/ot/ - off-topic

Could any anon who went through this explain how that even happened? I was already around at the inception of tumblr gender fuckery, but once it went further than androgynous neutral stuff it became glaringly obvious that gender was a stand-in for personality, it was cringe from the get go.

I never questioned my gender but almost everyone I followed was some type of nonbinary, trans, no gender etc. People who were on HRT, people who were applying for it, people who never wanted it… All of them had all kinds of mental issues though.
I was there when everyone was using neopronouns in defense of quirky teens. For a couple of weeks everyone added pronouns like "bun/bun/buns" to their bio to "piss off the trolls". Went away pretty quickly.

One of them was probably literally retarded because of severe schizophrenia, she was 24 (I was in my teens), used neo prononouns (sea/sea/sea etc) along with it/it/its and her gender was "genderfuck". But all of things shifted around based on which character she was kinning at that moment.

A former close friend also identified as having no gender for the longest time, but it's pretty clear to me now that she simply feels too ugly to be a girl, is too fat for women's fashion anyway, has been sexual harassed (and abused?) and has been raised in a homophobic family. Guess I wouldn't want to be a girl either.

I used to be like "everyone's valid!!" but that's more harmful than good. I'm not full anti-trans but…I now see the harm in telling ugly autistic men to transition so they can love themselves and telling abused mentally ill women to transition so they can be treated with respect, away from the bad memories linked to having a female body. Even in my everyonei-is-valid phase I saw that plenty of my mutuals were trans because of trauma and shit.

That was a wld time.

I think the closest I got to this was calling myself "hetero-romantic pansexual" or some weird combination because I just had a hard time coming to terms with being bisexual (really REALLY conservative upbringing despite just… being a fucking bisexual and having more sex with girls than guys)

>How and when did you get sucked into the ideology?
College and it's because I was looking for a way to describe my sexuality. Back then I would tell myself "Okay I don't think I'd ever fall for a woman, that means I'm not bi right?!"

Another thing is that I wanted to be non-binary for a bit because I prefer to dress more masculine and have a deeper voice and am obsessed with male activities

How did you think and behave during this time and what eventually made you take off the rose-coloured glasses and snap back to your senses?
>I made a blog as the "male version" of myself and retweeted a lot of skate culture (this is all dumb, I know. Women can do that stuff too) but the worst part is I pretended that I was a Korean guy kek

I also started buying a lot of men's clothes (I mean, I still do because it's what I prefer) and trying to get into men's skate fashion

>Did you interact with the community, what was it like?
Nope, thank fuck. I think the only type of interaction was going on rants about how demisexuality is fucking stupid and not a real thing and retweeted people to start flame wars

>What do you think about the whole trend now?
Stupid as fuck but I do believe there are some people that would rather not align with the norms of their gender. I don't really have a problem with people that just admit that. I do have a problem with people that look highly feminine and call themselves boys though. And that's an extremely common thing lately.

>>624585
But in your scenario, what is the difference between being a tomboy and non-binary?

>>624582
Why did you stop being friends?

>>624592
Exactly. There's not really a difference which is why I don't identify as non-binary, I just do whatever I want. However, I do have stages of ultra-femininity so at the time I thought "Oh maybe I have 2 sides and maybe I don't fit into either??" so I considered bi-gender as well.

>>624594
I started drinking alcohol on the weekends and they got triggered to hell and back (alcoholic family who got violent under the influence). I also stopped being online as much (I had no data at the time and even if I had wi-fi I was told to put my phone down) and made a whole bunch of friends so I guess they felt they didn't know me as much as before. They once asked me if I was drunk in class at 11am (different timezones but still).
What made them block me and never look back was me saying I felt had given up on them already because they could never get over the alcohol thing. Ngl I'm glad I'm not friends with such a basketcase anymore. They would've blocked me and called me out to their friends if I had told them some of those trans women are actually balding perverts who never go outside.


Reminds me that my current bestie also had a Tumblr gender phase ages ago. When we were like 11 and she was still being abused weekly she said she wanted to be a boy. Then she briefly used Tumblr and said she was non-binary. Now she's just a lesbian who doesn't even acknowledge the whole butch/femme binary. She's weirdly well-adjusted given what she went through.