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No. 248328

The good, the bad, the ugly. Share your experiences here, what are the best apps to use, your success stories, cringeist interactions, horror, etc.

Previously >>>/g/82463

No. 248329

Going to repost my post from last thread:

I want to join an app to scope out the local lesbian scene in my area to see how truly hellish it is but I don't really want to put myself on profile until I see what it is really like. How would I be able to see without commiting a full account first? Also what would I do if genderspecials start asking me questions?

No. 248330

people make accounts with no personal info at all all the time. On apps like HER and Tinder at least you can still swipe through profiles without sharing anything about yourself

No. 248357

I'm thinking of giving OLD a go again. What are anons thoughts on hinge as opposed to tinder? I always tried tinder previously because a) more men, statistically more likely to meet a decent one through numbers alone and b) I want a normie and it's the normiest app. But I hear hinge is better for proper relationships, I just worry that it's mostly gonna be desperate ugly guys who can't hack the competition on tinder.

No. 248602

idk what it is, but for where i live hinge has way more attractive men on it..

No. 248610

I didn't find it an upgrade at all. I've looked at guys in my area a couple times and there are still a good amount of men from fucking years back (and I'm not at all in a small city). So much for being the app that gets people off apps. I think OKCupid is probably the most decent out of all of them. At least you can make it filter men who give blatantly terrible/incompatible answers on their questionnaires.

No. 248625

My experience: Haven't used Tinder in a year, but then redownloaded it this weekend when I visited a friend and was curious to know what the men looked like in her city (they weren't cute at all). Now that I'm back home, I thought I might as well take a look since it's been so long. Main issue is that I barely have any pictures of myself anymore so all of the pictures on my profile are from when I was in college (which I graduated almost two years ago). It's not like I'll be catfishing since I doubt I'll end up meeting anyone off this app in person anyway. Also the only men I've found cute so far are the ones who are younger than me which is concerning kek.

No. 248641

for real the only decent looking guys seem to be all the young zoomers. i feel creepy cause im almost 10 years older than them but the men on apps that are like 25+ all look like they hit the fucking wall already

No. 248645

what app has non-normie men (say, introverts but not of the boring marvel sperg type) and weirdos? if they are not dangerous, going for a coffee with them is fun lmfao

No. 248648

Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I don't know if it's because of the wall or if it's because men just decide to lose all sense of personality/style once they enter their mid 20s or if it's a gen Z thing. Zoomer men are probably awful in their own way, but they're more likely to dress nicely/interesting and be less boring on their profile.

I also connected my Spotify just to see what my top artists were, cringed horribly and disconnected my Spotify only to see that my top artists are still showing up on my profile. Fuck this is going to be so horrible and embarrassing.

No. 248708

>Zoomer men and personality
Pick one.

No. 249016

I have to also agree with anon >>248610 about Okcupid. So far the only guys that I've been on date with on dating apps have mainly been on Okcupid with one being from Tinder. I hardly get any matches on Bumble and I kept forgetting to create an account on Hinge.

I also recommend staying far away from Badoo, too many weird randos matches with me and send me messages before I can even see their profiles. I tried it out of curiousity and I regretted it.

No. 249025

No. 249084

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Am I being too picky if I consider these teams a red flag? Never had a good experience with a Raiders/Dodger combo fan

No. 249271

Does anyone else struggle with writing about themselves on apps? Maybe it’s because I’m BPD but I never know what to put in terms of hobbies/interests or how to answer things like the bio questions on Hinge. Sometimes going on apps only makes me feel more blank and empty.

No. 249272

lol where the fuck are you using okcupid that it isn't all weebs and polyshits

No. 249284

yes. if hes from CA its normal to like those teams…

No. 249285

>give the typical short, marvel-loving normie programming nerd a chance
>he messages back quickly at first and is polite
>have one engaged text conversation total before he goes "hehe you must like me a lot" (not particularly, just bored)
>gets cocky and stops responding
>Suddenly tries to get me to come over 2 weeks later

Why are men so retarded.

No. 249287

Not an app, but soc on 4chan. Besides the degenerates that post low-effort contacts for sex, it houses other image board users and it's normally a given that they're on the introverted/non-normie side. Course there's some obvious creeps and legit weirdos on there, but they're usually pretty easy to spot. The archives also help to weed out the undesirables if you search for post history featuring their contact info, files, etc. The main issue is that you won't be able to get a selfie of the guy right off the bat (esp a genuine one), but me personally I prefer building up to that with at least a week of convo. It builds a little bit of trust and makes for a fun reveal.

No. 249289

Oh, and obviously there's ways to make sure you're not being catfished (like video chatting, reverse image searching, etc). Doxxing is another concern, which is why I'm really really picky and thorough with doing background checks on archives and making sure I don't divulge too much personal info too soon.

No. 249310

Had a similar experience a couple years back, short tech loving guy with pics of him next to a marvel statue. I had just moved to a tiny new town and knew nobody here. He mostly just looked non threatening so I gave him a chance. He went from being amazed that a woman actually messaged him to getting so lazy with responses after one day. I was leading the convo and he talked about himself without flipping the questions back on me. He wasn't interesting enough for it to make sense that he talked about himself so much. He made a couple comments that I think were attempts at seeming confident? They didn't land and I noped out. I've spotted him a few times since then irl. Always shopping with his mother. Never with anyone else. Small town boy who has never left home. Why did I even…

Any time I've gone near a guy that ticks those three cursed boxes (short, tech, marvel) they've been the kind to tell you you're their first date in years.. then they make you pay for your coffee separately to theirs and want date number 2 to be at your house. They certainly don't help themselves get out of their dating rut. I've been dealing with low confidence at the times when I attempted to date down… it's never gone well. Might as well aim higher if the 'grateful nerd' stereotype is a myth and most of them are as rude and cocky as anything now.

No. 249318

Are we shilling 4chan as a means of online dating now? I knew there were plenty of desperates on here dating 4chan moids but I didn't think we'd go full on retard mode recommending it.

Ladies don't go there for any contacts, it's full of misogynistic scrotes. Even if he appears to be a ""good"" one on the surface, he's still exposed to women-hate rhetoric on the daily basis. When that happens it's inevitable it's normalized to him in some capacity. As a woman you're only putting yourself in a bad position by contacting moids off /soc/. Don't be retarded and just go on normie dating apps.

No. 249322

my believe in farmers tanked when i realized most of the girls are are vying for the attention of 4chan posters and think they're totally using them or whatever.

No. 249376

>He went from being amazed that a woman actually messaged him to getting so lazy with responses after one day.

Yep, that's my experience to a T. "give short kings a chance" "hes nice who cares if hes a little overweight/weird" leads to the worst type of entitlement and they are the complete douchebag that they claim only "chad" can be. I wonder if they ever regret their little power plays after being fucking rude for no reason and then I just ghost them.

No. 249403

redownloaded an app I used forever ago last night and instantly deleted it
all the men were hideous, I genuinely got angry looking at their ugly selfies and coomer/soy boy/marvelfag bios, 99% of male population is ugly, I'm still upset and would rather die lonely than go on a date with one of them jfc

No. 249626

I feel like I got so lucky with a cute guy I met on Okcupid a few months ago. He's only a few years younger than me and we have been on a few dates so far, I hope he ask me out.
To be honest I do match with a lot of weebs which goes nowhere. The previous date I did get from Okcupid was more like a normal nerd guy who has seen one anime. The guy I mentioned above is an anime fan but he's more of a shy awkward nerd. I rarely ever found poly stuff on my Okcupid.

No. 249667

I met a dude from there once, he was very serious-minded about Christian history and medieval history in general. Then one day he asks if he wants me to hear him sing Disney songs. Never unfriended someone so fast in my life.

No. 249734

Daily reminder that “chad” is a cope incels made up to represent their ideal selves and lifestyle. An nice attractive man is a nice attractive man. Every man has the propensity to be a monster and you won’t know until you check if he’s a monster so don’t judge a book by its cover in any direction.

No. 249763

I met my bf off this and tbf he is not a 4channer at all, just a bored normie who decided to use the site after hearing about it in media during pandemic when people were stuck online and couldn’t go out. Definitely use friend finder threads but you’ll still bump into coomers and mentally ill moids.
I’m very grateful to have him, he is the opposite of a 4ch moid, kind and considerate, respectful, beautiful (he looks like a crossbreed between Clint Eastwood and Timothy Chalamet), polite, dresses well (by my standards, he dresses vintage and posh which looks good to me), and he comes from old money too so he has all sorts of antiques and interesting historical knowledge, also reads poetry, enjoys literature and loves classical music. Very smart boy as well, knows in-depth knowledge about politics, geography, history, philosophy - can have all sorts of deep discussions with him. He’s always learning and feeding his big brain. I think that’s what I love most about him. And he’s incredibly hardworking and disciplined, hardly uses the internet because he’s always keeping busy. I’m a loser in comparison to him lol but my god I love him so much and this has turned into a rant I’m so sorry lol
Also I didn’t get scammed or anything. I live with him now and met his family. I still feel very much an outsider because I didn’t go to prestigious schools or met important political figures. Hoping that they don’t look down on me and think he’s settled, which they probably DO think lol - there had been some dramatics when we first started dating but they’ve accepted me now because I make him incredibly happy

No. 249766

Nona…. is this fucking real I want this to happen to me too

No. 249767

Yes! It's a one in a million chance, I just so happened to be the only person who added his GIANT bio blurb (it was very verbose and deeply detailed, which indicated he wasn't trolling or looking for nudes) in the soc friend finder thread. He seemed nonthreatening and interesting so I thought I'd give it a go. I was very lonely and looking for online friends so I was on a soc adding spree at the time, adding a bunch of randoms who didn't look like they were creepy, but once I added him, I stopped because I didn't feel lonely anymore! He could actually carry a conversation and we wrote very long paragraphs to each other everyday. We also watched movies and tv shows online (he isn't a gamer). We were long distance for 6 months due to covid.

No. 249776

Why are all the women on bumble either obese or worse, Virgos

No. 249777

Lmaooooo virgos are a trip. Idk man, at least the fatties are not catfishhing you.
I once met with a man for a date and he was using a photo more than 5 years old. I didn't even recognize him on the date- told him
I was saving that seat. That was fucking awkward and 20 minutes later i circled back to the fact it was fucked he used the old photos.
He got angry and rude and I walked away.
He proceeded to yell at me across the parking lot and blew up my phone for 4 hours straight until I blocked him (way back, like 10? Years ago?)

No. 249781

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I met my bf through KF and we’re set to get married soon. Granted, I’ve always kinda had a crush on him and would get excited if he liked my posts etc. I was surprised when he dm’d me on discord. Wouldn’t recommend finding anyone on KF though kek.

No. 249788

Aww! That's so cute nonny! Are you nervous for your wedding?

No. 249793

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What r ur usernames?

No. 249795

well. good luck with that.

No. 249796

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No, not really. I always knew we’d get married the moment when I felt he was a safe person. We’ve been together 4 years this July.
Sorry girl I can’t give that info out. We’re not trying to get the most coveted KF achievement lol.

No. 249812

All of these last few posts make me sick.
How would one even form a crush on a forum user? This larp is too weak.

No. 249813

This is retarded. Imagine meeting a man thru a site filled with fags and women hating virgin incels.

No. 249817

>How would one even form a crush on a forum user?
nta but it has happened to multiple times (not on kf). I never contacted any of them though kek

No. 249819

Ironically this kind of makes sense since most people on KF are using a pseudonym and therefore saying whatever they want, unfiltered, so I guess meeting someone on a gossip forum and knowing their politically incorrect side first (as opposed to a performance in person or a dating app) would be decent for vetting kek. Is he even attractive or at least average looking, out of curiosity?

No. 249821

I didn't meet my ex from there but he did lurk and post on there quite a lot. When our relationship was getting rocky he asked for relationship advice there and after he dumped me he doxxed my username on one of those weird sex thread.

No. 249848

I got reminded once again there's a reason why /g/ is dubbed de/g/enerate…

No. 249957

It's weird and hard to explain but I always felt a connection??
No it's real, all of our friends know about where we met except the parents. We're long distance too but have met multiple times. I'm moving there this spring though.

No. 249967

Back to your hellhole fagg/ot/

No. 250025

>he comes from old money too so he has all sorts of antiques and interesting historical knowledge
God fucking damn it so does my family, god damn you anon

No. 250100

Isn't this thread about struggles with finding dates? why are we even talking about stupid bait/not bait stuff others are putting about their relationships.

No. 250424

Why should it be? The OP says to share anything Online Dating, nothing about struggling with it exclusively.

No. 250428

i also have a bf of higher status than me as well. my bf is a normie type of nerd (not a 4channer) and probably never used image boards. i got lucky because i met him irl through a college course. he wanted to date someone smarter than him but he knows a lot of guys who would purposefully try for the opposite. be careful to all my single nonnies out there, apparently guys seeking out dumber women is common bc it's an ego thing but imo it's really worrying if you think about how many women get stuck in abusive situations and are reliant upon a male partner.

No. 250793

I met my ex through there by his friend who is a soc user. My ex was instead a reddit user which is arguably worse imo. However, I rather not go on soc again to find a relationship, especially a serious one.
I am happy with being single, but nonnies I am SUPER jelly! Like how is it possible?? Of course all the guys I would be into are taken, but I am happy you found guys who made you happy! Good wishes!

I rather be single as I feel that most guys cannot catch up to me in conversation, ambitions, goals, etc., and the few guys I like… I get rejected because I get super nervous or eager so it never works out. It does not help that I am picky, but I rather die alone than settle.

No. 250819

Keep that mentality nonny, never settle for anything less than what matches your ideal or goes above your expectations! But it also helps to put yourself out there, even dating apps. They’re exhaustive and what not but there are diamonds in the rough, it’s just a matter of right time, right place so it feels like fate. That’s what happened to me and I’m so happy I never settled and waited for the right one! I don’t believe that “love finds you” - it can’t find you if you are holed up in your room and never reach out and give it that opportunity to find you, so yeah, definitely do whatever you’re comfortable with to help that person find you, whether that be dating apps, in-person events, or the internet

No. 251019

Ayart and I do put myself out there on a whole bunch of apps. And if I have no interest then I am not afraid of telling guys that as well. I also ask them if they are interested in going out again to gauge interest. I am not afraid to voice my wants because it makes me feel more in control and I worry less about if a guy likes me or not. I am not going to waste my own time and attention on a guy with no interest in me.

I am still hopeful in finding love with a kind, and caring man who takes care of himself and respects me with similar interests and values.

No. 251026

when you connect your spotify to tinder, does it show your all time top artists or most played recently? and does it update as you listen more? i used to listen to some pretty embarrassing stuff so i wanna know

No. 254208

I went on a dating app for the first time since connecting with someone back in December last year, mainly to just check out the people there. The first decent match I get the guy talks about how great having a fwb is. I hate how guys around my age (early mid 20s) are mainly just interested in fwb.

Is having a fuck friend better than having a relationship?

No. 254216

i know a lot of women who inadvertently traumatised themselves trying to do casual hookups or no strings attached sex. i don't think it's realistic.

No. 254218

I wonder if now that I'm in my 30s could I realistically handle hook up culture. The guy would have to meet certain credentials imo I might as well put that energy into finding a stable man.

No. 254285

>Is having a fuck friend better than having a relationship?
why? so the guy can still use you as an emotional dumpster without actually having to give anything back? >>254216 is right, fwb are so stressfull for women, don't bother.

No. 254322

I know now that I'm in my 30s I have no time for that sort of bullshit

No. 254568

I prefer OKC for the ability to be more descriptive with prompts, but the more decent men are on Hinge. Bumble is filled with himbos. I've been wanting to find an app for women, but everything is just oversaturated with men, even Her. Most of the likes I get are from degenerate troons.

No. 254614

I'm in my mid 20s and I also have no time for that either. so many of my friends either are getting married or had partners for 5+ years
yeah definitely can't do that, it's too emotionally draining especially if someone ends up getting feelings or feel like they are supposed to be exclusive with the fwb

No. 254696

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What kind of pics do you like best on dating apps? I want to set up an account but I have no good pics of myself recently. I never really take selfies and I don't have any interesting pics of me doing anything except like graduation pictures from like 2019… I would like to show myself actually doing things in my photos instead of just selfies bc I feel like that would attract people who would be interested in what I was doing rather than just looks if that makes sense
I could unironically have fishing photos like scrotes since I do that kek

No. 255904

ot but he has a big, smelly looking head like my bf as a teenager. yick

No. 256661

Have any bi women or lesbians tried Lex?

No. 256672

It's kind of pointless because there are no pictures. also, the colors are painfully bright.

No. 256678

Yea, ended up finding the same women like on all the other apps lol

No. 256684

Men literally swipe right on everything. It's okay if your photos aren't professional grade or even human.

No. 256704

I tried the FWB because I too thought maybe I should try it as most men don’t seem to want anything serious and let me tell you, unless I’m just extremely unlucky, it’s a scam of giving men what they want with very little in return and they will treat you like shit for it and feel 0 guilt as their excuse is they didn’t lead you on. After the deed is done they will distance themselves and be less friendly, and because of conveyor belt of women on dating apps men are spoiled for choice you become a pump and dump and there is no reason to really do it again with you on to the next. It wouldn’t be so bad if they were just honest and used the term “one night stand”, friends with benefits is so misleading as they usually cut the friendship off as soon as things get intimate.

I’m a little bitter because I feel regardless of what path you choose - looking for friendship, relationships, fwb, the end result is going to be the same dealing with cumbrain moids.

No. 256987

That's it I'm putting it in my dating profile that anyone even considering growing a mullet or moustache should not go out with me. Hands down ugliest male trend. I'm so mad that it's getting even more popular. Otherwise attractive men are turning themselves into ugly sewer rats with their disgusting mullets and pedo staches.

No. 257148

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I'm going to stealth some subliminal cows into my dating profile somehow. If i ever meet any of you nonnies in the wild use the word 'anonitas' and then we'll both know we're farmers

No. 257213

Fuck, I'd love to accidentally start talking to another farmer. Not sure how many bongs there are here though or what our preferred apps are.

No. 257230

men match with me and on the rare chance they do message me, it is with a simple “hello/hi/good morning” etc. i message basically the same thing back but with a little more personality, yet still matching their energy. i am trying to be as pleasant as possible yet they don’t even message me back after that, what am i doing wrong? are men on tinder just not real?
i’m looking for someone to date seriously and start a relationship with but i can’t even get anyone to message me further than the first message. :/

No. 257257

Aw anon, you're not doing anything wrong. Tinder is just shit and shit begets shit men, unfortunately. Other than that, what I think what's happening here is that they swiped right on a bunch of other women and decided they were more "interesting, which really just means that they were sexual from the get go (easier to get laid). Tinder is not a great app to look for serious relationships, sadly. Hinge sucks ass but it's slightly better than Tinder.

No. 257375

thank you for affirming my belief that nothing is wrong with me :)
i do admit that my profile probably makes me look a little intellectually intimidating to men just looking for girls dtf. which i guess i am fine missing out on them since i don’t even engage in casual sex. i’ll try hinge in my area and hope i have some better luck!(:))

No. 258093

Maybe some of us might have a better chance at dating apps that are more niche? I tried bumble and tinder but I had no luck developing feelings for any one I had dates with. I installed one of those MBTI dating and friend apps about 8 months ago and I was just thinking I would use it to shit post and troll people, but I ended up meeting my bf of 7 months there.

Only issue with niche dating apps is that if you live in a smaller town your chances of finding someone who lives in the same city as you or nearby quite low.

No. 258472

Yes, and it's mostly a "queer" app, so you’ll mostly just find genderhairs, and the fact it doesn't require photos makes me wary (although most of the profiles I looked at do have a selfie). I live in a conservative area and the posts at the nearby city has kinky polycule nonbinaries posting ads. Ironically, I think I found one of my former classmates on there, and she was posting ads basically begging for "a monogamous cis lesbian", and it made me feel bad for her because this sure as hell isn't the place to find one. And she wasn't all that cute, so I didn't bother messaging.

No. 258932

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>sign up to lex
>it's all picrel

I hate Hinge and Bumble though so where do I go from here?

No. 258935

God she's so boring, I'd rather go on a date with a dude who has fishing pictures than this kind of person.

No. 258944

I found someone on there who called herself "radfem" and "traditional", but she was a pro-troon transhumanist xenofeminist who expects butches to act like men and I was so fucking disappointed. Like that's actual catfishing, I really felt duped.

No. 259017


literally cannot use Lex for this reason. everyone is either a male or a 37 year old woman calling herself a “genderqueer kiddo”

No. 259044


oh god

No. 259231

All the typical advice is bullshit imo. All I want to see are solo shots with different angles and lighting. "Hobby" pics are stupid, and so are group pics. Mirror selfies are fine. I swipe left on any profile that looks too "slick".
I also swipe left at any hint of negativity. It's a turnoff whether or not it's applicable.

No. 259279

made an account for the exclusive purposes of troonspotting and shitposting and already i have seen at least three straight men. what a joke

No. 260086

lex has a cool concept but it is tenderqueer/tumblr bait

No. 260438

Well nonnies, I managed to meet a non weird man on one of the most degenerate dating apps out there. Feeld is the dating app for kinky people and I made an account in moderate desperation browsing for softer (more submissive) men who looked masculine. A diamond in the rough sure, but sometimes I browse out of curiosity. Last time I checked it out it was full of fedora-wearing or spiritual or generally degenerate men but the profiles were good for a laugh.

Though I ended up chatting to this relatively normie guy who was told about this app through a friend and we went on a pretty good date tonight. He's very offline, a little older. I spoke fairly openly about sex given the context of how we met and he seems just… normal? Which I really like, it exceeded my expectations of the particular type I was looking for.
Surely there's something wrong with him, but given I'm not looking for anything too serious at the moment he seems like a nice person to chill out with, fuck relentlessly, listen to music and chat over wine. It's early to say obviously, but it's overall nice to feel respected and treated well on a first date, on top of them being interesting and hearing you out, let alone from an app like Feeld.

No. 260454

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Also I've compiled just some random profiles from the app to show you all what a true range of men (I have it set to women too but they're all the same type of alt poly coloured hair overweight women you'd expect) but here, enjoy

No. 260501

Have a question: Should you ask people if they have any fetishes off the bat? Seems like a really forward question, but I'd rather know if someone is into disgusting shit before I sink time into them. Would they keep the weird stuff a secret for a while first or enthusiastically share it because they finally get to talk about it? I don't care if it's pretty tame I just don't want to discover my partner has a burping feeding baby dragon diaper fetish months into seeing them kek

No. 260505

I'm certain I have met my soulmate off OKC, which is way too fucking weird how it all came to be. I didn't even believe in the concept of soulmates until he found me and I really didn't think I would find him online.
The key is really to put majority of your long term interests down, even a little of the controversial ones you have. Do not try to market yourself for outgoings or overly friendly, it's boring and you're basically just putting on a facade. They're gonna like you for your genuine self.
The sensation you feel of slowly realizing you have found The One is so unreal. I hope other anons can experience this, it's really special.

No. 260512

it's not weird to have a "what are you into" conversation and you can use that to segue into fetishes specifically. i'd personally just go ahead and get the hard nos out of the way instead of trying to pull it out of them, though.

No. 260815

Online dating has never worked out for me. I seem to only attract ugly gamer guys and now that I hide my geeky side on OLD I don’t really get matches but I also live in a small town which doesn’t help either. I’m giving up on OLD. Some people find their soulmates unfortunately I’m not one of them :/

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Disgusting. The first thing my profile says is no single fathers.

No. 260905

He's almost bragging about trying to get laid instead of taking care of his kids.

No. 260908

Never trust single fathers, not even the ones who just have one kid and have full custody. They're still scrotes, they're not caring, they are probably neglecting the kid and dumping it at his mother's house.

No. 261069

I tend to ask after the first few dates like when you're having a conversation about sex and turn ons/turn offs

No. 261071

Yeah I don't believe it for a second that he doesn't have no baby mama drama. like why would he be looking for another women when he already had 4 kids with 4 different women

No. 261180

His profile also said he got kicked out of Knott’s Scary Farm.
Wish I had asked him why but I was so disgusted about the 4 baby mommas I blocked him immediately.

Bet he thought he was a cool tough guy and assaulted a performer.

No. 261300

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Maybe we need a dating apps cringe thread

No. 261318

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No. 261320

i really want to see what this guy looks like tbh

No. 261338

Unfortunately it's a screenshot I took a while ago and only just found again but I have to assume he looked like some unremarkable form of soy wojak

No. 261423

All this proves is that men are racist and generally ugly

No. 261581

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Seggsy time

No. 261582

Imagine creating and ruining 4 different households. Men get off so easy.

No. 261589

>denied a thirsty ho which makes me totally superior
>but also i would totally BE a thirsty ho bcuz it's so much easier for them to get rich

No. 261590

This is the dating app cringe thread.
>The good, the bad, the ugly.
99% of scrotes on OLD are bottom of the barrel, so most things here are "ugly."

No. 261591

This just screams one of those men who has a weird obsession with the scenario of them rejecting women, what a red flag

No. 261606

maybe i'm retarded but i can't figure out what the numbers are supposed to mean. what does the % stand for? also kek at the 'insufficient data' for asian women rating asian men.

No. 262527

How often should you update your pictures? What if you don't have any interesting new pictures, because you haven't done much interesting stuff recently?

No. 262533

you're supposed to update them? god damn i'm retarded when it comes to this stuff

No. 262534

well I assume you can't use too old pictures from years ago, because we all change and age. I guess you should also update them after massive weight loss or weight gain. But I don't know what the "rules" are of this exactly.

No. 262539

How do you know you're ready to date? I really want a relationship and even kids some day but after my last failed relationship with a gaslighter, I just never seem to be ready to date again. I always download Tinder and OkCupid just to not feel attracted to anyone and delete the app after a week. I feel fucking hopeless. I'm 27 btw.

No. 263146

Maybe once every few months to a year, it depends on how much of an impression you're trying to make.

A guy who I met on Okcupid, as well as matched with me on tinder too, uses photos from back when he was a university student with all his friends, he's currently 27. In his dating app profile he looked like a tipsy mess and was clean shaven. I went on a date with him last year and he looks quite different than his profile. He has a beard, mustache and he gained a bit of weight but he looks kinda better than his profile.

No. 263955

Misogynists are everywhere men are. Do you really think tindr and bars are misogynist-free lol?

NTA but this is correct nonnie! Unfiltered talking let's you really know who someone is.
I get frustrated with empty profiles and the performance acts people do in person.
It's better to get as much information as soon as possible.
Especially because you can talk for someone for months or years without them ever opening up too.

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How retarded and delusional should i get before i go and try bumble premium just for travel mode to find my overseas crush. Also kinda wanna try ldr lol

No. 264403

Nonny, don't pay for premium.. You can download apps that let you spoof your location for free

No. 264412

Even if you are ready to date I think it’s normal to immediately stop feeling that way when you see the scum on OLD. Just meet people normally through interest groups, events, hobbies. The biggest thing I can say regarding the issue with trust is to do the inner work with yourself to acknowledge the red flags you missed in your last relationship so you have the confidence and awareness to drop someone new who starts displaying them. Can’t get stuck in a bad situation again if you don’t let it progress to that point. It might sound a little autistic but I find it helpful to take small notes on people/journal sometimes. After a date note the things you did, how you felt. Anything they did that made you feel “off,” weird or contradicted what they said earlier? Move on, you have the evidence staring you in the face. Healthy people will not set off those alarm bells. Sometimes you might still feel nervous due to your history but you will be able to see there was no conflict between their words and actions if they’re a decent person.

No. 264484

Should i just use a VPN for this?

No. 264960

ldrs suck balls anon, don't even bother. they don't last 99 percent of the time.

No. 264996

Being early 30s what age should I range for?
I just wanna grab a drink, flirt and maybe kiss. Is 27 too young?

No. 265019

I think 27 is fine. Anyone over 25 is okay for up to early 30s.

No. 265286

I am also early 30s, my range was 27 to 36. The few men that I had dates with that were 27 or 28 ended up being too immature and felt like we had nothing in common for my taste though. I don't know if it's because there's such a big difference mentally with people that were born after and before 1994.

No. 265453

>match with guy
>asks me if I can make pancakes
>thinking it's some setup, make my answer related to one of his images
>says I should start practicing making a perfect pancake
>repeats it
>posts a bunch of crylaughing emojis
>ignore him
>get notification he sent something a few hours later but he unmatched me by the time I noticed
…what the hell? Is this the new hot misogynistic meme I'm not getting?

No. 265465

moids are extremely stupid and will say nonsensical and retarded things for no reason, then drop it/pretend they didn't say it to avoid embarrassment, even if it means blocking you. A moid saw my blood pressure once and claimed it was high when it was actually very low (99/60), I corrected him and told him it was low and he blocked me kek

No. 265809

guys do you filter your pictures? I'm a self admitted ugly woman, with a wide face, big pores, big nose, bad skin with discoloration and I'm fat. I don't want to even POSE because I want men to know what they are getting into. Like if they are attracted to me, then I want them to know how I look in real life.
What sites are best for women like me? I've asked for a site for Ugly women to find dates but so far all I've gotten was Reddit and… I want to meet people in my area. I hate taking pictures, I'm very shy and weird.
Thank you Nonnies if anyone responds.

No. 265812

Kek. I'm the one of those who replied and I thought you were joking. Ok so, don't use filters buut do a light makeup look and always take pictures using flattering lightening. Maybe do your hair and get a cute outfit, take some pictures outside with a friend or something.
Most people won't notice your skin issues so don't worry about that, just present yourself the way youll look on the date.

No. 265821

and this is weird, but How can I get on a dating site that will make it hard for just anyone to go on my profile? I have a fear of my family finding out i'm on a dating site. I don't want to post pictures but at the same time, I know I won't get any attention unless I do. Whats the best sites to limit in a way WHO can view my profile/pictures?

No. 265873

How do I make it explicitly clear that I do not want messages from couples looking for third wheels if I set up my profile seeking women? I haven't seen what the scene is yet in my area but I already know the horror stories and I'm honestly dreading seeing them pop up… Should I just insult their bf/husband if they are on their profile kek

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I thought Lex was a dating app

No. 266304

Decided to go on a date with a guy from h*nge after talking to him for about two weeks. I noticed that he deleted the app 3 days prior to us meeting which was a bit suspicious. But he looked really cute on his photos and generally had good vibes from his texts. He came to visit me from another city and we planned to have drinks somewhere. We decided to meet up in the evening at the train station.The guy eventually arrived 30 minutes too late while I was waiting outside. He arrives finally and while I recognised him, he looked absolutely nothing like his pictures. He had horrible acne, was a lot skinnier and looked much older. I was genuinely grossed out by the way he looked and was too stunned to speak for a moment. I also noticed an obnoxiously large hickey on his neck which distracted me most of the date as well. During the walk to the restaurant I was a bit overwhelmed figuring out that I just got catfished but I decided to pull through since I felt too awkward to leave.

He eventually talked mostly about a lot of niche and autistic topics surrounding politics and globalisation. I decided to not drink any alcohol since I felt very uncomfortable in his presence but he was very adamant about me having a drink and I eventually gave in just to get him to fuck off. After 3 hours of aspergian torture I decided to cut him off and just tell him that it was time to go. During our walk back to the station he decided to ask me how he thought our date went. I was too uncomfortable to admit that it was the most painful experience I had in my life so far, especially since he was about 6’4 and we were walking alone at night with no one around. I decide to tell him that I thought it went ‘fairly well’. He then proceeded to get noticeably upset and asked me to tell him what I meant by ‘fairly’. I was a bit taken aback as he kept on sperging about how ‘fairly’ just meant that I was trying to sugarcoat how bad I thought it went. I argued with him for a little while but figured it wouldn’t be worth it and we had arrived at the station anyways. I told him goodbye and during my busride blocked him immediately.

No. 266779

I downloaded Hinge recently just for fun. I didn’t know they had that feature that recommends ‘compatible’ people with you, but I got my first recommendation today. I thought he was fine and we had some similar interests (rare for me to find on a dating app) so I matched him answering one of his prompts and he messaged me shortly after. I saw half and hour later he also liked my friend’s Hinge profile and left her a pretty lengthy comment (like a paragraph basically). Is this a red flag or am I overly paranoid? I just wonder if he is this involved with every girl’s profile and if that means he’s really desperate (and thus creepy). also said he really liked My Bloody Valentine so

No. 266789

That sounds a bit silly to me anon. Of course if he’s on a dating app he is going to be matching with and messaging other women, that’s the whole point. It would be a red flag if he sent your friend some gross low effort pickup line or bombarded her with messages, but writing a paragraph (that is presumably related to her interests) doesn’t sound desperate to me.

No. 266820

kek anon it's a dating app, you're not married. On a dating app you can't put all your eggs into one basket before you've even met once.

No. 266825

Everytime I see these threads I feel quite satisfied because I met my boyfriend on t*nder and it was literally love at first sight. We both had super basic profiles and decided to just meet up the day after chatting. It was an actual dream date and I feel like I have found my soulmate. He feels the same way and it is just absolute bliss.

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No. 266869

Also, him matching with your friend doesn’t mean he matches with every girl. It’s really probable that if you are his type, other women in your social circle would be too.

No. 266872

I'm very disconnected from the lesbian community, but my biggest fear is accidentally matching with multiple who know each other and getting a reputation as a fuckboy/girl? even though I've done jackshit for +4 years.

No. 266874

probably because of "t*nder", there is literally no point in censoring words on lolcow anyway.

No. 266878

Censoring haram words that way like, may Allah forgive me for saying this, twtter, predates twtterfags doing it

No. 266879

and it's still unfunny and pointless to do on lolcow

No. 266884

No. 266977

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I tried tinder for the first time that app is so messy. Why are they so upfront about their bdsm kinks

No. 266979

Hope this is the right place to ask, but who would you anons personally be open to dating out of the following? Personally I'd be open to any of them under the right circumstances except MTFs and conservatives, but that's probably because I'm lonely and my standards are low.


>Conservative/republican/right wing
>Woke (not extreme)
>Bi moid
>"nonbinary" woman

No. 266983

Totally fine with vegans as long as they don't try to convert me (I'd like to go vegetarian but no further).

Not sure what woke entails so I'm a little suspicious of that one. If you mean they're politically left-leaning but not a psycho about it, that's not a deal-breaker.

Would heavily consider dating an FTM or bi male if I really thought we could be happy together.

The rest are unappealing.

No. 266992

If I had to chose then conservative. Everything else is a cow.

No. 266993

Hard no

>Conservative/republican/right wing

Depends on how hard they lean into politics, I have some family that lean republican that are alright, but I'm not listening to Fox news or political podcast all day

>Woke (not extreme)

Again it depends on how much they lean into it, I'm not listening to how every little thing is 'problematic'


Possibly if they weren't crazy or tried to convert me, I also own animals that eat other animals so idk if that could work

>Bi moid

No moids


I don't want to deal with gender bullshit…

>"nonbinary" woman

I could possibly see this one working, if they were chill about it and not overly sensitive about gendie issues. I've know some nb people who are cool with being called whatever, they just see themselves as neutral I guess

No. 266999

The vegan. Everything else I'd have to be about to be homeless levels of desperation to date.

No. 267001

Woke (since it's not extreme) and I can handle vegan since I'm vegetarian. I've experienced attraction towards nonbinary women before, but I don't think I could actually ever be in a relationship with one.

No. 267017

If they're not too annoying, sure
>Conservative/republican/right wing
Nope, I matched with one before, she immediately started being misogynistic about the other women on the app. I can handle weird pronouns, I can handle some trans stuff, but I can't handle old school misogyny and calling other women harlots and making violent sexual jokes about women. Another one wanted to become a cop and I can't stand for that. That's also just a hotbed of misogyny and making fun of rape victims.
I'm vegan, so would actually be a plus in my eyes.
Yeah that's fine
I don't like dick
>Bi moid
I don't like dick
>"nonbinary" woman
Yeah fine

No. 267084

Vegan and bi

No. 267291

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Not the worst bio but imagine wanting to date a guy who has a lot of female friends he got to know on tinder. And somehow the way he says he likes loyal curvy cute women and under that he talks about dogs is dehumanising to me.
Every single Slovakian guy I've met or interacted with has been full of neuroticism and red flags, what the hell happens during their upbringing, is it that traumatic? Kek

No. 267293

This profile is such a good example of ok-at-first-glance but then you see all of these subtle red flags

No. 267294

Hard no. I don't wanna get syphilis no thank you. And the drama.
>Conservative/republican/right wing
No. They're insufferable and I wanna work and not be a housemaid who has many children.
>Woke (not extreme)
Yes if not extreme. I could peak them anyway.
Yes. No problem.
Harn no. Fetishists.
>Bi moid
I used to date one, I guess it would depend on how gay he'd act or how out he'd been. If he would only have faint attraction and wasn't likely to cheat, okay. If he dated men before, no because he'd probably cheat. Gays are easy.
>"nonbinary" woman
Probably. Again I think I could peak her.

No. 267297

He is comparing women to dogs, no wonder is ex tried to kill him kek

No. 267303

I'd have to be about to be homeless levels of desperate to date any of these but the vegan. Vegans can be OK.

No. 267311

the london business school being the biggest one

No. 267479

I wrote this days ago but don’t seem to have posted it, weird.
>Woke (not extreme)
Realistically only this one, it’s also a dealbreaker. For the rest of them (00:55—00:58 vidrel).

No. 268994

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I've been playing "spot the personality disorder".

I find that in my experience "sarcasm" really means "disrespect".

No. 268997

Ewww this is so gross. statements starting with “you have to” are red flag central

No. 269016

Nta but what’s wrong with London Buissiness school?

No. 269018

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Found another one.

No. 269021

this one is a reference to the office though, he is not psycho just really normie kek

No. 269029

So normie to quote the office is also a red flag imo. Either they don't have a personality or they're pretending not to have one.

No. 269038

Take your meds

No. 269039

being a business major that's what's wrong

No. 269232

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>watch netflix with me and touch my butt and buy my pizza

No. 269233

God it's so obvious most people on this website are over 30

No. 269234

Most people are minors actually

No. 269235

Sadly no, there are way too many obnxious underage twitter users around too.

No. 269238

It's either 30+ or 15, no in between

No. 269240

That's because it's summer and minors from tiktok or twitter came here.

No. 269340

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I checked the HER app and all my new likes are from AGP's. I literally have the terf signal "vagitarian". Fuck off please.

No. 269645

Gonna meet someone off an app tomorrow. Not looking forward to it, but my life is so stagnant so I thought I'd try to meet new people as a way to shake it up. The last date I went on was last summer, so I guess it's been long enough that I can try again. If he ends up being a spergy loser I'll at least have a nice story to tell you nonas.

No. 269647

good luck anon, be safe and make sure you share your location with one of your friends just in case

No. 269649

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What does this mean

No. 269653

He says he'll treat you like he's absolutely desperate and as if you're the first woman ever to show him any kind of attention, but he totally has options brvh

No. 269684

Somehow my brain completely skipped the tiny "dating me is like" part and I thought I'm having an aneurysm trying to decipher the meaning

No. 269768

This happens every time
>match with interesting woman
>oh she has some really cool hobbies
>ask her what she does/what she wants to do
>"Oh I'm training to be in the police/army/navy"
No, I can't do it. I get they get into it with good intentions, but I know what the environment is like, it's literally serving and protecting patriarchy. The ones who get into it with good intentions either have to join in with the misogyny or don't last. I also don't want to get literally policed in a relationship.

No. 269892

Update: it actually went pretty well! We had a lot to talk about and I think it was honestly the best date I've ever been on. Not that we did anything spectacular but I really felt like we had a lot of similar opinions on things and similar interests which is really rare for me to find. He messaged me after the date and gave me his number and I haven't had time to reply yet. I'm not really sure where to go from here since this is the first time I've actually liked someone I've been on a date with. I guess I don't want to be super forward with him since it was only the first date but I also don't want him to think I'm not interested in him. I hate thinking about this kind of stuff because I'm such a turbovirgin about everything and it's kind of embarrassing at my age…

No. 269902

What the fuck? Polica are literally protecting vulnerable groups. I wouldn't feel safe going out if police officers weren't around.

No. 269910

>police protecting vulnerable groups
They could do fuckall for me when I was abused by my father. They also take a gender neutral approach and go "both sides" in DV disputes. They also accuse gay couples of provocation for walking hand-in-hand when they get bashed. They also have chat groups where they swap CP and bestiality porn. Any of their colleagues who complain about it, end up getting fired. There was a documentary recently about how everyone makes dark rape jokes about victims and the female cops are pressured to go along with it and happily do so. They're the ultimate NLOGs. Women are discouraged from reporting rapes, victim blamed, if a woman defends herself she's the one who is going to get arrested not the man, some women get raped and murdered by cops. It's a very tribalistic environment not unlike the military and I've noticed that female cops tend to cover up for their male counterparts and I don't want to fucking deal with that shit. I wouldn't want a cop in my life constantly watching me, it's about as retarded as dating a glowie and with my job I could actually be in opposition to the police at times, so that would cause conflict in the relationship for sure due to aforementioned tribalistic shit. No not because I want to represent violent men, but because I don't agree with evicting old ladies, bullying rape victims and generally supporting the patriarchal state apparatus. They enforce the shitty laws I critique and hate. I don't feel safe around them at all.

No. 269922

Aren't the male ones also showing way higher rates of DV than other occupational groups?

No. 269928

Yup. I just can't date someone someone who has comradery with such scrotes. I can't unsee that documentary. Women or anyone really who tries to improve shit or is critical gets fired. So if they fit in, it's a bad sign. Peak NLOGism/handmaidenry.

No. 270360

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Polyfags are always so hostile. And ugly.

No. 270686

Just found out today that my friend who's from the UK is in an ldr with someone from the US. He's planning on flying over to see her in a few months, have no clue how long they known each other. All I can do is wish him luck.

The last friend I knew who had a ldr relationship never even got to see the person after 5 years of dating. And he was pretty broke, just like my other friend.

No. 270705

Fuck no
>Conservative/republican/right wing
>Woke (not extreme)
>Bi moid
>"nonbinary" woman
No, I'm not calling anyone a "they"
I would feel retarded talking to people about "them"
40% of them

No. 270708

>Conservative/republican/right wing
>Woke (not extreme)
if he's gc and not annoying maybe otherwise no
ugh preferably not but if i reaaaally liked him sure
no, i'm straight
ew no
>Bi moid
depends how bi. like if he's effeminate or has ever taken it up the ass no
>"nonbinary" woman
no, i'm straight

No. 270713

hard no
>Conservative/republican/right wing
hard no
>Woke (not extreme)
depends on what you mean by "extreme" and also what cause they're particularly woke about
if not too preachy I could go for one
only if not on T, still has breasts (excluding mastectomies for actual medical reasons) and not too deep into gender shit
hard no
>Bi moid
in theory ok, if not actually sexy, in real life usually tranny chasers and/or anal freaks and/or otherwise gigacoomers so I'd lean towards no, but only a soft no
>"nonbinary" woman
same as FTM, they're basically the same except nonbonereees are less likely to actually go through the mutilation, also obviously much less likely to be the "male brained tru transsexual type" and can probably more easily be peaked with solid arguments that debunk TRA logic

No. 270714

fuck no and this easily the worst option. if i'm not the one special person to someone and vice-versa, what's the point. they're also literally never not obnoxious no matter how much they might insist otherwise.
>conservative/right wing
the furthest i'd go in that direction is someone with some edgy/anti-woke views. full on conservative, no.
this is very vague and could mean a lot of things. pronouns in the bio sex posi trans friendly Male Feminist? fuck no. a guy who just maybe sort of cringily talks about punching billionaires and whatnot? sure.
sure, easily the best option here
no. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
no. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
>bi moid
probably not. recently talked to one on tinder and could only see him as a gay man. they also tend to be extra annoying about muh erasure and evul straight women who don't want to fuck them + want open relationships to ~explore~
>"nonbinary" woman
no, i'm straight + tend to get annoyed by these types even platonically

No. 270744

I'm bi and
absolutely not
>Conservative/republican/right wing
fox news conservative no but generally it depends
>Woke (not extreme)
also depends
sure, if they were okay with me having eggs/dairy around them
>Bi moid
I have dated a bi moid, but it wasn't something we really discussed a lot, I wouldn't date a man who constantly told me about his gay fantasies though
>"nonbinary" woman

No. 270753

Maybe but leaning towards no
>Conservative/republican/right wing
Depends how right wing
Whoever says no, why?
Im a lesbian
If they pass and have all the surgeries, then maybe
>Bi moid
Again, lesbian
>"nonbinary" woman
Sure, I accidentally had a crush on one so

No. 270754

Depends how “woke”

No. 270761

mtfs who date women are straight men with sissy/lesbian/transformation fetishes

No. 270799

>If they pass and have all the surgeries, then maybe
You don't know what neovaginas are like, do you?

No. 270803

i can't tell if i'm such a sperglord that i ruin every conversation or if it's just fucking impossible to get people on these apps to actually talk/give anything more than a few words reply that drives the conversation into a dead end

No. 270808

>Why say no to Vegan
Maybe I'm unlucky but every vegan I've met has food issues and a superiority/purity complex. And having a drastically different diet from a partner means one of us has to drastically compromise most of the time or we eat seperate meals.

No. 270815

>Whoever says no, why?
If it's for health/weight loss then fine. But anyone mentioning it in their dating profile is doing it because it's a big part of their identity. Which usually means they are doing it for idealogical reasons, which I don't agree with. I don't need to hear about how pigs are smarter than dogs and cows feel pain. Idgaf cheese and chicken tastes good and I'll keep eating it as long as I live, farm animals be damned.

No. 270863

I started speaking to a man from app who seems very promising, but I am absolutely terrified that he’ll troon out. It’s on my mind nonstop whenever I look at apps. How many of these men have “egg memes” saved, or might suddenly decide he likes to make dresses go so spinny? I once dated a moid who skinwalked me after we broke up, so I’m incredibly wary and concerned that any man who writes to me is only writing to be because he wants to live vicariously through me at best and wear my skin and pretend to be me at worst. Any other nonnies share this fear? How does it affect who you speak to?

No. 270906

That's pretty neurotic. Just don't date fags. And maybe see a therapist.

No. 270938

Am I the only one who thinks bi moid is easily the best option here? I lean more towards women myself but all the other options are either likely difficult or people you can't be fully honest with

No. 270952

Ex wanted to be and I am not accepting that shit.
>Conservative/republican/right wing
I cannot handle dealing with the amount of misogyny they will spout and even think of. Absolutely no.
>Woke (not extreme)
If they are not extreme that is fine, as long as they respect my views.
I am massive carnivore so it will not work out…
No, I want a man who is born male.
Never. I am sorry for my bi and lesbian nonnies who have to put up with this shit.
>Bi moid
Ex wanted to be a selfish bi and have it both ways with men and women, I am not putting up with this anymore in men.
>"nonbinary" women
No because I like men. As for nonbinary men, I feel as if they more insufferable (and less attractive) than enby women.

Nonny, I dated a bi moid. Literally asked me if he can have sex with men to fulfill his desire and make him feel sexually complete and that because I was saving myself sexually for the right time. It was never enough to be with me, I knew it, and foolishly accepted it at the time. I will respect their sexuality, but I am not taking that risk again as I am afraid the next bi man I date wants to be a selfish bi and will make me feel inferior for being a woman who cannot fully fulfill their desire for a man.
All the options are difficult, but I think it is good to put to perspective what you and others find more difficult or dealable.

No. 271047

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I keep Lex on my phone for posts like this

No. 271048

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Another from someone else

No. 271051

my long-term Nigel is bi, only mentioned it as it came up in conversation a while after I met him. as long as a man doesnt make it a part of his lifestyle or personality I dont give a shit - chances are the fact someone is saying it at all to women on dating apps is a red flag. Highly doubt it would be out of "oh I just dont want you to dislike me for it" bullshit that they usually pull. I would vote for avoid the bi moids but not because they are bi, the fact hes telling you means hell probably want to shag other men eventually. If he doesnt make a deal out of it and just tells you later on because its just another thing to know about him, I wouldnt see any issue with that. Some men are monogamous by nature, none of them are going to advertise that they like other partners if they arent thinking along those lines

No. 271062

Fuck no, petri dish
>Conservative/republican/right wing
No to conservative and right wing, can't talk on the republican thing since I'm not American and managed to avoid learning the meaning of that word ever since the first elections I witnessed back in 2012 and I refuse to break that streak.
>Woke (not extreme)
Depends on what kind of woke.
Sure. I'm unintentionally eating mostly vegan anyways, I wouldn't mind a last push or anything like that to actually pull through with it.
Not applicable, but no out of principle.
>Bi moid
I guess as long as he doesn't want me to stick anything up his ass
>"nonbinary" woman
Not applicable

No. 271067

My bf is bi but tbh bi men are all just degenerate coomers, bf included. It's best to avoid them.
He is also "polyamorous" of course.

No. 271071

why are you still with him then

No. 271077

my bf says he's "bicurious" but he's really just into trannies. i know, red flag, but i doubt he would actually fuck one. i think it's just a fantasy

No. 271081

I'm unattractive and autistic and finally found someone I'm attracted to, get along with, who reciprocates my feelings. Not gonna let one flaw ruin it. Most moids are degenerate coomers anyway.

No. 271116

Dating apps make me want to move because most of the men are ugly were I live. There's a very real fatigue of swiping left on an endless carousel of shit

No. 271129

I know a man like this who loves MTFs but swears he's straight. I'm bi myself so watching that kind of denial is funny and a little sad.

No. 271150

I've been dabbling back in dating apps again and I hate it. I don't even want a relationship, I'm moreso looking for a friends with benefits situation. But every scrote just seems to fuck off once they've gotten what they want from me. It feels like I can't have any sexual agency, men will always hold power here. I chat to each one on the first date and clearly describe I'm just after an ongoing casual thing, someone who wants to have fun but isn't looking for anything serious. Also that I don't like one night stands. I know it's stupid of me to expect that they'd see me after sleeping with me, but I also don't understand what goes through a moids head when an attractive, sexually veracious woman is essentially presenting them with the opportunity of consistent, no strings attached sex. Why would you turn that down? Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?
I've been ghosted twice now, after two seemingly ok dates. I slept with them both because I'm fucking horny and just want to have fun with someone, but then feel gross days after when they just completely go silent on me. I realise this is partially my fault, but it's not even that I'm all invested in them? It's the fact that I want consistency without emotional commitment because a relationship doesn't interest me right now. I just want sex, and my vibrator just doesn't compare to the touch of a human. One night stands are terrible given you don't know each other's bodies yet, wouldn't these stupid scrotes want to sleep with a woman more than once? Boggles my mind that even just finding a regular lay is so hard in this day and age.

Years ago this never happened to me, I could meet someone and engage in a casual, ongoing relationship so easily. Things would peter out eventually, but we'd at least see each other every so often, connect sexually, have a bit of fun and stopped hanging out for other reasons. I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.

No. 271161

>"why do men fuck off once they got what they wanted from me"
>i want a casual nsa thing but i don't do ons
you cannot possibly be this retarded

No. 271172

NTA but I know of more people who did "friends with benefits" thing than "one night stand" types so it's not THAT retarded to expect; maybe not on dating apps though, idk.
Also it's bound to get messy eventually at some point

No. 271222

No. 271230

>>264996 how brainwashed are you to be afraid of younger, more attractive men? That’s a grown ass male that probably has a stable job and mortgage payments by now. You don’t need to be a miserable slave to a geriatric viagra addict, you know? It’s not like you’re going to beat and abuse a man that’s in his physical peak, you couldn’t even if you tried. The “dating younger is creepy” rule is for scrotes that have built-in rape organs, not you. Grow up

No. 271334

I refuse to date a man older than 30. They just look like shit by then

No. 271335

Anyone else swearing off dating apps? After a few bad experiences + a relationship from a dating app, I can't bring myself to use them anymore. I lose the will to live swiping through all the pathetic males.

It's meeting normally irl from now on, idc if that means I'll be single for a long time or forever.

No. 271364

I haven't used them for about 3 years since having some awful experiences. My friends still use them and some have long term bfs from them but I'd rather be single forever than have to return to them

No. 271368

>Conservative/republican/right wing
>Woke (not extreme)
Depends, I've fixed handmaidens before.
Yes, most lesbians in my city are vegan or vegetarian anyway.
Soft no. Some just wanna do pronouns and don't dabble in the rest, but they're rare.
I'm a lesbian so no, never.
>Bi moid
See above.
>"nonbinary" woman
Maybe, if it looks like I can fix her. She'd have to be really beautiful or interesting for me to bother though.

>"Oh I'm training to be in the police/army/navy"
Hard no. Fuck cops and soldiers.

No. 271372

Straight woman, so this applies to moids



>Conservative/republican/right wing

Maybe, as long as not extreme or hateful of people

>Woke (not extreme)



Absolutely not, somehow all my exes have been vegan/vegetarian and they all tried to convert me. I just want to eat my meals in peace without someone giving me a dirty look, trying to make me feel guilty, or asking me to watch Dominion with them. They always struggle to find food and try to make me eat their shitty tofu chicken when we go out instead of the real thing. Then they dump me when I don't convert even though they say they're fine with it. Yes I'm mad. In males veganism is pathetic too.





>Bi moid


>"nonbinary" woman


No. 271390

>Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?
I'm convinced men are mentally crippled and the thrill of fucking a new chick overshadows any logical thinking they might entertain. Which they won't anyway, they're men and having a high bodycount is a huge flex for them. I'm sorry you had bad experiences.

Nice retarded opinion you have there. Seriously though, what's retarded about not wanting a serious long term relationship but still craving intimacy and sex? One would prefer a trusted partner for that sort of deal, not some rando, right?

No. 271422

>what's retarded about expecting to find a consistent intimate relationship without it being serious or involving any emotional entanglement
underage pls go. it's retards like you that end up writing thinkpieces about how casual dating/hookup culture made them feel used and treated like shit by men. something no one could see coming.

No. 271423

>conservative/right wing
>not hateful of people
pick one and only one, vegan ptsd sperg

No. 271428

Drama, STD risk since there's almost always at least one bi manwhore in these equations, hard no
>Conservative/republican/right wing and Woke (not extreme)
Depends on how open they are to discussing and actually explaining how they arrive at their beliefs and if their beliefs allow them to have a baseline of respect towards me and how I conduct my life. I never fully recovered from my euphoric fedora tipper days and enjoy casually debating people too much. I can fix him/her yada yada
Sure if it's for non-ideological reasons. I think the vast majority of animals produced for food are unethically treated, but I think there exist ethical ways to care for animals that ultimately end up as food and I feel like a lot of vegans don't agree with that (otherwise they would eat animal products in which the animals were ethically treated). If the person is dedicated enough to commit to a vegan diet, then I think they believe strongly enough about animal welfare that they might resent my views over time. Also, eating out instantly becomes a pain in the ass with vegans.
I've peaked too hard and can't imagine myself entertaining their mental illness unless they were non-op (not just pre-op) and a personal 10/10. Only for a one night stand or a short-term fwb thing though. I'm too autistic to keep the charade up for long.
>Bi moid
Despite being bi myself, I don't fucking trust bi moids to be monogamous when they say they will be. I'm sure there's good ones around, but I've been burned too many times to entertain the possibility anymore.
>"nonbinary" woman
If she was otherwise really great, then I would maybe try my hand at fixing her.

I feel bad for agreeing with this since I understand wanting the type of situation the original anon wants, but what was she expecting? Especially if she's as hot as she says she is, then not only did those moids get to empty their balls but their egos probably got inflated enough to continue trying their luck with other women

No. 271468



No theyre always an ugly looking couple. Don't want to get into whatever issue they got going
>Conservative/republican/right wing
>Woke (not extreme)
Maybe. But I'll be constantly annoyed by them. I don't see a longterm future with these
Sure. Just as long as they don't try to change my lifestyle. I love eating chicken and beef
Maybe. I want the normal ones not the aidens.
>Bi moid
>"nonbinary" woman
Yes. I've been that nonbinary woman so I can safely say that these women will grow out of that phase and just be that lesbian/bisexual woman who's GNC

No. 271521

The kind of thing anon describes is bound to lead to some complicated emotions eventually. And if it somehow doesn't lead to emotions, don't be surprised that the man is treating you like trash. Men barely care about the women they claim to love, let alone the women they have nsa sex with. I'm not saying it's right or good but you gotta get fucking real.

No. 271585

I get what you're trying to say but you're missing the point. Op isn't crying and having her heart broken by these men, she's perplexed that they don't have basic human decency to part ways properly instead of going silent. Read the post, she said it herself she didn't have problems getting exactly what she wanted in the past and no one was emotionally hurt in the end. It bothers me you're trying to paint her as some young bimbo who 'had it coming'.
>I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.
Her own conclusion and I fucking agree.

No. 271694

Original OP and thank you for understanding my perspective. I agree that I don't think it's much to expect an arrangement that's casual while still being fun/respectful.

kek, I figured I'd get this sort of response. It might be hard to understand for you, but some women do want regular intimacy but may not be interested in dating. What else am I supposed to do? Fall to celibacy? And I don't want to go through a string of one night stands with average moids who play the numbers game. Hookup culture is a disease and I don't want to be a part of it. I'm not here to fuck men for validation, I want to get off for me. It's a frustrating situation to be in, but one I'm stuck with nonetheless.

>Especially if she's as hot as she says she is
Lol. I only mentioned that because I know I'm not ugly. I'm slim, I look after myself, I dress well, decent facial structure, etc. You're right though, it's infuriating knowing I've inflated a man's ego because IIIII wanted to get off, that's probably the part that pisses me off the most. I feel like that's inevitable in this sort of quest, like I can't escape the thought of men just using me for a quick pump and dump when I'M the one looking for sexual satisfaction. For the first time in my life I feel comfortable in my sexuality, my body and my overall self and I want to be able to explore that casually with someone I trust but doesn't expect things to eventuate anywhere. Moids, however, are all retarded and the other anon is right in that for many of them it's just a numbers game, quantity over quality, etc.

No. 271720

No, life sucks enough without jealousy
>Conservative/republican/right wing
Potentially, but our conservaties are a bit different from american style republicans.
>Woke (not extreme)
I would
No, life sucks enough without having to hear about the ethics of my burger
No, I'm straight
No, life sucks enough without needing to pretend a bloke can be a woman. Also they look ugly.
>Bi moid
Potentially, but the few bi dudes I've talked to considered their sexual attraction a free card for cheating, as long as it was with a man (while dating women)
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)
No, life sucks enough without living with someone self-hating

No. 271826

Why not find a friend to have a fwb rather than dating apps with randos? Even though I'm looking for a long term relationship I had so many guy friends wanting a fwb with me. I even met a friend of a friend on a dating app and he wrote a paragraph to me on why a fwb is better than a relationships (which really put me off going on dating apps again)

No. 271850

I have a couple prospects for that but they don't seem all that viable. Mostly because I don't feel any chemistry with either of them and one has gotten fat lol.

>I even met a friend of a friend on a dating app and he wrote a paragraph to me on why a fwb is better than a relationships

This is so funny and it would turn me off apps for good.

No. 271941

Where do you find normal masculine guys to date when you live in a super liberal area? I like kind of artistic/intellectual types but every guy like that ends up being nonbinary, polyamorous, or hyper woke pussy. I feel like I should just give up trying to meet anyone sometimes.

No. 272373

Pro athletes should be avoided by default, correct? Or does it depend?

No. 272374

Cyclists are okay, as long as they don't dope or talk favorably of it. In fact don't date ANY athlete that endorses doping. Full-contact sports athletes should be avoided too.

No. 272393

males with any fame should be avoided

No. 272400

>Full-contact sports athletes should be avoided too.
In my limited experience martial artists are some of the sanest moids I've met. But MMA bros/boxers are always abusive and scrotey. Maybe all that head trauma loosens their brains.

No. 272456

I’m not on dating apps but I’ve got a question. Is there a benefit to dating men who are your equal or above or is that just bullshit to instill patriarchal values? Nowadays so many women date down not only in terms of looks but also in education/salary these days. I’ve only dated “down” and every time I swear the guy is like trying to pull me down with him. I refuse to do it anymore.
Are relationships with attractive, smart accomplished men any better or? And how do I go about dating one? Ik these men are sparse, should I get on dating apps? I remember the consensus last time I used one was guys telling me “you’re so genuinely nice it’s shocking” like they were feeling bad for me thinking the apps are for dating because apparently all men on there just use them for hookups. Also I’ve never been on an OLD date I usually just delete the apps before solid plans happen.

No. 272475

I have a date on Thursday with a guy I've been talking to for over a week. I really like him. I've met other guys off the app so I know the routine but I really want to make a good impression and I intentionally don't put up posed or flattering photos and we've sent a few snaps of each other but again me not dressed up or posed intentionally so I think I'm better looking in person. I'm not even contemplating I won't like him because I think he's out of my league and he's very family orientated and my family is very broken and embarrassing.

No. 272488

Anon fuck that, don't tell yourself he's out of your league. He's planned a date with you so clearly he's interested somewhat. I want you to tell yourself right now that you know your worth and you will not let yourself sabotage everything you've worked hard for to undermine and commit indirect self-harm like this.

Good luck with your date, let us know how it goes.

No. 272495

>Are relationships with attractive, smart accomplished men any better or?


Watch some Chloe_ vids on YouTube

No. 272826

He's gorgeous IRL!! And we're so similar and our date ran on for more than 5 hours and we've plans on Sunday. I think he could be my boyfriend lmao

No. 273004

How do you feel about travel pics in a profile? Do they feel pretentious? I'm not sure what else to show me being interesting in besides that. And what about pics with pets in them?

No. 273307

I think pet pics and travel pics are fine. Some people make travelling their whole personality and that can be kind of pretentious, but having pictures of you in other places might be a nice way to spark conversation with someone. Also I think pet pics are fine and also a good conversation starter, although I do think it's annoying when someone has a picture with a dog/cat and then it turns out it isn't even theirs.

No. 273770

>life sucks enough without jealousy
this doesn't really makes any sense, though. monogamous relationships are often riddled with jealousy (especially from the moid side) whereas if you're both alright with each other seeing other people it figures that you don't feel jealous. i might biased because i used to have a casual/fwb relationship with a poly girl (dating another woman though, i wouldn't want to have anything to do with a poly girl dating a scrote, too much potential for drama and unicorn fetishism) and it was one of the chillest, healthiest relationships i've ever had. she was super considerate, emotionally intelligent and i learned a lot about myself just by talking to her. i couldn't do that kind of thing in a serious relationship but it's really not as bad as you're all making it seem like. and the stereotype that it's only ugly nerds doing it isn't really true anymore, if you look at dating apps you'll see that so many perfectly "normal" people are open now.

No. 273798

No, jealousy is natural and non-coomers can be satisfied by a single partner
>Conservative/republican/right wing
Conservative/ring-wing probably, republican no (might as well say I don't date Americans)
>Woke (not extreme)
No, they still usually believe children should be trooned because "fee fees get hurt and suicide". I'm sick of showing them the Swedish study every damn time
No, I used to be vegan and I know the lies. Almost killed myself over "saving animals" and I'm over that
No, they believe children should be trooned and often coom to yaoi. Ex-FTM would be okay.
No, they believe children should be trooned and are often coomers and/or pedophilic
>Bi moid
Yes, if he's genuinely based. If I could choose I wouldn't be attracted to moids myself either, so it's not his fault.
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)
"nonbinary" sometimes means deep down GC because the lack of "feeling gender" can mean they do know gender doesn't exist and that it's all about facts and biology. It really depends.
Wouldn't if the person is all into the identity bs and doesn't believe clothes are just fabric to cover ourselves.

No. 273800

No, they're still all ugly.

No. 273801

NAYRT but she's half-right. The self-identified "polyamorous" people are as ugly as ever but some of the most attractive profiles I've personally seen, both male and female, had "in an open relationship" in their bio. Hot people want to fuck around, it's not that deep.

No. 273909

>No, I used to be vegan and I know the lies. Almost killed myself over "saving animals" and I'm over that

What do you mean, like what lies? I have a feeling I might agree with you I agree with nearly all your other answers too

No. 274045

potentially id be ok with it

>Conservative/republican/right wing

it really depends but not an automatic no

>Woke (not extreme)

same as before


god no




probably not, just had a family member come out as mtf (and hes clearly not) so itd make me uncomfortable. I guess theres a small chance though.

>Bi moid


>"nonbinary" woman

possibly? if they werent ridiculous about it then sure

No. 274070

jesus you're down bad

No. 274273


>Conservative/republican/right wing

probably never but it might depend on the individual views. for example some conservatives are pro choice and some people identify as "conservative" when they aren't really, so I might consider it under certain circumstances, but in general it's a big no, especially if he's a registered republican (barf)

>Woke (not extreme)

basically the same answer as above. a little wokeness is alright with me, but it depends more on the individual views. if he's pro troon then it's a deal breaker


again I might consider it if it was the right guy, but probably not. and vegan men seem really rare, at least where I live, so it's probably never something I will have to consider


I'm straight, so no



>Bi moid

no lol. I do believe bi men exist but it's much easier for them to cheat on you, and being as I hardly trust straight men not to cheat, no thanks. also I truly believe a lot of "bisexual" men are just gay (or troon chasers) and afraid to come out fully. yes that's cynical, I don't care

>"nonbinary" woman

I'm straight but even if I wasn't probably no

it's really strange to me that vegan is a bigger turn off to you than conservative, poly or trans but to each their own I guess

No. 274297

Anyone else notice that every single man who you're chatting with ON the app and haven't even met up with yet go on random tangents about women? Are men that retarded that they think a woman will want to meet up with them after showing how sexist they are? I creepily had THREE guys in a row in the same day literally randomly bring up how men have to pay women when they get divorce. Which is hilariously not even always true, also boo fucking hoo. It was seriously brought up out of the blue by them. I do not talk about politics or religion with strangers. So fucking psychotic. Dating apps really are full of the leftover reject men with issues.

No. 274298

Pretty sure most women on here would only maybe get with the vegan like >>266999 said. Even the vegan is a maybe for me because eating out with someone who's diet is strict or junk food ridden is a major problem.

No. 274299

much like with short men, in theory, it would be good to give the rejected loser men a chance.
>maybe they're thankful?
>maybe they were just unlucky and really have hearts of gold that everyone somehow looked past all along?

no. men are not like us. the rejects, the uglies, the manlets and the virgins are always, always horrible and jaded and will make sure to punish you for other women passing them over. they never forgive Big Women(tm) and will seethe until they die, while projecting all their faults onto us while retaining a massive ego larger than any of the "mean chads" they claim women are stupid for wanting

and yes, all men on dating apps have something wrong with them. they WILL punish you for stacy saying no to them when they were 15

No. 274304

I'm saying this as a rejected loser woman of course. after so many years I know I and all other femcel-adjacent women are much better than any "equivalent" male could ever be, and women were always right to be """hypergamous""". men are never happy you give them a chance, the lower their status the more they will chase 16-year-old stacy and the more they will turn up their nose toward normal women
these men on the apps think they are dating all the other women they swipe on and are probably internally comparing you to the hottest most highly filtered ones while being mad at you for daring to not be them, lol
I'd rather die alone than do "online dating" but everyone keeps pushing it on me and probably more so because I'm a weird nerd. the thing is, the weird nerds don't want me, and I don't want them (because male weird nerds are all porn addicted picky demons who will cite "statistics" at you)

No. 274306

Crotchworms have peanut sized brains. Maybe they put women down up front without a care to see if they will snag their perfect emotional punching bag pickme. Oh yes, male with a constant chip on their shoulder and a victim complex, please give me your dick. I am eager for you to abuse me.

One of them even admitted to me when he went on his last date, he got emotionally volatile over a politically charged argument with her at a bar and the bouncer kicked him out. Charming!

No. 275064

>I got adhd, bruxism, arthritis
why do so many males list their conditions? I've seen several profiles where they will admit they are mentally ill.
I guess it's great so I can weed them out, but I don't get why they would put that all out there when they are trying to attract somebody.

No. 275157

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Self proclaimed alpha male on hinge

No. 275159

sucking in harder than me at 14 damn

No. 275162

When men do it it’s “stomach vacuums” and it’s just a normal part of fitness and posing, when women do it it’s evil trickery on par with the highest level witchery

No. 275164

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Same pic kek

No. 275168

I see it a lot too, anon. It reminds me of 2012 tumblr when everyone would put their mental illness on their profile. I think scrotes on dating apps see it as being "open and honest" but really just use it as their personality and an excuse to be a piece of shit. Or if you figure out everything wrong with these manchildren they can use "well, I told you have mental illness".

No. 275182

Men are so fucking ugly.
Takes me back to the hellish days of online dating, I swear I probably swiped right on 3% of the men on that app, simply because I refused to date down

No. 275184

And then those 3 percent are sexist losers in some way and just trying to get laid as fast as possible. Fuck online dating apps.

No. 275188

i'm also trying to get laid as fast as possible so as long as they're not sexist losers we're good

No. 275198

I’ve been talking to this guy on Hinge since early June. He’s never asked to meet up, only offered to get me into the art museum for free where he works. We’ve just been chatting on Hinge for more than a month and just send like one message per day to each other. It’s super low effort. The conversation is nice though, which is why I keep responding. If he’s been talking to me this long then he must be interested somewhat right? But then if he’s never asked to meet up then I guess he isn’t interested? Or is he just shy or something? He’s a little younger than me I think. I don’t mind asking to meet up and hang out at one point, but then I feel he probably isn’t into me if he only talks to me like once a day and hasn’t alluded to us meeting up. But then why is he still talking to me for this long? We aren’t even flirting lol, just talking about random stuff. He even stopped responding at one point and I thought maybe he finally decided to drop the conversation, but then he came back a few days later and apologized because he was on vacation. Has anyone been in a situation like this?

No. 275199

Complaining that people are just trying to get laid on dating apps is like going to a gloryhole and crying that no one there wants to get married. Yes, I know, I know your friend's sister's grandma's cousin's neighbor's daughter met her now husband on Tinder and they lived happily ever after. Those are notable because they're exceptions though. People use dating apps (especially Tinder, Bumble and Hinge are maybe somewhat more "serious") for lots of shit but hooking up is by far and away the most common one for both men and women.

No. 275201

I’ve read somewhere that dating apps have the lottery effect: you’ve heard some people found each other on there so you think you also have a chance, and you swift through the shitty dudes hoping you’ll also have luck but in reality it’s one of the most dissapointing experiences you can get yourself into.

No. 275212

he's doing what PUAs/redpillers call "spinning plates". Keeping as many low effort conversations with women open to ensure he always has someone ready. If he had any genuine romantic intentions he wouldn't keep you on a backburner

No. 275213

And yet they're called DATING apps and you're talking shit about women looking for decent dating experiences

No. 275215

Yes, because outright calling them "sex apps" would not attract a big userbase, it's basically an euphemism. It's not "shitting" on anyone to point out that you have to keep your expectations realistic, get fucking real

No. 275279

why oh why…I signed up for a dating app, swiped through tons of fugly guys for days, then finally matched with one that was really cute and we had a lot in common. We haven’t talked yet, just exchanged contact info yesterday, but I thought to reverse image his photo and…it’s 5 years old (I found an old dating profile, made years ago, with the same photo). FFS ugh can’t believe I was this stupid. Now I’m questioning why he used such an old photo??? I’ll have to ask him eventually for an updated one…ugh it would suck if he got fat and lost hair.

No. 275282

> it would suck "if"

nonnie he wouldn't have used a 5 years old picture if he wasn't completely different today. ask him another photo asap but i have no hope for you, sorry. Hope i'm wrong though.

No. 275306

Always video call before meeting.

No. 275435

Yeah, I didn’t even get to that point. When we added each other, I searched his username on google, and found a YouTube channel where he was subscribed to right-leaning and Trump channels (didn’t even mention this in his dating profile). He’s also a terminal gamer. Even if he did still look like that photo, both of those are hard noes…ugh it’s hard finding anyone that’s attractive AND a decent person. It pays to trust your gut and snoop.

No. 275560

I wish I knew the answer to this, kek. I once went out to dinner on my own and got friendly with the bearded bartender, he looked cool and masculine, told me his shift was finishing soon and asked if I wanted to grab a drink after.
So I did, and as we were chatting he tells me he's a trans woman but didn't want to go on hormones or change his appearance whatsoever. This was also the third or so man in a month to tell me he was either gender fluid or trans even though I thought they were just a regular masculine man.
I couldn't date a conservative man for the life of me but dating in a liberal area is literally all this and it makes me want to rip my hair out.

No. 276941

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>match with someone who's just your type and says they want a relationship in bio
>they lovebomb you pretty much from the get-go, shower you with compliments, text you a lot, even send nudes
>after a few days they start showing their baggage, unloading and venting about their life, insecurity, depression etc.
>you respond trying to comfort them and offer some positivity
>they suddenly turn cold
>they ghost for a day, then come back and say it's best to end it because "you're not a good match" and that they'd rather date someone who's not "positive like me"
Sheesh, I mean, the red flags were certainly there, but I wonder what compels someone who's clearly mentally ill to intentionally seek, pursue and lovebomb people knowing they're too unstable to date?

No. 276943

>shower you with compliments, text you a lot, even send nudes
oh no, the horror

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No. 276945

Hate to drag up this stereotype but some of the most sexual people.. use that to reel you in because they know they're emotionally a mess (and alot of work) so they need to ramp up the nudes and the sex appeal to compensate and find their way in

Scrotes usually eat that shit up and then wonder how they 'ended up with crazy' but the flags are blaring red from the start.

No. 276946

scrotish reaction kek, that kind of thing is unhinged to do at the very begining of an exchange with someone

No. 276954

It's not normal to randomly send nudes and lovebomb someone you just started texting, especially since it's not for a casual sex thing

No. 276973

I have decided to shake things up and go to a Bumble event in my city. Why not? Plus I get a free drink and I am not doing anything then. Will I be disappointed in the men there? Sure. Is there a chance I can meet my future Nigel? Maybe?

No. 276984

late response but ive known men who keep the same pics on social media for 5+ years, and they all look the same, its just they hate taking selfies. like its this horrific and vulnerable thing for them, kind of hilarious because its not like they have BDD or anything. good luck with the guy, update us if he looks different or the same when you get a new pic or vidchat or meet irl

No. 276985

nvm lol just saw where you said you found out hes a gaming addict trumper. sad, rip.

No. 276992

NTA but i find men who take too many selfies to be untrustworthy tbh

No. 276993

agree completely, but some men are soo averse to any form of selfies to the point its kinda weird to me too.. but its definitely a green flag when a man only takes selfies when needed like for linkedin or something because he just naturally doesnt think about taking pics of himself

No. 277002

yeah, which sucks because if he still did look like his picture, that would've been great, cuz he was super cute. But the trump thing and being addicted to games…it just made me sick to my stomach and I just blocked. My last ex was also a gamer and cheated on me with people he met in-game (then irl), and I know not every moid is going to do that, but I just didn't want to take that risk again. There's some things I could maybe put aside if the guy is attractive enough, but game addict and republican? no.
I agree. I kinda wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt (although I felt deceived with the old pic). I'm not much of a selfie taker either so I understand people that use one that's a few months to a year or two old. Definitely a green flag if they only take them when needed, like profiles.

No. 277003

Has anyone here actually had any success with Bumble BFF? Every single woman I've matched with doesn't respond to me, regardless of how I phrase my message, and 99% of them never message me first. I get plenty of matches but they don't go anywhere. I got so desperate I ended up setting my filter to allow men and ofc they all respond. Ugh.

No. 277049

why are people on apps so fucking inept that they cant carry a normal conversation. ive had two instances on different apps where ive had to unmatch/block due to the person joking about trafficking me/physically abusing me, is it just my face? wtf

No. 277051

Holy shit, sorry nonna, people have no filter when they don't talk face to face. But hey, it's better to find out these things about someone as soon as possible, so you've dodged multiple bullets here

No. 277072

>It's not normal to lovebomb someone
lovembombing is an abuse tactic that has a very specific definition, lol if you think compliments and texting and just showing someone attention count as that. no wonder there's such much bitterness and misery in this and the relationship advice threads.

No. 277100

Lovebombing is overwhelming someone with loving words, actions, and behavior as a manipulation technique, which matches the girl's unstable behavior in OP's post. Why are you so defensive about it, anon? Do you also shower someone you just met with love before dumping your personal traumas on them and leaving?

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> no wonder there's such much bitterness and misery in this and the relationship advice threads
Oh god lol. We already know you hang out in the relationship threads. You didn't have to confirm it y'know? You repost the same old shit word for word like a true low functioning autist. Never changing the record. When questioned on why you're being retarded you just… repeat it again.
>you're all miserable and bitter
> bitter and miserable
> everone on here is miserable (yet you keep coming back for more)
> contrarian statement followed by… calling you bitter and miserable!
>misreads a post entirely… then calls you miserable
> stands up for scrotes every time.. then calls you a bitter bitch
It's not everyone else that's miserable anon… you're a miserable sperg.

No. 277132

If you look younger than you are or have any indicator that you’re quirked up, it attracts a lot of these types. I used tinder for less than 5 hours a few years ago and several men were immediately extremely sexual and creepy, talking about bdsm, offering me drugs. Without me even responding, they’d just keep sending messages. I really hate it but I honestly just look like I’m 14 perpetually and it makes all the creeps come out.

No. 277363

I made a dating profile again and I'm disgusted by the men lol. I can't stand them, even their profiles and the "wants kids someday" tag annoys me. I may have to genuinely look for someone irl even if it 's borderline impossible these days.

No. 277366

NTA but I used to do this and always end up depressed afterwards and crying my eyes out.
I knew something was wrong with me but didn't knew what BPD was at the time.

No. 277373

Sending nudes to a person you dont know we'll is mental hospital crazy. Don't you realize most people that receive nudes, especially men, share or exchange them? Retard.

No. 277642

No screenshots since I already unmatched.

>Guy likes my pic on hinge

>he's not that cute to me but he seems level headed and likes similar things
>he's also a car guy
>I initaite the conversation and keep it moving with jokes
>sends me boring responses and doesn't ask a single question about me besides one;
>asks me what car I drive.
>I reply, I have 2 cars and one has 300 horsepower and I know a bit about cars too
>he just replies "Okay, cool"
>I replied "LOL is that a bit of judgement coming from a self proclaimed car guy :)?"
>"No its an empty response to someone who putting any effort to make this conversation worthwhile."

They really do get so miserable and bitter to talk to the older they are.

No. 277643

*isn't putting effort

I'd delete and remake but my browser doesn't save post passwords

No. 277651

I’ve noticed a lot of men online have no idea how to keep a conversation going. I felt like they were letting me do all the work while they sat back and enjoyed talking about themselves like an interview. You are on a dating app and a man, why are you so lazy my god, if it was a face-to-face interaction would you even manage? rant because it’s like apps are the easy way out where they can put in even less effort

No. 277659

Yeah I downloaded dating apps again for the first time in 2 years. I'm now 24. Before, I would set it to show men my age up to 2 years older. For the first time I'm setting it to men 20-25 because men my age or older are now disgusting.

No. 277660

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even offline, this is the case.

No. 277662

so weird. sorry nonna, idk what’s wrong with men. just wow. i love how sctotes have the audacity to claim women on dating apps are annoying because they might not message them first, but most men can’t have a good conversation to save their lives

No. 277663

reminds me of when i was talking to this scrote and asking about him as a person and what he did/studied and he couldnt even think to ask how my day was kek

No. 277712

I was in almost this exact same position and I chose to leave cause the thought of him actually being poly and fucking his fat, danger hair "friends" made me ill

I'll stick to my cats you don't ultimately need a fucking moid so badly you'll let him disrespect you

No. 277713

Get a masculine hobby like cars, firearms, or get a job in a hardware store (bonus: you will learn to fix your own shit, too! thus reducing the need for men at all). Try to date men who work trades. (the downside is a lot of them drink and vape nicotine too much, bad tattoos and possibly baby mama bullshit. but that's better than a polyamorous woketard still)

No. 277715

>unmade bed in the background
>that grotesque beard

No. 278093

OP here. I got my free drink! That is all, just scoping out the area for any cute guys to talk to. So far just one I am totally not interested in. Ooof lol! What the hell can I expect.

No. 278407

>show their baggage in the first couple of days venting about life and depression
What's with moids and doing this? When did it become acceptable and why do they think it's a good idea? Is it some sort of tactic? Every male I've met has been like this just randomly telling me their problems out of the blue like their mental problems are a quirky totes normal personality trait.

No. 278457

Back then, during 1st semester of college, I aced an assignment about my own successful marketing strategy + got a ton of free views for me & my bffs trap rap roast-parody video by spamming men on Tinder with "soo.. if you don't like this vid (LINK) we're not gonna work LOL" or shit like that.. and then I got banned. On 4 different phone numbers (mine, 2nd mine, my bffs, my bfs) because after the assignment I got tired and started scolding them and saying they're retarded loser scrotes who should kill themselves.
A little problem - we're making another one and this time I want even more views (last time was 3k, I'm aiming for 5k).
The fuck do I do?! Will buying a one-off phone number even work if I put the number in a phone that had a number banned?

No. 278460

i'm a lesbian and notice this plenty with women too (although i'm sure it's worse with moids like most things are). i think it's because the internet in general has made mental health disorders seem like a quirky personality trait. mentally ill people also love to stew in their own misery and interact mainly with other mentally ill people who enable them until they forget this is supposed to be a bad thing you should overcome before you even try dating, not something to base your personality and relationships on.

No. 278596

Not 100% but the number should work no matter the phone. (Also always best to use a cheap sim and not a voip # for spamming purposes)

No. 279120

I remember one of my friends complaining to me about her anxiety of downloading Hinge because she was afraid that only ugly guys would like her. I thought it was kind of a banal thing to be afraid of because ugly guys finding you attractive doesn't mean anything, but after taking a break from Hinge and unpausing my profile I haven't liked a single guy who has sent me a like, meanwhile every guy I've liked hasn't matched with me kek. I don't know if my standards just got higher after I took a break or what, but it is kind of a depressing feeling actually.

No. 279128

I think your friend probably meant she was anxious about attractive guys not liking her, in other words not being "in the league" of hot guys

No. 279131

Oh yeah that makes sense lol. I guess it’s ironic since that’s what I’m experiencing now. Well there’s nothing I can do about it so oh well.

No. 279351

kek nonnie, ily

No. 280153

I matched with a guy who is different from my normal type, but I thought I'd swipe just for the hell of it and was surprised when we matched since I didn't think I'd be his type. I know it's possible he could just be matching with any girl who likes him and is just looking to hook up. I realized he kind of reminds me of the types of guys I hated in high school (rich, preppy, Republican, really mean and judgmental lol) but it's mostly just the way he looks and he hasn't said anything that confirms he's that type of person (although he hasn't said anything that shows he isn't that type of person either). When I told him where I grew up, he told me he's actually visited there before and he 'loves it' lmao. Anyway, I found that whenever I do match with guys who seem to be my type/the type I'd be compatible with (brown hair, introverted, shared interest in something) they end up being kind of cringe and I never really end up liking them that much. I matched with this guy purely on looks lol and he seems pretty extroverted and straightforward, which is not what I'm used to. I can see all the different ways that this could fall apart, but since I'm not really looking for a LTR I don't really care if he's boyfriend material as long as he's cute and we get along okay. At least it's interesting trying something different.

No. 280248

I deleted Hinge a few weeks ago after dating fatigue but recently downloaded it again just for the sake of it and I swear, it actually resets your algorithm. The men I've been seeing are pretty hot, all with varying interests. I've been chatting to about 4 at once, they're all engaging and interested. A friend of mine experienced something similar where he deleted and reinstalled the app after a week and it put him right back to the "top" of the algorithm again too. Would highly recommend doing this if you're finding you're getting the same haggard, gross men.

No. 280529

Gonna have to try this, I swear I’ve been swiping no on the same 10-12 guys for the past week. My friend told me Hinge was the place to find people interested in relationships but everyone who’s hit me up is either soy, a polyfag or only in town for the weekend.

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I feel like I’ve become completely disillusioned not just with online dating, but men and dating in general. It just feels like there’s no winning. I barely even like anyone on tinder anymore because it feels like they’re a fuckboy just looking for sex. Guys who would have given me butterflies once now just make me roll my eyes because I’ve been there and done that and I can’t un-know what I’ve learned about moids. There’s a cute guy in this professional development group I see via work every now and then, and I don’t even want to try getting involved with him because I already feel so defeated. Old heartbreak, FDS, the pandemic, poor self esteem and unrealistic expectations (mine and mens) have ruined me for dating.

No. 280573

Lol anon I understand how you feel. I don't think there's anything wrong with taking a break from dating if you're feeling this burnt out. Meeting new men and then being disappointed by them is so much emotional effort I don't think I could expect anyone to be able to put themselves out there like that consistently without ever taking a break or else they'd just become full-on doomer and you'll just never want to date again. As soon as I start feeling a sense of dread meeting new people and dating starts to feel like a chore (it always kind of does, but you know what I mean) that's when I know I should probably pause my apps for a bit and just focus on being by myself. Then after a few months or whatever I feel more refreshed and usually I have enough time to reflect on what I want to do differently this time, etc. Same for dating in general I would assume (although I have less experience with that kek). I think meeting the right person takes consistent effort, but being able to do something consistently also means taking breaks so that you don't push yourself and burn out. anyway that's what I tell myself because I also am getting tired of this shit kek

No. 281099

I went on a date with this guy this week. It went really well. Mostly because I went back to his place after and we 'hooked up.' Not exactly, but I went farther with him than I have with any other guy (which probably isn't much for most people kek). It was really obvious that I was inexperienced, but it seemed like he didn't mind taking the lead(?) and he seemed to know what he was doing. He didn't pressure me into doing anything and mostly focused on what felt good for me, which was great.

When I left eventually, he asked if I made it home and that he had fun and I said I felt the same way and texted him goodnight. He hasn't texted me since then so I guess it's basically over? I thought maybe he would have been somewhat interested since he asked me to stay over and offered to drive me back the next day and when we were at his place he would say things like "next time we should do this" or "we can talk about this next time," but I get that moids might just say random things and not really mean it. I also wonder if maybe I gave off signals that I wasn't super into it since I was a fucking inexperienced autist and didn't say much or I would joke and say stupid shit implying there wouldn't be a next time. And when I was getting ready to leave he joked about how fast I was getting ready and that I must have been in a hurry to get away from him and I just didn't say anything because I didn't want to boost his ego lol. But he made a lot of jokes teasing and making fun of me, so I only did those things in return because again, I didn't want to boost his ego.

Ugh anyway… I know I probably shouldn't text him since I guess the rule is that if he liked me enough he would have reached out by now. I also know that the whole 'teasing someone to flirt with them' thing is kind of a red flag and he did that a lot so that's another thing. But it's not like I'm looking to date him and it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity. But I know there's a lot of ways this situation could go south so I probably shouldn't reach out huh?

No. 281101

>it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity.

what do you think hooking up is

No. 281105

Hooking up doesn't always mean PiV and OP doesn't realize non-PiV sex is still sex. If they actually hooked up and not just made out, she's not a virgin anymore kek.

No. 281108

I know hooking up usually implies sex but I wasn’t sure how else to describe it because I went back to his place and we did more than make out. But yeah I probably could have worded it better.

No. 281131

anon is just nitpicking, it was obvious what you meant

No. 281149

hows it going nonna?

No. 281152

One date and then back to his place with an offer to have you stay over.. men say alot of shit to sucker you in but his plan was obvious. To get as much action as possible with the least amount of effort. You didn't give him sex after just hours of knowing him in person and he's gone. Be glad you didn't do more. Given your level of experience it can really fuck with your head when guys pull this shit.

No. 281249

I agree that he was probably being a fuckboy and just messing around, although it's not like I didn't get anything out of it since I enjoyed it too and he did most of the work (and paid for dinner). The main reason I swiped on him was because I thought he was cute and wanted some experience and that's really about it. I agree that he was probably just saying that shit to get me to sleep with him, but I wouldn't have been opposed to doing that eventually (just not on the first date). I guess the reason why I'm conflicted is because I enjoyed it and got what I wanted out of it, and I would want to do it again. But something tells me it wouldn't be a good idea to reach out to him first if he hasn't said anything since then so I probably won't.

No. 281253

Please don't let yourself be low hanging fruit.

No. 281257

I won’t text him don’t worry nona. I just feel a little frustrated because I don’t want to be in a relationship at all and I just want to have some experience being intimate with cute guys and having something lowkey and casual, but it takes me forever to find someone who is actually cute and who seems trustworthy enough for me to feel comfortable being intimate with. I don’t want to have to go through that process all over again and I probably won’t for a little while just because of how much it took out of me kek. It was just really nice experiencing what that was like and who knows when I’ll get to experience it again lol. But yeah I’m not gonna text him. I’d be too embarrassed to anyway.

No. 281262

>he joked about how fast I was getting ready and that I must have been in a hurry to get away from him
This sounds really fucking annoying and manipulative anon. It’s pretty damn obvious why a tinder date wouldn’t wanna fuck on the first date, especially if you made it obvious you were inexperienced. It sounds like he was not so subtly trying to guilt you into staying with this “joke.” Instead of putting in a slight bit of effort to learn about you and eventually get himself laid, he ghosted you to probably chase someone else. Don’t worry, there are plenty of cute guys out there. Don’t let anyone guilt you into stuff you’re not ready for.

No. 281271

Single after 10+ years. Lesbian and moved to the country too far from any good gay bars. What apps aren't all MTF fetish sissies?

No. 281272

>being intimate with cute guys and having something lowkey and casual, but it takes me forever to find someone who is actually cute and who seems trustworthy enough for me to feel comfortable being intimate with
in the same boat nonna, and just like you, it takes too much to find one okay-seeming guy in a sea of turds so i've kind of given up. yes, don't text back, you know how dudes are.

No. 281290

I know… it's easy to want to give up because of how much work goes into it. Quite honestly the hardest part is finding men that I'm attracted to and the fact that I was attracted to this guy makes me question some things, but also what the fuck can I do. I've more decent guys in the past who fit my personality more, but I couldn't bring myself to get physically close to them at all because I couldn't be attracted to them no matter how hard I tried.
It's easy to give up, but in some ways I feel like I deserve to get what I want. I've been single and celibate for so long and learned to be okay with myself and being single and independent. After knowing how nice it feels to be that close to someone who I'm actually attracted to I really want to experience it again. I'll probably take a break for now and then go back into it later. I'm not gonna settle for someone who doesn't give a shit about me (like this guy seems to), but I'm also not going to resign myself to going after guys I'm not attracted to just because they're into me and treat me well. I'm also not going to resign myself to never experiencing intimacy like that again. It sounds like a tall order, but the only thing I can do I guess is take a break and then keep trying until I find what I want. If I try and fail I guess it's better than not trying at all. I wish you the best of luck nona, whether you decide to get back into it or not!

No. 281369

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The men on these apps are so fucking fat and ugly I want to cry in despair. I can't imagine any of these schlubs sweating and panting over me… or imagine washing shit streaks out of his underwear. I don't wanna date any of these males, even the rich ones. And that's before you go on the first date and you realize hes also retarded and he'll inundate you with baggage. On top of that they probably have ED or a small cock, often both. I'm DONE.

No. 281523

I feel so judgmental of a woman if she tells me that she met her boyfriend on a dating app. Only pickmes use dating apps because they can't find men anywhere else and have to settle for bottom of the barrel scrotes

No. 281533

>only pickmes use dating apps
Are you implying everyone in this thread is a pickme? Kek. Not sure if bait but there's a lot of different non pickme reasons people use dating apps, it's not always that easy if you don't have expansive social circles, or work from home, or just aren't comfortable approaching strangers out in public.

No. 281553

>Only pickmes use dating apps because they can't find men anywhere else
That doesn't make sense. Women who don't have enough of a social life to meet men naturally are probably just shy or introverted or a homebody. It'd be way more pickmeish to go hit on random men in public or actively try to cultivate a social life for the sole purpose of finding a moid. Apps are relatively low effort, and men deserve the least effort.

No. 282320

I recently met an interesting man on okcupid. I'm probably giving too much information, but he's american and I'm mexican (born, raised and lived here all my life). We share hobbies, music taste, like the same kind of films, don't go out much, etc. He's got a well-paying job as far as I can tell. A bit on the chubby side (even though he has as a profile picture an old photo where he was average in weight), and has a huge dick. I'm really attracted to him, but he suddenly stopped talking to me after we had cam sex last friday, or at least, he doesn't talk to me with the same interest. Before that, he said he'd come to Mex to meet me, apparently in september or october. I don't know if he doesn't want anything serious with me anymore after whoring myself out like that so soon, or if it's a cultural difference, or if he's busy with work or what. Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me. I think he's lying and have directly told him so. I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much. Also, he really sounds too good to be true, and if he does come and something happens to me, a friend has his information (full name, phone number, address, how he looks like, etc). I honestly don't know what to do with him or what to believe. I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me. Are all/most american men like this?

No. 282322

Drop him and block him. He sounds manipulative. I know of many American/Mexican couples that worked out but the former always had preexisting ties to Mexico via family or work. This guy sounds like someone that assumes a Mexican woman would be easy because he's American, yes these guys exist. You've written nothing that makes this man sound good. Not a cultural difference.

No. 282338

Is this post bait

No. 282344

>This guy sounds like someone that assumes a Mexican woman would be easy because he's American, yes these guys exist

The thing is, he's not wrong. Most of us are taught from birth that white american man = good, so no matter how ugly a white american man can be, he'd score lots of girls here. I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with Mex, where there's a big latino population), and he replied "just one", which I don't believe. Whenever he compliments something about me, be it my body or how cute or how sweet I am to him, I always tell him not to lie, to see if he eventually drops it. In fact, whenever he says anything that seems like a lie to me, I tell him. So I don't know if I'm just being too skeptical or if I'm right. After all, it's the first time an american has expressed interest in me, so I guess I'm being blinded by that.

And about him being manipulative, yes, he reminded me a bit about my first boyfriend, who was a piece of shit during our relationship. I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?

I wish it was.

No. 282351

>I think he's lying and have directly told him so.
Stop. You are only teaching him how he needs to lie better, or where you can't tell he is lying. Why would you want to be with a liar? For your own sake of mind, if you can't accept he could be with another woman, possibly give you an STD at some point, god knows what else a sleeze is capable of, don't date him.
>Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me.
Why are you letting yourself be dehumanized and referred to as possibly "worth keeping", like a pet? This sounds like future-faking to keep you hooked.
>I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much.
You don't even know if you only want sex? If you aren't 100% sure you only want sex and have no emotional commitment you are ripe for further manipulation. And please don't refer to yourself as a cum dump, even if you are only interested in sex men should treat you well.
>I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me.
You can't. He probably wants you to feel like you're in on his secret but you're special. You aren't.
>Are all/most american men like this?
Sounds like he's specifically so manipulative because he's American, rich, white whereas you are Mexican. Most American men aren't so open about being manipulative.

>I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with Mex
Why would you inflate the ego of a fat white man like this? Even if it's true because women have no standards you don't have to say it to the worm.
>I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?
Just stop texting and block him completely if you want. You don't need to slowly do it, ghosting is fine.

No. 282354

>Whenever he compliments something about me, be it my body or how cute or how sweet I am to him, I always tell him not to lie, to see if he eventually drops it. In fact, whenever he says anything that seems like a lie to me, I tell him.
Same anon, you also sound insecure from here. Do you do this after most compliments he gives you?

No. 282355

The way you bring yourself down and tell him he's a liar makes you sound insecure. Also, if you're so aware he's a liar and think he fucks lots of girls (another ego boost you gave him) then he must be thinking "damn she still wants me". So you'd put up with anything.

No. 282372

Hadn't thought about how I was subconsciously giving him hints so he could be a better liar, thanks for telling me that. I'm okay if he only wants sex, and if by chance he really wants something serious, then so be it, but I'm not counting on it. In any case, I think he doesn't have to sugar coat it and call me by cute names or anything, he only has to accept he wants sex and that's it, I'm fine if that's the case but he went and:
>Gave me his phone number (which I googled and that's how I know where he lives)
>Told me his last name (which helped me corroborate his address)
>Told me he expects a raise by next year and how much it would be (85k, I think).
I never asked him what he does for a living, or how much he earns, because it's something I simply don't care about. That he gave me that information so soon was a disappointment, because it quite possibly means he thinks that'd impress me. I didn't react to this information and have never brought it up again.
>Talked about us living together/marrying/having kids someday, even if he was "joking"
I told him to stop saying that, since it's too soon for it. At least he hasn't said anything about it again, so far (except saying that I would be a good wife, which doesn't bother me)
>Said that he'd come to see me because he was already planning coming to Mex anyway and that he'd only make a detour from his original plans

I'm a very insecure person. All the compliments he gives me (looks, education, hobbies, interests, etc) I've heard them before from my family, friends, ex-boyfriends and men who wanted to date me, but I still can't accept them. When I was in secondary school, boys were pretty cruel to me because I was very reserved and quiet, same thing happened during high school but to a much lesser extent. I know I'm not ugly, that I actually look good and all that, but I feel terrible accepting it, like it's wrong or that I'm thinking too highly of me. Even though I'm 28, I can pass easily as 18-20 years old, in part due to my short height.

No. 284462

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Male “humor” is so disgusting. Most of their “jokes” are just their actual misogynistic, perverted and violent thoughts expressed publicly under the guise of comedy.

No. 284463

pretty sure he isn't joking

No. 284940

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Let me preface this by saying months ago I made a fake tinder account out of curiosity, I just wanted to see how things were without any intention of swiping right on anyone, I grabbed a couple of stock pics of pets, used a female name that was not my own, added a couple of those generic preset interests just for the sake of it, my real age and the age range I'd go for. I eventually lost interest and didn't enter it for months til a couple of days ago out of boredom, this post it's just to ramble about it. So, fuck men are ugly, I know it has been said a thousand times here but it needs to be said again, why the fuck are men so ugly. My modus operandi on tinder:
>Be bored
>Log in on tinder
>No intention of chatting with or meeting anyone
>Still looking at profiles somewhat seriously
>God, men are ugly
>Start speeding through profiles because 98% or more of men are so ugly
>Start going insane from seeing so many ugly people
>Start relativizing
>This dude isn't my type but he has a better face than most
>This dude isn't my type but he has nicer body than most
>This dude isn't my type but we have similar taste in music
>This dude isn't my type but he claims to have a nice job
>This dude isn't my type but at least he bothered putting something in his profile
>This dude isn't my type but his dogs are very adorable
>Realize I'm going insane
>Worry about myself if I had been using Tinder seriously
>Eventually get tired of it
>Tinder logs out on it's own
>Can't bother to log back in
Now general complaints:
Most pics are fucking shit and right now I don't even mean they are unflattering or the guy looks like a creep, I mean more than half of them are deep fried, so many looked like the guy took a picture of a printed photography, with a shitty phone in a dark place. Even the ones who obviously stope the picture of some stock image model, like, you couldn't bother to download it in a decent resolution?
But so many pictures the guys look like creeps too, maybe it's because I live in a costal city, so many men put pictures of themselves in the beach wearing just trunks and so many of them are haf hard or completely hard. Thinking about this kind of idiot in a public space where there are even children makes my skin crawl.
So many profiles with literally nothing in the bio not even the generic Tinder interest tags, I don't know what goes through the mind of those people.
What's with people who @ their ig in the bio but don't just use the feature to link it? And what's with the demented fucks who say "oh I never enter Tinder app, hit me up on ig"? Dude, the whole point of tinder is to match, so you have at least some miserable level of mutual attraction going on. Plus if I were to hit on people online who have no idea who I am, I'd just do it with a youtuber I have a retarded crush on or something equally autistic, but still not as stupid as dming a guy from tinder who can't bother doing the bare minimum. And no, I wouldn't ask to follow you on your private ig account just for that, retard.
Motivational quotes make me violent, half the time they aren't even about meeting new people or love, just random motivational quotes.
On that note, no, you do not have a talent for comedy, or for prose in general.
Men trying to look serious and tough in pics just look dumb, leave that for professional models who have any idea of what they are doing and the faces to pull it.
Guys who aggressively say the woman (in this case you the other end of tinder) should be like this and that are hilarious because they are ugly, with no sense of fashion and cringe in their efforts to look manly.
Using filters to look whiter is just kinda sad.
Last but not least, I am wishing death on all couple profiles and cheating scrotes. I kinda wish tinder came up with a "poly friendly" feature that would allow normal people to filter couples out, but I'm sure they'd just ignore it and force themselves on the users who aren't interested.
A few amusing cases (while writing I realised they were all about troons in some way):
Case number 1:
>obvious fakeboi is obvious
>chubby but looks cute in a preppy suit outfit
>in the next pic, clear signs of hairloss (I bet it's the T)
>nonbinary transman
>non monogamous
Case number 2:
>This person's face looks a little odd
>First thing in the bio: transman
>Oh, of course
>Nailed the dudebro surfer look
I hate dudebro surfers
Case number 3:
>Cute goth-ish twink
>Wearing makeup
>Pretty decent makeup
>Checks out his other pics
>Yep, cute goth-ish twink with decent makeup
>Pic of him in a shitty plastic wig and that poorly drawn agp eyeliner
How? Just how did the make up degrade the second he seemingly became an agp tranny?
Case number 3:
>Nice looking normal guy
>Spots the trans flag in his bio
>WTF, he doesn't look trans
>He is talking about moving here from another state
>State flag has the same colours as trans flag
>He can't tell tham apart
Kek, maybe it should count as a pro that he is so fucking oblivious to trans shit.

No. 284944

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I'm scared to open this one

No. 284951

I agree with absolutely everything you've said, down to despising couple profiles. I've seen many and there's just no way to word it without making it sound sleazy, even if it's just a simple "couple looking for a chill girl to smoke with and play monopoly". Like sure you do.
At this point I've given up and mainly browse Tinder to laugh at and judge men and becoming more pinkpilled.

No. 285016

NTA I once saw a Bumble couple profile with a bio saying something like "looking for a girl to take pictures of us being cute together". Obviously intended to be uwu cute but so fucking nasty and cold sounding

No. 285293

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Why do i still use HER?

No. 285295

Your modus operandi is exactly the same as mine. Eventually I swipe right on someone who is not as hideous but still ugly. And just turn it off but when they text me later, I immediately unmatch because out of context of all the Colin Robinson lookalikes the guy is just so fucking ugly.

No. 287524

I swear every dude on dating apps is either some fucking JACKED business bro with a chiseled jaw that I'm not interested in just because I assume they're just there to fuck or are arrogant assholes, or absolute troglodytes. I guess every average guy with a cute face is taken if you're above 25+

No. 287527

No way.

No. 287528

That thing is definitely 28+

No. 287530

I recently downloaded Tinder after 10 days into my travel when I was to solely talk to someone, as by that point I was only "talking" to cashiers, servers, etc and I was dying for some actual human interaction. Met two cool people that I still keep in contact with. I came back to my country about a week ago and I kept my account because "maybe someone cool will be there". Wrong. Wrong. I was so wrong. There's no fucking middle ground on Tinder: hot """chad""" looking douchebags that are, like you said, only looking to get laid or just ugly men I have no attraction for. Deleted the app after two days.
What bothers me a lot is that some of the guys I saw last week, I saw them two years ago too. Why the fuck are they on there for so long? Why waste time on Tinder??

No. 287547

A few months ago I downloaded Hinge out of curiosity to see what the hubbub was about. I liked the questions you can answer and the video/voice options. It made the experience feel more human I guess? Not sure if that is a decent way to describe it.

However, a lot of scrotes simply swiped right. Like bottom of the barrel, couldn't spell "your" white trash men who think Busch Light is a personality trait. I found nobody attractive, but I am the type to like personality first. I only had two decent conversations with guys. The rest either ended from a lack of motivation for the guy to continue the conversation, or pure desperation. Like, becoming a bit obsessive that I like a song, so they listen to it all day.

I went on one date with a guy that I thought was nice enough. He said he had ADHD and could be a bit too extroverted for me. That date ended up being the worst date I ever went on. Basically went like this.
>meet up at fast food place
>i show up early and hang out.
>see his car (he told me the model) as it pulls up.
>awkward introduction. happy personality he had sudden disappears
>buys me a drink, himself a drink and onion rings
>"anon you can have some onion rings"
>he proceeds to eat ALL of them, with his mouth open
>food fucking falls to the floor
>oh god oh fuck
>try to make conversation. he looks at me as he speaks
>i speak he turns his head to the right and completely avoids looking at me
>god help me just let me get through this
>woman comes around the corner
>he checks out her ass
>at that point i should of just left but since i am awkward and scared of men, i subjected myself to torture
>date ends eventually and i never speak to him. i block his number.

Really pissed me off since we were in a similar line of work and I don't have many people IRL who can relate to the stress.

Eh, without that experience I would not have met my current partner. Don't ask how I met him.

No. 287548

same anon, am retarded and didn't realize i responded to the wrong post

No. 287574

Aw man, I'm curious how you met your current bf because I'm tired of dating apps and I have too much social anxiety to join a hobby group or something like that

No. 288446

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Saged by accident whoops.
Well nonnitas I can safely tell you I never got cheated on. But the bad news is that after one year everything fell apart because I attract emotionally unavailable men who at the beginning treat you like a princess, only for them to let you down like an old toy when the adrenaline rush wears off. I think I'll just start dating women at this point…

No. 288508

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saw this and immediately deleted my profile bye. moids are not worth it

No. 288579

Oh my fucking god

No. 289047

Does anyone have advice on taking better photos of yourself for your profile? I have one of those stands for your phone but I was never a vanity selfie person and I tend to look awkward in photos. But people tell me I'm cuter IRL, so I don't know how to take some that reflect it. I have friends who can take them for me if anyone has advice for that to look good.

I deleted my accounts on apps and I wanted to come back, but I did a 180 with my appearance and my old photos suck, but any new ones I take are unflattering.

No. 289072

Natural lightning and experiment a lot with angles until you find the right ones.

No. 289107

Ah, that's what I tend to do, I dislike filters but nothing I take looks interesting when it's just me holding the phone on front view or putting it on the stand. It's probably turning a lot of people off. I know other good techniques are cool outfits or pictures of you doing interesting things, which I've done, but the people who have seen me say I look better, and I wonder how I can capture how I "really" look to get their attention.

No. 289117

You should get a friend to help you take some pictures of you actually doing things. One or two neutral selfies are fine but if you are just standing around looking like a person it's not really enticing.

No. 290409

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Men bitch about basic as fuck "I like to travel" female profiles, when 90% of male profiles are
>I'm fluent in sarcasm
>Partner needs to have a sense of humor
>I like to have fun
>I like hiking
They're literally all blending together as I'm swiping, I can't distinguish one dude standing on a naked hill from another. Or a shot of them with beer.

The other thing that baffles me are the faceless profiles from cheating guys asking for no-strings attached because they just need an outlet. The whole app is full of fit single fuckboys that are happy to do casual sex, why the hell would anyone want some shady fucking dude while also going behind a woman's back for that.

No. 290415

I hate the hikers so much. It's like 90% of men on there, what are they chances they're all serious hikers? More like they pretend to have a hobby that conveniently takes no particular skill, knowledge or gear to prove you're genuinely into it (anyone can go bushwalking and take a photo), and lbr it's a 'no fat chicks' dogwhistle, since they always claim they want someone fit enough to ~keep up with them~ lmao. I mean, not that they need to like fat girls but we all know they'd be fine with an unfit skinny girl.

No. 290598

>The whole app is full of fit single fuckboys that are happy to do casual sex, why the hell would anyone want some shady fucking dude while also going behind a woman's back for that.
The only explanation I can think of is that they've heard dating apps have made casual hook up easier, just thought that meant anyone would fuck anyone and have no grasp of their "competition". But it's baffling anyway because it's common knowledge by now that men complain about not getting matches or whatever equivalent. I doubt these people get any interaction, except maybe from scammers.

No. 290746

No. 290747

this is why i deleted all my dating apps and havent been on in a while. (why am i itt??) everyone sounds the same.

i used to hate the "i love hiking types" but i genuinely love going on trails now and i see a lot of people claim they love it only to not want to actually go out. lol. and btw, i have a friend i go hiking with often who is overweight, being fat does not exclude you from enjoying the outdoors

No. 290752

Hiking is more or less code for "I don't date fatties"

No. 291530

Are you nonnies the type of person to date a few guys at once or go one at a time when you're looking for a boyfriend and not just fwb/hook ups?

No. 292742

I fucking hate Lex! Any single post you make on there will have the ugliest most disgusting trashy men in dresses crawling out of whatever gutter they live in to ask if you're a sub. It doesn't matter how tame your post is, and you can't say cis women only so you just have to ignore them, at which point the male entitlement hits and they start cussing you out. Literally unusable app because of trannies.

No. 292778

Isn't Lex a "queer" app in general? Why would anyone besides a trans-poly-pan-kinky-whatever use it? I looked at it out of curiosity and even in the literal Bible Belt state I live in it's full of insane TIM/TIF polycule shit.

No. 292998

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Nearly liked a guy on hinge who after a harder look I readied was a new acquaintance I met through professional networking. The only reason I recognised him was because I knew he and another friend of his I met at this event were in a band, and I recognised her in one of his group photos. The joys of being massively face blind while dating.

No. 293040

I was under the impression it was a lesbian app but it seems to have rebranded and is utterly rancid

No. 293160

DA iirc it markets itself as an app for everyone except cis men, so you already know what that means. I have it around for lurking and all the horny posts I see are MTFs or MTF adjacent, all the uwu let's be soft friends posts are straight TIFs or straight "queer" women

No. 293213

I always was a "one guy at a time" type of dater. I mean honestly I can barely find a single guy I'd actually meet lol, I guess people that paralell-date and constantly bring new people into the picture either have a much better quality network of people or have really low standards in men.
If I do find someone I usually start building up a type of inner hype, which is needed for me to even go through with dates and stay interested. If I multi-dated I feel like it'd be hard to feel like any date stands out, knowing my own psychology.

No. 293215

>an app for everyone except cis men
I can only talk about Tinder, it's pretty much the only app where I'm from, but I've gotten to the conclusion that it's the least worse when you're looking for men. At worst you have ugly psychos who might commit a sexual crime against you or straight up murder you, if you opt to also look for women, the worst is the same, but now much more disingenuous with "couple looking for a threesome", "polyamorous couple" or a single woman that isn't disclosing she has a bf who you'd have to sleep with.

No. 293845

I figured this would be the case. At least on tinder they're extremely easy to pick out and swipe left

No. 295080

>I guess people that paralell-date and constantly bring new people into the picture either have a much better quality network of people or have really low standards in men.
This is such a weird thing to say. I've only had two boyfriends in my life and have high standards for men. But the one time I did try dating, I definitely kept my options open and didn't put all my faith in one moid who you know is bound to be (most likely) disappointing. I also had trouble wanting to meet up with any male and only met up with one who turned out to be - you guessed it - disappointing and not what I wanted. While dating him before I found out he was not what I wanted though, I did keep searching for other men. I am taken now by someone who isn't a fucking loser and I did not meet him via these apps with what are essentially leftover males. But there's no shame in keeping your options open instead of stupidly wasting your time with your fantasies on one retard.

No. 295862

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I wasn't sure where to post this but I came across this brave and stunning that looks like that Shayna calf.

No. 295986

I think it's pretty self-explanatory: to have a roster of men to go on dates with, you either have good quality of men available or you have/preemptively lower your standards, the latter of which is basically "keeping your options open" or "seeing where things go". No one said it's a shame, it's a different approach to dating, if you have the luxury to have it.

No. 296376

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There's a lot of drug dealers advertising nowadays on these apps. Pic related just had a bunch of gifs measuring weed and rambling

No. 296379

tomar no cu

No. 297447

What are your nonna's pre-date rituals when it comes to self care?

No. 297804

I would love to make a fake profile and scam men out of Uber/Lyft bux and ghost them. I don’t need the money I just want to pwn moids. Men have cashapped me ridiculous sums of money no questions asked just to meet them and I’m average looking. I know it can be done.

No. 297870

it looks like he was playing a game of Uno in the background kek

No. 298999

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Been on hinge since October 2020, about 12 dates, many more initial phone dates (most of which were horrible- one of them the guy was ignoring me to play with his dog the whole time, another talked about his boss for 20 minutes and one day asked me to drive him 40 minutes to a date… with someone else). Really liked 2 of them and one dropped me because I asked for one phone call a week to catch up in the middle of the work week which was "too much pressure " but gaming an hour every day wasn't. The other dropped me after I cried in front of him after dating for 2 months. Those 2 are the only ones I had sex with and I didn't enjoy it. They both seemes awesome guys initially but changed. The second guy shaved his back and it was very very pokey and sharp which disgusted me but insisted I wax. He was below my league but acted above it because he was rich (I didn't know that until after). He was initially sweet but did a complete change which is what initiated the crying incident. He also severely fetishized my race.

Anyways, I just give up and deleted my account. Getting a workplace crush and not acting on it, plus otome games, is literally 10x more thrilling than online dating. Honestly if I could go back I wouldn't even have tried it. The funny thing is how after 2 years, I can see the same guys remake their profile over and over, including one of the guys who mistreated me. Idk why he sent me a like too. Both of them were venting about having kids before they're old but piss away romantic connections because they require effort.

No. 299534

This still doesn't make any sense. I think you're just dumb, like to waste time and put your faith in one loser who's bound to disappoint you instead of exploring your options.

Hinge is a shit app focused on pictures. I couldn't use it and found it attracts people who don't have much to say. I don't care about your fucking pictures, I want to know who you are and what you're about. Different apps definitely attract different people.

No. 299889

I usually date one at a time and get offended if my date is dating multiple girls at once.

No. 299978

I never got the chance to use many dating apps as most of them came out while I was in a ltr. When I finally did try out Tinder it literally blocked me from the app because as an anon previously posted awhile back, everyone is so fucking ugly. I find any time I've used any apps I couldn't find many attractive people or even FUN people. Also in my experience I think I got quite lucky. My current bf of 2 years I met on Tinder. I think it only went well because I had 0 expectations and wanted nothing out of it. Every other guy on there was so fucking boring to talk to I just ended up not following through with anyone else as well

No. 300073

I have to date multiple at once or I get too hung up on one guy if I meet someone I find cute and get along with. Start having relationship feels and ultimately, if he's an attractive guy (which they always are because I can't feel anything for unattractive dudes) he just wants to fuck me, so he'll try making me feel special and being super sweet, which works on my dumb ass unless I'm keeping my options fully open.

No. 301121

Apparently I got banned from Tinder and I have no idea why, it didn't tell me why. I suspect it's because I had something subtly rude about unicorn hunters and TIMs on my profile (am a lesbian). Good riddance, honestly, since I never got good matches on there. Are there any other apps that have a lot of people but are less bad? I'm aiming for "normie"/mainstream ones, since I tried all the "queer" ones at least once and had a worse experience than Tinder.

No. 301159

How quickly do troll accounts get banned on tinder? I want to make an obvious fake account for shits and giggles but don't want to banned right away

No. 301168

I have a fake account, but I just have pictures of cats and no funny suspicious description, I only use it to lurk, I've had it for several months. I don't think most profiles get reported, even the ones that should, especially if your profile is being shown to men.

No. 301170

For me it's having hot bubble bath while having my face mask on, then I would do my normal skincare routine to make sure I'm feeling refreshed.I sometimes shave depending on who I'm going on a date with, the occasion and how hairy I am.

When it comes to outfits and makeup I trend to pick stuff I like that makes me feel happy and confident in myself. If it's someone I have been on a date with for a while then I sometimes would add a piece of clothing or accessories that the person I'm dating likes on me.

No. 301173

I nearly liked a person I did a training course with, it's stuff like these that makes me a bit anxious about using dating app and people who know me finding me there.

No. 301188

I read this in Patrick Bateman's voice

No. 301210

Fucking kek.

No. 301378

>I wanted to take things slow.
does he have a small dick

No. 302054

What are subtle red flags to look for on a dating profile/on a date?

Im fully aware of the most basic ones but I thinking there must be bunch of less obvious ones that really need to be watched for.

No. 302633

why do i not swipe right on men that i think are too attractive? or when i match with someone i am actually attracted to, i never respond? even on dating apps i shoot myself in the foot.

No. 302647

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some zoomer scrote unironically sent this to me on a dating app. its the most vile and vomit-inducing thing i think i’ve ever seen, although hilarious.
there are soso many things wrong with it, the shitty amazon blue?? batman suit, the fact he edited this himself, the pose ih my fucking god.
whats wrong with them? im baffled

No. 302665

If you're looking for a relationship you are probably doing yourself a favor. All of the guys I find really attractive say they want relationships but they'll just fuck and leave.

No. 302670

Yeah, most of the attractive dudes on dating apps know they're attractive, so they just want to sleep around.
That is, until said moid hits the wall, starts balding and finally decides to "settle down", and by then he probably has some stds.
Moids can never have an ego or know they're good looking.

No. 302710

I know this concept is a recipe for disaster, but which apps let you message someone without matching? Besides that Queer app Lex or whatever. Sometimes blocking creeps in my inbox (which I'm used to) is preferable to a completely empty one.

No. 302755

Nonas, i just want to peg a guy, honest.
It could even be just a one night stand i don't care, but i don't want to get into femdom or serious relationships, is there any place i should look for that is not a psych ward?
I fear that most guys that are into it are weirdos, but it's not like i want to catfish as a gay dude just to have a chance.

No. 302760

I don't get it.

No. 302792

honestly i feel like you could convince some random moid into it if you tried.

No. 302907

Yeah, get one drunk enough and they'll probably go "why the hell not"

No. 303684

jw what the appeal here is?

No. 303692

Revenge but in a pathetic way in my case.
Love can't heal my heartbreak, only pounding a guy will do and i'm shy so i don't know if i will get there, but i appreciate the support.

No. 304028

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Had a dude on Bumble who said he was really not rushing into sex, because he thinks early sex ruins the early relationship dynamics. I said fair enough, I'm not looking for that either way. His first date suggestion? Eating pizza in his apartment. What kind of fool are they taking women for?

No. 306066

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Why do guys like this send me messages? The scowling military guys. I'm slightly chubby and my pics dont hide that, most are candids. All his prompts are about how he wants FIT and FEMININE women who never rest. He looks like a bridge troll so I guess his next best option is to neg a "good enough" chubby girl into working out and becoming his leanbeefpatty waifu stand-in?

No. 306072

>Why do guys like this send me messages?
Because he got zero answer in months/years and has to lower his standards.

No. 306078

Because he's into chubby women and does this shit to neg them. Don't fall for it.

No. 306084

What are six face photos? And I find it hilarious when guys make petty demands in their profiles, as if it wasn't common knownledge that men struggle to get any attention from women in those apps. The more they expose their red flags, the better, but you'd think they'd try to be a bit smarter.

No. 306086

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>25yo moid that's balding, actually he already looks bald
>for whatever reason has a photo of himself asleep in a hospital bed with a tube up his nose
>"choke you"
why would any woman want to pay for an ugly scrote? the overconfidence in that he thinks he'll get a sugar momma kek

No. 311091

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Lex is absolute trash in my area, the only things posted near me were cringe-ass poetry, ftms, and girls begging to be sugar babies. And this one post kept floating around, this is straight up a dude posing as a 'cis queer man' looking for pussy, not even trying to hide it. Wtf. I mean it was entertaining to see what kinds of post were there but I deleted it because I have no intention of interacting with any of these people. What a shame.

No. 311107

I want to post a positive experience.

I met my boyfriend off an app 5 months ago. We spoke about a month before meeting and our first meeting went over 8 hours and ended with a goodnight kiss and that was basically it.

I meet 4 guys off of apps. No real nightmare situations I mean I talked to nightmare men online but never met them. Those 4 men had to work to get me to meet them so I was optimistic nothing mental would happen and nothing mental did. Two guys I didn't want to meet again. Third guy was cute enough I wanted to experience friends with benefits but he fell in love his words then became an asshole and dumped me publically on fb which took me a couple of hours to realise, but fb did lol. He has since tried to meet me but I've been with my now boyfriend and even then I wouldn't want too.

I just held out hope I'm on the apps and I don't think I'm undateable so there must others like me. I saw my bf on plenty of fish where you can just message without having to match or swipe you can click these other ways of seeing people in a list close by and I just immediately thought my bf looked hot. He gave me his number before telling me his name so he's just been hottie in my phone ever since. He was on the apps cause he works long hours like me and is an introvert so you wouldn't find him out in bars, maybe at a football game idk. Basically it all lucked out for me because he's wonderful. Ive had two serious partners before him, one fiance and I feel like I can judge where and how I want to be with a partner.

To be clear I've been on the apps since the first lockdown on and off and it took me until October 2022 to have a big success. The best thing is just talk to people you're attracted too and see how it goes. Conversation flowed so easily with my boyfriend and it still feels so electric and amazing to have this now irl. I wish all my nonnies the best and hope you can find your hotties

No. 313297

Anon how did you filter men? Does anyone have advice as to which type of guys to meet and which types to avoid aside from very obvious redflags?

No. 313299

Why would any woman pay for a manwhore if she's not looking for someone who will indulge her stomach churning fetishes? Straight men really have no idea how prostitution works. They think they can fuck hot young women AND get paid for it. If he wants to fuck for money, he needs to target gay men. A regular old male has no market value by himself. Sorry ugly retard, if you're not an underage boy or willing to be fed shit no woman will even look your way. Even geriatric women can fuck young guys for free. Dumb slut. Just give it a couple months, he'll be blowing truck drivers for fast food.

No. 313322

might as well report him, iirc Lex was meant to be for "anyone but cis men" anyway

No. 313374

I knew this average male friend who's been using dating apps for a few years and recently went on his first date only to get dumped right afterwards. Men who think they can "score" using dating apps are beyon retarded, especially if they're above college age and not particularly attractive. I downloaded an app and got like 60 matches in a few hours while my average male friend gets one match a day and it's usually really ugly/fake women.

No. 313387

this site isn't for incels/men. Please leave. Men have it way easier when it comes to finding a partner or sex regardless of age. Meanwhile for women if she is over 25 she is lucky to find a guy who will use her for an one night stand.

No. 313390

This "men get few and women get lots of matches" myth is BS because between (straight) matches both parties need to swipe right to get a match so the numbers have to be equal on both sides. At least on tinder.

No. 313393

The only incel thing is believing women expire and can't date after 25. Most women only have serious relationships after 25 and I've never heard of a woman who couldn't get dates after 25. Stop acting like we expire then accuse me of being an incel. If you can't date, you're ugly and fat/skelly. Has nothing to do with women or biological age, don't drag me down with you.
Your theory would be correct if the number of men and women were equal but if there's 5 women per man, average woman gets 5 times more matches, kek. It's simple math.
I also did match with women, six or so cute women in just a few hours of having the app which means I got matched with more women than average guy. Do you know what that means? It means the reason why men get less matches isn't women being picky but men being shitty.

While it's true that with men I got a ton of matches, most weren't worthy of pursuing, that's the issue. If men get three matches, they're more likely to work out than my 50+ matches because women are less likely to be as mental or desperate to fuck as men.

No. 313398

If there's 5 times as many women on there, wouldn't that in theory result in more matches for men than for women because men have a 5 times larger pool of potential matches than women in that scenario? Or am I really this fucked at math. Aren't there more men on datingapps than women anyway.

I agree with men shooting themselves in the foot because they just swipe right on any woman for the mere chance at sex though and then they have the guts to complain about it

No. 313400

I mistyped, there is 5 men per women or so I'd say. It's more likely for men to use dating apps obviously so you're correct it was a mistake on my part.
And yeah, guys that matched me I'd say like half put in some effort and some wrote like three paragraphs and such while others… Eh… But yeah. Men are shit at online dating and they expect any woman to sleep/date them with them with no effort.

No. 313554

agreed because women spend their whole life having to vet out men. It's men with the mentality that women have an age limit that end up single, because they live like bachelors well into their 30s/40s and are not taken seriously by women their own age.
hinge remains the best app for lesbian women. my only problem is that dating pool is tiny and people take forever to respond.

No. 313592

I used another app to match with women and most replied quite fast. Maybe you're the issue?

No. 313639

I promised myself I would never in my life use a dating app, but caved in when I became single and overtaken by horniness. I’m in my early 30s and in ok physical shape but kind of homely looking in the face. I ended up paying for the premium feature where you can see the people who swipe right, then picked who I wanted to match with. I absolutely detest having an online presence, so I would only show my profile for short intervals every day, but still got a lot of interested guys. I know for moids it’s a numbers game so they’ll swipe right on anyone, but for many of them it’s still rare to actually match with someone, so when they do it sparks joy.

The guys who had swiped right on my profile where everything from bottom of the barrel to successful looking fuckboys and their age was also all over the place. I only went for the mid tier ones. Never tried any of the really young guys although I kinda regret it now lol. I did 4-5 dates/hook-ups but being newly single I didn't invest too much energy into it. Then I hooked up with a guy and the sex was so good we’re dating now. I think he’s great for a moid, but is an introvert so he was overjoyed to land a gf. Idk if I just got lucky, or if using tinder this way as a girl is a good approach. It felt kinda pathetic paying for premium, but I only used it for a couple of months. I don’t think using dating apps for longer periods of time is good for your emotional wellbeing, so I’m glad it turned out the way it did.

No. 313644

>they just swipe right on any woman
kek yea it's like 5 men per 1 woman and all the men swipe right on all women trying to cast a large net to get just a couple of matches. Men complain they can't find dates but are competing for so few possibilities. Men who get dates are offline and have real personalities, not on tinder. When I'm bored i like to lurk on the tinder subreddit, they have a weekly profile review/help that's like 99% men asking for help to perfect their tinder profile and what photos to pick, or complain how hard it is to get dates. It's hilarious and sad at the same time.

No. 313684

The app I used to get 50+ matches a day only gives men 5-10 right swipes a day, I know because I recommended it to my male friend, so you're wrong. Though I also got more than 35 notes, aka messages before matching and most actually put effort into it, describing their music and film tastes, the stuff they'd like to do, how they define themselves etc so answering the questions I had asked in my bio. If I were to go on a date, I'd rather date an average guy that showed genuine interest rather than the cuter guy who only messaged me hi. The reason why I'm writing this is to prove that incels who don't get matches or replies are the ones in fault, if the girl they're messaging already has 40 or so matches a day, why would she reply to their simple hi message when some guy actually put in effort and tried to get to know to the girl in question?

A lot of guys who post in tinder sub are ugly guys who believe making their profiles interesting will mean that the 10/10 18 year old chick they saw on their app will right swipe, buy him drinks and then fuck him - but I doubt that'd happen. There's too much competition and they'd be lucky if they even got a message back.

No. 313692

>they have a weekly profile review/help that's like 99% men asking for help to perfect their tinder profile and what photos to pick, or complain how hard it is to get dates.
Lmao this is so pathetic. They treat it like they're trying to get a job or something.

No. 314286

How can I make my dating profile interesting but not too artificial? I struggle a lot with my identity and beyond my aesthetic I'm a pretty boring person. I'm not really funny or do any cool hobbies. I realize that is probably the worst possible combination for online dating and apps but I'm desperate at this point and there's no good ways of meeting women irl.

No. 314293

I texted with then and was able to deduce if they were normal or not.

I just want to say it's still going well with my boyfriend lol.

No. 314507

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>be a naive autist on tinder
>talk to a guy for a while
>he’s nice
>add each other on snapchat and ig after maybe a few weeks of talking on tinder
>continue talking there for another few weeks, feels safe
>yesterday evening he suddenly asks for bra/panty pics (we’ve never even met irl much less dating)
>freak tf out
>block him on everything
>get a notif on messenger immediately
>he’s tracked down my facebook and is messaging me all mad i blocked him when he was being a creep

i’m so creeped out like i still feel sick and this was last night. why are men so scary? why can’t they take a no? if i block him everywhere he should get i don’t want to talk to him again, ever. is it male entitlement? do they see it as a challenge? why the fuck are they like this.

did i do the right thing by blocking him immediately? i didn’t feel safe talking to him anymore.

No. 314508

Yes you did, block him on Facebook too.

No. 314509

ty nonna, yes i blocked him immediately on fb too, didn’t even open the message.

No. 314514

Never doubt your instincts anon, you were right to block him and he only immediately proven you right by getting angry.
It's kinda a reason i'll never use dating apps, maybe i'm wrong but it really feels like the scrotes who use these are the worst, entitled kind.

No. 314556

you did the right thing by blocking him

No. 316112

You freaked out because he asked for panty pics? Why is that so bad, if we’ve been talking for a while I don’t think it’s a big deal

But you’re right it would’ve been better if you met up before

No. 316118

Why would you send semi-nudes to someone, especially when that someone is a literal stranger?

No. 316152

It's not okay even in a relationship. Why do you think it's ok for a man to ask a woman to make porn of herself for him?

No. 316166

>Why do you think it's ok for a man to ask a woman to make porn of herself for him?
Because that post is from a degen scrote.

No. 317991

How many matches do you guys get a day and with which gender?
A fat and kind weird girl told me she couldn't get matches at all on dating apps and I'm having trouble believing her since I tried for myself and it seemed quite easy even though I'm just average?

No. 318008

Do you live in the same area as her? To my understanding, the more populated and the more common tinder is in your area the more matches people tend to get, which is kinda obvious but still. That being said I live in a medium sized city in a third world country and months ago I made a fucking meme account on tinder and still got like 80 likes in the first hour.

No. 318020

I got like 80 matches in an hour(kek i swiped right on a ton of guys with a friend to see how many matches I could get) similarly to you and the guys seemed genuinely interested in conversing and stuff that's why I'm confused. She's kinda ugly and fat but I wonder if it's because she also has high standards on top of being ugly? Idk I feel like it's a lie.

No. 318034

I made a fake Tinder account with a picture of some Eastern European babushka choking Sasuke and it got over 60 likes within an hour in a sparsely populated but decently big city. Unless she lives in the boonies it's not that difficult, especially since some men will swipe right on everyone. The bigger challenge is weeding out the sleazebags, cheaters, weirdos and uggos.

No. 318041

I honestly think weeding off weirdos or cheaters is almost impossible.

No. 318058

I am using Bumble BFF to make friends, and I have gotten like 0 swipes, I'm confused. I answer like everyone else? Maybe I don't look fun in my pfp

No. 318064

I wonder if you'd get more hits if you let yourself be a little weird (but like, genuinely unusual, not in a tee hee tumblr twitter way) instead of trying to make yourself look as normal as everyone else. Personally that's what I would try.

No. 318112

The majority of my matches were always men to the point where I ended up switching the "show men" option off for a while because I was more interested in matching with women. I'd say I'm average too, not very feminine either. I'd match with some cute women but definitely not loads and often it felt hard to keep up a convo with them partly due to my autism. This has been the same across most apps for me, Bumble was the hardest for finding women imo but I haven't been active on apps in a year or so, maybe things have changed a bit

No. 318115

goth nonas, how do you ward off fetishist weirdos/porn addicts? i'm at my limit.

No. 318215

sorry but this is really shitty advice. the facade is something you do to filter out psychopaths who say exactly what you want to hear

No. 318230

Old but I would rather be amongst 30 year olds then retarded little 16 year olds who talk about how things have them in a chokehold and the female gaze

No. 318256

Just double down on stereotypes and say unhinged stuff about wanting to sacrifice his blood on a moon ritual and start writing in random characters/sending random creepy pictures.
Ask morbid specifics. It’s fun af.

No. 318269

Can I still do that even if I'm not goth?

No. 318270

Late but some women just can't get any moid attention no matter what, you said yourself that she's ugly while you're average, it's simple as that.

No. 318391

You might be right. I was just surprised because most guys I know swipe without even looking so I assumed regardless of your attractiveness, you got a similar number of matches or whatever.

No. 319732

Has anyone had any luck getting into FWB situations using dating apps? And I mean the type where the dude isn't a weird stalker and it's not a super disappointing and awkward situation.

No. 321925

is there any apps/sites that are best for meeting rich men?
idk if i want a full on sugar baby situation cause those kind of sites always just seem sketchy to me? and i'm not looking for the kind of thing where i go on a first date with a guy and he expects me to fuck him for a bag or something, but i'd like options for dating well off dudes

No. 321945

ive never seen a man say he has a madonna whore complex in so few words
these apps seem so bleak from this thread, i was on them a couple years ago but it was a waste of time

No. 321947

why do you want to date rich men?
honestly nona you seem naive and out of touch, dating a guy for his money isnt a good idea. youre probably the perfect target for men with money who want to fuck you for what to them is pennies. you'd basically be a cheap naive prostitute to them.
those sugar baby sites set off your internal alarm bells for a reason.
you're better off making your own money. if you build a career you can meet "well off" men through social circles relating to your job.

No. 321959

>implying dating a hobo because of love is the opposite of naïve
Trying to date men for money is silly and probably won't work out (there's just too make risks that make it difficult) but I find it funny that you think it's the pinnacle of naivety here.

No. 321965

i didnt say to date a hobo because of love lol
youre silly

No. 321974

kek, sorry, you're right. I have a narrow definition of naïve.

No. 321980

Should I join a dating app/site if I have anxiety about posting my pictures online? I don't want my face fed to an AI and I don't want men to screenshot my profile and share it on meme sites but I know making a profile without adding a pic of yourself is pointless

No. 322007

my family has money and i like the money. i work for my family business in the middle of nowhere tho, so no i cant meet someone organically. youre pretty naive to think everyone looking for someone with money is a poorfag with an ultra normie job

No. 322083

Why not simply try? You don't have anything to lose, and that's what everyone on dating websites did twenty years ago, anyways.

No. 322085

I refuse to have my recognizable pics up and I still get matches. We're lucky men grasp at straws on these apps. Use that to your advantage.

No. 322105

then why did you go on sugar baby sites hahaha

No. 322114

Most rich men want to either have a young disposable woman or a woman that has a similar background. So you either meet them through your career if you have a good career or you chase the same rich men other girls chase in hopes that he'll be with you for a while. Though I wouldn't recommend that because those types of men think they can purchase you and that's weird.

No. 322115

what sort of men do you get matched with? Are they decent? I'm tempted to make a profile without my picture but im on the edge

No. 322195

she didn't even imply that you're a "poorfag with an ultra normie job", just that it can be risky to date purely for money. if you just want a wealthy man, you can try to swipe/date only with those who have a good job listed on their profiles or agree to talk about it. usually men that are actually rich won't get all whiny and insecure if you mention their job or the fact that you want someone with your living standard

No. 322209

i never said i did, can you read?

No. 322255

Nta but if you don't put up a picture you'll probably get very desperate dudes or guys who swipe right on everyone. Men have a small amount of swipes and they usually don't get matches so unless they're very desperate, they don't swipe right on faceless profiles.
Source, I have male friends who use dating apps.

No. 322717

Has someone reach to the conclusion that you are fully happy alone? Getting to know new people has become exhausting to me because I can't find anyone interesting. I have a nice job, good friends and hobbies. I just can't find the will to search for a partner.

No. 328536

Making a faceless profile means the only men you match are gonna be ones who will message every woman(aka everyone they can fuck). You'll only get very desperate men who aren't going to be attracted to you specifically but willing to be with any woman. Also you'll need to put your name and more personal info, I don't see why a picture bothers you more than filling out a whole website about your personal info.
Even if you match with a guy, what's gonna happen when he unmatches you after you send a selfie? Won't that be worse for your self esteem? Because it's very likely to happen

No. 328541

Yes. I've come to the conclusion that coexisting with a male = becoming his servant. Not too keen on being the bottom either. As for other types of relationships, they involve too much compromise still. For me happiness is freedom and freedom is happiness.

No. 328565

I'm starting to feel similarly. I've started to accept the fact that I hate most men. I feel like the Disney tale fantasies and shit really fucked me up because irl men can't measure up to the fictional heart throbs. I'm sure they'd try and say something similar about women, but idc. Most irl men are ugly inside and out. They want you to settle one way or the other and I'm just not willing. I'd rather play the Sims and fantasize about the type of romance I want, instead of trying again with yet another moid and it ends the same. They just don't seem worth all the effort they require. I've been single for a year and overall my quality of life improved exponentially once I stopped worrying or caring about having a boyfriend or whatever. Sometimes it is a little lonely, but then I remember my past relationships, or I come here and lurk the relationship advice threads, or I see yet another shitty boyfriend horror story on the normie net and I decide I made the best decision possible.

All moids swear they're soo different, and that "oh your last boyfriend was a dickhead/he didn't like you for you/you should have chose better", which sure… That's true. But now I am chosing better by chosing NONE of you. They're not all exactly the same, but all men have enough similarities to each other that I absolutely loathe. I've purposely upped the man hate by saying shit I don't mean so any moid who was thinking of annoying me with his emotions knows to look elsewhere and it works well. Except for the "I can fix her" brand of moid, which is even more offensive and annoying. Yeah, I have trauma but it's caused by men. A man's not going to be able to fix it, they just usually only make it worse.

No. 328573

100% this. I have lots of hobbies that I do after work every single day and I really just don't have time. I get all my social needs met with friends and other social groups I hang with frequently, I make good money, and I got my own place + car. Literally 0 reason to depend on a moid who can hold 'but I make the money' excuse over the head and exploit you to become their bangmaid baby oven while he could easily cheat on you because hurr durr man's natural instinct + watch porn and coom + look at other women like pieces of meat. Not to mention that most men don't even make more money than I do.

Moids in general are very out of shape and boring as fuck (no hobbies other than muh netflix watching the most normie shit like the office and video games all day and jerking off to porn) + have a terrible sense of personal hygiene or self care. Most men my age (late 20s) are hitting the wall hard, and they're all fat, ugly, wrinkly and balding. I work out 5 times a week, eat healthy, and stay fit so why the fuck should I even look at these men kek. Most moids at my gym are either manlet roidbros who's compensating for their height (they're all 5'5" or shorter kek) with insane inferiority complex and body dysmorphia, or dads and old men doing light cardio for 10 minutes and creeping on women.

I like the concept of having a boyfriend to cuddle with at night and go on cute dates with, but reality is moids rarely plan good dates / can barely hold a small talk level conversation and all they want to do is get in your pants at the end of the day. Moids easily chimp out and get violent if you refuse to have sex with them + an average male is stronger than a woman. Considering these factors, I don't even want to be alone with a moid. A shame really. inb4 'holy shit you sound sad' but I just use one of those heartbeat sounds to fall asleep while cuddling a pillow, I get good sleep like this and I can easily imagine a husbando cuddling me. I have a high libido but I just take care of it myself. I will never have sex with a moid who's unworthy to possibly pass their genes into the next generation. Too bad I'm straight, it really is a fucking curse.

I really don't think I'm asking for much, I just want a not bald, fairly tall (5'10"+), non-toxic gym bro who can hold a conversation and eats fairly healthy. Don't care about income because I don't plan to depend on him for that, as long as he can pay his bills and he's living independently (not roommates or their mom's basement). But apparently in this market, that's asking for too much and I'm 'shallow'.

autosage for autism + sperging

No. 328585

You dont have to use dating apps, you can give it a try for a day and delete your profile afterwards if you're scared so much. Also if you don't put embarrassing stuff in your profile, you won't get made fun of, saying your fetishes or writing extremist political views are the kind of stuff you need to do to get made fun of, otherwise no one gives a fuck.
This is the dating apps thread, your post has nothing to do with it and no one will read your romanianon-tier 10 paragraph sperging

No. 328588

Why don’t you actually mean it tho?

No. 328590

Mean what?

No. 328596

ayrt (romanianon tier spergfag) and I was replying to this anon >>322717 and not this thread in particular kek, and I autosaged because I know I'm a blackpilled sperg

Getting back to dating apps I've tried all 'major' ones like hinge, coffee meets bagel, okcupid and they all have the same batch of men I sperged about. TLDR is they all suck in their own way. Okc has the ugliest and fattest ones, coffee meets bagel moids are somewhat decent but can't keep a convo + megaboring, and hinge is basically same thing as moids looking for hookups aka tinder.

No. 328597

Tbh even though basically everyone uses dating apps they're all pretty trash. Especially if you're only looking for a male partner. It's like they get on these apps and manage to be even worse versions of themselves because they aren't interacting with you IRL.

No. 328598

I know anons will accuse me of victim blaming but personally I don't think posting your face online is the smartest idea in 2023. There's scary tech and ill intentions out there, better not.

No. 337598

So there's now a thing on Tinder that you can only see a couple of pictures if your own profile only has a couple of pictures? I guess they want to force people to make better profiles, fair enough, admittedly my own is very bad, but it's a fake I only use for lurking. Knowing how shit most profiles are even when you can see everything, I don't think I'll bother adding any pics. It's nice to see the devs are trying, but I'm cynical it'll make much of a practical difference.

No. 337647

lurking on tinder has to be the worst waste of time ive ever heard of

No. 337691

Im using a dating app, specifically hinge,for the first time. I met this really genuine guy whose into nieche and allternative shit like me. We ended up calling each other on discord and getting to know each other better. I’m not currently in the state he’s in, but we’ve come to the conclusion we wanna meet up in the future. Anyways, the only thing I’m concerned about is that he’s very flirty and he admitted he has a high sex drive. I’m virginal as hell. Don’t know how to flirt, or receive flirting in a non awkward way to save my life. I told him this, and he basically said just tell me when your uncomfortable about anything. I want this to develop into something more, but I want to take things extremely slow. I need to secure a more emotional bond before going forward with anything really intimate. But knowing myself, Im thinking in the back of my head that I might be setting this whole situation up for failure.

No. 337706

Anon he just wants your nudes and sex. I doubt he's coming to your state but he doesn't want to be your bf. He is just looking for a easy hole. I'm sorry.

No. 337708

Idk I mean you can get some pretty entertaining profiles.
>I'm as deep as you can peel me off. I love women so much and thus tend not to get along with feminists
>I'm looking for something serious, no playing games or waist time
>Swipe right if you don't take your health and hygiene seriously
>Recently discovered I love being pegged and here to explore it more

No. 337749

Depending on online dating services is too unromantic, but going outside and talking to people is too scary. There is no hope.

No. 338117

meeting and talking to people in person better because a woman's intuition is better at detecting creeps and losers. It's harder to pick up on that stuff through online chatting. Look into stuff like yoga, yoga teacher training, cocktail making classes, wine groups, barista classes, mixers, etc etc just get your foot out the door.

No. 338781

Me to some dude I been fuckin:hey you’re nice and all but we have to stop talking and linking I wish you well
Him: ok
Kek I should’ve just blocked him without saying anything

No. 338792

I don't get it, what was the problem?

No. 338796

I don’t know what I expected “I wish you well too!” I don’t feel sad or anything

No. 338948

sage for blogging

a long time ago, i tried dating apps for the first time after a 6 year relationship and matched with the cutest girl i have ever seen. we agreed to go out one night but both got shy and backed down. i deleted the app afterwards because i was scared.
we saw each other later at a downtown area and spilled our spaghetti for each other but never reconnected because we were both with a busy group.
i will never forget her.
nonas, never let your own shyness and spaghetti hold you back from going on that date. meet that person, face your shyness, and make connections. i will always remember her and wonder what could have been.

No. 343975

Are you me? These apps have left me jaded. Literally all men want is to get pussy with no effort and it's so obvious. No one even has the balls to put that they're looking for a life partner. Long term + open to short sends out red flags for me immediately and makes me wonder how many stds they have. Long term by itself means they still have commitment issues. They are all painfully desperate and it's pathetic. Women with issues really need to stop damaging themselves and giving these moids sex for nothing. All men want is attention, an ego boost, and to waste womens' time without respecting us or caring about our feelings. You're right that men don't have any hobbies except video games and some type of drug problem. It's like they're all npcs. And if they're not the video game loser reject, they're some football bro who drinks beer. Same person, different body. Boring.

I'm talking to the one of the only hot guys I've ever seen in my state and he's autistically going on a tangent about how he discovered buddhism…a month ago! and now he's trying to convert. Dude is a fucking white European. Brain rot. He's pretty but has no hobbies despite being 32 years old and awkwardly sounds like he's still discovering himself. His hobbies included video games (shocker!), buddhism and doing stand up which he also just started a month ago along with the buddhism. Fucking weird losers all of them. Meanwhile, I have tons of hobbies I love to keep me occupied and am 7 years younger. What the fuck is wrong with moids? Even with a pretty face, I just cannot take them seriously or give them sex when they are out of this world retarded.

Also beware of flakes and attention seekers. I had some faggot ask to go on a date then cancel a few days later out of the blue after flirting with me. Fuck. That. There's a reason these men have to resort to these apps.

He used you. What were you expecting.

Ugly men on dating apps will fuck and leave too. I hope none of you think they will treat you any better or be "grateful".

No. 343989

Standup is full of misogynistic uggos with strong opinions and inability to shut up, a man liking standup is a redder flag than the Soviet Union and clear indicator that he's a gross cringellennial who will treat you like shit. The legends foretold it, it is known.

No. 346860

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Just got a like from a guy on hinge and went through his profile and the caption on one of his photos is a link to his dads obituary

No. 346883

im talking with this guy on hinge and his banter is good and interesting. but he works in private equity… so financebro. clearly dude comes from wealth, just based on his profile/alma mater, i'm 100% from an entirely diff tax bracket

ive pushed away meeting people for so long (am 25 now), i feel like i have no way to gauge the right person for me and no where to turn to now except dating apps

No. 347168

these dating app moids aren't going to provide you with anything substantial. if you're going to waste your time on these apps, at least take the rich moids' money.

No. 350208

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Ladies, please understand these are the types of men that use dating apps. I've attempted to go on OKC to try to find something serious and it's just filled with men going "Wahh why no good women out there? Why won't one want to have a good time?" And they're the types looking for hookups and short-term relationships. They don't even have the decency. Too many of them are just there "to see what's up" and then some of the questions they answer, saying how they'll consider have an open relationship, but their profile says monogamous. I'm convinced there's only 5% good men out there who actually want something meaningful, and finding them online is going to be like finding a four leaf clover.

No. 350210

LMAO EW if it helps you feel a little more hopeful, my friend met her Nigel of 5 years on Bumble and he is genuinely one of the kindest, least scrotey men I’ve ever encountered, possibly bc he comes from a family of lots of strong good women. He is super supportive of her and they make a genuinely wonderful couple. I hope you find someone wonderful too, whether it’s on a dating crapp or IRL, nonna.

No. 350214

Lmao wait no who would wanna meet someone on 4chan

No. 350216

/soc/ goes into the other opposite extreme where there's too many freaks. basically everything these anons said:

No. 350221

That's probably a 4chan moid kek

No. 350222

We need a thread to make fun of moids' dating profiles

No. 350225

Who could never hope to attract any normie or normie adjacent woman on a phone app double kek

No. 350230

Most men on soc have sucked more dick that an average pornstar, the only thing you'd get out of dating a /soc/iopath is probably aids

No. 350231

Dating apps provide you the ones who swiped right on your profile and your looksmatch. If you get fat ugly white men, chances are you're a fat ugly white woman.
Dating apps aren't magic websites to help ugly people get attractive boyfriend or girlfriends, complaining about only getting ugly people only exposes the fact that you're ugly yourself. You aren't entitled to any attractive persons companionship.

No. 350232

Yeah scrolling through soc is like walking into a some kind of gay hook up group

No. 350233

I don't see what apps would gain from doing that instead of just showing everyone in your area to keep you wasting time on the app

No. 350235

That makes no sense because I get hot AND ugly men who just happen to be close by.

No. 350237

I'm not white or fat so this isn't true. I live in a town surrounded by Indian men and I definitely get them, but also how TF would I keep having men constantly swiping right when the first line of my profile says I'm not looking for hookups

No. 350244

Lmao that’s not accurate at all but ok

No. 350260

It means both hot and ugly guys swipe right, which is what usually happens. If it's only the uggos, that's the worrying situation.
No one even looks at the bio when swiping, even then, attractive people would neither sleep nor date unattractive people so it wouldn't change their swipe patterns as and would be attractive people looking for similar sort of dynamics - just not with you.

No. 350281

I've talked about this in the vent thread but I went on my first first date ever (using Bumble) and the guy turned out to be a proto-conservative sleazy psychopath in finance who can't keep a relationship and joked way too much and too vividly about people dying. The original post is here for anons who want it
I swear to god he made himself seem like a normal nerdy dude on the app with no partying pics, no fraternity clothes/vibes, said he was looking for a relationship, but then showed up looking like a creepy frat boy. He gave the same vibe that a serial rapist that I knew irl gave before he got caught.
After I got trapped at a two hour dinner with this guy, the whole experience makes me want to do coffee dates just so I can leave if the vibes aren't right. Can any nonas weigh in on whether coffee dates just for the first date might be a better idea? I knew immediately when I saw him in person that he was going to be a piece of shit but I chalked it up to me just being nervous since it was my first date.

Also I don't know if this will help anyone but I later wrote down some of the psychopath red flags >>>/ot/1708565 that I got on the date from this guy in case anyone ever happens to end up with a low-functioning psychopath on these apps. It was fucking depressing because I had been on the apps talking to guys for a bit and this was the ONLY guy who I had interesting conversation with, the other conversations I had were bland af.

No. 350285

Also same anon as >>350281 but has anyone had a guy have thoughtful, grammatically correct messages in the app and then once you give them your number they slack off like a total dumbass with spelling errors? Why would they do this? Should I wait to give my number?

No. 351047

How the fuck do I find something serious? What's a good app for that?
I also want to abstain from sex until at least engagement, if not marriage. I don't think I'm religious. Where the hell am I going to find this kind of guy? Should I go for a Christian/Catholic kind of man? ChristianMingle chads?

No. 351053

I used a similar themed site, but specifically for Catholics in my country. I was religious at the time (mostly from being brought up that way) but I swear my date made me realize even the most "pious" men are somewhat sex-obsessed, but they never let on to it. Trust me, you can read the repressed thoughts behind those squint eyes. Particularly, I went on one date with this guy who seemed normal enough, though he was very cold to speak to, but I expected that from the chats. The conversation was extremely awkward and I never saw him for another, I remember praying that he was not a serial killer. Maybe I am being overly freaked out, but he had the face for it. He seemed like he had never spoken to a woman before and he was staring at my chest for the entirety of the date. We did not kiss at the end of the night, to my surprise. His stares were enough to tell what was on is mind. He was not bad looking, but I was not going to go crazy over him solely for his height. I made sure to cut it off before he stopped putting up the dork act. I could tell if we went out any longer, he would start acting depraved. If you're into dorky mega-virgins (not in an endearing way), go at it. I thought this is what I wanted, at least what I thought was the more approachable type of man. They are not ideal, but then again I think he was borderline-retarded. Most men in my country are religious, so it could depend on where you sigh up from. The site I used looked amateur and was not one of the major sites you think of when you think of typical Christian dating apps.

No. 351054

>Should I go for a Christian/Catholic kind of man? ChristianMingle chads?
no. many of them are closet degenerates, nearly all of them are massive hypocrites

No. 351055

these guys flip flop all the time. it's okay for them to have sexual urges, ofc thats what a man can do, its in his nature. but when their woman expresses this, she has to do it in a 'god-honoring way'. dont get me started on the language they use like "make love". stfu moid, you get an ego boost from thinking you are pleasuring a woman with a measly worm.

No. 351065

You'll never find anything serious on an app. Please meet someone in real life and don't let online moids manipulate you.

No. 351092

>christian mingle Chads
How could that be a thing? What kind of specific situation he'd be in that he'd simultaneous care that much about religion but not find someone within his church? with all the church aunties playing matchmaker too. I swear back when I was a teen a bunch of people around me frequented church purely for the social aspect of it.

No. 351106

no nonnie. a serious christian man wont want a non-christian girl. he will at best try to convert you, and at worst, hed be a "trad" twittertard larping as christian, ready to use you as a tradthot mommy bangmaid tool without seeing you as a person.
very true. mine ended up liking it up the ass. how catholic of him.

No. 351204

Anon's right >>351106 take it from someone who was raised in a Christian community. As a generalisation, genuine Christian man will try to convert you (if he wants to date you at all, it's generally discouraged to date someone who you believe is going to suffer in hell and has "earthly" norms and values). Those who won't are generally the -Christian in name and out of habit only- who will want to have sex before marriage and will drink on saturday evenings and sit in the church the next sunday morning lmao. Also >>351065

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Just got reminded about my dating app thanks to this thread so I went to check them out again after 6 months. Decided to check out OKC and look through the intros people sent to me and ended up finding this comment. Some guys are so gross and sexualizing.

By the way I'm only 5'11" and in my late 20s.

No. 351213

But of course. One rule for women, one rule for him.

No. 351218

EW FELLOW 5’11 NONNA VOMMING IN SYMPATHY FOR U. That is seriously gross I H A T E the freedom men on dating apps feel to be degrading to literal strangers who don’t give any signs in their profile whatsoever that they’re down to immediately get sexual chatting. Reminds me of a fat scrote cop who messaged me talking about how he’s a dom and would “break me” bc I said I have a dominant personality. Barfffffffff.

No. 351223

Would you rather have a 5'6 manlet message you with a less sexualizing and respectful message? All moids above 5'11 think they're hot shit.

No. 351224

Yeah it's sick behaviour.
While the best thing to do is to just block those low-lifes, I would be really tempted to write degrading messages back to them. Like how fat and pathetic that moid was.

No. 351228

Manlets are worse ime because they desperately try to compensate for their height.

No. 351844

Hinge and tinder are making me want to kill myself. I

No. 351925

It could never happen, but in my dreams there’s a dating app just for users of this website.

No. 352009

out of all the dating sites it seems tinder, of all places, and facebook dating actually have some sort of good way of highlighting people who meet your criteria. for OKC i've had to download a highlighter app so i could pass on dudes without much thought. i truly dislike any of that.
honestly though, how do you find guys IRL if you want to avoid bars?

No. 352628

Where can I find military guys to date? I have a fetish.

No. 352637

4chan. Just don't forget to alert us before they murder you

No. 352640

There’s guys in the military on 4chan? What do I do just go there and thirst trap?

No. 352645

Men on dating apps be like
>I’m a 38 year old amateur musician, not sure if I want kids yet and I’m still figuring out my dating goals
If you don’t get the fuck out of your mothers basement…

No. 352653

Military men are cute when they are broken but not too broken, but it is unrealistic to try find that balance. The more I think about the ideal military man, it becomes a straight-up COD character so this may be impossible.

No. 352694

Just use tinder, but from the closest coffee shop to your local military base.

No. 352706

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what's even the point of dating men?

No. 352735

Benis XD(XD)

No. 352737

Are apps the best way to meet women? I'm reaching breaking point and I want to hook up with a woman at least once, but I'm afraid I'm too old (30) for this kind of things since people tend to settle down at my age (which I have zero intention of doing)

No. 352740

but dick is abundant and low value

No. 352751

GOOD dick is rarer than a golden goose egg.

No. 352782

just save up to buy a quality dildo (good dick)

No. 352798

yeah so back to my original question, i'm finding it difficult to care about dating men when i have dildos. is it even possible to form deep emotional bonds with men?

No. 352803

Apps are alright imho because they're convenient. On apps you don't usually have to go through gazillion stages of grief trying to figure out whether a woman you find interesting is even into women in the first place (which is sometimes the case irl). Your age is a non-issue too, I only first started dating and having sex with women in my late twenties-early 30s and I've found quite enough women to go on dates with. IME it's not really that uncommon for women to have very little or zero experience with other women at 30. I've found none of the women I've been with really cared when I was still kinda inexperienced at 30. Conversely idc if a woman I'm interested in is inexperienced at that age either, as long as she doesn't make a huge deal about it and act all weird and self-deprecating and constantly draw attention to her lack of experience (if that makes sense). Just roll with it, everyone has to start somewhere.

That being said, if you want to try apps, be prepared to wade through a lot of straight couples looking for threesomes, poly retards, bihets who just want to text forever and maybe hold hands at most but won't imagine having icky sex with women, ugly ass moids, women in het relationships looking for sidepiece bangmaids to make up for their unhappiness with their scrotes, and insufferable queers kek. Although I'd like to have a proper relationship myself so that's why I'm hyper critical, maybe it's possible to give some annoying aspects about a date a pass if it's only a hook up you're looking for.

I'm also going to use this opportunity to complain about how much I fucking hate dating kek. I'm sick of combing through the trash mentioned above to find women who seem relatively normal and interesting and are monogamous. I fucking hate the poly/open relationship trend that's prevalent atm and honestly I feel like 99% of people who meme themselves into that shit are just in unhappy relationships (but can't admit it), losers who can't find one partner they're actually happy with (a "three partners who are 3/10 each equal one partner that's a 10/10" type of situation if you will), or self-centered, immature hedonists who think they should have the benefits of a steady relationship while also being allowed to fuck around as they like. I hate it all. Basically I'd love to meet a woman who makes me go "wow, maybe there are still people I'd actually want a relationship, glad I stuck with these apps until I found her", but I'm honestly not very optimistic and I feel like I'm just gonna die alone at this point. But I also don't want to settle, because being by myself is still better than trying to date someone I don't really like, so here we are kek

I'm bisexual and I haven't dated a moid in almost a decade (I've only been with women for years), but I entertain the thought of giving moids a try on an occasion when lesbian online dating pisses me off (see my sperg out above). Realistically those fleeting ideas are something I probably will not start practicing though, because I honestly can't see what a scrote could possibly offer me if I'm being serious. Dick? I have dildos and sex toys and those can give me a certain orgasm and don't come with a stupid mouthbreathing moid attached to them. Emotional bond? Yeah, doubt it. Sorry. Maybe it's also my own attitude problem I have with scrotes, but I just feel like I can't form deep enough emotional bonds with them to consider them as potential romantic partners anymore. I feel like the risk of ending up doing heaps of emotional labor and the majority of chores and standing their scrotery is just too much for me. So it's either a girlfriend if I'm ever lucky enough to find a gem among the sea or queerio poly weirdos again, or the life of a spinster. I can't imagine how a moid could improve my quality of life, sorry kek

No. 352817

It really isn’t anywhere near the same. Fucking a real human being is a 1000 times better than a stupid sex toy and im tired of you femcels pretending it is.

No. 352833

the issue is that the "human being" (moid) can hurt you in a thousand different ways if not give you an std or kill you and for all that he won't even try to give you an orgasm

No. 352834

a sex toy won't randomly decide to rape you anally, for example

No. 352836

I’ve heard all this shit before and even said it myself but at the end of the day I don’t care. My carnal desires are my carnal desires and I do not carnally desire a factory manufactured human made object.

No. 352848

I would've almost understood your point if men actually knew how to fuck/how to give women orgasms

No. 352850

go back

No. 352852

It's more about safety than anything. Sleeping with a stranger man is dangerous, even if he doesn't have outright bad intentions, if he's pornsick he can hurt you by trying to replicate things he has seen in porn.

No. 352859

This. I've been celibate for years so the desire and fantasies are strong. Really strong (I've been thinking about joining the apps for that reason) But recalling my 3 previous sexual encounters - they range from horrific to just poor. The best orgasms by far were ones I've given myself.

No. 352862

Kek, this. What a stupid thing to take so personally anyway

No. 352871

a "femcel" cannot exist. women never have issues getting sex. if a "femcel" is real, she is only in search of a deep emotional bond with a man that she cannot find, and that is not her fault.

No. 352875

Been talking to this guy on Hinge and now I suggested we go on a date because I only send a message a day. He is asking me where I'd like to go. Honestly, I'd like him to choose. My first instinct is to go to somewhere loud, but I think I want something quiet so we can actually talk to each other. The loud place just gives me and him the opportunity to move around if things get a bit awkward instead of basking in it. I would love to go to on a trail tbh, but it's not as crowded as I would like for a first date. Difficult choices. I also can't eat a bunch of carbs so restaurants are limited.
I want it to be worthwhile though, he's someone who wants a life partner and to have children so I think I should find somewhere a little pricey, but I just love nature and I'm not one to even want to go to places just because it's "higher value" or whatever.

No. 352878

I'm sure you can think of someplace where the volume isn't too loud, even if that means you have to eat something.
For the love of everything anon do not meet him at a trail

No. 353035

I hate going to restaurants in general, especially posh fancy ones. I don’t care if it makes me low value or a “pick me” my stomach goes into knots on first dates and I don’t want to eat very much.

No. 353137

Anyone have experience with Muslim men on Hinge?

I'm a practising Muslim and want a practising man. I rarely ever meet single Muslim men irl so I was thinking of joining Hinge as I understand you can filter by religion. I've just heard that there are a lot of Muslim men who sleep with kuffar women through Tinder/apps. I'm also generally sceptical about apps because I'm not good looking and apps put a lot of emphasis on pictures.

No. 353139

Men who use apps are the worst. Apps are their last resort. They are unwanted by the women in their social circles for good reasons.

No. 353141

You can date a nonmuslim man who can convert for you. Muslim men who use those apps are either gay or whores, you'd be better off dating a normal guy you'd meet irl and discussing religion.

No. 353143

Practicing muslims on LC truly boggle my mind.

No. 353155

Why? There are Muslim men who take dick up their arse and still say they're religious - same thing for Christian men who sleep around. Plenty of religious women also have views that goes against religion m

No. 353158

You're just making that anon sound like an hypocrite, kek

No. 353161

Well, I can confirm I'm not a philanderer or gay. The only Islamic rule I'm breaking here is gossiping.

Ah, okay. I knew that was the case for most but I assumed since it's harder for religious minorities to find one another, there may still be some good catches about.
Risky strategy. Learning Arabic and regularly practising would be a lot to ask someone to do. And applying conditions only after they've gotten to know me sounds a little misleading.

No. 353162

There is no perfect believer. It's what I'm saying.

No. 353163

Dating is against Islam unless you always have your father or something by your side.

No. 353167

I was planning on having my chaperone with me sitting at another table at the coffee shop/wherever on every date.

No. 353170

I was more so, aside from gossiping, thinking about how it seems funny/strange to me for a woman who has to tolerate misogyny from the religion she's (presumably) voluntarily practicing, and (presumably) agrees with misogynistic Islamic believes/views, to also browse LC where the userbase leans misandrist/is vocal about said misogyny.

I'm not trying to start an infight about misogyny in religion but it seems just about as weird to me as an atheist asking for dating advice on a Christian lifestyle forum. Just a weird clashing of general believes/values. (Yes I know LC users are not a monolith)

No. 353340

I’m straight up suicidal every time someone I like ghosts me wtf do I do. Does anyone else struggle with this?

No. 353342

You should seek theraphy. No one is worth feeling suicidal over, you deserve better than people that ghost you.

No. 353390

don't you know about muslim dating apps like minder or muzmatch? a family friend found a guy of the same ethnicity on one, he seems okay but his family sucks. i don't know how the not-hot muslims get hitched nowadays because most everyone young getting married in our ethnic communities are the well-adjusted and good looking ones. my fuggo male cousin (mid 30s) got an arranged marriage and got a way cooler and more social woman than him but guess he seemed stable enough to her. a lot of these young muslims seem to meet in college like islamic groups, which is what my sister did. my school barely had any muslims and i'm an exmuslim kek so that wasn't for me.

No. 353750

Update, went on the first date. It was at an arcade. Not really much to talk about, but it was awkward for me. I was pretty much the one leading him around the place. One thing that tipped me off was he thought this game using bb bullets was "lame" and the way he was holding the bb gun was incorrect. As someone who's armed, it didn't make me feel like he'd be someone to make me feel protected. After the date was over, I updated my Hinge profile saying I need someone to be comfortable with firearms.
I got a message from him last night saying he'd like to go to a cafe and he was comfortable with me, but at this point I feel like I'd be going on a pity date. My gut is telling me he's just a basic Nintendo autismo with not much experience with love.
Nonnas, it's so over.

No. 353753

a man with guns in the house is more likely to use them to hurt you or kill himself. the fantasy of men protecting women can be dangerous. you might attract retarded gun nut types.

No. 353769

I live in a place where it's more common to have a gun than not, and the ones that don't are really against it, and with me having 2 guns in my house, working with a gun attached to my hip, and target sheets displayed on my walls, they'd absolutely flip.
I work with a handful of gun nuts, so I have a basic idea of what to look out for in things they say and do, so that's pretty much covered.
My life goal is to have a homestead so finding someone who's into hunting would be a benefit for my wishes. I know the risks this is going to endure, but I absolutely cannot date someone who will have a panic attack when I'm in my work uniform.

No. 355169

When he’s under 5 ft 8 and says he’s looking for short term fun

No. 355184

Your obsession with guns and your job is autistic. I'm a doctor but I wouldn't refuse to date a man if he's scared of surgeries or blood, lol. Not like he's gonna be working by my side.

No. 355187

> I need someone to be comfortable with firearms.
One of the most burger thing I have read here. The dumbest too

No. 355189

>he'd be someone to make me feel protected.
why would you even want that? like the nona above said, it's stupid because these types are also very likely to hurt the woman they're supposed to "protect", and what's up with protecting a cute harmless boy yourself?

No. 355206

>what's up with protecting a cute harmless boy yourself?
I get it, but in reality, a moid who would stand there cowering while you risk your life for him is trash.

No. 355231

Isn't the whole point of carrying a firearm as a woman that you can protect yourself? I'd sort of get it if you asked for a guy with big muscle since you can't really beat another man when it comes to raw strength, but firearms? When they already even the playng field?

No. 356295

Remade my OKC, since I was reusing the profile that I had when I met my ex 2 years ago, and landed a date with a guy in less than 24 hours. He seems very mature and well rounded when it comes to goals and how to manage life, we share similarities with what we want in the long term so that's a huge plus. He's not a gamer, thank the Lord. I kept getting intros from absolute units and retards with my old profile, so I knew something had to change. This guy planned everything out, he offered to pick me up, I declined, but he's even taking me to go eat lunch. Never had a date like this where the guy initiated. I'm finally scoring some confident men.

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I’m talking with a guy on Bumble but he’s clearly too handsome for me, he look really interested in me but I don’t now, I can’t but talk back to him in an extremely defensive weird and awkward sarcastic way. I must look insecure af and I don’t want to seems fragile and being taken advantage at because of… I’m a big mean and feral sexy tiger fuck FUCK

No. 357545

I've been on a few dates with this guy already and he truly is a gentleman. He's paid for all our nights out. He opens the passenger door for me. He makes a very decent amount of money. He appreciates the simple life. He wants to have a traditional based relationship minus the need for religion to be in the equation. We discuss the lasting needs we'd want in a long term relationship rather than focus on mundane activities to try to bond over. He asks me if I'm feeling okay and what's on my mind when we get closer to each other. By the end of our last date, we were in each other's arms, giving little kisses and cheek to cheek, discussing what we were going to pack for our picnic date and already planning the next date after. He's such a simple man. It's so fucking refreshing to actually find a guy who doesn't want to turn the conversation into his gaming/social media addiction cope, he's so against doing things to an extent that don't benefit your overall health. He's emotionally available for a relationship. He wants to make our relationship official, but we have decided it's more rational to wait a bit to ultimately decide. But so far, no red flags on this guy for me.
I'd guess the only yellow flag is his excitement taking over and before we even met in person, he was calling me terms of endearment, but I was able to critique that and he apologized. He's overall a very mature guy and it is obvious he's ready to settle down, both of us are in our early 30s, so it makes sense because I genuinely want that for myself too. I want to give myself some discipline and not have sex with him until I get to meet friends of his and he meets mine, social vet a bit, and when we're able to say I love you to each other for a few days. I feel like the I love yous should come first before that level of intimacy is established, whereas I've had sex with previous partners before I even knew they had no actual friends and didn't get to fully realize how much of a slob they were at home. Trying to really take this slow, but I'm very comfortable with this guy already.

No. 360517

Okay anons, how long should you be talking to a guy on an app before making your intentions clear? I just want some no strings attached fun with a guy or two but I don't know how to tell them what I expect.
Also I found that the guys that act nice are usually way out of my league but they also don't bring up risqué stuff and seem more serious, do I still have changes of hooking up with them?

No. 360521

Are you kidding? You can say it immediately. No strings attached is the default state of all the exchanges on apps, don't assume that if they wanna take you places or don't get risqué immediately that they're too serious and not sex minded. The whole app is your oyster, much harder to be seeking love than casual sex on there.

No. 360523

I've had guys stalk me after I tried cutting contact with them so I want to make it clear that I'm not looking for anything long term from the start. I think most men aren't looking for love but they're looking for long term relationships and a partner they can regularly be intimate with.

No. 360524

Then you were interacting with low tier bpd males. Aim higher in looks department, fit playboy types can't hurt you if you're just looking for something casual and they dont get attached.

No. 360525

Are you retarded? I didn't go for ugly men, one of the stalker guys were so hot my friends were shocked he was into me because they thought i was too ugly for him lmao.
Both ugly and handsome men can take rejection badly and react violently. Stop victim blaming me when you're retarded enough to search for something serious on a dating app. You can't lecture me on men and then try to meet your future husband/long term partner on a dating app people only use for casual relationships.

No. 360531

Nta but the best thing to do is to not give them your real name, preferably not any real info, use a Google number. So you can cut them out at a moments notice and they don't have anything to go off of. It's harder if you park your car there but you can arrange for an Uber maybe? Sorry anon

No. 360532

Thank you anon. I'm sure most women have been stalked to a degree whether that be online or an obsessed ex so I think we all worry about this.
And yes I give a second name I don't use and won't give my number. I'm being slow and trying to find someone I can trust before I actually meet up with them, anyone to obsessive, clingy or dysfunctional in another way is out of question for me.

No. 361408

anytime a hot guy likes me on hinge, i just get massive imposter syndrome. why are you liking my profile??? im so boring and average. theres no way someone that good looking would ever want to get to know me. and then i hit the X button

No. 364582

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Why are all the men on dating apps so fucking ugly?
So. Fucking. Ugly.
Everytime I open a dating app it feels like I'm doomscrolling through hairy ugly down syndrome motherfuckers that have the nerve to make pictures with the most retarded lip sucking eye squinting poses then send me a message saying "Hey gorgeous". As if I want to even be within an inch of you you disgusting ugly scrote. Everytime I download a dating app I inevitably delete it just 30 minutes later because i get fugly-overload. It's enough to give me stomach poisoning and not leave my bed for a week. Just please for the love of God just once let me see a man who isn't a complete eyesore to look at.

No. 364607

whenever i download it the first time I get chads and I match with most of the weirdly hot dudes while the average ugly dudes swipe left on me(?). Try to swipe right on everyone, maybe you swipe right on "men in your league " so the app shows you men who look similar? Idk.

No. 364608

They swipe right on everyone, so should you. I judge someones interest based on messages rather than them having swiped right because of that.

No. 364611

Desirable people don't need to use dating apps

No. 364615

nta but not true unless youre in the millenial/boomer agerange where only men your age on the dating apps are probably looking to cheat or groom young women. A lot of the attractive young people there are only looking for hookups though.

No. 364631

Most of the guys that message me don't even read my profile so I we're not compatible. I don't want children so it makes it even harder to find people. It's easier to have them come to me but most people DON'T READ. Also echoing what other people said, so many ugly/average looking moids. All the good looking ones are probably taken or not on dating apps at all.

No. 364637

dont put that youre looking for serious stuff on your profile, theyll see that and lie about wanting a future OR you will pull alt-right losers who want a gullible woman to help them pass their shit genes.

No. 364639

Did you mean gen x/boomer?

No. 364665

no i mean that about both millenials and boomers. Usually older men on dating apps already have a wife/girlfriend. If i remember the stats right it said somewhere around %30 of men already had a partner.

No. 364671

It’s bleak, isn’t it? I thought maybe I was being too harsh, but the men in my age range (mid-twenties) are ugly as hell. On dating apps and IRL. So many guys are pudgy and have bad hair with moon faces. Are awful genetics just more prominent now? And as other anons said, anyone actually good-looking that I find on these apps just wants to hook up, because they can and know there’s slim pickings.
Those that say that attractive people don’t use apps, where do they hang out then kek?

No. 364680

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swiped right on my work crush last night, not feeling great about it lol

No. 364689

Why wouldn’t it apply to gen x too though?

No. 364752

>where do they hang out then
They meet at work, school or with friends in common.

No. 364810

Already graduated
My work is full of boomers.
>With friends in common
It’s over kek

No. 365082

Tried several dating apps,honestly have no interest in dating anymore and no longer have a shy twink nerd fetish because gosh,they have no personalities other than wanting to jerk off to porn or ask me inappropriate questions about my body or just playing video games all fuckin day.they turn into shit anyway becoming fat, growing a beard,pornsickness, becoming an incel etc.im so over this already

No. 365517

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Bi/les anons, how would you rank these apps from best to worst for meeting women?



No. 365708

isnt there a limit of likes on hinge though? i thought guys had to be more selective there

No. 372279

Still bad at these… what are some good conversation topics? Also when should I expect to exchange numbers/meet up irl with someone??

No. 372290

when I was on the apps (off them now and successfully dating someone I met via tinder thank god), I would just try to get basic information about the person, like what neighborhood they live in, what they do for work, what they studied in college, basic hobbies, etc before meeting irl asap for a real date. then exchange numbers after the first date, assuming it went well, to schedule second date

No. 373999

What would you guys do if you were on disability, with no friends and a regular support worker that came around to help you with your autism?

Think theres any hope for those people to find anyone?

No. 374000

I mean, probably not. Since this person needs a care worker, the partner is either going to have to tolerate the care worker in their living space, or become the care worker, and no one wants to do that. Maybe if the person found an equally disabled partner.

No. 374006

why would a shy twink-like nerd be on a dating app? You should be staking out the Lego or Warhammer store.

No. 374491

How do all these women have beautiful, model tier pictures on their profiles? I'm not torn up about having no chance with any of them because they all looked as bihet as it gets, but it did make me feel super self conscious about my profile. My pics are all random selfies of my face taken in my living room because I hate being photographed and taking selfies in public makes me feel like a dipshit. Whenever I did interesting things in the past I just took pictures of whatever it was and never asked anyone to take a picture of me doing it.
I know scrotes are desperate enough to match with anything vaguely human but I'm looking for a girlfriend. Is this app just showing me the cream of the crop because I'm new or are those super interesting profiles normal? Do I need to book a flight to the Caribbean for a photoshoot?

No. 374509

they're probably bots using model's pics. dating apps are full of fake accounts using stolen images

No. 374515

what is the purpose of doing this?

No. 374521

No, most of them seem to be actual women. They apparently just lead extremely interesting lives and take lots of pictures of themselves.

No. 374555

Some of it is photoshop. I’ve seen on Reddit lots of men and women asking for their face to be photoshopped onto a dressier body or a more interesting background.
That and well there’s also just way more attractive women than there are men. The men either look suspiciously shooped or they’re complete slobs.

No. 374845

to keep men using dating apps. there are far more men on dating apps than women, so the people running the apps create fake female profiles to keep men's interest. my friend got interviewed a job doing marketing for a dating app a while ago and when she had the interview, the recruiter pretty much told her her role would be to run multiple accounts posing as different women and text all day to keep the men's interest in the site.

No. 375595

I've only tried Hinge and Tinder, and Hinge is much better by far.
I personally only found couples looking for a third on Tinder, but it could just be my area

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No. 380995

Dating app nonnies please post more dumb scrote profiles they make me laugh

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No. 381000

Everything he says is a giant red flag

No. 381017

I can't imagine he gets any matches that are not trolling him. He's a bum.

No. 381032

My 60 year old dad looks younger than this dude, this is the roughest 39 I've ever seen good god.

No. 381036

Kek please nona, he’s obviously not 39.

No. 381066

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Got complimented by a footfag once KEK

No. 381071

Please don't use dating apps for your own good, you're too naive.

No. 381079

I've seen super rough people, especially troons, you never know.
I don't, I was just passing by, but you're right, I have autistic tendencies and I tend to take things at face value kek.

No. 381085

>paying him to worship your feet
KEK fetishfags are delusional as all hell. He should be paying women to even be able to touch their pinky toe.

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No. 381091

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kek no comment

No. 381096

girl just don't mention those things and hope he doesn't notice kek

No. 381104

Yes I do. Probably much harder than normal to meet someone and you’d have to screen for creeps even harder.

No. 381106

This is horrid

No. 381266

If a moid has their career listed as teacher on a dating app, is that a red flag?

No. 381300

Why would it be?

No. 381319

Yes, especially if he teaches middle school, high school or is a college professor

No. 381324

Pedophiles will become teachers only because they want access to kids. Not every male teacher is a pedo of course, but it’s really common. My family moved a few times so I went to multiple middle schools and high schools, and every single school had teachers who all the students knew as the creepy ones, they were known for either staring at or flirting with girls, being handsy with girls, or even full on ‘dating’ or sleeping with them. There were always multiple at every school. And male college professors ALWAYS sleep with their students and view them as their dating pool.

No. 381331

This. I’ve rarely encountered male elementary school teachers that were pedophiles (most I met were really enthusiastic about teaching), but males that teach middle school, high school, or college are almost always pedophiles. They’re too close to female students and get flirty, and some will touch inappropriately. Talking from personal experience unfortunately.

No. 381345

Male elementary school teachers are also pretty rare, and weirdly enough they're the ones normalfags think are nonces.
It also doesn't help that those men who do are the ones who get fast tracked for admin positions. Rooster in the hen house kinda vibes.

No. 381828

Fucking hell I was going on a walk after work to stretch my legs and I passed someone who looked vaguely like a guy I met up with on Hinge two summers ago. Sure enough, it was him because he texted me right after to ask if it was me. He wasn't a terrible person, but I stopped responding to him after a few times of hanging out because I wasn't feeling it. Is it rude if I completely ignore his text? I don't have an interest in meeting with him again so I don't want to give off the wrong idea, but I also don't want to be unnecessarily rude. inb4 moid feelings don't matter. if he was a girl, would it be shitty of me to not respond to that text?

No. 381839

not responding isn't rude, you don't owe him anything and if he was a woman it wouldn't change anything either

No. 381888

>if he was a girl, would it be shitty of me to not respond to that text?
That's not a fair comparison considering you've only met him in a dating context previously and that wouldn't be the case with a girl (presuming you're straight) and a man is more likely to interpret a reply as you being interested as opposed to just being nice.

No. 381953

You nonas are right. I deleted his number off of my phone, so it’s done. I think replying to him would have just delayed the inevitable so it’s better to not even start, even if it’s just to be nice.

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No. 382257

So. Is there more

No. 382296

Does anyone have the experience of redownloading the apps years later and seeing the same guys from years earlier? Why the hell are these mfs always the first ones I see and why are they still on the apps so many years later? Are they even real?

No. 382304

Soooo, any update?

No. 382608

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I always love going on passport mode when I’m bored

No. 382753

Lmfaooooooo i’m cryinh

No. 382909

>I don't pay you
Fucking hilarious NO woman is into this shit and the only ones who pretend to do it solely for money only. Men are genuinely terrorists

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