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No. 550137
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>>418500talk about your gender preferences, how you discovered you were bi, what's your type in men and women, how you feel in the community, any struggles you've had with bisexuality, etc. Ignore and report baiters.
If you're unsure if you're bisexual, the questioning thread is likely a better fit.
No. 550245
>>550152>even though i feel like i need the entire day off to masturbateI think there are theories about hormones peaking in the morning or something. I feel the same way
>(I love tiny men)>collaged with being squirted on>stacked ass-out>I feel like a lowly AnimalJust wanted to say I Love You
No. 550448
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I’m really depressed. I’ve only ever fallen for one woman, but it was the most passionate feelings I’ve ever experienced (it didn’t work out, it was very one-sided). I desperately want to experience feelings like that again, but just like before her, I’m not attracted to any women in my daily life, rarely do I even see a picture of a woman I feel any inkling of attraction towards. I am attracted to men in my daily life, but I don’t really like men as people and while my sexual and romantic feelings for them are nice, and I used to be satisfied with that, my feelings for men are not nearly as intense and exhilarating at it was when I fell for that one woman. I’m almost 30, and I’m terrified I will never fall in love with a woman and get to experience those feelings again. It’s pathetic, but she’s still the only person I masturbate about because like I said, nothing compares.
The experience has awakened a horny demon inside of me though and now I’m at the point where l kind of want to put myself out there and find SSA spaces just to see if maybe I can find another woman I’m attracted to. But I am held back from doing it because I genuinely feel no attraction to most other women and I feel like people would detect that and think I’m some larper. And also I get extremely embarrassed around SSA women and especially feel embarrassed acknowledging I am one. So it just feels impossible. But I want to find another female crush so bad, she doesn’t even have to like me back, I just want to fall in love again. I don’t know what to do.
No. 555263
I don't believe in most ovulation "symptoms" going viral atm but i'm always fantasizing about women when i ovulate, from sex to having a baby together in a cozy country home… that pre-period phase where i get extremely horny is more of a 50/50 split… what is going on here
>>554874>unpopular opinionMost bi women agree with you lel
No. 555533
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i think i'm finally over my ex. i've been stuck pining for her for the 2 years we've been broken up, but i got the chance to catch up with her recently and in those 2 years she went full tif (on t) and tra (the "trans people are on stage 9 of genocide" kind) and has gone down the kink rabbithole. it left me kind of shocked but it's also allowed me to move on from any left over feelings and fantasies i had. she isn't the girl i was in love with anymore and i can't change her at this point. i miss her and always will but it's over and i am at peace with it.
i'm free nonnas…
No. 555785
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Why do I only attract bisexual mexican men? I have a strong preference for women and have only dated women but everytime I make new friends or have started a new job I end up dealing with a bisexual guy specifically from mexico. I'm not even latina. This has happened 4 different times with completely unrelated peopl
No. 557562
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>lesfem friend that constantly posts about hating bihets and straight women describing them as "dickmatised" drops off the radar for a bit
>message her on Tumblr to see how she's doing
>answers four months later
>she's bisexual
>she's dating a man
This isn't the first or second time. They usually have no problem with me because I'm dating a woman, but they're always the kind to be really vicious about bisexual women until they finally come out themselves. Why does it keep happening? Am I the only one that's had this happen to friends?
No. 557595
>>557562>lesfemLesbian Feminist is an euphemism for political lesbian nona. This one's tricky because it can mean "i'm a feminist and gay" but a lot of the time it's the other name for polilez. Dogwhistling is a meme but this kind of feminist uses dogwhistles all the time because they don't want to be confronted
>seething about bisexualsAlso a red flag if it's really exaggerated and not based in any concrete grief, like emotional mistreatment. They're either mad that they're bi or jealous of SSA women
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>>557562Holy shit kek they make these women in a factory I swear. I can't count how many times lesfems have done this, it's why I can never take their bihetseething seriously, it's always a case of "the lady doth protest too much."
No. 558998
>>558922I get you nonnington. I have only felt that deep, heart shattering chemistry with women, their bodies excite me, whereas with men it's not so easy (i even had to try hard at first!) - and yet having had even one instance of attraction to men, I can say I'm a bi. I guess people who are kinsey 5 prefer to adopt the lesbian label (which they shouldn't as it hurts the lesbian community) for political or 'angryatexbf' reasons- but then I guess baby fever kicks in, or internalised male gaze. For me, I chose to date a man because I want a family one day and don't want to deprive them of a father, even though I have only had the silly romantic butterflies and gripping lust with women (my p word literally spasms for girls lol)
>secretly will want to marry/date menYou ever heard the idea that it's assumed, if a guy is bi, he's gay, and if a woman is bi, she prefers men? I think loving men is just seen as the default.
>it doesn't mean they want men nowexactly! Just because you're only into women at the moment, if you're bi, that could change! Hence bicycling! But then a bi girl in the homo cycle claims 'lesbian' and severely discredits lesbians when that changes
If you want to date women by decided, deliberate preference, and just have a strong leaning towards women, I think you can say you're a homosexual leaning bisexual. People don't really know about the kinsey scale. Hopefully that helps people understand you.
No. 559124
>>558998>For me, I chose to date a man because I want a family one day and don't want to deprive them of a fatherI don't get this, fathers aren't that present in a kid's life… out of all the reasons to pick men the family-related ones make the least sense. But it might be a symbolic thing i don't grasp
>>558922> If someone’s had real attraction or experiences with men, they’re probably just bisexual.Attraction yes, experience isn't all that meaningful. So many straight women experiment and they're still straight.
>Is it just me or are Kinsey 5 bisexual women literally invisible?Oh yeah. They just go on to call themselves lesbians and it works because they pretty much appear gay to people who don't know. Though i've seen some women explain they had one or two male exes but prefer women. Being honest is good but i understand why someone who boil it down to lesbian for convenience. Problem is, as
>>558998 said it's not true and you run of risk of looking like a fool and making others look like fools if you feel like sleeping with a guy once in a blue moon
No. 561244
>>561229Ayrt I know
nonnie that's why I said "I can never take their bihetseething seriously" and "the lady doth protest too much" because it's like "when are they going to stop denying their reality behind the lesfem label?"
No. 563507
I love women so much but I have serious self esteem and mommy issues. My mom was an overachieving
STEM professional who bought her own house, cars, etc but I lost her early into adult life and my dad died when I was like 5.
Like even with a """high value""" man kek, I will still be a loving, generous partner because it's just my nature to dote on my loved ones, but there's always some amount of disconnect and mental distance and performance. With women, I can just be myself. Or at least I want to be. The best version of myself obviously, but it doesn't feel like it's enough. I'm definitely not well off financially and while I have knowledge and talents that aren't necessarily financially lucrative, I don't know how I could be seen as a good potential partner to another woman, especially in my 30s. I am constantly trying to improve my life and circumstances and better myself for my own sake, but I see a beautiful woman and I feel profoundly sad that I can't be the partner she deserves and I will never be good enough and I will never know love unless I fundamentally fix my life. And even then, would women want me?
Going through life alone is still on hard mode, even if men end up sucking the life out of you eventually. Moids don't hold themselves to any standards but yet feel entitled to a gorgeous bangmaid. I don't care to impress them if I know they're attracted to me, I just go with the flow. They always end up disappointing me. I hate them. I need therapy.
No. 563525
>>563356samefag you responded to, my only relationship with a woman beyond dating (still only less than 6 months) she transitioned after. I'm a very bubbly stereotypically feminine looking woman and I think I get written off as 'bi to be edgy' all the time.
>>563507Women admire self-improvement much more than men do. Be open about your goals and ambitions when you're dating, other women will want to support and nurture you just like you do to your partners.
No. 564135
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I suffer from extreme anger and jealousy towards straight couples. I have had friends in same-sex relationships and that has never really bothered me, but I almost can’t even be friends with a woman if she has a boyfriend because it just makes me angry. I’m assuming the anger is due in part to jealousy of some kind. I struggle to even identify why I get so ridiculously angry. I’ve felt this way my whole life, when my friends started getting BFs in high school I struggled to mask my anger about it. But if you were to ask me if I want a boyfriend, my answer would be “no, I don’t want a boyfriend.” So why am I jealous? I started to think I might be jealous of the moid and not the woman. But I think it’s somehow both, jealousy’s towards both parties. It’s like I’m jealous of the entire dynamic even though I don’t want a boyfriend. I am usually pretty self-perceptive so I don’t know why I can’t figure this out. But I am almost 30 now, I can’t keep having the angry teenager emotions, it feels (and is) ridiculous. But I don’t know how to stop the anger and jealousy because I can’t even identify what the actual source is. I want to be able to feel normally about straight couples so bad. It’s getting worse now that I’m at the age where my peers are having kids. I am never more jealous than when a man has a pregnant wife. But maybe that’s a different jealousy than the anger I’m even talking about. I’m a mess. Basically I think I’m just a very jealous person and my internal life is extremely unpleasant due to this. Please throw any ideas you have at me (reasons, ways to cure this, etc) because it’s really painful living this way.
No. 564147
>>563507I relate. The woman i'm crushing on is perfect and i could easily see us having a modest but happy family, but i feel very behind people my age in terms of professional achievements. Loving her motivates me to get better so i can be a worthy and dependable gf/wife but i'm worried i won't catch up in time for it to happen at a reasonable age. I know she's somewhat interested (at least i can guess from a couple cues) but i don't know if she'd laugh when i admit it's my dream to raise a baby with her
>I will never be good enough and I will never know love unless I fundamentally fix my lifeIsn't this a vicious cycle? If you don't have anything to look forward to (something like love) you won't necessarily have the motivation to try harder. You shouldn't keep yourself out of a dating chance because you feel inadequate. Moving to be with her, discovering a new job, so many things can happen with a new couple
No. 564551
>>564135my guess is trust issues? like you resent that your friends could trust men enough to get a boyfriend, then those women could trust men enough to get pregnant. I usually think of anger as a protective emotion so my guess is you feel like you're protecting yourself from men (and there's
valid reasons to feel that way) and you're jealous those women don't have to. Possibly some jealousy towards men that men can experience support & care from women but don't tend to return the same support & care to women.
No. 564940
>>564866This. I don't have friends who I can hang out in groups anymore because of schedule so I'm mainly speaking from teenage experience but having the ugly Nigel awkwardly sit there ruins the entire mood, vibe, and group dynamic. You can't tell her anything, or chat about anything deeper than the weather because the scrote is listening. 90% of the time he clearly thinks you and the rest of her female friends are annoying and retarded girls and is just there as a guard dog to keep an eye on his girlfriend. Less firsthand experience but she'll always insist on bringing him along and ask him for his opinion on everything.
>Oh, you like waffles? I like waffles too turns around what do you think, Nigel? >Nigel: Um… yeah. Sure. And then she goes to the bathroom and then her Nigel will often give you a dirty look for god knows what
No. 565866
>>565621Ohhh i see, yeah
>>565497Same kek. Funnily enough it reduced my attraction to her, it felt like she was just into a novel experience. I was kind of flattered but unfortunately i can't not take flirting seriously, like even if it's just a fling it's horrible to sense you're being treated as an ego boost/check on a to-do list. It's like they project het dynamics ("he'll be happy anyways because he's down bad for sex and i'm doing him a favor") and it doesn't work..? Since we're both women
No. 566135
>>566030>No reason to come here specifically unless you don't want to be in the lesbian threadeh, I'm a woman-leaning bi, but I still feel like lesbians should have their own space. I can just talk about my SSA here.
>>566041Yep. Though the gold star one seems to be barely active, and last time I checked they were just bivestigating lmao
No. 566470
>>566446>But anyone would be hurt and depressed if their partner wasn’t satisfied with them and wanted to have sex with someone of a different sex. Most moids wouldn't really care that you also desired women because it doesn't make them feel cucked. Some lesbians wouldn't like it but most bi women wouldn't mind since they can relate to liking men too anyway. Besides, even monosexuals fantasize about people other than their partner sometimes.
Again if you are living without sex anyway, why is it such an issue if you can only have sex with a man or a woman forever instead of both? If you found a partner who didn't care, is it really a personal tragedy for you if you're limited to only one sex? I think you're just making up imaginary problems for yourself to justify not putting yourself out there.
No. 566581
>>566553>being bisexual doesn’t mean you're never satisfied unless you have access to both sexesYeah I agree it doesn’t have to mean that, but the term “bisexual” covers people with a huge range of sexual preferences that can be very different from one another, and I’m saying, for me, that’s what my personal bisexual sexuality is like. It’s straight up retarded for you to suggest it sounds like I’m “gearing up to cheat” when this entire discussion was started by me stating I don’t date because I don’t want to make a partner feel bad in any way.
I can’t tell from your wording if you’re bisexual or just a lurking bi hater, it’s dumb to try to police what bisexual people are allowed to say based on how it makes “bisexuals look” because again, “bisexual” covers a huge range of people, from women who highly prefer men to men who highly prefer trannies to people who bicycle severely to people who have an unchanging even 50/50 split— all of these people are called bisexual for convenience but they’re all clearly very different in their sexualities. Just because other people don’t get that there’s huge variety under the bisexual label doesn’t mean I’m going to never talk about my own experiences.
No. 566604
>>566135>but i feel like lesbians should have their own spaceAYRT, same, kek i forgot but that's what i meant, it's weird to hang out there when you know you're not gay gay
>>566255>I would do literally anything to wake up and be either straight or gayWell the vast majority of bisexuals have a preference, but you need to actually date people to figure it out. Worrying in your corner won't solve anything. Honestly it feels like you're scared of intimacy and blaming it on your bisexuality when it's irrelevant. The excuse of not wanting to hurt anyone is implausible, unless you're dangling it in front of them it won't hurt them. I've been in this position (making someone uneasy because of my bisexuality) and it sucks, but you make it up by actually committing and staying loyal, then their anxiety dissipates. You can also be upfront, ime lesbians react badly to bisexuality because of experiences where a bi ex would swear up and down that she's "done with men" only to dump them for a man (or worse, an ex). If you're honest about your inexperience and don't make someone enter a relationship on a false pretense it should be fine
>from women who highly prefer men to men who highly prefer trannies to people who bicycle severely to people who have an unchanging even 50/50 split— all of these people are called bisexual for convenience but they’re all clearly very different in their sexualitiesTrue true
>>566593If the person has enough awareness of your bisexuality it can make them anxious. Then there's the issue of bi women not really taking lesbian relationships seriously, i've definitely heard that often. I think AYRT is scared of being that person but flings are an option and dating as a young adult is how you figure out what you like in the first place
No. 566608
>>566581okay, but you’re misunderstanding what i actually took issue with. you can say “this is just my experience” all you want, but you literally said you can’t be in a relationship because you’d “always be missing something” unless you had both sexes. that’s not just a personal quirk—that’s framing bisexuality itself as inherently unsatisfying or broken. you made it about the label, and now you’re upset someone responded to that framing.
i’m also bisexual. i lean toward women, but that doesn’t change anything—i like who i like. i’ve only dated a woman, but i’ve had attraction and crushes on both sexes. so yeah, i’m bi. obviously bisexuality shows up differently in different people—i know that. i literally seek out other bisexual women with similar preferences, because we’re so vast. but i’ve never once felt like i’m “missing” something when i’m with someone i genuinely love. attraction doesn’t mean you’re owed fulfillment on all sides. the idea that being bi means you’ll always feel deprived unless you act on “both” isn’t bisexuality—that’s poor emotional regulation. if you can’t commit, that’s your issue. it’s not a trait of the orientation. and yeah, that sounds more like emotional or sexual struggles, which is
valid—but name it honestly.
you said you don’t date because you don’t want to hurt anyone. okay, fair. but saying “i would never be satisfied with just one sex” still feeds one of the most harmful stereotypes about bi people—that we’re inherently unstable, unfaithful, or incapable of commitment. and other bi people—especially those who’ve had to deal with that stigma—have every right to push back. not everything someone says about themselves is immune to critique just because it’s painful. that’s not hate. that’s accountability.
No. 566670
>>566608>but saying “i would never be satisfied with just one sex” still feeds one of the most harmful stereotypes about bi people—that we’re inherently unstable, unfaithful, or incapable of commitment.I get that you’re mad that I’m talking about my experience because it partly aligns with a stereotype, but I’m not going to lie and keep silent to make you or other people feel better? Your post sounds like a tumblr essay about how my experience is ~
problematic~ but I don’t know what to tell you, everything I said is 100% my honest personal struggles and I’m not going to censor my honest experience just because it’s not exactly what you want to hear. I’ve given ample caveats that I don’t speak for all bisexual people, I’ve said that that we’re all very different, and I’ve made it clear I’m not interested in entering a relationship and would never cheat because I care about people. So at this point, it’s your problem if you want to clutch pearls and futilely try to convince me to lie, because not going to.