/g/ - girl talk

Around two months ago I reported one of my coworkers for time theft and ever since then she's been glaring at me whenever we happen to cross paths, and two weeks ago she tried to intimidate me. The intimidation was nothing big - I had my magnet placed for when I wanted to take lunch and immediately after I set it down she walked up to the board, moved it, placed hers and her friends above me, then afterwards stood in front of me, waiting for me to look at her, and then had this smarmy smile and let out a sigh while staring at me for another 7'ish seconds. It just seemed really juvenile, so I tried not let it get to me, but I find myself feeling stressed and uncomfortable whenever I happen to share a shift with her and am having to go out of my way to avoid her. Anyways, fast forward to today, while I was venting to a coworker about avoiding her, he said he doesn't blame me because he happened to see that incident. So I now have a witness and I have the option to report her, but I know the most HR will do is just give her a verbal warning. If things continue or progress, then she'll get written up, but she won't be let go until she has enough write-ups within a 6 month period (she's already been written up twice for time-theft and I don't think different write-ups stack on top of eachother). And apparently, I'm not the only one having issues with her, but my other coworkers haven't approached HR and one of my managers is seriously incompetent. Should I bother reporting her? I worry things will escalate once I do since she seems like a ghetto bitch. Or should I keep trying to ignore her?

>>444701
I hate people like her but why report a coworker for something that doesn't hurt you? You're just sucking up to your employer and it's not like you get a monetary bonus or more respect. You'll just be known as the narc. I don't know the whole situation though so I guess it's not my place to judge.

>>444709
>I hate people like her but why report a coworker for something that doesn't hurt you?
Reporting her for her behavior towards me or the time theft? The time theft is really unfair because whatever someone falls behind on, everyone else has to pick up the slack. And it's physical labor. As for reporting her behavior, she isn't physically threatening me, so you got a point there. It's just really annoying though and I wish I didn't have to deal with it.

>>444701
become the manager and write her up

I'm 22, and I was thinking about going to college. My main interest is in technology and computer science but I'm not too keen on working in a field that is 90% moids. I'm interested in science and the medical field too, but I'm not sure what specifically I want to major in. I know this is a very general question but can I get any advice?

Idk if I am losing my mind like a mental health issue or genuinely just disgusted but I am struggling to eat lately because I’ve seen stuff recently about parasitic worms in food and I feel nauseous 24/7 and feel like I’ve eaten worms and that I’m going to eat worms when I eat meat or vegetables or fruit but mostly meat and the only thing I feel safe eating is ultra processed food like chips or popcorn or white bread but then I feel afraid of eating mold so I’ve really barely been eating and just mostly drinking flavored water and hot tea and giving myself headaches and stomachaches. I used to struggle with Ed when I was a teen but I’m in my late 20s and feel sick thinking about worms in food what do I do genuinely. I don’t want to get locked in a loony bin as I’m a mom. I still feed my kids a good diet and make sure their food is cooked all the way and healthy but I cannot bring myself to eat right.

>>444830
Have you thought about biotechnology?

>>444856
I haven't thought about that, it definitely seems like something I'd be interested in but unfortunately the colleges in my state don't seem to offer it. The closest I've seen are biomedical engineering or chemical and biological engineering. Do you think that would be a good analogue or are there any other suggestions? Thank you

>>444862
Both of those options are pretty much the same thing as bioscience technology. I'd look into both of them, but what you pick greatly depends on what career interests you the most, whether you want to work in a lab for either testing or research or work in a manufacturing plant. There will be ample opportunities to work with different kinds of software and computers and do a lot of problem solving if that interests you. One piece of advice i'd give is make sure that if you do pick either options, ensure that they have a lot of lab classes that allow you to have hands on experience since it will be the most important thing you will need once to start looking for a job.

>>444869
I would probably prefer to work in a lab, it sounds like you have experience in this field if i'm not mistaken? If so, how is it?

>>444877
I have not graduated yet, but the instructor of the course has a lot of experience in the field and was very helpful telling us everything that we needed to know to get a job. Former students stated that the program he runs was good specifically because he focuses heavily on practical work and it gave them a leg up over people who took something like microbiology as an example. I won't be working in the field until another couple of months when i graduate. I personally prefer lab stuff also, i find it very engaging and i seem to be doing decent with it after years at flopping other stuff lmao. But i hope i helped and good luck!

>>444883
Thank you!

>>444830
Not picking a field because its "full of moids" is incredibly retarded and immature, especially when CS is broadly useful for everyone for many reasons hobbywise and job ready wise but especially STEM majors who need to crunch large sums of data. Women opting out of CS because of vapid reasons like this is the reason why its "full of moids" in the first place. If your interests and passion lie in computer science and molecular biology try pursuing bioinformatics/data-science, computational biology or double majoring in CS and a molecular course.

Biotechnology is very practical and industry based, if you're not interested in practical technologies or fields like immunology, vaccine production, applied biomedical science, antibiotic production or drug manufacturing don't do it and do something more theory based like molecular biology or biochemistry. You wouldn't recommend someone interested in data structures and algorithms to become a software engineer over a CS major likewise. It depends on where your interests in inter disciplinary fields of STEM lie and that will develop as you develop preferences from the courses you do. Like immunology/genetics/cancer biology, biochemistry metabolism/proteomics/apoptosis. I found the practical applications of biotech industry shit tier. Producing ozempic and viagra because they're more financially valuable over antibiotics that fight MRSA and cancer drugs is not inspirational. Also if you're serious about CS learn python and look into R/R studio, you don't have to master either, just familiarize yourself with industry tools.

If I'm very dissatisfied at my current job and trying to find another one, but they milk me 5 days a week, how tf am I gonna find the time and effort to find another job while working there, and do it sly? If I change my availability they're going to suspect something is up, and I'm not great at keeping secrets. But the job is quite literally giving me burnout so bad I'm afraid I'll have another mental break. I just don't really want to deal with unemployment again. That's even more suicide inducing. It took 7 months to find a job the last time. How do I find a work life balance trying to find another job to improve my life when work won't lemme have a life?

>>444891
Call in sick or just tell them you're not available, what are they gonna do? Fire you? If they need you so badly 5 days a week they won't be able to. Also who cares if they suspect something is up? It's not illegal to job hunt.

How do I get a moid friend to stop talking to me in a nice way? I don't hate him at all and I don't want to hurt him but I'm worried about him catching feelings, especially because we both have the same ethnic background and that alone makes him much more interested in me. He gives off the vibes that he'd want to marry someone from the same religion (I'm not but he doesn't know that kek) and background. It sucks because I wanted to keep him as a friend and he's genuinely a nice person but I can't trust moid 'friends' anymore. Why I suspect he might be interested
>sends me atleast 10 tiktoks a day. I haven't opened them in months but he still sends them
>keeps trying to get me into his hobbies
>has hinted multiple times at us working together in a different country (one that I'm trying to get away from kek)
>keeps asking questions about my country,language, culture
>keeps joking about moving close to me
>is actively learning the language and keeps asking for help from me
>wants to call alot
>a lot of 'lovey' emojis
Typing it out makes it seems like he's just a very close friend but my gut feeling is telling me that he's playing the long game. I'm so scared nonnas pls help kek I hope I don't sound like a complete schizo. I've been trying to keep my responses very short and vague but he still keeps going. What do?

>>444970
He's absolutely already caught feelings. Is this an online friend or?

>>444970
>Typing it out makes it seems like he's just a very close friend
Are you fucking serious? You're clearly his oneitis. Whatever you do he will act like a retard about it, either exploding with anger at your face or becoming a sad little mop (high chance he plays victim and shit talks about you to everyone he knows). Or even worse, he will not drop his feelings and insist on you for months. If you've been trying to keep things calm and neutral and he still didn't get a clue he must have very low emotional intelligence and a lack of respect for you (never realising he's being a nuisance). Terrible situation

Recently, I left a learning environment where I felt dismissed, ostracized, and belittled. How do you nonnies deal with ruminating thoughts in general? I try distracting myself with activities, but it’s always in the back of my mind. As soon as I wake up, it’s there. The only time I don’t think about all of the events leading to me quitting is when I’m asleep. This has been going on for a month and a half, and I feel like I’m losing my mind. It's bordering on suicidal ideation.
I feel like I can never fit in most learning or working environments, and this has taken a huge toll on my self-esteem. I thought I could get a job after it and tried so hard to be social, but it went horribly.

>>444970
lie and tell him you found a boyfriend and see how he reacts. or just tell him you have a crush on a guy. he'll flip.

>>444990
emdr therapy

>>444975
>>444980
Well fuck, thank you for confirming my suspicions atleast. And yes he is an online friend but I know him from mutual friends who have met him IRL, so I can't block him. I don't think he'd do any of these things but he's a moid so who knows. I never hinted at being interested in him at all, and have been actively dodging any activites/calls that don't include any of our friends in them even before I started worrying about this. This sucks so much why do moids ruin everything he would've been a genuinely really good friend otherwise
>>444991
Yeah I'm probably going to do that soon. I do have a crush on someone so I wouldn't be lying if I bring it up anyways.

>>444997
Tell him you’re not his same religion and you want to move to a different country than he does, like just be more honest if you want him to be your friend. He can get over his crush he probably had and be normal enough not to make the friend group weird. You don’t talk about him like you want him as a friend so it’s no great loss honestly but if you want to avoid drama then be more blunt with him and give him “the ick”, stop letting him believe those things about you you said in your earlier post. Not like it’s your fault if he has the wrong idea but I’m confused why you haven’t corrected him but you know he thinks those things and you want him as a friend…?

>>445007
I'm not in the same religion because I left it a while after we first talked. I keep it a secret from everyone I know because it could put me in danger if a family member find out. It is also the reason why I don't want to move to the country that he wants to move to. I have stopped sharing my thoughts on these things ever since though but I think I have to find a way to make him forget about it
>You don’t talk about him like you want him as a friend so it’s no great loss
To be honest yeah I don't, not anymore. The possibilty of him having feelings for me completely put me off him and the idea of having male friends at all. If he doesn't then that would make me a shitty friend I guess, but I'd rather that than possibly leading him on more. I just have to find a way to make him let go

i don't do anything. i want to pursue my hobbies but i just don't. i feel like an empty shell of a person who does nothing all day. i am a NEET too. i just dont know how to start, i am overcome with inertia all day every day and idk why. i just spend my day browsing online and doing a couple chores / cooking meals. its embarrassing to feel like a fake nothing person.;

>>445024
Schedule small activities that involve your hobbies and give yourself a reward afterwards. For example, if you want to take up creative writing you should dedicate 30 mins in the afternoon to do so, then treat yourself a cup of tea and a cookie. Decluttering, tidying and cleaning your home helps you feel comfortable and focused as well. Try to find the best place for your desk or use a designated area for your hobbies, you could put all the stuff you use there. Create a good atmosphere that enhances productivity and creativity.

>>444887
I probably could've explained myself a little better, my bad. I was in a bit of a rush at the time. There's more to it than that, I've worked in tech before and I didn't find it very engaging. My last job was full of moids and it was awful.

>>445030
thank you nonna you really helped me understand what i was already suspecting, i'm going to follow all of your advice

>>444970
>Typing it out makes it seem like he's just a very close friend
No, I think you're gut feeling is right. If I were you, I'd throw in a sly comment about having a "bf" or seeing a chad lol. If his feelings are truly platonic, he'd still talk to you normally, but I highly highly doubt that's the case. Also, just remember: you don't owe this guy anything. So whatever you do, don't feel bad or guilty.

Would it be considered okay to block someone without first explaining to them why you're deciding to block them?

I'm not gonna go into much detail because I don't think it'd be neccessary, but TL;DR: blocked a person who has threatened me with violence and told me to commit suicide even though they apologized and we have hung out and conversed normally via text after that.

>>445362
Nona just get rid of this person, they sound insane

>>444846
I know it's been a few days but I hope you know that because you think about it, it makes you nauseous. I definitely understand a healthy amount of concern about parasites when its' context specific, but if you're just reading things about parasites in food and you have nothing recent and close to you that backs up your fears it reads more like rumination or neuroticism like OCD type thinking. Your kids need you to be healthy! And you aren't crazy, it's the thought pattern that's crazy.

How do I study?