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Is this true?
I'm a 20-something virgin with no social skills, so I'm asking earnestly.
Unless he has no acquaintances whatsoever (highly doubtful if he’s handsome), he will 100% know other girls who are into him, and many of these girls are willing to flirt without restraint. Everyone on this site seems to think that when they meet a hot guy you’re the only one in his life. That’s completely wrong of course. There’s a ton of girls who want him and many of those are more extroverted than you.
Now keep in mind he might not be humoring these girls let alone asking them for pictures, but he’s getting them and he doesn’t want you to know.
Seriously OP ask yourself, why would your boss NOT want to be with your bf? Also hink about the reasons you like him. If you have reasons to want him it only makes sense that she could feel the same way.
Damn, this is pretty pinkpilled.
What level of handsome is the threshold? Would a cute turbomanlet be included? How about just an average joe? Obese guys with cute faces?
ask him how he’d feel if a decades-older male boss showed you pictures of himself shirtless and kept trying to get your attention going full “how do you do fellow kids” and sending you tiktoks
is his boss attractive? his deflection sounds dodgy
He's into her or he's playing along for job security. I've hidden my boss hitting on me before from a partner before and it was bc I didn't want to be pitied or protected, I just needed the job and didn't want my partner's feelings get mixed up in my own problem to boot.
But men are less likely to care about the nuances of how you'd feel and shit so, he's prob just into her.
He showed me the messages/pictures and most of the pictures were just nature shots, his boss was in a few of them on the beach. One of them had her boyfriend in them too (he looks about twice the age of my bf). My bf said she sits next to her boyfriend while working from home “so she couldn’t be flirting”. I’m not sure if it works that way. He says he’s not attracted to her, but he does really like talking to her and that “she’s just very extroverted). My bf is VERY bad at picking up on flirting, though to the point that it’s a meme among his friends.
Is it odd for a boss to send vacation pics in general? One thing that does bother me is that they apparently like to sing songs together (she sings he plays guitar) during business calls (I’m not always around), which makes very uncomfortable, even though it’s not necessarily weird I think? Like if he did it with a guy I wouldn’t think he was gay.
Kek I'm getting flashbacks of my previous relationship's ending. It wasn't an identical situation though, it was kind of… exacerbated by some of the circumstances, some of our personal problems. We were in LDR. There was a lot of flirting coming from a female boss and my ex was ridiculously oblivious and naive, even though it was so obvious she was lusting after him. He seemed annoyed with her and was even rude to her at times, but they still communicated a lot, not just because of work. He'd retell me some of their weird interactions. She acted real inappropriate. Nothing like nudes and so on, it was just talking, pushing boundaries. He seemingly didn't like it but thought it was just her personality, nothing special, and acted very surprised when she admitted to like him. And then he began acting weird, unsuccessfully trying to hide that he talked with her a lot more than just at work, got angry with me when I said that it seemed like he was more interested in her than in me and I would appreciate it if he would be honest about it. Later it seemed like he was irritated with me or something, he would get defensive and so on. It was very tiresome. And then he just disappeared. He was offline for quite a long time, didn't return my calls. After a month or so HIS BOSS wrote to me and we spoke a little few times. She wrote to me because she got tired of him and hoped that I'd take him back or something. It turned out that while he was acting weird with me, he was planning to leave me for her (which wasn't surprising to me at all). She sent me some dialogues. Retold me some stuff he said about me. Some real weird stuff that partially didn't even correspond with reality. She actually admitted she was surprised that I turned out to be NORMAL, lol. Later she left him and fired him.
I'm confused to this day tbh.
I don't see a reason for someone to be that close with their boss for whom their sexual orientation allows attraction towards. She is clearly flirting with him. "She's like that with everyone" isn't a good defense either, one can be overly-familiar with multiple people, that doesn't really matter.
Also she can send things while he is temporarily away or on her phone or any number of things. He could be into her being a slut, cuckwise. Who the hell knows. What we do know is she sent him pictures that include her in a swimsuit, that's not normal shit.
I'm friendly with my boss - as in, sharing memes, cool art we find, chatting about outside work activities - but if he suddenly became too friendly, as in to message me a lot during weekends or send his private pictures I would be really creeped out.
My other, former boss is my real friend in private life but we've only gotten closer when we changed jobs and there was no more profesional relationship between us. That's the only way such thing could work on healthy terms in my opinion. OP bf's boss is definitely crossing the boundaries.
I mean there's the meme of work wives. People flirt all the time it's dickheads and attention seekers that have to take it to the next level. I met my ex's "work wife" on a corporate night out and the bitch spent the night elbowing me every chance she got. It was ridiculous lol. My ex got butthhurt because apparently this coworker saw him out at a concert with me and when she saw him at work gave off about how "out of control" I was that she darent approach us. I was dancing in a pit at a punk show, and it put her off him lol.
The boss sounds like an attention seeker. Maybe she's menopausal.
What does it mean when people call someone “colorful” (I’m ESL). She keeps calling my bf “colorful” in messages.>>142880
She’s a little young for that.
It isn't about him doing anything wrong. OP has been quoting this womans messages for weeks on here, that's the territory where you either need couples counselling or you're doomed. I wish more women would understand that leaving a relationship because it's unhealthy and it's sending you obsessive..is a good enough reason to leave.
You don't have to wait around miserable and wanting to see what his messages say. You don't have to spend weeks asking people to interpret what these messages to your bf meant. It's not about him, it's about where her head is at during all this.
She needs to sit him down and get him to drop this weird flirty relationship w his boss or let him the fuck go if their relationship is so bad that she can't have that conversation and have him care about it. Either way, spending weeks trying to divine what messages mean, hoping to have someone say "it's nothing" is beyond sad. She knows the truth deep down.
That's a sad outlook and bordering on the kind of controlling who you can be friends with shit from an abusive
relationship but maybe most people really can't handle opposite sex friendships so whatever.
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Not OP, but my bf also has a female boss in her 30s, and ths happened: I was looking over his shoulder, and he sent her something like “you made me who I am”, to which she replied “you are my project”, and he then sent her a heart emoji.
What the FUCK does that mean?
If he works in an office based job then chances are they've had sex.
Offices are like a hotspots for hook ups nowadays
Sooo OP, how are things?
if it was a post in relationships thread i'd probably forget already but since you've made a separate thread I really feel intrigued by the story's development, gotta know if the bf slept with the boss yet or no. Please don't leave us hanging here
They do, you just have to get some self-esteem. No decent male is going to date a woman with no confidence and who lets herself be shit on. Unpopular opinion I know, but being a doormat is an unattractive trait that people outside your abusive
partner will pick up on. So many young women focus all their energy on looking good but put nothing into themselves meaning all you're going to attract are men that don't look deeper than that. And then yeah, you're gonna be dumped when someone better looking comes along.
Dump the loser, get some self-esteem, stand up for yourself. Maybe you'll meet no one, you'll definitely meet a lot of losers, but most of all be ok being alone. Also get the fuck off of dating apps. The neediness is so evident from some of these posts, do you not think moids pick up on that and know they can abuse it? It's not about finding a man that won't abuse it, it's about not having that glaring insecurity painted on your like a fucking bullseye.
Also honestly, get some hobbies. So many young women wrap their entire life up in their boyfriends because it's expected of them. Do something for you and under no circumstance ever cancel or change them plans for a moid. A decent male will accept that and won't give you shit.
If I was dating a dude and sending hearts to my boss in full view of him and he was just QQing about it on 4chan I would be laughing tbh. How do you respect someone like that? It's not about the fact I shouldn't do it because if that's the kind of person I am nothing is going to change that. It's about having some fucking respect for yourself.
Same, in no way anon gives off kissless v vibes lol. She must have struck a chord.
I don't agree with the "no decent man is going to date woman with no confidence" though, and it's not very healthy to tell yourself that if you're struggling. I'm tired of this whole "love yourself first to be lovable" shit. It's hindering and depressing. A good partner will help you become confident. You should grow in relationships
that nerve got hit hard, huh anon?>>144171
I think it's about working on yourself and not expecting a man to fix you (not directing this at you, just in general). If you go looking for a man that will help build up your confidence you're probably only going to find men that will take advantage of that. I think you have to build yourself up a lot of the way so you're more resistant to that, then grow with your partner the rest of the way.
She's right, why would anyone date, well, your typical image board user if they have better options unless they have issues themselves? If you hope a relationship will fix your insecurities that'll probably just earn you resentment since it ain't gonna happen and will most likely just make them worse.
Of course it's a spectrum from zero confidence to fully confident and not a binary thing where if you're not fully confident at all times you're completely out of luck. But try not to be a sad case if you don't want your relationship to be a sad case.
You've got to be kidding me. A guy would have to be extremely handsome for any women in his actual life to just send him unsolicited nudes.
Even coomer scrotes don't usually just send their hot coworkers their nudes out of the blue.
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OP stop stressing over this and find someone else. He clearly doesn't care about your feelings, otherwise he'd ignore his bosses advancements rather than "laugh together." A man who respects you and treats you as the first priority wouldn't have you feeling this worried in the first place.