It’s easy to laugh at the life choices of cows who go from teaching English to sucking cock for 500 yen within a matter of months. What’s seldom mentioned is that behind all of the cows in Japan who end up in sex work is a small number of dirty old men who make sport out of pimping women for kickbacks, clout, and attention.
This thread is for discussing the men behind many of the female cows in Japan who have ended up in sex work. It’s meant as part exposé, part cow crossover, part warning for any farmers that want to move to Japan. Any women who have had contact with these man are encouraged to share their experiences here.
>Where do these men meet women?A lot of women start innocently joining compensated dating (enjou kousai) websites, such as Seeking Arrangement or Japanese equivalents (date clubs such as Universe Club). There are very few jobs someone with below N2 Japanese can do that isn’t exploitative or for a “black” (know to be terrible) company. Most women who come to Japan as English teachers. Some women might come to study in language schools.
Either way, women generally come from small towns,
abusive backgrounds, lack further education, or have generally overlooked in life. It’s easy to see the appeal of having an older, seemingly rich and powerful man lovebomb you when you're living off 100 yen onigiri.
The women might start out looking for a sugar daddy, older boyfriend, or doing paid karaoke or cafe dates with Japanese men. The creepy men (nearly always Western) scout out these sites for fresh meat so that they can sink their teeth into naive women first. After taking them put for nice dinners and lavishing them in attention, these men mention possibilities of making more much more money easily by increasing the services offered up to full sex. And would you know it, they know owner and can put in a good word for you at an agency (getting themselves a kickback). Sometimes they will use women they have already brainwashed to reach others.
These men might also introduce the woman to forums for men looking for escorts (the primary one in Japan being Tokyo Adult Guide aka TAG), where men share stories of the different women they have introduced to the industry so that they can be passed around. They love when the women join the forums so that they can show off their ownership of them. Once a woman is in the industry, other men will try to latch onto them so that them can exploit them.
The men themselves tend to be low status in life. They might have a well paying job in life, be married with a family, but they are overlooked and have to pay women for attention. They are narcissists who very skilled in flattering others to get what they want.
>Why does no one talk about these men?The women are usually happy to be making money and flattered by the attention. By the time they’ve had a few bad experiences, they’re in too deep and ashamed. Many end up with a partner who basically pimps them out, encouraging them to go to more and more extremes, such as porn videos.
Women who are in the industry can’t speak out about how awful it is as it would ruin their business and many don’t have any other options. This is why prostitutes always gush about the men that see them and how great their job is. No one is going to book a sad bitter prostitute. You never hear a woman who has managed to leave the industry and has no risk of losing money gush about how great it is.
>How to avoid these men?First of all, come to Japan with more than enough money to support yourself and a clear plan for how you will spend your time. If you don’t already speak fluent Japanese, only come as a tourist or enter a language school. Don’t take an English teaching job outside of the JET program, but better yet, wait to get a job until you have passed N2 and will be able to have options of your first job doesn’t go well.
>Who are these men?To get things rolling, it’s fair to say that anyone that is a heavy poster on TAG or similar likely has a hand in this, male or female. Some of the female posters will be used to soften the image of male posters to enable to lure more women. Any woman that claims to be independent is lying. They all have men influencing them on some level behind the scenes, whether flat out answering emails and taking photos for them, or just offering up “advice”. Some women won't be acting maliciously intentionally but are still helping to maintain it. Any male is acting intentionally, whether pimping out women himself, using women he has found for attention, or paying for women he has found.
Already mentioned on LC are Gaya’s husband (who uses Gaya to help find other women):
>>>/w/304921And Lorena (unusually a woman who pimps out other women):
>>>/w/73866(not a milk thread, provide screenshots, links etc. of cows)