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>What does your ideal wedding look like?
Something quiet and whimsical with just a few close family members. Ceremony in abandoned chapel in the woods, followed by a nice little gathering outside with fireflies everywhere and a string quartet playing. I want an intimate/peaceful vibe with minimal dancing. Just have enough drinks where people can comfortably mingle, maybe around a fire.
Unfortunately I don't think I can have this, because both our families are large. Fiance's family loves their loud explosive parties. No one would think my vision is "fun" and they're probably right.
It's definitely bullshit when people say "It's YOUR day, do what YOU want", they never fucking mean it. The minute you involve other people, you become a host, and it isn't an option to not plan for what your guests would enjoy. Especially if they're traveling far to show up for you. So, it almost feels pointless to plan for what I want. My mother will overtake it all anyways.
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I'd like to have a casual wedding outside in nature. Only close friends and family members would be invited and for dinner we'd have a bbq potluck sort of thing where everyone can just grab whatever they want to eat all evening. There'd be a bonfire and some good music and people would just dance and drink and chill.
Also there would be a ton of fairy lights because I'm basic like that.
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Seriously fuck these stupid dresses, I'm so unbelievably tired of them. No one looks good in these unless they're extremely skinny, otherwise you just look like a sausage sticking out of a cake
I can't find any good traditional longsleeved dresses anymore. Everything either looks like picrel or "boho" shit
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Hard agree they look whack and not to mention incredibly uncomfortable to walk/eat/try and piss in
My ideal wedding is probably something chill (I’d rather elope personally but for cultural reasons I’ll probably be obligated to have a ceremony kek). Picrel looks so serene and beautiful- just a short ceremony and maybe a nice barbecue after with a tea length dress.
I hope mine is fairy themed. Like projectors that put sparkles on a forest floor, and incense, fake rose lights. And then mushroom stew, blossoming tea and rose cake. I say 'ew Scotland' to annoy my Scottish mother, but I hope to get married in Scotland. It's so pretty it makes my spirit feel lifted up when I go there.>>209170
Fairylights make me hnnghhhh>>209198
I bet it would be so nice with the ocean in the background going woooshhh all oceany and that and then maybe there's live music like a live symphony to go along with the ocean's crashing. And then afterwards you could jump in the sea in your dress. And ice cream too. That would be a fun wedding, and the beach doesn't cost as much as a venue.
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I've always wanted a Beauty and the Beast style wedding, childish as it is. Gothic architecture/artwork, stained glass, waltzing at the reception, dark dramatic table setting. Sigh.
This won't happen because I live in Texas where every venue is either a sterile corporate hotel, a country club, or a fucking barn.
Also, expecting people to waltz is pretty unrealistic
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The thought of a traditional wedding gives me so much anxiety. Most of my family are really toxic and the thought of "my side" being near empty with all his friends and family in attendance, I can just imagine them thinking something must really be wrong with me, and I would absolutely have a panic attack. Letting my family attend would be even worse because they're racist and we're an interracial couple. I wish it were different but that's just the hand I was dealt. Fortunately my partner doesn't want a ceremony either because he doesn't like being the center of attention, so we are planning to skip the ceremony altogether and go straight to the honeymoon! I still want to dress up to take photos at some point during our honeymoon vacation visiting one of the countries on our bucket list. Even though I won't have a ceremony I'm really looking forward to being married. I'm still on the fence if I want to go with the white/ish gown or his family's cultural attire for our photos. The latter (picrel) is my partner's preference, but even though I like it and his family has also been pushing for me to wear it, I'm worried I'll look like an insensitive retard because I'm white. Thoughts? The photos are mainly for us and them so I think it's ok but am I crazy for thinking that? Not bait I promise. I know twitter would lose it but I don't give two fucks about them, I'm just confused about where the line is drawn in real life. I don't want to make the wrong choice and offend the people I love over a dress I'll be wearing for like an hour.
Hi I totally understand your frustrations. My fiance is Hispanic while I come from a white southern family. My mother literally just wants us to have a destination wedding so that his family wouldn't be able to attend and mix with our side. It's a fucked up situation and I still don't know what we're going to do yet. I'd rather elope but he wants a wedding…
As for your dilemna: If HIS family is wanting you to dress in their traditional attire, it isn't insensitive! I'd even take it as a huge compliment on their part that they accept you enough to involve you in their culture. At the same time however, I definitely understand feeling out of place. If it makes YOU uncomfortable, you should talk to your fiance about it. Perhaps there is some kind of middle ground/compromise where you involve some of their traditions, but not all of them.
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I have always loved wedding dresses, especially those big, poofy, off shoulder/sleeveless ball gown types. But the ceremony itself seems like my biggest nightmare. I'd much rather just elope and travel around the world for the "honeymoon".
My aunt has been married twice. Her first marriage, she had her "dream wedding" and she absolutely loved it. They divorced a year later. Her second marriage, which lasted until death, the wedding was much smaller and modest.
To this day she considers her first wedding as the happiest day of her life even though the marriage itself was unsuccessful. It's weird but she seemingly has no regrets about it and loved having her day exactly as she planned.
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I feel this. I love the AESTHETICS of a wedding. Dress, rings, music, atmosphere. Hell, I actually love the idea of the ceremony, with a beautiful church and reverence surrounding the occasion.
What I hate is the concept of the RECEPTION. Because then everything you want gets thrown out the window for the sake of playing host to a bunch of people you don't actually care to see.
I just want to wear a beautiful dress, say my vows and maybe go out with some close family members to a nice dinner afterwards. Not make my parents go into debt for some massive shindig
I have no idea what I want to do for my wedding. It's so ridiculously expensive. I've heard in the US the average cost of a weeding is $30,000. All that money on one single day. I'd rather go on multiple vacations with that amount.>>209196
I thought longsleeved dresses are making a comeback. I feel like I've seen a few brides get married who had long sleeves. Well, I can only think of two off the top of my head, but I feel like I've seen more.>>209198
I hate the idea of a beach wedding because I'd be forever anxious the weather would be bad.
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I wish I could have a wedding ceremony, but I can't. My family is not functional. I can't even drink to escape their shit because I'm already pregnant.
If I don't invite my parents, I would need to hire security guards to make sure my mother will not attempt to intrude the venue.
We are planning to have a civil marriage with no church involved. We would make the rings ourselves, maybe something like picrel. Then maybe have a small gathering with friends.
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This is the wedding dress I want, I love the champagne.
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I've already decided on my venue lol. it's this local alleyway-turned-park that's cute as heck. Not sure if the reception will be there, but I definitely want to get married there
But we're also going to Vegas in January and we've talked about how it's possible we'd get hitched while on our trip, since it would be cute, funny and would bypass all the wedding fuss. Playing it by ear!
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It seems that now that Americans are getting used to living in a pandemic a lot of my friends who were holding off their engagements are getting married. I'm in my late 20s so a wedding surge was bound to happen eventually.
Me and my partner of 7 years have been talking more about having a wedding in the abstract, of course I already have a pinterest board in the works- I just wish we had more money or it was more affordable to have a nice wedding.
I don't want to be the only person in my extended family to elope/I wouldn't want them to feel insulted or that they weren't important to me. But me and my bf both have large extended families and venues in our city charge anywhere from $75-100 a plate.
I don't feel like I need an expensive wedding and I can be thrifty in a lot of aspects, but the guest list is such a pain in the ass.
Right now I'm thinking of a courthouse wedding and a reception for friends and family maybe a year or so later.