/g/ - girl talk

>>267393
Now that I've finished college I really want to take the time to focus on myself outside of working part-time (get my license, work out regularly, learn a new language, prepare for a full-time job etc.) I regret not focusing on myself more in my life and always putting my energy into gaining the friendship and approval of others. As a result of that I have quite a few friends that I've grown apart from over the years, friends that were never all that good to me, as well as friends that I still love and enjoy the company of, but can't stand their politics.
I read The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron and it's really helped me realize things about myself. I'm reading Atomic Habits next as I do the program from the artist's way.
I'd say that vices I'm working on getting rid of are perfectionism and waiting for motivation to spark instead of creating habits. Perfectionism is often praised due to the quality of your work, but it actually prevents you from changing habits or starting new things if you can't do them perfectly right from the start.
It really is all ours for the taking, nonnies.

Since I broke up with a long term bf who turned out to be a gaslighting pornsick moid last year, I've let myself go with irregular sleep schedule and lagged behind in work. I jumped from 123lbs to 133lbs at 5'4" and can't fit into most of my old clothes. My muscle mass stayed generally the same, it's mostly fat I've put on so I'm trying to do more cardio and cut the excess and just try harder in keeping up the self care. I'm falling asleep at 3 and waking up at 9 which are not enough hours to keep a healthy skin or a functioning brain for work. Thankfully my work is fully remote but it's more of a downside now because as long as I get my work done I don't have to clock in at a specific hour, and it's pushed me into a vicious cycle of falling asleep later and later.

>what I plan to do for the next month (and continue)
- do at least 15 minutes of cardio workout a day (HIIT, jogging, stairclimber etc)
- regularly upkeep my nails and get pedicure done
- actually focus on work during work hours and keep a regular schedule, ideally waking up at 7am and going to bed at 11pm
- go outside more and socialize with friends at least once a week
- lessen the amount of carbs consumed and have a calorie deficit in general
- do a marie kondo cleanout before moving next month
- keep a cleaner workspace / apartment in general
- no phone 30 minutes before bed (ik you have to do it for at least 2 hours but baby steps)

I recently finished school and got a high paying job after a decade of poverty, setbacks, and bad decisions regarding my life choices, finances and personal health. I've built up a lot of bad habits that I want to change. Last month, I replaced my bed sheets, camisoles, lounge shorts, socks and underwear because they were so ratty and filled with holes because I had them for years and years. It's so nice to actually sleep in comfort. This month, I'm practicing being more clean by doing one load of laundry per week and immediately cleaning up after myself. I stretch and take a 30 minute walk every day. I'm meal prepping lunch every week to eat healthier and to save money. I need to open a new checking and savings account because I only have a college account that is attached to my mom's name. Then I want to create a financial plan and budget so I can pay off my car and start saving for emergencies and retirement. This year, I want to stop avoiding honest conversations with myself by getting my teeth issues fixed and seeing a doctor.

>>271213
Good for you nonnie! Poverty is so difficult to escape, you’ve come so far and deserve to treat yourself and look after your well-being. Best of luck with your improvement journey!