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No. 184353

I always see other girls saying that there's no such thing as a slut. Is that so? Because whenever shit happens said girls are the first to call other women sluts.
What do farmers think? Sluts are real or that is just relative? If sluts are def real, what makes a girl a slut? Is promiscuity necessary or just dressing 'slutty' is enough?

Thanks.

Share stories if you want.

No. 184368

>>184353
Of course sluts 'exist'. the issue is whether or not that's an inherently bad thing.
IMO promiscuity is what defines someone as a slut, so dressing slutty and acting flirty don't qualify.

Don't think I can name any specific numbers, though. I tend to only count it as promiscuity if it's unsafe/reckless sex, so if you've had ten fwb over the years, for example, you wouldn't be a slut in my books. Most people tend to disagree.

No. 184385

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A woman engaging in casual sex of any form, in other words having any kind of sex outside of a long-term relationship, makes her a slut.

Men cannot be sluts and if you haven't realized why you're stupid. For men to promiscuously sleep with women they have to achieve a high status, they need a combination of money, good looks, good genetics, and personality. It is a difficult achievement for men to have casual sex.

Women on the other hand can simply just choose which man to have sex with. It doesn't matter if they have no money, it doesn't matter if they're ugly, it doesn't matter if they've never contributed to society in anyway.

Not only could an ugly broke disease-ridden drug-addicted female have sex with average men, she could actually charge men money just to have sex with her.

There's a reason 99% of prostitutes are female, and even the male prostitutes that do exist almost only have clients that are gay males.

No. 184386

>>184385
Lol what? You must be kidding.

No. 184387

Kill yourselves

No. 184391

>>184386
>responding to b8

No. 184392

Sluts as in promiscuous women are definitely real. I don't think dressing "slutty" counts, that's just bullshit left over from when we wore 8 layers of clothes and showing our stockings was scandalous.

In my opinion there's nothing wrong with being a slut. I can't think of any reasons why people shouldn't have as much sex as they want, unless it's an addiction and it's destroying their life or they're knowingly spreading disease without telling people.

I'm not sure about the whole "slut shaming" issue. People have the right to be hateful assholes just as much as they have the right to fuck a new person every week. Slut walks are a mystery to me.

No. 184395

>>184392
>I can't think of any reasons why people shouldn't have as much sex as they want

When women are sluts they become unsuitable as mothers or wives, no man wants to start a family with them, the effects of this on society are serious and complex, more complex than I can articulate in a post.

The future of human civilization is at stake, the future itself is largely decided by who women choose to have sex with. Women collectively making bad sexual decisions can actually lead to the destruction of civilization, they have already destroyed the concept of "family".

No. 184396

>>184395
go back to /pol/ you goddamn retard

No. 184398

>>184395
>the future of the world is at stake because no one wants to have sex with me

No. 184399

>>184398
When I say the future I'm basically just talking about something that's already happening right now coming to it's final phases. The current state of western civilization is already seeing such extreme levels of broken families and degeneracy.

This is largely caused by women being sluts, it destroys the institutions of family and marriage, and therefor destroys civilization itself.

Women aren't smart enough to see or understand things like this, so it's not really their fault they act the way they do. It is men for allowing women to break the religious/cultural/legal laws and stigmas that prevented women from acting like this, they were in place since ancient times to keep civilization running, not just to pointlessly "oppress" women, they are for women's own good.

No. 184403

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No. 184404

>>184403
I'm tired.

No. 184405

>>184404
It's ok. We all have our off days.

No. 184406

>>184405
This isn't an off day.

No. 184426

Of course sluts exist, they're those who use sex like a recreational activity, instead of something used to bond in an intimate setting with those that they wish to - there's a big difference. It shows a lack of self respect or control when people go out of their way to have more than one partner per month, though I think anyone who has had more than one partner per year since 16 could be considered a slut - just my personal feelings. It depends on why, more than anything though.


I was married a virgin, as was he, but I do tell others to explore their sexuality "in other ways," if they want to stay virgins till marriage - (not anal, I mean foreplay, intimate touching at night, talking about what kind of sexual relationship you envision for yourselves, etc to get to know your partner on a sexual level, as to avoid not having the issue of lack of sexual bond,) but I really don't think it's that big of a deal to stay a virgin till marriage unless you really want to for personal reasons. I think the pressure of "virtue," can also drive people into consuming sex like it's a foodstuff.

Though people who are "proud sluts," are very few and far between. I find that it's the same 5 girls at this college who are passed around, and someday I'd like to ask, "why?" They seemingly think that they are the ones using the men, "oh, we're getting back at them for objectifying us, now let's use them in the same manner, they'll cry and get hurt!" but this never happens, instead the men are overjoyed to have "easy playthings." I really question if these "proud sluts," know that they're just working into the "patriarchy," they hate so much – they're making these men very, very happy.

No. 184430

>>184426
Why is this thread full of shit bait?

No. 184433

Hi, OP here. I swear i wasn't baiting when i made this thread, i knew some would share stupid opinions/bait but really there's no other imageboard around where most users are female, as far as im aware, so this was the only place I could ask. Just ignore them.
Seriously, what bothers me the most is that, like I previously explained, some women that hang out with me say there's no such thing as a slut yadda, yadda and then BAM, criticize other women and slander them calling them hoes and sluts because they're no virginal saints. That's really fucked up imo, and that makes me wonder if most people are this way too, since MOST women nowadays say that you should be proud of being a "slut" and that you're not being promiscuous, just sexually free or whatever and that there's really no boundaries expect the ones you set for yourself. How can people say that and shit on other people when they express their sexuality with multiple partners then?
I'm not a saint myself, I'm sexually active (not currently active but I've had 1 sexual partner), but since I have friends from many circles, I hear the craziest stories and hear people shitting on others all the time too.

Do I personally think a woman is a slut if she has, let's say, 10 sexual partners in a year? Not exactly, i guess it depends on many things. But I heard friends say that a girl was major slut for that, kek. Idk, man. Idk. Just legitimate curious.

I wasn't asking what men think, what men want or anything like that, I already know what men want/expect because they share their fucking opinion on sluts everywhere.

Anyway,

Thanks everyone who commented.

No. 184434

>>184430
Why do you think that post was bait? It was one of the serious posts itt

No. 184435

>>184434
Why do you think these posts (>>184385, >>184399) are "bait"?

There's no reason to think that. Are you just that upset and can't think of anything to say back so you call it "bait"?

No. 184437

>>184435
It's because I am naive enough to still have faith in the human race

>Are you just that upset and can't think of anything to say back so you call it "bait"?

Not upset, just astonished such backwards thinking still exists nowadays kek

No. 184438

>>184435
>This is largely caused by women being sluts, it destroys the institutions of family and marriage, and therefor destroys civilization itself.
>not bait

If it isn't bait, it's an incel/robot. Either way, you should gtfo

No. 184439

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>the mere fact that you guys are replying to "obivious bait" or what ever only shows that what he's saying is getting to you to some extent

regardless I always hate he implication that people saying a person can have lots of sex and it'll have no repercussion what so ever

I mean I'm waiting until marriage but I get it that other people do it differently

No. 184443

>>184439
>>regardless I always hate he implication that people saying a person can have lots of sex and it'll have no repercussion what so ever

same anon, if you wanna have tons of sex with strangers or people you barely know or whatever, at least dont pretend you dont fucking know you are at more risks than people who dont, like STDs, or an unwanted pregnancy (not saying that unwanted pregnancies dont happen if you have a partner, etc. they do. its just the chances are higher for obvious reasons).
or that society wont treat you like shit sometimes. people will. its life, its unfair probably, but thats how it is. maybe someday in 20-30 years people just wont care anymore, but they still do today, for the most part, regardless of assuming it or not.

i dont really agree with the pic you posted but yeah, i do agree with you to an extent.

No. 184467

For me, appearance has nothing to do with it, its actions.

An example of a grade A slut? Married woman who has cheated multiple times, has a married boyfriend on the side, AND fucks guys she finds off craigslist personals. Some give her payment. She may even have a kid or kids, with different men who see her fucking dudes who arent their dad, on the regular.

For me, that would be the epitome of a slut. Someone with no moral compass and no regards for the people around her and their feelings. Probably a narcissist or sociopath who only cares about seeing the reflection of her face in her latest fucktoys eyes. Its about worship and gratification, not forging any genuine connection. Hell, she may even fake a connection just to get a lay.

I guess my description is on the extreme end but I would suppose a person as I described fits the word slut as opposed to just someone who is single and sometimes has casual sex with other single men.

No. 184485

Sluts do exist, for both genders too. And no, there's nothing inherently 'wrong' with craving sexual attention and having had sex with lots of people but I also think people are allowed to dislike it in a potential partner just like it's socially acceptable to dislike a person's political views. Obviously women often get the short end of the stick by people assuming they're 'sluts' just for wearing a miniskirt whatever but there's a difference between wanting to dress slightly/tastefully sexy and straight up provocative and lots of people don't see the difference between fashion-sexy and I-really-really-want-attention sexy.

FWIW I wouldn't trust a partner who has slept with lots of women just like I'm sure there are men who wouldn't trust women who've slept with lots of men. I find people like that are often unable to commit and eventually end up cheating when they get bored or start pushing you into doing things you don't want to do and then cheating when you give them a firm no. And yeah, STDs too.

I'm sure there are good people out there who have a 'healthy' sexual appetite and are still faithful to their partners, but I personally wouldn't trust a man like that and I believe people are allowed to do the same provided that they don't start spewing redpill bullshit like the fella upthread.

As for what makes a person a slut, basically sleeping with lots of people and craving unhealthy amounts of sexual attention.

No. 184486

I'm 26 and was a stripper for 4 years. I'm still a virgin. I don't even know whether I'm a slut or a prude or what

No. 184487

>>184486
Well you're obviously not a prude seeing as you were a stripper for four years, but you're not a slut either unless you were doing lots of ..other sexual activities

No. 184488

>>184487
But that's the thing isn't it? You don't even have to be actually promiscuous to be judged a slut, it's all subjective. Some guy sees a woman dressed like a skank and assume she's a giant whore, doesn't mean anything.

No. 184493

>>184488
>Some guy sees a woman dressed like a skank and assume she's a giant whore, doesn't mean anything.

Well if this is court and it's an innocent until proven guilty thing, then yeah, it doesn't mean anything. But this isn't court and things are what they look like.. a lot of the time. Definitely not always, but often. That's why assumptions and generalizations and judging a book by it's cover are things. And you can't be friends with everyone you see and you can't go after everyone who catches your eye, so if "some guy" isn't interested in skanks then yeah, he's probably gonna assume she's "a giant whore". Shit, you even have to make a decision of who you make smalltalk with. You probably aren't chatting with the homeless guy when you're waiting at the bus stop, etc. It's not fair to the kind virgin girl with good values who is dressed like a skank but doesn't want people to assume she's a skank, but she's the exception and if she wants to keep being the exception she'll have to learn it comes with the territory.

No. 184494

within my social circle we usually don't use "slut" to describe other women lol. most of the time it's the men we know that fit that description. if we're ever talking about another woman's sex life it's usually not that ..like.. exaggerated or amazing. it's just kinda casual "ok whatever" type bullshit.

No. 184495

>>184488
So? People make judgements based on appearance, more news at 8.
People assume I'm homeless whenever I come home from work because I work as a cleaner, and in work most patrons assume I don't speak much English. You can either learn to deal with it or spend the rest of your life trying to change other people's opinions. It's part of the risk you took on when you accepted the job.
I'm well educated and dress well in my spare time but I came from a poor country so I hadn't much of a choice when it came to choosing my career abroad. I also get treated like shit as soon as people find out where I'm from because my country has a bit of an image (but I'm white so nobody stands up for me).

At least you had the luxury of choice. If you want to change how others perceive you, make an effort to look different and don't tell anyone where you used to work. Ezpz.

No. 184496

>>184495
If you don't mind me asking, where do you come from that you're white but people see you and assume you don't speak english?

No. 184497

>>184496
Poland, I'm guessing. We have a lot of them in Britain and they aren't treated that well sometimes by regular Brits. I actually really like Polish people, a lot of my work friends are from there and they're all awesome people.

No. 184499

>>184497
>>184496
Romania actually. We get treated 10x worse because we're 1) Eastern European 2) 'Gypsies' (many people are too thick to get that Romani=/=Romanian).
>inb4 not white
I'm ginger, moving on

No. 184500

>>184499
I wish you good fortune gypsy. Maybe some day in the future you'll live somewhere where it won't really matter, in my country we know the word gypsy but nobody here would know if they were looking at one or not.

No. 184539

>>184499

What's your experience with Romanian guys? You said you are a virgin, but is this because you don't like Romanian guys or because of other reasons? I'm asking this because I used to have a FWB from Romania, he was an okay guy but kind of weird at times.

No. 184540

>>184539
>you said you are a virgin
I'm not the stripper anon, I just responded to her

Idk, they're a mixed bag like everywhere else. You have city boys who are like most other European men, except odds are they probably won't know how to do any chores around the house or dress themselves properly. The more rural they are the more they treat you like a piece of furniture that also cooks, cleans and occasionally pops out kids. Odds are they'll probably get a wife because 'it's what you do' and court her until marriage, then just leave her to keep house while they go about their business and ignore her.

If it helps, most girls from my country who go to America and date guys there say they're incredibly patriarchal and will talk over you, brag about their job and income to get in your pants, take your achievements as their own, expect you to become a housewife and quit your job as soon as you get pregnant, which Romanian guys often don't do (and women don't let them) unless they're turbo hicks.

No. 184544

Well in my experience that has nothing to do with how you dress or anything. Like a girl I knew that goes partying a lot and wears tight tops and skirts is in a really stable and serious relationship. But the innocent looking bookworm friend I have told me basically that she gets all her self-worth from hooking up with strangers and makes it sure that she feels degraded during that, too. And sex is on her mind like all the time, like you can't go to a train with her and she'll point out some fuckbois and wondering what their dick taste like.

I think that's a bad behavior in a way that she basically just uses those guys as props to feel better about herself and has really no emotional attachment to sex.

No. 184551

>>184500
It's like people dont know that gypsy is along the same lines as calling someone a chink or a kike.

No. 184553

>>184540
>brag about their job and income to get in your pants,

They need to brag about money because that's all women care about.

>expect you to become a housewife and quit your job as soon as you get pregnant


Oh god how oppressive. He expects you to not work while he does to take care of all your financial needs? How horrible, the damn patriarchy is oppressing us so much.

If this was a guy not working and his wife made all the money, you certainly wouldn't be claiming he's oppressed by it, you would be calling him a worthless piece of shit.

(Inb4 circlejerk about how housework is "so hard" for your monkey brains, or saying that housework is the same as having a real job, it's not, it takes at most 2 hours out of your day and you can do it whenever you want)

No. 184554

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>>184553
Wew lad

No. 184555

>>184553
I've noticed guys who think like this never do housework and can't cook. Go wash your ass and change your smelly ass sheets, robot.

No. 184556

>>184554
I like how any woman who isn't a neo feminist is a fedora tipper now. She's completely right in everything she said.

No. 184557

>>184555
sorry all women aren't retarded femnists?

No. 184558

>>184435
>>184434
They think it's bait because it's true and theyre sluts.

No. 184561

>>184558

>robots jerking each other off to feel good about their shit lives.

No. 184572

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>>184553

>If this was a guy not working and his wife made all the money, you certainly wouldn't be claiming he's oppressed by it, you would be calling him a worthless piece of shit.


Actually I'd call him a house husband, which is a nice idea
Coming home to him making food and wearing nothing but an apron, DELICIOUS

No. 184574

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>ywn be a stay at home husband you takes care of the house and home while your wife is working

I didn't need this feel

No. 184608

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>>184558
Virgin here but nice try robot

>>184553
>you certainly wouldn't be claiming he's oppressed by it, you would be calling him a worthless piece of shit.
Kek anon get your head out of your ass, this is the 21st century we're talking about. No one cares about gender roles anymore, retard.

Also, about the housewife thing.
No one should expect someone to stay at home like a vegetable doing nothing but cleaning windows and sweeping floors while having no financial independence of their own, be it a man or a woman.
It's a matter of choice, not of forcing your significant other to do something.

Whew this thread sure lures in a bunch of incels. Go back to Red Pill and r9k lmao.

No. 184613

>>184608
>No one should expect someone to stay at home like a vegetable doing nothing but cleaning windows and sweeping floors while having no financial independence of their own, be it a man or a woman.

You think being a housewife means staying at home "like a vegetable"? You think of it as an "oppressed" position?

This is one reason why women/marriage/family has been ruined in western countries, you've actually been tricked into thinking that the most respectable and redeeming position a woman can have in society, being a good mother and wife, is "oppressive".

No. 184616

>>184608
> No one cares about gender roles anymore, retard.

Women certainly do, they defend the ones that benefit them while bashing the ones they feel don't.

That's why men will gladly date women with no money, and in fact successful men even prefer women with no money/job, but women will never date a guy with no money or good financial outlook. In general almost all women won't date men acting too far outside masculine gender roles, if they're not seen as financially secure strong protective figures women don't like them.

Women say one thing but then do another, as usual. They say "I don't like gender roles", but then fuck Chad Moneybags, and make fun of men who don't follow masculine gender roles well enough, like you just did: "a bunch of incels. Go back to Red Pill and r9k lmao"

No. 184618

>>184613
It's oppressive if that's the only thing they're allowed to do, and the only thing that's expected of them.

No. 184620

>>184618
one could argue about it being the same case for men
but yet it never seems to be considered

No. 184621

What lands women the label of "slut" is if other people know, or think they know, about their sexual exploits.

In high school I had catty people tear me down constantly for being a "slut" because I wore low cut camo tops with hoodies, makeup, sometimes heels, and always had my nails manicured while I dated boys. Even though I only ever messed around with guys I had been dating.
People also thought I was a "stoner" because I was super chill and bubbly even though I never got high until I was in college.

Then in my college years, after I toned down my image a bit, and was fucking multiple guys low key, nobody ever said shit about me. Because it was all kept away from anybody's knowledge and they had nothing to physically judge. Everyone thought I was a nice, quiet girl but I was secretly messing around with frat fuckbois so I could score some weed.

I've been with my bf for three years living together and he doesn't care nor do I care about his sexual past.
Nobody gives a shit.

No. 184622

>>184621
>and he doesn't care

Does he even know? I mean have you fully explained to him in detail your entire sexual past? You probably haven't, and I'm 1000% sure he's not okay with it, even if he says he doesn't care and still stays with you.

Doesn't matter anyway, the relationship will fail soon and you'll move onto the next guy in no time. You're permanently ruined in this regard and this will be a cycle for your whole life.

No. 184624

>>184622
>I mean have you fully explained to him in detail your entire sexual past?

Yeah, we've had the retarded "hurr let's talk about our awkward and lulzy past relationships" discussion.
Bf isn't insecure and doesn't view my sexual relationships that I had with people in college thousands of miles away as a threat to our current relationship. Why should he?

Poor bitter robotosan :'(

No. 184625

>>184621
He doesn't think they're "awkward and lulzy XD".

He thinks they're disgusting, and inside he really does care, even if he says he doesn't care and still stays with you

No. 184627

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>>184625
>and inside he really does care

Haha stop. If it bothered him then at this point it would be on him entirely for living with me for three years and never saying shit about it.
You sound like a girlfriendless virgin who has no idea how relationships actually work.

No. 184628

>>184621
>living with me for three years and never saying shit about it.

Don't underestimate what men will do for steady sexual access.

You probably haven't fully told of him your past sexual experiences, like how you "only" fucked the 10 different guys you dated in high school, or how you fucked random frat guys for weed.

If you have really disclosed all this to him, people make compromises, and that's what he's doing. I can 2000% guarantee that on the inside he really dislikes that, and he's afraid that you'll revert to your old behavior, which you probably have already while dating him.

You're simply incapable of remaining monogamous, guys don't _want_ girls with past sexual histories like yours, because you have an incredibly high chance of cheating or just being another failed relationship, you have disgusting jaded views on sex/relationships from all the past men you've fucked and the past relationships.

No. 184629

>>184628
why am I being ignored with the points I'm trying to make
y'all only seem to be replying to bait

No. 184630

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>>184628
>you're incapable of being monogamous
>e-e-even if you've been with the same guy and been living with him for the past three years you bakakaaaaaa

Kek. Tell me more about how you hate people who you feel don't deserve romantic relationships because of their sexual past, anon. You sound miserable.

No. 184631

>>184630
How many times have you cheated on him in those 3 years?

No. 184632

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>>184631
Exactly 0.

Take that, virgin. Neener neener neenarino~

No. 184634


No. 184636

>>184634
My new tune.

Anyway, why can't anon's bf just be someone who doesn't care about her sexual past? If you ask me if he's at a higher risk of getting cheated on, then I'm going to say yes due to anon's past. Fucking random guys for weed is pretty low and maybe she's going to reach a certain point in her life where she may want something and will decide to fuck some other guy for it. She may have changed but yeah, her past isn't pretty. Not every guy ever cares about it though.
I think that a man with a long list of exes and sexual partners​ is more inclined to ignore it than a guy who has little experience, if any.

I think most men obviously do want a woman with a clean past, who's had 2-3 sexual partners at most – at least if they are serious about her.

Men have thought this way since our forefathers and will probably think like this, even if they don't admit it right away because we're more empowered nowadays. But if said guys don't have a clean past themselves they can fuck off (also, if he looks like a gross hambeast/skelly without any hygiene and aspirations, work on yourself first).

No. 184637

>>184636
>She may have changed but yeah, her past isn't pretty.

You only know about anon's past because she told you about it, that's the point. Nobody can distinguish "sluts." To anyone else, anon is a nice girl with a three year relationship with a guy who accepts her.

No. 184648

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