/g/ - girl talk

Tsubasa Masuwaka (39), obv filtered & fillered to hell n back, pivoted into beauty care. Some pics on her IG are uncanny valley tier but happy to see she's still active

https://www.instagram.com/tsubasamasuwaka1013/?hl=en

>Adapting styles & beauty to suit your adult phase in life
I've not felt the need to do this, but maybe it's because I've never really been into the more child-like j-fashions. I like mori-kei and lolita, with the lolita I wear being largely influenced by my love for mori-kei (mostly classic and some "country" sweet, though I do dabble in gothic from time to time), so it already tends to have a more mature look to it imo. There are some elements that are perhaps more juvenile, some of the forest animals on the prints might read as more suitable for younger people, but ultimately I don't care all that much. It's my clothes.
> full time job, serious dating, kids, aging family, ect.
I wear these clothes to work; it's an office job and I'm not really public-facing. I'm already quite settled in a long-term relationship, have no interest in having kids. I think my parents have a bit of disappointment that I still spend money on overpriced, frivolous things (dresses) instead of making the move from renting to owning a house, and honestly they do have a point there, but I've also made pretty decent gains in my savings despite occasional purchases.
>Making friends in the culture that are over 30
I think this is the hardest aspect, in that many of the other 30+ lolitas ARE busy with child commitments. I'll sometimes want to organize a comm meetup on a weekday after work hours, especially if there is an event happening that I think could be fun, but their children have youth sports or other extracurricular activities to attend, which is understandable. For the few other lolitas without children, many of them show no interest in after work meetups, either due to exhaustion from work or commitments to other hobbies. None of my weeknight suggestions have ever been successful, so at this point, I've stopped suggesting these events as possible meetups and just go on my own in lolita. Additionally, a lot of the other over 30 lolitas have different interests than me. I know for our age group, getting into lolita through anime and vkei was very common: that's how I got into it myself, but I stopped being interested in those things well over a decade ago, picking up other interests along the way that aren't remotely shared by my comm members, so part of the issue is that I just can't relate to other lolitas my age as far as interests go. We don't seem to have anything in common besides wearing the same fashion.

>>572532
>>572672
>part of the issue is that I just can't relate to other lolitas my age as far as interests go. We don't seem to have anything in common besides wearing the same fashion.

outside of the everyone having kids thing, this is the shittiest non-physical part about getting older

imo its really a recent generational thing too because we have so many niches to choose from, and a division of the monoculture due to technology. like we can't bond with each other the way folks in their 70s can back where there was a limited number of things in the culture to be part of.

you'd think that with all the wisdom, self awareness & confidence one acquires by now + the abundance of social media platforms itd be easier to find more folks like yourself but for some reason it feels impossible???

Can't have this thread without at least mentioning Misako Aoki! She is currently 42 years and has been a Lolita and JFashion model since decades. She is also childfree and I believe has no partner. I remember her saying in a interview that she ist too busy being a nurse and model to have time for a relationship or family.

I bought a lolita dress for the first time in nearly fifteen years. I don't wear it much (or at all) but I fell in love with the gothic print. I was kind of surprised it was new AP honestly but I think it's so cute/witchy.

I have no occasion to wear it but I genuinely felt that old rush of finding the dress and obsessing over how to coordinate it. I don't know if I'll feel brave enough to wear it out when it finally comes but at the very least it's apart of my collection.

>>572869
The print is super cute nonna congrats!! Sometimes it's a dress or a specific item that can start it all ♥

>>572672
>>572716
I have a group of 30+ Lolita friends, and it's true we don't have much in common outside of the clothes, but everyone has such different lifestyles and hobbies it's still interesting to hear what everyone is up to. And we'll still wax nostalgically about old anime, bands, and the convention scene so it's definitely more relatable than talking to normies or even other autists who don't wear the fashion.

Most of my local comm is on the older side but occasionally a younger member will come to a meet and it's always a bit awkward. It's like we all have a collective realization that none of us know what the kid is talking about but we're all too polite to say it.

Anyone find you have less of a tolerance for wearing certain things as you get older?
Even waistbands on petticoats bother me now and just looking at a pair of heels makes my feet ache. I still wear them but I can't wear them for long stretches of time anymore like I used to.

I get so tired of seeing posts on reddit and other community type pages being like "I'm turning 18, and I too old to wear X?" It's borderline offensive to be reading that shit at the age of 30+ kek. Maybe if you look haggard at age 18 sure, but brainrotted idiots have bought the moid retardation that somehow women look drastically different from age 20-30. I look the same. maybe the shape of my face has changed slightly, but if I compare pics of me now from 10 years ago I can't find any difference. I don't have wrinkles, gray hair or have gotten fat. I look elegant and stylish in my himekaji coords and I'm never getting rid of my $10,000+ closet just because retards think some arbitrary number defines what I can/can't wear. It took me years of practice to get good at styling myself so why would I quit now when I'm just starting to get good at it?

>>573369
It’s honestly so sad that this is still an issue. I am seeing more older people though post about wearing the fashions they still love well into their 30s and 40s. I’m hoping that changes the shitty mindset some of these people have that you can’t wear anything fun past 30.

>>573383
I don’t even know how people can afford j-fashion before having a career, unless they’re all wearing cheap Taobao or trust fund babies.

>>572532
>>572867
THE Misako! she's still got it

>>573369
exactly. pity them nonna, they grew up in the meitu/facetune/filter age with 7 y.o tiktok influencers doing skincare routines which must result in some form of BDD brain damage.

plenty of modern women in their 30s look the same as their 20s, just less babyish. the inevitable trauma of life starts to show ngl but the fact its marketed to us as "walled" is a psyop all because our frontal lobe developed and we're less likely to be taken advantage of or manipulated.

pic is Fanny Rosie, 36. super cute OG otome kei classical lolita blogger. she's so stunning

https://www.instagram.com/fannyrosie/

>>573369
It's so strange because when I was a teenager I liked this kind of fashion but never would've worn it because I thought I was supposed to look more grown up and mature kek Turning 20 I started to wear jfashion and it was also the first time I could afford it. Age is a very strange thing.

>>573677
i think the reality is most people become busy in their 30s and succumb to life's stressors. stressful job, marriage, having children, gaining weight and not being as active. they take less care of themselves.

most people aren't as beautiful as fanny rosie in the first place lol.