express a boundary
>how he treats animals
A good partner is different for everyone, but generally you want someone who is patient, respectful, kind, and considerate. If you can find someone you don't mind being stuck in traffic with, that's good. If you feel like you can share what's on your mind and be heard and understood, that's good. If one thing going wrong isn't a big deal, that's good.

No. 120724

My fiancé was always a decent man and a great human being in general but when we met he had tons of issues. He was depressed, unable to fight/take criticism, had difficulties to express his emotions and to communicate in general. He was just like a lot of men I knew back then. But you know what made the difference? He tried everything to be better when he met me and realized that he truly loves me. (cheesy, I know lol) We’ve been living together for 3 years now and he’s a different man now. My fiancé definitely is an intellectual introvert, he’s very aware of other man being horrible and has always been on the softer side. He’s never loud, he doesn’t care about drugs/drinking/parties and he is extremely loyal. I never had to worry about him and other women from the start although he has a lot of female friends and looks pretty hot. After we dated for a year he started doing therapy which honestly changed so much for us. When I look at other people’s relationships and other women’s boyfriends I’m in shock. We never fight, we simply discuss our issues, solve them and move on. We always try to improve and be better for ourselves and each other, we live together and he takes care of the house, walks the dog, works very hard, just like I do. We take care of each other, he makes me feel secure and I’m very excited to start a family with him because he’ll be a great dad. It wasn’t easy but I always knew it was worth it because he made me feel loved and special from the very beginning. We’re each other’s best friends and talk about everything, he knows me like no one else does and I honestly never met a better person. I love him with my whole heart and I know that he feels the same about me.

If you meet a man with issues that are not horrible (excluding everything abusive, drugs/drinking, treating women shitty in general, being completely emotionally unavailable etc.) it’s sometimes worth to try and fix them, especially when you’re both young. No body is perfect and I sure as hell was not when I met my partner. We both grew in the process of becoming better but I know I pushed and supported him more because in the end women will be the ones to be way more self aware. It’s fine I guess, because now he’s just amazing.

No. 120728

>>120718
>get along with their mom and/or have platonic female friends
Not to be confused with a spoilt mommas boy or an orbiter. I think people often get them mixed up.

No. 120731

>>120724
Idk this seems really risky to me. Everyone either knows someone or has personally experienced the common conclusion of fixing up a guy: he leaves the girl who fixed him up for girls who were previously unattainable to him. I'm very glad it worked out for you but I've heard too many bad endings to this and came close to experiencing it myself my to personally recommend this. If I have to change the guy to be happy with him I'm not going to bother. With my luck he will immediately bail upon recognizing the self improvement.

No. 120737

>>120731
Just be sure you want to grow up together. It's no use if you try to fix other men and don't grow up yourself, listening and working together towards a common goal.
You're not a therapist, you shall be a life companion.

No. 120742

>>120737
This. It definitely can work if it’s not only you fixing him but fixing yourself in the process. I was pretty shitty myself when we met because i had quite toxic relationships before so I was deeply insecure, jealous, scared and impulsive as fuck. I’ve always been semi-aware of these issues but I could only start working on my shit because I realized that I hurt someone I really love with my behavior. It was basically the same reason for my fiancé. I understand that this doesn’t always work out because I had former relationships where I tried to save my partner and they turned out like shit. (I got a type…) but deep inside I always knew they weren’t worth it - I still tried and failed. With my partner now it was just different from the start because he really tried and so did I. Giving up on us was just not an option. I’m the first person to tell my friends to leave a shitty man because most of them are trash, but there are decent men and sometimes they need some time to develop into an even better person.

No. 120757

>>120724
>>120731
I recently had that happen to me. For almost 3 years I was fixing him. He went from a depressed suicidal skelly, to muscular, more confident and got a job. 1 month into him having a job and he dumps me. He has immediately moved on and feels like he is better than me. I was his life companion, but a new younger girl who doesn't talk about adult topics is a lot more interesting and fun.
And he portrayed himself as a moral and ethical man: anti-pornography, not a misogynist, vegan, etc. In the end he ended up being a coward who didn't have the balls to break up with me.

No. 120769

>>120724

The whole 'fixing you partner' phrase is kinda messed up. You have to ask yourself whether you'd stay with them even if they can't be 'fixed'

Most issues need to be solved internally so nobody can fix another person and nobody wants to be viewed as a fixer upper, it's condescending. I had an ex talk like that about my anxiety issues and after three years he left me for another woman with an anxiety disorder (oh and his ex before me had an anxiety disorder) Fixing people shouldn't be anyones goal, it creates a weird dynamic in a relationship

No. 120770

>>120757
this is terrifying because you're describing my current partner literally exactly. the only difference is he's still skelly lol
but that is the focus rn helping him eat better. we're coming up to three years together and everything seems perfect we've never once fought but I am already scared of this happening.

No. 120771

>>120757
That’s why I usually go after men who already have desirable traits and don’t need to be formed and molded with my guidance.

From my own experience, men who have their own intrinsic motivation to improve themselves in every way possible are very rare. I like going after the quiet intellectual bookish types that rarely use the internet, heck, maybe are even a little technophobic. If he reads nonfiction books and builds his own ideas instead of parroting what other people say on the internet, he’s already built himself up and improved himself mentally. Bonus if he works out and is very conscious about his health, hygiene and appearance (but not to the point of vanity). A man that’s competitive with himself instead of others— especially other men— shows he doesn’t compare himself and isn’t envious, which is one of the worst traits to have. It’s such a downer when men have to prove that they’re better than their rich boss, womanizing friend or hotter brother. Like calm down and just be happy with yourself.

No. 120777

>>120757
I am also scared of this happening to me… Even though everything is great, he isn’t like the typical misogynistic fuckboi, but I do encourage him to eat better, use skin care, get a better job, dress better, etc. I am SO scared that once he “levels up” in his mind, will he leave me for another chick?

He says he won’t plus he has crappy social skills so I doubt any chick besides me is checking for him, but that’s how it is now. People change all the time, and the ones that say they won’t ever change, change the most.

I’m completely dependent on him, I’ve moved far away from my family and friends, my life revolves around his and vice versa. Sage for blogpost.

No. 120783

>>120777
The idea of not helping him because you're scared of him leaving is fucked behavior though. It's almost like guys from the past who kept their women illiterate or modern men who ration what financial support they give their wives and make her hide her sexuality outside of the home because they don't want her getting ideas of independence.
I don't think it's in any way women's responsibility to teach men to become decent humans, don't get me wrong, but I think making the conscious effort to hold someone back or stifle them is toxic. Codependency breeds jealousy and bitterness.

No. 120809

>>120684
>where have the good men gone
did any ever exist in the first place?

No. 120819

>>120777
>I’m completely dependent on him, I’ve moved far away from my family and friends, my life revolves around his and vice versa

That should be concerning you a lot right now, let alone anything that might happen in the future. That type of social/geographic isolation is crucial to many unhealthy relationships, you see it a lot in abusive relationships and plain ol' simply unhappy relationships. If he starts making a lot more money don't be surprised if he starts acting resentful.

Focus on making new friends and establishing a new social network and finding employment or new educational opportunities. If he ends up being a jerk 4 years from now due to a brain injury or whatever you'll have the means to leave him. If he never changes for the worst you still have more money, more education or more friends from the efforts you could be making now.

No. 120881

>>120777

Describing yourself as completely dependent on him is worrying, your concerns about other women as competition isn't healthy either. Being in a dynamic where you don't have friends/family nearby and you say your life revolves around him.. that doesn't give you alot of freedom to just walk away if things go badly. And it doesn't help you to see things clearly if you have him up on a 'he's my everything' pedestal

Every sentence in your post was basically a red flag for unhealthy relationships

No. 120908

Okay.

Listen, sis, a good man is one who lacks all these attributes, but inconveniently extremely difficult to find:

- Conservatism, porn-sickness, "Liberal feminism", "haha jokes about women are funny", geeks, /poltards / reddards, SJW-ridden Chad, Chauvanists, rapists, degenerates, hipster, "I have no personality," "I care more for my dog over you," abusiv cunts, narcissists, "Sips tea let's debate rationally about this," "What's wrong with the deepfakes?", "Idk that's pretty funny lol," "Hey Mom - I mean - Lena!", Inserts emotional sob story here, and others

You're hard-pressed, basically.

No. 120941

>>120783
I think you are misunderstanding what people have said. In short, you shouldn't date someone you view as a project from the outset, you shouldn't be aiming to change people. Either he doesn't change and you waste your time or he does change and there is a higher likelihood of him leaving you. You should date a person who you are happy with from the start. And the support you give you can't just give out blindly or give out too much. You should not be sacrificing yourself to support and uplift a man. Only give things you would happily give even if you get nothing back. This applies for all relationships. You can give expecting something in return, even something as modest as appreciation and never get it and this is very common.

No. 120942

There are two kinds of men. Those that get women and can choose, and those that can't and don't. The former becomes proud, entitled and shitty because they know they can get another one and they don't give much of a shit about you. The latter is angry and insecure about not being in the former group and try hard to gain respect by other means.

In a way, it was always like that. Women also have tons of issues.

No. 120947

>>120777
Oh, same on that last sentence. Sometimes it scares me half to death realising the situation I‘m in. How he could have a change of heart or issues could come up and I‘m out on my ass. I‘ve been in the situation where I‘d have considered breaking up due to a mismatch of principles, but then I think…"but then where would I go? What would I do?" and so try work through it. I insisted he get therapy because I think some of his viewpoints that we clash on stem from low self esteem. I was also initially threatened by any new woman coming into his life, usually coworker. An attractive woman, with a job, in his field, same passions and speaks his native language?

But sitting, waiting, worrying is no good. I‘m trying to learn the language and I‘m applying for jobs. I‘m hoping his therapy, and my eventually establishing myself and a social network here will smooth out a lot of the base insecurities.

Shit, what a blogpost.

>What makes a good man?

A good upbringing usually. A lot of good female role models, taught to do his share and treat everyone equally, be kind and generous. Not put women on a pedestal, not look down on them or assume characteristics based on gender. Healthy respectful relationship between parents.

>How do I find one?

I lucked out finding mine at a meetup. Usually I find better quality, more wholesome men when I go to some hobby event alone. Hiking, cycling, or going to some nice event, group picnic or seeing some free concert, though more lecherous men go to the drinking based events, so I‘d steer clear of those. Usually they look like they probably already have a steady relationship, in the way they don‘t act differently or more tense around women, because they‘re secure in where they‘re at.

>What are his characteristics?

They have integrity, established morals, their friends are nice, and their friend group includes women without the dynamic being weird or flirtatious. Nice to their mum (within reason), happy to see others succeed and generally genuinely positive. Has a can-do attitude through the bad times. I‘ve often found they lack the average sense of humor though.

No. 120950

>Where?
There isn't really a specific group of men that doesn't have shitty men, but it's best to avoid alt-right ones, males who fetishize certain races of women, fat or skinny women, scat, etc. Obviously most fetishizists despite what they are, are repulsive and red flags, but some can be pretty level headed about it if it's something simple like stockings, heels, whatever
Some men will hide red flags well but you can tell red flags by the way they speak, calling women females regularly, using the words alpha and beta male unironically, randomly bashing harmless groups of women for no reason, etc.

Gamer males are usually absolute cancer especially if they're porn sick, I guess the closest to a group where most decent men are is groups of men who focus soley on their hobbies like artists, writers, cooks, etc. Nothing wrong with men who like nerdy stuff, in fact I kinda prefer it, but if he never leaves his league and twitch it raises red flags for me, especially if they come off as lazy homebodies

>Characteristics of a good man

Isn't hung up over exes, knows how to be respectful and what's appropriate and what's not appropriate, patient, not abusive, not fast to assume crazy shit, doesn't play mind games, typical stuff. Sadly women are so use to men playing games that men NOT doing such is seen as a saint.

Prioritizes you, understands mutual feelings are important, doesn't talk disrespectfully of you behind your back, doesn't pull any of the "haha girlfriend bad" shit, doesn't beg for you to spend time with him just to act disinterested, doesn't make fun of you or make you feel insecure. Again typical stuff that men sadly do so often that men not doing this is seen as amazing. Not jumping to crazy conclusions like "she hasn't answered me in 3 minutes she must be cheating, she asked me to pick up a 2 dollar snack from the gas station she must be a gold digger, etc"

As for characteristics they can do, putting actual emotional effort into the relationship, take decent care of their hygiene and themselves, acts like a boyfriend pretty much, is willing to have a deep emotional connection with you and goes into deep conversations, is willing to be open pretty much, likes physical affection, is comfortable but not too comfortable, like doesn't through a fit over if you burp or something while you two or alone but also doesn't fart up a storm when visiting family.is actually willing to go places and do things, unlike men in 2019 who's ideas of romance are just 11 PM hookups. Buying things, clearly isn't required depending on the man's situation of course but sometimes a rose and chocolates show you care or even just hand written letters and stuff can just show you care.

No. 120958

>>120908
I lol'd. Men really don't have a personality.

No. 120985

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Only in 2d.

No. 120989

>>120908
This is great. Sadly, a face or voice popped up for each one of these kek

No. 121010

Guy told me he never had sex because all of his chances were with promiscuous women he didn't really like and that he didn't want to give "cervix cancer" to a girlfriend or wife. Romantic or autism?

No. 121028

>>121010
Sounds like a bit of both, tbeh

No. 121039

>kind to you and others
>doesn't talk over you and considers your opinions equally valid
>can accept when he's wrong or when I'm right about something without getting defensive
>genuinely wants to hang out with you instead of doing it when he's horny/doesn't have plans
>considers you and your happiness when making plans to move forward in life
>no interest in ex's anymore; doesn't flirt with or talk about other girls appearances (celebs are ok)
>he tells you he loves you and you can just feel the sincerity dripping from his words
>immediately asks whats wrong/stops when you express discomfort/pain during sex
>cuddles you without the promise of sex
>is there for you and even cancels plans when you are grieving someone/something and not in the mood for sex
>thinks about you in daily life and texts you when he thinks you'll want something small (like food) while he's out
>trustworthy; doesn't lie about serious things
>treats his pets really well

God he's the best. Men are usually fucking garbage so if you find a good one don't let him go (super cliche). Only issue is he watches porn and posts on 4chan, but I kinda like that we both know about all the imageboard inside jokes. Gotta keep on your toes.

One of the biggest things is how he reacts when you mess up something small, like give wrong directions (delaying like 5 minutes) or get him the wrong order. If he gets all pissy and calls you names or gets visibly frustrated, RUN.

No. 121041

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>>120985
Sad, but true.

No. 121051

>>121010

Even if he caught hpv it'd need to be one of the dangerous strains, then you don't even know that it'll cause cancer, he sounds like a walking anxiety disorder

No. 121052

I feel like empathy is the best, all the shitty men I've come across lacked empathy in some way.

No. 121060

>>121039
i wouldnt tolerate this. id rather be alone. this is better than many but still not relationship caliber.

No. 121064

>>121060
Because he watches porn?

No. 121093

>>121064
porn, 4chan (depending on a few factors), talks about being attracted to celebrities. it's disrespectful. a guy needs to have a GOAT tier, perfect, like, "he actually has a halo" personality for me to want to date. this guy sounds okay, i can see the appeal for people without like "unrealistic" and exacting standards. none of this shit makes him "the best" tho, imo.

i know a number of guys i think are alright people, but are not relationship quality.

No. 121095

Would never rule out a guy for watching porn cos tbh any guy that says he doesn't.. is just being secretive about it

At least he's honest

No. 121098

I love how this is a "good men" thread and we still ended up shit talking them like they deserve, kek.

No. 121099

>>121093
Somehow I didn't see the celeb thing. That is certainly disrespectful. That combined with the porn is gross. I hate how it's acceptable behavior.
Other than that it seems like he really loves and cares about her. It's easy for us to look at things like a checklist but I'm sure he's actually a good guy and makes her feel loved.

>>121095
Some guys will stop of their own volition if they are in a relationship. It's rare but they are out there.

No. 121101

>>121099

Maybe I'm in the minority but as woman I wouldn't want a guy telling me to stop watching porn , I obvs don't mind whether they do either

Is porn a hard limit for most?

No. 121102

>>121093
I go on 4chan and am attracted to celebrities so how can I be hypocritical about that?

No. 121103

>>121101
I don't watch porn but I don't care if my boyfriend does, as long as it's not fetish hardcore porn.

I think my boyfriend stopped watching porn since we are together tho.

>>121093
>>121099
Do you not find some celebrities attractive?

No. 121104

>>121101
Are you the same anon in the MH thread who said "well some women watch porn!" because we gave several replies as to why some anons here are against it.

No. 121105

>>121104
nta but i think there is more than one female anon on the entirety of /g/ that watches porn

No. 121109

>>121104

I'm not that anon

No. 121120

>>121101
Tbh I don't technically mind a dude watching porn, as long as he can separate fiction from reality. Men will watch porn and think the shit they see is a total accurate depiction of what sex should be like, which is why they feel so comfortable doing things like demanding women have anal sex with them or mimicking the acts they see in porn. If a man is able to just bust his nut to a video and not have it screw up his mindset then I wouldn't care. But if a guy I was with was clearly brainwashed by porn or it was effecting his life in a negative way, it'd be a deal breaker, especially if he isn't willing to change.

No. 121197

>>121095
whats hilarious to me is guys who insist watching porn is completely normal but get assblasted when they hear about women/their gf watching porn and getting off to guys with huge cocks.

No. 121243

>>121197

Yeah I have a couple of fave male porn stars, both pretty hung, guys get just as intimidated/jealous as women

I get that some porn habits are unhealthy if it's dodgy porn or if it's an addiction but I believe that most of the time people only care so much because of jealousy. Like how dare you find another man/woman attractive

No. 300944

>>120684
> I want to land a good man that isn’t necessarily gorgeous and rich, just someone who is a good human being.
Good luck, sis. You’re never gonna find him.

No. 300946

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No. 300947

>>300944
This thread is 3 years old.

No. 300962

>>300944
OP here.
Fuck you. I found him.
>>300947
True.

No. 300969

>>300962
Well, you did have 3 whole years to find him.

No. 303729

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Look for shy upper class guys who aren't traditionally attractive. Short nerdy tech bros or Asian med school students, that type of guy.

>>121095
This. I'm pretty sure single guys get blueballs if they don't masturbate. If you want him to watch less of it just milk his cock regularly.

No. 303732

>>303729
KEK no those types are the worst

No. 303733

>>303729
Bold of you to say this stuff on LC. I'll go make popcorn.

No. 303735

>>303729
Okay I may be shallow but I don't think I could date picrel

No. 303736

>>303735
even if they were "good" men and didn't watch porn, treated women fairly, empathetic, loves animals and children, etc., etc., etc. [insert other good boy traits here]

No. 303737

>>303736
No because according to the anon that posted the image, they need to be 'milked' regularly like a barn animal or else they will 'less' porn, not even abstain from it completely.

No. 303738

>>303729
>If you want him to watch less of it just milk his cock regularly.
extremely sus post. also asian men are often more sexist

No. 303740

>>303729
Male hands are behind this post. Fuck off xy, no one is going to date your midget self or milk your micropenis.

No. 303741

>>303740
The milking part is 100% sus. lol

The best and worst guys in my experience have been short and nerdy, this means both guys who do go the extra mile from less options (and like the same dorky stuff I do) and /pol/cels who are the most sexist and weird guys on the planet (and turn my favorite things into weird porn). I've never dated a South Asian guy but most of the ones I've met are the latter, honestly.

No. 303744

>>303737
You know what else could help with that? Castration.

No. 303745

>>303729
Might date left or middle, they look a little Down's syndrome but if we had a lot in common and clicked they're not too hideous either. Could not date right, ever.

No. 303752

>>303729
All 3 of these guys look like they're one sissy porn sesh away from ordering black market estrogen and posting on women's makeup subreddits

No. 303765

>>303729
bruh these are some weird looking moids

No. 303769

>>303729
Why be with an ugly doctor when you can get with an average/handsome doctor? When women date men they're obviously not attracted to, we start despising them and the sex life becomes non existent because no one wants to fuck some weird goblin.

No. 303781

>>303729
>Short nerdy tech bros
I work with these faggots, and that's exactly what they are: faggots.

No. 303804

Broke up with my loser ass ex a month ago and immediately found someone infinitely better. I matched with this guy on a dating app who's 7 years older than me (I'm 24, he's 31). He's extremely handsome, like… model status level. Long hair, tall, muscular arms, nice lips, great smile. He's been a musician for basically his whole life (his dad raised him to be one, and side note, his parents are also cool as fuck) and his music taste literally fucking matches mine to a T, even some of my favorite obscure bands. He has a lot of cool passions/hobbies and actually has friends unlike my ex who had like 3 because hardly anyone could tolerate him. My new guy is super fucking sweet, knows how to carry a conversation, talks poetically to me most of the time, and makes me feel so good about myself and reassured about his feelings. And guess what? He hasn't had sex since 2019 before me!! When we first fucked he was so nervous and came in like 1 minute kek. Even though he came pretty quick the first time, he ended up being really good at fucking all the other times. I stalked his socials heavily before I even first met up with him, so I know what his exes look like - they're fucking ugly - and he broke up with his last one in 2019 so he seems to be telling the truth. But I'm baffled at how someone as beautiful and sweet as him doesn't get hoes. He says he's really picky and bad at noticing if someone is hitting on him. Even for his age, he has a great sense of humor and good taste in memes, isn't cringey or terminally online either. I honestly didn't know how to feel dating a guy that much older than me, I thought there'd be too much of a generational difference, but I actually feel like dating an older man was the right call. I'm still waiting to see what his red flags are (it's my third week of knowing him) cause he's way too good to be true…

No. 303809

>>303804
>Age gap
>Only left previous relationship a month ago
>I know what his exes look like - they're fucking ugly
Why would you say this about women you don't know lol - if he tells you they were psycho will you believe it?
>it's my third week of knowing him
You've only known him 3 weeks and you've already fucked him. Why? You haven't even known him long enough to figure out any red flags but you've still fucked him anyway…wow, this entire situation is a fucking trainwreck.

No. 303810

>>303809
The OP seems like an obvious bpdchan in the honeymoon phase. I'm also engaged to a guy who's 7 years older than me but I would never condone that unless you know how to put moid's in their place. Hopefully the guy she's dating isn't abusive because holy fuck.

No. 303811

>>303804
Attractive, muscular (so, has to be working out), knows how to carry a conversation, met on a dating app… he's a fuckboy 100% and the worst type too since he lies about it; you'll find out soon enough

No. 303812

>>303810
Agreed. We need far more education on why women should be strict as fuck and vetting men consistently from the get-go. Fucking a man you've only known for 3 weeks is just absurd to me and this is coming from someone who used to do that when I was young and stupid and naively trusted whatever a man said or did. Generally speaking, you don't even know anyone truly after such a short amount of time, even if you have everything in common with him. It's just not safe. There is good reason why we tell women to wait at least 3 months before anything like that and even then - keep your cards close to you and don't trauma dump or let men know that you've been abused until you've completely vetted them!
And calling his exes ugly - what does this serve? What does that tell you about these women? Them being "ugly" doesn't give you any information to further vet this man and just makes her look like an NLOG - who gives a fuck if they were ugly, that doesn't mean he wasn't potentially abusive to them or cheated on them etc.

No. 303816

>>303804
Oh baby gorilla…

No. 303826

Thanks for the honesty nonnas.

>>303809
>>303812
I fucked him because I like having sex with super hot men, what can I say? Me bringing up his exes being ugly was my way of saying it proves he doesn’t care about looks as much as he does personality, which explains why he’s picky and doesn’t get as many girls as I assumed. Anyway like I said I stalked him and all of his exes heavily before meeting up with him to find out if anything is off beforehand. Older people don’t really know shit about online privacy and I could see pretty much every interaction between him and his ex. She basically put their whole relationship out there, and so far everything he has said to me lines up. I’m proceeding with caution though and am ready to be disappointed in the end as per usual. I guess I can come back here with an update

>>303811
You can get muscles from other things besides working out, like having a laborious job. Relax

No. 303831

>>303804
Anon he is a musician with long hair, he's definitely getting laid.

No. 303834

>>303804
>came in one minute
>older man
>knows memes
>dating app
What instrument does he play by the way? And what music does he like? He seems sketchy but at least he's nice?

No. 303836

>>303826
>I fucked him because I like having sex with super hot men, what can I say?
So do many women but that doesn't mean you should be fucking a man you've only known for 3 weeks. Men see this shit as very transactional and you've already given up a huge part of what men find convenient in relationships. If you want to truly assess his red flags, cut that shit out and see how he reacts once he realises he won't be getting his dick sucked for a while. Men show their true colours once the convenience criteria (having sexual access to your body and unpaid domestic/emotional labour) isn't available to them anymore. When you withhold these things, it easily separates the good men from the sea of degenerate coddled scrotes.

No. 303846

>>303804
You're either baiting or extremely naive maybe even retarded.

No. 303848

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>>303804
>doesn't get hoes
And why do you keep talking as if a 31yos were elderly citizens detached from what any young adult would know?

No. 303871

>>303848
>as if a 31yos were elderly citizens detached from what any young adult would know
I'm 31 and today I failed Washington Post's zoomer slang quiz so that statement is accurate

No. 303922


No. 303923

>>303922
Ah fuck me. ITT - NOT IIT.

No. 304006

>>303826
>older people don’t really know shit about online privacy
Not to defend a moid but come on he is 31, he is a millennial, not a boomer, he is young enough to have spent his teenage years online, and zoomers are kinda computer illiterate too.

No. 304397

>>303826
He's charismatic, built and has very low standards for women. He definitely gets laid, he probably didn't post his new girls/hook ups on social media so that he could trick girls like you into being his pump and dumps.



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