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No. 145654

Gonna share personal feelings I've been going through to start this off
I'm what I would call an 80% bisexual leaning gay woman
I kinda have regrets about marrying at such a young age but my husband is the only man I have ever had sexual relations with
I grew up in a conservative country so I was never free to explore my homosexual side
I dont know why but I still feel supremely drawn to the idea of dating a woman and getting to know her
Feeling comfortable with each other to take things further sexually
Thing is I absolutely love my husband and feel like we are supremely compatible personality wise
It just always feels like something is missing in the romantic/sexual department which I am attributing to my gayness
Every few months/years of me denying my homolust makes me seek out lesbians to talk to hoping someone can understand and give me answers
I feel like I should be 100% happy with what I have but I'm not…
Not knowing yourself fully and exploring it is true suffering(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 145657

>>145654
Wtf is this autistic ass OP. No one wants to read a paragraph of your life story when scrolling through the index.

No. 145658

>>145654
>bisexual
>married to a man
>seeking out lesbians
is this bait?

No. 145660

>>145654
OP the bottom line is you picked a man. It doesn’t matter your reasons, you’re still married to him. Either divorce and start dating girls or quit throwing a pity party for yourself over what you can’t have due to your choice to shack up with a dude.

No. 145663

>>145660
I know that but emotions are always conflicting
You can feel a certain way for months or maybe even years but then when it comes time for action you are filled with thoughts of possible regret
Once you divorce you can never go back and I havent even had an actual relationship with anyone outside of him
This isn't a pity party but more like me trying to sort out my thoughts with the help and advice from others
I know this sounds like bait but I genuinely have issue with even knowing wtf I want out of life in pretty much every aspect
But this issue specifically has been at the forefront of my mind for a long time

No. 145665

I was happy when I found this thread but then I read the retarded OP and now I understand why lesbians hate us.

No. 145666

Why is OP confusion so triggering to y'all? I mean, she totally shouldn't post it in the thread description, but overall it's a pretty common struggle for bisexual women, with all of the pressure to settle down and have a traditional marriage with a man ASAP because this is what society likes and what family will appreciate the most. When you're not heterosexual yet you're stuck in hetero-centric community - as you will being married to a man most often- it does feel extremely alienating, because you and your feelings don't belong and you can't talke about them freely; thus I guess seeking connection with gay women who are on the opposite side of that spectrum to kinda balance things out. I'm sorry OP you didn't have your chance to explore these feelings a bit deeper before you got into relationship with your husband, and I'm sorry that you get so much negative reactions here. Your situation is completely understandable.

No. 145667

>>145665
kek

fellow bisexy against bisexies bc some of you make us look retarded

No. 145668

>>145666
Mostly because it's in the OP and not contained in the thread. Thread index should be a general topic, not a blogpost.

No. 145670

>>145666
Thanks anon, I just needed to vent with others who may feel the same way
I'm in my mid to late 20s but still confused like a motherfucker on my sexuality in general
>>145668
Sorry I'm new here
Used to frequent 4chan so I'm used to threads being fast and the OP post not mattering at all

No. 145671

>>145666
>seeking connection with gay women
ah yeah cos lesbians exist to validate bisexuals. why does OP seek out lesbians (her own words) and not bisexuals to talk about this with? this thread was originally even posted in the lesbian thread, even though it has nothing to do with being a lesbian.

No. 145672

>>145671
It's not necessarily about validation but about understanding. I suppose it can be seen as objectifying in some way (also lack of better word) but on the other hand if you're attracted to women who would be a better person to understand you than a person who is attracted to women as well? Seeking out lesbians is definitely poor choice of words here though but in the end I wouldn't interpret is as malicious right off the bat. OP posted in the lesbian thread only because there was no other thread at the time and she did ask if it's okay for her to be there, so she was to that extend understanding it's not exactly the place she should be at. Personally I think being LGBT nowadays sucks enough without infighting and least we can do to a person who is polite is to be polite to them, even if just to say it's not a right place and not a right person to talk to.

No. 145673

>>145671
Because most bisexuals I have spoken to have a bigger attraction to men than they do women so they cant really understand how I feel
I asked the lesbian general if it was okay for me to post what I said here and they said no so I made my own thread
It's not like I seek out lesbians solely because they are lesbians but because I identify more with them than other bisexual women
I just happened to marry a man when I have yet to even know my own sexuality fully which has led to this
Seriously dont get why this is so hard to understand. Not everyone goes through life in the same way
We fuck up, get over it

No. 145674

Not a good OP. Post that in the thread if you want but not as an OP.

No. 145679

>>145672
>who would be a better person to understand you than a person who is attracted to women as well
bisexuals, who have the same experience you do, not lesbians.
>>145673
>I identify more with them than other bisexual women
you are literally married to a man, fucking a man, in love with a man, your identification is meaningless. saying "oh i like women more!!!" is a cop out and so many bisexuals say that and inevitably end up with men, just like you have.

No. 145680

From the sound of it, you’re just regretting your marriage period lol

No. 145684

>>145679
You have absolutely zero understanding of the situation yet love to talk as if you do on your high horse
Yes I love him but the sexual compatibility is not there because newsflash I dont mind him sexually attractive
He is cute but nothing about him tingles my loins, only women do that for me
I have been struggling with this part of my sexuality for years now and I have tried to get aroused by him but it all feels so awkward
It has literally reached a point in which I do my best to make him cum as fast as possible because it's such a fucking chore
You also act as if I ever had a choice whether to marry him or not. He is like the only guy I have ever been able to stomach personality wise so I said why not
Media makes sex seem so easy and pleasurable no matter what because hey its sex, nothing can go wrong

No. 145685

>>145654
I married at a young age too. Adored the guy but that marriage had very little sex in it, ended after a few years. Next relationship lasted 3 years, lots of sex for 3 months and after that he complained about the lack of sex constantly.

I feel waay too old to have any confusion around my own orientation. I've dated men but slept with a couple of women too. Every relationship I had with a man I would have this female crush on the side that I daydreamed about. I don't even know if I'm bi or if I'm just waiting for my insanely oldschool dad to die before I can accept me possibly being gay.

No. 145686

>>145654
have you heard of comphet? your experience sounds like it

No. 145687

>>145684
Of course random anons don't know, and we don't care. It's kind of pathetic. I feel sad for you, it's a shitty situation, but you should probably divorce him and rediscover yourself and your sexuality for both of your guys' sake. Why are you getting butthurt about being called out about wanting to use lesbians for uwu poor me asspats when you fucked up and married a man.

No. 145688

>>145684
it sounds as if you're not attracted to your husband and you're escaping from your marriage by fantasizing about women.
>You also act as if I ever had a choice whether to marry him or not
because you did
>Media makes sex seem so easy and pleasurable no matter what because hey its sex, nothing can go wrong
this is a problem with media in general, this has nothing to do with being bisexual
>I love him
>I do my best to make him cum as fast as possible because it's such a fucking chore
welcome to men, you married him!!

No. 145689

>>145679
Salty Sandra over here

No. 145690

Unsure why youre getting so much hate by seeking out advice from lesbians, it seems like the anon just wants something to be pissed about lol.
Anyways I did the same thing when questioning my sexuality in my mid 20’s, I’m seemingly surrounded by lesbians by the situations I’ve placed myself in and I find their opinions on lgb matters to be above those of the bisexuals, although I’m attracted to bother women and men. And the lesbians who help me understand and develop a healthier mindset were happy to do so.

No. 145692

>>145654
Have you considered asking your husband if he'd be ok with you sexually exploring with other women? Some men don't mind since it doesn't trigger the "grog get grugette pregnant, grug smash" instincts and some bi women like the idea of casual sex with a woman married to a man lul.

No. 145694

>>145684
>It has literally reached a point in which I do my best to make him cum as fast as possible because it's such a fucking chore
Jesus christ I'm so glad I don't date men.

No. 145695

>>145688
You are so dense
Do you really believe women from conservative backgrounds have a choice when your family will disown you and make sure you're homeless with no way to make money because unemployment where you're from is higher than the employment rate lmao
Please get your head out of your ass, just like you think I'm a stereotype of typical bisexuals
You are definitely the embodiment of the angry feminist 'lesbian'
Good luck with your dry yeasty vagina anon
>>145690
Thank you for the kind response anon
I feel like my view on sex may be very skewed due to bad experiences and media
I just dont know myself anymore tbh
>>145692
He is but I get bad feelings from it. Like why am I allowed to do so but not him?
Also even with his consent it still feels a lot like cheating
>>145694
Yes because you're gay. If you weren't gay you would enjoy sex with a man
Wow it's almost as if I have this same issue

No. 145700

>>145695
>o you really believe women from conservative backgrounds have a choice when your family will disown you
Nta, but you still had a choice? I understand you can't be with a woman but, you didn't have to marry that specific man. Tbh you didn't even have to marry anyone at all.

Anyway I'm straight, so I can't really give you any advice, but I hope you're able to have the chance to explore you're sexuality, and find someone who you feel complete happiness with. It's not fun to be in a relationship where you can't even enjoy the sex.

also, idk if you're on mobile, but please stop formatting your posts like that.

No. 145703

It’s so ugly how gatekeepy lesbians can be. Not everyone has the support or means to come to terms with their sexuality at an early age. And I agree with anon that the media has skewed women’s perceptions of sex, relationships, and everything really.
Cheers to us ladies who have made it out of the closet, even if it was later in life and after relationships with men

No. 145705

>>145703
Ok? Sucks she didn't have a chance to explore bicuriosity, she still gotta divorce her husband first before getting into lesbians DM's.

No. 145706

all your issues are problems with you not issues with being bisexual. sorry you made bad life choices. get a divorce

No. 145708

op also got fooled by the media into thinking gay people are magical wise validation dispensers. seek therapy

No. 145709

>>145695
you come from a conservative background, but that doesn't mean you had to get married young. you made that choice. if you do end up exploring your same-sex attraction now, your family will still have a problem with it.
>you are definitely the embodiment of the angry feminist 'lesbian'
god you're awful fuck off and leave lesbians alone

>>145706
based

No. 145710

>>145695
>You are definitely the embodiment of the angry feminist 'lesbian'
Good luck with your dry yeasty vagina anon

Yikes stay away from me and all my lesbian sisters. You seem to seek validation in lesbians specifically because even you doubt the validity of how 'gay' or insightful bi women are on their own sexuality. We aren't some bandaid or shoulder to cry on for your current straight relationship. If this means so much to you let yourself cheat like he allowed otherwise be single then find a woman.

No. 145713

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Damn I got excited when I saw the thread pic and Bisexual general, then read the OP and OPs comments in the thread. Fuck you, let us level headed, lesbian-and-self-respecting bisexies talk amongst ourselves.

No. 145714

Maybe this thread should be locked and a new one be made since this had such a bad start

No. 145716

>>145700
Nah if I never married I would have never had the opportunity to leave my shitty country
It was the only way to get the finances and papers in order for me to leave with him to Europe
I dont hate or love him. I'm more indifferent towards the relationship
Not everything is black and white when it comes to what I have been through
I'm sorry but if lesbians in general are going to act this bitchy over me when I haven't even asked them specifically for their advice
I just said that I have an issue with seeking out lesbians. I dont know why I do this but I am drawn to them
Like I said I had the belief and still do that the majority of bisexual women have more attraction to men than women
So why on earth would they understand my intense desire for romantic and sexual female interactions?

No. 145717

>>145714
Sure, I'm done talking to all the angry 'lesbians'in a bisexual general lmao
Like why come here if you are just gonna be mad

No. 145718

I understand you a way OP, I’m kind of similar, I’m more attracted to women than I am to men as well. I’m also from a more right wing conservative country and family that are relatively homophobic, and there are not many places to meet other women to date.

However, it was your decision to marry this man, this is not especially a bisexual issue, if you feel like being married to him and having sex with him is a chore then you should get divorced. Also, some of your comments towards lesbians are really gross and aggressive.

But anyway, moving on, is anyone else extremely annoyed by people who fake bisexuality? I have an West European friend who’s super into all this “sjw” things, and she’s really loud about being bisexual online. But then she admitted to me and some other friends irl that she wasn’t actually attracted to women and would never have sex with or be in a relationship with a woman, she went as far as to say that she considered vaginas to be disgusting and would never touch someone elses. Wtf?

No. 145719

>>145716
>Like I said I had the belief and still do that the majority of bisexual women have more attraction to men than women

That's literally just an assumption that you came up with. Sexuality is a spectrum and it's dumb as hell to assume most bi women are straight leaning.

>So why on earth would they understand my intense desire for romantic and sexual female interactions?

…because they're bi? They also have a sexual and romantic attraction to women, even if they are straight leaning.

Also, you probably attracted so many lesbians because you said you specifically seek out lesbians.

Honestly anon, I had sympathy for you at first, but now you just seem like a bitch. Anyway, if your a citizen of the country you immigrated to, divorce the guy you're with if you have the means to. I'm sorry, but you just seem so unhappy and like your taking it out on us.

No. 145720

>>145716
>I haven't even asked them specifically for their advice
you literally started this in the lesbian thread first
>I just said that I have an issue with seeking out lesbians. I dont know why I do this but I am drawn to them
creepy!!

No. 145722

>>145717
If you're OP you should also be banned from the Bisexual general group bc you suck

No. 145723

>>145720
That post smelled so much like LARP with the anime cow titties and the term homolust and everything

No. 145725

First bisexuality related thread and it's so bad… it just makes me sad. Redemption arc when?

No. 145727

>>145718
The lesbians here started attacking me first and getting all aggressive because I dared ask if my question was okay in their general and they said no
So I moved on and made this thread but they followed me here for some reason? I said I seek out lesbians but I didnt ask for them here
This time I was addressing bisexuals
>>145719
I'm sorry but the majority of bisexual women I have met and spoken to about my problem didnt understand it at all
Because they mostly had a full 50/50 attraction or more attraction to men
I am speaking from experience. If any bisexual woman here who is different from that and is in my situation where they are mostly attracted to women then please make a post here
>>145723
Ah yes because to be a lesbian or bisexual you must not be allowed to post attractive women and say meme terms like homolust
Next time I will follow some weird etiquette you made up for what is appropriate

No. 145729

>>145713
This. Admin please lock this piece of shit thread and someone create a better bisexual general

No. 145731

>>145716
>Like I said I had the belief and still do that the majority of bisexual women have more attraction to men than women
You got a nice conversion therapy mindset going on in there anon, a ton of bisexual women have been exposed to so much compulsory heterosexuality in their lives the only reason they're "attracted" to men to begin with is simply because they're "supposed" to.

This person honestly stinks like a fucking LARP.

No. 145732

>>145716
> It was the only way to get the finances and papers in order for me to leave with him to Europe
I dont hate or love him. I'm more indifferent towards the relationship
I hope this is a larp

No. 145733

>>145732
It's probably not, this person seems genuinely retarded unfortunately.

No. 145739

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>>145727
Ntayrt
>you must not be allowed to post attractive women
>attractive women
>pic related
KEK bitch, let me guess, anime coom art awakened your homolust didn’t it. You have the taste of a discord tranny.
Also,
> Yes I love him
>I don’t hate or love him
So what’s the truth. I hope you stay miserable with a scrote forever.

No. 145741

>>145654
This thread is shit and you should be ashamed, this could had gone to the vent thread on /ot/ easily instead of calling attention to yourself and making a whole ass thread for one single problem in your life that no one cares about. Go back to where you came from.

No. 145742

>>145739
Holy shit that pic is hideous OP, is this what you find sexy in women? Animu scrote-tier, I'm gagging.

No. 145744

>>145654
op is either a larping scrote or a tranny (aka an even crazier larping scrote)

No. 145745

>>145670
lolcow isn't 4chan. integrate or go away.

No. 145747

> Thing is I absolutely love my husband and feel like we are supremely compatible
You said you were 'indifferent' to him in a post like 5 mins later.

No. 145749

admin please lock this autistic thread

No. 145757

Locked due to autism. Any anons feel free to make a better bisexual general thread if you please.



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