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No. 164056

ideally, in a serious relationship how many times a week are you having sex?

No. 164060

As someone with a low sex drive, 1-3 times a week is ideal. Enough to let me know that they're still attracted but not so much that I'm overwhelmed by it.
I've been in relationships where we went months without sex, it was obviously miserable & I felt horrible about myself
On the flip side, I've been in abusive relationships where I was manipulated into having sex every day & felt disgusting
For me, 1-3 times a week is a happy medium

No. 164062

>>164056
I have a high sex drive so I think ideally I would want to have sex with my partner every day, like instead of just masturbating

No. 164065

Ideally, at least six hours a day, every day.

No. 164066

>>164056
5 days a week

No. 164067

Last time I had a boyfriend I like to do it like 6 times during the week, if I see him half the week like every time I’m sleeping over I want to do it at night and in the morning

No. 164068

I would say if we can, once a day. Sometimes he can only see me at the weekend though, and we usually bang around 3-6 times.

No. 164070

No full sex atm because I'm not on contraception, but everything else about once or twice a week. I work a very physical job and his is quite stressful so our sex drives aren't at the forefront of our minds. I could go for more but I'm happy with what I get!

No. 164074

Why is this a thread
Go ask in the sex thread

No. 164075

Once a week.

Sometimes once every two weeks. We've been in a relationship for three years, living together for one and a half. It gets boring after a while.

No. 164079

Depends on the couple. My last serious relationship I'd basically be upset if we didn't have sex whenever we could lol

No. 164160

Really depends on what you're both happy with.
I've been with the same guy for over 10 years, he doesn't have a high sex drive. If we'd have no commitments, probably 2-3 times a week, but since we do it's more like 2-4 times a month.
When we were just dating, we'd have a lot more sex though.

No. 164292

you're all virgins stop lying.

No. 164305

if we live together, daily unless i'm feeling really off

if we don't live together, multiple times a day every time we see one another, usually 3 is perfect for me

i date men because they can keep up and i don't like people with responsive desire (tends to be women)

No. 164316

Ideally most nights.

In my worst relationship it was way less than that but that was only because he did nothing for my pleasure (the guy made me come during our first night together and in the 3 years that followed.. he never did again!) In a healthier relationship once a day or every other day would be my preference. Periods being an exception but I have short periods anyway.

No. 164346

Goddamn, I thought we were having a pretty average amount with once, maybe twice a week if I had to guess, your numbers scare me lmao

No. 164426

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Been with my bf for about 2 years, we don't live together just yet so we usually have sex every time we see each other(1-3 times a week)
alsp how does your coochie not be in any sort of pain or discomfort from fucking everyday+?
I always have to take a day or 2 break or it kinda hurts around the entrance area.

No. 164441

>>164426
We don't go very fast or too hard, so there's less chaffing and more lubricant.

4-7 times a week here.

No. 164443

only been with my bf a year and usually once or twice a week is okay for me (usually sessions just take up the evening/night). we dont live together and both just have busy lifestyles so it works for us. couldn't imagine every day

No. 164455

>>164056
Boyfriend of 3.5 years, oral twice a week avg, sex 3-4 times a week avg

No. 164458

Never had a boyfriend who I've had sex with, but I think ideally about 3 times a week? I don't have a lot of experience with this so idk how often me or him would actually want to fuck but 3x a week sounds appropriate. I'm talking about vaginal/anal here, hopefully we'd do hand and mouth stuff more often

No. 164472

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My gf and i have been together for 5.5 years and living together 4.
We used to have sex every other night if not more. We couldnt keep our hands off of eachother.
We were trying new things and switching roles often, as of the last two years it has gotten very vanilla… Maybe 2-3 times a month.
Its depressing, but hard to initiate we feel like an old married couple, stale. I have been on a long distance trip since late Oct.
I look forward to so much when i return but GFD with her is going to be the highlight. Im keeping her to myself for an entire day.
The femdom thread had been giving me some AMAZING inspiration.
(Sorry to blog, missing her)

No. 164553

>>164455
Why don't you count oral sex as sex?

No. 164597

This just reminds me how bad my last relationship was even through I saw it as a serious relationsip. Me and my ex were having sex once every two weeks, then it was once a month and then he stopped having sex with me for 7 months before we broke up. For a while I felt sexually frustrated and felt that I was in the wrong for asking after a few months to have sex or just be intimate in general.

Ideally I would like to have sex 3-5 times a week since I rarely have sex

No. 164599

I have a boyfriend of 7 years now, and in the last 9 months we spent living together we unfortunately had sex like 3x a month, solely because he would get so tired of working extra hours he would just be immediately knocked out once he got on bed. Prior to the pandemic we were not living together, so it was also pretty hard to measure it.
Ideally, I think both for me and for him, it would be like once a day, or like 4x to 5x a week, excluding period time. Our sex drive is actually pretty high, I wish we had the time and place to do it freely.

No. 164602

Ideally: 2x a day. Morning + night.

My SO and I strive for 1x a day, and it's really good when we manage it! Even if it feels sorta formal/forced at times. We always feel better after.

>>164426

I only had this issue w my ex bc he was too big and even though he was good looking he wasn't really my type so I was usually not sufficiently turned on.

I actually prefer slightly smaller than average guys.

No. 164606

A few times a month as long as my future gf/wife is fine with me masturbating. I have a high sex drive but it’s not something I need constantly.

No. 164610

>>164553
I don't know to be honest it never occurred to me considering its a het relationship. I dont mind counting it as sex though, in retrospect lol

No. 164633

I’m in a relationship of two years and we usually have sex 3-4 times a week. Sometimes we have sex like every day, sometimes 0-2 times. It depends on our moods and other circumstances. I’m pretty satisfied with the usual amount though, quality over quantity.

No. 164634

coming from someone who has never been in a relationship i would want to do it at least once every day but in reality it'd probably only happen like once or twice a week

No. 170255

Wtf so everyone just has like sex everyday? Wow, I thought I was crazy for wanting that not gonna lie

No. 170256

>>164056
Precisely as much as you both want

No. 170259

Once a month is for me.

No. 170263

honestly 1-2 times per month is average for us. used to be a lot more but he's on medication that affects his libido now. Meanwhile I've been getting healthier and as a side effect now I'm hornier than ever, press F

No. 170269

Wtf are y'all hypersexual or is that normal? I've never had sex but I fap once a month or less

No. 170271

For me I feel like it's normal to do it nearly every day in the first 1-2 years of a relationship but after that point I feel like I'm good with about 3 times a week. Sometimes less, sometimes more depending on the week or month. People who have been with their partner 5+ years and still manage to do it every single day seem like they would be outliers to me but what do I know.

No. 170274

>> 170269 I think both are normal and "hypersexual" is more of a relative term, like if you're so horny it fucks up your life.

I think fapping once a month is on the low side of normal but idk I fap almost every day when I get the chance so maybe I'm the weird one. If you're healthy in other ways then maybe it's just the way you're built and that's fine. Sex drive is a lot to do with your hormones, age and cycle, and psychology of course.

Honestly it's more convenient to have a lower sex drive especially when you're single and fapping is kind of a chore to do before you can clear your mind to sleep lol

No. 170286

I'm in an 8 year relationship and I'm pretty content with 3 times a week. Tbh I would probably want more but maybe every other month we have a week where we're going at it twice a day. It evens me out lol

No. 170291

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>>170286
Ahhh this is the dream anon. Do you have any tips or idk broad advice on how to keep things interesting after so many years, or do you think it's mostly luck and personal chemistry? Does your partner still initiate often?

I sometimes feel prematurely sad about a possible future where my bf and I get used to each other and he no longer shows a lot of interest. This happened in my previous 5-year relationship and it made me feel like shit, I still wanted it a lot but my ex just stopped showing basically any desire. Things with my bf are great and constantly flirty and I have never felt so desired in my life, but we're only half a year in and he's on SSRI's so yeah I worry about the long term a bit.

No. 170297

A question for anons who go like 3+ times a week… how long does a session last on average for you?

No. 170302

>>170291
I think a lot of luck and personal chemistry like you said. I feel even more wanted nowadays even though we have less sex than we did in the beginning of that makes sense? He's a romantic and every time we reach a new relationship milestone together he goes nuts kek. So yeah not much advice, I just lucked out with a non-coomer whose ultimate turn on is prolonged eye contact and a well timed "I love you"

No. 170342

From the time I was 18 (late bloomer?) I've masturbated either daily or every other day. Been like that for the 15 years since. Usually just manual clit stim. When it comes to penetration though.. I rarely want it. When I'm single I probably get my dildo out twice a month when my hormones spike pre-period and again mid-cycle.

This has affected all my relationships. I would push myself to have sex more often than I want it… And then sex would become this horrible chore wrapped up in expectations and pressure (or their annoyance if I wouldn't provide it) It became something I rarely actually enjoyed even though I regularly partook in it. I haven't found a partner who hasn't simply reduced it down to "well just do it for me" and I also don't expect a man to live feeling deprived.

Realistically I just wish my exes had approached sex in a way where they didn't massively compound the issue. I don't know what my ideal is but with foreplay, a more gentle approach to sex and some consideration of my pleasure.. I do think I can return to having a healthier relationship with PIV.

No. 170347

>>170302
That's really cute.

No. 170348

>>170297
Anywhere from 10-30mins, which is perfect for me. I used go longer with my last ltr and I would have to pretend not to get bored, plus the chaffing was so bad

No. 170390

>>164056
it's tricky to compare yourself to other people in this case. if that's enough for you, that's totally okay. nothing wrong with you or anyone!

No. 170471

how does everyone have such a high sex drive? i was like that in my teens but i think i mellowed out in my 20s, also my chronic anxiety might have something to do with it. my partner of 7 years and i (living together for 2 years) have sex like 3-4 times a week max, and i'm fine with once a week. i never masturbate either. i feel totally emotionally and physically fulfilled and he doesn't even watch porn (we're home all day together due to the pandemic so i don't think he's lying).

No. 170494

>>170471
You're normal and in a long-term relationship anon, and in fact you're still having sex more frequently than most couples. Everyone sounds horny here likely because the userbase skews young and many of us are degenerates, so not exactly a typical cut of the population. Normal couples average 2-3 times per week or only a few times a month (https://www.purewow.com/wellness/how-often-couples-have-sex).

No. 170495

>>170269
Same lol

I suppose it's different when you have a person you're attracted to in front of you?

No. 170496

>>170494
>Everyone sounds horny here likely because the userbase skews young and many of us are degenerates, so not exactly a typical cut of the population
I post about my horniness on here a good bit and it's probably because I have no sexual outlet outside of masturbation. In relationships I calm down and only want an average amount of sex, as in a couple times a week once we're living together. Being single is what turns me degen lol

No. 170889

don't live with my partner and we are both pretty busy so now we only see each other on weekends. we have sex at least 3 times each day we see each other. it would probably be 1-2 if he wasn't on SSRIs (he has issues staying hard and coming because of it) but he makes sure that i finish, and it turns him on anyway so sometimes he's able to finish afterwards.

any farmers in a similar boat?

No. 170921

>>170889
Yes, I'm in a similar situation. No SSRIs but we normally do once or twice a day on weekends. I think it would be more like 3 times if it were up to him, but my sex drive isn't as high. Sometimes when I'm feeling lazy or a little tired I'm tempted to skip it, but my bf mentioned once how strongly he views it as a bonding experience and expression of love and I can tell he's being honest from how he always makes sure I enjoy it and finish first etc. So since then I've made an effort to get myself in the mood more, especially since like you we only see each other on weekends. When/if we live together I'm not sure how this would change though, as I'm not sure I could handle once or twice a day every day.


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