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No. 17467
>>17464well it's not like the medication just suddenly makes you not do bad things
it's more so that the horrible feelings/thoughts that bring you to do those bad things go away so you are able to act like a normal person
No. 17655
>>17543Got burned by this type of behavior when i was younger. I never deleted anything but i had a suspicion and struck gold so to speak two times with different bfs, one of which I had lived with for a couple of years. Anyway I started to see a pattern and stopped dating that kind of guys BUT as i did find something on the occasions I looked i now have an irrational fear of seeing shit I won't like and I'm basically paranoid. Bummer. I've worked hard on my trust issues though and i can honestly say I'm not suspicious of my dude today (this one is a keeper)
Since this is a secrets thread though I would like to get something off my chest. My bf (of two years, that i live with and trust) has an ex and she… Well I'm starting to think she has some real issues. They were in a long distance relationship, and he broke up with her almost 4 years ago, but she still can't let it go. She keeps in touch with his family (he's asked them to please respect that he doesn't want her in his life) and keeps tabs on everyone. Leaves comments on every photo people post on fb even the ones I'm in asking us to save some food for when shes coming over etc. idk it's getting old. Anyway she's a traveler and moved to the other side of the planet, was supposed to stay there for like 5 years but now suddenly she's in our city while knowing no one here and ugh. I wish I didn't care but I feel like i never get a moment without seeing her name/hearing about her. He's told her straight up that he wants her to move on and deleted her off his media but she got real angry and now she's here. I'm starting to feel a little creeped out tbh. Idk this isn't a secret per say but I don't want to create any drama in the family but sometimes I wish I could confront her and ask her to please move on.
No. 18624
I feel like a failure because I'm still letting my ex bully me. This time throwing around accusations of how insensitive I was when he was going through personal issues (that I didn't know fully about; all I saw was him obsessing over a girl that got away from him and getting chummy with the next girl he was going to go out with.), and that made it ok for him to just ghost on me. Because I said I wanted more time, and was jealous of the attention that he was paying to both an old flame and a new "I swear she's just a friend" girl while pushing me aside. I think he might be a psychopath, and his relationships to tend to follow the "put on pedestal/devalue/discard" pattern like a narcissist's, and usually I can let all his bullshit roll off me (his big thing is bragging about every new girlfriend in a place where I can see, taking her out and showing her off in all the places I go, etc.) but this time it just got to me too much. He was bragging loudly about his plans to move to the city I live in with a girl he started going out with like last Thursday, after a month ago still trying to garner sympathy for tracking down and finding out what the girl who disappeared has been up to. How sad it was that she just left without explanation, and started going out with a new boyfriend less than a month later. He did the same to me, although I think he was already going out with the new girl before he ghosted. He apologised about what he had done to me a few months ago, and I just told him that's fine but please leave me alone. It turns out he didn't mean it. It turns out he just wanted repentance from me. "Unrepentant". That was the word he used to describe my response. A really powerful one, because he has to be in power I guess. Because I'm supposed to be sorry that I wasn't sensitive about a situation in his life that I didn't even know about, because he refused to talk about it with me. I should be sorry that I got jealous about all the effort he was putting into getting contact with the girl who got away, at same time trying to court a new girl. I am supposed to be sorry about all that.
And for a minute, I thought yeah, maybe he's right, maybe I am a terrible human being who only cares about myself. And I had to call my partner late at night and have him reassure me, and felt really guilty about that after. I should just be happy with who I've got looking after me now, and not let some asshole from the past pick open every scab before they've had a chance to heal properly, cos I'm gonna like bleed out if I let him do that. And that's what he wants. And I don't get why me.
I'm happy that I'm no longer with him, and that he's someone else's problem, because he's got more issues than vogue, but at the same time I'm sad because I let him play me like that. I feel like a doll that belongs to some really bratty kid, and I just want him to stop tormenting me.
No. 19372
>>19356damn bitch, you sound like a teenager
dont worry, im in the same boat as you.i always get paranoid when bf would find new female friends and I'd often speak my mind about it,but, im currently learning how to just keep it to myself. so far its good.
No. 19373
>>19356>>19372You both sound immature as fuck.
It's okay to feel bad about it and inform your SO, but it's not okay to act like a possessive cunt and throw tantrums whenever there's a vagina in a 10 mile radius.
>Hey boyfriend, I'd like to confess something: I feel uncomfortable with Vagina around. I'm not telling you to back off of her or anything, just please keep my feelings in mind.If he's a decent boyfriend he'll comfort you and assure you everything is okay or calmly explain the situation.
If he's a scrote he'll probably say something along the lines of 'LOL tough shit' or get violently defensive/behave inappropriately in some other way.
No. 19453
>>19448If you trust your boyfriend, you can trust him not to pull anything with her no matter how hard she tries.
Do you really trust him?