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No. 248328
The good, the bad, the ugly. Share your experiences here, what are the best apps to use, your success stories, cringeist interactions, horror, etc.
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>>>/g/82463 No. 248648
>>248641Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I don't know if it's because of the wall or if it's because men just decide to lose all sense of personality/style once they enter their mid 20s or if it's a gen Z thing. Zoomer men are probably awful in their own way, but they're more likely to dress nicely/interesting and be less boring on their profile.
I also connected my Spotify just to see what my top artists were, cringed horribly and disconnected my Spotify only to see that my top artists are still showing up on my profile. Fuck this is going to be so horrible and embarrassing.
No. 249016
>>248357I have to also agree with anon
>>248610 about Okcupid. So far the only guys that I've been on date with on dating apps have mainly been on Okcupid with one being from Tinder. I hardly get any matches on Bumble and I kept forgetting to create an account on Hinge.
I also recommend staying far away from Badoo, too many weird randos matches with me and send me messages before I can even see their profiles. I tried it out of curiousity and I regretted it.
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Am I being too picky if I consider these teams a red flag? Never had a good experience with a Raiders/Dodger combo fan
No. 249310
>>249285Had a similar experience a couple years back, short tech loving guy with pics of him next to a marvel statue. I had just moved to a tiny new town and knew nobody here. He mostly just looked non threatening so I gave him a chance. He went from being amazed that a woman actually messaged him to getting so lazy with responses after one day. I was leading the convo and he talked about himself without flipping the questions back on me. He wasn't interesting enough for it to make sense that he talked about himself so much. He made a couple comments that I think were attempts at seeming confident? They didn't land and I noped out. I've spotted him a few times since then irl. Always shopping with his mother. Never with anyone else. Small town boy who has never left home. Why did I even…
Any time I've gone near a guy that ticks those three cursed boxes (short, tech, marvel) they've been the kind to tell you you're their first date in years.. then they make you pay for your coffee separately to theirs and want date number 2 to be at your house. They certainly don't help themselves get out of their dating rut. I've been dealing with low confidence at the times when I attempted to date down… it's never gone well. Might as well aim higher if the 'grateful nerd' stereotype is a myth and most of them are as rude and cocky as anything now.
No. 249318
>>249287Are we shilling 4chan as a means of online dating now? I knew there were plenty of desperates on here dating 4chan moids but I didn't think we'd go full on retard mode recommending it.
Ladies don't go there for any contacts, it's full of misogynistic scrotes. Even if he appears to be a ""good"" one on the surface, he's still exposed to women-hate rhetoric on the daily basis. When that happens it's inevitable it's normalized to him in some capacity. As a woman you're only putting yourself in a bad position by contacting moids off /soc/. Don't be retarded and just go on normie dating apps.
No. 249626
I feel like I got so lucky with a cute guy I met on Okcupid a few months ago. He's only a few years younger than me and we have been on a few dates so far, I hope he ask me out.
>>249272To be honest I do match with a lot of weebs which goes nowhere. The previous date I did get from Okcupid was more like a normal nerd guy who has seen one anime. The guy I mentioned above is an anime fan but he's more of a shy awkward nerd. I rarely ever found poly stuff on my Okcupid.
No. 249763
>>249287I met my bf off this and tbf he is not a 4channer at all, just a bored normie who decided to use the site after hearing about it in media during pandemic when people were stuck online and couldn’t go out. Definitely use friend finder threads but you’ll still bump into coomers and mentally ill moids.
I’m very grateful to have him, he is the opposite of a 4ch moid, kind and considerate, respectful, beautiful (he looks like a crossbreed between Clint Eastwood and Timothy Chalamet), polite, dresses well (by my standards, he dresses vintage and posh which looks good to me), and he comes from old money too so he has all sorts of antiques and interesting historical knowledge, also reads poetry, enjoys literature and loves classical music. Very smart boy as well, knows in-depth knowledge about politics, geography, history, philosophy - can have all sorts of deep discussions with him. He’s always learning and feeding his big brain. I think that’s what I love most about him. And he’s incredibly hardworking and disciplined, hardly uses the internet because he’s always keeping busy. I’m a loser in comparison to him lol but my god I love him so much and this has turned into a rant I’m so sorry lol
Also I didn’t get scammed or anything. I live with him now and met his family. I still feel very much an outsider because I didn’t go to prestigious schools or met important political figures. Hoping that they don’t look down on me and think he’s settled, which they probably DO think lol - there had been some dramatics when we first started dating but they’ve accepted me now because I make him incredibly happy
No. 249777
>>249776Lmaooooo virgos are a trip. Idk man, at least the fatties are not catfishhing you.
I once met with a man for a date and he was using a photo more than 5 years old. I didn't even recognize him on the date- told him
I was saving that seat. That was fucking awkward and 20 minutes later i circled back to the fact it was fucked he used the old photos.
He got angry and rude and I walked away.
He proceeded to yell at me across the parking lot and blew up my phone for 4 hours straight until I blocked him (way back, like 10? Years ago?)
No. 249781
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>>249763I met my bf through KF and we’re set to get married soon. Granted, I’ve always kinda had a crush on him and would get excited if he liked my posts etc. I was surprised when he dm’d me on discord. Wouldn’t recommend finding anyone on KF though kek.
No. 249788
>>249781Aww! That's so cute
nonny! Are you nervous for your wedding?
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>>249781What r ur usernames?
No. 249796
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>>249788No, not really. I always knew we’d get married the moment when I felt he was a safe person. We’ve been together 4 years this July.
>>249793Sorry girl I can’t give that info out. We’re not trying to get the most coveted KF achievement lol.
No. 249812
All of these last few posts make me sick.
>>249781How would one even form a crush on a forum user? This larp is too weak.
No. 249957
>>249812It's weird and hard to explain but I always felt a connection??
>>249834No it's real, all of our friends know about where we met except the parents. We're long distance too but have met multiple times. I'm moving there this spring though.
No. 250428
>>249763i also have a bf of higher status than me as well. my bf is a normie type of nerd (not a 4channer) and probably never used image boards. i got lucky because i met him irl through a college course. he wanted to date someone smarter than him but he knows a lot of guys who would purposefully try for the opposite. be careful to all my single nonnies out there, apparently guys seeking out dumber women is common bc it's an ego thing but imo it's really worrying if you think about how many women get stuck in
abusive situations and are reliant upon a male partner.
No. 250793
>>249318I met my ex through there by his friend who is a soc user. My ex was instead a reddit user which is arguably worse imo. However, I rather not go on soc again to find a relationship, especially a serious one.
>>249763>>250428I am happy with being single, but nonnies I am SUPER jelly! Like how is it possible?? Of course all the guys I would be into are taken, but I am happy you found guys who made you happy! Good wishes!
I rather be single as I feel that most guys cannot catch up to me in conversation, ambitions, goals, etc., and the few guys I like… I get rejected because I get super nervous or eager so it never works out. It does not help that I am picky, but I rather die alone than settle.
No. 250819
>>250793Keep that mentality
nonny, never settle for anything less than what matches your ideal or goes above your expectations! But it also helps to put yourself out there, even dating apps. They’re exhaustive and what not but there are diamonds in the rough, it’s just a matter of right time, right place so it feels like fate. That’s what happened to me and I’m so happy I never settled and waited for the right one! I don’t believe that “love finds you” - it can’t find you if you are holed up in your room and never reach out and give it that opportunity to find you, so yeah, definitely do whatever you’re comfortable with to help that person find you, whether that be dating apps, in-person events, or the internet
No. 251019
>>250819Ayart and I do put myself out there on a whole bunch of apps. And if I have no interest then I am not afraid of telling guys that as well. I also ask them if they are interested in going out again to gauge interest. I am not afraid to voice my wants because it makes me feel more in control and I worry less about if a guy likes me or not. I am not going to waste my own time and attention on a guy with no interest in me.
I am still hopeful in finding love with a kind, and caring man who takes care of himself and respects me with similar interests and values.
No. 254285
>>254208>Is having a fuck friend better than having a relationship?why? so the guy can still use you as an emotional dumpster without actually having to give anything back?
>>254216 is right, fwb are so stressfull for women, don't bother.
No. 254614
>>254322I'm in my mid 20s and I also have no time for that either. so many of my friends either are getting married or had partners for 5+ years
>>254216>>254285yeah definitely can't do that, it's too emotionally draining especially if someone ends up getting feelings or feel like they are supposed to be exclusive with the fwb
No. 254696
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What kind of pics do you like best on dating apps? I want to set up an account but I have no good pics of myself recently. I never really take selfies and I don't have any interesting pics of me doing anything except like graduation pictures from like 2019… I would like to show myself actually doing things in my photos instead of just selfies bc I feel like that would attract people who would be interested in what I was doing rather than just looks if that makes sense
I could unironically have fishing photos like scrotes since I do that kek
No. 256704
>>254614I tried the FWB because I too thought maybe I should try it as most men don’t seem to want anything serious and let me tell you, unless I’m just extremely unlucky, it’s a scam of giving men what they want with very little in return and they will treat you like shit for it and feel 0 guilt as their excuse is they didn’t lead you on. After the deed is done they will distance themselves and be less friendly, and because of conveyor belt of women on dating apps men are spoiled for choice you become a pump and dump and there is no reason to really do it again with you on to the next. It wouldn’t be so bad if they were just honest and used the term “one night stand”,
friends with benefits is so misleading as they usually cut the friendship off as soon as things get intimate.
I’m a little bitter because I feel regardless of what path you choose - looking for friendship, relationships, fwb, the end result is going to be the same dealing with cumbrain moids.
No. 257148
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I'm going to stealth some subliminal cows into my dating profile somehow. If i ever meet any of you nonnies in the wild use the word 'anonitas' and then we'll both know we're farmers
No. 257375
>>257257thank you for affirming my belief that nothing is wrong with me :)
i do admit that my profile probably makes me look a little intellectually intimidating to men just looking for girls dtf. which i guess i am fine missing out on them since i don’t even engage in casual sex. i’ll try hinge in my area and hope i have some better luck!
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>sign up to lex
>it's all picrel
I hate Hinge and Bumble though so where do I go from here?
No. 259231
>>254696All the typical advice is bullshit imo. All I want to see are solo shots with different angles and lighting. "Hobby" pics are stupid, and so are group pics. Mirror selfies are fine. I swipe left on any profile that looks too "slick".
>>256987I also swipe left at any hint of negativity. It's a turnoff whether or not it's applicable.
No. 260438
Well nonnies, I managed to meet a non weird man on one of the most degenerate dating apps out there. Feeld is the dating app for kinky people and I made an account in moderate desperation browsing for softer (more submissive) men who looked masculine. A diamond in the rough sure, but sometimes I browse out of curiosity. Last time I checked it out it was full of fedora-wearing or spiritual or generally degenerate men but the profiles were good for a laugh.
Though I ended up chatting to this relatively normie guy who was told about this app through a friend and we went on a pretty good date tonight. He's very offline, a little older. I spoke fairly openly about sex given the context of how we met and he seems just… normal? Which I really like, it exceeded my expectations of the particular type I was looking for.
Surely there's something wrong with him, but given I'm not looking for anything too serious at the moment he seems like a nice person to chill out with, fuck relentlessly, listen to music and chat over wine. It's early to say obviously, but it's overall nice to feel respected and treated well on a first date, on top of them being interesting and hearing you out, let alone from an app like Feeld.
No. 260454
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>>260438Also I've compiled just some random profiles from the app to show you all what a true range of men (I have it set to women too but they're all the same type of alt poly coloured hair overweight women you'd expect) but here, enjoy
No. 260840
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Disgusting. The first thing my profile says is no single fathers.
No. 261180
>>261071His profile also said he got kicked out of Knott’s Scary Farm.
Wish I had asked him why but I was so disgusted about the 4 baby mommas I blocked him immediately.
Bet he thought he was a cool tough guy and assaulted a performer.
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Maybe we need a dating apps cringe thread
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Seggsy time
No. 261590
>>261300This
is the dating app cringe thread.
>The good, the bad, the ugly.99% of scrotes on OLD are bottom of the barrel, so most things here are "ugly."
No. 263146
>>262527Maybe once every few months to a year, it depends on how much of an impression you're trying to make.
>>262534A guy who I met on Okcupid, as well as matched with me on tinder too, uses photos from back when he was a university student with all his friends, he's currently 27. In his dating app profile he looked like a tipsy mess and was clean shaven. I went on a date with him last year and he looks quite different than his profile. He has a beard, mustache and he gained a bit of weight but he looks kinda better than his profile.
No. 263955
>>249813Misogynists are everywhere men are. Do you really think tindr and bars are misogynist-free lol?
>>249819NTA but this is correct
nonnie! Unfiltered talking let's you really know who someone is.
I get frustrated with empty profiles and the performance acts people do in person.
It's better to get as much information as soon as possible.
Especially because you can talk for someone for months or years without them ever opening up too.
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How retarded and delusional should i get before i go and try bumble premium just for travel mode to find my overseas crush. Also kinda wanna try ldr lol
No. 265812
>>265809Kek. I'm the one of those who replied and I thought you were joking. Ok so, don't use filters buut do a light makeup look and always take pictures using flattering lightening. Maybe do your hair and get a cute outfit, take some pictures outside with a friend or something.
Most people won't notice your skin issues so don't worry about that, just present yourself the way youll look on the date.
No. 265821
>>265809and this is weird, but How can I get on a dating site that will make it hard for just anyone to go on my profile?
I have a fear of my family finding out i'm on a dating site. I don't want to post pictures but at the same time, I know I won't get any attention unless I do. Whats the best sites to limit in a way WHO can view my profile/pictures?
No. 265875
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I thought Lex was a dating app
No. 266789
>>266779That sounds a bit silly to me anon. Of course if he’s on a
dating app he is going to be matching with and messaging other women, that’s the whole point. It would be a red flag if he sent your friend some gross low effort pickup line or bombarded her with messages, but writing a paragraph (that is presumably related to her interests) doesn’t sound desperate to me.
No. 266878
>>266874Censoring haram words that way like, may Allah forgive me for saying this,
twtter, predates twtterfags doing it
No. 266977
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I tried tinder for the first time that app is so messy. Why are they so upfront about their bdsm kinks
No. 266983
>>266979Totally fine with vegans as long as they don't try to convert me (I'd like to go vegetarian but no further).
Not sure what woke entails so I'm a little suspicious of that one. If you mean they're politically left-leaning but not a psycho about it, that's not a deal-breaker.
Would heavily consider dating an FTM or bi male if I really thought we could be happy together.
The rest are unappealing.
No. 266993
>>266979>PolyamorousHard no
>Conservative/republican/right wingDepends on how hard they lean into politics, I have some family that lean republican that are alright, but I'm not listening to Fox news or political podcast all day
>Woke (not extreme)Again it depends on how much they lean into it, I'm not listening to how every little thing is '
problematic'
>VeganPossibly if they weren't crazy or tried to convert me, I also own animals that eat other animals so idk if that could work
>Bi moidNo moids
>FTM>MTFI don't want to deal with gender bullshit…
>"nonbinary" womanI could possibly see this one working, if they were chill about it and not overly sensitive about gendie issues. I've know some nb people who are cool with being called whatever, they just see themselves as neutral I guess
No. 267017
>>266979>PolyamorousIf they're not too annoying, sure
>Conservative/republican/right wingNope, I matched with one before, she immediately started being misogynistic about the other women on the app. I can handle weird pronouns, I can handle some trans stuff, but I can't handle old school misogyny and calling other women harlots and making violent sexual jokes about women. Another one wanted to become a cop and I can't stand for that. That's also just a hotbed of misogyny and making fun of rape
victims.
>VeganI'm vegan, so would actually be a plus in my eyes.
>FTMYeah that's fine
>MTFI don't like dick
>Bi moidI don't like dick
>"nonbinary" womanYeah fine
No. 267291
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Not the worst bio but imagine wanting to date a guy who has a lot of female friends he got to know on tinder. And somehow the way he says he likes loyal curvy cute women and under that he talks about dogs is dehumanising to me.
Every single Slovakian guy I've met or interacted with has been full of neuroticism and red flags, what the hell happens during their upbringing, is it that traumatic? Kek
No. 267294
>>266979>PolyamorousHard no. I don't wanna get syphilis no thank you. And the drama.
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo. They're insufferable and I wanna work and not be a housemaid who has many children.
>Woke (not extreme)Yes if not extreme. I could peak them anyway.
>VeganYes. No problem.
>FTMMaybe.
>MTFHarn no. Fetishists.
>Bi moidI used to date one, I guess it would depend on how gay he'd act or how out he'd been. If he would only have faint attraction and wasn't likely to cheat, okay. If he dated men before, no because he'd probably cheat. Gays are easy.
>"nonbinary" womanProbably. Again I think I could peak her.
No. 267479
>>266979I wrote this days ago but don’t seem to have posted it, weird.
>Woke (not extreme)Realistically only this one, it’s also a dealbreaker. For the rest of them (00:55—00:58 vidrel).
No. 268994
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I've been playing "spot the personality disorder".
I find that in my experience "sarcasm" really means "disrespect".
No. 269018
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>>268994Found another one.
No. 269340
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I checked the HER app and all my new likes are from AGP's. I literally have the terf signal "vagitarian". Fuck off please.
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What does this mean
No. 269910
>>269902>police protecting vulnerable groupsThey could do fuckall for me when I was abused by my father. They also take a gender neutral approach and go "both sides" in DV disputes. They also accuse gay couples of provocation for walking hand-in-hand when they get bashed. They also have chat groups where they swap CP and bestiality porn. Any of their colleagues who complain about it, end up getting fired. There was a documentary recently about how everyone makes dark rape jokes about
victims and the female cops are pressured to go along with it and happily do so. They're the ultimate NLOGs. Women are discouraged from reporting rapes,
victim blamed, if a woman defends herself she's the one who is going to get arrested not the man, some women get raped and murdered by cops. It's a very tribalistic environment not unlike the military and I've noticed that female cops tend to cover up for their male counterparts and I don't want to fucking deal with that shit. I wouldn't want a cop in my life constantly watching me, it's about as retarded as dating a glowie and with my job I could actually be in opposition to the police at times, so that would cause conflict in the relationship for sure due to aforementioned tribalistic shit. No not because I want to represent violent men, but because I don't agree with evicting old ladies, bullying rape
victims and generally supporting the patriarchal state apparatus. They enforce the shitty laws I critique and hate. I don't feel safe around them at all.
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Polyfags are always so hostile. And ugly.
No. 270686
>>264960Just found out today that my friend who's from the UK is in an ldr with someone from the US. He's planning on flying over to see her in a few months, have no clue how long they known each other. All I can do is wish him luck.
The last friend I knew who had a ldr relationship never even got to see the person after 5 years of dating. And he was pretty broke, just like my other friend.
No. 270705
>>266979>PolyamorousFuck no
>Conservative/republican/right wingPerhaps
>Woke (not extreme)Perhaps
>VeganNo
>FTMNo
>MTFPerhaps>Bi moidPerhaps
>"nonbinary" womanNo, I'm not calling anyone a "they"
I would feel retarded talking to people about "them"
>>26992240% of them
No. 270708
>>266979>Polyamorousno
>Conservative/republican/right wingno
>Woke (not extreme)if he's gc and not annoying maybe otherwise no
>Veganugh preferably not but if i reaaaally liked him sure
>FTMno, i'm straight
>MTFew no
>Bi moiddepends how bi. like if he's effeminate or has ever taken it up the ass no
>"nonbinary" womanno, i'm straight
No. 270713
>>266979>Polyamoroushard no
>Conservative/republican/right winghard no
>Woke (not extreme)depends on what you mean by "extreme" and also what cause they're particularly woke about
>Veganif not too preachy I could go for one
>FTMonly if not on T, still has breasts (excluding mastectomies for actual medical reasons) and not too deep into gender shit
>MTFhard no
>Bi moidin theory ok, if not actually sexy, in real life usually tranny chasers and/or anal freaks and/or otherwise gigacoomers so I'd lean towards no, but only a soft no
>"nonbinary" womansame as FTM, they're basically the same except nonbonereees are less likely to actually go through the mutilation, also obviously much less likely to be the "male brained tru transsexual type" and can probably more easily be peaked with solid arguments that debunk TRA logic
No. 270714
>>266979>polyamorousfuck no and this easily the worst option. if i'm not the one special person to someone and vice-versa, what's the point. they're also literally never not obnoxious no matter how much they might insist otherwise.
>conservative/right wingthe furthest i'd go in that direction is someone with some edgy/anti-woke views. full on conservative, no.
>wokethis is very vague and could mean a lot of things. pronouns in the bio sex posi trans friendly Male Feminist? fuck no. a guy who just maybe sort of cringily talks about punching billionaires and whatnot? sure.
>vegansure, easily the best option here
>FTMno. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
>MTFno. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
>bi moidprobably not. recently talked to one on tinder and could only see him as a gay man. they also tend to be extra annoying about muh erasure and evul straight women who don't want to fuck them + want open relationships to ~explore~
>"nonbinary" womanno, i'm straight + tend to get annoyed by these types even platonically
No. 270744
>>266979I'm bi and
>Polyamorousabsolutely not
>Conservative/republican/right wingfox news conservative no but generally it depends
>Woke (not extreme)also depends
>Vegansure, if they were okay with me having eggs/dairy around them
>FTMno
>MTFno
>Bi moidI have dated a bi moid, but it wasn't something we really discussed a lot, I wouldn't date a man who constantly told me about his gay fantasies though
>"nonbinary" womanno
No. 270754
>>270753Also
>woke Depends how “woke”
No. 270952
>>266979Straight…
>PolyamorousEx wanted to be and I am not accepting that shit.
>Conservative/republican/right wingI cannot handle dealing with the amount of misogyny they will spout and even think of. Absolutely no.
>Woke (not extreme)If they are not extreme that is fine, as long as they respect my views.
>VeganI am massive carnivore so it will not work out…
>FTMNo, I want a man who is born male.
>MTFNever. I am sorry for my bi and lesbian nonnies who have to put up with this shit.
>Bi moidEx wanted to be a selfish bi and have it both ways with men and women, I am not putting up with this anymore in men.
>"nonbinary" womenNo because I like men. As for nonbinary men, I feel as if they more insufferable (and less attractive) than enby women.
>>270938Nonny, I dated a bi moid. Literally asked me if he can have sex with men to fulfill his desire and make him feel sexually complete and that because I was saving myself sexually for the right time. It was never enough to be with me, I knew it, and foolishly accepted it at the time. I will respect their sexuality, but I am not taking that risk again as I am afraid the next bi man I date wants to be a selfish bi and will make me feel inferior for being a woman who cannot fully fulfill their desire for a man.
All the options are difficult, but I think it is good to put to perspective what you and others find more difficult or dealable.
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I keep Lex on my phone for posts like this
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>>271047Another from someone else
No. 271062
>>266979Straight
>PolyamorousFuck no, petri dish
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo to conservative and right wing, can't talk on the republican thing since I'm not American and managed to avoid learning the meaning of that word ever since the first elections I witnessed back in 2012 and I refuse to break that streak.
>Woke (not extreme)Depends on what kind of woke.
>VeganSure. I'm unintentionally eating mostly vegan anyways, I wouldn't mind a last push or anything like that to actually pull through with it.
>FTMNot applicable, but no out of principle.
>MTFEw
>Bi moidI guess as long as he doesn't want me to stick anything up his ass
>"nonbinary" womanNot applicable
No. 271067
>>270938My bf is bi but tbh bi men are all just degenerate coomers, bf included. It's best to avoid them.
He is also "polyamorous" of course.
No. 271150
I've been dabbling back in dating apps again and I hate it. I don't even want a relationship, I'm moreso looking for a friends with benefits situation. But every scrote just seems to fuck off once they've gotten what they want from me. It feels like I can't have any sexual agency, men will always hold power here. I chat to each one on the first date and clearly describe I'm just after an ongoing casual thing, someone who wants to have fun but isn't looking for anything serious. Also that I don't like one night stands. I know it's stupid of me to expect that they'd see me after sleeping with me, but I also don't understand what goes through a moids head when an attractive, sexually veracious woman is essentially presenting them with the opportunity of consistent, no strings attached sex. Why would you turn that down? Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?
I've been ghosted twice now, after two seemingly ok dates. I slept with them both because I'm fucking horny and just want to have fun with someone, but then feel gross days after when they just completely go silent on me. I realise this is partially my fault, but it's not even that I'm all invested in them? It's the fact that I want consistency without emotional commitment because a relationship doesn't interest me right now. I just want sex, and my vibrator just doesn't compare to the touch of a human. One night stands are terrible given you don't know each other's bodies yet, wouldn't these stupid scrotes want to sleep with a woman more than once? Boggles my mind that even just finding a regular lay is so hard in this day and age.
Years ago this never happened to me, I could meet someone and engage in a casual, ongoing relationship so easily. Things would peter out eventually, but we'd at least see each other every so often, connect sexually, have a bit of fun and stopped hanging out for other reasons. I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.
No. 271172
>>271161NTA but I know of more people who did "friends with benefits" thing than "one night stand" types so it's not THAT retarded to expect; maybe not on dating apps though, idk.
Also it's bound to get messy eventually at some point
No. 271368
>>266979>PolyamorousNO
>Conservative/republican/right wingNO
>Woke (not extreme)Depends, I've fixed handmaidens before.
>VeganYes, most lesbians in my city are vegan or vegetarian anyway.
>FTMSoft no. Some just wanna do pronouns and don't dabble in the rest, but they're rare.
>MTFI'm a lesbian so no, never.
>Bi moidSee above.
>"nonbinary" womanMaybe, if it looks like I can fix her. She'd have to be really beautiful or interesting for me to bother though.
>>269768>"Oh I'm training to be in the police/army/navy"Hard no. Fuck cops and soldiers.
No. 271372
>>266979Straight woman, so this applies to moids
>PolyamorousNo
>Conservative/republican/right wingMaybe, as long as not extreme or hateful of people
>Woke (not extreme)Perhaps
>VeganAbsolutely not, somehow all my exes have been vegan/vegetarian and they all tried to convert me. I just want to eat my meals in peace without someone giving me a dirty look, trying to make me feel guilty, or asking me to watch Dominion with them. They always struggle to find food and try to make me eat their shitty tofu chicken when we go out instead of the real thing. Then they dump me when I don't convert even though they say they're fine with it. Yes I'm mad. In males veganism is pathetic too.
>FTMNo
>MTFNo
>Bi moidNo
>"nonbinary" womanNo
No. 271390
>>271150>Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?I'm convinced men are mentally crippled and the thrill of fucking a new chick overshadows any logical thinking they might entertain. Which they won't anyway, they're men and having a high bodycount is a huge flex for them. I'm sorry you had bad experiences.
>>271161Nice retarded opinion you have there. Seriously though, what's retarded about not wanting a serious long term relationship but still craving intimacy and sex? One would prefer a trusted partner for that sort of deal, not some rando, right?
No. 271428
>>266979>PolyamorousDrama, STD risk since there's almost always at least one bi manwhore in these equations, hard no
>Conservative/republican/right wing and Woke (not extreme)Depends on how open they are to discussing and actually explaining how they arrive at their beliefs and if their beliefs allow them to have a baseline of respect towards me and how I conduct my life. I never fully recovered from my euphoric fedora tipper days and enjoy casually debating people too much. I can fix him/her yada yada
>VeganSure if it's for non-ideological reasons. I think the vast majority of animals produced for food are unethically treated, but I think there exist ethical ways to care for animals that ultimately end up as food and I feel like a lot of vegans don't agree with that (otherwise they would eat animal products in which the animals were ethically treated). If the person is dedicated enough to commit to a vegan diet, then I think they believe strongly enough about animal welfare that they might resent my views over time. Also, eating out instantly becomes a pain in the ass with vegans.
>FTM>MTFI've peaked too hard and can't imagine myself entertaining their mental illness unless they were non-op (not just pre-op) and a personal 10/10. Only for a one night stand or a short-term fwb thing though. I'm too autistic to keep the charade up for long.
>Bi moidDespite being bi myself, I don't fucking trust bi moids to be monogamous when they say they will be. I'm sure there's good ones around, but I've been burned too many times to entertain the possibility anymore.
>"nonbinary" womanIf she was otherwise really great, then I would maybe try my hand at fixing her.
>>271422I feel bad for agreeing with this since I understand wanting the type of situation the original anon wants, but what was she expecting? Especially if she's as hot as she says she is, then not only did those moids get to empty their balls but their egos probably got inflated enough to continue trying their luck with other women
No. 271468
>>266979
>PolyamorousNo theyre always an ugly looking couple. Don't want to get into whatever issue they got going
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo.
>Woke (not extreme)Maybe. But I'll be constantly annoyed by them. I don't see a longterm future with these
>VeganSure. Just as long as they don't try to change my lifestyle. I love eating chicken and beef
>FTMMaybe. I want the normal ones not the aidens.
>MTFNo
>Bi moid50/50.
>"nonbinary" womanYes. I've been that nonbinary woman so I can safely say that these women will grow out of that phase and just be that lesbian/bisexual woman who's GNC
No. 271585
>>271422>>271521I get what you're trying to say but you're missing the point. Op isn't crying and having her heart broken by these men, she's perplexed that they don't have basic human decency to part ways properly instead of going silent. Read the post, she said it herself she didn't have problems getting exactly what she wanted in the past and no one was emotionally hurt in the end. It bothers me you're trying to paint her as some young bimbo who 'had it coming'.
>I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.Her own conclusion and I fucking agree.
No. 271694
>>271172>>271390>>271585Original OP and thank you for understanding my perspective. I agree that I don't think it's much to expect an arrangement that's casual while still being fun/respectful.
>>271422>>271161kek, I figured I'd get this sort of response. It might be hard to understand for you, but some women do want regular intimacy but may not be interested in dating. What else am I supposed to do? Fall to celibacy? And I don't want to go through a string of one night stands with average moids who play the numbers game. Hookup culture is a disease and I don't want to be a part of it. I'm not here to fuck men for validation, I want to get off for me. It's a frustrating situation to be in, but one I'm stuck with nonetheless.
>>271428>Especially if she's as hot as she says she isLol. I only mentioned that because I know I'm not ugly. I'm slim, I look after myself, I dress well, decent facial structure, etc. You're right though, it's infuriating knowing I've inflated a man's ego because IIIII wanted to get off, that's probably the part that pisses me off the most. I feel like that's inevitable in this sort of quest, like I can't escape the thought of men just using me for a quick pump and dump when I'M the one looking for sexual satisfaction. For the first time in my life I feel comfortable in my sexuality, my body and my overall self and I want to be able to explore that casually with someone I trust but doesn't expect things to eventuate anywhere. Moids, however, are all retarded and the other anon is right in that for many of them it's just a numbers game, quantity over quality, etc.
No. 271720
>>266979>PolyamorousNo, life sucks enough without jealousy
>Conservative/republican/right wingPotentially, but our conservaties are a bit different from american style republicans.
>Woke (not extreme)I would
>VeganNo, life sucks enough without having to hear about the ethics of my burger
>FTMNo, I'm straight
>MTFNo, life sucks enough without needing to pretend a bloke can be a woman. Also they look ugly.
>Bi moidPotentially, but the few bi dudes I've talked to considered their sexual attraction a free card for cheating, as long as it was with a man (while dating women)
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)No, life sucks enough without living with someone self-hating
No. 271850
>>271826I have a couple prospects for that but they don't seem all that viable. Mostly because I don't feel any chemistry with either of them and one has gotten fat lol.
>I even met a friend of a friend on a dating app and he wrote a paragraph to me on why a fwb is better than a relationshipsThis is so funny and it would turn me off apps for good.
No. 272400
>>272374>Full-contact sports athletes should be avoided too.In my limited experience martial artists are some of the sanest moids I've met. But MMA bros/boxers are always
abusive and scrotey. Maybe all that head trauma loosens their brains.
No. 272488
>>272475Anon fuck that, don't tell yourself he's out of your league. He's planned a date with you so clearly he's interested somewhat. I want you to tell yourself right now that you know your worth and you will not let yourself sabotage everything you've worked hard for to undermine and commit indirect self-harm like this.
Good luck with your date, let us know how it goes.
No. 272495
>>272456>Are relationships with attractive, smart accomplished men any better or? Abso-fucking-lutley
Watch some Chloe_ vids on YouTube
No. 273798
>>266979>PolyamorousNo, jealousy is natural and non-coomers can be satisfied by a single partner
>Conservative/republican/right wingConservative/ring-wing probably, republican no (might as well say I don't date Americans)
>Woke (not extreme)No, they still usually believe children should be trooned because "fee fees get hurt and suicide". I'm sick of showing them the Swedish study every damn time
>VeganNo, I used to be vegan and I know the lies. Almost killed myself over "saving animals" and I'm over that
>FTMNo, they believe children should be trooned and often coom to yaoi. Ex-FTM would be okay.
>MTFNo, they believe children should be trooned and are often coomers and/or pedophilic
>Bi moidYes, if he's genuinely based. If I could choose I wouldn't be attracted to moids myself either, so it's not his fault.
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)"nonbinary" sometimes means deep down GC because the lack of "feeling gender" can mean they do know gender doesn't exist and that it's all about facts and biology. It really depends.
Wouldn't if the person is all into the identity bs and doesn't believe clothes are just fabric to cover ourselves.
No. 274045
>>266979>Polyamorouspotentially id be ok with it
>Conservative/republican/right wingit really depends but not an automatic no
>Woke (not extreme)same as before
>Vegangod no
>FTMsure
>MTFprobably not, just had a family member come out as mtf (and hes clearly not) so itd make me uncomfortable. I guess theres a small chance though.
>Bi moidsure
>"nonbinary" womanpossibly? if they werent ridiculous about it then sure
No. 274273
>>266979>Polyamorousnever
>Conservative/republican/right wingprobably never but it might depend on the individual views. for example some conservatives are pro choice and some people identify as "conservative" when they aren't really, so I might consider it under certain circumstances, but in general it's a big no, especially if he's a registered republican (barf)
>Woke (not extreme)basically the same answer as above. a little wokeness is alright with me, but it depends more on the individual views. if he's pro troon then it's a deal breaker
>Veganagain I might consider it if it was the right guy, but probably not. and vegan men seem really rare, at least where I live, so it's probably never something I will have to consider
>FTMI'm straight, so no
>MTFHELL no
>Bi moidno lol. I do believe bi men exist but it's much easier for them to cheat on you, and being as I hardly trust straight men not to cheat, no thanks. also I truly believe a lot of "bisexual" men are just gay (or troon chasers) and afraid to come out fully. yes that's cynical, I don't care
>"nonbinary" womanI'm straight but even if I wasn't probably no
>>274045it's really strange to me that vegan is a bigger turn off to you than conservative, poly or trans but to each their own I guess
No. 274298
>>266979Pretty sure most women on here would only maybe get with the vegan like
>>266999 said. Even the vegan is a maybe for me because eating out with someone who's diet is strict or junk food ridden is a major problem.
No. 274299
>>274297much like with short men,
in theory, it would be good to give the rejected loser men a chance.
>maybe they're thankful? >maybe they were just unlucky and really have hearts of gold that everyone somehow looked past all along?no. men are not like us. the rejects, the uglies, the manlets and the virgins are always,
always horrible and jaded and will make sure to punish you for other women passing them over. they never forgive Big Women(tm) and will seethe until they die, while projecting all their faults onto us while retaining a massive ego larger than any of the "mean chads" they claim women are stupid for wanting
and yes, all men on dating apps have something wrong with them. they WILL punish you for stacy saying no to them when they were 15
No. 274304
>>274299I'm saying this as a rejected loser woman of course. after so many years I know I and all other femcel-adjacent women are much better than any "equivalent" male could ever be, and women were always right to be """hypergamous""". men are never happy you give them a chance, the lower their status the more they will chase 16-year-old stacy and the more they will turn up their nose toward normal women
these men on the apps think they are dating all the other women they swipe on and are probably internally comparing you to the hottest most highly filtered ones while being mad at you for daring to not be them, lol
I'd rather die alone than do "online dating" but everyone keeps pushing it on me and probably more so because I'm a weird nerd. the thing is, the weird nerds don't want me, and I don't want them (because male weird nerds are all porn addicted picky demons who will cite "statistics" at you)
No. 274306
>>274299Crotchworms have peanut sized brains. Maybe they put women down up front without a care to see if they will snag their perfect emotional punching bag pickme. Oh yes, male with a constant chip on their shoulder and a
victim complex, please give me your dick. I am eager for you to abuse me.
One of them even admitted to me when he went on his last date, he got emotionally volatile over a politically charged argument with her at a bar and the bouncer kicked him out. Charming!
No. 275157
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Self proclaimed alpha male on hinge
No. 275182
>>275157Men are so fucking ugly.
Takes me back to the hellish days of online dating, I swear I probably swiped right on 3% of the men on that app, simply because I refused to date down
No. 275560
>>271941I wish I knew the answer to this, kek. I once went out to dinner on my own and got friendly with the bearded bartender, he looked cool and masculine, told me his shift was finishing soon and asked if I wanted to grab a drink after.
So I did, and as we were chatting he tells me he's a trans woman but didn't want to go on hormones or change his appearance whatsoever. This was also the third or so man in a month to tell me he was either gender fluid or trans even though I thought they were just a regular masculine man.
I couldn't date a conservative man for the life of me but dating in a liberal area is literally all this and it makes me want to rip my hair out.
No. 276941
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>match with someone who's just your type and says they want a relationship in bio
>they lovebomb you pretty much from the get-go, shower you with compliments, text you a lot, even send nudes
>redflags.jpg
>after a few days they start showing their baggage, unloading and venting about their life, insecurity, depression etc.
>you respond trying to comfort them and offer some positivity
>they suddenly turn cold
>they ghost for a day, then come back and say it's best to end it because "you're not a good match" and that they'd rather date someone who's not "positive like me"
Sheesh, I mean, the red flags were certainly there, but I wonder what compels someone who's clearly mentally ill to intentionally seek, pursue and lovebomb people knowing they're too unstable to date?
No. 276945
>>276941Hate to drag up this stereotype but some of the most sexual people.. use that to reel you in because they know they're emotionally a mess (and alot of work) so they need to ramp up the nudes and the sex appeal to compensate and find their way in
Scrotes usually eat that shit up and then wonder how they 'ended up with crazy' but the flags are blaring red from the start.
No. 277002
>>276985yeah, which sucks because if he still did look like his picture, that would've been great, cuz he was super cute. But the trump thing and being addicted to games…it just made me sick to my stomach and I just blocked. My last ex was also a gamer and cheated on me with people he met in-game (then irl), and I know not every moid is going to do that, but I just didn't want to take that risk again. There's some things I could maybe put aside if the guy is attractive enough, but game addict and republican? no.
>>276993I agree. I kinda wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt (although I felt deceived with the old pic). I'm not much of a selfie taker either so I understand people that use one that's a few months to a year or two old. Definitely a green flag if they only take them when needed, like profiles.
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>>277072 > no wonder there's such much bitterness and misery in this and the relationship advice threadsOh god lol. We already know you hang out in the relationship threads. You didn't have to confirm it y'know? You repost the same old shit word for word like a true low functioning autist. Never changing the record. When questioned on why you're being retarded you just… repeat it again.
>you're all miserable and bitter > bitter and miserable > everone on here is miserable (yet you keep coming back for more) > contrarian statement followed by… calling you bitter and miserable! >misreads a post entirely… then calls you miserable > stands up for scrotes every time.. then calls you a bitter bitchIt's not everyone else that's miserable anon… you're a miserable sperg.
No. 277366
>>276941>>276944NTA but I used to do this and always end up depressed afterwards and crying my eyes out.
I knew something was wrong with me but didn't knew what BPD was at the time.
No. 277643
>>277642*isn't putting effort
I'd delete and remake but my browser doesn't save post passwords
No. 277660
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>>277651even offline, this is the case.
No. 277712
>>271081I was in almost this exact same position and I chose to leave cause the thought of him actually being poly and fucking his fat, danger hair "friends" made me ill
I'll stick to my cats you don't ultimately need a fucking moid so badly you'll let him disrespect you
No. 280153
I matched with a guy who is different from my normal type, but I thought I'd swipe just for the hell of it and was surprised when we matched since I didn't think I'd be his type. I know it's possible he could just be matching with any girl who likes him and is just looking to hook up. I realized he kind of reminds me of the types of guys I hated in high school (rich, preppy, Republican, really mean and judgmental lol) but it's mostly just the way he looks and he hasn't said anything that confirms he's that type of person (although he hasn't said anything that shows he isn't that type of person either). When I told him where I grew up, he told me he's actually visited there before and he 'loves it' lmao. Anyway, I found that whenever I do match with guys who seem to be my type/the type I'd be compatible with (brown hair, introverted, shared interest in something) they end up being kind of cringe and I never really end up liking them that much. I matched with this guy purely on looks lol and he seems pretty extroverted and straightforward, which is not what I'm used to. I can see all the different ways that this could fall apart, but since I'm not really looking for a LTR I don't really care if he's boyfriend material as long as he's cute and we get along okay. At least it's interesting trying something different.
No. 280531
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I feel like I’ve become completely disillusioned not just with online dating, but men and dating in general. It just feels like there’s no winning. I barely even like anyone on tinder anymore because it feels like they’re a fuckboy just looking for sex. Guys who would have given me butterflies once now just make me roll my eyes because I’ve been there and done that and I can’t un-know what I’ve learned about moids. There’s a cute guy in this professional development group I see via work every now and then, and I don’t even want to try getting involved with him because I already feel so defeated. Old heartbreak, FDS, the pandemic, poor self esteem and unrealistic expectations (mine and mens) have ruined me for dating.
No. 281099
>>280153I went on a date with this guy this week. It went really well. Mostly because I went back to his place after and we 'hooked up.' Not exactly, but I went farther with him than I have with any other guy (which probably isn't much for most people kek). It was really obvious that I was inexperienced, but it seemed like he didn't mind taking the lead(?) and he seemed to know what he was doing. He didn't pressure me into doing anything and mostly focused on what felt good for me, which was great.
When I left eventually, he asked if I made it home and that he had fun and I said I felt the same way and texted him goodnight. He hasn't texted me since then so I guess it's basically over? I thought maybe he would have been somewhat interested since he asked me to stay over and offered to drive me back the next day and when we were at his place he would say things like "next time we should do this" or "we can talk about this next time," but I get that moids might just say random things and not really mean it. I also wonder if maybe I gave off signals that I wasn't super into it since I was a fucking inexperienced autist and didn't say much or I would joke and say stupid shit implying there wouldn't be a next time. And when I was getting ready to leave he joked about how fast I was getting ready and that I must have been in a hurry to get away from him and I just didn't say anything because I didn't want to boost his ego lol. But he made a lot of jokes teasing and making fun of me, so I only did those things in return because again, I didn't want to boost his ego.
Ugh anyway… I know I probably shouldn't text him since I guess the rule is that if he liked me enough he would have reached out by now. I also know that the whole 'teasing someone to flirt with them' thing is kind of a red flag and he did that a lot so that's another thing. But it's not like I'm looking to date him and it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity. But I know there's a lot of ways this situation could go south so I probably shouldn't reach out huh?
No. 281101
>>281099>it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity.wat
what do you think hooking up is
No. 281290
>>281272I know… it's easy to want to give up because of how much work goes into it. Quite honestly the hardest part is finding men that I'm attracted to and the fact that I was attracted to this guy makes me question some things, but also what the fuck can I do. I've more decent guys in the past who fit my personality more, but I couldn't bring myself to get physically close to them at all because I couldn't be attracted to them no matter how hard I tried.
It's easy to give up, but in some ways I feel like I deserve to get what I want. I've been single and celibate for so long and learned to be okay with myself and being single and independent. After knowing how nice it feels to be that close to someone who I'm actually attracted to I really want to experience it again. I'll probably take a break for now and then go back into it later. I'm not gonna settle for someone who doesn't give a shit about me (like this guy seems to), but I'm also not going to resign myself to going after guys I'm not attracted to just because they're into me and treat me well. I'm also not going to resign myself to never experiencing intimacy like that again. It sounds like a tall order, but the only thing I can do I guess is take a break and then keep trying until I find what I want. If I try and fail I guess it's better than not trying at all. I wish you the best of luck nona, whether you decide to get back into it or not!
No. 281369
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The men on these apps are so fucking fat and ugly I want to cry in despair. I can't imagine any of these schlubs sweating and panting over me… or imagine washing shit streaks out of his underwear. I don't wanna date any of these males, even the rich ones. And that's before you go on the first date and you realize hes also retarded and he'll inundate you with baggage. On top of that they probably have ED or a small cock, often both. I'm DONE.
No. 282320
I recently met an interesting man on okcupid. I'm probably giving too much information, but he's american and I'm mexican (born, raised and lived here all my life). We share hobbies, music taste, like the same kind of films, don't go out much, etc. He's got a well-paying job as far as I can tell. A bit on the chubby side (even though he has as a profile picture an old photo where he was average in weight), and has a huge dick. I'm really attracted to him, but he suddenly stopped talking to me after we had cam sex last friday, or at least, he doesn't talk to me with the same interest. Before that, he said he'd come to Mex to meet me, apparently in september or october. I don't know if he doesn't want anything serious with me anymore after whoring myself out like that so soon, or if it's a cultural difference, or if he's busy with work or what. Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me. I think he's lying and have directly told him so. I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much. Also, he really sounds too good to be true, and if he does come and something happens to me, a friend has his information (full name, phone number, address, how he looks like, etc). I honestly don't know what to do with him or what to believe. I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me. Are all/most american men like this?
No. 282344
>>282322>This guy sounds like someone that assumes a Mexican woman would be easy because he's American, yes these guys existThe thing is, he's not wrong. Most of us are taught from birth that white american man = good, so no matter how ugly a white american man can be, he'd score lots of girls here. I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with Mex, where there's a big latino population), and he replied "just one", which I don't believe. Whenever he compliments something about me, be it my body or how cute or how sweet I am to him, I always tell him not to lie, to see if he eventually drops it. In fact, whenever he says anything that seems like a lie to me, I tell him. So I don't know if I'm just being too skeptical or if I'm right. After all, it's the first time an american has expressed interest in me, so I guess I'm being blinded by that.
And about him being manipulative, yes, he reminded me a bit about my first boyfriend, who was a piece of shit during our relationship. I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?
>>282338I wish it was.
No. 282351
>>282320>I think he's lying and have directly told him so.Stop. You are only teaching him how he needs to lie better, or where you can't tell he is lying. Why would you want to be with a liar? For your own sake of mind, if you can't accept he could be with another woman, possibly give you an STD at some point, god knows what else a sleeze is capable of, don't date him.
>Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me.Why are you letting yourself be dehumanized and referred to as possibly "worth keeping", like a pet? This sounds like future-faking to keep you hooked.
>I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much.You don't even know if you only want sex? If you aren't 100% sure you only want sex and have no emotional commitment you are ripe for further manipulation. And please don't refer to yourself as a cum dump, even if you are only interested in sex men should treat you well.
>I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me. You can't. He probably wants you to feel like you're in on his secret but you're special. You aren't.
>Are all/most american men like this?Sounds like he's specifically so manipulative because he's American, rich, white whereas you are Mexican. Most American men aren't so open about being manipulative.
>>282344>I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with MexWhy would you inflate the ego of a fat white man like this? Even if it's true because women have no standards you don't have to say it to the worm.
>I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?Just stop texting and block him completely if you want. You don't need to slowly do it, ghosting is fine.
No. 282372
>>282351Hadn't thought about how I was subconsciously giving him hints so he could be a better liar, thanks for telling me that. I'm okay if he only wants sex, and if by chance he really wants something serious, then so be it, but I'm not counting on it. In any case, I think he doesn't have to sugar coat it and call me by cute names or anything, he only has to accept he wants sex and that's it, I'm fine if that's the case but he went and:
>Gave me his phone number (which I googled and that's how I know where he lives)>Told me his last name (which helped me corroborate his address)>Told me he expects a raise by next year and how much it would be (85k, I think).I never asked him what he does for a living, or how much he earns, because it's something I simply don't care about. That he gave me that information so soon was a disappointment, because it quite possibly means he thinks that'd impress me. I didn't react to this information and have never brought it up again.
>Talked about us living together/marrying/having kids someday, even if he was "joking"I told him to stop saying that, since it's too soon for it. At least he hasn't said anything about it again, so far (except saying that I would be a good wife, which doesn't bother me)
>Said that he'd come to see me because he was already planning coming to Mex anyway and that he'd only make a detour from his original plans>>282354>>282355I'm a very insecure person. All the compliments he gives me (looks, education, hobbies, interests, etc) I've heard them before from my family, friends, ex-boyfriends and men who wanted to date me, but I still can't accept them. When I was in secondary school, boys were pretty cruel to me because I was very reserved and quiet, same thing happened during high school but to a much lesser extent. I know I'm not ugly, that I actually look good and all that, but I feel terrible accepting it, like it's wrong or that I'm thinking too highly of me. Even though I'm 28, I can pass easily as 18-20 years old, in part due to my short height.
No. 284462
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Male “humor” is so disgusting. Most of their “jokes” are just their actual misogynistic, perverted and violent thoughts expressed publicly under the guise of comedy.
No. 284940
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Let me preface this by saying months ago I made a fake tinder account out of curiosity, I just wanted to see how things were without any intention of swiping right on anyone, I grabbed a couple of stock pics of pets, used a female name that was not my own, added a couple of those generic preset interests just for the sake of it, my real age and the age range I'd go for. I eventually lost interest and didn't enter it for months til a couple of days ago out of boredom, this post it's just to ramble about it. So, fuck men are ugly, I know it has been said a thousand times here but it needs to be said again, why the fuck are men so ugly. My modus operandi on tinder:
>Be bored
>Log in on tinder
>No intention of chatting with or meeting anyone
>Still looking at profiles somewhat seriously
>God, men are ugly
>Start speeding through profiles because 98% or more of men are so ugly
>Start going insane from seeing so many ugly people
>Start relativizing
>This dude isn't my type but he has a better face than most
>This dude isn't my type but he has nicer body than most
>This dude isn't my type but we have similar taste in music
>This dude isn't my type but he claims to have a nice job
>This dude isn't my type but at least he bothered putting something in his profile
>This dude isn't my type but his dogs are very adorable
>Realize I'm going insane
>Worry about myself if I had been using Tinder seriously
>Eventually get tired of it
>Tinder logs out on it's own
>Can't bother to log back in
Now general complaints:
Most pics are fucking shit and right now I don't even mean they are unflattering or the guy looks like a creep, I mean more than half of them are deep fried, so many looked like the guy took a picture of a printed photography, with a shitty phone in a dark place. Even the ones who obviously stope the picture of some stock image model, like, you couldn't bother to download it in a decent resolution?
But so many pictures the guys look like creeps too, maybe it's because I live in a costal city, so many men put pictures of themselves in the beach wearing just trunks and so many of them are haf hard or completely hard. Thinking about this kind of idiot in a public space where there are even children makes my skin crawl.
So many profiles with literally nothing in the bio not even the generic Tinder interest tags, I don't know what goes through the mind of those people.
What's with people who @ their ig in the bio but don't just use the feature to link it? And what's with the demented fucks who say "oh I never enter Tinder app, hit me up on ig"? Dude, the whole point of tinder is to match, so you have at least some miserable level of mutual attraction going on. Plus if I were to hit on people online who have no idea who I am, I'd just do it with a youtuber I have a retarded crush on or something equally autistic, but still not as stupid as dming a guy from tinder who can't bother doing the bare minimum. And no, I wouldn't ask to follow you on your private ig account just for that, retard.
Motivational quotes make me violent, half the time they aren't even about meeting new people or love, just random motivational quotes.
On that note, no, you do not have a talent for comedy, or for prose in general.
Men trying to look serious and tough in pics just look dumb, leave that for professional models who have any idea of what they are doing and the faces to pull it.
Guys who aggressively say the woman (in this case you the other end of tinder) should be like this and that are hilarious because they are ugly, with no sense of fashion and cringe in their efforts to look manly.
Using filters to look whiter is just kinda sad.
Last but not least, I am wishing death on all couple profiles and cheating scrotes. I kinda wish tinder came up with a "poly friendly" feature that would allow normal people to filter couples out, but I'm sure they'd just ignore it and force themselves on the users who aren't interested.
A few amusing cases (while writing I realised they were all about troons in some way):
Case number 1:
>obvious fakeboi is obvious
>chubby but looks cute in a preppy suit outfit
>in the next pic, clear signs of hairloss (I bet it's the T)
>nonbinary transman
>non monogamous
Depressing
Case number 2:
>This person's face looks a little odd
>First thing in the bio: transman
>Oh, of course
>Nailed the dudebro surfer look
I hate dudebro surfers
Case number 3:
>Cute goth-ish twink
>Wearing makeup
>Pretty decent makeup
>Checks out his other pics
>Yep, cute goth-ish twink with decent makeup
>Pic of him in a shitty plastic wig and that poorly drawn agp eyeliner
How? Just how did the make up degrade the second he seemingly became an agp tranny?
Case number 3:
>Nice looking normal guy
>Spots the trans flag in his bio
>WTF, he doesn't look trans
>He is talking about moving here from another state
>State flag has the same colours as trans flag
>He can't tell tham apart
Kek, maybe it should count as a pro that he is so fucking oblivious to trans shit.
No. 284944
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I'm scared to open this one
No. 284951
>>284940I agree with absolutely everything you've said, down to despising couple profiles. I've seen many and there's just no way to word it without making it sound sleazy, even if it's just a simple "couple looking for a chill girl to smoke with and play monopoly". Like sure you do.
At this point I've given up and mainly browse Tinder to laugh at and judge men and becoming more pinkpilled.
No. 285293
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Why do i still use HER?
No. 287530
>>285295>>287524I recently downloaded Tinder after 10 days into my travel when I was to solely talk to someone, as by that point I was only "talking" to cashiers, servers, etc and I was dying for some actual human interaction. Met two cool people that I still keep in contact with. I came back to my country about a week ago and I kept my account because "maybe someone cool will be there". Wrong. Wrong. I was so wrong. There's no fucking middle ground on Tinder: hot """chad""" looking douchebags that are, like you said, only looking to get laid or just ugly men I have no attraction for. Deleted the app after two days.
What bothers me a lot is that some of the guys I saw last week, I saw them two years ago too. Why the fuck are they on there for so long? Why waste time on Tinder??
No. 287547
>>249287A few months ago I downloaded Hinge out of curiosity to see what the hubbub was about. I liked the questions you can answer and the video/voice options. It made the experience feel more human I guess? Not sure if that is a decent way to describe it.
However, a lot of scrotes simply swiped right. Like bottom of the barrel, couldn't spell "your" white trash men who think Busch Light is a personality trait. I found nobody attractive, but I am the type to like personality first. I only had two decent conversations with guys. The rest either ended from a lack of motivation for the guy to continue the conversation, or pure desperation. Like, becoming a bit obsessive that I like a song, so they listen to it all day.
I went on one date with a guy that I thought was nice enough. He said he had ADHD and could be a bit too extroverted for me. That date ended up being the worst date I ever went on. Basically went like this.
>meet up at fast food place>i show up early and hang out.>see his car (he told me the model) as it pulls up.>awkward introduction. happy personality he had sudden disappears>buys me a drink, himself a drink and onion rings>"anon you can have some onion rings">he proceeds to eat ALL of them, with his mouth open>food fucking falls to the floor>oh god oh fuck>try to make conversation. he looks at me as he speaks>i speak he turns his head to the right and completely avoids looking at me>god help me just let me get through this>woman comes around the corner>he checks out her ass>at that point i should of just left but since i am awkward and scared of men, i subjected myself to torture>date ends eventually and i never speak to him. i block his number.Really pissed me off since we were in a similar line of work and I don't have many people IRL who can relate to the stress.
Eh, without that experience I would not have met my current partner. Don't ask how I met him.
No. 288446
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>>>/g/177942Saged by accident whoops.
Well nonnitas I can safely tell you I never got cheated on. But the bad news is that after one year everything fell apart because I attract emotionally unavailable men who at the beginning treat you like a princess, only for them to let you down like an old toy when the adrenaline rush wears off. I think I'll just start dating women at this point…
No. 288508
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saw this and immediately deleted my profile bye. moids are not worth it
No. 290409
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Men bitch about basic as fuck "I like to travel" female profiles, when 90% of male profiles are
>I'm fluent in sarcasm
>Partner needs to have a sense of humor
>I like to have fun
>I like hiking
They're literally all blending together as I'm swiping, I can't distinguish one dude standing on a naked hill from another. Or a shot of them with beer.
The other thing that baffles me are the faceless profiles from cheating guys asking for no-strings attached because they just need an outlet. The whole app is full of fit single fuckboys that are happy to do casual sex, why the hell would anyone want some shady fucking dude while also going behind a woman's back for that.
No. 290747
>>290409this is why i deleted all my dating apps and havent been on in a while. (why am i itt??) everyone sounds the same.
>>290415i used to hate the "i love hiking types" but i genuinely love going on trails now and i see a lot of people claim they love it only to not want to actually go out. lol. and btw, i have a friend i go hiking with often who is overweight, being fat does not exclude you from enjoying the outdoors
No. 292998
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Nearly liked a guy on hinge who after a harder look I readied was a new acquaintance I met through professional networking. The only reason I recognised him was because I knew he and another friend of his I met at this event were in a band, and I recognised her in one of his group photos. The joys of being massively face blind while dating.
No. 293213
>>291530I always was a "one guy at a time" type of dater. I mean honestly I can barely find a single guy I'd actually meet lol, I guess people that paralell-date and constantly bring new people into the picture either have a much better quality network of people or have really low standards in men.
If I do find someone I usually start building up a type of inner hype, which is needed for me to even go through with dates and stay interested. If I multi-dated I feel like it'd be hard to feel like any date stands out, knowing my own psychology.
No. 295862
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I wasn't sure where to post this but I came across this brave and stunning that looks like that Shayna calf.
No. 296376
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There's a lot of drug dealers advertising nowadays on these apps. Pic related just had a bunch of gifs measuring weed and rambling
No. 298999
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Been on hinge since October 2020, about 12 dates, many more initial phone dates (most of which were horrible- one of them the guy was ignoring me to play with his dog the whole time, another talked about his boss for 20 minutes and one day asked me to drive him 40 minutes to a date… with someone else). Really liked 2 of them and one dropped me because I asked for one phone call a week to catch up in the middle of the work week which was "too much pressure " but gaming an hour every day wasn't. The other dropped me after I cried in front of him after dating for 2 months. Those 2 are the only ones I had sex with and I didn't enjoy it. They both seemes awesome guys initially but changed. The second guy shaved his back and it was very very pokey and sharp which disgusted me but insisted I wax. He was below my league but acted above it because he was rich (I didn't know that until after). He was initially sweet but did a complete change which is what initiated the crying incident. He also severely fetishized my race.
Anyways, I just give up and deleted my account. Getting a workplace crush and not acting on it, plus otome games, is literally 10x more thrilling than online dating. Honestly if I could go back I wouldn't even have tried it. The funny thing is how after 2 years, I can see the same guys remake their profile over and over, including one of the guys who mistreated me. Idk why he sent me a like too. Both of them were venting about having kids before they're old but piss away romantic connections because they require effort.
No. 299534
>>295986This still doesn't make any sense. I think you're just dumb, like to waste time and put your faith in one loser who's bound to disappoint you instead of exploring your options.
>>298999Hinge is a shit app focused on pictures. I couldn't use it and found it attracts people who don't have much to say. I don't care about your fucking pictures, I want to know who you are and what you're about. Different apps definitely attract different people.
No. 301170
>>297447For me it's having hot bubble bath while having my face mask on, then I would do my normal skincare routine to make sure I'm feeling refreshed.I sometimes shave depending on who I'm going on a date with, the occasion and how hairy I am.
When it comes to outfits and makeup I trend to pick stuff I like that makes me feel happy and confident in myself. If it's someone I have been on a date with for a while then I sometimes would add a piece of clothing or accessories that the person I'm dating likes on me.
No. 302647
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some zoomer scrote unironically sent this to me on a dating app. its the most vile and vomit-inducing thing i think i’ve ever seen, although hilarious.
there are soso many things wrong with it, the shitty amazon blue?? batman suit, the fact he edited this himself, the pose ih my fucking god.
whats wrong with them? im baffled
No. 302670
>>302633>>302665Yeah, most of the attractive dudes on dating apps know they're attractive, so they just want to sleep around.
That is, until said moid hits the wall, starts balding and finally decides to "settle down", and by then he probably has some stds.
Moids can never have an ego or know they're good looking.
No. 303692
>>303684Revenge but in a pathetic way in my case.
Love can't heal my heartbreak, only pounding a guy will do and i'm shy so i don't know if i will get there, but i appreciate the support.
No. 304028
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Had a dude on Bumble who said he was really not rushing into sex, because he thinks early sex ruins the early relationship dynamics. I said fair enough, I'm not looking for that either way. His first date suggestion? Eating pizza in his apartment. What kind of fool are they taking women for?
No. 306066
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Why do guys like this send me messages? The scowling military guys. I'm slightly chubby and my pics dont hide that, most are candids. All his prompts are about how he wants FIT and FEMININE women who never rest. He looks like a bridge troll so I guess his next best option is to neg a "good enough" chubby girl into working out and becoming his leanbeefpatty waifu stand-in?
No. 306086
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>25yo moid that's balding, actually he already looks bald
>5'5"
>for whatever reason has a photo of himself asleep in a hospital bed with a tube up his nose
>"choke you"
why would any woman want to pay for an ugly scrote? the overconfidence in that he thinks he'll get a sugar momma kek
No. 311091
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Lex is absolute trash in my area, the only things posted near me were cringe-ass poetry, ftms, and girls begging to be sugar babies. And this one post kept floating around, this is straight up a dude posing as a 'cis queer man' looking for pussy, not even trying to hide it. Wtf. I mean it was entertaining to see what kinds of post were there but I deleted it because I have no intention of interacting with any of these people. What a shame.
No. 313322
>>311091might as well report him, iirc Lex was meant to be for "anyone
but cis men" anyway
No. 313393
>>313387The only incel thing is believing women expire and can't date after 25. Most women only have serious relationships after 25 and I've never heard of a woman who couldn't get dates after 25. Stop acting like we expire then accuse me of being an incel. If you can't date, you're ugly and fat/skelly. Has nothing to do with women or biological age, don't drag me down with you.
>>313390Your theory would be correct if the number of men and women were equal but if there's 5 women per man, average woman gets 5 times more matches, kek. It's simple math.
I also did match with women, six or so cute women in just a few hours of having the app which means I got matched with more women than average guy. Do you know what that means? It means the reason why men get less matches isn't women being picky but men being shitty.
While it's true that with men I got a ton of matches, most weren't worthy of pursuing, that's the issue. If men get three matches, they're more likely to work out than my 50+ matches because women are less likely to be as mental or desperate to fuck as men.
No. 313398
>>313393If there's 5 times as many women on there, wouldn't that in theory result in more matches for men than for women because men have a 5 times larger pool of potential matches than women in that scenario? Or am I really this fucked at math. Aren't there more men on datingapps than women anyway.
I agree with men shooting themselves in the foot because they just swipe right on any woman for the mere chance at sex though and then they have the guts to complain about it
No. 313400
>>313398I mistyped, there is 5 men per women or so I'd say. It's more likely for men to use dating apps obviously so you're correct it was a mistake on my part.
And yeah, guys that matched me I'd say like half put in some effort and some wrote like three paragraphs and such while others… Eh… But yeah. Men are shit at online dating and they expect any woman to sleep/date them with them with no effort.
No. 313554
>>313393agreed because women spend their whole life having to vet out men. It's men with the mentality that women have an age limit that end up single, because they live like bachelors well into their 30s/40s and are not taken seriously by women their own age.
>>311091hinge remains the best app for lesbian women. my only problem is that dating pool is tiny and people take forever to respond.
No. 313639
I promised myself I would never in my life use a dating app, but caved in when I became single and overtaken by horniness. I’m in my early 30s and in ok physical shape but kind of homely looking in the face. I ended up paying for the premium feature where you can see the people who swipe right, then picked who I wanted to match with. I absolutely detest having an online presence, so I would only show my profile for short intervals every day, but still got a lot of interested guys. I know for moids it’s a numbers game so they’ll swipe right on anyone, but for many of them it’s still rare to actually match with someone, so when they do it sparks joy.
The guys who had swiped right on my profile where everything from bottom of the barrel to successful looking fuckboys and their age was also all over the place. I only went for the mid tier ones. Never tried any of the really young guys although I kinda regret it now lol. I did 4-5 dates/hook-ups but being newly single I didn't invest too much energy into it. Then I hooked up with a guy and the sex was so good we’re dating now. I think he’s great for a moid, but is an introvert so he was overjoyed to land a gf. Idk if I just got lucky, or if using tinder this way as a girl is a good approach. It felt kinda pathetic paying for premium, but I only used it for a couple of months. I don’t think using dating apps for longer periods of time is good for your emotional wellbeing, so I’m glad it turned out the way it did.
No. 313684
>>313644The app I used to get 50+ matches a day only gives men 5-10 right swipes a day, I know because I recommended it to my male friend, so you're wrong. Though I also got more than 35 notes, aka messages before matching and most actually put effort into it, describing their music and film tastes, the stuff they'd like to do, how they define themselves etc so answering the questions I had asked in my bio. If I were to go on a date, I'd rather date an average guy that showed genuine interest rather than the cuter guy who only messaged me hi. The reason why I'm writing this is to prove that incels who don't get matches or replies are the ones in fault, if the girl they're messaging already has 40 or so matches a day, why would she reply to their simple hi message when some guy actually put in effort and tried to get to know to the girl in question?
A lot of guys who post in tinder sub are ugly guys who believe making their profiles interesting will mean that the 10/10 18 year old chick they saw on their app will right swipe, buy him drinks and then fuck him - but I doubt that'd happen. There's too much competition and they'd be lucky if they even got a message back.
No. 314293
>>313297I texted with then and was able to deduce if they were normal or not.
I just want to say it's still going well with my boyfriend lol.
No. 314507
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>be a naive autist on tinder
>talk to a guy for a while
>he’s nice
>add each other on snapchat and ig after maybe a few weeks of talking on tinder
>continue talking there for another few weeks, feels safe
>yesterday evening he suddenly asks for bra/panty pics (we’ve never even met irl much less dating)
>freak tf out
>block him on everything
>get a notif on messenger immediately
>he’s tracked down my facebook and is messaging me all mad i blocked him when he was being a creep
i’m so creeped out like i still feel sick and this was last night. why are men so scary? why can’t they take a no? if i block him everywhere he should get i don’t want to talk to him again, ever. is it male entitlement? do they see it as a challenge? why the fuck are they like this.
did i do the right thing by blocking him immediately? i didn’t feel safe talking to him anymore.
No. 314514
>>314507Never doubt your instincts anon, you were right to block him and he only immediately proven you right by getting angry.
It's kinda a reason i'll never use dating apps, maybe i'm wrong but it really feels like the scrotes who use these are the worst, entitled kind.
No. 316112
>>314507You freaked out because he asked for panty pics? Why is that so bad, if we’ve been talking for a while I don’t think it’s a big deal
But you’re right it would’ve been better if you met up before
No. 318256
>>318115Just double down on stereotypes and say unhinged stuff about wanting to sacrifice his blood on a moon ritual and start writing in random characters/sending random creepy pictures.
Ask morbid specifics. It’s fun af.
No. 321945
>>284462ive never seen a man say he has a madonna whore complex in so few words
these apps seem so bleak from this thread, i was on them a couple years ago but it was a waste of time
No. 321947
>>321925why do you want to date rich men?
honestly nona you seem naive and out of touch, dating a guy for his money isnt a good idea. youre probably the perfect target for men with money who want to fuck you for what to them is pennies. you'd basically be a cheap naive prostitute to them.
those sugar baby sites set off your internal alarm bells for a reason.
you're better off making your own money. if you build a career you can meet "well off" men through social circles relating to your job.
No. 321965
>>321959i didnt say to date a hobo because of love lol
youre silly
No. 322255
>>322115Nta but if you don't put up a picture you'll probably get very desperate dudes or guys who swipe right on everyone. Men have a small amount of swipes and they usually don't get matches so unless they're very desperate, they don't swipe right on faceless profiles.
Source, I have male friends who use dating apps.
No. 328565
>>328541I'm starting to feel similarly. I've started to accept the fact that I hate most men. I feel like the Disney tale fantasies and shit really fucked me up because irl men can't measure up to the fictional heart throbs. I'm sure they'd try and say something similar about women, but idc. Most irl men are ugly inside and out. They want you to settle one way or the other and I'm just not willing. I'd rather play the Sims and fantasize about the type of romance I want, instead of trying again with yet another moid and it ends the same. They just don't seem worth all the effort they require. I've been single for a year and overall my quality of life improved exponentially once I stopped worrying or caring about having a boyfriend or whatever. Sometimes it is a little lonely, but then I remember my past relationships, or I come here and lurk the relationship advice threads, or I see yet another shitty boyfriend horror story on the normie net and I decide I made the best decision possible.
All moids swear they're soo different, and that "oh your last boyfriend was a dickhead/he didn't like you for you/you should have chose better", which sure… That's true. But now I am chosing better by chosing NONE of you. They're not all exactly the same, but all men have enough similarities to each other that I absolutely loathe. I've purposely upped the man hate by saying shit I don't mean so any moid who was thinking of annoying me with his emotions knows to look elsewhere and it works well. Except for the "I can fix her" brand of moid, which is even more offensive and annoying. Yeah, I have trauma but it's caused by men. A man's not going to be able to fix it, they just usually only make it worse.
No. 328573
>>322717100% this. I have lots of hobbies that I do after work every single day and I really just don't have time. I get all my social needs met with friends and other social groups I hang with frequently, I make good money, and I got my own place + car. Literally 0 reason to depend on a moid who can hold 'but I make the money' excuse over the head and exploit you to become their bangmaid baby oven while he could easily cheat on you because hurr durr man's natural instinct + watch porn and coom + look at other women like pieces of meat. Not to mention that most men don't even make more money than I do.
Moids in general are very out of shape and boring as fuck (no hobbies other than muh netflix watching the most normie shit like the office and video games all day and jerking off to porn) + have a terrible sense of personal hygiene or self care. Most men my age (late 20s) are hitting the wall hard, and they're all fat, ugly, wrinkly and balding. I work out 5 times a week, eat healthy, and stay fit so why the fuck should I even look at these men kek. Most moids at my gym are either manlet roidbros who's compensating for their height (they're all 5'5" or shorter kek) with insane inferiority complex and body dysmorphia, or dads and old men doing light cardio for 10 minutes and creeping on women.
I like the concept of having a boyfriend to cuddle with at night and go on cute dates with, but reality is moids rarely plan good dates / can barely hold a small talk level conversation and all they want to do is get in your pants at the end of the day. Moids easily chimp out and get violent if you refuse to have sex with them + an average male is stronger than a woman. Considering these factors, I don't even want to be alone with a moid. A shame really. inb4 'holy shit you sound sad' but I just use one of those heartbeat sounds to fall asleep while cuddling a pillow, I get good sleep like this and I can easily imagine a husbando cuddling me. I have a high libido but I just take care of it myself. I will never have sex with a moid who's unworthy to possibly pass their genes into the next generation. Too bad I'm straight, it really is a fucking curse.
I really don't think I'm asking for much, I just want a not bald, fairly tall (5'10"+), non-
toxic gym bro who can hold a conversation and eats fairly healthy. Don't care about income because I don't plan to depend on him for that, as long as he can pay his bills and he's living independently (not roommates or their mom's basement). But apparently in this market, that's asking for too much and I'm 'shallow'.
autosage for autism + sperging
No. 328585
>>328564You dont have to use dating apps, you can give it a try for a day and delete your profile afterwards if you're scared so much. Also if you don't put embarrassing stuff in your profile, you won't get made fun of, saying your fetishes or writing extremist political views are the kind of stuff you need to do to get made fun of, otherwise no one gives a fuck.
>>328573This is the dating apps thread, your post has nothing to do with it and no one will read your romanianon-tier 10 paragraph sperging
No. 328596
>>328585ayrt (romanianon tier spergfag) and I was replying to this anon
>>322717 and not this thread in particular kek, and I autosaged because I know I'm a blackpilled sperg
Getting back to dating apps I've tried all 'major' ones like hinge, coffee meets bagel, okcupid and they all have the same batch of men I sperged about. TLDR is they all suck in their own way. Okc has the ugliest and fattest ones, coffee meets bagel moids are somewhat decent but can't keep a convo + megaboring, and hinge is basically same thing as moids looking for hookups aka tinder.
No. 343975
>>328573Are you me? These apps have left me jaded. Literally all men want is to get pussy with no effort and it's so obvious. No one even has the balls to put that they're looking for a life partner. Long term + open to short sends out red flags for me immediately and makes me wonder how many stds they have. Long term by itself means they still have commitment issues. They are all painfully desperate and it's pathetic. Women with issues really need to stop damaging themselves and giving these moids sex for nothing. All men want is attention, an ego boost, and to waste womens' time without respecting us or caring about our feelings. You're right that men don't have any hobbies except video games and some type of drug problem. It's like they're all npcs. And if they're not the video game loser reject, they're some football bro who drinks beer. Same person, different body. Boring.
I'm talking to the one of the only hot guys I've ever seen in my state and he's autistically going on a tangent about how he discovered buddhism…a month ago! and now he's trying to convert. Dude is a fucking white European. Brain rot. He's pretty but has no hobbies despite being 32 years old and awkwardly sounds like he's still discovering himself. His hobbies included video games (shocker!), buddhism and doing stand up which he also just started a month ago along with the buddhism. Fucking weird losers all of them. Meanwhile, I have tons of hobbies I love to keep me occupied and am 7 years younger. What the fuck is wrong with moids? Even with a pretty face, I just cannot take them seriously or give them sex when they are out of this world retarded.
Also beware of flakes and attention seekers. I had some faggot ask to go on a date then cancel a few days later out of the blue after flirting with me. Fuck. That. There's a reason these men have to resort to these apps.
>>338781He used you. What were you expecting.
>>302665Ugly men on dating apps will fuck and leave too. I hope none of you think they will treat you any better or be "grateful".
No. 346860
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Just got a like from a guy on hinge and went through his profile and the caption on one of his photos is a link to his dads obituary
No. 350208
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Ladies, please understand these are the types of men that use dating apps. I've attempted to go on OKC to try to find something serious and it's just filled with men going "Wahh why no good women out there? Why won't one want to have a good time?" And they're the types looking for hookups and short-term relationships. They don't even have the decency. Too many of them are just there "to see what's up" and then some of the questions they answer, saying how they'll consider have an open relationship, but their profile says monogamous. I'm convinced there's only 5% good men out there who actually want something meaningful, and finding them online is going to be like finding a four leaf clover.
No. 350231
>>350208Dating apps provide you the ones who swiped right on your profile and your looksmatch. If you get fat ugly white men, chances are you're a fat ugly white woman.
Dating apps aren't magic websites to help ugly people get attractive boyfriend or girlfriends, complaining about only getting ugly people only exposes the fact that you're ugly yourself. You aren't entitled to any attractive persons companionship.
No. 350260
>>350235It means both hot and ugly guys swipe right, which is what usually happens. If it's only the uggos, that's the worrying situation.
>>350237No one even looks at the bio when swiping, even then, attractive people would neither sleep nor date unattractive people so it wouldn't change their swipe patterns as and would be attractive people looking for similar sort of dynamics - just not with you.
No. 350281
I've talked about this in the vent thread but I went on my first first date ever (using Bumble) and the guy turned out to be a proto-conservative sleazy psychopath in finance who can't keep a relationship and joked way too much and too vividly about people dying. The original post is here for anons who want it
>>>/ot/1708014>>>/ot/1708019I swear to god he made himself seem like a normal nerdy dude on the app with no partying pics, no fraternity clothes/vibes, said he was looking for a relationship, but then showed up looking like a creepy frat boy. He gave the same vibe that a serial rapist that I knew irl gave before he got caught.
After I got trapped at a two hour dinner with this guy, the whole experience makes me want to do coffee dates just so I can leave if the vibes aren't right. Can any nonas weigh in on whether coffee dates just for the first date might be a better idea? I knew immediately when I saw him in person that he was going to be a piece of shit but I chalked it up to me just being nervous since it was my first date.
Also I don't know if this will help anyone but I later wrote down some of the psychopath red flags
>>>/ot/1708565 that I got on the date from this guy in case anyone ever happens to end up with a low-functioning psychopath on these apps. It was fucking depressing because I had been on the apps talking to guys for a bit and this was the ONLY guy who I had interesting conversation with, the other conversations I had were bland af.
No. 350285
Also same anon as
>>350281 but has anyone had a guy have thoughtful, grammatically correct messages in the app and then once you give them your number they slack off like a total dumbass with spelling errors? Why would they do this? Should I wait to give my number?
No. 351053
>>351047I used a similar themed site, but specifically for Catholics in my country. I was religious at the time (mostly from being brought up that way) but I swear my date made me realize even the most "pious" men are somewhat sex-obsessed, but they never let on to it. Trust me, you can read the repressed thoughts behind those squint eyes. Particularly, I went on one date with this guy who seemed normal enough, though he was very cold to speak to, but I expected that from the chats. The conversation was extremely awkward and I never saw him for another, I remember praying that he was not a serial killer. Maybe I am being overly freaked out, but he had the face for it. He seemed like he had never spoken to a woman before and he was staring at my chest for the entirety of the date. We did not kiss at the end of the night, to my surprise. His stares were enough to tell what was on is mind. He was not bad looking, but I was not going to go crazy over him solely for his height. I made sure to cut it off before he stopped putting up the dork act. I could tell if we went out any longer, he would start acting depraved. If you're into dorky mega-virgins (not in an endearing way), go at it. I thought this is what I wanted, at least what I thought was the more approachable type of man. They are not ideal, but then again I think he was borderline-retarded. Most men in my country are religious, so it could depend on where you sigh up from. The site I used looked amateur and was not one of the major sites you think of when you think of typical Christian dating apps.
No. 351106
>>351047no
nonnie. a serious christian man wont want a non-christian girl. he will at best try to convert you, and at worst, hed be a "trad" twittertard larping as christian, ready to use you as a tradthot mommy bangmaid tool without seeing you as a person.
>>351054very true. mine ended up liking it up the ass. how catholic of him.
No. 351204
>>351047Anon's right
>>351106 take it from someone who was raised in a Christian community. As a generalisation, genuine Christian man will try to convert you (if he wants to date you at all, it's generally discouraged to date someone who you believe is going to suffer in hell and has "earthly" norms and values). Those who won't are generally the -Christian in name and out of habit only- who will want to have sex before marriage and will drink on saturday evenings and sit in the church the next sunday morning lmao. Also
>>351065 No. 351212
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Just got reminded about my dating app thanks to this thread so I went to check them out again after 6 months. Decided to check out OKC and look through the intros people sent to me and ended up finding this comment. Some guys are so gross and sexualizing.
By the way I'm only 5'11" and in my late 20s.
No. 351224
>>351218Yeah it's sick behaviour.
While the best thing to do is to just block those low-lifes, I would be really tempted to write degrading messages back to them. Like how fat and pathetic that moid was.
No. 352706
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what's even the point of dating men?
No. 352803
>>352737Apps are alright imho because they're convenient. On apps you don't usually have to go through gazillion stages of grief trying to figure out whether a woman you find interesting is even into women in the first place (which is sometimes the case irl). Your age is a non-issue too, I only first started dating and having sex with women in my late twenties-early 30s and I've found quite enough women to go on dates with. IME it's not really that uncommon for women to have very little or zero experience with other women at 30. I've found none of the women I've been with really cared when I was still kinda inexperienced at 30. Conversely idc if a woman I'm interested in is inexperienced at that age either, as long as she doesn't make a huge deal about it and act all weird and self-deprecating and constantly draw attention to her lack of experience (if that makes sense). Just roll with it, everyone has to start somewhere.
That being said, if you want to try apps, be prepared to wade through a lot of straight couples looking for threesomes, poly retards, bihets who just want to text forever and maybe hold hands at most but won't imagine having icky sex with women, ugly ass moids, women in het relationships looking for sidepiece bangmaids to make up for their unhappiness with their scrotes, and insufferable queers kek. Although I'd like to have a proper relationship myself so that's why I'm hyper critical, maybe it's possible to give some annoying aspects about a date a pass if it's only a hook up you're looking for.
I'm also going to use this opportunity to complain about how much I fucking hate dating kek. I'm sick of combing through the trash mentioned above to find women who seem relatively normal and interesting and are monogamous. I fucking hate the poly/open relationship trend that's prevalent atm and honestly I feel like 99% of people who meme themselves into that shit are just in unhappy relationships (but can't admit it), losers who can't find one partner they're actually happy with (a "three partners who are 3/10 each equal one partner that's a 10/10" type of situation if you will), or self-centered, immature hedonists who think they should have the benefits of a steady relationship while also being allowed to fuck around as they like. I hate it all. Basically I'd love to meet a woman who makes me go "wow, maybe there are still people I'd actually want a relationship, glad I stuck with these apps until I found her", but I'm honestly not very optimistic and I feel like I'm just gonna die alone at this point. But I also don't want to settle, because being by myself is still better than trying to date someone I don't really like, so here we are kek
>>352798I'm bisexual and I haven't dated a moid in almost a decade (I've only been with women for years), but I entertain the thought of giving moids a try on an occasion when lesbian online dating pisses me off (see my sperg out above). Realistically those fleeting ideas are something I probably will not start practicing though, because I honestly can't see what a scrote could possibly offer me if I'm being serious. Dick? I have dildos and sex toys and those can give me a certain orgasm and don't come with a stupid mouthbreathing moid attached to them. Emotional bond? Yeah, doubt it. Sorry. Maybe it's also my own attitude problem I have with scrotes, but I just feel like I can't form deep enough emotional bonds with them to consider them as potential romantic partners anymore. I feel like the risk of ending up doing heaps of emotional labor and the majority of chores and standing their scrotery is just too much for me. So it's either a girlfriend if I'm ever lucky enough to find a gem among the sea or queerio poly weirdos again, or the life of a spinster. I can't imagine how a moid could improve my quality of life, sorry kek
No. 352817
>>352782It really isn’t anywhere near the same. Fucking a real human being is a 1000 times better than a stupid sex toy and im tired of you
femcels pretending it is.
No. 352871
>>352817a "
femcel" cannot exist. women never have issues getting sex. if a "
femcel" is real, she is only in search of a deep emotional bond with a man that she cannot find, and that is not her fault.
No. 352878
>>352875I'm sure you can think of someplace where the volume isn't too loud, even if that means you have to eat something.
For the love of everything anon do not meet him at a trail
No. 353161
>>353158>>353155Well, I can confirm I'm not a philanderer or gay. The only Islamic rule I'm breaking here is gossiping.
>>353139Ah, okay. I knew that was the case for most but I assumed since it's harder for religious minorities to find one another, there may still be some good catches about.
>>353141Risky strategy. Learning Arabic and regularly practising would be a lot to ask someone to do. And applying conditions only after they've gotten to know me sounds a little misleading.
No. 353170
>>353161I was more so, aside from gossiping, thinking about how it seems funny/strange to me for a woman who has to tolerate misogyny from the religion she's (presumably) voluntarily practicing, and (presumably) agrees with misogynistic Islamic believes/views, to also browse LC where the userbase leans misandrist/is vocal about said misogyny.
I'm not trying to start an infight about misogyny in religion but it seems just about as weird to me as an atheist asking for dating advice on a Christian lifestyle forum. Just a weird clashing of general believes/values. (Yes I know LC users are not a monolith)
No. 353750
>>352875Update, went on the first date. It was at an arcade. Not really much to talk about, but it was awkward for me. I was pretty much the one leading him around the place. One thing that tipped me off was he thought this game using bb bullets was "lame" and the way he was holding the bb gun was incorrect. As someone who's armed, it didn't make me feel like he'd be someone to make me feel protected. After the date was over, I updated my Hinge profile saying I need someone to be comfortable with firearms.
I got a message from him last night saying he'd like to go to a cafe and he was comfortable with me, but at this point I feel like I'd be going on a pity date. My gut is telling me he's just a basic Nintendo autismo with not much experience with love.
Nonnas, it's so over.
No. 353769
>>353753I live in a place where it's more common to have a gun than not, and the ones that don't are really against it, and with me having 2 guns in my house, working with a gun attached to my hip, and target sheets displayed on my walls, they'd absolutely flip.
I work with a handful of gun nuts, so I have a basic idea of what to look out for in things they say and do, so that's pretty much covered.
My life goal is to have a homestead so finding someone who's into hunting would be a benefit for my wishes. I know the risks this is going to endure, but I absolutely cannot date someone who will have a panic attack when I'm in my work uniform.
No. 357007
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I’m talking with a guy on Bumble but he’s clearly too handsome for me, he look really interested in me but I don’t now, I can’t but talk back to him in an extremely defensive weird and awkward sarcastic way. I must look insecure af and I don’t want to seems fragile and being taken advantage at because of… I’m a big mean and feral sexy tiger fuck FUCK
No. 357545
>>356295I've been on a few dates with this guy already and he truly is a gentleman. He's paid for all our nights out. He opens the passenger door for me. He makes a very decent amount of money. He appreciates the simple life. He wants to have a traditional based relationship minus the need for religion to be in the equation. We discuss the lasting needs we'd want in a long term relationship rather than focus on mundane activities to try to bond over. He asks me if I'm feeling okay and what's on my mind when we get closer to each other. By the end of our last date, we were in each other's arms, giving little kisses and cheek to cheek, discussing what we were going to pack for our picnic date and already planning the next date after. He's such a simple man. It's so fucking refreshing to actually find a guy who doesn't want to turn the conversation into his gaming/social media addiction cope, he's so against doing things to an extent that don't benefit your overall health. He's emotionally available for a relationship. He wants to make our relationship official, but we have decided it's more rational to wait a bit to ultimately decide. But so far, no red flags on this guy for me.
I'd guess the only yellow flag is his excitement taking over and before we even met in person, he was calling me terms of endearment, but I was able to critique that and he apologized. He's overall a very mature guy and it is obvious he's ready to settle down, both of us are in our early 30s, so it makes sense because I genuinely want that for myself too. I want to give myself some discipline and not have sex with him until I get to meet friends of his and he meets mine, social vet a bit, and when we're able to say I love you to each other for a few days. I feel like the I love yous should come first before that level of intimacy is established, whereas I've had sex with previous partners before I even knew they had no actual friends and didn't get to fully realize how much of a slob they were at home. Trying to really take this slow, but I'm very comfortable with this guy already.
No. 360525
>>360524Are you retarded? I didn't go for ugly men, one of the stalker guys were so hot my friends were shocked he was into me because they thought i was too ugly for him lmao.
Both ugly and handsome men can take rejection badly and react violently. Stop
victim blaming me when you're retarded enough to search for something serious on a dating app. You can't lecture me on men and then try to meet your future husband/long term partner on a dating app people only use for casual relationships.
No. 360532
>>360531Thank you anon. I'm sure most women have been stalked to a degree whether that be online or an obsessed ex so I think we all worry about this.
And yes I give a second name I don't use and won't give my number. I'm being slow and trying to find someone I can trust before I actually meet up with them, anyone to obsessive, clingy or dysfunctional in another way is out of question for me.
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Why are all the men on dating apps so fucking ugly?
So. Fucking. Ugly.
Everytime I open a dating app it feels like I'm doomscrolling through hairy ugly down syndrome motherfuckers that have the nerve to make pictures with the most retarded lip sucking eye squinting poses then send me a message saying "Hey gorgeous". As if I want to even be within an inch of you you disgusting ugly scrote. Everytime I download a dating app I inevitably delete it just 30 minutes later because i get fugly-overload. It's enough to give me stomach poisoning and not leave my bed for a week. Just please for the love of God just once let me see a man who isn't a complete eyesore to look at.
No. 364671
>>364582It’s bleak, isn’t it? I thought maybe I was being too harsh, but the men in my age range (mid-twenties) are ugly as hell. On dating apps and IRL. So many guys are pudgy and have bad hair with moon faces. Are awful genetics just more prominent now? And as other anons said, anyone actually good-looking that I find on these apps just wants to hook up, because they can and know there’s slim pickings.
Those that say that attractive people don’t use apps, where do they hang out then kek?
No. 364680
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swiped right on my work crush last night, not feeling great about it lol
No. 364810
>>364752>SchoolAlready graduated
>WorkMy work is full of boomers.
>With friends in commonIt’s over kek
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Bi/les anons, how would you rank these apps from best to worst for meeting women?
>Tinder
>Hinge
>Her
>Bumble
>OKCupid
>Lex
>Feeld
No. 374555
>>374491Some of it is photoshop. I’ve seen on Reddit lots of men and women asking for their face to be photoshopped onto a dressier body or a more interesting background.
That and well there’s also just way more attractive women than there are men. The men either look suspiciously shooped or they’re complete slobs.
No. 375595
>>365517I've only tried Hinge and Tinder, and Hinge is much better by far.
I personally only found couples looking for a third on Tinder, but it could just be my area
No. 380992
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Lol
No. 380998
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Got complimented by a footfag once KEK
No. 381079
>>381036I've seen super rough people, especially troons, you never know.
>>381071I don't, I was just passing by, but you're right, I have autistic tendencies and I tend to take things at face value kek.
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No. 381091
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kek no comment
No. 381345
>>381331Male elementary school teachers are also pretty rare, and weirdly enough they're the ones normalfags think are nonces.
It also doesn't help that those men who do are the ones who get fast tracked for admin positions. Rooster in the hen house kinda vibes.
No. 382255
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LMAO
No. 382608
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I always love going on passport mode when I’m bored
No. 384006
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>>382608I've talked to a Japanese guy once who wanted a Western woman to give him enema. Like fucking why
Also the "hair not found" memes of using Tinder as a woman over 25 is no joke. I have no idea how women are targeted by beauty services when the true tragic tale of human beauty is male pattern baldness. No wonder they're obsessed with "the wall", it's very real for them.
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ohhhhhh nasty
barrrrrrf
No. 384549
>>382304Actually yes lmao. I'm going to therapy to work on my behavior. 4 months since knowing him and I got way into survival mode and started worrying way too much about losing him and worried about not meeting these life goals I've set for myself for TWO years. Realized I have anxious attachment tendencies from unprocessed trauma. He's been very supportive throughout all this, he's asked me what he can do to help, he's opened this bridge of friends he knows who'd love to hang out with me when I feel lonely if he's busy, and he's encouraging me to do things I want to do. I've said I'd understand if he wouldn't want to be with me anymore, but he says he understands why I would feel a certain way, but to also take things a day at a time and has put me back into being grounded with the reality. He's challenged my deranged thinking of wanting to leave, he's said he doesn't want to throw everything away because he sees potential. He's actually wanting to work on things and willing to be there for me and encouraging me to get the help I know I need and want. It was a rough couple of weeks, but it is taking a positive turn, he is still planning dinner to take me out to for our monthly anniversary, he's still asking me if I want to go places even for the upcoming year. He's been great at informing me of his schedule, which has been busy lately and a factor in
triggering me, but despite all that, he's so great to me. He doesn't watch porn, he believes in monogamy (he used to be ultra Christian), he works very hard in his career to do things right and eventually wants to get to a point where he's not working to build anyone's business and doing what he's passionate about. He's very dedicated and it's shown in his actions. He reminds me life is short, but ultimately to do things that will bring true joy at the end of the day.
No. 384613
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broke men gotta stop liking my profile
No. 384875
>>384802Not extreme, it is good to weed out the bad. If you're on OKC, it's best to only answer questions that truly matter to match with better people, such as things related to your core values like "How long do you want your next relationship to be?" Or "Are you ready to settle down and get married right now?" Do not answer mundane questions like "Pineapple on pizza?" or "Do you sleep with lights on or off?" Unless there's a question that you believe is DIRE to answer, skip it. You'll end up high percentage matches saturated with people who have nothing better to do, can barely function social wise, and usually have some kind of Internet addiction.
I also like the pointing out of compliments messages not really being custom. Men have more work to do, which is good in the long run.
No. 384971
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last time i used tinder
>texted guy for like a week before we met, seemed pretty sweet, cute, nice
>met him, he was nice, sweet, a few red flags such as whenever he saw anyone he was like ‘oh that person hates me’ and him telling me everyone hated him in his uni, also annoying interests such as lego. also find out he is bisexual
>meet him another time, this time go to his uni accommodation
>tells me that everyone hates him because they thought he raped a girl (definitely did)
>telling me how much he hates religion but is a satanist
>annoyingly socialist
>made me watch this 15 minute extremely unfunny film thing because he was one of those filmbro guys and i couldn’t even fake a laugh
>swipes through tinder profiles whilst his arm is around me on his bed
>starts playing fifa or some shit whilst i’m there, extremely bored
>tells me how he has fucked all his friends including his male friends and is addicted to sex
>cherry on top is before i leave he just starts kissing me. never kissed anyone before that so i was like wtf and i wanted the ground to eat me alive whilst it was happening i kept biting his lip kek
after this date i tried to ghost him, he told me more shit though about how he was too good to get a job at tesco because he did some work experience for the birmingham commonwealth games topkek. i knew i had to ghost him at that point
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No. 386692
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wtf kind of first line is this?
No. 386931
>>384549That's great to hear
Nonnie, I hope you'll be better and you can be happily together.
No. 386951
>>386855It's not like he has to be a weeb
I guess I just don't want specifically a normie guy idk
I fear not actually being allowed to be myself because dark humor is really not everyone's cup of tea, or I guess degen 4chan humor maybe not just dark humor. I just wanna make fun of troons and minorities and cuddle while watching anime with a dude who isn't completely garbage. Are my standards really too high?
(racebaiting) No. 386955
>>386952Maybe I've gotten lucky, but I've been with my "weeb" moid for 6 years and it has been great. Unironically the most sane person I've met, unless you count insecurities as being insane.
>>386951I met mine on 4chan, but truthfully, you have to sieve through hundreds of vile porn addicts. You can check their archives for discord tags which speeds things up a bit.
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>>386951>and minorities why are we always getting dragged into this shit with trannies
No. 389157
>>389058That sounds awful, anon. How long have you know him for now, 5 months? I think it's good you've seen his true face this early, you'll forget about him in no time.
>>388318Samefag but catholic girl wants to be friends, it took 3 days for her to reply to my message but at least she was the one to suggest we meet. I feel like such an extrovert for talking to two women on this app kek
No. 389196
>>389157Yeah just about 5 months, I'm really glad it's over. Record breaking shortest relationship I've had. I guess it's a good indicator of me having better self awareness of what kind of person I need to be with to make a relationship work compared to before.
I'm actually going on a date with a guy tomorrow, he seems to have some self awareness, but only talking to him more would tell. I'll probably have to start asking men how they handle stress, because that's the basis of all issues. Conflict. Too many men out there in the dating world are dismissive avoidant.
No. 389725
>>389673This is very important advice because so many people don't understand this: if you feel like texting back immediately, do so. I give this same advice to men and women, gay and straight. If you want to text/call whatever and don't do so, you are playing games and that shit will never work out. Being genuine is so important
Now don't blow him up with texts either, but if he texts you and you want to respond, do it. Even if it turns out that this guy is just being an inconsiderate douche, you have to let it play out.
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yall what the fuck
i’m deleting this app
No. 389873
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Why do all britbongs look the fucking same regardless of their race/ethnical background. I've been scrolling through and feeling like they all are love island rejects. Literally every one of them dresses in the same (bad) way, has pics of them in a horrible looking suit, pics of being a menace abroad in spain/netherlands/france, and all have objectively unflattering haircuts. Don't get me started on the state of hairlines once they're over mid twenties. I can feel the inteste vibes of "mediocre sex" whenever I glance at them.
The only thing that makes it more bearable is the occasional foreigner that pops up. I don't know how other girls manage, I'm just looking for a boytoy but I kinda lost hopes, can't imagine what if feels like if you're looking for something serious.
No. 390636
>>389673I finally managed to unmatch this guy. It was extremely freeing. He ignored me for two whole days. I don't think this was a crush he probably
triggered my anxiety which is probably why I reacted like this because he isn't that great of a guy. The next time someone treats me like this I will instantly unmatch because it just really gets to me and I don't want to feel on edge all the time.
No. 390807
>>390760So he messaged me an hour after I made the update. He sent me a message saying he's been anxious all week. He enjoyed our first date a lot, but our work schedules are just incompatible. The days he works are inconsistent and because of that, seeing each other would be too much of a rush with the limited amount of time to figure out if we would work. Even texting each other, I'd have to go to sleep for work once he had complete free time to have a deeper conversation.
I told him thanks for being honest, because I did also think about how his work schedule was completely different from mine, combine that with the fact we live 30ish minutes away from each other, it's too much of an inconvenience. For him, at least, it's his loss. I was willing to see if we could figure out a compromise and discuss this on our second date, like I'd be able to relax with him once he's out of work or hang out with him weekday mornings before he goes into work, and decide if we want to commit to changing up our lives to be life partners, but it takes two to make it work as such.
So, no date. I just have to move on and find someone who I can connect to and has a similar mindset and availability.
Considering I'm in my early 30s, I wonder if it'd benefit me to considering trying to date single fathers, but that really makes me sad to think about, so I'm sticking to what I have. Maybe I should try to find a guy who's in his 20s? What difference would it make though?
No. 390843
>>390807>I wonder if it'd benefit me to considering trying to date single fathersMen with kids from previous relationships are expired goods, they're not worth the trouble.
Sorry this guy didn't work out, it kind of sounds like an excuse tbh. Going by his own logic he can't date at all because his inconsistent work hours aren't going to match with anyone else's yet he's still on dating apps.
No. 390845
>>390843AYRT yeah and thinking of it more, it's his own fault. He'll find a good love if he didn't stay at a 2nd shift retail job for 5+ years that from what it sounds like he isn't even making $20 an hour. So I missed that bullet. He said he was dating for marriage and on the date he was such a giving person, but if he wants a well enough rounded woman who values closeness, he'd have to make a huge change in his life. He told me his plan B is to go across the border with his family and make a life out there, I think that's been tempting him more and more as the days pass than making a huge sacrifice for someone he barely knows. There's always some fantasy or idea keeping a man from committing to reality.
Also yeah, the more I think of it I'm not going to date a single father. I see many single fathers at my job with their cute little children and I do get those what if thoughts when some of the dads are overly nice to me. I have to take a step back and just understand, their child is what brings me the most joy, not this man with child support issues.
No. 391627
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i went on a date with a dude 5 years younger than me on a whim and it turns out that cougars might have had a point because i’ve never had a man try so hard to impress me
his head was so empty he could only name 3 movies he had watched all the way through (forrest gump, spiderman (2001), and ratatouille) and yet he still made me cum! he was in fact so hype to have made me cum that he spontaneously nutted on my back without touching his dick at all and then got a boner again no more than 20 minutes later when my leg brushed up against his dick while we were cuddling. this dude was moaning THEATRICALLY while we were fully clothed making out. never in my life have i experienced this degree of enthusiasm to touch my honesty pretty mid body and he was not ugly. so idk if you are over the age of 28 and have the patience to listen to a himbo for a few hours consider fucking a zoomer tbh except be prepared to have a visceral reaction when they talk about how fat your ass is bc as a millennial it really took me a minute to process that this was a compliment and not a bizarrely timed insult about my body kek
dudes who are even slightly older than me have consistently acted like i have no standards and should/will settle for their bare minimum but every time i’ve hooked up with a guy younger than me it’s like they’re trying to prove that they are nice and good at sex and ~not like other boys~ which is laughable but like i’m not above taking advantage of this either so… maybe think about it as long as you don’t try to actually date them
No. 391657
>>391627Thanks for the advice
nonnie, I will definitely give it a shot.
No. 391813
>>391627>Fat ass is a compliment LORD I have heard from many moids that being obsessed with boobs is coomer behavior because they are still in toddler brain mode wanting to suck on their mommy's teet, while those admiring butts are thinking about child bearing. I learn a thing or two that benefits if one is immature or not.
My best friends husband is 10 years her minor and I've considered it. It's just that mindset of finding a young guy that'll work. So many of them have that broccoli hair, it just pulls me away.
No. 392170
>>391022Yeah it takes a lot for a woman to leave the father these days. Living single with kids is not very affordable these days even if you make good money. Daycare takes everything. for a woman to leave in financially volatile times would take extremely shitty behavior from the father probably bordering on
abusive behavior if not outright abuse. It’s too risky to take such a chance unless you are willing to spend a lot of time researching why the woman left or why he left her. It’s very rare for a man to initiate leaving unless he’s a deadbeat cheater so chances are the mother left for reasons that the man will never change within himself.
No. 392174
>>392129Millennial men are also pornbrained, but they do tend to hide it more. Zoomer men are more engulfed in Internet porn early on so it is definitely something to be weary of.
On the topic of older men, so many millennial men have that dumbass beard that looks like a cap and I hate it so much.
No. 392211
>>392129All men are the same
nonnie. Millennial men my age are also porn sick. Men from my dad's generation were also porn sick. There's no escape.