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No. 61336
>>61335Im 23 and I haven't had sex either. Not because im ugly or anything. Im a pretty girl! Im lovely but I am shit with connecting to people and affection. Relationships just haven't happened. Ive been on a few dates but never lead to anything- I could have had sex with a recent guy I went on dates with. But I wasnt into him…
I fear pregnancy and murder too :(
No. 61338
>>61335>I want to just get it out of the wayThat doesn't sound like an excuse to lose your virginity to a complete stranger. it's not like virginity is something that pokes you in the leg every time you walk and you can't wait to get rid of it. But whatever I guess. Get on birth control and do it in a hotel, not some guy's house.
>it would take a lot of pressure off of me psychologically when it comes to dating, etc.lol i really doubt it.
No. 61341
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>>61336>murdercommon sense and some of these will help with that.
No. 61342
I was 16 and snuck into a bar with some friends. We were all military brats living overseas so most of the clubs and bars didn't bother carding, especially if you were an Amerifag. I also developed rather early so I had a more mature body. It also helped that I happened to have the same look of a lot of the local girls so the military guys assumed I was one. Anyways I had snuck into a bar with my friends and we were drinking and dancing, just having a good time. A cute young marine started buying me drinks, which lead to us making out, which lead to us getting a cheap hotel room for the night. He was very sweet and kind of a goof, also pretty clumsy. I don't know if it was because he was drunk or if he was inexperienced too. But we fucked most of the night with lots of different positions, switching to oral, and even once in the tub. He had a decent sized cock, but not huge. I'd probably say it was average length, but I do recall it having a big head which is nice. Being a marine he had a very nicely built body yet he wasn't all jacked up quite yet. No chest or stomach hair at all, it was so smooth. I was sore as hell when I woke up but overall it felt pretty good, didn't orgasm though. He was still sleeping and I snuck out at dawn. Never saw him again, which is perfectly fine with me. I guess losing your virginity to a one night stand isn't exactly romantic but it served it's purpose and I still had a good time.
No. 61344
Feels dorky admitting this, but even though I lost my virginity to my first bf at 14, I never felt "popped" or that it was a huge deal because I had learned how to vaginally masturbate via cybering when I was 13 (thanks AOL chatrooms). I had been masturbating clitorally since I was like 6, but I didn't know or have the words to describe what I was doing until I was 11 or 12.
Anyway, I didn't wake up the next day feeling any different about sex itself.
However I will say to anyone itt who hasn't lost it yet:
Do it with someone who you won't be embarrassed to know you've porked later on.
I remember naive 14 year old me being over-the-moon because a ~senior~ was asking me out. In middle school, I was always pegged as an uglyfat so any attention I got from boys I ate up.
He liked vidya, and boasted himself to be smart because he took a CAD class.
To be fair, I got to do a lot of cool shit as a freshman like go to senior prom.
Yet after that initial feelgood phase, I realized he was kind of a creepy looking dork and wasn't smart at all. Like he always talked about how he was gonna marry me and shit. Boasted his intelligence but he had a funny way of talking and worked at Burger King well after he graduated.
I broke up with him after 8 months.
He was extremely petty, and accused my 14 year old self of being a 'slut' and 'cheating' because I was going out with someone new a few weeks after.
To this day (I'm 25) he still tries to add me on facebook. When I still lived at my hometown he always tried to corner me someplace and ask me out for coffee or something. Asking how I was doing in "collage."
One time there was an accident in front of my old house, and he came rushing over with his dad to interfere with the scene bc they heard my address on a police scanner. ANY excuse he could find to see me, he'd use.
No. 61346
>>61338Hey thanks for your opinion, I really want to read what others think about this.
What I meant is that when I date a guy I don't want there to be this weight on me thinking that could be the very first guy for me. I'd think there would be less pressure going in with this not on my mind, but obviously I don't have the experience to actually know…
No. 61367
>>61363I don't know about those other anons but I think a lot of people are just not into sex, intimacy/cuddling sure but you can just jack off if you're horny.
They're just pressured into it, it's acceptable to masturabate now, or be single.
Sex is kind of gross when you think about it really.
No. 61392
>>61334Lost it at 19 to my first boyfriend after he kept pressuring me into it (After 6 months despite me telling him before we started dating i was waiting until i got married). Pressure continued for the next three years because I was convinced i was too ugly to find someone else, especially because his mom told me i was plain looking and he rarely complimented me unless he wanted to fuck me.
Only good thing is losing my virginity before i got married because holy shit some guys are REALLY bad at sex. Three years, came twice.
Second boyfriend, not at all.
Husband? Multiple. Always. Even during a quickie. And he's not well hung, it's proof size isn't always important.
In my opinion virginity should be lost when you're ready but unless it's really important to you for religious reasons, you shouldn't wait until marriage because sexual compatibility is important. I don't think bad sex the first few times together always means it'll always be bad since experience counts too, but if it's just continuously bad, it's just not gonna work out.
You can manage a relationship without sex or faking it but it depends on your sex drive (Mine's really low which is whyI kept it up with the first guy so long because i loved him. Ugh. )
I think there should be an age limit of 15-16 at the earliest honestly. You're not mentally mature enough at that age, and even that's too young. Everyone's different but if you want to lose it just to lose it or think of it as some kind of mark of being a real person or any kinda variation on this then you're probably not ready.
Also just because I HAVE met some retarded people who believe this: YOU CAN, REPEAT, CAN GET PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME YOU HAVE SEX. Don't be a retard.
There's probably at least one underaged kid lurking just to read around here so might as well shoot reminders for the rulerbreakers once in awhile not to be a retard.
No. 61429
>>61358ah, never had a sexual experience before but I popped my hymen masturbating
not that anyone cares lul
No. 61443
I'm not a sentimental person in the least, but I still keep the playlist to which I lost my virginity. It's one of my favourite memories, and I like rekindling it from time to time by listening to it.
It was one of the coldest winters I remember, everything was frozen up. I decided to sleep over at my then boyfriend's place instead of trudging back home through the ice and snow. Inside was cosy and warm. I was 18 and in love for the first time. It just happened spontaneously and naturally.
It felt just like I dreamed it should, quite literally - I've had countless wet dreams before actually having sex, and it felt exactly like it felt in the dreams, despite me never having the experience of penetration up to that point, and only masturbating by rubbing my clit.
I can still picture vividly the soft glow of the computer screen highlighting his sexy naked body as we lay on the bed after it, satisfied and smiling, smoking cigarettes and basking in each other's presence.
I just let out a deep sigh writing that, and I am smiling a nostalgic smile. Ah, it's good to remember and appreciate those ways that life has been kind to me. I feel lucky and blessed.
That experience was crucial for shaping my sexuality - my attitudes, perceptions, behaviours. And it was the best possible experience for that.
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>>61443This is the image I had in my head reading that. Sounds nice, anon.
No. 61452
Lost it to my LDR boyfriend when he came to visit me.
Honestly, it was really nice and I don't regret it. I initiated, since we'd been fooling around so long and, let's be honest, were both probably repressed. I was 24. I hadn't been into guys in high school or college and honestly thought I was asexual until we met. He hadn't ever had a girlfriend before, either.
It was one of those times you dream about. Like the perfect encounter and everything that I had been told it would be, honestly. Sorry if this sounds like a weird, romantic smut, but it just was. The house was humid in the summertime and I distinctly remember turning on the air conditioner right before bringing him to the guest room to help him unpack some stuff from his luggage. One kiss lead to a lot of highly sexual touches and I insisted that he take it further. It felt natural to have him touch me and for me to explore him, and I wanted to hear him get turned on in real time and not text.
I'm glad I waited for him. I worried about it hurting, but I was really excited so it just felt fulfilling rather than "tight" like everyone describes.
We're on the verge of breaking up now, but I'm happy I lost my virginity to him rather than someone I don't know well or just randomly. Having sex with him felt like the summation of all my strong feelings.
No. 61475
>>61466The thing is that I was so drunk I dont remember. Maybe I had a bad case of beer goggles and he started looking hot suddenly (tbh it wouldnt have been the first time that suddenly after some beers some guy started looking hot lol).
I dont remember if next day it hurt, maybe a little? (wouldnt be weird since it was my first time). I do remember him asking me if I was a virgin and me saying no lol
So yeah I cant say it was rape. And yeah luckily nothing bad came out of it except that his best friend (the guy i was hooking up with on and off) didnt want to anymore (dont blame him). Oh well!
No. 61595
>>61589Its only as awkward as you let it be, linger on the awkward bits and its worse, ignore it and the guy won't dwell on it either. Familiarize yourself with penetration first so it won't be painful, toys aren't like mega expensive or anything. Pain probably gives it away more than anything.
I didn't want to be passive or think of it as something being done to me or happening to me which imo would have been unavoidable if he had known. By not telling him I could mentally frame the event as my being a more active participant and initiating my sexual life. It wasn't special or romantic or traumatic and tbh it blurs together with the sex I had with the guy after so it really doesn't stand out as a singular event. To me, that's fine, I was tired of being curious and waiting for life to happen and never thought the world owed me a special or romantic first time. If it was lackluster or even bad then I was in good company with the millions of women who came before me who also didn't have a magical first experience so it was an odd bit of solidarity.
I'm definitely NOT a sentimental person though and am not very romantic. Its fine to want a nice first time.
No. 61606
>>61368Idk if you want to hear this but there have been multiple studies done that frequent porn use makes women like sex less, have intimacy/arousal problems and higher incidences of BDD.
Porn super fucked me up as a teen and since I stopped looking at it I can FINALLY get into sex with my bf and not have to think about hentai to get off during it lmao
No. 61615
Lost mine to my first "real" boyfriend in high school. I was 17, he was 15 (his birthday was next day, but he didn't want to wait so whatever, I guess.) He didn't realize this somehow, but his dick is huge. The condoms we had didn't fit him. We had to go all the way back to the store for him to get some Magnums. It freaked me out a lot. Totally unenjoyable because I kept worrying about his size. It got better as our relationship went on, but we broke up after like, 8 months. Bittersweet since he was the guy my hormones went all crazy for, butterflies, the whole first love thing, but he was a prententious ass, so I'm glad that didn't last. He's a total bro in college now. His behaviour is disgusting.
No. 61823
>>61795Ugly insides will decay your outsides.
I know a lot of gorgeous girls who are virgins, either by choice or because they just aren't interested in sex and relationships.
Only kids in high school think virginity has anything to do with your attractiveness lmfao
No. 61831
I lost my virginity when I was 18. It was on or around the day I graduated from high school. Nothing spectacular. I went to a small high school in the country, very slim pickings. Met a guy from the city that was ugly, but my friends thought he was super cool, which made me think he was cool too. He desperately wanted me to be his girlfriend, but I refused because I wasn't really attracted to him, and he was also embarrassingly ugly. In the end, though, I was a super horny, sexually frustrated teenager that just wanted to fuck. I was at his house and told him to go to the convenience store to get condoms. His dick was pretty average length but also skinny and super straight. Sex kind of hurt, but I mostly chalk that up to no lube + idiot bought dry, unlubed condoms. He was terrible at sex, despite claiming he fucked at least 5 other girls before me.
Continued fucking him on the low for a few months off and on thinking maybe the sex will get better somehow because he was still the only guy I fucked at this point, and I hadn't yet realized that he was just terrible at it. Started dating another guy that fucked way better and cut ties with old dude. I think back and wish I had a better, more memorable story, or at least fucked someone that was semi-attractive, but eh. Teenage hormones.
No. 61842
When I was 18 to some random guy I met on /soc/ or something. I wasn't planning on it, we went bowling and to his place to watch a movie and then he was like "well if you wanna get it over with" and I just did it. It was really lame and hurt a lot, he was fat and sweaty and neither of us came. It was a bit surreal for a while especially since I didn't hold contact with that guy afterwards.
Sex with an emotional bond is a lot nicer, though I find it kind of scary and intense sometimes. I think losing my virginity via emotional sex would have ruined me for life. Like I would become obsessed with my first guy and pine after him for the rest of my life, if that makes sense.
>>61837It's harder to find someone to care about who reciprocates than it is to find someone to get it over with. If you really wanna do the latter, find someone attractive.
No. 61873
>>61854I remember feeling this way. Are you pining for sex or a relationship tho? Like, a prostitute might get you off but you can do that yourself.
I know you're probably just lonely and looking for a warm body, touch starvation is extremely detrimental to your mental health, but don't give up on having a healthy relationship.
Self consciousness/shame is a curse that pretty much all of us have.
Before my first time I thought I'd never be able to let anyone look at my body but you change your opinion about that when you sex them lmao. Now my boyfriend and I walk around in our underpants and don't even think about it.
No. 61887
>>61873>touch starvationis it real?
>>61854I have the same stats but I don't care anymore, my libido hit rock bottom in the last year (and I used to be pretty horny).
No. 61892
>>61873Thanks for the answer. You see, I'm not sure if I actually want a bf, I would like to cuddle with someone and I would like to have sex to experience it and get it off my to do list. Imageboards have ironically ruined any ideals I had about men and romance so a male prostitute/escort would be perfect.
Unfortunately, I'm in southern europe and all the ads by men are usually young guys searching for a sugar daddy, even then the whole situation would be sketchy af.
> I know you're probably just lonely and looking for a warm bodyProbably, though it's a 'craving' that I get from time to time so not often but enough to make me feel depressed. I would do anything for a session of cuddling for an hour or two but on average I dislike physical contact. I don't even crave sex that much.
>>61887
> my libido hit rock bottom in the last year (and I used to be pretty horny).I wish my libido hits rock bottom soon.
Do you desire a romantic relationship? So not a sexual one, just an intimate relationship with someone? Do you ever feel lonely?
I want to stop caring too. Sometimes I really wish for a romantic relationship but when I see some of the people I know, being alone seems like a better choice. Maybe what I fear is regret but regret for what really? Not finding a soul mate? Being all alone?
No. 61897
>>61887Hey i just googled this and its really a thing! The only real medical definition of touch deprivation is related to infants (who can apparently die if you don't cuddle them enough). Also called skin hunger.
Good to know though, because i never really crave human or social contact, but two weeks without being touched in any manner makes me feel like I'm dying.
Sage for ot
No. 61900
>>61897I only want to touch people when I'm drunk :^|
>>61892Sometimes I get into that mock-schizoid "lol what are relationships" mood but I do want one, I definitely fantasize about it more than I masturbate and I'm positive if I fell in love I would regain my libido, but it's prolly not happening any time soon. I also hate my body, but have no motivation to change.
No. 61929
>>61901I definitely feel you. I'm not a virgin but had a shitty first time experience that kind of ruined my confidence with it, plus I'm already emotionally stunted and untrustworthy of people, so to have sex with someone would take a really long time of building up not only to sex but also more intimate touches.
I personally haven't found anyone yet (though I also haven't been looking), but! I have male friends who have waited a long time for girls or have not held it against girls who weren't ready for sex. They do exist so don't stress!
No. 61943
>>61906Same anon, if they love you and you're serious about each other. They'd be ready to wait till you're comfortable.
Relationships are built on trust. Sex is a part of a relationship but when you haven't done it, it's a big step. If someone doesn't understand why you aren't comfortable then it isn't worth it, they are disregarding your feelings. My old friend was pressured into losing her virginity when she was not comfortable with the old "But if you loved me… You'd do it.". She regrets giving in and her self esteem took a beating after he got what he wanted and cheated.
You are not wrong for wanting to feel comfortable or wanting to wait for someone you can trust. Better safe than sorry.
No. 61965
i lost mine when i was 15, to a long term bf at the time. i mean we were mad about each other but he was a shit fuck and it was so boring that i dont even remember the details. my first time with a girl on the other hand, fucking awesome, so that makes up for it.
also,
>>61943 your advice is 100% perfect
No. 62556
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I was 18 and he was 20. We met on /r9k/ and dated for around 8 months before meeting at a con that he invited me to. The con was located in Wisconsin and I'm from the southwest so it was basically my first time experiencing snow(the night I arrived was the first day of snow actually). We met, awkwardly hugged, and I awkwardly kissed him on the cheek. After a few days of hanging out, visiting panels, making silly puns and sharing more awkward kisses I decided I wanted to lose it to him. I remember our bed having lots of pillows and blankets because it was really cold. The area where our room was had the woods right next to us and with it snowing made the whole thing kinda magical and very romantic. I don't think I'll ever forget how dumb/cute his face looked when we were making love and how we both fell asleep cuddling each other with the biggest smiles on our faces. Sry if it sounds sappy but it was all really beautiful and surreal to me because I never thought I'd be with someone, let alone someone as sweet as him
No. 62557
>>62556D'awww
Reading that paid of despite your off-putting lack of paragraphs.
No. 62558
>>61443>>61452>>62556It is
extremely interesting how the weather conditions feature prominently in the memories of those experiences of us three.
I don't know what to make of it.
No. 62953
I lost mine when I was seventeen to a boy I had been obsessed with for two years. He was a year older and was the Salutatorian of his class. I didn't know why I was attracted to him, but I was.
We had a friends w/ benefits relationship going on, but I was so naive at that point, I wasn't aware that's all we were. I had invited him over to look at some books, and we ended up watching a movie(500 Days of Summer, oh the irony). We talked a little and I kissed his ear, which, y'know, got him hype.
I lied to him and told him I was on the pill, because I was a horn dog. We got jiggy with it to some music on Spotify (I think Daft Punk was hip hoppin' at the time.) and it lasted for about an hour.
I remember bleeding for three days straight. I had just redecorated my room, too. I had new furniture and a new wall color. I got a little bit of blood on my new comforter and was freaking out. I went to my friend's house right afterwards, too embarrassed to look my mom in the face when she would get off work. He sent me a picture giving me a thumbs up later that night. We didn't end up together, and I was heartbroken and confused.
A little happy ending though: We have an odd friendship where we Skype every six months to just talk for hours upon hours. I'm kind of glad nothing happened, because now he's an annoying SJW and looks like a woman.
The weather was warm (It was June) and it was nighttime.
No. 69559
>>61335The jews have really won when you can find anonymous comments like this on a women's imageboard.
Sad day
No. 69566
It took a long time for m to lose my virginity. I guess my hymen was tough or thick. Also my boyfriend had a horsecock, so it was not easy.
What was great about all this was that because of the fact that he couldn't get it in, we were crazy frustrated. So he went down on me all the time and we were constantly 69ing each other. I would sleep over at his place or he would sleep over mine and we were having oral sex nonstop, I remember we were on the bathroom floor trying once, we had taken a bath together thinking that would make it easier somehow, but of course it did NOT. It was cool - because of this experience, I expected oral sex from guys, and would get bitchy if they didn't go down on me. I like giving head and I expect to get it in return!
Gross but funny side story: my boyfriend worked at a convenience store with this guy who was also in a first relationship and they would sort of talk about stuff that had happened while trying to fuck, or stuff they were confused about like with birth control or whatever, you know. Anyhow, I picked him up from work and he was like omg we have to get out of here, I have to tell you something, it's so nasty but before we could get out his friend ran up and was like hey X, I need to ask you something. I was like oh dear but said sure, what and he said that every time he went down on his girlfriend it was like he was
eating cottage cheese
and wasn't that cool? I was on the verge of puking. My boyfriend said that my face went white. I was like, "No. No, that's not a good thing at all. She needs to see the doctor and you need to see a doctor. Stop going down on her." All I could think of was how bad his thrush infection must have been, and that it was thick enough that he felt like he was eating it. I could still puke and I remember this like it was yesterday. So fucking awful!
Okay.
My parents had gone away for the weekend and at this point it was literally like months of trying, we had basically given up on it. We'd do a whole routine where we'd both get each other off and then sort of try to get it in for a while and it was funny because it felt noticeably different this time, either my hymen was stretched out enough or whatever, but I could feel him pushing and it finally broke. It was super raw feeling even though I was really excited, I never have to use lube because I'm just good at making my own but wow did the first time hurt like fuck, haha! It seriously felt like getting reamed out with a broom handle, and I bled a lot. There was enough hymen that we could see some tissue on the sheets. It was nuts. So we went back to oral but by the next morning we were fucking like rabbits, lol.
All that time we were trying, we never tried anal - luckily he wasn't into it. I honestly hate anal and I've only done it three times but every single time sucked.
No. 69617
>>69615like i can't even recall if my boyfriend was even out with us. i don't remember sex with him at all and we were together a number of years, i don't think he ever made me cum with sex.
my current partner has absolutely no issue. sometimes it's a matter of me holding my cum so he can hah
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I lost my virginity at 21 in a one-night stand with an ex, 4 years after we broke up.
It didn't hurt at all, except when I was on top.
Other than that, I barely felt anything, it was quite disappointing.
No. 69634
>>69591>I felt like if I didn't "rip off the bandaid" of losing my virginity at that moment, it'd never happen because no one else would want to touch me.This is how I feel rn. 18 yr old kissless vigrin here lmao. Pretty much every girl I know has been having sex and whatever since we were about 14. My closest friend talks about sex so casually and shes the same age as me, lost at 13 (too young imo, but its complicated story) also sucks we are both into bdsm but I dont get any of that irl lol. I know its unhealthy to compare yourself to others but fuck… I dont know why this is happening for everyone but me. Im not disgusting looking and my personality is fine ig. What does everyone else have that I dont?
I want to get it over and done with asap. I dont care anymore I just feel like time is going by fast. (i know 18 is still very young) I dont want to date the person I lose it to, id rather it be some rando honestly. Then if I it started to date someone it wouldnt be something thats awkardly in the way. Ahh i feel like I need older/experienced anons to weigh in, i the way in feel seems to me so foolish/childish but i cant help it.
No. 69640
I'm 30 and a virgin. It doesn't affect my everyday life. I've never been in an awkward situation because of it. I'm not disappointed about not losing my virginity, but I am somewhat disappointed about not having met the right person earlier in life.
I didn't have my first kiss until 28, and I didn't hide it from my dates. I haven't dated a lot, but none of them minded, if that means anything to the younger anons who are worried. If my date did mind, it would've meant we weren't compatible, and I wouldn't have wanted to keep seeing them anyhow.
It helps that I have friends in the same virginity boat for various reasons: religious, finding the right person, being asexual, etc.
What I'd say to
>>69634 is to do it for yourself. You don't have to wait for "the one" if that's not important to you. If you think you'd have fun and you feel safe and prepared, go for it. But doing it simply to fit in with your friends or validate your appearance/personality could lead to regrets. These are just my thoughts, but someone more experienced may have a different opinion.
I care too much about my first time to "get it over with." However, I did have a "get it over with" approach to my first kiss, because it wasn't as important to me. I did it for my own fun. It would've been nice if it went to someone I loved, but it was time for me.
Annoying psa, but use two forms of birth control if you're worried about pregnancy. You'll have a baby 1 out of 10 times with condoms alone, and 1 out of 2 times with withdrawal (with typical use). Researching it will make you feel a lot more confident in whatever your choice is.
No. 69644
>>69634I regret trying to wait so long for 'the one' because I still haven't met him and I am much older than you. Waiting for the 'right one' to lose it too lost me many years of sex, made sex/relationships super serious and forestalled my personal development. And it turned out to not be a big deal either, having sex didn't make me feel different but did allow me to meet new people, learn my likes/dislikes and take a more relaxed approach to dating because I no longer had that albatross around my neck that had previously made everything stressful and high stakes.
You don't have to tell the guy and it doesn't have to hurt so long as you experiment with yourself a head of time. Anon if I could go back in time I wish I'd just gotten it over with at 18.
No. 69719
>>69634Hey anon. I'm in pretty much the same situation as you (another 18 year old kissless virgin). When I get those feelings of inadequacy, what helps me is knowing that I'm not alone. I'm not into bdsm, but in high school I was too shy to talk to guys and even befriend them, and it really tanked my self-confidence. I've only started making friends with guys over since I started going to college.
The weirdest part is that now that I talk to guys as friends, my anxiety about being a kissless virgin has almost completely gone away. If rationalizing it in your head doesn't help, maybe being in a new environment (like college) will help you deal with it better. I hope I helped you in some way despite the massive blogpost, lol.
No. 69722
Apologies for TL;DR, I got a bit carried away in remembrance. I had completely forgot any of this ever happened.
I lost my virginity at 18-19 (don't remember exact date) to an ugly Chinese incel I had been talking to online for the past 3 years. We had met through 4chan. I had finally agreed to meet with him in person because I was afraid that he would stop talking to me. He was my only friend, as I had been a NEET since age 16. Our 'relationship' was basically just an extended exercise in codependency and emotional abuse that had completely consumed my life. I felt as though losing him would have meant losing everything.
To set the stage: he had expressed many times before that he didn't find me attractive at all in conversations that typically ended up with me crying over the phone and him blowing up in fits of rage, shouting that I would never be 'hot like a porn star' and how fat and ugly and stupid and useless I was, et cetera. I already had awful hatred for my body and was terrified of someone seeing me naked, which was why I avoided any IRL relationships. But I was the only girl that understood him, after all – even though I wasn't quite fitting to his desires. He was addicted to porn and had lots of fetishes, most prominently for extreme gore and violence. He was socially retarded and had some form of bodily tics that would make him frequently do odd grimaces and hand movements along with clicking noises. He was also into self-harm and fantasised about shooting the people at his school who bullied him and the girls who scorned him. He was obsessed with the idea that because he was ugly, he could never lead a fulfilling life; incel shit ramped up to 11. He was also a stereotypical /b/tard. I could go on for ages, but this post is already too long.
So my first sexual experience involved him attempting to stick his dick in my petrified desert-dry vagina on the tile floor of his maid's bathroom, lit brightly by unforgiving fluorescent light. I had just got off a two-day train ride to get there, so I was sweaty and disgusting. He couldn't get it in, so he tried 'fingering' me, which involved him painfully smashing his fingers against my clitoris at what felt like speeds approaching the sound barrier. I desperately wanted it to be over and pretended to 'orgasm' after about a minute, which entailed gasping a lot and then popping my eyes open and smiling like an autistic deer. He was amazed at how quickly I 'came,' but lo and behold, I was still too dry for him to dick me. So he asked to 'finger' me again, and I breathily agreed as though I wasn't on the verge of embarrassed tears. This time he tried sticking his fingers in and thrusting rapidly. It was painful enough that I let out a little sob that he interpreted along with my strained face as enjoyment. After I 'came' again I managed to spit on my finger and stick it around my vagina. Now that I was 'wet,' he could proceed to fuck me. First he tried missionary, then doggy-style, and then he stopped because he was tired. I tried giving him an awkward handjob, then blew him, having absolutely no fucking clue what I was doing and wanting to die every time my teeth scraped on his dick, feeling terrible that I was disappointing him. He tried masturbating himself for a while and was unable to ejaculate. We moved into the living room and he picked me up and threw me into the closet and choked me, slapped me around some. I just kind of went with the flow and accepted it. That went on for a while. I don't remember the rest of the night in much detail, but at some point he managed to come as I had his dick in my mouth, and I swallowed it. It was all absolutely horrible.
And now I'm living with an even more abusive guy that I also met through 4chan, holy shit, what is wrong with me.
No. 69729
>>69722girl if you could put up with what that first guy did, i don't know how you don't feel like you can meet nice people around your area. you sound independent and self aware. if a incel chinese guy can throw you around, you'd have no problem being cared for by a normal guy.
i'm not sure what your esteem issues are, but seriously there are so many normal guys just looking for a connection too who won't be abusive and will treat you like a princess. heck, my boyfriend is hot af and i get insecure over some of his past dates who are girls that are much bigger than me. honestly i don't think most guys care about our bodies in the way that we do.
please love yourself, i feel like you deserve it and you seem pretty headstrong. i think you could turn out to be a bomb ass bitch (in a nice way lol)
No. 69732
In some ways I regret the way I lost mine, but mostly not really. whats the Point. I was 23 and deeply embarrassed by my virginity. never had any male interest and then suddenly someone in my class was into me. Only I'd been really giving the impression I wasn't a virgin in drunken group situations, I wanted him but couldn't admit my sheer inexperience.
Fast forward a few months, college had ended for the year, I went back to my parents. He didn't make it into second year so I didn't think I'd see him again. I was in a hotel, and I'd previously toyed with the idea of just getting my virginity out the way. I can't remember my thought process but for my socially retarded inexperienced ass it was terrifying. I made a craigslist advert, put a few pictures and explained what I was after. I then sifted through the responses for the most normal sounding ones who sent pictures. I think you can get something of an idea about someone from what they tell you, then checking out their facebook. Turns out he used to be flatmates with someone I knew back home.
So we agree to meet in the hotel room. I go have a few drinks in a bar over the road. Then I see him outside but didn't really recognise him. He was wearing glasses and his picture must have been old, but that's what we do online I guess. He was still normal looking. I think we went for a few drinks somewhere but I barely remember it now. We then went back and watched the inbetweeners in my room, I went out for a smoke to calm the nerves and it was getting a bit awkward so just said to get on with it. The actual thing was painful I guess> but not as much as I thought. He'd brought lube and went down on me for ages which tbh didn't feel like much to me, I think because my mind was so preoccupied. He was nice enough. I now see him posting his own ads on craigslist constantly which is funny. I sort of tried to initiate more regular meets to him but I think he got the impression I'd fucking imprinted on him or something. Like, no thanks m8. You're all over craigslist and a bit weird for me. Just wanted to get more experience. Met him sometime later though and that was pretty shit, I know its a one night stand thing but most people like cuddling and aren't so cold about everything.
he also gave me chlamydia.
Don't regret, but wish I could have waited as I'm not in quite a happy relationship.
No. 69743
>>69742>>69741I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend from China.
He came to my house when my family was gone to celebrate his birthday. Before going out, we ended up having sex. It was embarrassing for me even though I initiated it, but he was a good boyfriend. I ended up freaking out about the possibility of getting pregnant and had him bury a pregnancy test in the front yard so I could secretly test. I ended up crying at school too because I was scared of pregnancy and my family found out what happened.
Luckily, everything ended up Ok. I went on the pill and we dated for 3 years. We got in contact again last year after having met almost 10 years ago. Unfortunately, even though I still think he's a great guy, I no longer want to stay in the country and am attempting to move abroad (already moved abroad, but attempting to move abroad from this country to a different country).
Most of the guys I've dated have been from China. Generally positive experiences, although none of them were from the internet. Since this is about losing virginity I won't go into relationships, but yeah, if I could go back in time I would have waited until marriage.
No. 69746
>>69744Hey anon, I think you are getting two of us confused. My parents aren't diplomats, but I'm definitely the Chinese and Nigerian "white knight" anon.
Sorry, I really don't mean to white knight. I see how it coms off that way, so yeah, I'm sorry if it's annoyed you seeing my posts. I only mention my good experiences because I literally only ever hear shit about guys from these countries (ex. Chinese guys are abusive and autistic cheaters, Nigerian guys are abusive scammers who only want a green card).
Even irl I've seen the difference in how they are treated vs me (white American). Guys from these countries have had a large influence on my life, so I guess I get a bit white knightish when I constantly hear shit about them (I totally believe there are assholes and have met assholes from these countries. I just think that's mainly what people hear about).
No. 69807
>>61606holy shit that last part about hentai is me right now
are you serious? i have to stop getting off to hentai if i want better sex
this is fucking cruel and i hate it. why cant i just be a guy and have sex feel good 100% of the time with no effort
No. 69840
>>69838you mean when a dude masturbates a certain way and has trouble getting off during real sex?
yeah, sure, but guys still have it fuckin easier. ive only ever gotten off via clitoris (the best and frankly only way to do it) but its real difficult trying to get your hand down there jerking around, depending on the position. it just messes with the flow of things and then i get too in my head and it takes ages to get off ETC ETC ETC
whereas the guy just has to stop jacking off for awhile, then dick in vagina, WOO HOO THERE YOU GO!
Its bullshit. I dont like being on top because im a lazy cow but thats one of the only decent positions for clitoral simulation unless you do some weird on your side shit, but im too attached to positions where i can see my guys face and mess up his hair and stuff.
at this point i dont know if i even want orgasms during sex. its easier to do it alone in your own time exactly how you like it, without someone waiting for you to finish
No. 69904
>>69719Hey, thanks anon. Im not really shy around boys, I have male friends but they have 'come onto me' before and I never know how to react, I honestly feel like if I wasnt so picky/uptight I could of lost it ages ago but the same could be said for anyone ig…
>>69899Isnt it from the virgin suicides film?
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>tfw lost my virginity while watching Zootopia
at least he was a virgin too so it's a shared experience
No. 159193
>>61334Lost it at 19. I was an ugly weeb who didn't care about boys before then. We were both each other's firsts and lived together for years later so I don't think things could've gone any better. My ex turned out to be a retard but in hindsight so was I, in the end I'm extremely glad I lost it to him and not some
abusive rando.
No. 159239
I was 19 and I had met this guy on Tinder, who I thought would be a good summer fling because he was funny and cute but lived a little far from where I was going to school. We spent a weekend at a friend's house a state away for this LAN party thing the friend hosts every year, and we were staying in this guest room with a horrible single twin bed.
I didn't want to lose my virginity to a complete stranger, but I also didn't feel like I needed marriage or a super committed relationship to do it: just someone I liked and trusted enough to do it with, and he definitely fit the bill. I told him I was "inexperienced," but he didn't know I was a virgin. He was really communicative and didn't even suggest PiV: he fingered me and ate me out and I jerked him off, though, so I count it as losing my virginity.
Pretty sure we struggled all summer to get penetration to work, but no matter how much foreplay and lube, it wasn't working.
Turns out, that had a lot to do with him wanting me to GET ON TOP and ride an 8-inch dick despite never having something like that in me before. So of course it hurt like a bitch every time we tried.
Eventually I just asked for missionary, which went fine, and now I can do other positions no problem. We are also still dating and have made the semi long distance work!
No. 159740
We were each other's firsts, been dating for about 3 months. We had planned it all out a few days before (we had already been doing oral and hands stuff) and got to his house after school. I think we were both too nervous cause I was dry and he was like half hard. I got on top of him and it was like ouch!! Hurt so much, I couldn't stand it. Hurt for him too cause I was dry. Tried different positions, just toughing it out, but it wasn't enjoyable for either of us so we gave up. We tried a few more times when we got the chance but it always hurt so much! Didn't know why, because I thought the pain thing was a myth. He took a look down there and turns out I got one of those septate hymens! I get my period later so we don't do much but at the last day of it we're getting sexy and I'm giving him head, and he starts taking a video of me! Kinda weird but I'm giving him a show, ya know. I get on top of him and put it in me, just in a slow, teasing kind of way when we HEAR a POP sound! And he's like "was that your hymen?!" and I was like.. "no, no way, that was like, my hip or something" and I reach down and there's a bunch of blood! It was very funny and we were both glad cause it didn't hurt anymore after that.
So basically, I was on my period, being recorded, and not using any protection when I lost it. But the real question is… Did HE lose his virginity the first time he put it in? Or a few weeks later when my hymen broke?
No. 164591
God, mines was so pathetic. Thankfully, I wasn't raped though.
So this guy on OKCupid contacted me. I was 19. I never had sex or a relationship because I was terrified of males and had severe social anxiety. We finally meet up. Stupidly didn't inform him I was a virgin (idk I thought it would make me less desirable? I was stupid). But I think he got it when he saw blood on his dick.
The sex was so awkward, that he was like "Okay, why don't you give me a blowjob?" and I'm like "Okay." Also first time ever sucking dick. Don't remember it being too eventful other than the fact that when he came in my mouth, I didn't know what to do at first, so he told me to swallow, and I did. It was fucking disgusting. I've hardly done it since. We try to have sex again but he stops in the middle of it and says he can't have sex with me because I'm too uncomfortable. He then (politely) kicked me out of his apartment. Anon would never have an orgasm during sex until over eight years later.
Overall, lame experience but it could've been worse, I guess. Especially at that point, I just wanted to lose it and get it over with. Also he was pretty attractive, so that helped.
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>>164452Should've added, I lost it behind a home depot in a field of native grasses.
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i rly wanna lose mine before i turn 21 but im afraid i wont lolz
the most ive done with a guy is get fingered which was eh
i hate being the only one of my friends to still be a virgin and i hate how little sexual experience i have, it makes me feel a lot less confident for some reason. like is something wrong with me?
my ideal would be to lose it to someone im comfortable with/kinda know/attracted to. i feel like that isnt asking for much, considering i could want to lose it to someone im dating but that would be a lot more effort.
i guess i could lose it to a totally random hookup which is what some of my friends did but i know i would hate the experience so much. nothing about that entices me and i guess im not that desperate to lose it. i want the guy to at least know my name/know his name.
i dont really know what to do about my situation, since im kinda shy and refuse to use dating apps. its also kinda hard to meet people organically right now cause of covid. overall, i just want to lose it already and move on with life.
No. 164653
Lost it to a guy I met on tinder after two dates when I was 19. He was really hot and tall and also a kissless virgin, and I’d always wanted to lose it to someone else who was a virgin that I was actually attracted to. So I just bit the bulletin and invited him over to watch a movie in my dorm with the implication we were gonna have sex. He ate me out and actually made me cum (I was shocked) but we could just not manage to fit his dick inside me for some reason. Also, I was goofily bad at sucking dick and I accidentally made him laugh while doing it which was mortifying. We were actually pretty comfortable with each other, and we also cuddled all night and I was shocked at how good it felt having someone hold me. We ended up waking up when it was still dark outside, and we managed to get his dick inside me. The actual sex was pretty crap, and I don’t think he really understood how to thrust properly but he came (I definitely didn’t). He left the next day, but we kept seeing each other and texting everyday and became each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend. We’re still together three years later and have a great relationship and now his stroke game is genuinely amazing (and he’s so good at dirty talk) so I overall think I had a pretty good experience losing my virginity. That being said, I think if he just ditched me afterwards, I might have been a complete and utter wreck. In hindsight, kinda wish I waited till we were official before we actually banged. Overall, 7/10. Pretty good.
No. 164670
>>164653>He ate me out and actually made me cumanon keep him
>We’re still together three years laterYES
No. 165629
>>164544I agree with
>>164546That is an awful experience and you are not to blame. I hope you receive the treatment you deserve from now on.
No. 165735
>>61334I was 16, and had started seeing this guy after we met through mutual friends over the summer. I thought he was sooo cute, and one day he invited me over and I brought him my favorite comic book to read and a water bottle of nettle tea (he didn't like it). He was 20 and had previously sent a long text about how he didn't want to take advantage of me but he thought i was 'cute af'lol so I took it as an ok to go full steam ahead
Anyway fast forward we're at his house laying on each other, this is the third time we've been alone together but we weren't dating or anything. I told him i was on my period cause I was but he didn't seem grossed out or any less willing so we had sex on his bed after that. I remember sitting on his face and getting it bloody lol and he wiped it on my face and stuff he told me I was adorable and hot and when I sat on his dick for the first time It didn't hurt but It was a little uncomfortable and I felt really full. He was an average size I think but it felt pretty gud I didn't know how to ride the d so I just kinda shifted back and forth until he got on top and he had a skylight and since it was dark out I could see my reflection in it and I remember looking up at myself as he was fucking me with blood everywhere and I had a distinct moment like 'oh, /this/ is what it's like'. He came pretty quickly but afterwards we cuddled and he gave me ice cream and whiskey and then I got horny and wanted to fuck him again but it took him way too long to get hard because whiskey dick !
Basically it was a good moment the age gap was definitely creepy looking back but I still can't find it in me to hate him. i still think about him sometimes too, he was really cute and submissive and had a big nose and a ton of freckles
No. 168857
>>61334I was 17, he was my first proper boyfriend. He got drunk at a Halloween party and barricaded the door with furniture. I thought we were just messing around but nope, I lost my v card in the bed where his grandmother passed a month prior.
I’m gay now
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I lost my virginity a week after I had turned 25 to a guy I used to work with. We had been watching Netflix at his place after a ‘date’ and it was getting late and we decided to fool around in his room and then he asked me if I wanted to go further if not I should probably just go home. My dumb ass said yes because I was convinced I was in love with him because all of my friends were egging me on saying we would be a cute couple and I thought he would be more willing to make it an official relationship so yeah, we fucked. It hurt and I bled for a few days and I was really sore all over. The only follow up thing he mentioned before he ghosted me for a few days was that I had left my vape at his house. Nothing about how I may have been feeling or if I was alright after the fact, which made me feel really shitty once I got more perspective from my friends. He was over all a really shitty guy but I still slept with him two times after that because I thought it gave me power over him kek.
Part of me wishes I had never done it and if I had just waited a little longer I could’ve lost it to my current boyfriend and had it been two uwu virgins losing it together like I had always imagined. At the same time though, it’s a really stupid thing for me to be upset about because I can’t predict the future and despite the shitty outcome that it was, it was a fun care-free time in my life and one shitty guy doesn’t change that.
No. 169104
>>169028 Yeah you’re right, I always liked girls but I got bullied about it so much in catholic school I literally “turned myself straight.” I remember thinking sex and love weren’t as big a deal as love songs made them out to be until I got my first girlfriend and realized I had been gay all along.
>>169062I low key do this if I want to avoid the “I lost my v card thru assault maybe” conversation at parties because it’s a bummer.
No. 173137
>>169078In hindsight, I definitely appreciate it. A few months after that, I dated a scrote who was a total coomer and wanted to fuck all the time. He didn’t give a fuck that I was shy and uncomfortable during sex (Honestly, I wouldn’t even be surprised if it turned him on). It was a bad relationship and it did a lot of damage. Doing better now though.
So maybe OkCupid dude wasn’t such a bad guy after all.
No. 205170
>>205158you moved in together before you'd even fucked? are you religious
nonny?
No. 205204
>>205170No kek, I just had a shaky living situation I wanted resolved and I trusted him not to axe murder me
and the fooling around phase was good heh. Probably would have waited to move in with him had my background been different but also I love living together with him so it all worked out (we are still together).
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I lost my virginity to another farmer. She was really scared of hurting me because I'd never been penetrated before, but it was quite exciting for both of us. With impeccable timing, my period started halfway through. And she still ate me out! What a trooper. We're getting married next spring.
No. 205519
>>205481My fiancée is a biological female. Please, for your own sanity stop reading the MTF thread
>>205486Yes correct! She used her fingers and later on we bought a strap together. It was a big deal for me because I only like clitoral masturbation, so she was the first and only person to ever get inside me. Jokes of uncharted territory abound.
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>>205438congrats nonnies!!!!!!!
No. 494933
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Is anyone here waiting for marriage, or has waited? Please don't tell me I'm the only one.
No. 495080
>be me, college sophomore, virgin, 19 years old
>lose like 50lb over the summer vacation, come back hot for the first time in my life, people are way nicer to me but my self-esteem is still shit
>start dating stupidly good-looking moid in the winter semester
>I'm head over heels, this is the first time I've had a crush accepted/reciprocated
>he invites me to spend the night at his place
>'oh shit, this is it. I'm glad it's with him, your first time should feel special and be with someone you love'
>We're cuddling together/making out
>'hey anon, I feel like I should tell you this is my first time having sex's
>he suddenly stops, backs off, says some stuff about waiting until I feel ready
>'wow he's so respectful, what a good moid'
>Go home for a week bc spring break
>Moid stops responding to my texts and calls
>'oh my God I hope he's okay, what if something horrible happened to him'
>'wait, am I being ghosted? surely not, he was one of the good ones'
>get back from spring break, go over to check on him/drop off a loaf of bread I made as a return present
>the door to his apartment building is open so I just walk in and knock on his door
>he opens it
>there's another girl sitting on his couch behind him, he looks shocked to see me
Even thinking about this situation years later makes my stomach feel like it just took a punch to the gut.
It doesn't end there, either
>A week later his roommate starts texting me
>Roommate is a long-haired hippie guy in his 20's, semi-cute in a indie musician way
>He's asking why I'm not coming around anymore, I explain we broke up probably because Adam didn't want to take my virginity and have me get 'attached'.
>Apparently this makes him outrageously horny or something because he offers to take care of it and make sure it's 'a good first time' for me
>I am so fucking sick of the stigma at this point that I accept just to get it over with and out of the way
>the sex is mid, I don't even have an orgasm but I end up faking one to make him get off me finally.
>'I'd really love to date you, Nona, but I'm moving to Australia this summer so it wouldn't be a good match.'
>whatever.jpg this was a means to an end
>Like a month later I'm chatting with one of my female friends on Facebook and she notices he's on our mutual friends list
>'oh yeah, we hooked up because I was sick of being a virgin but he's leaving the country soon so'
>'…Nona, he's not moving to Australia, he's moving to Chicago to be with his long-distance girlfriend.'
>She shows me the girlfriend's social media, it all checks out
>Confront him over the phone, he cries and begs me not to tell anyone
>he convinces stupid teenage me to 'be the bigger person' and 'not to start drama'
>Loophole is that the mutual friend doesn't agree to jack shit kek
I hope he got dumped but I also never looked into his personal life again. Anyways this was probably a good Life Lesson because it taught me that moids are untrustworthy scum no matter how sweet they act to your face.
No. 495083
>>495080I should probably explicitly mention that yeah it was very clearly some kind of romantic entanglement with this other girl who was in his apartment, he was playing her the guitar just like he'd played it for me, she had on cute date clothes and makeup, and she looked just as surprised by me and my bread as I was by her.
Also sex imo is terrifically overrated. Just not the way I'm wired, ig, I have no idea how people climax from PiV. The only reason I do it anymore is basically job security/emotional investment. I'm not sure if it was just the bad first time experience or what but all the hype and romance orbiting the subject completely vanished in my early 20's. For a while I thought maybe it was a matter of finding the right partner, but I have shopped around pretty extensively and now my philosophy is just not to expect sexual satisfaction from relationships like that. My vibrator can do that for me, a relationship is so I can have someone to drink lemonade with on a porch swing when I'm 65.
No. 495145
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>>494933Me. I read this thread to laugh at all the nonnies who had horrible experiences losing their virginities. It makes me feel better about my decision to wait.
No. 495160
>>494933While I do want to have sex sometimes, I remember the hassle of having sex and just masturbate. I honestly don't feel superior or anything, I just think it's just me trying to avoid unnecessary issues like moid feelings, uncomfortable gynecologist visits and the possibility of getting hurt/murdered/slandered.
Specially in my country it's honestly annoying to even muster the idea of hooking up or getting to know someone to date and maybe get close to, everyone knows what you're doing and everyone is waiting for your name to pop up in social media sites or dating sites, it's so tiresome.
Sometimes I think of doing something retarded like Emily in Emily in Paris and go on sexcapades in other countries, but I remember the hassles of moid feelings and the possibility of getting murdered/hurt/slandered and just masturbate.
Honestly, while my first idea of virginity came from religion and considering it as something precious that must be protected, over the time I've just seen it as something that will help me avoid going to annoying gynecologist visits.
No. 495164
>>495145You better marry a virgin moid then otherwise this is completely pointless.
A true Nigel won't care anyway, he will love you regardless only fat retarded 4chan incels care if you are "used."
No. 495166
>>495153Still beats getting pumped and dumped, used and abused, fucked and cucked, laid and played, infected and rejected
>>495149That's why it's better to be on top
No. 495179
>>495176>if you rush into marriageWhere did I ever suggest you do this?
>If you love someone and are committed to them, it's OK to have protected sex if you want to.Yeah, but then it turns out he's lying and then pumps and dumps you. Marriage is the only real commitment, any other "commitment" is a spook that doesn't have any real risk or penalty.
No. 495193
>>495186>Men cheat on their wives all the time.Men with high bodycounts cheat on their wives because they're slutty whores.
>it doesn't mean you were "pumped and dumped"You were pumped (had a dick inserted into you) and you were dumped (the relationship ended). The essence is the same. The only difference is how long it takes.
>trying to avoid being manipulated means you're exceptionally prone to being manipulatedNo
No. 495230
>>495222There is no fairy tale scrote for (you), because (you) gave up. But I'm am not (you), I will not give up, I will succeed.
>>495223What are you talking about?
No. 495275
>>495160Nta, I agree with your reasons minus the religious one. I believe masturbation can be better too because I can get as hyperspecific with the acts I like as possible and truly please myself. Take my time and last for as long as I want, or finish quickly if I'm in a hurry. 0 pressure to impress someone or please them, too. It's 100% all about me. Having fantasies of my husbando helps with arousal at times. I can't imagine asking an actual person to help me out with the things I like but it can be inconvenient and super selfish and I don't wanna deal with someone's tantrum.
>>495229It's not really by choice for me because of the circumstances of my life preventing me from ever experiencing a love or sex life all together. But I also never really had the desire for these things since what they lead to normally is marriage and kids, and I don't want either, so I'm not interested in the steps that lead to them. As I mentioned above, masturbation and husbandofagging is enough to satisfy me. I don't believe in "sharing your life" with someone else or putting your money with someone else to cohabitate with, that's dangerous imo and only leads to trouble and has more cons than pros imo. I'd rather make my own money and buy a house on my own no matter how long or hard it takes. Relying on someone else, especially a male, is humiliating and he'll just turn around and say "you owe me for this" if he's the breadwinner, and resent you if you're the breadwinner. It's a lose-lose situation either way. Although I could be navie and wrong about this and being too idealistic. So take my opinion with a grain of salt.
>>495263>quoting a moid pretending it makes you win the argumentIf you truly learned from other's mistakes, you wouldn't be a whore for marriage, but here we are.
No. 495605
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>>495145Expecting a virgin man to be nicer to you is foolish as fuck. Virgin men claim to want virgin women because they're insecure, but as soon as they lost their virginity, they wonder "what am I missing out on?" and start resenting their current girlfriend for having them stuck in a monogamous relationship. You have thousands of these "she's sweet and nice, but …." stories
Being a tradthot is a lose-lose situation :
- Either you get with a virgin who'll have FOMO of sleeping around ; who'll either cheat, leave you or vent it out on porn (if the reason he was a virgin was inability to have sex)
- Either you get with a guy who's already slept around and will feel somewhat uncomfortable with how bad you are in bed
I guess second is better because at least you can learn and it can be wholesome or whatever, but you're inevitably at a disadvantage because he has more experience in relationships in general
Men are trash and whores, virgin men are as whorish as non virgins, and you shouldn't get into relationships expecting everything to be perfect and great just because you didn't have a penis inside you
Then again, I won't deny not having sex with moids is based, because sex fucking sucks, but not having it in hopes of being magically rewarded with a Nigel is foolish
No. 495610
>>495609>nobody else wanted to fuck themThat's literally the reason why most virgins are virgins. That's why they cheat as soon as they get the occasion. Honestly I think it's safer to be with a guy who's already gotten the chance to realize how boring random sex is and is no longer obsessed with it. What do nonas think about that?
It's nice to believe in the cute pure virgin moid as a fantasy but I don't think he exists I'm just cynical at this point lol.
No. 495728
>>495554>>495521>future husband is also a virgin, their marriage is stronger because they've only known each otherhow are you posting when you can't even read?
>>495610yeah i think fantasizing about any potential partner's 'purity' is only going to lead to disappointment and both men & women need to let go of it. humans aren't anime characters. also anyone who hyperfixates on sex (either having too little or too much of it) is wearing a giant red flag on their sleeve.
No. 495738
>>495605This moid didn't wait until marriage, and neither did his girlfriend. You pic exampled does not apply.
>tradthotI'm not a tradthot. Did I once mention being a housewife?
>lose lose situationHello? That situation is the same even if you aren't a "tradthot". Even if you do have sex before marriage, you'll either be with a virgin or a slut who misses his slut days of slutting around and will cheat on you.
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>>495610>Honestly I think it's safer to be with a guy who's already gotten the chance to realize how boring random sex is and is no longer obsessed with it. You on the left
(tripleposting, infight baiting) No. 495743
>>495728What about the 19 other
valid points in the meme? Are you just going to ignore those?
No. 495794
It sucked and traumatized me. I thought I actually had something nice with the scrote I was dating. He approached me at the library and was very kind, we went out for three months and in this span of time he was talkative, listened to me, planned dates etc.
He eventually invited me to watch a movie at his place and by that time I was comfortable going to his place and I already had the idea that we would do foreplay and maybe build it up from there. As soon as I reached his place he just slammed me onto the bed and began making out. His fingering was shit, he didn’t run my clit enough and I didn’t get eaten at all, he pushed my head while I was giving head too. Foreplay fucking sucked.
I told him that I was a virgin and he sort of didn’t believe me until later on, penetration hurt like a motherfucker and I tensed up each time because I wasn’t wet enough. I honestly wanted to stop but I think I was a retard and didn’t say no, so that’s honestly on me.
Once he managed to insert his penis he at least went slow first and checked on me, it started feeling good at least but he would stop way too much to change position.
He also bought condoms that were too big for him, he was average sized and I think he must have gotten a large or something.
But the thing is he became cold after, didn’t even escort me back home and ghosted me. I got mad and called him out and told him that he was immature and disappointing. I still see him from time to time and he has the audacity to greet me.
Anyway, it was shit, never had any more sex after that. Wish I had saved myself for someone better and had an actual nice experience.
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>>495797I'll take left, you can have right
No. 495817
>>495812In reality:
>the same as right >watched as much or more porn as right>will probably suck a scrote being good at sex doesn’t depend on how much sex he has had, it depends on whether he listens to his partner or not.
>will wonder what he’s missing out because he thinks his dick is a saving grace No. 495834
>>495815>virgins won’t save you from heartbreak or being usedThat's not the point. The point is, you shouldn't settle for used goods.
>>495816>>495817>left doesn't existDoesn't exist for you because they don't want you
>>495818Obviously you should screen for other qualities. Nobody denies this.
No. 495859
>>495857>internalized misogyny>middle school cattiness>poking fun at womenSounds like lc all right lmao
Isn't Stacy the female counterpart to Chad, who belittles and abases other moids? So Stacy should belittle and abase other women, right?
No. 495862
>>495857>there's no point in poking fun at women for losing her virginity 'badly'>its not a reflection on them whatsoeverNo. Take
>>495794 for instance. If she were aginst sex before marriage, she wouldn't have been in that situation, she wouldn't have been pumped and dumped, she wouldn't have suffered. She brought it upon herself. I laugh when people reap what they sow.
No. 495871
>>495857i don't even remember the name of the moid who i gave mine away to. the concept of virginity is only precious to them because it used to be a way to ensure that the heir was theirs and theirs alone. unga-bunga caveman pissing territory stuff that i can't believe girls are still buying into and upholding.
for what it's worth i feel i can say with authority that no matter how bad your first experience is or who it is with, it does not dictate the quality of nigel/nigelina you end up with. you can lose your virginity in college to a completely worthless scrote and still end up with the love of your life later on.
No. 495875
>>495859i don't think real chads think about other moids at all. Chad is a concept incels came up with to illustrate how they think popular normies float through life miraculously privileged and unaided while they suffer untold prejudice and injustice for their self-presumed sheer biological inferiority.
if you are actually a Chad (or Stacey) you are probably too normal and well-adjusted to even be aware of the terminology. and typically normal and well-adjusted people don't go around bullying others for zero cause.
No. 495878
>>495870I dunno. I'm only 20, and I still think it's very significant.
>>495871>i can't believe girls are still buying into and upholding.What can't you believe about wanting to avoid getting pumped and dumped?
No. 495889
>>495878why do you assume you're going to get 'pumped and dumped'?
like nobody's saying go out and have a bunch of one night stands, use your judgment, but obsessing over keeping it intact does nothing for you except make you feel like it's more important than it really is. the longer you wait the more likely it will be for 'the good ones' to encounter and fall in love with other people who don't have the same hangups as the girl who's bought into the 'no hymen no diamond' redpill shit.
you do not want to be in a marriage with misogynist, point-blank, and those are really the only ones who will care about the state of your hymen. the others will just be confused. have you actually been in a long-term relationship with this approach before?
No. 495893
>>495889>why do you assume you're going to get 'pumped and dumped'? Hello? Have you read the replies to this thread? Just look at her
>>495794>you do not want to be in a marriage with misogynistI agree
>those are really the only ones who will care about the state of your hymenI disagree. Non-misogynist virgin guys will stongly prefer a virgin, don't you know? Desiring virginity in a partner is natural and logical, except when you know you won't ever get it, so then you cope and pretend you don't want it.
(bait) No. 496105
>>496025been there, done that
we even took it as slow as possible, first time we were just making out, ended up masturbating each other, but no sex
the next time we tried oral both ways, then slowly attempting penetration
final time we just spent hours having regular sex
in hindsight none of those attempt felt particularly amazing in terms of physical stimulation, and besides the fleeting emotional awe of getting over your initial shyness which felt like the best part overall
No. 496106
>>496058With moids they can’t wait to get rid of their v card as it’s a stigma
Maybe they’d value it like women if it wasn’t so shamed
No. 496227
>>496150in my experience I was never really interested in it (not that I'm asexual, I just think my libido is pretty low/I am very picky about what kind of moid i find attractive) but it's something that is seen as a natural step in 'securing' a relationship.
I think when I was younger (I'm a 30+ nona) sex was more of a novelty, and there was still this idea that I had which had been imbued upon me by YA fiction that sex and love were supposed to be these sacred and magical things that only happened to you a fleeting number of times and were so important and earth-shattering that they'd change you from the inside out. And when they didn't, I sort of was like 'is this what all the hype was over?' because it didn't feel worth the emotional investment of my childhood or the overvigilance on the part of the adults who spoke on the subject. Like birth control, STD testing, both of those are very important, but valuing 'chastity' as far as I can tell is no longer a virtue. We no longer live in the 1950's where sex before marriage would have excluded you from the marriage pool and birth control wasn't easily available so aside from schizoposters ITT and sugar daddies, I very rarely meet people who place a particularly high value on sex.
No. 496261
>>495870I don't see anything wrong with being an older virgin (or never losing your virginity) as long as you don't get bitter and shitty about it.
In a perfect world, ones virginity should be their choice. People who decide to lose it with someone (ideally someone they trust and care about) shouldn't be scrutinized for their choice.
I think if an older virgin gets weird about the fact that they haven't experienced sex and it bothers them, they probably should just go out and have sex (again, with someone they trust). If a woman is in her 30s and is expecting to find a good man who is also a virgin in his 30s she's probably never going to get what she wants. Is he REALLY that bad if he had a handful of serious, long term relationships that didn't work out for whatever reason before he met you? If so, maybe you just need to accept being a virgin for the rest of your life and stop shitting on people who had sex.
Part of female liberation is shedding the Madonna-whore complex that moids pushed onto us and accepting that most women live within a reasonable middle ground.
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I'm never losing my virginity, not for religious reasons or anything, I just want to get witch powers.
also I'm not going to cheat on my husbando
No. 496295
>>496292ntayrt but I think it helps humanize your partner if neither you nor him are virgins. Of course it's horrible if your partner betrays your trust, but if you give him your first time and he uses you or betrays you, it's much worse and harder to get away from him because he holds your "purity" or whatever.
>>496293You are just parroting what scrotes have told you your entire life as a defense mechanism. If you hadn't been constantly told women who have pre marital sex are insta-trash you wouldn't give as much of a shit about his virginity status, you would instead be entirely focused on the quality of his character. Come on
nonnie. You see how incels are. Deep down, you'd rather be with a loving chad who had a couple ex girlfriends than a virgin incel who sees women as objects.
No. 496297
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>>496286I mean, I said that (mostly) in jest, but I'm most likely going to stay a virgin because I have very high moral standards for men and most moids just don't meet them. So I resigned to just being a volcel, it doesn't really bother me though, since I'm choosing to focus on retaining friendships. No hate on women that choose to have boyfriends or husbands though, it's just that relationships like that might not be for an autist like me.
>>496280Oh no
Oh yes No. 496299
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>>496295>If you hadn't been constantly told women who have pre marital sex are insta-trashLiterally no one has ever told me this. I've been told the opposite, that being a virgin woman is cringe and loserish.
>you'd rather be with a loving chad who had a couple ex girlfriends than a virgin incel who sees women as objects.Technically true, but most of all I'd rather be with a guy who values his body and our integrity and can keep it in his pants
No. 496301
>>496297ayrt
>extremely reasonable response>i didn't pick up on the joke bc also autismwell now i'm just telling my tulpa to go petition the Elder Gods to grant you some good karma and fairy dust today, nona, my bad.
No. 496302
>>496295So? I'm not an idiot, I can "humanize" my partner even while we're both virgins.
Also, your idea is to purposely get "used" by other moids so you can lessen the potential effects of possibly getting "used" by your husband, like a vaccine. Only the former is definite, and the latter is merely a possibility.
No. 496335
>>496292Psychologically I don't think it's the same penalty at all. If I had the mate-for-life mentality, I would be devastated when I was trying to move on to a second relationship, which - regardless of how you perceive your own judgment - 99.99% of people's first tries do not work out. this is not a judgment on their intelligence, they simply need more experience. But if you're going into a relationship already worried about being 'pumped and dumped' then you are setting yourself up for failure. A normie moid would probably be insulted by the assumption and see it as evidence of an unstable personality. The only moids who will agree with your perspective are the ones who see sex as bait on the end of a fishing rod, i.e. redpill 4chan-tier scrotes who deserve their incel status.
Kind of feels like you have a no-true-scotsman argument going on in your own head. 'A good partner is only a good partner as long as he conforms exactly to my expectations'. If he expects sex before marriage, you write him off as 'a bad partner' and congratulate yourself on avoiding 'the bad ending'… meanwhile if you talk to actual married couples with the happy picket fence and the 2.5 kids then practically all of them started hooking up within the first couple of months of knowing each other. They wouldn't have stayed together for so long if they didn't know whether they were sexually compatible or not. Like, real talk, if you found out your husband had a micropenis on your wedding night and was so small he couldn't even fit it in and you had to sexually satisfy him with two fingers in the shape of a hole for the rest of the relationship, would you be happy? that's a possibility on the table in the future you're envisioning for yourself.
>>496293"hehe devaluing men in the same way the patriarchy devalues women is so based" is not the empowering 150 IQ move you think it is. We don't have to use the term 'used goods' but that's exactly what we're talking about so nitpicking over terminology as a deflection just further proves how little you're willing to engage with the points being made. i genuinely hope you're the same anon who's just been baitposting for the last 24 hours because any girl who really believes this stuff needs to go to their parents and beg for a therapist.
No. 496339
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>>496301No worries anon, I also struggle to pick up on jokes sometimes, it happens to the best of us.
>>496303That sounds nice nonna. Though I still have many years before being a KHHV 30 year old witch, so I'll need to study sacred texts in the meantime (which are Manifesto-chan's posts and otome games obviously)
No. 497047
>>496828and women initiate divorce 70% of the time.
so this chart makes sense if you just read the thread. like
>>496291 said, the ones who have had fewer sexual partners are more afraid to leave their moids while the ones who are confident in their ability to find another partner don't hesitate to leave if the first one loses the spark or crosses a line. they look for something better. whether you think this is a good idea or not probably depends on the relationship your own parents exhibited and whether it was 'successful' or not. personally my mom patterned her whole life after the purity model nonas are talking about here, and has privately confessed to me now in her late 60's that she wishes she had divorced my dad years ago when he cheated on her after 10 years of marriage. she forgave him bc 'the sanctity of her marriage vows'.
No. 497311
>>496335>99.99% of people's first tries do not work outAnd how many of them wait until marriage?
>A normie moid would probably be insulted by the assumptionIt's normalfaggot moids doing the pumping and dumping. They're insulted because they've been found out
>Like, real talk, if you found out your husband had a micropenis Literally 1 out of 10,000, and those men develop huge egos so you don't want to marry them anyways.
>>497047>lower divorce rates actually mean worse marriagesNo, I don't think so
(baiting) No. 497772
>TMI incoming
I just lost my virginity last night and it was very exciting. I started university this semester and he's in one of my chemistry units. The whole class is filled with people who either already know each other or don't want to know anyone, so I was feeling very awkward, but he invited me to join his lab team and he was just so nice and understanding. He's also quite tall, and while he has an average face, he has such beautiful eyes that I just liked him immediately. We haven't actually been dating for the last 4 weeks, but we've spent a lot of time together and I felt comfortable enough to wait for the rush-hour train traffic to die down at his house and it just unfolded from there.
I was very nervous, but didn't tell him I was a virgin because it felt so awkward to say out loud. I was expecting him to be a little rougher and straight forward, but maybe he guessed it was my first time and he was very gentle and romantic. I've only ever kissed one other person, so we spent a lot of time just kissing in bed before we started undressing and sort of leaned into it over time. He was very good with his fingers and it only occurred to me moments later that I'd been in the heat all day without a shower, but when he used his mouth he didn't complain. I really wanted to enjoy oral, and I did love the sensation, but I was so ticklish and had such intense flutters in my stomach that I just spent the time trying to focus. When I started stroking him, he was smaller than I thought he'd be, but it looked nice and he tasted fine. Penetration was painful for about 5 seconds and every time he slipped or pulled out and had to reinsert there was a short moment of pain, but otherwise I enjoyed the sensation and there was a kind of pressure I felt inside my pelvis that actually felt kind of pleasurable, but not in a sexual way.
It wasn't immediately good, but he seemed to notice and actually stopped to kiss me, use his hands and hold me. He finished while I was just starting to enjoy myself, and I was so disappointed because I thought it was over, but instead we did some more foreplay and tried different positions. I really, really liked laying on our sides with him behind me because I could feel him pressed against me, hear him right next to my ear, and he could use his hands and from that angle it seemed just right. Eventually we got to this one with me laying on my stomach with a pillow under my hips and him on top with his hands under me. It took an hour for me just to start feeling good, but in that position I had an orgasm in under 10 minutes, and what an orgasm it was. I don't think I've ever had one that powerful without a toy involved. I kind of wanted to go again, but it was already late and as we were cuddling he only got semi-hard against me, so we laid there and talked until we fell asleep.
Overall, I'd say it was really good and was very enjoyable, but wasn't a lifechanging experience. I like him, and we're dating now, so it was more like relationship commencement sex than just for fun. I feel like losing my virginity was just a kind of collateral damage of having my first adult relationship and was a bit of meaningless labelling to begin with. Telling my parents is going to be hard because once they know how long we've been dating, they're going to pinpoint it to the night I "stayed with friends", despite not having any girlfriends yet. Him being white is going to be almost as bad.
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>>499049This was a serious burn.
Not really the husban , wife stuff, just the calling out kek.
No. 499162
>>499049I think a moid not being a virgin is going to be bad for marriage
I think I can be a stable wife and mother?
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tf does it mean Can sexhavers ITT explain?
No. 500553
>>500552dick piercings
very gross