I've been interested in re-parenting self-help for a while now, since something about it really resonates with me. My favourite books on the subject are:
>The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori>Healing Your Aloneness by Margaret Paul and Erika Copich>Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul>The Inner Bonding Workbook by Margaret PaulThe last one is more spiritually focused (and I don't really enjoy the writing style), but it takes you step by step through the process, including journal prompts. Very helpful.
For understanding trauma and becoming inspired to choose healing:
>Healing From Trauma by Jasmin Lee Cori>Losing Your Pounds of Pain by Doreen VirtueThat one is worth reading if you struggle with compulsive eating, or any other self destructive habit like cutting, hair pulling, etc.
For learning to meditate/be mindful:
>Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat ZinnIf anyone knows good meditation books by female authors, please share!
For learning to take loving action on your own behalf:
>The Assertiveness Guide For Women by Julie De Alvarez Hanks>Healing Your Inner Child and Yourself for Life by Veronica BondThis one is a
very short e-booklet that won't teach you much of anything but comes with concrete suggestions on activities that promote healing.
For those who have been in
abusive relationships, including with her own father:
>Why Does He Do That? by Lundy BancroftBooks I have not personally read but seem worth checking out:
>Homecoming by John Bradshaw >Affirmations for the Inner Child by Rokelle Lerner (short)>Rescuing the Inner Child: Therapy for Adults Sexually Abused as Children by Penny ParksAll of these books can be found online on the Z-Library. To find more books on the subject, you can search keywords like "mother wound", "re-parenting", "inner child", "inner bonding", "self-love", and of course "family enmeshment". I encourage you to look for self help literature specific to your situations/conditions as well, for example sexual abuse, PTSD, poverty, narcissism, etc., where possible. I think it's also good to try workbooks, journaling, meditation, yoga, healthy eating. For those of us who need a little extra support, look into therapy, 12 step programs, workshops, intensives, etc. Find what you like and practice what works best for you!
Lastly, the first step in all this is learning to recognise, name, and experience your emotions as they happen. If anyone has good resources on learning to be present in your body specifically to attach labels to emotions, please drop them ITT! It may seem strange but I have found personal success with using resources to teach young children emotional literacy. Like this blogpost for example:
https://printableparents.com/teach-your-child-to-name-feelings/ It is simplistic but it helps.
Best wishes to everyone ♥