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No. 283640

Last thread: >>259082

Go ahead, be vulnerable.

No. 283648

>>283642
if youre literally so afraid of being pregnant that it's ruining your sex life then you have an actual problem that needs therapy. or at least a doctor to inform you have sex works and put you on the pill.

No. 283649

>>283648
Not that anon but
>tfw the pill gives you migrains
>tfw concerned about the risks of cancer associated with hormones
>still to emotionally constipated to actually date anyone
It's very unlikely I'll ever need it but people that live in places where abortion is legal will never understand the fear of the 1% chance of pregnancy.

No. 283661

>>283649
Yo I'm the same exact way. My mom and aunt both had negative reactions from the pill so I'm just gonna stay away from it completely

No. 283666

>>283649
>tfw the pill gives you migraines
there are literally so many types of birth control pill if you're going to write them off completely after trying one, or even a couple, you're dumb

>tfw concerned about the risks of cancer associated with hormones

there's also hormone free birth control like the copper IUD

do you live in a third world country or something?

No. 283683

>>283666
yeah, copper IUD are so fun. Who wouldn't want to swap up hormonal migraines for heavy bleeding and cramps?

You know that you don't need to shit on other women problems to make yourself feel better, right? You should be seeing a therapist yourself if people venting on anymous boards get yourself so riled up. It's pretty pathetic.

No. 283684

The amount of horrible current events going on from the last week or so are really making me feel down.

No. 283693

>>283683
nta but stop being so triggered. if you vent about something stupid people are going to call you out.

No. 283695

>>283693
If you're being a cunt for no reasons, people are going to call you out.
You're just making yourself look dumb af calling out random vents.

No. 283697

>>283695
why are you so hostile? this is anon. literally no one cares.

No. 283699

>>283697
Well, right, why calling out vents if noone cares then? It happens way too much lately and it's fucking tiring.

No. 283706

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I sometimes wonder where I'll be in 5 years from now. I'd be 25 by then, seems like such a short time yet I feel afraid to age. Am I going to hit the wall? Is my life going to lead anywhere? Everything seems so directionless, but time is too precious in your early 20s or so it seems. I feel like I'm running out of time. For what exactly? I don't know. Might be anxiety. No hope for the future. Is a fulfilled life really only working for some years, just so your husband can maintain you as a housewife & raise kids? Seems pointless for me to study at all if I'm going to put off my career after 3-6 years to make children. It seems so depressing to me. That's ALL I could amount to? Is that all life really has to offer for a woman?

No. 283708

>>283706
First, stop browsing the manosphere. This includes reading youtube and reddit comment unless the subject is completely unrelated to women.

It is important for you to be able to live an independent life, even if in the end you chose to not pursue a career. That is why you must study and get a useful degree.

No. 283712

I graduated from high school about six years ago. But the amount of people who have gained weight is crazy. What the fuck are they eating/drinking? Some of them don't seem like they would be big drinkers so are they just binging of junk food all the time?

>>283706
lolll you are 20 and you need to chill.

No. 283716

I've been getting sick weekly latelly, throwing up and stuff, and I know it's stress related but I'm tired of how hard this is making it for me to keep my motivation on job hunting, studying and moving out.

No. 283721

i 'm living in a rented place and i love it lots and all's swell but i absolutely hate the hoover. i mean it is decent as far as suction power goes but it's so huge and clunky and the place is small. i'm like this close to buying a hoover myself if not for the fact i'll need to move next year and moving without a car is a pain in the ass as it is without any big items (such as a hoover).

No. 283724

>>283706
>The wall
>I'm a woman so having children is my only aim in life
please go outside anon. Maybe stop browsing imageboards and reddit for a while.

No. 283737

>>283712
I feel like it’s a combination of bad habits + metabolism not being as fast as your were a teenager. I’ve put on weight since high school. It’s not a whole lot but still pretty noticeable.

No. 283738

>>283712
A lot of people live off of takeout or frozen TV dinners because they don’t know how to cook. I had a coworker who was legitimately shocked when I told them you could use a microwave to cook a potato.

No. 283747

>>283738
You're right. I've been really lucky because my parents have paid for my dining plan throughout college and I get what I think are nice and healthy meals, but they are a little expensive. On the other hand, when I haven't been at college I would eat stuff like ramen + egg + spinach, which isn't 100% healthy but not really weight inducing and super easy to make. My ex roommate would also not eat anything all day but one day she ate an entire cheesecake.

Whatevs, I was pretty mousy in high school and it didn't seem like a lot of guys were interested in me. But I'm glad I'm still looking good and taking care of myself. It's a shame to see so many people who were pretty cute ruin themselves.

No. 283762

>>283683
then stop complaining about how ~terrified~ you are to have sex if you're not going to try other birth control methods, not to mention all I did was give you advice on other types of birth control to use lmao. i'm not calling you out, trying to give you advice you're the one who got triggered

No. 283768

>>283712
I’m astounded at how fat some women are that I went to high school with. Now some of my old sorority sisters gained a ton of weight and we’ve only been out of college for a couple of years. I just don’t understand it. Even when I would binge drink or eat crappy food, my weight would only fluctuate by a few lbs. I’m short, so 5-10lbs is noticeable. I don’t get how they can see themselves putting on the weight and can’t stop stuffing their faces. I feel bad for them.

No. 283782

>>283649
I’m on a specific pill because of my migraines, it works just fine for me.

No. 283837

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a little under a year ago i found this twitch channel that had <10 viewers. shortly into watching him he started unprovoked fulminating against women, using slurs, & basically just saying the most embarrassing and stupid shit. (way more intense than the typical 'edgy' streamer, no self awareness, huge ego) i stopped watching him but sometimes people in the same twitch community host him / he's in their chat and it's extremely irritating

No. 283844

>>283837
Couldn't you report his stream?

No. 283846

I'm a white female and was raped by a black female when I was around 8 years old. I don't want to consider myself racist because I don't think skin color is big deal in general, but sometimes I feel otherwise because black females that look a certain way make me feel upset. Does this make me racist?
It's not that I hate them personally of course, it's just that a lot of the girls remind me of back then and I don't know how to stop this involuntary response as a 28 year old. Any therapists I have tell me to "just forget about it" (I've had two therapists that I've told about this issue) but it's so hard since I, to this day, feel the pain from when she did what she did to me whenever me and my bf try to get sexual. I know I CAN get over it, I'm just really not sure how and it makes me feel like shit.

No. 283850

>>283846
You're not racist, you're traumatized.
Those two therapists are shit btw. "Just forget about it"? Wtf. You need to find a good therapist, maybe one specialized in trauma.

No. 283853

>>283844

i'm stupid. i keep asking myself why i never reported him or and clipped the things he said. i shared his stream with a few of my friends and i guess that none of them thought to report him either.

it's too late now because he grew in popularity (still a nobody though) & has to filter himself. unlucky

No. 283854

>>283846
How is this possible as if all black females look the same? What about light skinned ones?

No. 283855

>>283854
>I feel otherwise because black females that look a certain way
Read anon's post again.

No. 283856

I'm slowly coming to grips with the reality that I will never be successful and most likely I will never be happy. I have been depressed for as long as I remember, it has even caused me to drop out of college at one point. Now I'm at a new school, starting my second year here, and I don't have any friends. Literally no one. I don't even know how to make friends at this point, and I'm not even sure if I want to because it's extremely difficult for me to trust anyone. The field I'm going into after I graduate is almost completely based on connections and who you know, and I know no one. There's no way I can compete with people who are well connected and go to better schools than me. It's extremely difficult for me to come to terms with the fact that I will never live the life I want to - living in a big city with a successful career, making decent money, having great friends and a boyfriend. I don't know what to do. Every day I can barely even get out of bed and once I'm done with class I basically just get back into bed and cry. I used to go to therapy but I'm too anxious to go back, talking about my issues just makes me even more upset and I don't want to face it.

Sorry for the long post, I just needed to get some of this out.

No. 283859

I need to vent. I am a relapsed anna-chan. And now I discovered I have hyperthyroidism. And my head is flipping, I can't anymore.

I have to take meds for said hyperthyroidism. They will slow my metabolism and there is the possibility of weight gain. I know it sounds vapid as fuck. But I can't do it. Just the tought of it terrorizes me.
I think I rather die than gainning weight. I can't do it. On the other hand this limitates me a lot, having diarrheas in the worst places, feeling so fucking exausted to the point I can't even brush my hair without getting tired sometimes. I don't know what to do.
I know it's ridiculous but… gosh I just want do die. Being like this and having to take a medication that will cause weight gain.
I wonder if I am going to have too many serious problems if I don't take, because I won't probably won't treat it.

No. 283860

>>283837
dang anon, an overwatch streamer? who?

No. 283861

>>283846
I’m sorry about what happened to you anon, concerning the skin color thing- no I think it’s just a common reaction that most people that had a trauma of this magnitude would have.

Like if your rapist would look different I’m sure whatever it would be you’d associate those traits with what happened to you.
I hope everything works out for you anon.

No. 283876

I'm 24 and I have a guy friend who's 17, we mostly talk online. We became friends because of mutual interests, we've never discussed anything controversial considering the difference in our life experiences, we just talk about some random normal stuff. It never felt awkward or anything until my friend and her boyfriend decided to joke about me "bringing up a husband for myself". I've never even thought about things like that and asked them to stop. She kept making jokes when I mentioned him, so I stopped talking about him at all. It's not really a problem anymore, but I can't stop thinking now if I'm being a creep or not. I know I'm not and the guy has a girlfriend and sees me as a friend, but everything just feels wrong now.

No. 283881

>>283846
what cereal box therapists have you been seeing? they should be guiding you through the process of getting over it. anyway I'm sorry that happened to you, it definitely doesn't make you racist. your reaction stems purely from trauma.

No. 283886

>>283876
It’s not creepy per se, because there’s no sexual or romantic element to it. It’s weird to have so much in common with a teenage boy at your age though.

No. 283943

I used to believe that I could date and be friends with transwomen but now I despise them. All the transwomen I meet have told me shitty things (call me ugly, threaten to rape me or sexually force themselves onto me) or they have weird fetishes that they feel the need to tell everyone about. I don't feel upset rather angry and bitter. Most of my friends support them and I feel like I could never tell them my shitty experiences. I want to think there are good people who transition but all of them seem like they have a severe mental illness. I can't feel empathy for their suffering at all and I'm worried they're the only women I will ever be able to date romantically.

No. 283945

>>283943
>I'm worried they're the only women I will ever be able to date romantically

why on earth?

No. 283948

>>283945
just feels like no real girls really like me unless they want to pull some stunt to get dudes to like them more

No. 283970

>>283943
How the fuck are you meeting so many trans women? I live a pretty normal life and I've gotten to know like two max. I'm pretty young and in college too so I think I should meet more of them than usual. I'm convinced that everyone who is meeting so many is working in some LGBT program or is a prostitute. Prove me wrong.

No. 283971

I am so fucking tired of this

there is a mouse AND a lizard in this house

I'm trying to catch the mouse but I'm at a total loss for the lizard

I almost caught it with my hands, but it skittered under the fridge

The mouse has decided to stay in my room and I am pissed sdakjdsh

No. 283972

>>283970
Nta but I've met three just from being in a lolita community (I know, I know). Transwomen also seem to be disproportionally involved in computer science and of course if anon's a lesbian, she's going to run into transbians in that community.

No. 283977

>>283856

I can relate a lot with you and unfortunately I don't have any decent advice since I'm on the same boat but I really hope things get better for you soon

No. 283986

I'm trying to accept that maybe I'm meant to suffer and die alone. Yesterday was an horrible day and I had another silent anxiety crisis. I usually go to bed at 11pm max but every time this happens I can only sleep at 2am or even later. Heartbeat rate faster and a sensation of suffocatting with breathing being difficult. I cried to the point of almost choking in tears but did it silently to not wake up narcissistic parent & their favorite child to then be mocked and being screamed at to stop faking being a victim by them as I have been a few hours before just because I forgot to do something they demanded to and wasn't even needed at all and kept on shouting, guilt tripping, threatening me and throwing a tantrum until storming off to their room and slamming the door. I've been trying to not be stressed about narc parent anymore but it came to a point my body already reacts automatically to their crap. I woke up and the crisis came back after more faster heartbeat and the sensation of suffocatting.

I've been "hoarding" horrible feelings and it "exploded" again yesterday, I have no one to vent to and can't afford a therapist atm and I'm afraid because many are pretty shitty ones. For the first time I admitted that I feel massively jealous of people who have friends, are dating and shit, have a normal life in general, worse yet if they have a healthy relationship with their parents and family. Whenever I see people being friends with their parents&family, shopping or gaming together or even just being treated well I get very triggered and it ruins my day because this is all very foreign to me. I'm never asked how I'm doing, they couldn't care less about my interests and always try to change the subject to themsleves or make a very bored face as if trying to say "ugh stfu already" whenever I tried talking about something I liked or how was my day for example, and they always try to find a reason to mock me. Family isn't different either as most of them are BPD/NPD. Sometimes I'm waken up by yelling and threats or when narc parent comes home angry I'm always the target.

The other parent has gotten slightly better after divorcing narc parent but prefers a gold digger, has found a new family more precisely a new kid to make a new Favorite Child of and I'm always the one who have to start something otherwise they forget that I exist AND still am the one to blame. They also don't respect my individuality and tried to force me to become a carbon copy of them. I don't have any memory of them being genuinely affectionate towards me unlike my siblings and always knew I was the "least favorite".

I apologize for the lenght of this and thank you for reading, I just needed to put this out.

No. 284002

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No. 284013

I'm so hungry… And I hate the OP gif

No. 284047

I'm tired of the Gender War and identity politics. It's not even like I can take a break from it because men are being sexist and racist everywhere you look. I don't want to hate men anymore, but they leave me no choice.
And I hate identity politics because I'm no longer interested in having my capabilities judged based on the circumstances around my birth. I just want to be human again.

I'm also tired of being angry all the time. It used to energize me but now my annoyance with everything has become routine and it's exhausting. We get it, you hate everything that everyone does. Please move on.

No. 284071

I am utterly sick of dreaming about my ex. I never dreamt about exes before, but with this one I just can't stop. For the past three days, he was in my dreams either as a main character or as a side character. A dream I had before them were me telling a friend I wouldn't get back with him if there was a chance, but then my brain trips me. What the fuck?

No. 284119

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I have no patience for the self-marketing game that is cosplay right now, and because of that I feel like I've dug myself into a hole. I was never the kind of cosplayer to have a fan page on facebook but I did add everyone I'd meet at conventions to my regular profile when I was a teenager. Now 10 years later I've grown up and out of it and settled down with two very close friends and my boyfriend as basically the only people I talk to. Earlier this year I went through and deleted all of the vapid girls I never talk to and beta orbiter heart-eyes-emoji commenter guys on my friends lists. Recently I started packing my apartment to move for a new job in a new state and decided it was a good time to try selling off all the old cosplay stuff I don't use anymore. It's been a few days and I haven't gotten any replies to my sales whatsoever.

I can't help but have this selfish thought: If I hadn't deleted all of those vapid girls and beta orbiters I'd probably have gotten this stuff sold off within a few days like I used to be able to do. Obviously I did this to myself and I need to try harder, but at the same time I'm upset because is being able to sell things really the only good reason to keep a lot of people around? Is that how I think, is that who I am? I don't miss any of them, just the attention obviously. The radio silence on my sales post is forcing me to come to terms with the fact that it's not just that I've grown up- I'm probably a shit person and I need to learn to be better.

No. 284123

>>284047
I used to be angry like that until I just kinda…became complicit? Something that helped me was to realize that none of it matters and the only things that do are my own personal relationships/social circle. Try to help your own surroundings as small as they may be and try to be around quality people/lead by example. As for the men. Most people are super shitty, both men and women. I would just suggest always expecting the worst but also being open to new people.

No. 284124

>>283970
I just have terrible luck I guess. I stumble upon lots of them online either from other online friends or servers. I'm from a liberal place and more males at my college are coming out as trans (despite it being extremely conservative). I just feel like there's an increase of them around to be honest.

No. 284175

>>283986
Idk how old you are anon but this sounds like something I would've posted a few years ago. Honestly the best thing you can do for yourself is finding a good therapist.
Do you have a job? I actually felt better working despite it being a really shitty retail job because it meant I wasn't at home, and making money so I could move out with a couple roommates. Also if your friends are really that disrespectful towards you, drop them; the only thing they're doing is chipping away at your self esteem. Sorry if this sounds too preachy but things will get better, or at least easier, if you're willing to help yourself.

No. 284197

>>284175
agreed about the job thing. when i was depressed i figured getting a job would be extra miserable for me because depressed, but it actually helped me feel better.
without a job and without motivation or energy, i would sit and stew in my misery, then i would feel guilty that i'm wasting my ample free time with being sad instead of having fun, so i would turn to pleasure seeking activities like drinking or binge watching shit.
but with a job, it doesn't matter what your mood is because you're still making money and you're helping people out in some way.

when you're alone and jobless, you wonder if it's "worth it" to do one productive thing over another, and often times you ditch the whole thing because none of them seem good enough and it's overwhelming.
at a job there's none of that. you just do what needs to be done and that's it.

at home you go from wasting time being sad to desperately trying to make yourself feel good. at a job it doesn't matter, your time is being used for a productive outcome, so even if your mood was low all day at least you have something to show for it.

idk if it makes sense but it helped me be distracted from my neurosis and made it so my inner life wasn't so hyper focused on my emotional state to the point of illness

No. 284220

>bf has friends who sell me wax
>hang out with them the other night
>offer me a friendly hit, notice their rig is dirty, but it's rude to refuse

Now I've got a sore throat which doesn't jive with this fucking call center job.
I wish I had a suction to vaccumm out all the mucous and horrid shit in my throat right now. The fact that I've gotta gab with morons all day doesn't make this easy…

No. 284256

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Feel like absolute shit today for no reason. Spent the entire day feeling sluggish and incredibly tired. I had no energy to do anything except the bare minimum at my internship and couldn't even sit up straight because I was just so… drained. When I got home I didn't have energy to do anything except lie on my bed and mindlessly watch a few videos before I decided to just sleep so I wouldn't have to feel so empty anymore. I just want to lie down and do nothing, but doing nothing makes me think and I don't want to think either. I'm not sad or depressed, I just feel so empty and tired and hollow.

I don't know if being on my period or something triggered this and it's not the first time I've felt so emotionally fatigued and detached, but it usually goes away throughout the day and it's only gotten worse. I'm not looking for sympathy or anything because I know people on here have it way worse. I just want to vent about how shitty I feel because I'm not going to tell anyone irl. I can't handle their fake sympathy and concern right now and I don't have the energy to lie and reassure them that I'm okay and they shouldn't have to worry about me.

No. 284257

I always loved and grew up around dogs, but I really regret getting a puppy. Between his shitting absolutely everywhere and literal screaming for attention (it’s as if he’s being stepped on, I’ve never seen puppies behave anything like that) when I’m not looking directly at him, I’m ready to kill myself. He just bit my toe while I was washing dishes and drew blood. I know that as long as my husband and I keep training him with positive reinforcement and ignoring him when he does something we don’t like, he’ll grow out of this. He’s barely 2 months old. But damn, I knew that human babies are this much of a mess and I consciously chose not to have any. I feel really stupid for thinking that puppies are really any different.

No. 284264

>>284256
It sounds like your iron levels could be low, you might want to getting a blood test sometime or you could just try supplementing and see if it helps.

No. 284265

>>283971
Update on this because I am proud that I managed to catch the damn thing

But the lizard is a different story, I have no clue how to lure one out
Bug trap, I guess? I don't want to hurt the lizard

>>284002
I used to have a cat and I miss him so damn much, he would do that stupid prep motion when he thought he saw a mouse

Never forget him bringing a mouse into my room literally to toy with it before eating it. He was a monster. I miss his dumb ass.

No. 284270

>>284265
kek, nice job on the mouse. I guess I'd try to lure him with lights and noise into a dark place to get him. Scoop him into a small container with a study plate, I guess? Unless you have a net or something, but lizards are slippery fuckers so who can say what would be most effective. good luck!

No. 284323

>>284264
Hm, never thought about that, but that might be part of it. Last time my mom visited she told me my face had gotten a lot paler and I thought that was strange since I've been out in the sun a lot this summer (and I tan easily). Maybe I'll try getting some supplements.

No. 284396

>>284257
Really depends on the dog. Yes it's frustrating that they have to be house-trained, but after that it gets really easy. If your dog isn't properly trained it'll keep misbehaving well into old age, so just keep at it.

No. 284406

I live with my mom and my sister and I try to clean but they’re both really messy and have pretty much gotten used to it. A few weeks ago rain flooded our basement which was where we kept our cat litter and ever since one of our cats who has an anxiety problem has been peeing everywhere including on our new couch so there’s barely any rooms that don’t smell like cat urine. My mom /says/ she got a spray but kept making excuses to clean the couch so it’s seeped deeply into the upholstery. I got fed up today and sprayed a small section of the couch with a baking soda spray just to test to see how effective it would be and my mom and sister were sent into this weird melodramatic fit about how it smelled too strongly and they had to eat their dinner in their bedrooms cause they couldn’t handle the smell and they got mad at me for spraying the couch. I got so exasperated because it’s better than cat pee! Which is one of the worst smells in the world! The basment flooding left an awful slight mildew smell throughout the whole house on top of the cat piss and I have been having headaches and indoor allergies as a result so you’d think baking soda wouldn’t be that bad.

On top of this my mom lost my cat’s anxiety medication in the void that is my home so I guess the issue will keep getting worse until we can help the poor guy. But it’s like they don’t even care and they get defensive becauss I’m trying to make it better.

No. 284419

My life is so fucking good right now. I have no worries, everything is perfect.
BUT I just got access to opiats. And I was at this point before.
I will start a opiat binge, do things I will regret and my life will be shit again.
The worst thing is that I fall in 'love' easily when I am high. And then I end up with a shitty bf.

No. 284429

>>284119
>I'm probably a shit person and I need to learn to be better.
Where in the world did that come from? Not a single word you said in your post would indicate such a thing. It just sounds like you've grown up and found people you're content interacting with. That sounds like a good thing, not a bad thing. I don't think having an easier time selling off some used clothes would be worth interacting with people you don't particularly care for. I'd certainly pay a bit extra to not have to be around people I don't enjoy interacting with.

If you find it to be "worth it" to keep up interaction with people to have an easier time selling old used clothes every once in a while, sure. That's fine too. You don't have to pretend to yourself that you like them. You can be selfish but empathetic and act in an ethical manner all at the same time.

No. 284448

I farted in front of my crush and I want to die.

No. 284458

>>284175

Thank you anon, I'm >>283986 and I have already stopped talking with some disrespectful friends I had a friend who hide from me she was dating for like, almost one year before and only told because she accidentally slipped it and I'm not talking about a fresh friend but one of years. We were in contact before she started dating again and never told me anything, she knew I was always unlucky (and had beyond zero self esteem) when it comes to dating and made sure to tell how amazing, perfect their relationship was and I felt like I gave her a massive ego boost when letting out an insecurity of mine. A few years before, she also tried to steal one crush who turned out to be a jerk (not because of her but I stalked his twitter and found a post where he was bragging that he enjoyed killing a bird once, and other jerkish posts as well). Another friend I had dumped my boring ass after going to college and finding new cool ones, this friend also always forgot that I existed every time ANY man gave her a sprinkle of attention and only remembered me to be their free love therapist but the problem here is the npd family, more precisely narc parent. My country has been experiencing fincancial crisis and having a job, even a shitty one, has been a luxury for many, even with masters degree. I've applied for one last week that didn't demanded experience but no luck yet. I am trying to become self employed btw and probably will find a therapist soon, even if I'm unlucky at first I'll continue on trying to find a decent one.

>>284197

I agree with you anon, I'm still searching for a job even with the crisis and can't wait until I'm finally employed so I won't have time to be depressed and jealous of people with normal lives until the point of sickness like I'm feeling now that I don't even feel hunger at all, haven't looked at the mirror since and any small thing gives me an immense sadness and anxiety. I've been always a black sheep/outsider in many aspects of life and now it has been bothering me more than ever did.

No. 284467

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>>284448
Oh my. I'm sorry, anon. Think about this cute bunny instead.

No. 284468

I’ve been stressing the fuck out, for a couple months I’ve been really sick. I can barely eat, I was throwing up even water sometimes.
Hell I didn’t need to eat and my body tries to throw up. I went to my doctor and she made me go to a hospital because my heart rate was 130. In the end all I got was an IV, some nausea meds, stuff to help stomach acid, and no answers. It’s only when I stand my heart rate rises, but I’ve known this for about 6-7 years and I’m pretty sure it’s been happening since I was 13.
The first doctor thought it was my medication that was making me faint when standing up. I’m not really sure what to do at this point, do I just wait another couple months and hope it calms down?
They did a ecg and saw nothing wrong, my blood test was great, and nothing wrong with my urine test besides a little dehydration.
God I just want to feel better, I just don’t know what to do..

No. 284470

>>284468
could it be cyclical vomiting disorder? at that point I'd test any tricks to fight nausea. a cold icecube on the back of my neck can help with my nausea attacks.

No. 284485

I've only been unemployed for a few weeks and I already find myself growing despondent at finding another job.

Everyone in my field seems to require technical experience or connections, often both.

There's one government job I interviewed for last week that looked great, but I would have to drive, and they're notoriously slow at getting back to you. Looked interesting at least.

And I still have that nagging envy at some of my friends working for Facebook or big financial companies, even though I view much of that group as soulless yuppies.

>>284197
This is true. Only thing I despise are those pointless jobs where you move water from one cup to the other, culturally at odds with your coworkers with little binding you together, especially in high-turnover positions.

No. 284487

every boy/man i've ever dated has cheated on me. i am only 19, but this is literally all i've ever known. it has fucked me up pretty good, especially considering i've struggled with anxiety since i was little. now i find myself disliking being around men. they make me uncomfortable and nervous and i can't help but think that yeah, maybe they seem like a good guy, but they're just hiding their true selves. since my last boyfriend of nearly two years cheated on me, some boys have been trying to hang out with me and i feel so uncomfortable with the idea of hanging out with them that i'll just start ignoring them if they even bring it up.

i don't know if it's my anxiety that makes me feel like this or if my brain just associates men with shittiness. i hate it though. i feel like a terrible person. just thinking about getting close to someone ever again in my life just for them to fuck me over makes me feel sick to my stomach. i'm so fucked up already and i've got most of my life left to live. thanks brain

No. 284489

>>284470
I looked it up and it seems like it could be it, but it says between vomiting sessions you should be symptom free. The nausea is consistent every day, like even if I do actually throw up anything.
It’s frustrating that even when I take the pills I still have no appetite at all. Food seems gross too.
I also get hot flashes every couple hours which sucks too. RIP

No. 284502

>>284487
You can't be a terrible person just for wanting to take a break with men

No. 284519

>>284487
I'm not saying this to blame you but you probably have a "type" you go after that isn't the kind you should be going after if every guy cheats on you.

No. 284522


No. 284523

Throughout my whole teenage years, I've done nothing but been in extremely committed relationships, with minimal breaks in between, where I exhaust my all. My first boyfriend I dated for four years (14-17) and my second boyfriend I dated from 17 until now (I'm 19, almost 20).
I recently got out of that last relationship because I feel like I need a break and I need time to find out who I am and what I like (I have a habit of dating men who are extremely dependent on me both emotionally and financially). Against my better judgement to stay single, I've went out a couple dates with one guy. And I have a GIANT crush on him now. He's such a sweetheart, but I'm scared to get too attached because I feel like he's just gonna ghost me or I'm jumping back into something too soon.

No. 284663

This is a pretty minor vent, but I'm kind of losing interest in /pt/ and /snow/ and I wish /g/ and /ot/ were more active.

No. 284717

>>284256
I get anemic on my period because my iron levels are on the low end of healthy the rest of the month. Maybe that’s what you’re experiencing? I’m sorry, anon. I’m in the same boat right now, so I feel you.

>>284257
I love puppies, but they also suck. For the accidents indoors, it really helps to take them out constantly. When they’re that young, it can help if they are let out to pee every 1/2 hour when you’re playing with them and every 2 hours at night. They’ll need fewer breaks when they get older, of course. Honestly, the puppy101 subreddit helped me a TON when my dog was really young. They give really good advice or are just there to empathize when you need to vent or have the puppy blues. Good luck! You guys will raise a great dog, I’m sure.

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No. 284744

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>anon you're so sensitive, you should toughen up a bit

after a while:
>When did you become so cold!

No. 284755

>>284744
Anon I don't think there is such a thing as middle ground. If you are an emotional woman, you are hysterical, if you are a cold woman, you are a frigid bitch. Just embrace your personality as it is and work with what you have.

No. 284769

I really should be greatful for what I have, but I am always unhappy.
I got a girlfriend, a job, a therapist if I need to, I am doing better for myself than I've ever did, but I still find myself miserable.
Nobody insults me or beats me anymore, shouldn't I be happy?
I feel like I am so stuck in my depression that there is really no way out even if things got obviously better.

No. 284788

I’ve been playing with this woman for couple weeks in a new group and me being new, I broke a rule in the game by mistake a couple days ago. Now every time we’re on at the same time she’s suddenly like ”oh it’s so exhausting to play with people who go by different rules… I’ll skip this one” and then half of the group leaves saying they’re suddenly too tired as well. It was one mistake! I’m already angry because it’s ~that time of the month~ and this thing is annoying me beyond reason. How incredibly childish can someone in their 30’s be! I just want to play with ya’ll!

No. 284798

I can't sleep. It's driving me crazy. Just returned from a place that's -7hrs to where I am now, it's either jetlag or the heat or the new stupid aircon that's just loud af or… I just want to go back where I was, it was cold in the evening and I could actually fucking sleep. This is so frustrating…

No. 284847

I've been trying to lose weight and have taken to intermittent fasting. It's been great having a time table of what to eat and when. The problem is that my friend, knowing that weight is a sensitive issue for me, keeps complaining about how she's losing weight without trying. She's already 115 pounds and she went down from 120. The reason she's losing weight is because she isn't eating properly due to stress but she won't do anything to fix her diet/situation. It's like on the one hand, I'm concerned for her health, but on the other, stop talking to me about it. I feel like an asshole getting annoyed with her but Jesus Christ, it's tone deaf.

No. 284860

>>284847
seems like she's bragging and trying to one up you. A good friend wouldn't be saying that stuff if she knew you were trying to lose weight plus she's already skinny as fuck. Seems like she's passive aggressively trying to fuck your confidence up.

No. 284863

Just put myself through a shitty summer fling with a guy who completely ghosted me only to contact me again and for my idiot self to hang out with him again.
I have no clue still what he wanted out of it, and never fucking asked like a twat. Only reason I could remove him on snap finally was I realized he had blocked me on Instagram likely to ghost me again.
There’s so much more to it then this but fuck you Skyler and fuck me for not telling you off sooner god dammit.

No. 284897

>>284863
>skyler
Fuccboi name detected. You deserve better anon!

No. 284901

>>284769
^same anon.

No. 284906

>>284847
Losing weight due to stress isn’t a good way to lose weight— funny thing is she’ll probably gain it all back and then some.
You just keeping doing you girl, you’ll get to your goal.

No. 284909

i want my boyfriend to show me more affection jesus CHRIST!

No. 284972

>>284909
Same, but he is a grumpy old man

No. 284973

Whenever I masturbate I can only stay aroused thinking about being treated badly, like a "little slut", being abused by men, being nothing but holes basically. After I "come" quotes because I don't know tbh, I don't think I've ever had an actual orgasm, just some good feelings that feels more like those times I hear good news and my stress is relieved. I guess I just feel "relieved" I feel like I am weak, I am disgusted with myself and I feel a strong hatred of men and sex and everything to do with sexuality, I want to be completely sexless and asexual, not a woman, not a man. Above all this bullshit.

I don't know where I'm going with this. Just that I hate myself I guess. I went through abuse as a young child for years, why am I like this, I am a disgusting freak. I don't even like those things in real life sex, I only pretend some of them because my boyfriend seems to like it (not abuse but the "dirty talk", ugh). I know "fantasies" are normal but how to get rid of "fantasies" that disgust me?

Sorry for shitty English I'm just really upset tonight

No. 284976

I look like a thumb in my latest passport pic. theres such a huge disconnect between what I see I. the mirror and what I see in candids like that, I must be delusional or something. I just wish I could see myself like everyone else does because it makes me so anxious in social situations wondering how bad I REALLY look compared to how I thought I looked.

No. 284983

I want a boyfriend, but I am not attracted to men physically. I have never had a crush on a someone I know in real life, I look at pictures to try and inspire something but there are no feelings. At best I am neutral, at worst I am repulsed by men's bodies. I don't have childhood trauma or anything like that, but I feel broken. I thought I would get at least some interest in men by now (I am 19) but there is just nothing.
I don't fantasise about anyone, and when I try to deliberately imagine myself with a man it feels very unnatural and I have to stop. I thought maybe I could be a lesbian, but that doesn't feel right either, and I hope not to be honest. Being straight would make everything a lot easier.
Sometimes I feel like I should just go out and try and date anyway, but I would 100% just be going along with people who approached me. I worry about not being approached in the first place, I used to read a lot of male hate blogs which makes me super cautious around strange men, and I don't know what would happen in a long term relationship when sex is brought up. If I just went along with it I could end up traumatised for real, and then I would be in a worse position than I am now.
I think my ideal situation would be to marry an asexual guy and use IVF if we ever want kids but that seems very unlikely.

I also feel like I could be overreacting big time. Maybe I'm not that much "late". I think there a lot worse problems to have.

No. 285001

this is really fucking embarrassing and stupid but i'm jealous that so many girls get tons of comments on their pics like "you're an angel!" "omg beautiful i love u" regardless of how they look or if they're a remotely nice person. the only one to ever give me innocent compliments like that is my bf, but i never get comments like that on social media. i used to tell myself that people with those comments probably just have a lot of friends and i don't really socialize, but then i saw that luna fucking slater gets them all the time. i want to get over it because i'm not about to ask people to compliment and ~validate~ me like a bpdfag, but holy shit, if someone just left me a silly uwu comment like "you're an actual angel bb" i'd probably cry i'd be so touched.

No. 285007

>>285001

It's just mindless ass kissing anon. You have to remember that Tuna herself has lots of farmers faking nice to get "milk" and a lot of other randos who leave those comments leave them because they wanna kiss ass, but don't really know or care about the person.

No. 285011

Kind of riding on the comment before me, but

My parents only called me beauitful once in my life, on the day of my graduation. And I feel like if they had done it more often I wouldn't have so many issues now…

Many of their friends always brag about their kids, but my parents say they don't think it's right to do that (which is true), but still, my grades were always so much better than others, yet they never openly express pride in me.

I had an ed as a young teen and I have the impression my mother found me more attractive back then. Afterwards she started saying things like "maybe wear a bit longer shorts" etc. She also constantly tells me about the daughters of so or so and how pretty and slim they are (especially about some 14 yo, super skinny one, who "totally looks like a model!"). For my dad it's a different thing: for him having a bf or gf is the best and instantly worth more than being successful in school.

I know they love me, our relationship is really good, but I'm so jealous of parents who (even if it's a lie) always compliment their kids.

No. 285015

>>285007
yeah that's true. the #1 type of person i see get these type of comments are either fully bpd or otherwise whiny and sympathy-seeking

No. 285022

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>>285011
Oh man. I relate. My parents had such high fucking standards for me and the only times they complimented me it felt like almost another criticism i.e "you know you're smarter than a lot of people right?!" "i hope you realize you're not ugly"

i've also been told that i "don't seem like the type" to want to be buttered up i guess because i seem a little standoffish but fuck me, most of the reason i cultivated a tough/stoic persona was because i was raised to see vulnerability as weakness and to try to protect myself from pain, so it's a self fulfilling prophecy.

you sound like a hard worker and you're a fairy princess nonnie

No. 285032

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>been high off my arse the past few days, today is first day off
>do nothing hugely productive just sleep and watch videos and w/e to relax
>start craving sweet
>the thought crosses my mind to order a cake for myself and getting the bakery to write something to the effect of "HAPPY BIRTHDAY MEEE!"

I'm not gonna do it, it's late in the evening and everyone would suspect a stoner trying to get a last minute cake order in under the guise of a birthday.
Surely.

No. 285036

>>285032
you should get a cookie cake

No. 285043

>>284973
>how to get rid of "fantasies" that disgust me?
Start reading m/m fanfic. It sounds silly and people mock fujoshit but I'm dead serious, there's so much out there, it's quite fun and it's such a relief after having to deal with all the personal, emotional involvement in hetero fantasies. You can fantasize about the same things but about men instead to distance yourself from it and start to appreciate them in roles other than your abuser.

No. 285044

I was very happy going yo buy a lovely jumperskirt in tartan and dirty cheap only to find that was sold. I'm such a spoiled brat for being mad angry for this stupid shit but i'm raging so hard

No. 285066

>>284973
watch solo male porn and force yourself to fantasize about different things

No. 285071

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I don’t know where to post this but this girl’s body is freaking me out so much and I just need to share it with someone

No. 285078

>>285071
How unfortunate. I think Gaga has a body like this too?

>>285044
Ugh, I hate that. I'd been eyeing a super cute dress for some weeks, was unsure about the sizing and then when I finally wanted to buy it, it was sold out.

No. 285124

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I pissed off my narc father by telling him honestly that him doing me the courtesy of not beating the shit out of me anymore isn't "being nice" or "trying to get along". Now I'm coming to terms with the fact that he'll be doing his best to make my life hell for the next month at least

No. 285128

I hate my attention span. I am consumed by television, the internet, porn and video games. I waste all my time.

I want to be a writer. I am absolutely aware of the cringe factor associated with saying this, literally every woman on the internet identifies as a writer so it makes it hard for me to explain my situation. I take my self very seriously when I say it and I take my endeavours to write very seriously.

I was living on my own six months ago and I had finally mastered my attention span. I drew up a schedule, I had my day planned from morning to night: it involved going to the gym, reading, writing, and work. For the shortest time I was finally on my way, I could feel it and I was writing every day.

After some financial issues I've had to move in with some of my old friends and I feel like they are really bad influences on me. I really love them and they are really old friends, but if I spend time in my room they knock on the door and they bring me out into the living room, they get upset when I spend time on my own, and all they want to do is eat snacks and watch Netflix. I don't want to just admonish them because I know I that I have ultimate control but I feel like they are really bringing me down to a level I don't agree with.

Today is the second day of a long weekend, and I am lucky enough to have them out of the house for the weekend so I have had the first chance to start my routine again. Except yesterday morning I woke up with a really heady cold and it's been hitting me hard all weekend, so I'm doing my best but I feel horrible. I really want to live on my own again. I am so terrified that I won't reach my goals and it's all because I don't have enough will.

No. 285143

>>285124
Praying for you anon.

No. 285145

>>285128
Apologies for language mistakes prior, still don’t be too hard on yourself right now anon. At least you are aware of the fact that they’re bringing you down. I had housemates in school who I couldn’t be rid of, they partied constantly into the wee hours, and I was in a screenwriting course that semester so I can empathize with your need for routine and a calm surrounding for that to take place in.

I ended up most times in the library, is there a quiet place you can go to when you feel that they’re taking you away from your goals? It can be difficult to pull away when friends are relaxing and having fun but your dreams most important thing right now, you’re making your future! I wish you the best!

No. 285146

>>285124
I'm sorry anon. I hope you're okay. My dad does the same shit.

No. 285157

I’m about to beat the shit out of my cat (won’t really)
But he jumps at the door at night constantly, doesn’t stop even when he gets sprayed or a light slap on the butt
I live in a apartment in the 3rd floor and I know his heavy falling can be heard
I’m so stressed because I can’t get him to stop at all
I’m sick right now and I can’t constantly get up to spray him
Even if I ignore it he won’t stop, didn’t stop when we lived at the house
I’m going mad

No. 285158

My period is super late but I have all the other symptoms (pains, irritation, hunger) this is fucking bullshit. It feels like I go through 2 periods every month, one just with no blood ugh. Well, sometimes I have two periods with the blood every month! Sometimes I have no period for two months! Love being a woman. Loving life.

No. 285164

I'm so fucking horny all the time. My bf is not very sex-driven, but I want it every day, sometimes twice or three times a day. I love him and and understand his views on it, but oh my god, I feel like I could explode. I can barely move without thinking about sex and all my kinks

I also have a friend who told me that her new gf turned out to be an asexual, so she suffers from similar problem, and I'm beginning to have the worst thoughts of asking her if we could bang secretly

No. 285166

>>285157
MY CAT DOES THIS TOO

I lock her in the bathroom with a tin of catfood and her bed.

No. 285195

its my sisters 18th but I can't go outside cos I'm too ugly so I'm just sitting in my room drinking alone ;_;. (as per usual). I feel bad I miss out on things and seem rude all the time.

No. 285197

>>285164
Yuri isnt cheating, fact.

No. 285198

>>285164
Whoa, does having a higher drive than your bf actually happen? I'm also extremely high libido and would definitely prefer a low libido bf. I want him to say no but then I'd overpower him (since I like much smaller men) and use his body regardless.

It's too bad in reality men always want it, even if it isn't their number one goal for once. A guy with a "low" sex drive would probably still be into it if you just force the issue.

No. 285200

>>285198
Nice rape

No. 285205

>>285198
Seriously, anon?

No. 285206


No. 285209

>>285198
this is /r9k/ tier shit. Be better.

No. 285210

>>285164
I'm pretty sure dicks just can't handle having sex thrice a day

No. 285215

>>283846
I think it's because you specifically focus on her being black instead of, "i've been sexually assulted by a woman" so people start thinking you have an agenda

No. 285217

>>285215
This, >>283846. Her race had nothing to do with her fucked up acts, and you even admitted it's not all black women, just ones that "look a certain way" that presumably remind you of her. If anyone else had raped you, you probably would react the same way.

If you're sugarcoating and actually just mean pretty much all black women except a very tiny percentage, then you might be hyper-focusing on her race, even if you don't necessarily mean to (and yeah, that's pretty racist for obvious reasons). Get better therapists who will help you work through it.

No. 285240

TFW you think your guinea pig is sleeping but then realize it's something different about it and then see that it's dead.

I still can't believe that it died so quickly, I just pet it one hour ago and bam you see it dead in it's house.

??? welp I loved it so much??? This fucking ruined my weekend for me.

No. 285241

>>285240

I like to add that there was really nothing wrong with it? No signs of sickness or anything but it suddenly died. I'm so sad about this but at the same time I'm so mad at me that I couldn't do anything about this?? oh man…

No. 285242

>>283640
I keep seeing my shitty ex around town and I think he's moved into the house across the street from mine.
I'm finding it really hard because he treated me really badly and hit me on occasion and yet everyone tells me "oh don't worry about him, he's moved onto bigger and better things, he's not thinking about you".
And it gets me SO MAD because I'm doing well for myself, I'm starting a PhD and teaching at a university, I genuinely don't give a shit how well he's doing. I just don't want my fucking abuser moving onto the same street as me.
I'm also mad that I'm made to feel uncomfortable in my hometown and self conscious of my looks and weight enough that I get scared to go out to work. But I've got literally nothing to be ashamed of, I'm not the person who cheated with multiple people, or fucked underage girls, or had sex with someone who didn't want it. I never hit a partner or emotionally abused anyone so why is it affecting me and not him? I hate this.

No. 285247

I'm feeling so confused, I used to go to an arts uni but didn't graduated due to mental breakdowns and after three years tried a new one in tech this time. I feel super out of place in the tech uni, even rethinking if the field is really for me, but then I went today to a near cultural center to visit an indie and art book event and felt just so weird, alienated and uninterested in the artsy books/prints and the people, they all looked so snob and rude and I felt so meh about the shit that would get me so excited some years ago.
I know it's silly but I feel like "where do I even belong now?".

No. 285265

>>285240
I'm so sorry. Much love to you

No. 285280

I had just started healing from my rape, started to feel happy and content again. Yesterday I was sexually assaulted and now it feels like my world has shattered again.

No. 285310

my appendix scar is ugly and I hate it

No. 285323

My last boss shitted on me so hard so I have all of her info (physical address, name, birth date, home & cell numbers, LinkedIn profile, etc) and have been signing her up for all kinds of catalog subscriptions and bullshit online that I know will sell her information.

I want to spam her info all over the internet so Nigerian scammers will use it and shit like that. God I want to doxx this bitch so bad but I'm trying not to be a huge fag about it lol

No. 285326

>>285323
Holy shit anon this is such a great idea! I could do this to my shit supervisor because of whom I got fired, thanks!

No. 285328

I miss being young and being able to absorb media that I'm interested in.
Depression did something to my brain which makes experiencing a movie, book or a video game really difficult and exhausting. It's so hard for me to focus and not lose interest. I have so many unread books on my shelves and even more downloaded on my phone. I constantly start reading new things but can never finish anything. I stop caring very easily.

When I was a teenager, I've read whatever from start to finish, not even books I was hyped for. It was so easy. Now I'm exhausted and bored. I miss this part of the old me.

No. 285351

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>>285265

Thank you!

No. 285441

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my mom has abused me my whole life with her narcissistic tendencies, and just as i've finally gotten away from her (low contact/grey rocking ATM) she texts me this replica of a doll i had when i was a child saying "i bought this because it reminds me of you"

every single inch of me wants to believe this little gesture is genuine, but i know her. i know how she acts. i know how she really treats me. i know that this is just the lure so she can get her fix, again. she wants her punching bag back. she's done this so many times, drawing me back in with these little tokens from a childhood i lost to her abuse like it's a promise that maybe she'll REALLY love me, this time. but i know better, and i know it's all fake.

it's hard.

i want a mother.

No. 285443

>>285441
i'm sorry anon. i have the same issue, don't give in. i've not seen my mother in 10 years and initially was still in light contact with her. around a year ago she had a health scare and seemed to have changed so i opened contact again and it just went down hill. don't lose your resolve anon!

sorry if i made that about me, i was just trying to illustrate that even big things won't change them…

No. 285447

>>285441
I'm so sorry. I understand how you feel, anon. You have to let her go, the woman you're missing isn't the same one who is emotionally manipulating you right now to come back to her because she needs to suck your energy to survive. I feel like it helps to grieve the mother that you never had, the one you should have had. Scream, cry, be mad, be sad, and finally accept that the mother that you want, who loves you unconditionally and truly thinks about you when she sees that doll, instead of her own selfish needs, was dead before you were ever born. I'm sorry. I hope this helps.

No. 285448

>>285197
I think it still counts, however I really can't stop thinking about it.
>>285198
He might be into it, if that's his fetish. Other than that - I'm pretty sure that's rape.
>>285210
Idk, I had a bf who could, he also had a high libido. This current bf could do it twice in a row at some point, but it happened only once, maybe twice. Thank god internet is full of porn.

No. 285451

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>>285443
>>285447
i appreciate your kind words. i know the mother i miss isn't the mother that i know she is. i just have memories of looking through a journal my mom kept when she was pregnant with me, and she wrote all these things about how she was excited to meet me so we could tell stories and laugh together.

my father was an alcoholic who died when i was just about to turn 12, and i know that hurt her a lot. she talked often about how he was the love of her life. it must have done something awful to her, because it made her into this giant monster who wanted nothing to do with me, anymore. i was always more affectionate towards my father because he had more honest interest in me as a person. he wanted to spend time with me and do things with me. my mother only ever wanted my time when she could exploit it for her own selfish gain.

a lot of the time, i wish she had died, instead of my dad. my dad drank, sure, but when he wasn't drunk, he was the best dad in the entire world. he was getting help. he never would've let my mother hurt me like she did. it should have been her.

No. 285472

My brother is moving back in with my mom next week and I'm really dreading seeing him. He's autistic and lacks empathy, doesn't get social cues, lacks hygiene, and doesn't know how to clean after himself. Overall a really unpleasant person to live with. I hate him due to being a burden on our parents, and being ungrateful in general. Also he had an edgelord phase where he caused a lot of autistic trouble and threatened to kill me, I decided I would never forgive him for that.
My mom recently came and got his stuff from where he lived and found out something interesting: he believes he might be transgender. He had painted his nails and told her that he likes to dress up in women's clothes and also owns a wig. I feel very conflicted about this and he showed no signs of it before (He's 21 now). I just hope he won't try to take my clothes, he's stolen money from me before but has never had much interest in my possessions. I find it kind of funny though, he's pretty fat with lots of acne and doesn't care enough to shave his stubble. I don't think he would make for a very pretty woman. I just wish he wouldn't talk to me at all but because of my autism he doesn't understand I hate him even when I outright ignore him.
>tldr feel conflicted about an autistic tranny coming to live with me

No. 285499

>>285472
Holy shit anon promise to keep us updated on your live in cow. Could you make your own thread?

Obviously he is just an agp fetishist and not actually transgender. If he's so hell bent on this then you should sit him down and watch a bunch of feminist documentaries with him and bombard him with feminist history chat, "So you understand your fellow sisters better 😊". Lock up your clothing.

No. 285546

Am I shit person for resenting my mother her request to support her, her dog and my neet brother?

I have plans of my own and the fact that she depends on me financially and emotionally is making me anxious and resentful. I can't say no, I feel it's my duty. However, I'm not going to be able to go through my plans that I was looking forward to for a very long time and I'm angry.

I'm also furious at my father for chickening out and washing his hands. He pays like the electricity bill once in a blue moon and considers himself a martyr. Now, he can't even do that. It's nothing at this point, but I never got to enjoy life and as it is, never will.

No. 285566

>>285546
Depends
Is she making any efforts to get her financial independence? Is it impossible for her to get financially independent (as in physically impossible, not "I don't like to work, it's impossible for me to be independent" impossible)? Is her situation of financial dependence going to last for a few months or indefinitely?

If she just got fired and need some months to find another job that she's activally searching for, you should help her. If she's planning on replacing your father with you and to leech on you for the rest of her life, back the fuck away

No. 285580

>>285566
She's half-heartedly trying to make changes but she doesn't really put enough effort to do anything with her life, just enough so she could say she did something. Before when she had my father's credit card and she was a housewife, she made some bad financial decisions, which is why seven years ago, my father denied her access to his account and divorced her. She didn't change her ways all of this time, so I don't see her changing now either. She spends most of her time watching soap operas, reading celeb news, and arguing in the news comment section.

She's still refusing to downgrade her lifestyle, she buys luxury goods and foods for my brother, her furbaby and herself by "borrowing" money from me and other family members. My father used to cover part of the utility bills.

Despite all that, she is my mother and I will do my best to help her and my brother. She does have a good heart and good intentions, and it would be slimy and ungrateful of me to leave her on her own.

I know it's going to be hell when she moves in. She's an anti-feminist, borderline anorexic, likes trump and j peterson, she likes shopping way too much and she's going to be very controlling. She also makes me hate myself for not being rich enough to sustain a good enough lifestyle for her.

Worst of all, she's 50yo and she doesn't know what to do with her life. It's mentally taxing to give her advice that she won't listen to anyway. She wants me to give her a million dollar idea, and she wants me to also help her in her new entrepreneurial projects which are ridiculous but hey, at least she's trying, right?

I feel it's going to be a huge step back in my life regardless and I feel like a terrible person for even writing this but I don't have anyone to talk to.

I'm jealous of people whose parents have their shit together.

No. 285581

>>285580
>She also makes me hate myself for not being rich enough to sustain a good enough lifestyle for her.
Tell her you're an anti-feminist yourself and you'd rather not make too much money because it might make men feel insecure.

No. 285584

>>285581
She considers me to be a man in a woman's body so it's okay. lel

She really is a good person but I guess she's a stereotypical boomer that still believes that working hard equals riches. I'm not sure if she's aware of the current job market and how it all works now.

No. 285585

>depression took a nose dive after i had to quit my job
>2 weeks later it's going terribly and i can't even muster the energy to go see her
>sleep schedule is messed up >sleep at 11am, wake up 6pm be tired until midnite wired till 10am
>find no new job
>get nothing done

i want to die.

No. 285587

>>284863

I'm getting slightly anxious right now cause my husband's name is Skyler..

No. 285591

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>signed up for Hulu and logged it onto my parents tv
>”maybe they’ll watch something besides goddamn SVU”
>the only thing they use it for is to watch episodes of NYPD Blue

No. 285594

>>285499
I don't think I have enough interesting stories to make my own thread. He's a pretty typical autistic guy.
Personally I think the reason he wants to be a woman is because women were his only "friends". Guys had a tedency to tell him outright to fuck off while women thought of him as a pet disabled boy and kept him around because he was funny. He hasn't had much positive male social interaction so I think that may be the reason.

No. 285596

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my phone is out of storage space due to the terabyte of anime boy pictures I've saved on it. I can't bear to delete any more of them, so I need a new micro SD. problem is, I recently moved and every single micro SD I owned that wasn't already inside a device went awol during that time… I can't afford a new one this week bc I blew all my non-bill money on thai food… can't even use my computer for storage bc I can't find the box I put my mouse in…

kms I'll have to use the card in my nintendo switch until next week. I don't have any other options. fuck being broke and unorganized.

No. 285602

>>285596
Upload the pics to an imgur folder and delete them off your phone until you get a new SD card.

No. 285604

One of my friends has decided randomly he's transgender and it has fucked up our group completely. His other friends from university are a bunch of agender, nongender, queerpunk, butchfemme specials so in that case I'm not surprised. However, he's always been pretty masculine despite this. Beard, men's interests, all that stuff.

Even now he's come out, he's not presenting as a woman. He's still a bloke, just with a shaved face and badly shaved eyebrows. We're all thinking the same thing, he's full of internal misandry and he wants to be special like his other friends.

He's become even more unbearable now as far as his need to not be offended. We can't say anything without upsetting him. It's bullshit and everyone knows it.

No. 285607

>>285602
when I say there are a lot of pics, I mean it. around 45gb. it would be a million times faster to zip the bulk of them and upload the zip to my mega, but I'll need a lot more space to do that.

No. 285609

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I hate my stupid apartment, all I wanna do is play Splatoon 2 and I can't join any battles due to NAT errors, connection errors. Last night I was finally able to connect for just a short while, I was so excited, but then there was seven players so it wouldn't so it said there were too few players.

No. 285616

I can never tell this to anyone but I got turned on yesterday by a cute guy calling me mommy in a sexual context. I felt so uncomfortable with the mere thought of this up until it actually happened. Nothing has made me this turned on in so fucking long. Both of us have no fucking idea what's happening. I wish the mommy thing was the worst of it. I was a normal girl who's barely sexual IRL but gets off to a bit of rough sex fantasies. He was a straight Dom guy who had been sexually dormant for months. Instead of ending up in a normal straight vanilla or usual Dom/sub shit we somehow ended up exploring things we never even liked before. We indulge in these degenerate, morally questionable, borderline illegal fetishes but as soon as we're done he feels so ashamed and repulsed by himself, and I feel angry at myself for wasting a good night's sleep on this for the 2nd week in a row. I've been having 3 hours of sleep a night because I fucking lose it as soon as his tipsy whore ass flips his long pretty hair and whines slutty, needy dirty talk into my ear about how much he wants me to own him and all the nasty shit he wants to do for me, including getting brutally fucked and abused by other guys in front of me. That's the thing we struggle with as soon as we're no longer horny: he's realizing he might be bisexual and I'm realizing I'm a fucking cuckquean. I want to kill myself every time I remember I got off to the thought of whoring him out to some older men while he's drugged. Jesus Christ that reminds me of the time I got turned on by seeing him snort a line and I fucking hate drugs and druggies normally. Did somebody put something in our fucking water? What is happening

This is kind of a nightmare. I had a solid plan for my normal, respectable future and relationship with my hard working, masculine straight man who's a bit older than men, straight edge and vanilla yet fun and interesting. Then I lost interest in him after 2 years when this younger, beautiful boy with long pretty hair, the face of a male model and the body of a toned Greek god walked into my life. Everything about his reckless unhealthy life style is the opposite of what I always wanted but I'm addicted. He says he feels the same way and everyone can tell he's crazy about me (which is terrible, both us would rather die than have anyone know what goes on between us). I have no idea where we're going with this and it's scary and we need to stop and go our separate ways but come tonight he'll be on his knees again looking up with his sparkly blue eyes with a fistful of his hair in his mommy(ugh)'s hand and we'll repeat the cycle again and want to die from shame tomorrow morning.

I don't think anyone will be reading these long ass posts but I'm gonna keep coming back with updates since I'll lose my mind if I don't write this down somewhere and vent.

No. 285627

>>285616
>We indulge in these degenerate, morally questionable, borderline illegal fetishes but as soon as we're done he feels so ashamed and repulsed by himself, and I feel angry at myself for wasting a good night's sleep on this for the 2nd week in a row.
what's borderline illegal about them

No. 285635

>>285627
I haven't mentioned those in the post deliberately

No. 285641

>>285616
Write a book, anon. I love messy shit like this.
I'm messy, too, and I'd talk about it here if the other parties involved didn't know about Lolcow.

No. 285648

every interaction with people who aren't my immediate family leaves me feeling so painfully ashamed and embarrassed I want to die. if I was drunk, usually I get drunk cos I think it'll make it easier and better but when the alcohol wears off that crushing shame is 10000x worse. I've turned into a literal retard borderline alcoholic and I don't know how get back into life.

No. 285652

>>285648
i'm the same, anon. the best solution i've come up with so far is to stop drinking and just live without a social life. i'll still get flashbacks but they're less intense.

however i usually get bored after a few weeks and go back to my bingedrinking ways only to again suffer from fucking horrid flashbacks and self-loathing and decide to stop drinking again.

No. 285660

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I'm sick of how I am. I was emotionally neglected throughout my life, and as a result there's always this nagging feeling that makes me want to become the center of someone's world. Not several people or even a couple of people, I only want a single person to love me completely selflessly and unconditionally.

I finally found someone I love and he is great to me, but even that still doesn't feel like enough. I know he loves and cares about me more than anyone in his life, but even then he still doesn't do everything that would make me feel completely loved. It's not even his fault, he is independent and his own person. Everyone is. Even most married couples who have been together a long time aren't dependent on each other. Unfortunately I realize that in order to feel the sort of love that would truly satisfy me, my partner would have to be a literal saint and put me first in every aspect and that just doesn't happen in real life. The kind of love I want isn't realistic and it makes me very sad to think about. It's also very self-centered and egotistical, and I hate that I think this way.

Strangely enough, I do love myself and who I am. I hold myself in high regards. But at the same time, I always feel like something is missing and it's eating away at me.

No. 285676

I want to enjoy Kiwi Farms because they keep really good documentation on crazy people but I can’t take the Trump dicksucking on that site. Usually, I don’t really care where your politics lie as long as you don’t make it your identity but they literally sperg whenever someone criticizes Trump. Also they have countless of threads devoted to how crazy the political left is (Which I’m not complaining about. I consider myself liberal but the American left is a shitshow right now) but very few
threads devoted on the right’s craziness. Null says it’s because the right isn’t as spergy, which is the biggest crock of shit I ever heard.

I just hate it when internet comunities get absorbed by politics, regardless of where it’s coming from. I used to go on ONTD a lot back in the day but I’ve eventually left because that place got invested with SJWs. I just want to laugh at people without being preached at. Is that so much to ask?

No. 285713

>>285676
kiwifarms seems to suffer from groupthink a lot more than lolcow imo. idk if it's just because it isn't anonymous there or what. they just don't realize it because they're edgy and reactionary, but they do the same shit as tumblr and reddit. a strong personality will establish a Correct Opinion and all the others will go along with it and denounce anyone who disagrees as a dangerous idiot, even if we're talking about something that's subjective or can't currently be scientifically proven. even though there are popular and unpopular views on lolcow, i see a lot more acknowledgement of the possibility that other views could be correct. farmers only get annoyed when people are overly obnoxious or derailing with their opinions, but as long as you can back up what you're saying in a reasonable way it's fine here which is the #1 thing i like about this place.

No. 285714

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>>285596
update: just found a mf micro sd, redownloading tkrb as I type this.

No. 285724

i fucking loathe the place i live in, this godforsaken country, full of fucking idiotic people with no respect for other human lives or animals or the damn nature, i wish i could just make them all disappear like thanos kek…
But for real i wish i could move right now with my fam, I HATE THIS FUCKING PLACE, i wish them all dead fucking morons…..
i'm so fucking disappointed of this country.

No. 285726

>>285676
My biggest problem with kiwifarms is how much a lot of users clearly hate women. I think it's common for any site outside of lolcow but I tend to avoid those now so it's always weird when I want to check on a cow that's on there and people are sperging about "lying whores" and "dumb sluts" when it's not relevant. I'm not really used to it anymore.

No. 285762

>>285676
Not forgetting the racists on there- it's /pol/-lite. And, if you bring it up of course you're just a triggered~ SJW.

No. 285775

>>285713
Yup go against the groupthink on kiwifarms and they reeeeee hard but what do you expect from a site which owner is himself, a lolcow.

>>285726
>My biggest problem with kiwifarms is how much a lot of users clearly hate women

it use to annoy me until I saw pictures of doxed kiwifarms users kek

No. 285784

I reached that point of life where people I went to high school with would try to contact me after not speaking to them for years because they’re still single and want a gf

And now it’s exacerbated to being asked by the mothers to go out with their twenty/thirtysomething sons

No. 285793

Tomorrow is my third wedding anniversary.

Tomorrow is also the one year anniversary of my father in laws death.

I'm not allowed to celebrate my anniversary because the day "just isn't happy anymore"

The past year has been an absolute nightmare.

He's cheated on me countless times, and he's started getting violent. It's not often but when it happens, it's bad.

In January he smashed my head into a wall, I don't know if my skull cracked or what, there's a lot of pain still if I touch the area, sometimes I'll black out for a tiny moment. Most recently he beat me to the ground so bad Ive barely been able to walk the past week or so. My entire back was bruised up, I couldn't turn in bed without being reduced to tears.

I attempted suicide in April but obviously i fucking survived and all I think about is that day and wishing I didn't live.

I moved to a whole different country. I have no support system back home, my parents were abusive too. I thought my life had changed and everything was finally going to be okay.

Guess this is how it's going to be forever. Maybe one day I'll be so numb my anniversary just won't register with me anymore.

No. 285798

>>285793
cool fanfic

No. 285802

>>285793
Your husband is abusive, wtf are you worrying about your anniversary for? You need an escape plan, not a fucking celebration of a guy who beats you and cheats on you. What are your options for earning/saving money and keeping it hidden?

No. 285812

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Bf vagueposted about the emergency we had today at our house in a ~woe is me~ tone when he was at work and didn't have to deal with any of it.
I was the one firsthand dealing with the situation our dumbfuck irresponsibleshit neighbors caused, the firemen, the maintenance guys, and the prick apartment management, etc. No electricity nor water for hours.
I'm the one who had to write the emails. I'm the one who took a hit from work because I had to call out and no one from there helped me.
Plus, I'm sure in the following days, it'll still be me pulling the next course of action while bf acts like a helpless sheep.

I'm dealing with so much stupidity that I just want a fellow adult companion to step in and help me figure this stuff out, play a part, and tell me it's going to be okay.
Not a little boy who cries in the corner and expects someone else to take the initiative to fix everything. He told me how he was ~so mad~ over the phone, but now I gotta make sure he doesn't sperg out when we meet management tomorrow to negotiate a new living situation and figure out how these neighbors are going to file their insurance to pay the literal thousands in damages they caused. This is all happening when my first major international trip is going down in a week, which I also slaved to plan myself.

No. 285813

>>285793
What country are you in? What country are you from?

No. 285826

>>285616
p-please write more anon

No. 285829

>>285819
Oh girl, I've dealt with his lazy ass for four years now lol. I just expect in a more dire situation he would've stepped up a bit.
But it's not tomorrow yet, who knows what will happen. I'm just mad and salty.

No. 285835

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>>285830
Is this the meme where we're gonna take what I vented and blow it out of proportion because I didn't preface my post with the Farmer's List™ of things my bf does right?

Or is this the meme where we forget that this is vent thread, not advice thread, and perhaps what I've posted was out of frustration and duress of losing my home and taking in thousands worth of damages while feeling very alone in the process?

No. 285838

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Can’t stop thinking about that embarassing thing i did in middle school

No. 285841

>>285762
I’m no SJW but I noticed a lot of racists on KF who especially have it out for blacks and middle eastern people. Like I get the frustration over the refugee crisis if you live in Europe or the fact that a lot of liberals are hesitant to criticize the obvious problems that Islam has but geez, the hate can get a bit ott, especially when it’s not even relevant.

No. 285842

>>285838
Same, and with HS memories tossed in, too. I’m too scared to even passively interact with my former classmates online, because it trudges up too many memories and I’m embarrassed by my former and present self.

No. 285844

Everyone is probably too fixated on the dumb shit they were up to in middle school to even remember or care about your particulars.

It's helped me let go.

No. 285863

>>285841
>I get the frustration over the refugee crisis if you live in Europe
I think it's almost always the american KF users who complain and joke about this though, and it's obvious they have no idea why there's a "high" number of North africans and black people in France for example so when there's news involving one, they'll joke about how this person is a kebab and should go back to his country instead of immigrating to Europe and how Europeans are cucks, etc. They think they know what they're talking about and when there's one person giving context they're ignoring him or her most of the time.

No. 285882

Not even tinfoil:
The reason why so much infighting happens is because anons who are ESL fucking suck at reading and understanding english. They check out from reading early to rant about a key topic they picked up in the first few sentences. Then they extrapolate what the subject is about when they haven't picked up on details and tone that make a huge difference.

That's it, isn't it? Isn't this why some anons can't seem to fucking read and start shit over nothing? Hopefully it's due to a language barrier and not complete retardation, yes?

No. 285887

>>285841
Most of these people have never even been to Europe and probably never will, so it's extra annoying.

No. 285890

>>285882
>That's it, isn't it?
>Hopefully it's due to a language barrier and not complete retardation, yes?
Why so desperate? kek
Trust me, it's not just us dumb non-native speakers who start or contribute to fights.
And even if your little theory happened to be true in a case, it'd be up to you Amerifats, Brits or whatever to not attack back immediately, but to clear up any misunderstandings, yes?

No. 285891

Found out I’m pregnant. 2 months or so in, definitely aborting despite feeling an odd connection to the fetus. Baby daddy is an older man I’ve been seeing throughout the year, he also happens to be my office supervisor. Not looking forward to this process. Not looking forward to the forced waiting period prior to the abortion. Part of me wants the baby, but I know I don’t ever want kids and I’m too selfish, broke, and mentally unfit for motherhood. Babies are adorable… but children, teens and adults are not.

No. 285903

>>285890
you just proved anon's point here tbh

No. 285904

>>285891
Sorry to hear that anon. At least you're self aware enough to not to put yourself in a worse situation.

Wishing you the best <3

No. 285907

>>285890
>it'd be up to you Amerifats, Brits or whatever to not attack back immediately, but to clear up any misunderstandings

No.

Lmao!

No. 285914

>>285890
> it'd be up to you Amerifats, Brits or whatever to not attack back immediately, but to clear up any misunderstandings, yes?

literally what

No. 285919

>>285641
I think I jinxed it, nothing's happened since I posted that vent. I'd write more but I don't want to spam the thread with wall of China long posts about how confused I am by my new found degeneracy.
>>285826
Can you try to vaguepost at least? Or switch up some key facts so it's not obvious, pls I'm curious

No. 285959

I'm taking pills till stupor because I can't take life no more and I don't want to be a burden to my parents and bf. Killing myself isnt and opción bc I don't want to make they sad.

No. 285967

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I just want some tips to become desensitized with sexism/racism/homophobia irl and online.
When I was depressed, I just wanted to die. Now that I'm not anymore, I want to fight it so bad, but men in my country even get to decide about abortions, I can't cope with this anymore

No. 285970

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I follow a trans guy ( is important cuz he never stfu about it) he says he is a jew filipino and never stop talking about jewish people and how all anime ch he like are jew and filipino, at first i didn't care, i was like "yeah cool whatever" but now he never stfu abute that and how all whute people are bad and try to kill him cuz of corse been a poc and jew he is the ultimate victim he also say he is gay, but oh plot twist he hate white cis gays, and now he is a gay non binary , i really like his other content and art even tho he doesn't make much art now days, i really whant to talk to him and tell himm "listen been jew is not the only thing you should be , be more than 3 things " he only talks abute been trans, jew or filipino i hate this so much , why the fuck i can get normal mutuals? ah yeah we are mutuals lord help me, he also love kpop and hate "asian people that love european beauty standards" as if kpop wasn't that lmao

No. 285979

>>285967
Oh no, where do you live, anon?
If you feel a real fight inside of you, perhaps look into differences you can make in your community. Volunteer at women's shelters, riot, get involved in politics (if you can), etc.
If not, it may be best for your mental health to leave. Not saying countries with abortion rights are sexism-free (I'm Canadian and, believe me, misogynists are everywhere) but even some posturing laws may put your mind at ease.

As for putting the knowledge that these men exist out of your mind…I wish I had good advice. I have yet to achieve that myself.

No. 286074

>>285919
idc how you write it, but do it LOL

No. 286147

>>285979
Thanks anon, I'm from Brazil and it's election time, everything's a mess.
I'll try and work more actively on it, not doing anything won't help

No. 286159

I'm seeing a therapist right now, trying to get a diagnosis, but the information sheet he wants me to fill out involves questions about if I have done some illegal stuff. I'm just stressed trying to figure out if I should be honest as possible to get help because I really need the medication, or if I should be worried about ruining my chances of getting these drugs because they might think I'm just trying to sell them.

>>285970
I couldn't even read this

No. 286177

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>tfw no chill, long-haired bf to go to the arcade with
>unironic i was born in the wrong generation
I'm such a daydreaming loser.

No. 286195

I used to be kinda ugly and really weird in high school, which resulted in me massive self esteem and body image issues, but now years later I've had a decent 'glow-up'and kinda unintentionally made it my life mission to hook up with the popular guys from school ups. So far its going pretty well but its also making me feel way worse about myself because pretty much all of them have told me how I was so unattractive before and that they literally didn't notice me but NOW i'm really good-looking and fuckable, which just solidifies the fears I had growing up. Like, I get that its meant to be a compliment or whatever but honestly its so painful to hear, I still feel just as ugly as I did then and a part of me still really care about their opinions even tho we graduated years ago.

No. 286197

>>286195
>rewarding douchebags with sex even though they thought you were worthless until you got attractive
…did you actually expect it to feel GOOD? Did you think it would be some kind of enjoyable revenge? Of course you feel like shit, you're doing these assholes a favour by having sex with them but they're only going to feel good about themselves for it and will continue to think of you as trash. First you were invisible trash, now you're fuckable trash. That's how the male brain works. You're better than that, and you shouldn't give them what they want knowing they just look down on you.

Sorry to be harsh but I will never, ever understand how girls with low self esteem think giving men easier access to their vagina is going to benefit them in any way.

No. 286198

>>286159
If you're currently taking drugs and are prescribed MORE drugs unknowingly, it could be very bad for you or even kill you to double dose.

If the drug use was in the past (months ago or longer) I'd say lie on the form and say you never took any (obviously mention previous legal prescriptions). The issue would be in identifying current drug users who a prescription could be dangerous for

No. 286200

>>285580
>She does have a good heart and good intentions
That's okay for a ten years old child to be completely helpless and have no idea how to manage her money, not for a 50 years old woman who is completely failing at her adult responsibilities. You're not her mother, and your actions make enable her in her behavior. If you want it to change you're going to have to clearly tell her that she has to act her age and support herself. This is not you being ungrateful, this is you stopping her from ruining someone else's life.

Jesus she really sounds like Lucille from Arrested Development

No. 286202

>>286198
Also pretty sure a lot of prescription drugs are highly addictive themselves, so take care anon!

No. 286203

>>286197
>thinking of women's pussies as a reward
woke and redpilled

No. 286204

>>286197
>you're doing these assholes a favour by having sex with them

Yes exactly, please cease rewarding these jerks with sex and find some new guys who won't backhanded compliment you while they're at it

No. 286205

>>286203
It's a reward in context of them being prior bullies and not boyfriends, friends or companions in any way. They got the fun of bullying her AND sex later when she got hot. It's a reward

No. 286206

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No. 286209

>>286197

nah thanks for being harsh I really needed that tbh, I haven't really thought about it like that before. I know it's really stupid and sad, but it feels great at the moment because it's like they really think I'm hot shit but honestly they just want to get laid and I'm an easy fuck I guess

No. 286210

>>286205
she got sex with hot guys too

No. 286215

>>286209
It's easy to understand why you might feel good and validated now that you're considered attractive. But you're too good for them and they don't deserve your attention especially when it's just going to hurt you more. They will consider you attractive even if you don't get involved with them, you don't need to sacrifice anything for that self esteem boost.

No. 286218

>>286210
You can get that from any guy. And it probably was primarily her servicing them rather than being adored and lavished with attention. So free service from hot girl. Score

No. 286223

>>286218
cool assumptions
>being adored and lavished with attention
not everybody likes that

No. 286230

>>286195
>I get that its meant to be a compliment

Oh no, anon, they're still bullying you!
What they said to you is fucking awful.
I'm saying this as someone who hooked up with my high school crush as an adult a few years back when I had my looks streak too.

No wonder you feel bad. Don't settle for these guys to tell you were unfuckable trash when you had and have value beyond that. They're basically saying they don't give a fuck about you while plunging into you.
I mean shit, if sexual validation is what you need then who am I to tell you not to, but with these guys it's a waste of your time.

No. 286233

>>286210
That's an interesting point. She only said they were popular, though and you know how badly chads can age. Hey >>286195, how are they looking and how good is the sex? Is there any value in these guys beyond the validation that you're not getting from them?

>>286218
No, you can only get sex from hot guys, wait for it, from hot guys. It's not worth letting some rat bastard walk all over you, though. Especially if they're shit in bed.

No. 286240

>>286233

Ironically I have like, kinda high standards lookswise (which makes me feel like such an hypocrite) so most of them are pretty decent looking imo. I guess I would class them as conventionally attractive? And the sex varies. It's usually drunken hookups since I tend to get a bit confident when I drink lol so its not great, but I have been pretty lucky a few times. Most of them do tend to be a bit demanding when it comes to 'porn' positions or when it comes to me satisfying them tho, but then again I'm not very outspoken and I'm really bad at communicating what I want in bed. I tend to be too body contious to enjoy it, and sometimes I refuse certain positions because I'm scarred I'll look weird or something yikes… and honestly I have no idea what kind of value there is. As I said before, it feels good hearing that I'm fuckable? And I do enjoy sex but that not the driving force or whatever. this is so depressing typing out hahah it kinda makes me realise how sad this is

No. 286242

>>286223
Okay, then she gets dominated and enjoys it. Then they get the benefit of treating her like a conquest, as if that makes it better.

No. 286243

>>286242
ah yes the only alternative to pussy worship is being dominated

No. 286249

>>286243
You can tell by her low sense of self-worth. She is either the type that loves being dominated or will put up with it even if it makes her uncomfortable. She is willing to fuck assholes who scorned her after all, there is no doubt she would put one of these retards first at the expense of not being sexually satisfied.

No. 286260

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it really bothers me that i've become hostile by default to new people over the last few years. i just don't trust them an inch and i can't seem to stop being like this. if it's a man my automatic assumption is that he's a conceited piece of shit who probably hates women. if it's a woman i'm less aggressive but i won't get friendly with them because i feel like familiarity only leads to getting burned.

one of my friends pointed out how difficult and suspicious i am and suggested it was down to some extreme bullying and abuse i experienced in my childhood and teens (some kids sent me to the hospital for being the new kid when i was seven and it only got worse in high school).

i don't know if it's a self-esteem issue or a trauma issue or what. i also work in customer service which gets me really burned out on people, which probably doesn't help.

i'm trying to overcome it but i have to swallow down so much panic and rage all the time. i've overcome a lot of stuff but i feel like i won't be able to function in society normally if i can't continue to contain my hate and distrust. i don't even know what it is or how to deal with it healthily.

it's pretty isolating, but i don't want to be isolated - i want to find a partner again, be carefree, and be a kind normal well-rounded person. have any of you anons managed to get over this?

No. 286265

I was singled out and kind of sent home earlier at an awful job interview today.
The HR girl running it looked super overwelmed and underpaid and left us waiting for more than 40min until someone reminded her of the people she was supposed to interview.

I hate this so much, was it because I didn't wear make up or how I talk or how I dress? Everything I try this year seems to be failling and I don't understand why I'm sucking so bad latelly ;_;

No. 286267

>>286265
that really sucks anon, sorry the interview turned out that way. judging from your description of the HR employee, i think you can safely say that today going badly isn't something to totally blame on yourself. she probably didn't have it all together. do your best to not use disappointing moments to judge your value as a person, you'll get out this rough patch soon!

No. 286272

I'm like next level pissed right now. Never join the Alternative Fashion Amino, ever. Last December I had made a post explaining aesthetics in my fashion. A curator took it down and sent me a message that it had nothing to do with fashion. I replied that aesthetic is an essential part of fashion and they said it wasnt and sent condescending messages and kept telling me it's "against the rules" to post about aesthetic in fashion. I asked them , genuinely confused, if they've ever taken a sewing or fashion class before because you literally can't have fashion without aesthetic. They left me a message that I just read just now that I am being reported to the mods for a strike on my account for "being rude" and "not listening to warnings" mind you, I'm reading this now…ten months later. I had left the Amino that same day back in December so I rejoined just to be like "what the flying fuck dude" but that same curator who reported me is now saying she doesn't remember and that she's "sorry" and that she didn't do it even though the messages are still there. They only started responding to me once I had said I reported them to Amino for abuse of the strike method. I was rude, annoyed, but not rude. They were. They remind of the CC/Jill club crap whatever people and that's apart of why I left that day. They also run out anybody they find to be threatening and I couldn't take the nonsense anymore so I only post on fashion Amino and have been just fine there. They took me simply being like "that doesn't make any sense" as being rude and I've never had to deal with just obnoxious and entitled people in my life I'm pissed and now my anxiety is acting up when I was like two friggin minutes ago
Who the hell thinks aesthetic has nothing to do with fashion?

No. 286274

>>286267
Thanks anon. You're right, I really needed to read that now.

No. 286275

>>286202
>>286198
Thanks anon that's really helpful for me.
This thing is such a wild ride, it asks if I'm a manipulative person, but surely a manipulative person surely wouldn't admit to it that.

>>286265
Like the other anon said, don't overthink this one, it sounds like she was just cutting down the amount of people she had to see to and that it wasn't to do with you. Jobseeking can be such an emotionally draining thing and I hope you realise that it doesn't represent your worth as a person!

No. 286284

>>286260
Don't worry I've been bullied from elementary school and now even in friggin college and I am apprehensive about people too. The way I've dealt with it is just to keep in mind youve had bad experiences and it's normal to not just consider everyone you meet a "friend". We have this weird social expectation to just automatically call everybody we meet a friend like the term "acquaintance" doesn't exist. Especially in college where everybody thinks that it's gonna be Zoey 101 but the grown up edition. It helps to find an outlet to get rid of some of the anger like a counselor/therapist or just a hobby (for me it's music) and to remember that you honestly aren't alone in that sentiment. Childhood bullying is more serious than people make it out to be.
Just consider people and acquaintance and after awhile if they prove themselves to be a friend than a friend. Anybody that wants to shove a relationship down your throat needs to get kicked to the curve in my experience they have the most drama.

No. 286321

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>>283640
I'm off my antidepressants and I went to a dermatologist and they put me on Accutane even if I informed them I suffer of mental illness. Luckily, the Accutane didn't make me feel worse than I did before.
But oh boy, do I feel like shit. I've never felt like this before, it's like I don't even feel anything anymore just some deeply internalized feeling of frustration. I've been chronically depressed for years but the loss of my grandmother just hit me and even if I'm trying to keep a positive attitude about it and accept the fatality of death I cannot ignore the fact that it broke me completely.

I hate myself and I want to stop but I cannot because everything I do is always retarded I cannot believe I'm 19 years old but I feel stuck at 8. I have isolated myself in my own internalized fantasy and social interaction just scares me now I cannot believe I have become this miserable I feel like I will never be a decent human being I want this to end I'm scared of death, I don't wanna die I just want to be normal and happy and find something that I'm actually passionate about.

No. 286325

>>285247
Hmmm anon, I think you might just not like the people within the arts community but you might actually like art itself.

No. 286352

>find someone who seems decent to be friends with online
>hes super chill and very personable, has great taste in music
>easy to connect with (incredibly rare for my bizarre, outcast ass)
>find out later he's obsessed with japan and kind of a weeb
>wants to be an english teacher there and get a japanese wife
>hes studying japanese and claims to not like anime despite having waifus and contradicts himself saying hes not into "3D wimen"
>almost every convo turns into jap related discussion somehow
>all his other friends are weebs with little girl anime icons
Wew lads, kill me. He's incredibly cool to talk to if I can somehow get a convo to not involve him talking about japan but it's getting harder to withstand. I want to stop talking to him entirely bc of this shit. I feel like anime is a plague and it's really destroyed online communities.

No. 286367

I can tell there's one stupid bitch going around /ot and ruining every thread and it's so fucking annoying

No. 286368

>>286367
What’s she like? We might be thinking of the same person.

No. 286369

>>286367
Exceptionally spergy?

No. 286370

All my coworker does is stress me the fuck out about situations she’s not even envolved with
We have no prep at work and she’s making a huge deal about no one being able to come in and that we’re so short staffed and how it’s gonna be horrible like she’s gotta worry about it
Girl works up front and won’t have to deal with it like me or other cooks
All she does is stress me out over the situation and makes things more dramatic

No. 286372

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i'm so fucking far behind in life that it disgusts me. people my age have cars and houses and are starting families and i'm a fucking NEET without a driver's license or a GED.

it's because of a bunch of different things that i am this way, and i know that it's gonna take me getting up and doing something to change it, but i have no motivation to do it. i keep feeling like someone's gonna point me in the direction i need to go and i'll just do that. but that's not how it works! i know that's not how it works.

i was abused as a kid to the point where i feel like i never really mentally aged. i was neglected and not shown the basics i needed to at least be somewhat functioning, and now everyone i talk to about this is just gonna think i'm a lazy sack of shit that does nothing but lick my own wounds.

i don't even know my fucking multiplication tables man what the fuck. i want to be better. i want to GET BETTER. i need a gameplan and some direction.

starting tomorrow i'm gonna pick my life up and fix this fucking mess.

No. 286386

>>285587
Well if he works at a chevy dealership and plays wow then we’re all fucked

No. 286397

>>286372
You sound like me anon. Feels bad man.

No. 286408

>>286372
Wow, you're so far away you even think multiplication tables are something relevant.

No. 286420

>>286372

Are you me?

No. 286597

I just failed a really important test.
It was basically a combination of 3 classes combined and I literally spend all June and July only studying for that, and now everything was for nothing…

But the worst thing is, I want to write the first part of my final exams next winter/spring, so I planned to study a lot for this. But now that I have to repeat this exam as well and again spend so much time on it, how the hell should I manage to do that?!
And what if I fail again, then I only have one take left before I'm no longer allowed to continue my studies at all… and my anxiety before tests was already huge enough before that added extra pressure…

Also, I have other exams in a month and a half and I haven't done anythig yet, why do I have to be so lazy and useless…

No. 286600

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>colleagues joking around at my expense
>mfw

No. 286602

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i dont think living with my sister is going to work out. she never learnt to be a proper adult. i just came back from a week away and she didnt clean AT ALL or do a single dish in all the time i was away, despite cooking and making a mess in the kitchen. the kitchen was an absolute state, even now ive only just scratched the surface of cleaning it.

im her sister, not her mother, this is supposed to be an equal relationship. i cant be nagging her to sort her behaviour out constantly, its not my job and i just cba with it. i know she has mental health problems, but i have had them too and i never made someone else do all my cleaning and everyday tasks like some kind of overgrown spoilt child. she always does this as well, and she gets so defensive whenever it is brought up, i dont think she wants to change. and i know ill end up having to support her financially, she says she wants to get a job but she doesnt put any actual effort into doing so.

i love her but im NOT being her nanny and maid. idk what to do

No. 286714

>>286368
>>286369

>not saging on purpose

>"my dude"
>too lazy to scroll
>clogging up the celebricow thread sperging over how anons aren't shitting on azealia banks enough
>obviously samefagging
>contributing to derailment (posting about healthcare in celebricow)

it's obviously the same person kek, think i've noticed them on other threads too in /snow/
guarantee they'll come in here and sperg about this post

No. 286727

>>286597
If you failed despite studying, maybe consider trying a different way of studying? Maybe the way you studied beforr was just inefficient, you know? Everyone learns differently. You might learn more by taking notes or drawing mindmaps or teaching the thing to someone else… Find your own way!
You can do it!

No. 286749

>>286397
>>286420
i came back expecting to be dragged but i didn't expect anyone else to be in the same position as i am. we'll be alright, shit's just weird.

>>286408
everyone i know besides maybe 2 people know their multiplication tables! i was told it's a basic thing that everyone learns. i even tried flashcards and those weird learning songs and it just never stuck.

i'm pretty bumblefuck stupid when it comes to math in general, though.

No. 286777

This is stupid. I grew up as an art-kid and intended for years to go to art school and draw comics or animate for a living. My life plan was either that or, later in high school, to kill myself because I was filled with self hatred at the time. Regardless, I drew and practiced for hours a day and was very invested in it. The mix of insecurity and angst I was going through often led me to cry over not being a good enough artist at times, while simultaneously holding art up as "the only thing that makes me happy." It was very dramatic. I was very dramatic.

When I became an adult I decided to take a different path and am now going to school for something unrelated to art. I'm also finally at peace with myself and content with the new goal I've picked (basically to build a stable family and provide for a nice guy). I've also picked up other pastimes like fitness and plant/animal care, so I don't rely on drawing to make me happy.

But lately I feel insecure when I see artists my age going on to work their professional jobs and pumping out (as expected) very high level work. For some reason my mind is still in the mode where I have to keep up with these people even if that's not my field. There's no reason for this since I'm only ever going to draw as a hobby and don't plan on making money any time soon. I know it's as ridiculous as some ex high school football player feeling insecure about not being as good as the guys playing in the super bowl lmao.

The cure could be to improve, but focusing my time on that would take away from my ultimate goals and not benefit me at all. My art skills are functional enough to depict things to entertain me, but far from pro level which bothers me for no reason.

No. 286796

It's not a huge deal, but I noticed a lot of farmers really don't like it when anons talk shit and pass judgement about certain bodily appearances, yet they're okay picking apart others.

Makes me think they don't like hearing shit talked about features they are or relate to.

No. 286833

I'm a fucking idiot. You know that feeling where you're super rushed and you're trying to keep the dog from jumping on the pizza guy so you're only barely paying attention? Well, I do, and I think I'm gonna be charged a 500$ tip because I couldn't get the pen to work to put in the period for a 5.00$ tip. So much was going on at that moment, between the dog trying to get out and the kid screaming in the background that I just kind of blanked and let him grab the reciept back before I could make it look less like 500$. I really hope that pizza guy wasn't as scummy as he looked because I don't want him to get fired for taking advantage of my stupidness. But I'm watching my already low af bank account to make sure I don't get fucked. If it ends up happening, I'll have to call my bank & the pizza place and cause trouble and I really don't have the balls. Fingers crossed that I'm overreacting and didn't fuck myself.

No. 286894

I work at a male-dominated place. There's probably 30 or so men and 3 (including myself) women. One of the guys sent out a reminder email for the upcoming company bbq and intro'd the email with a casual "Hey guys".


I am not shitting you, the other two women got on to him for using 'guys' as a pronoun and made him send a follow-up apology email for his 'non-inclusive' pronoun choice. Being a millennial myself, this seems like something my generation would take offence to. But no, these were women in their 40s.


(I did do a reply-all and said that 'guys' is generally accepted as a catch-all and that I was on board with it, use it myself, and felt no offense towards his message, and it ended with jokes about sensitivity training… including some coming from the board of directors… Which may or may not be a good thing if I ever get offended by anything. But they've all been really good about checking in on me and if the guys are treating me right, so I think I'm in okay shape. The guy who sent the original email messaged me privately and said that he appreciated me replying with my view and what I said was basically what he had told them)


Are people really this sensitive these days? Like, I would fully expect this from some Gen Z or younger millennial… not mothers with kids.

No. 286912

>>286372

>starting tomorrow

anon, from being in the same situation as you I know saying "i'll just start tomorrow" makes me keep putting it off. are you on your computer right now? google info on getting your GED. go on youtube and look at multiplication table videos, or justn watch something with educational value (there are lots of funny and interesting videos on history for example). There are a lot of ways to learn, like listening to podcasts while you're browsing lolcow even. look in the podcast thread or just open the app on your phone! maybe you could get a small job? if you like dogs/have experience with them you could do dog walking or pet sitting. it will really help you to have something - anything - to do! don't be afraid to ask people for help with finding direction, if you can afford therapy that would help i'm sure, they can definitely help you with a gameplan. plus they can hold you accountable!

No. 286917

>>286894
Actually us younger millennials are typically the ones to use guys as unisex the most I was actually just thinking about this. So when I was little I'd always say "hey guys" and the older mellennials who we actually didn't even call mellennials at the time (as far as I remember, especially since most of them would preach about how they weren't) would be like "but we're girls" and thus the era of "dudette" and stuff like that was born but then people were like okay that's stupid and most people I know especially in our age group don't think of guys as meaning actual men when used in that context. Those women at your job were just being self righteous. Some people just have nothing going on in their lives so they need a reason to be pissed at someone and to have a purpose.

No. 286918

>>286917
It was so bizarre that I was caught off guard. I think I've normalized 'guys' being a uisex term, as well, because there's not really a term to incompass the same sort of familiarity/casualness of saying 'guys'. I guess 'everybody' or 'everyone' would work? But, despite being informal, it still feels more formal than 'guys'.

(There's also "y'all", which is what the other women suggested, since we're in the South. However, I am not fond of it personally and basically disregard that as an option.)

No. 286922

>>286918

haha I was about to say I'm glad I live in the south and don't have to deal with that because we say "y'all" almost exclusively! but imo "guys" is inclusive. same with "dude."

No. 286923

>>286833
Can you call the pizza place and have them look over your receipt? I understand why you’re freaking out but I don’t think it’s the end of the world. I’m sure plenty of people have made similar mistakes before.

No. 286925

>>286833
Pizza gal here
We have limits on how much a tip people can give us (usually cant go past 3 digits), if we aren't sure if its that much or not they just put 5 dollars in, they'd also call you if you left that big of a tip without reason to make sure

No. 286926

>>286894
I don't really get it. I'm in my twenties think guys is gender neutral. However some younger people who were mostly 19-20 that I worked with this summer all thought saying "hey guys" is sexist.

No. 286927

>>286833
if they do charge you, you can just dispute it with your bank

No. 286929

>>286926
I think it's just them trying to be "woke" , people are using social justice movements as trends and in response it's harming social justice movements and their validity. I bet you that they also said "guys" 5 minutes ago but read some post on the internet that said it wasnt feminist and ran with it ever since. People are calling Ariana's song bragging about being so good in bed that a man will call her god feminist so pretty much any topic is game in order to appear "woke". It's turned into a social status almost.

No. 286986

I didn't sleep well and had to get up early today only to realize I'm out of coffee. Found some Turkish black tea in the back of my kitchen cabinet and made that instead. Good enough, I think.
Then while getting dressed I knock over the mug because I'm a tired idiot and spilled it all over my bed and now my matress is soaked in sugary tea and milk. fml

No. 287023

Time to let go of the idea of him and me being a thing. Why does this hurt so bad, I want to die

No. 287059

I've recently moved abroad for my Master's. I don't have any friends here yet (because my school hasn't started yet), so I was really happy to hear that one of my acquaintances from my undergrad studies had moved to the same city. Last weekend I went out with her and some of her friends. One of those friends I got along with really well - dude wants to work in the same industry as I do and we have a ton of things in common. He's really cool but I literally have zero interest in dating him, and wrongfully assumed the same to be true for him.
Him and I agreed to hang out again last night and the entire evening he kept telling me how attractive he thinks I am, how I'm such a flirt (I honestly don't know where that one came from because I tried my hardest to act as unflirty as possible) and that he'd love to see me again. I tried to make it very clear that for me this is not a date, but he just didn't get it I guess?
After we parted ways yesterday night he's been blowing up my phone with messages and ~totally unintentional~ video calls (which I've been ignoring). A couple of minutes ago he sent me a message asking me if I'm ghosting him.

Why is it not fucking possible to just be friends with a guy? The exact same thing has happened to me so many times before. I'm just being nice because I'm genuinely enjoying someone's company and think they're cool, but for some reason guys take that as romantic interest?! How can I make it clear from the beginning that I'm not interested in dating without making things awkward?
I honestly thought I'd finally met someone cool but no.

No. 287244

I've been thinking a lot of my traumatic middle school experiences

>be me 7th grade in PE class

>frequently got bullied bc socially awkward kid
>some of the popular girls were fighting about a tube of lipgloss
>i had like 3 'friends'
>two of them were also outcasts & the other one always tried to fit in with the popular girls (let's name her L)
>we would only hang out in school so we wouldn't have to sit alone
>back then the 'I'm not like the other girls' mentality was super IN
>so L sits w me & says 'look at those weird bimbos fighting over lipgloss'
>I agree bc I'm desperate for friends
>she runs over to the other girls
>they talk & look at me
>I have a bad feeling about this
>At lunch break we sit at a random table
>Suddenly half the school shows up
>a lot of the older boys scream at me
>'lol let's teach her a lesson' 'you better think twice before you insult them like that'
>they are standing infront of me
>they mock me while i begin to cry
>'look at her she is already in 7th class & crying like a baby'
>my friends & L are sitting at the table & pretend as if i'm not there
>I feel sick
>Later in class
>English teacher calls me out in class
>'Those girls are saying that you insulted them'
>try to explain the situation
>she demands that I apologize to them
>I have to do it

This shit and a lot of other incidents are still haunting me to this day.
I often was the target of bullying & everytime I tried to talk to a teacher they never did anything.

No. 287281

>>287244
I feel the same exact way. Whenever I stood up for myself the vice principal would punish me/attempt to but I would stand my ground and threaten for my mother to come in or imply I'd run to local news channels about it. My mom worked as a teacher and she said other teachers would do this so that they didn't have to deal with the bad kids because they would fight back.
Fuck what anyone says actually being bullied (everyone keeps saying everybody has been bullied just cause they got called ugly one time in 5th grade) messes you up for the rest of your life and it takes a lot of work not to think about the cruelty you faced. A so called friend turned her back on me God knows how many times and now I still question all my friendships. Don't worry Anon this has happened to a lot of people and a lot of people including me still get flashbacks to stuff like this. I always remind myself of the fact that most of the kids I graduated with are actually in jail (one is cause he groomed a minor so why would anyone want a good relationship with a POS like that) , about to be in jail, dropped out from having kids in high school and still live in the same hood,or look a friggin mess. I went back to my old town and one of my middle school bullies was still working at a super market bagging and looking at me in fear (nothing wrong with working in a super market but you get what I mean)
I know this is a long post sorry but Anon always remember what my mom told me , certain people not liking you is a good sign that you are doing something right.

No. 287286

>>287244

Sorry that happened to you, anon. Teachers doing nothing is par for the course, gotta love that "just ignore them!" platitude when you're being hit, thrown into mud, or sexually harassed. They can't be bothered because there's no convenient one-size-fits-all solution to bullying. That said, with time I've largely healed from my bad experiences, you might too.

>>287281

So the "bully ends up flipping burgers forever" shit does happen? That's interesting, most of mine are doing pretty well for themselves. Sorry you had to deal with that, too.

No. 287297

(I dont want to start a gender war, i'm just venting)

I'm so sick of (mostly girls) who are they/them.

I've been trying to up my instagram followers which means i've been following a lot of other people with mutual interests (cosplay) and about 90% of cosplayers these days seems to be fakebois or transtrenders. I don't really care about trans people as a whole but when it's girls who dress and act like girls then label themselves as "he/him" and "they/them" just pisses me off.

It makes me wonder if i'm the weird one because I'm one of the rare people who don't put my pronouns on my profile because i'm clearly a fucking woman.
The cosplay comm is a fucking mess these days, even more so than usual.

No. 287325

maybe it's because I'm not a native speaker, but idg the obsession with the pronouns people have. They are used when people speak about you, not to you. like most of the time you wont be hearing it anyway why do you get so agitated

No. 287328

I am still pissed that my ex physically restrained me and prevented me from leaving his apartment all because I wanted to go sketch animals at the museum with friends rather than hang out with his boring ass watching him play video games. I know there are probably entitled men out there too who also justify his use force by saying, “UGH YOU SHOULDN’T ALLOW A WOMAN TO HAVE FRIENDS BECAUSE SHE MIGHT CHEAT ON YOU” but he has cheated on me countless times, verbally abused me, and now this is the second time he has physically restrained me over a stupid disagreement which I refused to budge from. Considering the amount of abuse that happened within the relationship and how I just became more like a mom than a romantic partner in the end, cleaning up after him while he sat on his ass playing games, I would say I had zero obligation to have to spend my free time with with him over my friends who are normal, nice people.

No. 287331

>>287328
DUMP HIM. GOOD GOD WOMAN.
That is all so ridiculously far from healthy. Get away if you can, please!

No. 287385

>>287325
cause they're nuts. this is true in basically all languages other than ones with heavy honourifics, like japanese. the pronouns shit is dumb and selfish because pronouns are meant for others to identify you to other people. they're not a second name.

No. 287399

I've recently become close to one of my guy friends and it went from chill to BPD nightmare really fucking quick. It hasn't even been two weeks since he's begun seriously confiding in me and already I've cried twice over how he treats me and have had several friends voice their concerns over our friendship becoming toxic. He goes back and forth between extreme affection/emotional attachment and treating me like a piece of garbage that he doesn't care about.

Three of them think he has BPD and they're all people who have heavy experience dealing with people who actually have the diagnosis. I looked it up and he exhibits almost every single trait. I don't know what to do. Cutting him out isn't an option even if I wanted too.

No. 287401

>>287328
Please leave him, anon. That is extremely disturbing.

No. 287404

>>287328
>>287328
>>287331
>my ex
Pretty sure anon already dumped him. If not, I definitely agree, dump that trash and get away.

No. 287450

>>287331
>>287401
can you idiots learn to read? she said ex.

No. 287475

>>287450
Damn esl shitting up the threads.

No. 287481

>>287475
if they were ESL how tf did they even gather what she meant by ex? she could have meant dad or brother, she never said bf.

No. 287503

>>287399
I have a lot of experience with what you're dealing with, having had close relationships with three different, extremely BPD people… I'm like a magnet.

Why can't you cut him out? If it's already gone sour this fast, then going no-contact seems like your best option. Navigating this sort of situation is certainly difficult when mutual friends are involved, but consider whether or not you're willing to sacrifice your own well-being simply to avoid some (inevitably) awkward situations within the group. If your other friends are already concerned about this dynamic, then I imagine they'll have your back if you decide to take a step back.

I'm still friends with 2 of the aforementioned people with BPD, but only because I was able to establish very clear boundaries with them (lest the respective relationships spiral out of control as they have in the past). For instance, if he's treating you poorly, stand your ground and explain to him that you'll be taking a break from communicating with him because you've been hurt by his actions. Designate an amount of time for this break, stick to it, and ignore his cries for attention. Resume speaking to him only at the designated time. Rinse and repeat if he continues to act out. He needs to understand that there are consequences to bad behavior, and that you won't tolerate being mistreated. Be CLEAR about what you are and aren't alright with in terms of expectations for this friendship - if him confiding in you about serious topics makes you uncomfortable, then let him know that although you are friends, he cannot approach you with certain topics. If he persists, remain firm and reiterate the boundaries you've established. Direct him to other friends, family, or resources when his attention becomes overwhelming. Be kind, but do not yield to threats or manipulation.

These solutions may sound harsh, and I have nothing against people with BPD, but I encourage you to take a stand for yourself now as opposed to later when the stakes will be much, much higher. At this rate, it will only get worse as time passes. Hope things get better for you.

No. 287506

>>287481
Because if you read the post down to the bottom, there are clues about what type of relationship it was
>"Considering the amount of abuse that happened within the relationship and how I just became more like a mom than a romantic partner"
It sounds like a romantic relationship throughout the post. Not about her brother or father, which I don't think people would refer to as 'exs' anyway.

No. 287508

>>287506
>don't refer to exs anyway

no shit, the anon was pointing out that ESLs don't know what ex means.

No. 287515

I really, really love junk food & sugary stuff. The thing is that when I eat any of those foods I'll have to deal with diarrhea, excessive bloating, flatulence & stomach pain. I once drank a cup of tea that contained stevia & I couldn't leave the bathroom for a whole day. It's just a shitty situation (literally). I'm currently testing which foods I can eat without being becoming a walking stink bomb for the rest of the day & am figuering out a diet plan. It sucks that I'm not going to be able to eat ice cream or a burger when I'm with friends but hey - I'd rather die than bleed out of my ass again.

No. 287526

>>287481
>>287508
Thanks to globalism, English is not the only language where 'ex' is used to refer to a past boy / girl friend.
It is also not a very obscure term in the English language itself, the person's English should be absolutely terrible before you assume they do not know the meaning of 'ex' in this context.

No. 287533

>>287475
I'm not ESL I'm just a fucking idiot and wasn't playing enough attention to read the first line.
I agree that no ESL person would have misinterpreted that if they put the effort in lmao.

No. 287548

>>287533
And I just made a typo. I must have lost the ability to read.

Here's a vent about my sudden illiteracy.

No. 287568

Why are there suddenly so many posts shitting on ESL? That's pretty pathetic…

No. 287578

>>287503
>Why can't you cut him out?
He's part of my primary social circle and we all hang out as a group the majority of the time and go to events and shit together. If I cut him out, I couldn't hang out with the group nearly as much. Even though they have my back, they still see him as a victim and how he treats me as a symptom of his depression and anger issues. They're basically like "poor -blank- must be having such a hard time if he's acting this way!"

I'm definitely gonna take your advice about setting boundaries, although the one time I did he got incredibly passive aggressive in his agreement to follow them. I decided that I'm just gonna avoid him outside of the group, at least for a month or two. When we're around other people, he's less emotional. Although, still pretty bitchy.

No. 287608

i like a girl so much i wanna give her the fuck of her life but i haven't had lesbian sex in years and i'm clumsy with physical contact. I'm frustrated and horny, i don't even know if she likes me but boi i would succ

No. 287613

>>287331
>>287401
Yeah, as others have already pointed out, I have left him after that incident. It was basically the last straw. I just felt the need to vent about how that incident still makes me kind of seethe since this all happened very recently. Thanks to all who read.

No. 287616

>>287608
Just go for it, anon. Or at least try to be her friend. Even if you get rejected, it gives you some closure than never pursuing it at all.

No. 287643

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I work at a thrift store for nearly 2 years now. My favorite Boss has left due to illness. And now my regional manager is coming by every week to check up on us. We're suppose to do a certain amount of work in 6 hours but now they're trying to double the workload and pay the same amount. i'm getting stressed and gained weight. It's so frustrating. i am currently looking for another job that pays the same or more so i can still afford my mortgage.

No. 287683

I like smoking weed but the social interaction I have to do in order to buy some makes me back off from buying it. I haven't smoked in one month and I have some money right now and I do know a dealer from my ex but I'm sort of avoiding contacting him because I feel he rips me off with the grammage. It seems really easy for those my age to find weed dealers but I have no idea how to. I'll go to college soon and live at the college dorm maybe I'll find someone there.

No. 287688

>>287568
Common Amerifat ideology to mock those that speak more than one language and to make fun of those that don't have ~perfect~ English skills. As if the literacy rate of English in America is 100% LMAO.

No. 287692

>>287688
Looks like the triggered eurofag from the disney thread is back. Do you ever shut the fuck up?

No. 287696

I’m so tired, of this abusive household. I’m this close to stabbing him, I don’t know anymore. My ears can’t take it anymore, and It’s affecting me. Everyone here who are victims of the abuse are absolutely dead inside. I’M dead inside. I want to be free, and I have no other choice other than silencing it.

No. 287697

>>287696
you must be dead inside to post about this on lolcow. why can't you leave?

No. 287715

I can’t cum during sex and I have no idea how to fix it.

My first boyfriend was sexually abusive and made me do things I didn’t really want to do. He also only cares about his own pleasure and not mine. Fucked me up for a while but I think I’m mostly over it because it’s been several years since. Had quite a few hookups in the last year or so. Been
kinda seeing another guy. I would say that he’s more considerate than most, considering that he likes going down on me and asks me what I want to do. But that’s just it. I literally have no idea. I’m starting to realize that I’m the biggest starfish in bed. It’s acceptable when you’re first starting to have sex but I haven’t been a virgin for several years. Before hooking up with this guy, the only times I’ve had sex was with my abusive ex or drunken hookups.

I don’t reallly even know how to masturbate either. I still lay on my stomach, fondle my breasts, and grind my hips till I cum. It doesn’t really feel good when I or another guy fondles my clit. I get wet but it’s not that pleasurable. It feel good when I play with my tits but when a guy does it, I get overstimulated.

TL;DR: Hilariously bad at sex and masturbation and don’t really know what to do about it.

No. 287720

>>287715
then grind your clit on something to cum during sex???

No. 287728

>>287715
most girls don't cum during sex….

No. 287812

>>287728

Sucks to be you

No. 287814

>>287812
it's a statistical fact anon. only 20-30% of women orgasm from penetration alone. doesn't mean their sex life is any better or worse.

most of my active sex life I never came during sex until recently but my current bf has a super curved dick that just hits the right spot. that said, I wouldn't say it's any better or worse than other partners. it's just more convenient. but I prefer getting head tbh

anyway, point is, there's nothing wrong with you if you don't come from penetration, it's an extremely common occurrence. figure out how to please yourself before going into intercourse with crazy expectations.

No. 287816

I feel like I keep making the wrong choices in life and there's no one to help guide me and I'm not smart or strong enough to guide myself.
I wish I had a family or friends.
I'm so fucking old now and should have my shit together but I don't think I ever will, I feel so pathetic and like such a loser.
I wish suicide wasn't so hard.

No. 287819

>>287715

try yoga. some sex therapist was recommending it for people who cant connect with their bodies, which often happens after trauma.

No. 287831

>>287692
Nope, they're still salty and racist lmao

No. 287855

>>287692
>>287831
>assuming each poster that does not agree with you is the same poster

There were several eurofags arguing there. Seems like you are the triggered one cause you can't forget about that one poster and see her everywhere lmfao
Also not sure where the quoted anon was racist, more like xenophobic since Americans are a nation and not a race.

No. 287857

>>287855
There was only one that autistic. You'd have to be a retard to not be able to recognize that posting style. It is safe to say racism at this stage since their biggest issues with Americans seemed to stem from them being mutts. All their posts reeked of an ~aryan~ superiority complex.

No. 287858

>>287857
No the amerifat convinced she really is a pure europoor sounded liked she had a weird aryan superiority complex.

>I don't even live in germany but I'm german by blood!!! That's what being german is, it's having pure 100% germanic DNA. Hitler did nothing wrong!!!
(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 287859

>>287858
Mmm, you sound like that autist I was just talking about. Are you ever going to learn how to sage?

No. 287866

>>287859
>Everybody I disagree with is the same person!!!

No. 287875

>>287866
Like I said, it's the typing style. Drop your shitty strawman.

No. 287885

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Instead of looking forward to my last day of work before vacation, I'm dreading and hunkering down in my tiny bedroom. All because property management has been randomly sending in contractors and vendors to fix huge damages to my main rooms that upstairs tenants caused.
No, they don't notify me of who's going to be in my apartment. They might just send me a short email the morning and explain in generalities what will be happening.
Obviously my privacy means fuck all even though none of this happened due to my fault.

I was told I was free to get a hotel for myself, but I would have to front the costs and file through insurance if I wanted reimbursement. Which yeah nahhhhhh, because I'm going on vacation and not taking from my vacation fund for this horseshit.

I fucking hate it. It's loud and I can't relax, I feel confined to my bedroom by default. Some fucker actually went into my bathroom and was talking shit about the state of it in spanish. Gosh, maybe the reason why I didn't fucking Martha Stewart my bathroom is because my home looks like dynamite went off in it and STRANGE RANDOM MEN aren't supposed to be going into my bathroom in the first place!
What's really disturbing is that none of my doors lock.

I'm glad I'm going away. Imagine if this is what I'd have to deal with during my weeks off that I waited all year for! Fucking hacks talking shit about an apartment I can't realistically clean while they confine me to a single room for weeks on end. I hate them.

No. 287927

Why is every single dude on tinder either ugly af or an obvious catfish?

it's in part due to the fact that you can't get all of the non verbal part of communication via a screen, but still…

No. 287929

>>287927
Because genuine people probably aren't using Tinder.

No. 287936

>>287927
because only ugly and objectively below average guys in the 18-25 age range use shit like tinder. average and good looking guys have no shortage of women irl.

No. 287937

>>287927
tinder is worthless. dating apps in general are pretty worthless. just my opinion tho

No. 287940

>>287814
>penetration alone
why cant you retards rub your clit during sex?

No. 287945

>>287940
Not everyone has a clit massive enough to rub it during intercourse and get enough pleasure to cum from it.

No. 287948

>>287945
huh? having a big clit makes it less sensitive

No. 287950

>>287948
Yeah and easier to rub like a retard while being fucked.

No. 287951

>>287927
There certainly is a lot of vanity and shitheads on Tinder but I somehow managed to find a cute guy who's my boyfriend of 2.5 years. I didn't even take dating, especially online on apps like that, seriously at all so maybe that could work for you too anon.

No. 287952

>>287950
can you just admit women like you are sexually repressed so you don't hand out sex advice?
>omg i cant cum during penetration
>doesnt cum at all
>this is normal

if you can't rub your clit while a dick is in your vag, you have anatomy issues.

No. 287957

>>287952
Sexually repressed? Because rubbing my clit during PIV doesn't make me cum? You sure sound very enlightened on the subject.

No. 287962

>>287940
Why can't you accept that some girls prefer their man eating them out or fingering them to get them off instead of touching themselves while getting fucked? Like sorry your man won't go down on you but how other women orgasm affects you not at all.

No. 287983

>>287962
It honestly sounds like a man who's annoyed at the prospect of women actually wanting men to take their pleasure into account.

No. 287988

>agree to an open relationship with stupidly horny boyfriend of 4 years
>he pities me because i can't find any other sexual partners and tries to hook me up with a childhood friend of his
>i pussy out from sexual abuse trauma and ghost her
>boyfriend has sex with another girl for the first time ever
>i lose my shit and break up with him because i feel betrayed

imagine a world where i don't let my trauma make me lash out at everyone for no reason

i know we agreed and everything but i really wish he told me before and not after so i could at least say i knew it was gonna happen

i feel dirty. i feel like i did after i was touched. i need to shower and cut my hair off again

No. 287992

>>287988

sent that too early sorry for doubleposting

it took me 6 months to kiss him and i wasn't even the one who initiated… we met by trauma bonding (he helped me leave my abuser and i looked out for him while he lived with his abusers)

and it sounds unhealthy but we were actually totally fine for 4 years. we understood each other really well and he was always really slow and understanding with me.

i feel like he's mentally checked out of our relationship now and i know that he's really only experimenting because he's only ever had sex with me but i can't help it

i feel backstabbed

i forgot about being open because i never utilized it

i just wish he gave me a warning instead of bringing it up later when it was too late

fuck

No. 287997

>>287988
You didn't lose your shit because of trauma, it's because noone in their right mind would want an open relationship, unless they didn't give a fuck about their partner. The fact that he even wanted it is grounds for breaking up, letalone acting on it.

No. 287999

>>287988
Condolences anon. At least the breakup is done with already. You deserve much better.

No. 288000

>>287997

someone else told me the same thing and im starting to realize how true it is. im at a pretty severe disadvantage being young (18) and terribly mentally ill. i feel like i was taken advantage of.

again

No. 288001

>>287999

thank you. i dont know how im gonna handle this but i know i will be ok

No. 288009

>>287992

update everybody… he admitted it happened on tuesday but he felt guilty about not telling me beforehand.
he has admitted to cheating on me. i would love for today to be over now. im so sorry for posting so much. i dont trust anyone with this situation because i feel embarrassed.

No. 288132

my skin keeps getting really itchy and feel weirdy cos I keep bathing in very hot water and I have moisturiser but I just can't use it because reasons. Reasons that sound stupid to normal people so I won't even say it but damn. Life is pain Ugh. Pain.

No. 288169

Dropped a bucket of yogurt on the floor and it exploded almost half a kilo of yogurt all over my living room and kitchen, it already smelled bad while I was scooping the shit off everything within 2 meter radius. I’m taking this as a sign to not do anything today.

No. 288201

It’s my first day of uni today.

I was overseas for a while and flew back home yesterday. They served some fucked up meat on the plane and now I have explosive diarrhea. I’m sitting on the train now and can physically feel my whole asshole burning.
I’m so fucked aren’t I? I’m gonna shit myself in front of everyone.

No. 288228

>>288201
I cannot imagine the pure horror of having diarrhoea on a plane.

Good luck, don't shit yourself.

No. 288267

>>288201
i’m so sorry anon. best of luck.

could you tell us how it went after you get back?

No. 288279

>>288201
Get some Imodium D if you can

No. 288283

I farted in front of an entire poke restaurant the other day, the tune was so high it sounded like a skeeter buzzing, or a chair sliding.
I played it off like the sound didn't come from my butt, and I definitely didn't react to it. Nobody looked up, to my awareness.

Lmao I really hope no one heard that. The fart from across the world!

No. 288322

Why are people trying so hard to make faggot have the same weight as the n word now? You literally cannot pick a gay person from a crowd compared to picking out somebody with dark skin.

No. 288348

>>288322
Because it’s still harmful? The world doesn’t revolve around black peoples oppression

No. 288352

>>288322
There are people affected by both slurs who recognize them both as derogatory and used by violent, hateful people. I don't know why you're being so divisive. Also, a gay couple walking in public and holding hands can easily be picked in a crowd.
Homophobia is particularly awful in the black community, too.

No. 288359

>>288322
Really? Try being more considerate. It's always been as equally derogatory as the n word. >>288348 put it very nicely. Why wouldn't you be able to pick out something equally can't control as having dark skin? There's a reason why there's laws against ALL types of discrimination in the work place, you know. This includes "little" shit like age and even eye color.

No. 288383

>>288352
I'm not trying to be divisive, honestly. Take away the partner and you wouldn't be able to know the one person is gay.
Across all these boards we add use terms like newfag and other words ending in fag. It's way more lax than the n-word, also since majority of people censor one and not the other.
Faggot is still derogatory, but it's easier to cover up your homosexuality than your skin color.

No. 288384

>>288322
I agree that “faggot” doesn’t have the same historical connotations as “nigger” (Could be wrong, but I don’t think people were ever enslaved solely for being gay unlike being black) but at the end of the day, I think going down that path leads to the oppression olympics that ultimately goes nowhere. Why can’t we just agree that both are hurtful words?

No. 288385

>>288384
Have you heard of consentration camps?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persecution_of_homosexuals_in_Nazi_Germany_and_the_Holocaust

Anyway, Gay people have been tormented and experimented on many times..
My point is, its just a word. Its not that deep.

No. 288388

I miss my ex even though our relationship was dysfunctional and painful. I am in my late 20s and had social anxiety for most of my life so I have struggled a lot of feelings of loneliness throughout my life. I do have friends and they are decent people but I do not feel a close connection with any of them. I felt like my ex was the only person to have really understood me, shared my views and values, and also cared about me. I wish I had someone like that in my life again. I cannot go back to him because I know my trust in him can never be restored. I wish he could have been a better partner for me.

No. 288394

>>288385
Yes, I am aware of them. Admittedly, I was also drawing a blank, which is why I said I could be wrong.

True, it’s just a word. But both are words with history. A not so great history. I don’t know why we need to compare which word is worst. Let’s just all agree that both words are slurs.

No. 288398

>>288394
I'm not personally bothered by the n-word, or faggot/dyke/etc. IMO, if someone is using it as an insult, it just shows that they're unhinged enough to fixate on my race (or choice in partner) above all else, and that's 100% their problem, not mine. In my experience, there's literally nothing wrong with being black or not straight except dealing with said people, so why should I be bothered? It's like being personally affected because some special ed kid spits at you, shits his pants and throws a fit whenever he sees you for no reason.
It's obviously different when it's someone with actual power over your life, like a boss or teacher, but yeah.

No. 288425

I’ve been messaging a guy I met through tinder for a few days, and everything has been fine, but yesterday I just started to feel uninterested? And today I messaged him that I didn’t want it to go anywhere but I don’t know why I did? Like I haven’t seen him in person so I can’t say I’m not physically attracted to him, and he hasn’t said anything wrong, I just couldn’t stop myself from trying to make sure nothing happens?
I guess this is just self manipulation? God I don’t know why I did it. Thankfully he took it well and I was able to tell him it was just because I was stressed and don’t have time to respond a lot (which is true, but I could have just said that in the first place)
Idk I’m just very confused about why I can let myself have nice things

No. 288426

>>288388

I really, really know how you feel. I've been there before. I hope you know you're stronger than your anxiety. He would have only caused you more pain if the relationship continued. Although it's cliche, time really does heal all wounds. I've found that picking uo new hobbies helped with my anxiety because I had something else to focus on. Perhaps you could try to learn a language? Maybe pick up art? Anything that you find relaxing is good.
I'm wishing you the best.

No. 288443

>>288388
I miss my ex top but he is a sweet boy and the relationship was good.

No. 288445

>>288426
Thanks anon. I needed to be reminded that I am not alone in these sorts of feelings and that that it will just take time (and also effort) to overcome.
>>288443
Wish I could say the same about mine. My relationship ended on a terrible note. Maybe I will end up missing him less as time goes on though and I start thinking less about any of the good times.

No. 288463

>>288398
I get that and it makes sense but you gotta remember that not everyone is going to feel the same way. Just have your opinion and let them have theirs.

No. 288488

Any anon with inpulse control problems regarding using or eating other people's, roommates and such, stuff in secret?
The only similar thing, with a name, that I find is klepto but I don't think it's quite that.

My family growing up was very extreme on this kind of thing, my dad locked up and name tagged all of his stuff, and my mom would use my clothes and bed without asking, so I find it kind of hard to deal with boundaries in common areas.

And just today I think I really fucked up, being that I just moved in with new flat mates. For some reason I decided to use a girl's razor that was in the bathroom but broke it while cleaning it afterwards. I went to five places to see if they had the same brand and color in order to replace it but found it nowhere, only at a small online store. Thing is, they don't deliver in the weekend or within the same day so I used superglue to fix it up and now there's a 50% chance she'll pick the one razor I fucked up and discover my did.

I don't know why I fuck myself over so much and I'm super scared to go back now in case she's waiting and angry with me.

No. 288506

>>285726
ntayrt that's how I felt when I went on 4chan after years of not going. There's spergs here too but the cattiness is more tolerable because it's not coming from insecure misogyny.
>tfw got used to lolcow's all girls zone that I can't stand other imageboards anymore

No. 288510

>>288506
iktf anon. I'm grateful the mods keep this place afloat.

No. 288547

>>288488
Using her razor is weird, but breaking it isn't. Just tell her you knocked it off the shelf accidentally or took it out to clean or something if it was in a cupboard, it's not a big deal if you offer to buy a new one.

No. 288551

>>288488
Depends how close you are with the roomie but I'd say just tell her you dropped it accidentally, not necessarily that you were using it. You could say you think it "might have broke" since your repair probably screwed it up.

You could just say you were curious about it because it looked nice and you're thinking of getting one for yourself. This might be a good segue way into asking where she got it and offering to buy her a replacement.

Really doubt she'll care if you frame it as a simple accident and offer to replace.

Also yeah I used to have klepto (really minor shit) tendencies myself. I stopped though after being caught, it's super fucking embarrassing lol. Just try to resist!

No. 288566

>>288488
honestly, i'd be really grossed out if someone used my razor. I would tell her you dropped it and broke up and just give her money for a new one. You can get something serious from sharing razors because of tiny cuts and blood, so please dont do it again for her safety and yours…


I'm sorry to hear your family grew up with such weird boundaries, but i was taught to always ask before using someone's stuff or else it's stealing.

No. 288570

>>288551
>Also yeah I used to have klepto (really minor shit) tendencies myself. I stopped though after being caught, it's super fucking embarrassing lol. Just try to resist

I think it would be fun to have a thread about these kind of stories. I got caught once too, when I was like 14.

No. 288604

I'm looking through the deep web thread, and it's wild to me that some people would actually try to argue that snuff films don't exist.
How silly can you be? Of course they do. Of all the depraved shit people do, why would they draw the line at making money off filming their acts? It's really, really not hard to blur a face and distribute things quietly. Any video of a killing where you don't know the full circumstances or the original source is a possible snuff film, especially if it's a woman.

No. 288606

>>288604
people are so dualistic that when you have a concept like that, people either believe a really cartoonish OTT version of it or they insist it doesn't exist at all. it's wild.

No. 288614

>>288604
I think the people who believe there are special sekret underground theaters where they show snuff films to the elite are wrong but I'm sure they are distributed around the web.

No. 288624

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FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCk
I just popped my fucking head out of my first floor apartment at 4am cause it sounded like my neighbour was being bothered by some dude while she was on her way into the building. Eitherway fucking christ, it felt like my introverted ass was going into cardiac arrest once I realized there wasnt a conflict brewing.
I mean its better than thinking of what could have been if the dude was a 11/10 creep and my neighbour said she felt alittle safer living here yET THAT WONT STOP MY CURRENT SHAKES.

>wake up to a deepvoice slightly slurred talking about how he needs a slap and how he isnt leaving (generally the convo could be misconstrued lowkey) n my neighbour is essentially doing the curt girly "i gotta go" move.

>inb4 I climb on my kitchen countertop to throw my window open and with a stern voice go "Is there a problem????"
>drunk shocc & confusion
>Realising I might have entered the chat wrong, direct myself to the neighbour "You seemed uncomfortable, are you ok?"
>its all fine and im left profusely apologizing cause fucking christ on a cracker.
>She tells me she feels alittle safer for it, dude friend said I could call on him if something like that happens
>looking this drunkass straight in the eye just deadass tell him "I woulda decked someone" cause boy better bet there is no time for a phonecall or I wouldn't feel the need to pop out a window at 4am.
>return to bed with a stomach ache from the current stress juat running through my body atm
>mfw

No. 288625

>>288604
There are absolutely snuff films around the Internet, especially considering gore is easily accessible on the surface web. You can find video of cartel torture and ISIS beheadings so I don't see why snuff would be any different. Harder to gain access to, without a doubt, but still. People are delusional.

No. 288627

I'm really sick of family and friends getting catty over my eating and exercise habits. They act like me eating a salad or doing 30 minutes of exercise is super offensive or something. I never nag them about their habits, never brag about my own, and am just trying to be healthier in the hopes that it will improve my mental health and I won't have to feel so embarrassed when I go to the doctor and get bloods done.
I'm fairly skinny/average weight and everyone acts like that means I shouldn't bother taking care of myself for that reason. I get so many shitty comments about my food/eating habits (I eat small meals but I easily cosume at least 1500 calories a day), my weight etc.
I actually ended up losing a lot of progress while staying with inlaws because their constant comments got to me. I don't understand why they get so defensive and offended, it's like they hate the idea of me being happy and healthy.

No. 288628

Sometimes I do things and forget to tell my girlfriend about it immediately (like watch a movie by myself, for example) and she gets real sad (depressed?) about it. But the thing is, she does the same to me and I don't mind it one bit.

I tried to talk to her about it and she gets sad/depressed about that too. I really love her, but its starting to bum me out a lil.

No. 288646

Accessing decent mental health care in my country is such a clusterfuck. I see a psychiatrist 3-4 times a year through public healthcare but the standard of care (at least in my area) is so, so poor. Every time I go in there I feel like I'm being lectured by the school principal, rather than spoken to like a human being. They won't refer me for therapy or groups because they don't have the resources and they don't offer a counselling service. I don't feel like I'm ever going to make any kind of a recovery if this is the help I'm getting. I can't really afford private care but I'm getting desperate and my issues are getting worse and worse. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucking frustrated.

No. 288657

>>288627
Just see those comments as a good thing and let smugness fuel you, they're jealous and defensive because they are ashamed of their own poor eating habits and lack of exercise. You look good, you're doing the right thing for your health, and it's confronting to them. So just keep it up and let them wallow in their obvious dissatisfaction with themselves.

No. 288660

>>288657
fuck nta but i needed to hear that too. when people do that to me it makes me feel guilty like i'm being "greedy". like why should try to be fit and pretty and well dressed when a lot of people aren't any of those? who do i think i am?

No. 288669

>>288627
They probably don't like being confronted with their own eating habits so seeing someone else do it makes them feel like shit for lacking self control. But instead of critically thinking about why they feel so threatened, and changing their habits, they take it out on you to make you come back to the status quo. Don't listen to them. I know it's hard to stand the petty comments but remember why you're dieting and exercising - for you, not for anyone else. You're not selfish for not wanting to go back to being depressed and unhealthy, in the end you're the only one who will have to deal with the full effects of your health. Why should others decide it?

No. 288690

I'm so mad right now, I'm shaking.

My little sister wanted to sell some of her mlp horses, so we put them on ebay.
Just she gave me the phone because somebody called who's interested. At first he asked whether they were played with a lot. Then he said that my accent es weird, so I told him where I'm from. He then asked whether that area is really right wing. I said I don't know. He then said that the city he's from is.
>back to the dolls, I want to play with them and jerk of in their faces

I'm so mad, I told him they belonged to my little sister beforehand, if she was on the ohone and he told her that…ugh
Can a kid no longer sell its old toys without awakening some sickos?!
I even told her that there are some weird men who also like mlp some time ago, but not that it's a fetish and I'd never thought we'd come across one irl.

No. 288696

>>288690
Why is someone calling when it's on eBay? You can do everything online. Definitely don't do collection only if that is who is interested though, that's bizarre.
Most people buying toys are normal people, that's just nuts

No. 288697

>>288696
Also if you're using your sister's account I recommend making a new account called a man's name, no phone number (where is there even an option to call?!) and the description says you're selling your daughter's toys as she's moving out. Should get rid of any weirdos

No. 288698

>>288697
>the description says you're selling your daughter's toys as she's moving out.
You were on the right track before this.
This would attract pedos.
Just keep it male and people would think you're the average MLP neckbeard, this doesn't encourage any degeneracy.

No. 288721

Went from talking about what songs we wanted at our wedding, saying "I love you" and getting a new job in Melbourne so we can find a house together two days ago, and the yesterday ended with him standing me up on our date, telling me he doesn't want to come home to me anymore, doesn't like me, and can't stand to be around me anymore. Today twisting what happened into me being the bad person who was isolating him from his friends and how it's my fault.

How's your night?

No. 288730

>>288721
Not a lesbian but men fucking suck. I hate being attracted to them.

No. 288731

>>288721
Went through the same shit at the start of the year anon, I'm sorry, just don't make the same as me and take him back, because I had the same convo about how I'm isolating him and how I'm the only one that doesn't see how he changed for the better. We're in a ldr so I can't isolate him lmao

Anyway, I'm pretty sure he's at a pool party with his brother and will lie about it, because he thinks I don't have instagram. Yey

No. 288732

>>288721
He's probably cheating. All men do.

No. 288734

>>288732
>>288731
>>288730

He did this over text. I didn't even get a call. He's acting like this is a noble sacrifice, that in order to stop standing me up and hurting me, he's going to leave me and move on and hopes that I do too.

Fuck me right

No. 288735

>>288721
Sounds like excuses to hide something he did. Maybe the marriage talk made him feel guilty and he wanted out of it before it was too late. Don't look back, the faster you just remove him from your life completely the easier it is to forget

No. 288736

>>288669
>>288657
Thanks you guys, I know logically that I'm not doing anything wrong but it's nice to hear it from other people. I'm a really sensitive and avoidant person so it's hard for me to have that "fuck the haters" mindset. It's pathetic but I really just want someone to be proud of me for improving instead of trying to pull me down.
>>288721
Geez anon, that sucks. I know it won't help much but at least you can be thankful that he showed you his true colors before you got married. If he's not willing to work things and won't talk to you like an adult then he's not worth your time.

No. 288748

I hate my voice so much its so ugly. I just don't think it reflects me either.

No. 288769

>>288721
>>288731
>> Isolating him from his friends
My bf had the same complain wtf. Yet I did nothing.

No. 288804

>>288769
Honestly, in my case (ldr anon) I literally didn't do shit because how? It's not like I held him back physically or something, I literally encouraged him to go out with the few friends he has and I was always really happy and sort of proud when he did.

But what I did notice is that he was really depressed at the time and didn't want to go out, even when I was at his place, so I guess he associated the whole negativity with me?


—-
Also unrelated to ^ but I'm making appointments this month with a derm and a psychiatrist and honest to god I hope something goods comes out of it because I can't really choose who to go to. I just want my skin and brain finally fixed

No. 288919

I'm a cute nerdy chick. Why can't I be one of those girls who has a ton of beta orbiters?

No. 288923

>>288919
don't feel bad about that, usually only green tea bitches have beta orbiters and no one wants to be like that.

No. 288925

I fucking hate being lactose intolerant, today I ate a tiny amount of cheese and now my stomach is upset for hours. My ass is so tired of shitting lol
Why must dairy be so tasty fuuck

No. 288976

>>288384
A faggot was a bundle of sticks that you throw on the fire.
Get it now?

No. 288984

>>288384
>but at the end of the day, I think going down that path leads to the oppression olympics that ultimately goes nowhere. Why can’t we just agree that both are hurtful words?

look, apples and oranges are both fruits. obviously the words have slightly different impacts and connotations since they describe completely different types of people, have a different etymology, reflect different events in history etc,but they're obviously both derogatory terms. faggot has definitely been watered down in more countries than nigger (unless you're a black rapper) but that doesn't mean it isn't still used with vitriol and bigotry sometimes

No. 288989

She looks disgusting. I used to think she was skinny years ago but now seeing her grosses me out. It looks like she's about to break the moment she falls down.
The guy isn't so nice but I couldn't help but share to ease my queasiness.

No. 288992

Are you actually cute and/or nerdy as you say you are? Even girls who don't look for guys or look for attention will end up with beta orbiters if you play online multiplayer games. If you somehow don't have any then just try harder and be an annoying e girl.

No. 288993

>>288919
Buy a wig, random bikini and start your career as a costhot. Neckbeards will flock to you as long as you are not completely hideous. Problem solved

No. 288997

>>288992
even easier mode is to join a male dominant fb meme or comedy group and comment on the posts ocassionally. the orbiters will roll right in but i have no idea why you'd want this fate. orbiters kind of make me hate myself

No. 289102

>tfw missed out on buying a rare, vintage figure of my husbando (in great condition!) because i wasn't sure if it was a wise purchase
feelsbadman

No. 289119

>>288989
Holyshit, has she lost more weight? she looks non existent in that thumbnail.

No. 289120

>>289102
Ugh, i feel ya, anon

No. 289127

>>288997
why do orbiters make you want to hate yourself? anyways i already do this already and i don't get anything

>>288993
seems like a big commitment. i'm not looking for a career or anything.

>>288992
yeah i think i am cute a nerdy. i don't play multiplayer games but i do other things. for example i used to work in a Magic the Gathering store. seems like a place where a ton of guys would hit on you, right? i got nothing lol.

No. 289152

>>289127
You might be cute but not quite cute enough… I think you have to reach a certain threshold to be worth the risk of rejection a guy faces when hitting on you in public, especially if it's a place they frequent often. If you approach them first or seem very easy/approachable the threshold is much lower.

I have no idea why you'd want beta orbiters anyway. They're a fucking nightmare of awkward moments and trying to avoid getting pressured into shit you don't want to do.

No. 289161

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I’ve been staying with my parents while I get situated with my visa and move back abroad, but I swear to god my mother is driving me insane. I cook every night because neither of them can cook worth shit, and when they do its the same bland basic 7 meals day in and day out. Tonight I proposed a new menu of stuff I found on Pinterest that looked interesting and wasn’t even too out there in terms of flavor. But before I could even list the first item my mom had her nose turned up and complained about how “that will probably turn out horrible” and “why do we have to eat like this?” You’d think I was trying to serve them some exotic dish or something when its a basic stuffed chicken breast with a side salad.

And jesus fucking christ, add any sort of extra ingredients for a kick and its “too much” for her. “There was way too much onion in your casserole, I could barely even keep it down” was a comment she made, when not only did I see her going back for seconds, but my dad said he loved it and my sister in law even asked for the recipe and makes it on the regular. I once made stuffed peppers for a family gathering, and she took one bite and ask if I even out any salt or seasonings in them. She took the same stuffed peppers as leftovers for her lunch for work, and when she came home the first thingn she said was “Why did you put so much salt in those peppers? It was way too overwhelming.”

I know I’m not a terrible cook, and I’ve had many people compliment my dishes. Its literally only her that has a problem with anything, and its a huge strain on my self confidence. She does this with any DIY, baking, cooking, knitting…ANY project I do as well. Its always something negative. I’m so fucking tired of it. Bless my dad for genuinely having an interest in all of this. I was genuinely excited about cooking this week and trying out some new stuff but now im wondering if i should just say fuck it all and let them go back to their bland pork chops and casseroles.

No. 289186

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I know this is fucking dumb but I like this guy so fucking much it’s affecting my academic productivity. Like, I wouldn’t have any motivation to do my works unless we talk or hit up. Our relationship is strictly platonic due to certain circumstances and I’m fine with that but FUCK, Its just hard for me to do anything when we don’t talk or if he’s busy. I always rely on him for emotional support (he’s the only one who actually listens and understand, or so I think) and for other fun wholesome bullshit. Whenever I go out with my other friends or when I’m super into what i’m doing, I don’t think of him at all. But when I don’t have anything going on, or whenever I have to do some actual bullshit, I have this NEED to fill that emptiness and irresponsibility with him. I do really like him as a person and I have organized/discussed my feelings for him with myself and I am aware with the whole situation-we-have-thing. But, I just can’t fucking quit him. Shit, maybe my lack of motivation and direction in life and the feelings I have for him are entirely two different problems and I have to fix myself first. But, I don’t know how to fix that one either lmao

No. 289263

>>289161
Anon, she's jealous of you. Simple as that. She doesn't want you to be a better cook / baker / knitter than her because you're younger, hence you don't have that much experience as her and she doesn't want to be eclipsed by you and your things.
I know it pisses you off but try to take it as a compliment: if she complains, you must be doing something really good, specially when you know what you're doing it's perfectly fine, even some people flatter you.

No. 289425

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A reminder to be careful on the internet.

I recently joined a site with a private chat similar to discord.
In the chat there is a channel with a bot that posts some guy's browsing history. Apparently the guy tried making a userscript that embedded things from the site on all other web pages, he made it bad though. It doesn't work and he forgot about it, but his script is still turned on and it keeps trying to embed things.
While doing this, it sends the page it tried embedding things on, through the referral HTTP header automatically added by the browser.

So this site basically receives the guy's browsing history.
They have been posting it since half a year ago apparently.
I find it appalling.
I'd expect them to read it privately to get a giggle out of it every now and then, but not post it publicly.
He could've prevented this by blanking the referral header but it doesn't mean his naivety should be exploited, it's just some beginner programmer who tried making something cool.

I should try monitoring the history to find a way to tell the retard.

No. 289449

>>289161
Are your parents older people? Mine are the same way. I get complimented for my cooking by friends and family a lot, yet when I go to cook for them they're really apprehensive about what I make. They encourage me to cook, yet they also really seem to dislike the things I cook.

I hypothesize their age is starting to make them comfortable in their routines, and so they don't like unfamiliar palettes.
If I were to make their usual meals and then add a few ingredients for taste and jazz, they'd voice a concern about the new ingredients. Wouldn't say shit if they didn't know about the new additions, though.
Also my mom is a cleanliness control freak, so when I lived at home another reason why she didn't like me cooking were the alleged "messes." She's particular about the way things are cleaned.

But that was the conundrum of living at home. I felt like I had to contribute in some way to the domestic work, yet my efforts were always nitpicked to death. Aging boomers are real hard to please.

No. 289532

I don't want to keep going, I want to disappear

No. 289537

>>289532
I wish the best for you anon. Whatever you choose, you had the strength to choose it. Be proud of the strength in your actions.

No. 289564

It's so digustingly humid where I live. Outside of my apartment smells like some sweaty guy just stood in the parking lot for 2 hours. I can't imagine what it's like to live in somewhere where the air doesn't feel like your in a liquid constantly. I feel like I can't enjoy going outside without feeling gross af.

No. 289572

I got buzzed at my sister’s wedding today and everyone there treated it like I was doing a bad thing by drinking. I stopped when I needed to stop and I didn’t make a fool of myself so to my family and to the one random member on my brother-in-law’s wedding party: fuck you for making me feel like I was some terrible drunkard because I got excited for my sister. I literally acted how I normally act at these types of functions, just less shy. If you didn’t want people to drink, don’t provide alcohol?

No. 289575

>>289537
Fuck off suicide baiter. Wtf

>>289532
Life is a gift. You can always change your future. Often it is something like getting away from toxic family or friends, moving house. Get away from the things that are making you feel worthless and flourish. They are toxic sludge trying to infect you. Their jealousy is what you pick up on; of the wonderful future you can have away from them.

No. 289576

>>289575
lol what are you 12?

life isn't a gift anon. grow up.

No. 289578

>>289576
samefag, but the fact that you're blaming it on "toxic people" that no one ever mentioned at all is super telling, get out and go learn to real life before you spout all this shit.

No. 289581

>>289575
The second part of your post was nice but why are you shitting on anon for respecting OP's decision either way? Have some courtesy. Not everyone wants to continue living and it's usually not a gift for those whose life is so bad, their survival instincts are doing the opposite of what they should be.

No. 289582

>>289581
nta but OP could have a terminal illness or something, it's not necessarily just bad people and stuff. i don't want to assume either way but it was just cheesy bs they serve you in those christian handouts.

No. 289588

>>289582
the anon you called out, I just didn't think the poster would want a lecture. just support.

No. 289593

>>289588
support doesn't mean trying to guilt them into valuing their life. that's what it means to say stuff like "life is a gift". the worst part is that's not even saying "your life is a gift" it's just generic and meaningless.

No. 289603

>>289575
you sound like one of those weird christians that tried shilling Operation Christmas Child to me and my classmates when we were like 7, sounded cringy then, sounds cringy now

No. 289618

>slight stress
>eat an entire bag of corn chips
Broke my cut smh

No. 289705

My dad got drunk and is throwing stuff around/hollering because my mom didn’t want to go to a fair today. We were both working today, and I have free admission for the fair tomorrow because I’ll be working there. And they both have tomorrow off so they can just go there if they want to?

Whenever things don’t go his way he throws a massive tantrum no matter how stupid the reason is

No. 289762

>>289603
>>289578

We're lacking context on Anon's problems but USUALLY someone else is making you feel worthless. We don't exist in a vacuum. And being cringy is a lot better than encouraging someone to kill themselves, like get a grip. You're a sadistic fool and exactly the kind of person they need to get away from when you passively encourage something so horrific.

No. 289767

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I'm so fucking sad.

I found a listing on ebay for a knockoff Westwood horn tiara for <$10 that had some generic Engrish title (pic related), bid on it and won it yesterday only to receive a message from the seller today telling me it's no longer available and I've been issued a refund.

I've been dying for a Westwood horn tiara for so long but thanks to Dakota going viral with them they became impossible to find knockoffs of. Ughhhhhh they're so cute and perfect. I love horns/ears on headbands but other than the Westwood horn tiara it's so hard tp find cute ones that arent costumey.

No. 289778

>>289762
anon, what you're saying clearly comes from someone who has never been in any kind of situation where they truly feel that way.

life is not precious, or a gift, anon is not wrong in wanting to die if she is going through severe enough problems, it's no one's place to tell others how they should feel about their situations, and it's selfish to try to guilt people into living just because you somehow think things will get better. sometimes they don't. also often times these feelings are indeed caused by things like cancer, which make you a burden. your idealized view of anon just simply being able to get away from the things that are causing her feelings and be cured is disgusting.

No. 289793

>>289778
You clearly don't know what you're talking about.
>guilt people into living

You're clearly a dangerous psycho, please don't offer advice to anyone.

No. 289795

>>289793
Anon, if anyone like >>289778
"kill you with kindness" is in your life that is exactly the kind of toxic influence I mean.

Toxic anon: She didn't mention any chronic illness. It was a one line post. MOST things CAN and DO get better. But they can only get better if you're here. Don't try and validate your sadism by implying it comes from more experience or knowledge. You're just a fool.

No. 289798

>>289778
>also often times these feelings are indeed caused by things like cancer, which make you a burden

oh my god. i was almost with you until you said that. please don't encourage suffering people with illnesses to feel like their entire being is worthless because they can't provide money or utility. people are so much more than their ability to use their bodies for utility and monetary gain. if you have compassion for the infirm and respect for the elderly you don't even think of things like "maybe people who can't give anything back should just die!" it's a symptom of an increasingly dehumanizing society. it's fucking hideous.

No. 289800

>>289798
also samefag but i realize the suffering and pain itself makes people want to die. but when you want to die simply because you're "a burden" that's not reasonable. it's tragic and insane.

No. 289805

>>289800
jesus i wasn't saying it's rational, i was just trying to point out that some people can't simply run away from issues to get better.

No. 289807

>>289798
Hear hear.

No. 289813

>>289807
ffs. i didn't mean that cancer patients are burdens and should die, but dying from an incurable disease and being in pain AND feeling like a burden can make you feel even worse.

No. 289814

>>289805
alright, you're right about that, but you listed a very self-destructive, delusional reason along with reasonable ones.
like, it's hell to be in pain and suffering every single day with no hope of ever getting better, BUT, its even more of a hell to go through all that and believe that you're a burden and worthless as well. if you know in your heart that there's nothing wrong with you and you deserve to survive, it's a hell of a lot better than spiraling down into a bottomless well of self destruction. In fact, having a spark of self-respect and willpower is often what gets people through times of extreme suffering, instead of giving up.
The problem with suicide isn't that life isn't a hellrealm with countless fucking nightmare endings. It definitely is. If life needed to be guaranteed worth it in order for me to stick around, I'd be long fucking gone. But the problem with suicide is that you deny yourself the slim chance that you'll get a twist of fate.

No. 289815

>>289813
that's what i'm saying.
being in pain and sick is not in your control
believing that you're a burden is in your control and is a shitty attitude that makes it even worse.

No. 289816

>>289814
you're almost as annoying as the other anon because you got triggered about the very specific way i said something.

No. 289818

>>289815
are you fucking stupid? that's literally a sign of depression. which, no, you can't control. fuck off.

No. 289819

>>289816
i guess i did get triggered. i'll shut up after this. it's just extremely relevant to something that happened to someone close to me and i thought you were giving legitimacy to the idea that being a burden is a valid reason to kill yourself.

No. 289820

>>289819
no i was literally just saying that anon has no right to tell others that their lives can just be all sunshine and rainbows if they just walk away from the problems, who she believes 100% are people.

i'm sorry anon, i kind of had a similar situation and i'm sorry how i worried it. i was just so pissed off that anon seemed to think that suicidal thoughts are only for people who have shitty people causing them to feel that way.

my fiance has a mental issue and he tried to kill himself a few years ago because he thought he was being a burden on others by needing help often.

i definitely don't think it's a valid reason at all, but if anon is trying to be considerate of other people's suicidal desires, she shouldn't assume it's just cause "toxic people".

No. 289822

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>>289820
that makes perfect sense. i read way too much into a simple phrase. i feel pretty silly now.

No. 289824

>>289822
no no i just was too emotional when i posted. i've just seen a lot of people go through a lot of different things and i know that suicide can be a terrible choice and be from self-loathing and self-hate, but it can also be from a place of great inescapable pain. compassion is about understanding the why not just the what, and the other anon isn't trying to understand why at all. i would have liked to ask anon why and find out what's been going on with her. sometimes people need to push foward and can break free of their issues, but sometimes people really are suffering and have been forever and have nowhere to go, and there's no issue for them to want relief.

No. 289827

>>289818
maybe you can't control feeling like a burden. but you can control how you react to those thoughts, you can train your ability to respond to them as irrational, understand that entertaining those kind of feelings at length, falling into a spiral and not considering the nuances of the situation harms both yourself and others around you. having a mental illness like depression can't be controlled and is very serious, but it doesnt absolve of all responsibility to work through it. it is difficult and it takes effort but it is necessary to do so for yourself and your loved ones

No. 289828

>>289824
I mean the fact I flagged you up as toxic and then it turns out you made your own fiancé suicidal and feel like a burden? You obviously aren't a sensitive person. Words matter. Things get better. What anon said here is true >>289814
>having a spark of self-respect and willpower is often what gets people through times of extreme suffering, instead of giving up.

>the problem with suicide is that you deny yourself the slim chance that you'll get a twist of fate.


I'm not saying run away from your problems. I'm saying the solution ISN'T SUICIDE. THE SOLUTION ISNT FUCKING SUICIDE. This should not need to be spelled out to anyone. It is NOT THE SOLUTION.
If you're ill, surround yourself with loved ones, find things you enjoy, and yes a positive attitude fucking helps.

If you're sad, yes it IS often insensitive or outright cruel fuckers around you. It is being trapped. It is finances. The solution is to seek positive change. How dare you assume I haven't gone through similar.

There are many problems. But the only way to fix them is to STAY HERE and work on FIXING THEM. Please stop spreading your toxic words without thought.

No. 289829

>>289828
NTA but you're disgusting. Why are you implying anon made her fiance feel like a burden when clearly she's saying that he felt like it cause of his shortcomings.

I cannot stand people like you. Stop with this fake caring bullshit, you care about anon's life just about as much as I care about yours (not very much).

No. 289830

>>289828
>you made your own fiancé suicidal and feel like a burden?

lol, do you think anyone ITT should be taking advice from you at all? you're fucking nuts.

No. 289831

>>289829
This same anon was the one that said people with cancer are a burden, and encouraging people to improve their lives is "disgusting". She's toxic. Please see past the lower-case pandering to what message she is actually spreading. And I don't need you to care about me. But suicidal people do. And they don't need fucking ENCOURAGEMENT from psychos pretending it is "compassionate" to suicide bait.

No. 289833

>>289830
Says a suicide baiter. You literally are trying to encourage random people to kill themselves for your own sick pleasure.

No. 289834

>>289828
I know this will sound edgy, but I wish people like you could kill themselves so that good people in the world didn't. :^)(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 289836

>>289834
Suicide baiting confirmed. You are a piece of shit. Please don't listen to what any sick loser in this thread says, anons.

No. 289837

>>289833
>>289831
>suicide bait
>your own sick pleasure

Are you even listening to yourself? Please leave the thread. You are a fucking nutcase. You need therapy. You sound like a crazy religious idiot.

No. 289838

>>289836
there are more anons ITT that are talking to you.

also, if you actually read what some of the anons said, ones you are quoting in agreement with actually agreed that sometimes suicide is the answer.

No. 289839

>>289837
>not wanting people to kill themselves is nutty

Please look in the mirror anon. You are the one who needs therapy. God help your fiancé. I wish the poor sod luck..

No. 289840

>>289839
NTAYRT but you know that there are many countries like certain US states and Canada, that have legalized assisted suicide for some things right? But I suppose all those places are just sick?

Also you're treating an anon who clearly just doesn't want others to suffer as a piece of shit and trying to blame her for her bf? That's really fucked up for someone who is claiming you care about others. You have a really twisted view of things. You kind of remind me of anti-abortion whack jobs who only care about keeping something alive and not whether or not the life will be good.

No. 289841

tinfoil: anti-suicide anon is actually the one who wants people to off themselves and is trying to pretend to be a good person to hide her fetish.

No. 289843

>>289828
jesus, the fact that you think it's okay to say something like that is really fucked up, how can you think you are any better than anyone else here? let me guess, if anon commits suicide it doesn't matter because she dared to say that people who are suffering should be able to kill themselves and it's not just about cutting out "toxic people". you better go to fucking canada and crusade up there because anyone over 18 with an incurable, deadly terminal illness can get euthanized.

this site is for adults, btw, not 14 year old tumblrinas who crusade for "justice" while bullying others because someone with an opposing opinion doesn't matter amirite?

No. 289845

>>289828
>I'M NOT TOXIC
>S-SEE GUYS THIS ANON'S FIANCE ATTEMPTED SUICIDE! IT'S CLEARLY HER FAULT
>I'M COMPASSIONATE, BUT IT'S OKAY FOR ME TO BLAME ANON FOR HER FIANCE BECAUSE HER OPINION IS DIFFERENT THAN MINE!!!
>I'M NOT TOXIC, SHE IS!
>I WON'T TRY TO REASON WITH ANYONE I'LL JUST TELL THEM THEY ARE SUICIDE BAITING!
>A-AM I A GOOD PERSON YET?

No. 289859

>>289767
You could make the exact same thing for under five dollars with a pair of pliers, cheap wire, and some spray paint. It’s just a headband.

No. 289862

>>289859
No, I really can't unless I want it to look like handmade dollar store shit. I do not want that. Which is why I would rather buy it, as I have no crafting skills.

No. 289866

>>289862
well, what is it about the VW one that you like so much better than any other creepy cute headband? is it the size, the type of headband, the rhinestones? why not just use devil horn hairclips?

No. 289876

>>289862
The headband takes zero skill, that’s the point. Two bits of slightly curved wire glued to a headband and painted glossy black. It’s not worth more that a dollar so why pay for a literal dollar store accessory?

No. 289882

Been dealing with some relationship bullshit for a while and it's made me completely lose my appetite. I forgot to eat or drink for a full day. I'm dropping some weight, but even still, I feel like a damn cow lmfao. I have a totally normal BMI but I can't help feeling like an overweight whale. I eat almost entirely vegan now and I'm gonna start working out in a few weeks but the change isn't coming fast enough for me. I am such a fat fuck. fml

No. 289883

>>289862
you're buying a knockoff and you don't want it to look like shit? i hope you know a lot of knockoff sellers post a photo of the original item and send you crap. i know this isn't a stock photo, but it's likely the real thing that's used to rope in idiots like you.

No. 289888

>>289767

Not to be a douche or anything but that doesn't even look like the actual tiara to me. You really should at least try to make it yourself. Go buy a headband and some polymer clay for $10 and develop a new skill.

No. 289899

>>289888
that's because it's a headband, anon.

No. 289907

>>289883
Wanting a halloween headband to look expensive in the first place.

The actual VW ones look cheap because they’re still just a novelty headband.

No. 289916

i hate being super empathetic. seeing people fighting and not caring about eachother and seeing pieces of shit get away with treating other humans like garbage is really painful. i just want people to be nice and consider other's feelings and be happy. i just want to be numb.

No. 289919

>>289899

lmao true, but you could just flip the headband around I guess. It's a simple DIY if you want it so bad

No. 289923

>>289919
lol I'm not the crazy headband anon. she not only doesn't realize it's not a tiara but also thinks anything luxury brands release is automatically fit for everyday use.

No. 289926

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I just hate how men have to shit on any woman who doesn't look like a model with 5 layers of makeup in a cute uWu dress and being ~feminine~.
No, I'm not a tranny, but this outrage over how Ellie looks from LoU2 hits close to home because she looks a lot like me and apparently I look like a man.
Whatever.

No. 289937

Just lost my glasses somewhere around the house. Fuck my dumb ass.

No. 289945

>>289926
>outrage
Really? I haven't heard anything yet but if that's true then hopefully it's just a vocal minority of fuckless no-neck men.

I found this character so refreshing, and I'm glad development didn't turn her sequel self into an aged up bimbo to please the entitled.

No. 289948

>>289926
She looks like a cute baby lesbian, why would anyone think she looks like a man?

No. 289974

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>>289926
I've noticed a lot of crying any time a female character doesn't have an ultra feminine hour glass body or sexy outfit lately. Just look at the shit show over the new She-Ra cartoon.
Any female character that wasn't designed to be nothing more than jerk off material for men is always accused of being some evil feminist attempt at "desexualizing women". As if A) women only exist to be jerked off to and B) any woman who doesn't have big tits is automatically ugly. It's fucking sad and bizzare.
Pic very related.

No. 290001

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I LOST MY PHONE IN THE BUS TODAY AND I'M SO FUCKING MAD AT MYSELF WHY THE FUCK DO I KEEP LOSING MY THINGS AND MISPLACING THEM AM I LITERALLY RETARDED?
Now I'm afraid the person that took my phone will somehow reset the password and access my phone and I have a lot of passwords and nudes. I tried deleting my files through google but it doesn't work.

No. 290013

I have mad summer depression and had a cigarette again for the first time in forever. Feel like a dirty fuckhead for picking up such a filthy habit again, but it's also cheaper than therapy.

No. 290017

>>289974
I agree with you that women do not need to be sexualised, but at the same time I prefer the old She-ra design… She looked like a pretty american comic heroine. Now she looks like a typical tumblr reimagining. I do think that the teenage version is an interesting idea, but she looks so bland. At the same time, He-Man was a mountain of muscle. I do not think these characters were meant to be relatable teens as much as adult superheroes.

As a side-note, let's not forget that both He-man and She-ra were cheap cartoons meant to sell as much toys as possible. It's a miracle something this thrashy gets a reboot. It will be even bigger one if it's any good.

No. 290020

Bought myself a CBD dropper (10%). It'll come in the mail tomorrow with some luck. I hope it'll help with my sleep. I can't stand another night being up and basically fighting myself to try and get some rest (or another day exhausted with red eyes and an headache all day long for that matter)

No. 290021

>>289974

Right? This cartoon is very much feminine looking as well as she has long hair and a skirt and such but instead she is younger. Like what is the outrage? Clearly this is going to be a show targeting younger children and they wanted a protag that maybe younger kids could more relate too. I don't know why people get so asshurt looking at female characters that aren't dainty princesses. The vast majority of female characters are ultra-feminine so this "sJw fEmInAzI" conspiracy to make female characters "maschuline" clearly isn't effective.

No. 290032

>>290001
I feel you anon, lost my credit card some days ago, had to block it

I can't for the life of me understand why people take nudes, like I'd be so paranoid about it and rather take artistic nude photographies or something

No. 290043

I know this isn't a major problem, but I am so fucking tired of looking like a kid. I'm 22 and apparently I look like I'm at most 14. I just transferred into University and have been trying to go out to have fun and meet people but I keep getting turned away from bars with my legal driver's license. No one takes me seriously and I'm constantly patronized by people my same age. A professor didn't bother telling me about a great research internship because "oh, you have to be 18 to do it, sorry". I had to stop wearing cute clothes and wear makeup everyday and even then I feel like a kid playing dress up. I act like my age, but I keep getting comments of "You act so mature," and having cashiers at the grocery store on weekdays ask me why I'm not in school. I don't understand people who see my legal license and accept it, then make a comment on how I look like a child. That's not flattering at all, why would you say that to an adult?! Sure, maybe I will like it when I'm 50, but now I don't even want to go outside anymore. I've been lifting weights, I hope that will help.

No. 290069

>>290020
Idk if CBD oil helps that much with sleep, but it’ll numb that headache almost immediately. I use it almost daily to deal with migraines, but CBD oil usually doesn’t make me sleepy— indica/high CBD weed helps though, since it also has THC. I’m sure you’ve tried low-dose melatonin? That has worked pretty well for me sleep wise.
Good luck anon! Hope you can get some rest.

>I’m no expert on CBD, but I’ve used all sorts of products that contain it for different ailments

No. 290083

I just started a 2 week holiday and I can't enjoy time off from work because I feel awful. My depression decided to act up and I'm locked in the horrible state of feeling exhausted and bored, but unable to do anything. I've spent this whole day in my bed and I didn't even enjoy it. I'm so tired and empty. I wish I could watch a movie, read a book or do anything but nothing is fun. I want to die

No. 290084

>>290069
NTAYRT but have you noticed an improvement in mental health from CBD? I'm really interested in using it to help my anxiety but I'm hesitant to spend my money because I'm afraid it won't do anything. My anxiety is fairly mild though so I'm thinking it might be easier to treat? Idk.

No. 290103

>>290043
>I had to stop wearing cute clothes and wear makeup everyday and even then I feel like a kid playing dress up.

God, Anon, I feel this so hard. I’m also 22 and look like a 12 year old. I desperately need a wardrobe because I currently dress like a bum and it doesn’t help the age disparity, but every time I go to the store and try on more “adult” clothing, I feel frumpy and childish. Exactly like a child playing dress up. This isn’t the best thread for this but does anyone have any advice for this?

No. 290139

>>290084
Yeah, I would recommend it for anxiety. If you’re looking to go a more natural route, CBD is great for that. I think you should give it a try, if it’s legal where you live. While I use it primarily for headaches, I’ll take some before I go into social situations. Seems to help curb those anxious feelings.

No. 290153

>>290139
Can I ask you what are your migraines like?
My headaches are behind the eyes, at eyebrow level and on the temple. My eyes get crazy red and watery. From what I've been reading it doesn't sound like migraines. But my GP is stumped (been throwing at me tramadol and zolpidem, there are not helping). I've just been to an eye doctor and he said that my eyes aren't the problem.
I'm really crossing my fingers on the CBD at least bringing some relief 'cause I'm at the end of my rope.

No. 290186

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>>290153
EXACTLY THE SAME. Anon, I have been trying to describe these headaches to doctors for years, and no one has ever been able to help me get rid of them. They are always behind my left eye, make me light-sensitive, and leave me with a teary, bloodshot eye. They throb and could last for a whole day. They are immensely painful, and would sometimes even wake me up in the middle of the night. I’ve had them since I was 12, and just about a year ago started CBD to relieve the pain because nothing else worked other than fistfuls of Tylenol. Like, there was a period where I was so desperate for pain relief, I’d take 8 at a time.

For me, I can feel it “numbing” the headache as it’s happening. I usually take my oil as soon as I start to feel pressure behind my eye. Nothing has worked better.

I seriously hope you try it anon. I would absolutely say CBD has changed my life, and I don’t have to go through my day with a hand held over my left eye. Please, please try it.

(Also, the picture is the brand I use, a little more than half the dropper full, under the tongue. Hold it until it starts to numb)

No. 290251

I have this problem where I can analyze and pick up on social cues, but whenever I'm part of it myself I can't act correctly. By this I mean I stumble on words and sound…robotic, if that makes sense. It's like the uncanny valley but in a speech pattern, since I say the right things but my tone or rhythm (and body language) is very off kilter. It's not just in my mind, either. I can tell it puts people off of me.

I'm half venting here, but also open to advice. I don't think I have autism just in case anyone brings that up lmao. And though I've struggled with social anxiety in the past, I still have this issue when speaking at length (not just short replies) with people close to me. My mom has actually pointed it out to me before, to my embarrassment.

No. 290259

>>290251
I have very similar issues as you. We're you by chance ever neglected by your parents? I think that's why I'm like this. After a conversation is over I think of perfect things to have said back and it frustrates me.
I also read and type more than I do talk to others, so sometimes I practice talking while I'm in my car driving to work or somewhere else alone. I feel doing this has improved the way I speak to people. I usually just talk about my opinions/conflicts on certain topics or sometimes even talk about cow drama lol. It's a bit embarrassing at first but after a while I start being more open with myself, like being silly and doing hand gestures. Kind of like vlogging but no camera in front of you.

No. 290274

>>290251
>>290259
I'm the same way. I'm hyper-aware of awkward situations and when others miss social clues, but when it comes to myself, I can't help but act as if I've never spoken to another human before. I think it does have to do a great deal with neglect - I was pretty poorly socialized as a child, but consumed a lot of media (books, video games, TV, etc.) and as a result I tend to mimic the behavior of characters to fill in the gaps when I have no clue how to act. It's like, I know what is appropriate or inappropriate when observing the interactions of other people, but feel out of place when I participate myself.

I also have a strange cadence when I speak, and if I don't consciously add inflection into my voice I will sound "robotic" by default. But then, if I overcompensate, I come off as disingenuous or just downright strange. It's gotten worse with age, I think. I don't have any advice, unfortunately, but you're not alone.

No. 290292

>>290251
I get this too, we probably just over analyze

No. 290303

I think the people posting in the dog hate thread are literally crazy. Not because they dislike dogs, because of the pure vitriol and insistence that anyone who doesn’t also hate dogs is mentally ill and a lesser person.
There’s genocidal maniacs, anti-choice campaigners, rapists, child abusers etc etc etc out there and they’re seething mad about a Labrador existing. If you’re gonna hate, hate productively.

No. 290305

>>290303
I find the amount of salt coming from dog obsessed anons every time someone brings up not liking dogs or pit bulls hilarious

Same thing with the person raging about Ariana Grande every week

No. 290307

>>290305
Both sides get way too personal with it. I like dogs, but not everyone has to. That’s cool. It’s a bit much for someone to say that loving/hating an animal is mentally deranged and emotionally underdeveloped like a bunch of anons in that thread are doing.

No. 290309

>>290307
considering this website is for talking shit, anons need to just hide threads and move on. if you're getting upset on the internet over someone having a different taste in pets you've already lost.

No. 290311

>>290309
nta but you're kind of missing the point. it's not about liking or disliking dogs, it's that the anons in that particular thread are acting cringy with their holier-than-thou attitude. it's fine to hate dogs and circle jerk about that, but it's really embarrassing to be just circle jerking about how your opinion is objectively correct and other people are just stupid.

No. 290313

>>290309
I hid the thread ages ago, and am not in the least upset about it. The people posting in it are the upset ones. Idk how that could have possibly been made clearer for you.
You one of the people who thinks having a pet makes someone an insane and awful person?

>>290311
Precisely. It’s not the circlejerk itself, it’s how seriously they’re taking the jerk.

No. 290314

>>290309
>if you're getting upset on the internet over someone having a different taste in pets you've already lost.

…that's literally what the dog-hate thread is though. Also yeah, the site is for talking shit, that's why anon is talking shit about the thread. It's not like people aren't allowed to bitch about shitty threads.

Why is it that whenever someone says "hide the thread" they always follow it up with something hugely hypocritical? It's like that tumblr shit where they get mad when people bitch about their pictures, but then they have a huge list of images that trigger them and yell about blocking people over it.

No. 290315

>>290314
That anon is probably one of the people losing their tits over people liking puppies as if it’s a war crime lol

No. 290316

>>290315
Likely, it just is tiring to see people saying "hide the thread!" as if that will help. The anons personalities are the issue, they are still in our user pool and posting in other threads. And that kind of self-fellating attitude isn't just going to be about the dogs.

No. 290317

>>290316
It’s a bad argument, they only pull it out when there’s nothing to defend their stance, and the stance in that thread is ‘all dogs are baby killers and I wish I could shoot peoples pets when they are in public’

No. 290321

>>290305

Lmao, idk about the ariana raging, but the fact that you attribute it to one person is really embarrassing.

No. 290323

>>290321
The entire celebrities thread is about her, but yeah totally one person sperging out.

No. 290328

>>290303
this shit is why i don't take most people seriously on the site. anons always think in black and white and try to deny it. i hate threads like that because all the insan(e)ons come out of the woodwork to sperg and suck eachother's dicks about their opinion. then they try to gatekeep the thread to only be full of the same opinion like fucking reddit or tumblr, crying to mommy farmhands to get the mean old opinions out!

No. 290335

>>289974
I agree with you but I can’t help feel conflicted about the new She Ra. It’s kinda the problem I have with the Tomb Raider reboot. Both She Ra and Lara Croft were originally designed to be pure fap bait no doubt but there was something still undeniably badass about them. Like they
were mature and kickass women who were confident in their abilities. While I appreciate them for being less “sexy”, they seem less badass, more vurnerable, and not so confident in their abilities. Granted, that could change in later installments but am I the only one who feels less sexy = less kickass in reboots that involve female leads? Or am I just pulling stuff out of my ass?

No. 290336

>>290314
The doghate thread is not about just having different taste in pets. It's that dogs are forced on everyone to the point where it's dangerous? What other pets are neglected to the point of public nuisance at the same frequency as dogs are? None, so of course they ruffle some peoples feathers.

No. 290337

>>290336
I agree why it could be frustrating but the hate seems a bit OTT, don’t you think? It’s not unlike the most extreme austistic hate that the nutjobs have at the Child Free subreddits and in old school LiveJournal.

No. 290338

>>290336
There’s ruffled feathers and there’s wishing you could shoot a family’s pet in public because you’re a bit upset that some dogs are dangerous.

Idk why you guys keep choosing to miss the very obvious point that nobody cares if you don’t like dogs, it’s still insane to fantasise about killing them or to belittle a person for not holding the same opinion.

Be scared of dogs if that suits you, but don’t act like it’s a crime to take a dog to a dog park.

No. 290339

>>290336
no one is saying that the topic is the issue, it's how extreme anons are acting about it. it's super unhealthy. voicing your stress and concern is great, but when anons go from saying moderate things like "pitbulls are scary and the breed should be put down because of scientific evidence" to "WE NEED TO KILL ANYONE WHO BUYS A PITBULL" as if those people aren't just misinformed idiots needing to be educated, then that's cause for concern. there's no reading between the lines with that stuff. even if anon doesn't mean it literally, her saying it isn't healthy venting.

No. 290340

>>290339
So literally one anon. There are no other threads at all then that have one weirdo anon that is extreme? Good to know.

>>290338
Uhhh, what anon said they wanted to shoot a family pet in public? Can you guys be anymore hyperbolic? You know full well 99.9% of the posts in that thread aren't "I WANT TO SHOOT THEM IN THE FACE".

No. 290341

>>290340
you're an idiot because no one is saying "NUKE THE DOG THREAD!" we've been saying the entire time that the extreme anons specifically are an issue. you need to learn reading comprehension.

we know the thread isn't a huge dumpster fire, no one is complaining about the thread we're complaining about the crazy anons.

this is some #notallmen shit that you're pulling right now.

No. 290342

>>290341
I never claimed you or anyone else said to nuke it. I'm just saying that the thread is being misrepresented as if everyone posting in it is so crazy. Like >>290328
>i hate threads like that because all the insan(e)ons come out of the woodwork to sperg and suck eachother's dicks about their opinion. then they try to gatekeep the thread to only be full of the same opinion like fucking reddit or tumblr, crying to mommy farmhands to get the mean old opinions out!

Like, literally no one has done that in that thread, and it's, again, acting as if crazy shit like shooting them or whatever, is the norm.

And again here >>290339
>to "WE NEED TO KILL ANYONE WHO BUYS A PITBULL" as if those people aren't just misinformed idiots needing to be educated

That's literally one person being characterized as the bulk of the thread, or at the least, many people. It's just dishonest, just saying. But I never claimed you said to nuke the thread, though I suppose you can't speak to people that disagree with you without totally warping their words.

No. 290343

>>290342
NTA but I agree you're doing the exact thing that #notallmen people pull. If it doesn't apply to you, it's clearly not about you. The OP specifically said users who are acting like the one(s) mentioned. Maybe instead of trying to defend your thread, you should tell the crazy users to cool it.

No. 290344

I'm so sick of being in pain all the time.

No. 290345

why do anons always come in to defend their shitty threads? we're anon, it doesn't matter. you don't have a name tied to any posts so what the fuck is the point? it's just annoying and embarrassing. imagine being so insecure you have to defend something you're anonymously posting in to others.

No. 290346

>>290340
Yes all of these comments are from well adjusted and not-at-all reading too much into people enjoying dogs

>>290233
>>288742
>>288822
>>288900
>>289764

No. 290347

>>290343
Imo, it's not the same. There are like, 169 posts in that thread, and of all of them, like, 2 are truly extreme. You can't really assess men like that, and obviously, statistically and socially, men aren't that great, so it's dumb for them to not concede that too many are shit. 2 posts in 169 is not "soooo many anons are coming out of the woodwork to be craaazy and threaten to shoot family pets!!".

>>290346
Re:
>>288742
>Also, the amount of unleashed dogs in my city makes me wanna buy a gun.
Are you deliberately being obtuse or? She's talking about for protection, because they're unleashed and she can be attacked because of that fact. She's not talking about just shooting puppies in the face, anon..

No. 290348

>>290342
The hypocrisy is astounding.
‘You’re all so sensitive and can’t handle someone not loving your precious stankbeast don’t be so triggered’ she said, unhappy that someone had called the comments (obviously she’s been posting or why defend the crazy) posted there excessive and a bit mad.

Just hide the thread is a two way street and only retards argue it as a valid point.

No. 290349

>>290345
fucking THIS. there's no point because you aren't a specific user, it's not like people will go back and read your post history, you don't have any. the only reason to do this anons do this is because their fee-fees are hurt.
>>290342 is pissed off that people are mischaracterizing the other posters, but that literally is meaningless because everyone is anon.

No. 290350

>>290347
The only obtuse one here is you.
Sorry you feel personally attacked because I posted that some users on that thread are crazy. All you’ve done is out yourself as one of the crazy folk.

No. 290351

>>290347
you're so cringy. why are you defending the thread? no one knows who you are.

No. 290353

>>290350
imagine feeling personally attacked as anon. the best part of anon is that you can be shit talking me over one post and agreeing with me on another. defending threads on anon is literal autism.

No. 290354

>>290353
it’s why you never emotionally invest in anything posted on the farms.

Anon is so rabidly protective of their opinion that they literally needed to defend their anonymous bs, against an anonymous person who dared to disagree and call them a little excessive.
That might actually extend the entire autism spectrum

No. 290355

>>290354
not only that but they came into an entirely different thread to do so. it's like when cows come into their threads to defend themselves only cringier because we have no fucking idea who they are, which posts they posted or anything else they posted elsewhere. i truly don't understand it and find it super pathetic.

No. 290357

>>290355
Ruined their thread by deliberately not shitting it up with disagreements. So rude. No wonder anon was so angry.

No. 290358

>>290357
oh yes how dare we post in a different thread! we should have taken it right to the thread so anon could be offended immediately. imagine the shock of scrolling down the page and seeing someone badmouthing a thread you posted in. what would you do? surely anon is a beacon of justice!

No. 290361

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>Going through hardest time right now
>Two appointments, one seeing psychoanalyst
>I’m fine going to my monthly appointments, but the psychoanalyst one is freaking me the fuck out
>Have no one, lost remaining friends due to my stupidity
>Ask boyfriend if he can come with me
>He keeps fucking saying yes but last minute doesn’t show up
>Ask if he can come with me to appointment
>”Yeah just remind me the day before”
>It’s at 10 am
>Know he won’t wake up for it
>He hasn’t been answering my messages
>I see he’s online playing games
>Last we spoke was on saturday and it was barely anything
>been trying to message him all week
>Freaking out because of appointment
>Also freaking out because he’s going to break yet another promise
I feel like I’m dating a fucking child. I don’t know how long I can do this.

He gets fucking sad at me when I tell him I can’t trust his words on showing up. How do you think I feel when you promise to show up to my appointments with me and the same day you’re on the computer telling me that you can’t go, but you’re able to sit at your fucking computer all day.

I know what you anons will tell me, and I hate hearing. I’m just venting

No. 290363

Shoe0nhead and her double-digit IQ butterball bf are two of the most thoroughly disgusting cows on this site. I used to enjoy reading their threads, but now I can't because I hate them too much.

No. 290372

>>290361
Fuck his sadness.
You’re sad too, plus whatever other shit that has led you to seeing a psychoanalyst.
You’re trying to get over that sadness by seeing the psychoanalyst while he’s sat on his ass making pixels go ‘pew pew’ and using his crocodile tears as an excuse to do it all over again next time.

He’s lazy, and he’s not supportive, and he’s happy to play guilty puppy to get his way again and again. You deserve better.

No. 290393

>>290361
he sucks, anon

No. 290398

I cant keep friends & i feel fcking cursed about it. Like cosmically cursed. Average friendship length is like 1 year-ish. Some of it is because i can't keep a job for very long & if it's not that then i just get tired of them….
im so jealous of best friendships. Its getting to the point that im closing myself off to people because i just Know that soon something will happen and the friendship will end.
I want to make online friends because maybe that'd be different but im extra social-media anxious :(

No. 290435

>>290398
Same anon. What happens to me is, because i’m so boring and terrible at conversation, we literally just run out of things to talk about. I feel like my attempts at friendship feel forced and im annoying the other person.
>I want to make online friends because maybe that’d be different but im extra social-media anxious :(
I feel you. I added someone on discord the other day and my hands were literally shaking and sweating. Why am i like this

No. 290458

I'm afraid to go back to university. I took a year off for health reasons and everyone in my year has already gotten their degrees, I'm the only one left behind.
I feel like shit for taking so much time to get such a simple degree (I had a gap year too), I feel like shit for not being able to attend well because of my mental health and I feel like shit because I will have to get to know an entirely different group of people this year with whom I will be finishing up my degree.
I hate meeting new people and I'm not sociable in the least so I know I won't make any friends and I doubt I'll get to know anyone at all, so no one would be able to help me with my courses if I inevitably skip days again because my attendance is shit in general. I don't think anyone would even be cordial towards me because I'm a huge awkward antisocial weirdo that nobody ever likes.
I just feel like a huge failure because I failed my classes the first time and because my uni is one of the least demanding in the city and I'm just a huge waste of free education.

No. 290466

>>290398
>>290435
You shouldn't blame yourselves or assume that it's entirely your fault that you have a hard time making/keeping friends. Friendships are like any relationship, they take time, mutual respect, shared interest and effort. You shouldn't force yourself to make friendships just like you shouldn't force romantic relationships.
It's cliche but finding friends is the same as finding a boyfriend, you have to just engage in things you like, meet people, and keep trying until things click. There ARE people out there who could be your potential best friend, you just have to find them.

No. 290474

Seems like DHL decided to dick around with my package. It's been in transit since yesterday 10pm. Meanwhile, their center is only 200km from my house. Ugh, it was supposed to be next day delivery, I've been sitting at home waiting for it all day for nothing.

No. 290488

>>290474
I'm in the same boat with UPS.
I also work with DHL sometimes and boy oh boy do they fucking suck and there are ALWAYS issues with them and the customs papers and what not. Fuck em honestly.

No. 290494

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Kind of an odd vent. So I have a garden and the stone walls and paths have a lot of moss on them, which is fine by me. There's a sweet little cat who goes in my garden to nap, which is fine too. However, I have noticed that the moss catches all the hair the cat sheds. It's absolutely everywhere and I'm disgusted and annoyed. I'm not in the best physical health lately and I'm not looking forward to the many hours it will take me to slowly scrape off everything.

No. 290546

>>290458
Hang in there anon. I'm 24 and only a junior in college while all of my high school class has graduated already. You shouldn't let your age deter you if you know you want to go back to university. In a couple of years it won't matter at all that you graduated late.

I'm glad my parents let me take a few years off instead of forcing me to rush completing school. Now I can complete college at a time when I'm more mature and healthy.

Also you never know when is the right time to go back. I failed three semesters of college in a row, but after I came back for the last time I made the honor roll both semesters last year.

No. 290552

went to optometrist today to get contact lenses and the dude fitting them manually put them in which was the most extensive physical contact i've had with anyone in over 3 years. this is supposed to be the best time of my life but i feel like a withered prune.

also >>290398 is very relateable, haven't made any friends while at uni these past 3 years ad it's not like i haven't been trying so the fault is obviously with me being a huge weird idiot. honestly i think my social issues have been getting worse due to these constant failures as i can't handle even online interactions or simple shit such as liking stuff on fb for fear it will get shared on everyone's walls thus making me visible. it sounds really mental typed out actually.

No. 290637

>>290552
>can't handle liking things on facebook
This is Real Shit.
I don't know if it applies to you, but the part I hate most about relationships/friendships is that I exist. I think I've grown so used to parasocial and anonymous interactions that I can barely handle anything more.
I hate existing as an individual. I hate people knowing who I am.

No. 290641

>>290637
Not the Anon you’re replying to but exactly this. You’ve put into words something I’ve been trying to describe since a teenager.

No. 290686

I feel kind of jealous of my bf because he lives at home and his mom cooks all his meals, buys his food, cleans the house and does the laundry. The only thing he has to worry about is getting up for work in the morning. Meanwhile I just have to do everything myself and I just don't feel like it anymore. I know at 25 we should be taking care of ourselves but I'm jealous of his life.

No. 290690

>>290637
>I hate people knowing who I am.
Oh man, me too. I deleted all my SNS long ago because of it. It sounds dramatic, I'm actually not that depressed, my self esteem is not THAT bad, I don't have social anxiety or anything. But I just wanted people to forget me, I guess so they can't judge me. And I see relationships as giving someone a front row ticket to all my flaws, I just can't do it.

No. 290695

>>290637
i'm that anon. i have always been weirdly secretive and paranoid (even in early childhood) but yeah, i think it has gotten worse, i don't really like most people knowing things about me or remembering that i exist.

in my teens i liked pursuing online friendships because i could just vanish when the feeling of "they know too much" got too strong but now i don't even try to get involved in online communities (specifically art related ones) because doing something like that is not as easy anymore.

i mean i do crave actual close friendships but i wish i was invisible to all the randoms. i think it boils down to me being afraid of judgement because i come from a very judgemental background so everyone must be like it.

>>290690
i think i wold like to be in a relationship eventually but i can't even imagine it right now, that's way too intimate and involves waaaaay too much trust kek

No. 290874

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Sometimes I really hate being a lesbian, I feel like I get shit from all sides. In the LGBT community today you're considered "exclusionary" for not liking dick. Lesbians have the reputation of being a bunch of "mean dykes", men tell me how they've totally "fucked lesbians" or could "turn you straight". My family made it clear they'd hoped I was really bisexual. (so they could hope I'd choose a man) Dating is a hellish nightmare and in general it feels so alienating to be a lesbian. I was in denial of it for a long time, I kept thinking I could just force myself to love and be attracted to men. Even now, part of me feels like maybe I should just try again. It just feels so alienating being a lesbian, like there's no one else out there like you. Like everyone hates you for being you and asking you over and over why you don't want men in your life, or they ask you invasive questions expecting you to 'slip up' and admit your attraction to men or they wan to force you to submit until you like it. I feel like a lot of my depression comes from being a lesbian, and I can't help but continually think about how much easier my life would be if I could love men.

No. 290884

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One of the anons in the unpopular opinions thread is legit really disturbing me. She seems really mentally unstable and I hope she gets help. I'm going to watch cute cat videos to destress.

No. 290923

>>290884
Lmao that anon is off her rocker, she's probably the eastern europoor anon.

No. 290938

It annoys me that my bf will spend 3000$ on a trip to NYC but he will refuse to help me pay of the 1500 for my dental debt so I can move out. He sees in struggling and have 0 in the bank but he can spend 3000 on a trip to NYC. I know this sounds entitled and I should be happy someone paid 3000 on a trip for me but this kind of pisses me off. I don't need to go to NYC, I need a place to live because I'm basically homeless. I guess this is what I get for depending on a man…

No. 290944

>>290884
what are they arguing about now?

No. 290945

>>290938
he sounds really shitty and not boyfriend material. that's something a friend would do "hey, come with me to NYC, i'll pay!" (like, basically paying for your company, but doesn't care enough about you to help you with your medical stuff).

not very good boyfriend material. he sounds selfish. imo, it isn't entitled. it's one thing if he did nothing for you at all, then you would have no expectations and nothing to measure it against, but because he's so willing to drop 3k on something silly like a trip to NYC on you and not help you with serious financial shit, tells me he's selfish and you can do better.

No. 290947

I want to be in an adult health and nice long term relationship and Im trying to work out my personal issues and blocks to make it possible but Im afraid it will be too late or not enough for me to be an emotionally healthy person, like the one I want to have in my life.

No. 290965

>>290945
Anonymous now No. 290962
>>290945
I feel bad saying this but right now I'm living on the floor at my sisters house and sleeping on a mattress on the floor and when he came over he wouldn't even stay one night because it was "too filthy" but he has no issue with me living in these conditions. Since he's willing to blow 3000$ on a trip to NYC he could have easily given me that money to move out or to help with bills…I feel bad saying this to him because I sound spoiled.

No. 290982

>>290884
you sound unstable yourself tbh

No. 290984

>>290982
nta but how exactly? she just seems concerned for the poster (i know which one) she hasn't said enough to seem unstable.

No. 290985

the anon who sees a normal fight and then acts traumatized and terrified from normal infighting..
god I don't know who's worse the infighters or the big baby who thinks infighting gave her PTSD, this is lolcow, no one gives a shit about how one of the people bickering back and forward disturbed and traumatized you and now you need to go in your uwu safe space

No. 290986

>>290965
Seems like his priority is his dick. Glad you're not trying to romanticize it can see it for what it is.

No. 290987

>>290985
oh okay, you're her.

this is the vent thread, sorry you got too offended by someone's vent.

No. 290990

>>290984
see
>>290985
It's normal occasional infighting that goes on here, honestly, outside of the anons claiming they know who everyone is or claiming another anon probably thinks whatever, none of them seemed that crazy as the anon is making them out to be, as someone who was watching the infight

the anon sounds like a big baby
>>290987
I'm not offended, I'm just annoyed someone thinks an infight, out of all things on lolcow is traumatizing and now you need a safe space to hide from the big mean lolcow crazy

srs, if you're that affected by seeing people infight how do you even live? don't even come to lolcow if you think that people bickering to each other is that big of a deal

No. 290994

>>290990
Don't bring this fucking crap in here. No one gives a fuck what you are annoyed with someone being annoyed. She obviously isn't being serious. I also watched it and russian NEET is really abysmally stupid.

Also sage.

No. 290997

>>290994
they're all stupid neets imo
no one gives a fuck about you giving a fuck about me being annoyed that someone else is annoyed, fuck off if you "don't wanna bring it in here"

No. 291000

i have a dumb crush on a guy i've just barely known for ~5 years now and i've had a perfectly normal relationship with my current boyfriend for nearly a year and a half now

for the first time in this relationship my mind keep coming back to the guy i have a dumb schoolgirl crush on and ways i can get his attention. i just want to pine after him and i masturbated thinking about him last night for a very long time and i hadn't even felt like doing anything sexual for months now. the entire time i was feeling really guilty.

i feel like my boyfriend can tell something is probably up and i don't know if we're just in a rut or if this depressive episode is especially intense or what.

the worst and most shitty part imo is the fact that i keep getting bothered a little by many things my boyfriend has always done, things that never previously bothered me. and i keep idealizing about this guy i have a crush on when i don't fucking know him.

i don't know if this is normal but it sucks and i feel like an awful girlfriend but i can't stop thinking about the dude i have had this retarded autistic crush on for years that just fucking sprung back out on me

No. 291001

>>290997
>they

Who tf is "they"? We're all on the same damn site.


Atleast sage if you are going to infight like this…






I hate amazon drivers for being so incompetent. We have a secure package room for delivering packages at my building and they refuse to put stuff in it. Half of my stuff ends up disappearing and reappearing weeks later or just stolen. I'm going to stop ordering from them because it's super frustrating. I've been using them for uni books but I'm done after I get them all. I ordered 1 book 3 times now and have not gotten it and my classes start tomorrow.

Fuck amazon.

No. 291011

>>291001
>Who tf is "they"? We're all on the same damn site.
everyone who infights?
>Atleast sage if you are going to infight like this…
they say as they're not saged

No. 291018

>>290985
LOL eastern europoor go home

No. 291019

>>291011
she didn't sage because she vented below… anon, come on…

No. 291020

>>291018
nah
at least my country isn't filled with special snowflake amerifats who have ptsd flashbacks when people bitch on lolcow
>>291019
okay
well I'm annoyed
there's my vent

No. 291022

>>291011
anon's post is in topic. enjoy your ban.

>>291001
that sucks, i hope you can borrow until you find the book, does your school's store have it or is it too expensive?

No. 291024

>>291020
i am seriously laughing at you coming into this thread and pretending to be another user to bitch about anon venting about you. obviously anon was right about you being off.

No. 291026

>>291024
>i am seriously laughing at you coming into this thread and pretending to be another user to bitch about anon venting about you
and I'm laughing at special snowflakes who need to bitch about infighters
how did I pretend to be another user exactly?
>obviously anon was right about you being off.
and I was right about them being mentally unstable if they're that traumatized from bickering, just like how you are off for bitching about me, same coin different side, literally doing the same as me

No. 291028

>>291026
You claimed to be someone "watching the argument" when you are in fact the crazy russian neet.

No. 291029

>>291028
What did someone put a blindfold on me during the argument or? I don't see how I'm wrong

No. 291037

>>291029
No one ITT is going to get into it with you so you can quite while you're not too far behind.

No. 291041

>>291037
You are apparantly
If you "don't care" then fuck off with your entitlement

No. 291061

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I'm a bitter bitch but I hate how people have something going on for them but are still depressed and I know you can still be depressed if you have something nice going on for you but if I had only one of the things they had I'd be much less miserable and I tried to make my life nicer for myself but I'm tired and hopeless.
I know people that are academically successful, people that have good social lives, people that are rich, people that can sing and have a bright future ahead of them and those people are still depressed. I have failed everything I would make a pact with the devil only to be successful at something.
I know anyone in the world can be depressed for various reasons, excuse my bitterness, again.

Pic of Thom Yorke because he is a weirdo and a creep and a manlet but at least he could make music and sing, so I'm still jelly.

No. 291088

>>291061
So you’re bitter about being bitter because you know that bitterness is ridiculous and petty and that sadness doesn’t work the way your bitterness says it should?

No. 291092

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>>291061
Idk if this will make you feel better but I was the same bitter until a breakthrough happened in my dreams and I got everything I truly wanted. I was still depressed. I'm still depressed. It sucks even more to achieve what you think will make things even a little better and it doesn't. It made me more depressed for awhile lol.

No. 291119

I am too autistic to meet guys. I hate dressing femininely and I feel this is the biggest thing that repels guys away from me irl since I am not fat and more than a few guys online have found me cute. I hesitate using something like Tinder since it feels so unnatural and I suck at taking attractive selfies. I've tried dating sites in the past too but I just couldn't get into them since I am still too much of an internet weirdo to relate to other people even though I have more normal interests and hobbies. tl;dr: BOOHOO I WANT A BF BUT THE WHOLE PROCESS OF FINDING ONE FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE FOR ME

No. 291120

>>291119
Dude, you don't have to be a girly girl. Lots of guys will find you perfectly attractive in a tee shirt and jeans.

No. 291121

>>291119
It's not your clothes. I'm a huge girly girl and in the same position. Dating is just hard, either you stick it out with dating apps or you get lucky and meet someone organically.

No. 291124

>>291120
>>291121
I guess I just mistakenly thought it was easier than it looks for other women when I actually just need to suck it up and get out of my comfort zone..

No. 291125

>>291124
Coming to that realization was hard because we're always told that getting a man is the easiest thing in the world and most women are beating off suitors with a stick, but the reality is lots of us sit in our rooms hoping someone will magically appear. I know it wont happen for me unless I put in active effort, on sheer statistics alone I dont meet anywhere near enough people to find one I really like and vice versa.

No. 291126

>>291125
It makes complete sense. Can’t believe I fell for that stupid “women have it easy” meme though since it made me feel completely defective for the longest time.

No. 291157

So, I got my CBD dropper. I think my first dose was too much for me 'cause I'm feeling kinda nauseous. I'm also feeling kinda sleepy and drowsy but I'm not sure it's the oil, I barely slept last night.

No. 291216

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I miss my old online friend. We got on really well, but over time I started noticing discrepancies in her constant sob stories and stopped trusting her as a result. She's the type of person that absolutely hates conflict and I knew that no matter how gently I brought my concerns she'd shut me out and go into "everybody betray me im fed up with this worl" mode. Feeling unable to fix things, I cut contact. With all that said, she was creative, witty, eloquent, and compassionate. Her emotional insight (that she sadly couldn't apply to herself or her own relationships) helped me understand my own feelings better, I learned a lot of things from her in general. Idk maybe I'm the asshole, maybe I didn't try hard enough and I should've confronted her despite everything.

No. 291217

>>290335
You hit the nail on the head. I couldn’t really put what I wasn’t thinking into words until I read your post.

I like that she ra is not being designed as a toy to be sold. But she doesn’t have the same charm and appeal as the old she ra. I hate how a lot of women now seem to think to be a perfect badass strong woman you have to give up your femininity/sensuality.

No. 291218

>>291216
I'm guessing she's not dead. You could contact her if you miss her. It's never too late.

No. 291224

>>291217
Maybe her not being designed to be sold as a doll/figure is the reason
why her design is so bland and uninteresting. The old She-Ra and her friends and enemies looked cool and fun to look at (I do not mean it in a sexual way). Sort of like the (also teenage like the new She-Ra) Sailor Senshi - they also have beautiful and fun designs, which appeals to girls (men obviously sexualise them, though there was nothing inherently sexual about Naoko's designs). I do not see myself owning a poster of the new She-Ra while Sailor Moon art (both manga and the old anime) always makes me smile.

No. 291227

I can't believe I let myself gain 14 lbs after I worked so hard to lose it. I went from 96 lbs to 110 lbs, because like an idiot as soon as I got down to my target weight I started "celebrating" by eating 2000 calories a day. I don't care if being that small is unhealthy or Ana chan but it's just too damn hot for me to have the motivation to lose weight again. I can't wait for the weather to cool down. I'm so annoyed with myself.

No. 291241

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>>290335
>Like they were mature and kickass women who were confident in their abilities. While I appreciate them for being less “sexy”, they seem less badass, more vurnerable, and not so confident in their abilities.
My thoughts exactly. As a kid I loved mature, bold, even sexy female characters, not teenaged young girls I was supposed to identify with. And I was a massive tomboy too, still am. The She-ra reboot is such an obvious piece of calculated virtue signaling too what with the pic related so I just can't take it as a sincere attempt to inspire girls to be strong. I'm way too jaded with the whole "If you don't buy our product you're a misogynist!" scam.

I also hate how they have to make detailed, intricate designs simpler in these reboots. You know you can have decorations and imaginative clothing while covering their bodies right?

No. 291244

>>291217
this is kind of my issue. fap material or not, being badass and strong AND sexy/feminine is super cool. i'm really feminine myself so i think these characters are great. i guess i just personally hate the idea of changing existing characters instead of making new ones.

like ellie from the last of us, isn't that feminine, but is still a strong cool character, everyone would be up in arms if they changed her to be feminine. like what happened with merida.

i know a lot characters are overly sexualized and it's a huge issue not having any variety, but it seems lazy to me to change preexisting characters rather than making your own.

No. 291281

>>291241
>As a kid I loved mature, bold, even sexy female characters, not teenaged young girls I was supposed to identify with.

Same. As much as representation and relatability is good for making people feel normal, aspirational, fantastical characters are also important for kids to have something idealistic to aim for. it goes for male and female characters and it's not so they can literally try to grow up and become a curvy ripped warrior princess with a genius level iq and the stoicism of a monk, but maybe that slight bit of influence will make you interested in staying athletic, or make you want to be more assertive, or more of a leader etc. What are you going to aspire to if all the characters you see are awkward, emotional, immature, average looking young people just like you? what might it inspire you to improve about yourself or become one day? fucking nothing.
There are characters that show you it's OK to be what you are, and characters that show you the fantastical possibilities of what you could become, and both are very important, but these shows are only concerned about the former for everyone

No. 291282

>>291218

Oh, I know she would gladly take me back, it's my feelings that are the problem. I have my own issues, I've never had a situation where someone broke my trust (which doesn't take much) and I managed to get over it. I know I'll just overanalyze everything she says and drive myself crazy, on top of the immense emotional support she needs it's exhausting. I also feel like an asshole for not being able to deal with her obvious mental illness when I'm pretty fucked up myself. If I can't accept her illness then I don't deserve her intelligence and warmth.

No. 291286

>>291244
yeah it's sending entirely the wrong message. instead of the message being "hey all of these characters look the same! let's have some variety!" it's saying "the way this character looks is bad and needs to be changed. making her less sexy looking and less feminine is an improvement."

No. 291319

>>291241
jesus these look like tumblr trash.

No. 291321

>>291286
characters for childrens shows, like she-ra, shouldn't be ever be remotely sexualized, or excessively feminine if female, or masculine, if male. none of these things are good for children.

No. 291377

>>291321
Why does anyone even care about She-Ra? The cartoon was just a stupid ploy by Hasbro to sell toys. They’re just rehashing it to sell toys/apps to more modern audiences.

No. 291382

i am a total believer in the kill them with kindness mentality. i've been going through a rough patch with my s/o lately. looking back on what started it, it was easily fixable. we've been talking it through for days and i think it might end up okay.

but i've been bottling this up for so long, im about to explode. i am so goddamn tired of his new friend. they've only known each other for about 3 weeks, but she's doing anything and everything she can to replace me. she got his phone passcode so she could block me on his snapchat without telling him. we had no clue why nothing was working for days until she finally told him. she messaged me out of the blue to basically tell me he doesn't love me anymore and they're better suited for each other. my ex and i were planning to call so we could talk things out (we're temporarily long distance for one more week) and as soon as she heard about our plan, she called me first for some reason. i hung up immediately.

i just want her to stop sticking her damn nose in our business. we've been together for like 1/3 of each other's lives. we have had fights before and we know forgiveness is important with our mix of issues.

i just want him to drop her ass already. she's proven she's insane. i'm tired of her bullshit.

No. 291384

>>291382

the worst part is that saying that made me feel guilty. i've been nothing but nice to her the whole time. i even thanked her for caring for him during our rough patch. i have no idea how he sees her shit as acceptable at all, and i can't wait for it to be over.

No. 291391

>>291384
You don't deserve the bullshit you are being put trough. If it was for me she would have got her ass beat a long time ago.

No. 291394

>>291382
Of your bf wanted her to fuck off he would have told her to. If she's in your business it is because he's allowing it kek

Also if you're off and on all the time you probably shouldn't be with him in the first place.

No. 291396

>>291391

forgot to add when i finally called him so we could talk, she got mad at him for wanting to leave the room. she said his drama was also her drama.

lord give me strength to not beat this bitch up

>>291394

exactly. i've been telling myself that. however, shit went extremely well last night so im gonna give him today to come to his senses.

we aren't on and off tho. i just mean every couple fights. i think it would be fine if he wasn't being a moron for some random girl right now.

thanks anons. im excited to get over this shit.

No. 291399

>>291382
Look, bitch, if you want to keep your man, you're going to have to tell this slut to kick rocks or you'll burn her house to the ground. Then again, if he hasn't told her to fuck off yet, he's really not worth the jail time.

No. 291400

>>291399

this shit made me cackle lmao you're probably right though. i let people step on me a lot because i hate conflict. i'll do my best.

No. 291405

>>291400
godspeed anon, I hope you elbow drop that homewrecker.

No. 291407

>>291400
I'm usually the same, but she's only giving you two choices at this point. Fight for him or let her have him, basically.

No. 291408

>>291396
Woooooo girl. I don’t even know where to start….

No. 291411

>>291405
>>291407

i should also make it clear i told him she made me uncomfortable before we called yesterday, and he essentially said "she's not going anywhere." but then on our call he started crying and telling me he's been trying incredibly hard to numb the pain of losing me by distracting himself. i think she could be a weird coping mechanism. im gonna have faith in that for now.

i can keep y'all updated later because i think this drama is fucking rich but thanks for giving me the attention i so desperately needed

No. 291415

>>291411
Please keep us updated. I need more of this story.

No. 291418

alright last one for now i promise lmfao. y'all might think i'm excusing him because he cried. and you could be right, but over the course of our entire relationship, he has NEVER cried to ANYONE. crying means something has broken him.

i made him cry in a public area. people were stopping to apologize to him (i heard someone offer him tissues). please understand why that means a fuckton to me. i'm honestly fucking honored by this.

No. 291459

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I'm so fucking over my "best" friend/Flatmate, shes such a jealous, insecure drain on my self-esteem and worth.

She's always been jealous of me, i'v never "rubbed" anything in her face and have always encouraged her no matter what.
A few years back she went to this school and had a male friend there, now she is completely delusional and thinks everyone in the world likes me, lol, not the case.(obviousy wtf)
Anyway, i met the guy briefly when i went to hang out with her, after i left she asked him what he thought of my apperance for some reason and he had said "she uses too much make up" super innocent comment i know, but i was in a dark place at the time, my ex just cheated on me and my self-esteem was in the gutter.
She told me this in a very smugly without mentioning that she had asked him herself, and that she was shocked that anyone thought negatively about my apperance!!(maybe, idk, keep it to youself?) making it seem like he just randomly commented on my apperance for no reason.
Well this made me sorta salty(i was only like 18 at the time) so i said something negative about him back because idk, thats usully what immature people do when they feel "attacked"(lol, i know) she obviously(i didnt figure it out at the time) told him this and he then said something negative back, this started some retarded cycle where she would go back and forth with stuff we said about each other, making it seem that it was just out of nowhere and not her starting it.
She finished school and i moved country, now not having a reason to talk about him or the other way around.
Fast forward to this day and age, we live together.
She invites the dude to stay with us to party, this reminded me of all that garbage and also made me rethink it as an adult, i finally
figured out that she purposefully tried to pit us against eachother to make herself feel better by having someone, A MALE put me down! (I think this is her reasoning lol)
Well, he came, we bonded and he slept in my room (We were super drunk and slept with clothes and didnt do anything at all, and i told him i didnt want to)
She is super butthurt and is indirectly putting me down all the time now kek.
Also apparently he thinks im pretty now, even though i look almost excatly the same, she is suuuuper pussled by this, even though the only reason he ever said anything bad about me(this goes for me as well) was because of her shit starting.
This is only one of many things.
I feel fucking stuck living with such a jealous, negative shitstain and i wonder why i ever considered her my friend. (This isnt the only thing she has done, she also likes to put me down alot in "subtle" ways)
Someone… help lol, i might explode soon(super calm usually) and i feel super fucking stuck.
also i dont have this issue with any other female friend, and never tried shit like this before, and thats the reason i didnt realise sooner. Now im paranoid to greet or meet any of her friends due to fear of her getting jealous or angry at me and shitting on me all the time, albeit "subtly".
How to deal?

No. 291494

I overshare way too fucking much.

People don't usually interest me on a deeper level, because I'm just doing my own thing being nice n'all. But OH BOY when they do and I want to befriend someone, I sort of steamroll forward and sperg through all these "relationship achievements" and talk super pity-enducingly to envoke these emotional responses and links. It's like I'm playing Sims and trying to fill the relationship bar asap.

It's not even conscious, I just think back and wonder why the fuck I'm telling someone who is complimenting me that
>HAHA I have body dysmorphia which is why I feel awkward I'm not rude heha!
>Yeah I hate that show because I've had depression and it represents the disease badly.
>I'm an anxious person!
>How about my WEIRD SEXUAL HANG UPS???
repeated x100.

When I actually want to impress someone, I turn into this subtly pathetic, broken and pitiable person. I think I subconsciously try to gain as much empatht towards myself, so I could weasel my way into their heart and they'd mistake their pity for fondness? Or maybe I'm intimidated by actually interesting people and wish to present myself as something harmless that needs to be taken care of?
I have no idea, but I fucking hate the fact that I keep doing it.
I'm continuously bouncing between "people don't need to hold secrets and tough times shape us as people! You like hearing about others and it might help someone with similar situation! You'll gain deeper understanding of others and yourself through sharing and so do they!" And "You should keep everything to yourself and share with a close few, because people don't give a shit and have their own problems to deal with. Stop bothering others with your shit".

I just want to find a good middle ground. Fuck.

No. 291497

I almost ragequit my job on the phone today. I work at a cafe in a retail store. We have a huge turnover rate (I've been there since late March) so we have a ton of new people who haven't been properly trained because they keep fucking calling out. Like, four new people have called out at least three times each and they've all been there less than a month. The fucking audacity. I didn't call out until I had been there for two months and I was so sick my manager told me on the phone to stay away because I sounded so bad. And I've still called out less in my whole time there than our "oldest" new guy. So basically my manager and his under…person are the only super qualified ones. There's only one other barista that's been there longer than me and it's by like three weeks.

So I got a call right before my classes started today and I honestly was not able to call back until they were all over three hours later (back to back with no time between except to sprint to the other building in like five minutes). I listened to the voicemail and I was SO LIVID. It was like "Hey, ___ called off and you're the only other available person who knows how to close so we need you. The new people aren't trained enough. Also, I'd like to remind you that you called out last week so this would make it up to us because we don't have anyone else who can do it and ___ is already on overtime this week."

So I called back and I was gonna work it but I called and my manager was super pissed. I was like "I can work tonight" and he said, "You took too long so (overtime person) picked it up." I said I was sorry and that I was in all my classes so I couldn't call but he was not happy with me and now I'm mad. There was still about 4 hours until the shift would've started, I could've done it, sorry I have other fucking things going in my life and I can't drop everything on a whim because you called. This plus the guilt-trip (it was worse in the voicemail) made me so livid. It's not my fucking fault that you hired dumbasses that won't come into their brand new jobs and get trained and that you didn't think far enough in advance to hire new people who would be ready for when the seasoned barista's schedules change. It's not my fault you guys suck as managers so bad that we have the turnover rate we do. Why aren't the new people getting berated and fired for calling out this much but I call out for legitimate reasons and I get yelled at and I have to "make it up" to them? I am early for every shift and I do a good job. The new people call out frequently, are late, and have no-showed before. And since they haven't been trained and they end up working with me, I have to train them which is not part of my job and makes MY job harder because I'm still trying to get through my own tasks. I'm still learning and I don't know everything yet and yet I'm expected to teach new people.

I want to put in my two weeks now but I really want to find another job first, but I don't know how much more of this I can take. This place is gonna crash and burn soon and we might go out of business so I need to find something else.

No. 291500

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years.
Problem is, I don't like him anymore. I care about him deeply and love him, but I'm not romantically or sexually attracted to him. In fact, I'm not attracted to men at all anymore.
I've always preferred girls, but as time has gone on, I've found myself losing any and all attraction to men. And now it's happened.
The man I love is someone I can never truly love. It's hard. I don't want to hurt him and leave him. He does so much for me.
I'm sad. I'm trapped. I'm also afraid I'll never find a girl to love me, so I stay with him because I don't want to be alone.
I hate what I've gotten myself into. I feel so terrible for him but I can't end this relationship now. This relationship was supposed to last like a month, I never thought it'd last this long and now I feel like it's too late to leave.

No. 291509

>>291500
Don't lie to him and don't lie to yourself. It will only turn out worse in the long run if you withhold yourself from him and hold yourself back from being happy too. Maybe you should tell him if you truly feel that you see no romance between you in the future. It's not fair on him if you string him along just to save his feelings. It would suck for him for a little while and he would move on. Imagine how much more painful it would be if he found out 40 years from now that all that time you had zero interest in him sexually/romantically/etc? I dunno anon. Sounds like you need to have a word with him and think about what will be for the best.

No. 291535

>>291494
You sound a lot like a close friend I used to have.
Maybe try to make friends with people who are more quiet listeners than talkers themselves. I don't personally see anything wrong with oversharing and being so open, if anything it's a virtue. It really helps break the ice when someone just dumps who they are with ease instead of you having to awkwardly grill each other over the course of several weeks.

That's just my opinion, though. I'm not sure if your problem is that your personality is turning people off or if you just want to change yourself. If it's the latter I'm not sure you can change your personality easily, but if it's the former you just need to find the right people.

No. 291553

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I want to quit my shitty entry level job and take like 2-3 months to get myself together. This job as been the cause of so much stress, depression, nervous breakdowns, nightmares, physical injuries, etc. and I'm just done with it.

The problem is that I'm scared that my next job will be worse somehow or that it'll take awhile to find another, though 1.) the job market around here seems okay and 2.) I have ~$100k to fall back on should something happen like that.

I dunno what to do. I just want out asap because I feel like I've lost myself as a person working here.

No. 291557

I just got broken up with and I feel like an absolute worthless piece of garbage.

No. 291558

>>291553
how do you have 100k to fall back on

No. 291561

>>291558
My mom passed away a few years ago and left me a lot of life insurance money that I've just kept away in savings bc I dunno what to do with it.

No. 291602

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I'm housesitting for my sister and I look into my video history on YouTube to find videos I clearly didn't watch. Turns out my brother took my PS4. I'm so fucking livid. How many times do I have to tell you not to take my shit without talking to me about it first? This fucker made me feel like my Google account was compromised. I am so tired of this giant man child taking things from me because he never asks and he either misplaces shit or breaks it. You are 24 years old. Act like it.

No. 291664

for a long time I (and my therapist) have had suspicions that I was molested when I was younger but could never remember any specifics. mainly i've thought this because I knew about sex, at a very in depth level, at an early age and I remember my mom catching me watching porn when I was in 2nd grade (on a dinosaur old af computer lol, I was smart enough to know to try and clear the browser history but thought restarting the computer would do it) and i've always been weirdly obsessed and simultaneously repulsed by sex.
the other night though I had a really weird dream in which I saw someone who molested me …. I saw his face so clearly but I have no idea who it is. it didn't look like anyone I know, anyone in my family or anything. he had dark brown almost black hair and sideburns, well groomed. weirdly he looks a bit like my grandfather, who died like 5 years before I was even born. in the dream I met another kid who said he was molested by him, and I told him he did it to me too. it was just so weird and idk what it means. probably nothing but i'm just creeped out

No. 291665

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my roommates are throwing a big party at our place to celebrate the start of the semester and without thinking i invited a friend who i recently became pretty chummy with over the summer. the problem is that he doesn't know anyone there and doesn't really do well in super crazy extroverted situations, which is exactly what this party is going to be. i don't mind staying around with him the whole time to make sure he doesn't feel awkward, but i'm getting so much anxiety just from thinking about it. i'm afraid that i won't be able to talk to my other friends much during the party which would suck for them, and i'm afraid that my friend who i invited will have a shit time regardless because he won't like how intense it'll be (he already expressed reservations about it but said he would come for sure). i think he's only going because i asked him multiple times (when i was super drunk and didn’t think about how uncomfortable it would be for him) and he wants to be a good friend, but now i regret it because i feel like inevitably we won't have a good time… not to mention i'm also pretty introverted and not socially conscious so i won't be able to introduce him to other people. all this anxiety is coming from a big fear that i’m going to disappoint everyone. that my friend will be disappointed that this party i invited him to sucks (for him at least) and that my roommates/other friends will be disappointed that the friend i’ve been hanging out with so much might make a bad impression if he’s in a bad mood because the party is too overwhelming (which i wouldn’t blame him for). i just can’t stop thinking about it and now this event i was looking forward to is becoming so anxiety inducing.

No. 291666

>>291665
you can just tell him that you realized he might not enjoy the party and that he is free not to go if he thinks the same way

No. 291669

I was sleeping with my coworker for a very long time and caught feels for him, and he just told me that he's going to be exclusive with a girl he met on tinder and that we need to end things. I have to work with him tomorrow and I'm so upset. I feel like I need to find a new job or something, I'm not sure how I can work alongside him anymore.

No. 291679

>>291669
>Exclusive with a girl he met on Tinder

I feel like you will have the last laugh here. I've had guys tell me they found a gf and then get dumped by her the next week. Tinder, really? Announcing it to your fwb? Lol @ him. Stick around at the job so you can see him crying at work shortly.

No. 291680

>>291679
Yeah haha, he was seeing both of us for a while and the girl called him after like 3 weeks while he was at my place and she was crying about how she loved him and needed him to commit himself to her. He ended up spending an hour on the phone with this crazy chick calming her down and telling her he's not interested in dating, and like 2 weeks later they're exclusive lmao. I creeped her twitter while he was on the phone with her and she made like 200 tweets over the course of a few hours about how she loved him and she deserved to be the only girl in his life and a bunch of crazy clingy shit.

No. 291683

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>>291680
Anon you dodged a bullet. Any person willingly putting up with that shit and encouraging that kind of behaviour is not right in their own mind.
If he does come crying back to you, please update us so we can all enjoy his tears.

No. 291688

I got raped a couple of days ago by a stranger. I feel so stupid and guilty though, it was my fault.

I got drunk after work, (10/11pm or so) went to the park near the station to use the bathroom and ended up missing the last bus. Sat down to think what to do, some man came over, asked if I was ok, said he'd walk me back to the station and help me get a taxi (my Japanese is shitty so he could help) but I realized he was taking me in the wrong direction, he said something about a hotel, I thought oh ok, I'll stay at a hotel, take the bus home in the morning, I pointed to a business Hotel sign that showed a room with a single bed, a room for ME. But I was so drunk I didn't realize he took me into the hotel next door instead, I got the room, passed out on the bed, and drifted in and out of consciousness, I heard the shower running, a few minutes later, he was on top of me naked, ripping my clothes off, I was crying, quite loudly, and ugly, yelling, saying "please stop, don't", in English and Japanese. He didn't stop.. I was constantly begging, trying to push him off, crying, nothing worked.. when I tried to get my phone to call the police he threw me in the shower, I ran for the bathroom window, he dragged me out of the shower and pushed me down, I hit my head on the wall.. I tried getting my phone, I couldn't, he stopped me every time.. there was blood on the sheets.. I have a lump on my head, scratches, bruises, cuts.. logically I know it was rape, but I feel it was my fault for walking with this strange man.. being drunk alone at night.. he seemed ok in my drunken mind, he wasn't flirty, didn't try to touch me, seemed just concerned.. it makes me sick to think what kind of person could continue having sex with somebody who's wailing and begging them to stop though…..

No. 291697

>>291415

in case any of you were wondering how it ends, he called me this time and we basically came to an agreement that she's insane and we need some time away from each other for a while. we've both got mental shit to work out. we're expecting to get back together in 3 months or less.

sorry this is the least satisfying answer ever, but i did indeed call her insane and he came to a realization about her. so that's cool! thanks for the courage y'all gave me.

No. 291699

>>291688
Jesus anon I'm so fucking sorry that happened to you. Please take it easy and give yourself time to recover. Don't even get into the mental analysis right now and let your body and head recover.
Can you make a police report? Were there any cameras at the station or hotel?
I wish I could hug you and support you irl, fuck.

No. 291702

>>291697
I hope for you he's not going to dip his dick in crazy since you are 'on a break'.

No. 291704

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>>291688
Anon, almost this exact same thing happened to me when I was studying abroad in Korea. This is actually a "common" occurrence for foreign women in Japan and Korea (probably everywhere tho, tbh).

Reach out to people you trust when you feel ready. Take care of yourself. Practice a lot of self-love and care right now. Eat and drink things that you really enjoy.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm sending you a lot of love <3

No. 291708

>>291688
it was not your fault, you were begging him to stop and he didn't. He took advantage of your drunken state. you're not responsible. Sending you lots of love, take care anon <3

No. 291710

>>291688
Go to the police. Now. The longer you wait the bigger chance he'll get away with it.
t. Lawyer anon

No. 291715

>>291708
she fucking went to a hotel with a stranger, basically asked for it(bait)

No. 291717

>>291688
Anon, I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's not your fault, he took advantage of you knowing you were drunk and probably didn't speak Japanese very well. I think you should report it if you can.

No. 291726

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No. 291758

>>291688
I'm in Japan right now and I've never been happier to be a bitch-faced fat fuck with a boyfriend to get drunk with. Holy shit anon!

The men here strike me as conniving. Just the other day I saw an attractive white woman in a dress get catcalled in broad daylight by two men skulking behind her on bikes.
It's fucking creepy and I feel many are opportunistic. Would the hotel be willing to work with police to find the identity of this man? I can't believe there's nothing to be done…

No. 291777

>>291710
lmao japanese police will not care.

No. 291781

People that gossip about others to me make me feel so bad inside, it's a feeling of tightness in my chest.

Even worse when they say shit like

>person A said nasty thing B about you one month ago


Like, that's not even relevant to my life. Why would you want me to know someone said something about me long time ago? It's not like I'll confront the person or me knowing this will change anything.
It only makes me feel sad and want to avoid talking to the one gossiping.
I wish I was less sensitive to that kind of stuff, but gossip really does leave a bitter taste in my mouth and even contributed to my first real hardcore depression episode back in HS, why can't people just not say hurtfull things when nothing will come out of that?

No. 291782

>>291781
why the fuck are you on lolcow anon? do you only care if it's happening to you?

No. 291786

>>291758
>>291777
I suddenly remember the weebs always pushung the "Japan has the lowest amount of sex crimes reported so guro loli rape porn obvipusly works" meme. What a bullshit.

I am so sorry, original anon. It was not your fault at all. A normal, kind person, men or woman, would help you out so that you would avoid getting taken advantage by some creep. Your rapist is a disgusting predator and I hope he rots.

No. 291798

>>291782
I only stay in /ot/ for the venting, gender critic and stuff. If I lurk for more than 30min at the other boards I also start to feel icky.
I don't really have friends so I can only vent here or with my therapist once a week.

>do you only care if it's happening to you?

I don't really gossip about other people, it makes me feel very unconfortable and guilty afterwards because I know everyone is fighting their own personal battles, even if what they do hurt me in some way.

No. 291801

>>291798
I somehow knew you would say that. You realize this board is also filled with gossip, right? You anons who totes only browse /ot/ are always so fucking cringy.

No. 291804

>>291801
Sorry you feel that way about how I browse this anonymous board anon.
I don't think that people that wnjoy gossip are morally corrupt or anything like that, it's just that it makes me feel kind of depressed.

No. 291823

>>291804
Why don't you get some friends?

No. 291831

>>291823
Obviously they will just tell her about gossip and make her depressed. She has to stay here where there is no gossip at all!

No. 291837

That one anon who gets into infights with people and starts obsessing over them and claiming everyone is them

A lot of people here can greatly benefit from therapy

No. 291838

>>291837
go to bed.

No. 291839

>>291683
No real update, but I have to work with him this evening and really think I oughta call in sick. I already told my boss I needed a mental health day and he said its fine, but to let him know for sure in a few hours

No. 291927

I can't stop thinking how I wish I was dead. I just want to rest from life, forever. I crave the eternal sleep. I am so exhausted and empty.

At the same time, I cry when I think about my parents dying and I miss being a bright, happy child that felt loved and had whole life to experience. Now I am a broken, exhausted piece of shit

No. 291947

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I'm in love with a broken man while being a broken woman. I've never felt as comfortable as I am with him. No my heart doesn't flutter anymore for anyone, but he makes me the happiest I have ever been in ages. When I get the chance to talk to him I get so happy, I can never stop smiling. He's so cute. He's all I ever wanted from a man. I want to make him happier. He tells me how undeserving he is to have me, but if only he could realize I'm the undeserving one. I really love him and I hope all goes well that someday we marry.

No. 291956

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I think I'm getting ridiculously obsessive over my inability to look good in photos. I'm pretty confident in with myself in every day life; I think I generally look pretty cute, I'm just very unphotogenic. I've avoided cameras all my life but in the last few years I've tried to stop it just because it'd be nice to have some group photos with my friends to keep as memories. But the truth is, I look fucking hideous in every single one – and it's not all in my head since my friends often agree and say stuff like "oh don't worry, we can crop you out of this, it's not a flattering photo" before uploading it to Instagram or whatever.

It's gotten to the point where I'm googling stuff about fillers and plastic surgery almost daily, I'm thinking about losing weight even though I'm usually pretty happy with my body otherwise.. all this because, what, I want to look in selfies? It makes no fucking sense and I know it but I can't stop worrying over it.

No. 291988

>>291956
I feel you, anon. I remember reading somewhere about certain camera lenses really fucking up your face, but it's not like you can get professionally photographed each time lmao. I also think people with prominent features look strange in photos no matter what. I don't know if that's the case for you, but it certainly is for me.

Do you look better in video? I remember for years just thinking I was the ugliest person until I saw myself in a video. We were doing some high school nonsense and I remember realizing "oh? I'm not entirely irredeemable."

No. 292027

>>291956
Just because you look like ass in photos doesn't mean you look that way irl. Short lenses (what you find on phones) will exaggerate your features upclose and flatten them at a distance. If you have a big nose, stand in the back of group photos. If you have a chubby/flatter face, stand in the front. Lighting also plays a huge role. Direct light will cast harsher shadows than ambient light. To reduce cast shadows try and face the light source.

No. 292030

>>292027
To add on to this, the rule also applies to solo selfies. If you have a large nose/prominent features, hold the camera as far from your face as possible. It will exaggerate whatever is closest to the lens, which will most likely be your nose. If you have a rounder/flatter face feel free to get closer to the lens to slim your features.

No. 292037

>>292030
These are great tips. Phone cameras suit those with wider and rounder faces as they make them look more elegant. However longer distance photos make them aka me) look like we have moonfaces. In the mirror my face is just normal proportions so cameras really do a fuckery.

One thing is to note what specific thing is exaggerated or shrunk, and when you go out with your friends wear some makeup or do your hair in a way to oppose that. If your hair looks flat: Big hair. If your features look prominent, heavy eye makeup and or lips to distract.

No. 292053

what is wrong with men

No. 292055

>>292053
Relatable content.

No. 292079

>>292053
Big mood

No. 292091

>>291680
damn anon a similar thing happened to me. guy wouldn't commit to me for like 8 months (yeah, im dumb) bc he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, like a week later I go on facebook and he's fb official with another girl, a girl he ranted to me about how crazy and clingy and annoying she was. my advice is to look hot as fuck at work, and maybe not the best advice but seeing another guy can help you get over the feels (having better sex with another guy helped me realize he wasn't all that lol). it's so annoying how dudes fall for that crazy girl shit

No. 292162

regretting the fact that i passed up an old friend's offer to try out dating. he's with a girl now who treats him like shit and i feel so pissed at myself for not just GOING with it back when he tried to initiate. he fucking loves her apparently even though she's so rude to him and they have broken up in the past

i'm kicking myself because i find him attractive and fun to be around and i'm just fucking regretting everything. it's so rare that i actually find a person who i like in a romantic way, but also the convenience of knowing them beforehand… i won't get that again. fucking ugh

No. 292164

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I'm so ugly most trooners look better than me. Lol.

No. 292171

>>291553
Take a lower stress part time job so you don't have to explain a resume gap while you figure things out. It'll keep you from being bored all the time too.

No. 292180

>>292164
I doubt that, anon! Troons always look disgusting up close and in person. Biological tend to look better, even the frumpier ones.

No. 292181

>>292180
meant to say biological ladies*

No. 292182

>>291956
I dunno why, but i look horrible in most photos. I look fine when i look in the mirror, but as soon as i hold a camera lens to my face, it looks weird and off proportion.

Sometimes you just gotta find your angles and work them

No. 292183

>>292053
Literally everything. Everyday.

No. 292224

I really want to get back into barbell lifting because I actually really enjoyed that back when I was more physically active. I lost a lot of weight back when I was doing it and was in the best shape of my life. However, I could never get over the embarrassing feeling of being a small girl among all these guys. It didn’t help that I didn’t make much gains since I wasn’t eating a lot at the time. I had a guy once tell me (albeit nicely) that I needed to go to lifting machines instead and it left me feeling so embarrassed that I stopped. I haven’t done any lifting (or too much exercise really) in years since I started grad school and am now slightly flabby and a bit out of shape. I just wish I could get over my feelings of embarrassment of doing something other than jogging on a treadmill.

No. 292231

I already posted this rant back in a few threads ago and there was a nice comment on the subject. Still, this is lingering in my mind.

Back in March I was falsely accused by some guy in Goth club that I insulted his son and he's a friend with club owner. (WTF I didn't know he had one) He was clearly trying to manipulate me and got very aggressive, so at the time I resorted to physical but it ended up worse… The owner and him banned me and blocked me on Facebook immediately

My goth friends who was living in this city longer than me (I just moved in last year) told me they're cliquey and full of drama anyway so they don't wanna go there anymore. So I'd rather avoid them later now

But I've got an issue dealing with false accusation and I don't know how I can deal with it… It's an incoherency in my mind. Did I really insulted his son, would it be better to delude myself that I did something? They are not a threat anymore but it sucks.. wrong perception of me is out there

Also he, and many elder goths there look like pure losers who act like they're still in high school and post loads of iamverybadass and iamverysmart worthy contents on fb.

No. 292251

my brother is having a meltdown because the manipulative cunt just rang him up and hit him with all his trigger points to make him enrage and start infighting with me and everyone else. I tried to tell him that he's playing into her game but he's cavemale brain can't put aside his emotions for one second and think logically about what is actually happening and calls me disgusting for not out right believing a narcs lies. lel.

I wish this cunt would just leave me and my family alone. I hate when "family" just doesn't understand that they're not family anymore. piss off. I'm so over it.

No. 292274

The classes in my uni always are full so quickly.
I often stay up late or wake up early so that I can register, but it sometimes still doesn't work.

Today we could register starting from 9am.
At 8.59 I tried: nothing
At 9.00: the course is already full, you're on the waiting list

That's so frustrating. Why can't they just make bigger classes or offer more about the same topic (I know that it's because of money, but it still feels unfair…)
It feels like I won't be able to graduate because I can't seem to get in all the classes I need.

No. 292279

>>291956
I feel this too. Whenever I look in the mirror at home or even at work (where the lighting is awful) I feel really cute, but when I try to take a photo or get photos back from some event I always look like ass in every single one and feel like shit for days. Fillers wouldn’t help me; I’d need a jaw shave or something. It doesn’t help that cameras and photographers make me extremely uncomfortable, which causes me to look even worse in photos, which makes me more insecure around cameras etc. It’s a vicious cycle and I have no idea how to get out of it. My family is always complaining that they have no photos of me but when I show them photos of me taken at events, they usually agree that they’re not good and stop asking.

No. 292287

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i got a new job recently (retail shit but whatever it's money) and now i don't get as much time to talk with my boyfriend as i want and i KNOW i'm being a little bitch baby about it but i love him and i miss him

No. 292307

>>292274
I feel you. I'm groveling to the department heads and professors via email to try to get into the classes I need.

No. 292344

Being around my bf is very emotionally tiring for me. He yells at me for not smiling at works at restaurants/stores, a few months ago he got angry at me because at tim Hurtons I ordered a sausage, egg biscuit with cheese with strawberry jelly(he also got angry because I called it jelly and not jam)….he was angry because he feels I was ordering too much and making the workers feel annoyed, he's also bitched a two me for having chipped nail polish and too long shoe laces, he yelled at me for dropping a disposable plastic cup behind the toilet and forgetting to pick it up. It's like every time I'm around him he finds some small shit to complain about and blows it up to be bigger than it is, idk if he's an asshole or if I'm just too stubborn to change. Everytime I'm around him it's like I'm being drained because it's constant complaining about everything I do. He also cares way too much about what people think to the point it is retarded, we went to the natural museum of art and he spent 10$ on the tickets when he could have just donated a dollar, his reason for blowing money was "I don't want the workers to think I'm cheap" despite bitching all day about money and being cheap about food he can just throw 10$ in the trash for no reason.

No. 292345

>>292344
Smiling at workers*

No. 292355

>>292344
>that pisspoor sentence structure
She's fucking everywhere, the ESL shitbrains europoor
she's crazy, don't reply

No. 292369

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I've come to the sudden realization that I fucking hate my job. I want to quit so badly but I know it's a bad idea. I make above minimum wage + tips at my job and if I quit I'll have to start out at minimum wage again which sucks, because I'm trying to save up as much money as possible before I move out next year. But God, I've become so disillusioned with everything at my current job. This is petty, but part of the reason why I really wish I could quit is because I know it would fuck them over so hard because I'm the most experienced employee they have here and finding someone to replace me for all the hours I work would be a nightmare for them.

My sister has some connections and one of her old coworkers is a manager at a clothing store that recently opened up. She told me that they're hiring and I would almost certainly get the job if I applied. She also said that I would probably make at least a dollar above minimum wage… (plus in Jan 2019 minimum wage in my state is going up by a dollar, and I know my bosses at my current job won't give me a raise to adjust for it.) I'm so tempted to take that job and quit my current one, but I think I'm too much of a pussy to actually do anything. Ugh. I also have to leave for my shift soon and I'm dreading it so hard. I'm so fed up with this shit.

No. 292372

>>292344
You clearly have no spine. Just leave.

No. 292374

>>292355
Im the op of that post…anon what are you talking about?lol
I'm not even European, I'm from Detroit.

No. 292377

>>292375
Excuses, excuses.

Your bf seems like an asshole but you also seem like an asshole for someone making a donation with their own money. You guys are made for each other lmao

No. 292379

>>292372
>you have no spine

Yeah but because I was raised in such an abusive household I have no idea how to tell if someone is being abusive or if they're in the right. Honestly, I'm just getting tired of relationships but at the same time I have such a hard to making female friends so without my bf I'd have no one…even though at this point talking to him isn't even enjoyable because all he wants to do is complain/argue which means it doesn't even help with loneliness.

No. 292382

>>292377
>donation

I didn't have an issue with him donating the money, the issue was he was complaining all day about money and wont that even buy himself food. Also, his reasoning for donating was "I don't want people to think I'm cheap" not "I want to donate to keep this place running and help people", it was a completely self absorbed and image based decision. The museum is donations only because they want it available for people who don't have any money.

No. 292383

>>292379
Cliche response incoming:
>dump him

If you're financially stable on your own, going your own way for a while is better than spending your life with someone who hates you.

No. 292386

>>292383
Im stable on my own. He says he loves me but it seems like he actually feels nothing but annoyance by me. I think what he wants is just some quiet girl with no emotions who just smiles and does everything the way he feels she be done, I don't think he wants a gf, I think he wants an ornament…I've mentioned this to him before but he Denies it. He wants to get married but I said no because I won't be happy with him for the rest of my life.

No. 292387

>>292386
If you don't see a future with him why are you wasting each others time

No. 292391

>>292387
Im hoping he will mature within the next few years. Im his first gf so I hope this is all because he's new to this…that's probably just wishful thinking. I'm just being honest with myself, I'm not going to make any friends or get another bf. I'd rather have someone to talk to sometimes instead of being completely isolated.

No. 292457

>>292391
i hate to break it to you but he probably won't mature if you guys are still together…he has relationship security and many people, men and women, kind of check out when they have that. a lot of people in general need a big slap to the face to mature at all, and while you're together he probably won't really experience anything like that.

No. 292474

i really want to reconnect with an old childhood friend, i even found her on facebook but we havent spoken in 5+ years and i dont want to seem like a creep.

No. 292479

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I moved to a foreign country to live with my boyfriend and his parents and I feel like I made a mistake.
I'm trying to learn the language as much as I can and some people speak English, but I just feel so isolated and like I've lost all my freedom.
To make matters worse, his parents don't really speak English so we constantly have to use bf to translate things, which makes it extremely awkward when it's just his parents and I alone. His mother doesn't work and stays home all day, so I never ever feel like leaving my room because I just feel so judged and like I'm intruding on her space because her "room" is the living room. So I pretty much spend all day in bed watching stupid fucking YouTube videos or go online. Not to mention I feel like I can have no privacy with bf because his mother is constantly calling for him to talk about stupid shit.
I'm just so tired of not being able to have conversations or even just understand them with his family. They are also extremely emotional people and often they all fight with one another.
I just don't really know what to do. I'm hoping that when I get a job it will get better and I won't have to worry about money so much/I'll get to leave the house more, but I can't shake the feeling that I should just go back home (not like I have any family/friends there either though).

Tl;dr I feel socially fucked and uncomfortable in a foreign country and I feel like I've lost all my freedom.

No. 292487

>>292474

People reconnect on social media all the time; so don't worry :) maybe your friend wants to meet you just as bad. never try - never know! it's definitely worth a try and better than forever wondering what could have been.

No. 292493

>>292382
If you can't respect your partners decisions then why don't you find another partner that you will? Do you want validation that it's fine to keep dating him or something? kek

>>292391
You sound dumb. You deserve him.

No. 292494

It gets depressing when suddenly a lot of new actresses and actors are younger than you. Also when you have to scroll way down to select your year of birth.

> tfw 30 year old boomer

No. 292496

>>292493
>Coming to a vent thread to act like a dumb cunt
Forgot to take your meds today, Sally?

No. 292499

>>292494
I'm 2 years off 30 and I feel you. I also feel kind of jealous that with the knowledge of the internet and tutorials on youtube ect, all these young girls are skipping the awkward stage and going straight to hot. It tooks years of grooming and exercise for me to become attractive yet all these young girls are getting fillers and shit so young. All of them look like bratz dolls. Like they know how to bake and contour at like 13, it's insane. It's all about aesthetic now and not personality. Like when Paris Hilton was a thing everyone wanted to be like her. These days she wouldn't compare to a kardashian or an insta thot. The standards are way too high these days, and it's impossible to keep up.

No. 292507

>>292344
You need to dump him or fully communicate properly to him that his behaviour is hurting you.
If he refuses to work on it then you really shouldn't wait around. I wasted a year with a man who was alcoholic hoping he would change but he refused to get help. I then wasted 3 years of my life with a controlling asshole. People who just yell at their partners instead of communicating disdain are a huge red flag. The fact that it's his first relationship can excuse a few things, but only so much, and a few things you've mentioned about him already make md think he isn't a very nice person. He sounds insecure and controlling which is toxic as fuck.

Unlike other anons, I think you sound more young and naive than you do stupid, but trust me when I say if it isn't making you happy leave.

I also understand not wanting to speak up in fear of causing a fight, but you really need to talk to him, he's never going to learn otherwise

No. 292508

>>292499
Yeah, in general, I feel envious of younger people because I think that they have so much more information on disposal that can help them in many ways, not just beauty, but things related to education and work.
I also wish I had discovered lolcow sooner.

Now, the internet existed in my teenage years and there was something comfy about, as in, not everyone used it and it felt like a closed circle of e-friends, but the internet lacked much of the info it has today, which makes sense. But still, it kind of sucks.

Related to your post, I don't know how I'd cope with these insane beauty standards, it may be one of the few things that makes me glad not to be a teenager post-2010s.

No. 292509

>>292391
Dude I'd rather be alone than get yelled at for everything. Just because you don't have female friends it doesn't mean you should stay with this asshole for company. It's called the internet, make new friends or get a new bf online, you don't need to go out to do that!

No. 292512

>>292508
Same. I've always been quite body dysmorphic and used to compare my body and face with celebs constantly, but now celebs and models basically look like mannequins and naturally pretty almost kind of seems homely now.
I'm a sensitive person but definitely wouldn't have coped being a teen in this age.

No. 292514

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>>292507
I've already tried to communicate and it lead to him telling me this, I guess he's right that I shouldn't throw trash on the bus floor(I dropped a candy wrapper on the bus of the greyhound.). Anyway I took your guys advice and broke up with him because I realize we just don't pair right with each other.

No. 292517

>>292514
Really, littering public services?
He should be the one dumping you, good riddance for him

No. 292518

>>292517
Pretty much this.
Littering is subhuman behavior.

No. 292519

>>292517
Yeah it's its the best for both of us(the dropping of the candy wrapper was an accident by the way)but instead of just telling me I dropped something he flips out. I have no problem with him telling me if I'm doing something wrong, the issue is how he says things too me.

No. 292524

>>292519
And I'd like to add ive done a lot of annoying things in our relationship. I talk to monotone, sometimes I don't really care that much about my appearance in public, a lot of the times I'm clumsy and unaware of my surroundings. I think all of these personality traits I have combined will just get irritating to a person after a while…so even if he feels unhappy with the decision I think he will be happier in the long run. I also really hate how he nit picks my appearance so much, like he will point at the moles on my face and say "no offense they look nasty"But if I suggest a new hair cut for him or something he calls me an idiot and claims I'm comparing him to other men. He tries to control what I wear too which really annoys me….for example I saw this cute sweater and he said he didn't want me to wear it around him, I also can't wear high heels around him because I'm taller than him with them on. I really just don't get a long with anyone but my family. I've tried having relationships and boyfriends but it just doesn't ever work out. Maybe it's me, maybe it is him or maybe it's a combo of both but one thing is true and that is we don't work together.

No. 292525

>>292524
Good job. He's an asshole, hey you might be a bit dorky and unaware but saying your moles look nasty and calling you stupid and controlling what you wear is fucking awful. Trust me anon, I am an introvert and I managed to eventually get myself friends and a partner. I also had a boyfriend in the past that sounds just like your partner. I thought I was ugly for years even though I would work out and try and look my best. Eventually I worked out it was only him that said these awful things and the people that actually mattered to me would tell me all the time that they like things about me. Good people build you up, toxic selfish insecure assholes break you down.

I kind of wish I could be your friend anon, only because you sounc so sad. But trust me, you've made the right choice in dumping him.

No. 292526

>>292524
>suggests a haircut style
>flips out and accuses you of wanting other dudes
>controls what you wear

Anon wtf, he's crazy. He's right, you shouldn't litter and maybe he wants you to act a bit more adult in public, but if you love someone you don't shame them for stuff, not to mention he sounds childish himself. How did you even meet this dropkick?

No. 292528

>>292524
What do you find doesn't work out when it comes to friendships or relationships in general?

No. 292529

>>292514
Chinese dog? He sounds racist af.
Are you or him asian? Also, more screen shots of his complaints, I'm intrigued and he sounds like a wanker.

No. 292531

>>292479
Do you mind saying which country it is?

Do you go to college or work there?
If you can, take some language classes, it will help you meet people and learn.

No. 292533

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>>292531
The Netherlands.
I will have to look into that, I hadn't really thought of going to language classes since I'm worried about money. I lost a lot of my savings (almost half) because of my home countries horrible dollar and conversion rate to Euros.
Dutch people don't really fuck around with small talk etc. which makes it so much harder to "cold approach" people too.

I feel like such a baby complaining about this because I've been able to go to a new country but I've literally spent 80% of my time in bed. I just lost so much independence and freedom (my own place, a car, my job, my hobbies) and it's killing me.

No. 292546

>>292514
He's still okay with you littering, because he suggests you put it in a Dunkin Donuts bag or the netting on the back of the chair, he just didn't like it when you left it on the floor. So he's THAT controlling that he's literally telling you how to litter. Omg. What a crazy. Tell me more anon

No. 292547

>>292533
At least you have the internet to chat to people. Your situation sounds bad though. I can see why you feel like this.

No. 292549

>>292533
Aren't his parents pissed that a foreign woman who doesn't speak their language and has no job is living in their house and then lays in bed all day instead of at least doing chores? They must be saints.

No. 292552

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>>292546
Yeah he's not mad that I littered he's madthat I don't litter the way he wants me to
>>292529
No we are both white
>>292526
Sometimes I don't even know what exactly he wants me to do. I met him on lol.
>>292528
People always complain that I'm too shy/immature or I just don't connect with people in the first place
>>292525
I feel like I'll probably never have any friends or a relationship because I'm too socially awkward to connect with people even online

No. 292559

>>292549
Wat lol
Obviously I pay rent, I buy and cook my own meals and I clean my own messes. I'm unsure of how you assumed I didn't do any of that from my original post. I treat this house as if I were renting it myself.
They also do not speak Dutch at home, they are immigrants themselves.
>>292547
I don't really talk to anyone online either, besides the farmers on this board.

No. 292571

>>292493
ty anon, i just sent her a friend request i hope she accepts :)

No. 292572

>>292571
>>292487
sorry, wrong person

No. 292607

does anyone have a history of emotionally mistreating your prospective romantic partners/never taking them seriously because of the way women are treated by men, and because we're seen as so disposable and hated, so you assume your actions don't matter at all and they never cared about you? like, leading them on, ghosting, dropping them, etc? i would usually ghost because i assumed they wanted me gone but were afraid to tell me so.

i did this to my now SO years ago, for years, and i know i damaged the relationship because of it, and it feels like he'll never understand. it feels so shitty now. he acts like it's because i never liked him and preferred other people, but it had nothing to do with that and he refuses to listen.

because of the way het relationships are, and just because of the way people are selfish in general, i think it's reasonable for us to not take men seriously and for us to assume our actions don't really affect them, imo.

obviously, it sucks if you do this to a good one that did care, but i think it's understandable for women to do this, because men are taught we're disposable and often treat us as such, and i find that most men don't typically care about their 'interests', girlfriends, or even wives, on a human level.

No. 292634

>>292607
The same men who would get upset at how you acted would walk all over you and use you if you let them. I have had both experiences and being the confident no-shits-given type who """"hurt""""" men's feefees was a much better deal. Caring about men is a mistake. Btw I have never lied or manipulated, they get hurt when their declarations of love and etc don't work or you don't wanna kiss them.

No. 292639

>>292634
Thank you, that's what I felt and still feel. I also grew up being physically and mentally abused all my life by my dad who has slept with, used, and physically abused literally hundreds to thousands of women (not an exaggeration, that is literally all that my father lives for: to pick up, use, and abuse women), and having seen this, I obviously have issues.

I still feel like all they do is manipulate especially with "oh I loved you, you hurt my feelings!!" when they forget about us the next day.

Idk, I just feel like my SO should be more understanding of the reason why I didn't put much stock into him and why I seemed so uncaring and aloof and acted bitchy, etc. Admittedly, I really treated him like shit, but its not like women don't have a reason to be ESPECIALLY afraid of being vulnerable - let alone women that have grown up with abuse and seen firsthand exactly how fucking disposable we are to men, and how they'll try to fuck with us and pretend their lives are in shambles and try to make us feel guilty for nothing, just to be spiteful. I'm really tired of not being listened to though. He treats me like Ive lied about all the abuse I've endured and acts like I don't have good reason to have acted aloof, and then insane, at times.

No. 292642

Help I miss my ex but I love my bf too ;_;

No. 292647

I dread crossing paths with trannie beggars so much.
They're always intimidating and follow me, even after saying I have no money, straight hobos never do that.
Also, in my city the beggars started saying this annoying thing when you say you have no money
>I dont want money
>I just need you to buy me X item/food
Like m8, buying things costs moneynyou know?

No. 292654

I’m 18 and was in a relationship with a 30 something year old man for several months where I was living with him. he took control of my financial assets, cheated on me, and at one point had sodomized me against my will. he was selling copious amounts of drugs which we were both dependent on. I have just recently saved up enough money in secret and worked up the courage to flee America because I was afraid of his drug connections and am currently living on another continent with a boy much closer to me in age who I have been online friends with for several years. I was initially planning to commit suicide after spending a week here but after getting sober and spending time with this person and his family, who has been kind enough to let me stay with them while I apply for a visa and for school and get a job (so long as I am actively working towards this and staying sober,) I have decided to live. I’m so happy with who I am with and very much in love but feeling very in shock and overwhelmed. My ex boyfriend keeps texting me insisting that he has no will to live without me and that he’s going to fly out here. My family has been supportive because they were deeply concerned with my previous situation but are still understandably worried sick and I don’t want to hurt them like this but i have fallen in love and the situation with my ex’s drug connections was very dire and I think if I stayed there I would have died, either from an overdose or being killed in some way. The night I was going to kill myself I sent out a suicide note video to some people and half of them messaged me telling me they didn’t care. I realize it was manipulative of me and I realize now suicide isn’t the solution but I guess it just hurts because I was very close with some of them for several years. I feel like I am starting over and having to rebuild my entire life from the ground up.

No. 292655

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>tfw pretty but autismo
>tfw nobody approaches me (girls and guys alike) because i'm "intimidating"

and i wouldn't even think i was pretty if i haven't heard a bunch of variants of "i was afraid to talk to you because you're pretty/i was nervous around you/i didn't expect you to be so nice" throughout my school days

it doesn't help that i go to an engineering school so everybody else is turbo autismo like me. i just want engineering gal pals but they all seem scared of me. when i'm probably more intimidated by everybody else…

No. 292665

A friend of mine is always talking how much money she spends on practically anything expensive (game consoles, concert tickets, merchandise, electronics ect) and it makes me feel like shit. I'm pretty insecure about wealth/affordability even though my family lives rather decently and I personally only splurge on merchandise and concert tickets every so often (and often feel guilty for doing so). I know I'm being petty but I can't stand it if you're going to only talk about how much money you spend on luxuries on social media. It just makes it sound like you're bragging to me.

No. 292685

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>visiting foreign country
>got sick
>have to walk/stand for more than 12 hours a day
>weather is humid, hot, and gross
>for some reason the city I'm visiting doesn't believe in public benches or selling otc pain medication

My feet are fucking killing me. I have arch support insoles, but they're not helping anymore because we do so much shit. Every day I develop new blisters and they pop during the day when I'm walking, even if I bandaid wrap them. It's painful. My pinky toe blistered over so badly that the skin shred off, it's slightly swollen and I can't find any antibiotic ointment in stores because apparently you need to visit a pharmacy and get prescribed for everything? Even aspirin.
To be fair, my feet have always blistered easily even as a child but at least I had access to some fucking pain relief if needed.

Worst of all I feel like my bf is low key begrudging me even when he says he's not. I ask him to slow down or tell him we gotta call it quits. He does it, but I can tell he loathes it.
I wish he'd be more caring and sensitive, and understand how painful it is. He walks ahead of me and leaves me practically in the dust. Doesn't help that I'm short and have a small gait to begin with.
He has no problem because he's got nasty callused man feet and is used to being on them all day because of his job.

Yet it's too much for me. We're out in the daytime for 9+ hours (with less than an hour of breaks including eating, sitting, and drinking), and then he wants to turn around and go for nighttime bullshit. It drives me crazy because he never has a plan for what he wants to do.
>hurr let's wander aimlessly!
Gee bf, if I didn't feel like someone took a sledgehammer to my feet and immune system that would be grand! If there was a plan? Sure, at least I could count down and act like there's a goalpost for when I can finally saw off my feet. But nope. He just expects me to move indefinitely.

I think I'm being a good sport all things considered. Most people I know wouldnt even fuck with walking a single mile in this weather if they had to deal with no pain relief while being sick, and fucking forget the foot issue. Most locals aren't caught dead commuting in the day like we are.
We just have so much to do and see though, by night I've had it.

By the time we get back to our hotel I'm in tears. Bf gets whimpy because I get snappy from the stress of pain. He's too beta and cheap to get us a taxi anywhere, even though it's my money too.

I mean I want to do all these things, but physically I'm limited and it's very frustrating. On the other hand, I also feel like I'm doing plenty and maybe bf just had too high expectations for what we could reasonably accomplish.

No. 292727

>>292533
>>292559
Ah, Ive heard about the small talk thing, that sucks.

I still think you should take up some classes, not only will you have more reasons to learn the languge but also meet new people and break out of your shell more. Hell maybe you could help people out who are learning your language? And later get job as a tour guide or something like that

No. 292728

>>292685
It doesn't sound like you're very compatible traveling partners, but your post is so passive, you talk like only he can make decisions.
>It drives me crazy because he never has a plan for what he wants to do.
Can't you make the plans?
>He's too beta and cheap to get us a taxi anywhere, even though it's my money too.
It's your money, why do you let him dictate how you spend it?

And finally, why don't you just split up? There's no reason to be joined at the hip, he's a grown man and he can go do shit on his own without dragging you along. I can understand wanting to pack as much stuff as possible into a trip to make the most of it, but it's pointless if you're just going to suffer. Just go recharge in your hotel for a few hours and meet back up for dinner or something, I'm low energy and that's how I survive trips. Also hydrocolloid bandaids if you can find them at a pharmacy.

No. 292797

>>292655
You're probably not pretty.

No. 292798

>>292728
>Can't you make the plans?
It's annoying to be the one always having to make them for 4 years going, that's all. It's hard to explain. I just wanted an easy vacation, and some consideration. Someone else to call the shots for once. I know how it sounds though.

>it's your money, why do you let him dictate how you spend it?

I found out the city has Uber.
I put my literal foot down and I'm in an air conditioned car as we speak. Yay!

No. 292826

>>292797
Not even the anon you were replying to, but you are probably a cunt.

>>292655
I've known a few girls with similar problems. Quite attractive but find it hard to make friends because even though they look the part, they are too introverted to approach other girls and in some cases being quiet and attractive can give off vibes of intimidation because people usually assume cute or attractive girls are bubbly and outgoing.

If I were you anon, I'd keep trying to socialize. Working in retail helped me fake confidence and learn to approach people. Keep practising chatting and small talk and try asking someone about their fave tv shows. I understand being terrified of other girls especially the attractive ones but they are probably just as nervous as you. Once you get talking, they should open up a bit more.

No. 292837

>>292091
Just redownloaded tinder but I'm not really interested in any of that. The more I dwell on it, the worse I feel. Also kinda update, I made a tweet about how pretty girls shouldn't be hung up on ugly guys, and checked his new girls twitter and she subtweeted me like immediately after I tweeted my passive aggressive shit. Like don't you have anything better to do than wait around for me to mention ur bf so you can act all high and mighty? She's acting like she "won" and it pisses me off. I'm really worried he's going to bring her around our work (we work retail), I'm not sure I can deal with that. Our staff is also super tight knit, so this makes things very uncomfortable. I wonder if its reasonable for me to ask him not to grab drinks after work if i'm there?

No. 292853

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I feel like a selfish bish shit older sibling cos I blew off my little bro's plans to come hang out with me cos the football finals are on and I can't miss it. I'd rather watch finals and get pissy drunk by myself instead. Feels bad. He was really looking forward to it.

No. 292855

A couple of days ago I noticed a ~3 cm long lump on my ribcage under my breast and I'm freaking out. I absolutely hate going to the doctor's and on top of that I am alone in a foreign country where I don't speak the language very well.
But then again if I don't get it checked out I will only obsess about it more and more. I really hope it's not cancerous..

No. 292856

>>292853
Why didn't you invite him to watch it with you? Sounds like the best of both world to me but idk.

No. 292858

One of my male friend tried to kiss me during a movie last night and I dodged the shit out of it while acting like I didn't even understand what he was trying to do. But now I feel kinda dumb because I think he's cute and I like him. I just think I have a fucked up attachment style and it scared the shit out of me. Like, I'm okay with having him as a good friend watching a movie and cuddling, but kissing and all that, it feels like next I'm going to have obligations towards him.

No. 292860

>>292856
He's only 10. He'd get bored after 5 minutes and wanna put on Harry Potter or Play fortnite plus I have to watch on a tiny iPhone 5 screen. :/

No. 292869

>>292858
Are you me??? This happened to me months ago and I've avoiding hanging out but I have a crush on him (and have had before it happened)

No. 292893

I’ve been feeling really depressed and suicidal lately
Most of it is because of my job and all this responsibility they’re shoving onto me, the lack of support/help from my other coworkers and the no days off and working 13 hour shifts every day
I usually play video games with a small group of online friends and we have great times and usually cheers me up

Last night though I felt so dead the entire time we played and forced emotions and laughs
They’re really apart of the reason I hold back on wanting to kill my self besides my cats but honestly after last night…I feel disconnected from them and really pushed out

Thinking about actually killing myself sometime this week though

No. 292905

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I woke up with a bad lower back pain yesterday morning and immediately told my boss before going into work. I asked her if i could do lighter work load (like clothing)- i work at a thrift store.

She told me if i didnt go to my station to do my usual heavy lifted, she'd make me go home and i'd lose my entire day's pay.

I fucking hate this bitch. she went on a rant on how she's doing everyone favors and i should be grateful. I want to call HR about this. Today is my day off, but i'm still in so much pain.

No. 292906

>>292893
Please dont kill yourself anon. Are there any other jobs lined up that you can try for/work for??

At my home, i get told to smile more by my male coworkers and i want to punch them in the throat.
This job isnt the end of everything. Please try to look at the bigger picture.. I'm sorry you have to work such long days though. that would take a toll on anyone.

No. 292907

>>292893
What games do you play? I have a Ps4 account and use discord.

No. 292918

this probably such a petty and stupid thing to talk about, but i hate everything about myself. its been like this since i was little. ever since i found out about plastic surgery i swore to myself i would get some to "save my face". im also not very good at social interaction, so i always feel like i come off as weird or annoying to my friends and just everyone else in general…
sorry for the huge, needless rant lol.

No. 292930

im so tired of the retarded customers that come into the store i work at

we literally cant even have bottled water behind the counter now because some miserable ass bitch went into one of our other stores not in our district, and complained(by taking the time to go home and call corporate) that the employees had drinks on the back counter, which is for employee use only in the first place
so many stories like this and im legitimately so sick of it

No. 292951

my ex best friend completely ghosted me a few months ago and shut me out. we still follow each other on social media and she watches my snapchat story but I tried for weeks to call and message her and she left me on read and said some mean stuff that was obviously about me on her story. we were really close and the biggest reason i can genuinely think of being the reason she cut me out is because i told her i would not support her relationship anymore with her on and off boyfriend who constantly belittled her education and weight. The last straw was him cheating on her while out of state and admitting to it. He even broke up with her after that! Yet now they are together again, recently ~celebrating~ their one year anniversary. She posted about it on her social media and thanked him for sticking by her even when she was 'acting crazy'. I still think about talking to her and never felt as comfortable with a best friend as I did with her so it still breaks my heart.

No. 292953

>>292951
Unfollow her, write a cryptic status about her and her assholery one last time if you feel like it in case she decides to check your account when she notices. It’s petty but seems like she’s been petty for ages so who the fuck cares.

Losing a best friend sucks but living with toxic in your life sucks harder. You were there for her, she treated you like shit. You deserve better. She made her choice and now it’s time you make yours.

No. 292959

>>292860
Kids are resilient, he’ll be over it and into the next thing in like a week. Hang out then.

No. 292964

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I wish some farmers would get a grip, there's a couple threads that I've scrolled by and are just a cluster fuck of infighting.
it's really embarrassing.

No. 292971

>>292953
you're right. I just unfollowed her everywhere. I feel a little better about it. I probably won't make the cryptic status though. I'll just continue living my best life and if she want's to be back in it, she knows how to find me.

No. 292973

I have a temporary job working at one of the most wasteful charities in the world, in a bad part of town, an hour away.

It's more boredom than anything else, but yesterday the sheer horror of what I was doing dawned on me, and I was in a semi-catatonic state making dinner.

At least my more/less-dream job got back to me (takes forever to get hired though) and a friend is staying over. Elaborating on that might be worth reviving the positivity thread.

No. 293001

I feel so depressed being back in school. I'm older then the general student body, but I still live with my parents because of money. I want to live in an apartment closer to school but I would need to work much more and that can be challenging during school. I sometimes want to get into something like camming but my boyfriend would probably break up with me if I did it. I seriously don't think I can survive another 2 years living with my parents.

No. 293006

I wish I felt less unliked and more understood with my art peers, maybe its just me.


Also I feel as though my art maybe has degraded due to my weird jelousy towards my own friends. no one says anything, and it makes me feel worse about myself.
I have felt like this since April.

There's more context to this but I'm too mopey and paranoid rn.

No. 293014

>>292918
Hey anon, I know how that feels. I've gone my whole life hating everything about myself. I was seriously considering investing in plastic surgery for a plethora of all the "wrong" things about me. My insecurity about myself melts into how I see my whole being, so I often have trouble with making friends because, well, if I don't like anything about myself, then surely no one else will either.

I know you've probably heard this before, but have you considered talking to a therapist about your self-image issues? I see one for mine and they helped me realize that even if I woke up one day with all the "problems" I saw in my appearance suddenly fixed, I still wouldn't be happy. Plastic surgery won't fix the way you feel about yourself inside. Accepting the way I look and figuring out that I needed to work on the person I was internally was probably the most important decisions in my life.

People, the right kind of people, will like you for who you are. Not how you look. I know it sounds ridiculous when you hate everything about yourself, and those thoughts of self-hatred are so all-consuming that you can't even see past them. But I promise that working on yourself to become a better person will make you feel a million times better than plastic surgery ever could.

No. 293016

>>293014
i havent seen a therapist before but now im starting to consider it. thank you for cheering me up a bit, anon!

No. 293019

I had to finally cut ties with my best friend because she had been lying to me and treating me like shit. A little bit of background on her is that she is an only child with a control freak mother who was taking advantage of my own mother (as in we would go places and she would conveniently not have money on her or she would dump her daughter at my house to go out with her rich boyfriend. Also, she had a holier that thou complex. Seriously, fuck this bitch). So, the mom finally used up my mom's patients and they had a falling out, which started to impact my relationship with her daughter but this was just the start. So this girl knew that I had a crush on one of our guy friends and I told her about it. I am very hesitant to get into relationships with people just due to having lost a good portion of my family to various diseases and accidents are a kid, so this was a huge step for me. So, rather than encourage me to try like a friend should, she told me to not even bother because he liked a different girl in our group. So, because I trusted her and she had a different boyfriend at the time, I believed her and just moved on. I am still kicking myself for being this stupid but that what I get for being a dumb ass. So, what do you know, when we graduated and the boy I liked and my best friend hooked up. By this point I was like "yayyyy, I'm glad my friend is dating a great guy!" and tried to be supportive, because that's what friends do, but slowly these two started to alienate a bunch of our old friends because "they were asking too many questions about their relationship" or would get extremely defensive over their relationship as a whole which struck me as odd but being a dumbass I just accepted it because I cared about them both. Fast forward to our second year of college and I was going through some family drama so I forgot to say happy birthday to this girl and holy shit did her boyfriend attack me and call me some shit things. Keep in mind, these assholes are only children and have over inflated egos so they can't stand not having all of the attention on them, and never mind that I was going through some awful shit on my end. At this point I was both hurt and pissed off but I didn't want to ruin my relationship with this girl because we had known each other for years so I apologized (looking back I wish I would have told them both to fuck off but oh well). So, a couple months later it comes to light that this girl had been lying to me about the whole guy thing and some other stuff and I finally decided I couldn't with this girl anymore. Maybe I was being an overly emotional ass but these two have a history of doing the same to other people, so I wanted to end this bs on my own terms. So, being a petty bitch, I decided I wanted to get some sweet vengeance on them both since 1) they are both only children and are spoiled af 2) she has a superiority complex and felt that since she's travel to other countries that she was an all knowing intellectual (even though this bitch screwed up her grades and is now in community college lol) 3) I was fucking hurt. So, we meet up for coffee and I started messing with her by talking about how vegans are retarded (she had recently converted and was very snotty about it) and how excited I am to start my own family (keep in mind the "imma world traveler and i never want children cause imma so much better lol fuck breeders." Also, during that conversation, she was giving the dets on how her bf had been trying to keep other guys from asking her out during high school and gushing over that shit. So, being the shit I am, I was like "oh, well did they ever asking about me?" and she got super defensive and was like "oh, well, I never asked." Very dismissive, but it felt good to see her stupid face get all pissy. Also, I basically called her out for treating people like shit and ignoring her other friends for some guy (for the money), which I could tell pissed her off too. Probably the main kicker was I basically called conservatives retarded as well since I knew it would bother her boyfriend and I know that she has a deep seeded hate for them yet stays with her boyfriend because "reasons" and because he's financially well off. She's a gold digger at heart. Basically, I wanted for her to leave that coffee shop feeling as uncomfortable as possible, because she had been doing that to me for YEARS. Anyways, haven't spoken to the bitch or her bf in months and I can honestly say it feels freeing. They weren't healthy and I honestly don't see their relationship lasting, because it was built on a lie. Also, it was a good learning experience for me since it taught me to not blindly trust people and to surround myself with people who are spoiled brats. So, yeah, lesson learned.

No. 293038

>>285472
Slight update/vent regarding this.
Some of my friends rent the upstairs of my parent's house. My brother is friendless, he used to have friends at his church but he said that he wants nothing to do with them now that he is transgender. I wouldn't really care about him, except he's taken to trying to invite himself to everything the people who rent the upstairs do. He is a NEET right now so he has nothing to do but bother other people I guess. Anyways, he's been inviting himself to things like dates with their boyfriends and it is difficult to say "no" to that sort of thing when you don't know the person very well or how they'll react to it.

I'm just tired of having to babysit him. I'm tired of having to tell an autistic person about basic social skills he's too retarded to get. I'm tired of having to clean his ball and leg hair from the floor of our shared bathroom, because he never cleans. I'm tired of having to tell him to turn off his shitty music because I'm trying to sleep at 1 AM. I don't like being rude, I don't like having to tell someone "Please do not bother the other people in the house. They do not want to talk to you or be your friend". But he won't get it any other way. I expected to never see him again, until he lost his apartment and job. I don't want to move out because I like living with my mom, I just wish he would be out of the picture.

No. 293044

>>293001
dump him and get a sugar daddy

No. 293046

>>293044
I was going to ask "what if anon has self respect?" but I guess she doesn't if she wants to be a camwhore

No. 293051

>>293046
Honestly if she's gonna consider camwhoring she may as well dump the poor sap she's with and fuck an old man with money instead, same results with the bonus of your shame not being forever online or in some incel's fap folder

No. 293081

>>293051
if she's camming she won't have to bang anyone tho…

No. 293086

>>292964
Same. Some threads you can't say anything without a snappy response.
Sometimes it's not even what they say, it's the cunty way in which they respond.

No. 293208

Idk what is is about me that attracts attractive, super well balanced, successful, ambitious men when my life is a mess, I don't know where I'm going, I'm severely depressed, I tend to abuse substances, I guess they enjoy a fun but chaotic person? Maybe their life is too good and boring and they try to put some messiness in it? Lmao.

No. 293210

i alternate between accepting being a lesbian and absolutely hating myself and thinking i'm broken for it, the latter more often. not to sound like a tumblrina but i hold some resentment towards straight women for not ever having to feel alienated bc of their sexuality, and bisexual women for having the option to be normal and in a relationship that's universally socially acceptable. don't get me wrong, i don't hate them at all and i understand that thought process is shitty, it just comes from a place of envy knowing that i'll always be a seen as a freak no matter how progressive society gets.

i've tried so hard to want to fuck/date men and it just doesn't happen for me, i feel like i'm not worthy of being in a loving, happy relationship because i only want that if it's with a woman. making my first few gay friends has helped a lot, i admire them so much for being so unapologetic and happy with themselves, i just wish it were easy for myself to get to that point too. i have no idea why i even feel this way though when my parents are both supportive of gay people and i wasn't raised in a homophobic area, it still gets to me a lot though and i wish it didn't have to be this way

saged bc i feel dumb for even complaining about something like this

No. 293214

Sometimes I wish I had no friends so they couldn't ignore me like my friends are doing right now when I'm just trying to be nice and caring all the fucking time.

No. 293219

I want to fall in (requited) love.
It's been six years of falling for people who want nothing to do with me and pushing away anybody who does actually like me.

My friend says it's intimacy issues. I think I'm just ugly lmao. But it started after I went through a really stressful and abusive relationship.

Not that I have time for a partner but God I miss sex and cuddling and having someone to go out with or come home to.

No. 293225

>>293081
Maybe not but her naked ass is still gonna be online for everyone to see, would you rather fuck an old man a few times to pay off your debt or have your nudes spread out across the internet for people to use as blackmail in the future?

No. 293239

I hate Serena Williams.
I hate how she uses feminism and the word misogynist as a silencer. I hate how she completely sabotaged her (female) opponent who played incredibly well and way better than her.

What a joke.

No. 293253

>>293210
I understand how you feel. It took me the longest time to accept the fact that I was solely attracted to women. Even now, I can only admit it to myself.
When people ask I usually just say that I'm bi, or that I don't know since both of them are more acceptable answers where I live.

The only person I told would rather believe that I'm just not attracted to anybody than to believe that I'm attracted to women.
It makes me feel discouraged to come out because I feel like nobody will be there for me.

No. 293271

>>293239

Very well put, anon. I feel the same.

No. 293279

>>293239
I don't see it as that at all. Come on, we know how racists tennis players can be.

No. 293305

I know I'm going to die alone and that sucks but what makes it worse is people around me are going to constantly ask "why don't you have a bf?" "Why aren't you married?"…it's not my fucking fault no one wants to marry me, just leave me alone and let me be forever alone in peace.

No. 293335

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I'm sick people acting like I'm 10 years old when they find out I was born in y2k. I'm 18 now. Sometimes when older Millennials do it, it makes me feel like they don't want to accept that they're getting old.

No. 293337

>>293335
Compared to people 26+ you are like a 10 year old to them

No. 293338

>>293335
>i'm not immature everyone else is just mad they're old!
you sound 10.

No. 293341

>>293335
It's just the human mind being stupid.
We've compartmentalized centuries in our mind despite them not really existing, so having someone born in a "separate" set of years to ours feels weird. I'm only 3 years older than you but hearing about someone being born in the year 2000 or later still feels surreal to me. And yet if someone is born in 1999 it feels like dramatically less of a gap (even though it isn't). This is sort of the same reason why corporations price things as $99.99 instead of $100.00. It's idiotic, but that's what we've done to ourselves lmao. I'm sure kids born in 1900 got the same nonsense.

Anyway, don't take it personally.

No. 293344

>>293341
or it's anon being an immature twat like she's clearly being in her OP.

No. 293345

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I should probably post this in the annoying friends thread but I have to vent here, I'm sorry. There's that friend, she won't stop spamming group conversations on line and facebook with the most stupid things I've ever seen. She derails conversations to make everything about her and her friends that nobody knows or met or will ever meet in our friend group. She's talking so much about her crush and pretending that her life is a tragedy because their love is supposedly doomed because she'll travel a little soon even though they seem to really care about each other (according to her, since nobody ever met him either). It's really repetitive really fast. She makes everything about herself. I'm still pissed that for the first time in years this summer I went on holidays and she accepted to come with me even though I told her exactly what I planned to do, and she just kept complaining about the sun, the heat and the beach, saying proudly that she was a contrarian and that "she hated the beach sooo much lol xD I'm such a hater, not like these normies." Even though she said she would love to go to the beach and nice restaurants with me and shit.

Anyway, I asked friends in a group conversation where she is if they're available this week for something and instead of posting that she won't be available because she lives in another city, which is common knowledge anyway so no need to even do that, she immediately spams the conversation with great details as to why she can't be available. If it's going to be as usual, she'll spam even more and nobody will be able to find my message, so that means we won't be able to organize anything again. I should probably create another group chat just for that but I know someone will add her in just so she'll feel included. I know it's a dumb thing to complain about but it's like that all the time and it's getting way too annoying.

>>293335
My little sister is closer to your age than I am, and I changed her diapers and fed her when she was a newborn on a regular basis, among other things. I can't help seeing people born in the 2000s as kids because of that. And your post isn't helping your case regardless of how mature you may or may not be.

No. 293346

>>293341
Thanks, that's pretty interesting

>>293338
I never said "literally everyone who makes a fuss about it is an old fart," calm down. Most of the people who've done it to me have been very immature themselves (i.e. the last person who did it to me was a neet fakeboi in her late 20s).

No. 293348

>>293346
nah i agree with the other anon, you seem really immature. just get over it

No. 293393

My bf has been gone for half a day and I've already binged on a pizza, hummus and a two person meal worth of chili. I guess I'm going to be fasting this week. I feel so ashamed.

No. 293480

>>293335

just laugh it off, if people are treating you that way seriously it's most likely out of shock at how fast time's gone by. most people don't do it maliciously

the age difference between you and them might be to blame too, people in their mid-late twenties are always going to see people who are barely in adulthood as babies, it's not necessarily always about the year you were born just about being on a different wavelength entirely

No. 293562

A friend sent me a video about "female alphas" and said "lol look that's you" and it didn't sound far fetched. I hate agreeing with anything semi-related to redpillers or MRAs but it did make sense. I don't know what to think.

No. 293565

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Got my new work schedule and I only got three shifts in a week. They gave the girl who doesn’t even bother to show up half the time more hours than me.

Also 2 out of the 3 are during the weekend and I have to dip out early to go to my other
job.

I hate having 2 part time jobs instead of one full time job.

No. 293584

I hate that I'm only ever attracted to guys who are shitty to me. Every relationship I've had with a guy who was caring and good to women, I haven't been attracted to them. I feel like my relationship with sex is seriously fucked up due to being raped in my teens and I'm still not able to see it as a power thing

No. 293635

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>>292858
No one cares but I have no one to talk about it so a little update ;
I spent my afternoon with him yesterday and it was really nice, he kinda confessed right before I was supposed to take the train and it made me miss my train. Since I had to go to school very early in the morning today I started freaking out, he immediately offered me to drive me to my destination (1h30 away by car) and he did it without complaining, he actually seemed to enjoy staying with me a little longer. I'm freaking out because I legit never met such a kind person, I also expected him to try to get into my apartment (with stuff like "I'm so tired, you're not going to let me ride back alone at night?") once we got there but he just gave me my luggage and a hug and was on his way.
I have no idea why someone attractive, kind, laid back and successful like him would want to date someone like me. Life is weird, but I'm not complaining.

No. 293641

>>286372
You sound like me, all the way down to the NEET, no GED, and no license. The worst part is it's so hard to pull yourself out of that funk that you've been in for so long. The NEET part is what scares me the most, because the older I get, the less likely I am to get jobs and shit.

As for the GED thing, you can look online. I dunno where you are, but I can get my GED at a community college in my county. I think you can take the studying online, but you have to do the test in person. I may be wrong though.

I totally understand you though dude. Hopefully those of us in the same boat can get out of this funk.

No. 293652

>>283640

Yeah try to take away two days of my pre-booked holiday cos you double booked the new guy, then get salty when I insist on having at least one of the days back cos I have been planning this trip for six months and every other holiday this year you've denied or cut short, let the staff completely fuck everything up then blame me for coming back to work hungover for all their mistakes, WHEN THE ENTIRE POINT OF THOSE EXTRA DAYS WAS TO RECOVER AFTER AN 800 MILE ROUND TRIP. You stupid fucking fuck nugget.

No. 293655

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>always getting mocked for walking manly in the past
>spend teenage years doing my best to walk more elegantly
>Doctor: anon, you seem to be pigeon toed

No. 293658

Latest Denuvo has been cracked yet still not Yakuza 0 crack.

I would honestly buy it if it weren't for Denuvo but after hearing of all the things it can do to your hardware, nah.

I guess I just have to wait ;_;
c'mon Codex

No. 293661

I'm starting medical school soon but I'm a fucking loser introvert so I'm never going to make friends. I'll be slightly older than most of them and I'm really bitter and hate English drinking culture. I'm not living in student accommodation so I'll find it even harder to fit in. Excited to continue to be friendless and lonely! It's all self imposed, too.

No. 293665

>>293655
i feel your pain, anon
>everyone was crazy about thigh gaps when I was a teen
>pushed my butt back so it appeared like I had one
>now my lower back hurts after standing/walking a lot
>have to consciously strand/walk in a normal position
>it still hurts because my muscles are not used to this

fuck this shit desu

No. 293685

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>>293665
different anon but high five for self-imposed hyperlordosis to make your thighs appear cuter! sorta calming/sad to know I'm not the only one retarded to that degree

No. 293709

I'll go to my first motel "date" ever with a friend. I don't know what to do and im so nervous about the whole thing. How should i dress? What should i do? I got out of a long and pathetic two years relationship where i never had a second round of a proper aftercare. My ex didn't even react if i sent """sexy""" pictures but my friend made a big deal out of wanting more, i guess i never felt desired until now and im overwhelmed and i don't know what to do

No. 293721

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>why are you watching your calorie intake anon, you're not fat
>my scale doesn't lie, I gained weight
>hahahaha don't be silly anon

one week later, wearing less flattering clothes
>euh…anon I should tell you that you gained weight, also here's an entire lecture about eating less and doing more sports

RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

No. 293761

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my mom has been verbally and emotionally abusing me for years. my childhood was awful and i deal with a lot of trauma. she is the main reason for me being mentally messed up and unable to pursue a romantic and sexual relationship.

she came out as bi a while ago, and everyone is constantly telling me how brave she is. i don't care about which gender my mom dates, but the entire process of her coming out has affected me in a negative way. when she moved out of her house/my childhood home and in with her current girlfriend, she just threw most of my things away.

whenever i talk about her behavior towards me with some of my close friends, they make excuses for her based on her sexuality. as if her being in a lesbian relationship justifies her hanging up the phone on me when i called and told her i felt suicidal.

No. 293838

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Does anyone else have problems with these bloody suckers?

I can't get decent sleep, I can't even work. They bother me day and night. Tried with citronella and then tried with those Raid products, nothing. I just get a headache.
I also shower at least twice per day and wear clean clothes.

No. 293841

>>293838
Are they in your house? Do you live outside? I'm confused. Keep your windows and doors closed or make sure your windows have intact screens.

No. 293843

>>293838
Eat more garlic.

No. 293845

>>293841
I live inside a house but there's a lot of windows. I keep most of them closed but I need some fresh air so I do open like two or three windows slightly open.
I don't have intact screens and they don't sell them in my country online.

>>293843
I will try.

No. 293846

>>293838
cold air keeps them away mostly, blast your a/c 24/7?
i'm dealing with them too, i think a couple laid eggs in my room or something, always see one flying around and get bit every other day. shit sucks fam.

No. 293847

>>293846
I think they lay eggs in water. Those sneaky fuckers can get in through tiny cracks though. I agree with garlic-chan. Eating more of that’ll help keep bugs off of you.

No. 293850

>>293846
Thanks, fam. Will try.
The most annoying part is their buzzing. They buzz straight into my ears. I wish they worked on their stealthiness so I could sleep.

No. 293873

I had a list of things to do today but I finally learnt how to roll a 3 skinner. I've fuck all food in my apartment I've just finished joint no. 3 and I'm freaking out about going out to the shops. Lol. I haven't even showered yet I'm freaking out

No. 293877

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>>293873
Just be cool man. No big deal.

No. 293879

>>293873
What's a skinner?
google search brings about the occupation, a psychologist, and term used for incarcerated pedophiles.

I guess it's a drug.

No. 293883

>>293879
3 papers to roll a longer joint

The high came down I'm away to get a shower

No. 293922

Years of self neglect and fear of doctors has predictably come back to bite me in the ass. Apparently, I have tinnitus and now whenever I talk above a whisper, I hear this terrible static, makes it hard to communicate and harder still to focus on what others are saying to me. I’m not going deaf quite yet but feel like it could happen any day now. Tbf it’s making me suicidal and there’s no real solution even on the medical side. I try to avoid “stressors” that could set it off, but everything seems to set it off. Hot weather, caffeine, stress, essentially things I can’t control or cut out of my life. Honestly I’d rather be deaf instead of suffering through another conversation that sounds like a broken radio. It’s fucking painful and getting worse everyday and I feel so alone in it, because it’s made socializing completely unbearable. When I end up going deaf I’ll probably kill myself, in all honesty. I won’t be employable (save a few niches that rarely hire people entry level), I won’t be able to talk to my loved ones or hear their voices, I won’t have the money to cover my bills, won’t be able to do anything the way normal people do. Honestly, I’m ugly anyway and can’t see a life worth living without one of my senses, as they’re the only things holding me up right now.

No. 293929

>>293922
I'm really sorry anon.
Maybe you could find joy in something that doesn't require the sense of hearing, like painting or something visual?

I know how you feel though, I'm losing my eyesight, I'm nearly blind and I don't qualify for laser surgery.

I guess I could look into eye transplants but that's expensive and not a common procedure where I live.

Please hold on.
Look at the bright side, at least you won't have to listen to people yapping/nagging.

No. 293931

>>293922
That really sucks Anon.
Do you know what caused your Tinnitus?
Depending on what the underlying cause is there are different treatments.
Have you tried masking devices or medication for it?

Also even if you eventually do go deaf there are plenty of jobs and hopefully with the help of cochlear implants/hearing aids you wouldn't be completely deaf.

Also if you can't work because of your illness surely you would get welfare/disability from the government (depends where you live though).

Please tell your doctor this is making you feel suicidal, this is something they should take very seriously as they should know it isn't uncommon for people with severe Tinnitus to feel this way.

I went to a school with a visually impaired department so there were many students who were blind/almost blind and some of them also had hearing aids and other issues, they attending a normal school and led pretty normal lives and had equipment/support to help them when needed, losing one of your senses doesn't necessarily make life not worth living.
My father in law went blind from diabetes in his 20's but lives a pretty normal life (and he wears hearing aids now), got married twice, had kids, had a few different jobs over the years, he lives alone and manages fine with his dog.

Most us will eventually lose our hearing/sight/smell/mobility/control of our bladder or bowels if we live long enough, thankfully technology has many solutions to these issues or is at least able to make life easier for those affected.

No. 294028

I'v e been sick with a cold for the last week and I feel so behind on everything even though the semester just started.

No. 294029

>>293922
Hey so ive had tinnitus for a whike now, i know how much it can drive you crazy. The first week was pure hell for me.

But you get used to it. Like yea its still there and annoying, but it doesn't stop me from doing anything.

No. 294115

I ghosted my last friends month ago and I'm feeling so fucking lonely.
I wish I could make some online friends but I don't even know where to find them since I pretty much only lurk everywhere but here.
help.

No. 294143

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There's been a rumor going around that they might cast a black/asian woman as Ciri in the Witcher netflix series and I really hope ir's just a dumb rumor because it doesn' make sense for her to be non white.

No. 294148

>>293335
You probably feel as you are super mature as a 18 years old and everyone who is an adult finds that hilarious because we've all been through that.

No. 294154

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>>294143
So BAME literally means everybody but white? Isn't it racist to not care who it'll be as long as she's not [insert one race]? I get looking for one specific race but only excluding one…?

No. 294164

my personal lolcow is having periodic bpd meltdown and its so entertaining. I feel like she deserves a thread here. A total horrorcow. She's fucking scary.

No. 294166

>>294164
Post some screenshots, anon.

No. 294168

>>294143
I don't really buy it tbh. "DAE Witcher 3 is best game because no minorties, historically accurate" has been a meme on places like r/gamingcirclejerk for ages, they've been joking about how fans would lose their shit if they see a black person in the background of a frame since it was announced

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>>294166
post 2 video of her stabbing shit with a knife. ow the edge

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>>294166
lol this is tame for her

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>>294143
I honestly understand the frustration with the lack of melanin in fantasy but Ciri is described to be white. She is a white character. Usually I'm cool with race swapping – for certain characters, it makes more sense than for them to be white – but I think people are justified in being upset over this. It's such an… odd decision? I hate /pol/tards and the forced diversity meme but this screams it and it's insulting.

No. 294308

>>294205
fuck this bullshit, there are black people mentioned in Witcher and Ciri aint one of them. They live in Zerrikania, the Africa of Witcher world and Ciri aint one of them (The SJW will scream if the story with the Zerrikan girls will be depicted in the TV series, as its pretty stereotypical and maybe a bit racist in its depiction of wild black people).

If Americans take another thing from a culture that does not belong to them and make it all about ~muh diversity~ I will scream.
I get representation, I do not mind mixed/black/whatever people in media but I do not want Witcher to be ruined just cause Americans have to bend everything to depict their culture and society.

And before someone comes at me, Im Polish so yeah, Witcher has been a part of my popculture before amerifags caught a whiff of the first CD Projekt game.

No. 294333

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I hate that even when my collarbones, ribs and hipbones protrude, my waist seems stuck at 26-27 inches and my hips/thighs/stomach are still wide and chubby. My breasts are only down one cup size too. I know it's not just my ED/BDD playing tricks on my eyesight, because my boyfriend commented that he thought I was very small/petite until he saw me naked, and now he considers me "thicc".
It's like I haven't really changed from being a 160lbs whale after all, even after losing 50lbs.
I just want to be skinny, or at least as skinny as people think I look with clothes on. I don't care about having an ass, big tits or juicy thighs or whatever the fuck. I don't want it. I never asked to be "womanly". I'd rather be small, lean and androgynous or cute.

No. 294360

>>294333
Anon, you are not chubby. Those are great measurements.

No. 294384

Get therapy

No. 294389

>>294168
>>294205
It's still only a rumor, so there's that. But it would literally make 0 sense to make her poc, especially lore wise. They also said they'll stick to the books, which this is not.

>>294308
As a fellow Slav I really couldn't agree more

No. 294393

Hate the fact that I'm aware I'm a financially abusive situation. It's family and I don't know if that makes it better or worse than if it were a partner. I hate that it began when I was too dumb to think it was fishy and I hate it's at the point where I can't sit there and not do anything about it, but am also limited by what I can do.
It's a crap situation and I want out and feel like it's obviously my fault but still feel like crap about it.
Then I feel bad for thinking how much a sudden death would be the most convenient way of solving it, but it's the nicest way out I can think of because in spite of being away of it being a form of abuse, I still don't want to hurt anyone.

No. 294398

>>294333
dump the bf and hire a therapist pls, your post has bdd written all over it

No. 294418

>>294308
I don't get why Americans can't just make their own fantasy worlds up if they want ~le diversity~. Why do they need to take stories located in other countries and change them to suit their wokeness? You could just cough up a make-believe country in another reality with all the medieval precious POC people you want.

No. 294488

I'm going to attend a code bootcamp, I was playing with the idea of it and studying by myself for a while now, but it only starts in one month and meanwhile I'm feeling at a lost of what to do with my time.
it's not like I can apply for a job and the economy is really crap where I live so it would take too much time to find a temp job.
I'm studying a little bit everyday, I don't want to burn out before the bootcamp, but there's so much time everyday.
Maybe I'll try freelance waitressing or something, do people even hire waitress without any serving experience?

No. 294500

>>294308
As another Slav, I hate this too.
I was lowkey looking forward to the series but after hearing all of the things that happened, it's obvious I will just hide it and ignore everything around it.

No. 294518

>>294174
LOLL i know exactly who this is i lost her when she changed urls. good to know she’s up to exactly the same shit. honestly i feel bad for her more than anything but she really seems like she’s beyond help. maybe she just needs to get older before her bpd stabilizes

No. 294618

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The guy who works at the starbucks I’ve been going to every saturday night totally has a crush on me. Last time I saw him he remembered my name even though I had only seen him twice before and also complimented my outfit. He’s very cute too. He’s got curly hair and just great features, and dresses really nice. But my brain is making this out to be more than it is. I can’t stop fantasizing about going on a date with him or something. But i know baristas at a place like Starbucks probably would get in trouble if they were to ask out a customer. I’d just have to build the courage to give him my number someday. But I know I’m too shy for that. Guess I’ll just keep to my fantasies.

BTW, i don’t know why i have a huge thing for baristas but i do. this is like the second barista i’ve had a crush on. luckily the first one asked for my number at some point but turned out to be a crazy national socialist vegan weirdo manslut so i ghosted him.

No. 294622

>>294418
Honestly I don't get why representation is such a big deal anyway. There's a lot of different ethnicities out there, not all of them get represented in the media at all, not all whites and Asians are necessarily going to resemble one another.

Like yeah, I'm considered "white", whatever that means (and even that is up for debate according to some Americans) but there's no women in the media who look like me. At all. Unless you count Toula from MBFGW, which is a shit movie and she was too old and ugly for my 13 year old self to care about.

I'm sure it's the same for countless people out there who don't have a large diaspora in the States, some of us just grew up either feeling like shit about ourselves and wondering why we had nasolabial folds and big noses at age 9 but those girls didn't, or looking up to our moms and cousins instead.

No. 294625

Yesterday I got really high on Zolpidem after a month of sobriety and contacted my ex to say some stupid shit he didn't even respond to.
This feels like such a setback. Maybe I'll never be better and should kill myself already.

No. 294670

>>294622
I'm white and nobody in movies or series looks like me either. Agree about representation. It's GOOD, but the idea that one person of a race is in something suddenly empowering tons of people who look and act nothing like them? As if all black or Asian people can be represented by one.

And I do admire my female relatives over celebrities, which is probably a good thing.

No. 294672

>>294625
Don't let that get you down, I mean it's good you got the stupid shit out anyway.
If your ex was male, they are bad at reacting to situations they haven't planned for, hence silence. Doesn't mean he thought bad of you, just that he doesn't know how to react.
One small setback is not a failure.

No. 294685

>>294518
LOL an anon thats knows this bitch. I don't fell bad for her. She's vile. If you want a never ending supply of lulz here's her current URL l0r@z3sk(_)x (she gets her friend to search lolcow for mentions of her so thats why I disguised the url just type it as normal thats a U after the k btw).

No. 294688

I'm severely depressed because I live in a small town and I'm poor. I'm going to community college for a transfer associates degree. I don't want to go into tons of debt for a university, but I'm afraid I have no choice if I want to leave this hellhole I was raised in.
I'm also not over my ex entirely even though we've been broken up for 4 months (it was a year long relationship). I've been feeling even worse because I feel like I should be entirely over it and I am not. The mental health services in my county are full of cootered burnouts for the most part. It's not like they could help ease my severe depression even if that weren't the case. Pills and talking about my parents' shitshow marriage won't cure my money troubles or the small town soul sucking. My life just feels totally hopeless and out of control. I don't know what to do, schoolwork is the only thing that keeps my mind busy.
Utterly pathetic, I know.

No. 294689

>>294670
>>294622
100% agree!
Can't stand this bs of "there are only white people in movies"
I am considered white and i am kind of yellowish. A friend of mine is more on the pink site.

Sometimes the sex or color of the skin from a character is not set, then i don't care who gets the role in a movie. But this "musst have" is so annoying.

If you want diversity than make a new movie ffs.

No. 294695

i'm drunk but i don't want to be anymore. how do people find this enjoyable? i feel like a giant toddler and it's pathetic. wtf am i running from? it's enjoyable for the first 30 minutes or so, feeling stupid, but the way my eyes can't concentrate and the way my body feels heavy is just too much. this is stupid.

No. 294697

>>294695
well just go eat something. I'm trynna get drunker

No. 294698

>>294697
alright anon, i will. don't know what you're running from but gl i guess…

No. 294700

>>294698
I genuinely hope you have something nice to eat, anon.

No. 294701

>>294700
i ate chocolate pudding lmfao. it's all i could come up with at this time.

No. 294705

>confront bf about the cam girls he's following (he used to buy shit from them before)
>tells me he'll unfollow them all
>he does
>not even 10min later he's following another one

I'm guessing it could be an approved request but the whole situation is already complicated and I'm fucking tired of this. Either watch porn like everyone else by not paying or break up if you want to have cybersex with other women. Jfc I'm so pissed and just want to cry. Two more hours of work to go.

No. 294710

>>294705
This is the shit that makes me not want to even bother getting boyfriend. What is the point?

No. 294711

>>294710
there are nice guys out there, they're just hard to find. If my bf was rude enough to follow an ewhore online I'd leave him straight away.

No. 294714

>>294710
What >>294711 said. There are good people out there, but it's a giant pain in the ass to find them.

>>294711
I pretty much will after having a conversation with him. He doesn't think it's "real cheating" since there's no physical contact. Even if that would be true, it shows how he doesn't seem to have any respect for me.

The whole thing is a bit complicated since I don't have friends and family so it's difficult to just cut out the only person that's left in your life.

No. 294715

>>294714
don't worry about being alone, when you drop a guy like that you'll probably be more confident and able to meet new people anyway.

No. 294729

>>294308
Eastern europoor anon strikes back

No. 294748

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It's kind of dumb and historically inaccurate when people say there were historically no black/brown people in any part of Europe whatsoever. It's even sillier IMO to use that to insist this Hollywood movie or TV show or video game must have absolutely no non-white people. It's not really that deep, I don't think anyone will suddenly start believing literally everybody in Europe was actually black/brown because some American movie/show has a brown actress playing a fictional character in a fictional piece, or some fantasy video game has a dark-skinned NPC here and there. Who really cares?
I'm not that into historical fiction or fantasy, but I feel like some people only try to argue about historical accuracy as a veil for their own, largely personal issues. The gag is, these same complainers will probably spend money just to hate-watch, so the industry will keep doing it, in part, to get money from the fake outrage.

No. 294749

>>294748
> It's kind of dumb and historically inaccurate when people say there were historically no black/brown people in any part of Europe whatsoever

That's a stupid argument. Just because medieval europe was 0.00001% black doesn't change the fact that for all intents and purposes there were no black people in Europe.

"But there was a couple of dozen blacks in a nation of 10 million, therefore france wasn't completely white, so what we're going to do is make full 20% of all NPCs in the game black. Diversity, y'all!" - every amerifag ever

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>>294749
If they were there and people in that period saw fit to include them in media like paintings, what gives you the right to undo it all and deny it? Because you don't think it was enough? Clearly, those in that society disagreed. Sorry.

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>>294751
Forgot to add: I haven't seen any adaptions make more than like 1-2 characters brown or black. They're not changing the entire cast's race or anything. So, what's the issue?
Most games don't make millions of unique background NPCs, they just make a handful and they get cloned/distributed throughout the game. If you're sitting and counting each NPC that has dark skin, you're really wasting your time and obsessing over nothing.

No. 294755

>>294729
Oh shut up, no1 curr about your obsession

No. 294758

>>294755
What obsession? I wasn't the one writing vents about American TV shows, lol. I just Googled "blacks in medieval Europe" and then got confused when I found out it really was a thing. Take a chill pill, you obviously care a lot.

No. 294761

>>294758
Did that anon even reply to you? She was probably referring to the obsession with eastern europoor anon, not that.

No. 294762

>>294761
My mistake, I thought they were replying to >>294751 for some reason.

No. 294768

>>294758
>>294762

It's ok. I would say that overall I agree with you. I was wondering if you were also lowkey referring to the Witcher controversy or speaking in general about tv series? Cause I don't mind PoC being there, just don't want a race of character that is very much not PoC changed cause it makes no sense to the plot… well, unless they will also change the race of her father (but this would have some ugly connotations) or her mother (which could mean even more changes).
Yes, Witcher is a fictional story, but it's normal to want the adaptation to stay true to the source material that you grew attached to for years.

No. 294771

>>294748
>>294751
Born in Egypt, become a soldier for Rome, leader of the Theban legion, later regarded a saint. That's the reason they accepted him, he was Christian and died for his belief.
>>294754
Literally not Europe. The three kings who visited Jesus after his birth.

There might have been a tiny percentage of non-white people. But they were not in positions of power, they did not contribute to anything. So why make them kings and heros in movies?

This reminds me of the people claiming Mozart, Beethoven and co were black as well. But later some evil racist painted all their portraits white! kek

No. 294774

>>294751
> If they were there and people in that period saw fit to include them in media like paintings

Have ever considered that they were included in the media specifically because they stood out?

No. 294776

Why do men always feel the need to announce that they're male on here? It's so obnoxious. I feel like I've read a million "guy here" "mgtow here" "gay guy here" "incel here" "trans gal here" style posts.

No. 294777

>>294776
Also, who do mgtows think they're fooling? Anyone with eyes can see they're just incels gone tsundere.

No. 294778

>>294768
The Witcher controversy reminded me of wider arguments I saw about not everyone in media being white, yeah. I don't really know enough about the franchise to have an opinion one way or the other, but it would be pretty dumb if they erroneously altered the story as a result.

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>>294771
You literally just explained that one was accepted and had a heroic role in history as a saint, kind of undercutting your "Why should they be heroes or kings?? That never happened" point right there.
If you think Mozart, Beethoven, etc are the same as fictional characters or video game NPCs that can do anything and have any appearance the creator chooses (and in the case of the second image, it's clear a European artist thought of black people being involved in such a scene, which should be impossible in your POV), I don't really know what to tell you, except to step into reality.


>>294774
What makes that different from including them in currently made media, then? They're certainly generating a good amount of buzz and pearl-clutching, even though since there's more diversity now by now, it shouldn't really matter. Would you want to have the paintings changed or censored to protect certain sensibilities?

No. 294784

>>294780
Why do you want to include black people in stories from/about white countries so badly?
One could argue that you're jealous of Europe and therefore try your hardest to somehow be a part of it.
Why don't I see you in the K-drama thread whining about how there are no white people in their historical dramas? White people have been traveling the whole world for centuries already, yet nobody pushes for them to be included in the media of those countries - especially not in historical settings.

I have never heard of that game, but it apperantly means a lot to Poland, so why do you have to take that one little thing away from them? And not just for some oppressed black acress, no, they'd literally take everbody as long as it's not a white girl…
https://www.businessinsider.com/the-witcher-2015-7?IR=T
>The popular role-playing game series "The Witcher" is beloved in Poland — so much so that back in 2011, the country's prime minister at the time Donald Tusk presented Obama with the collector's edition of "The Witcher 2: Assassins of Kings" to commemmorate his visit.

No. 294794

>>294784
Wat. You sound insane. I don't care for historical fantasy, I've never been interested in being part of some medieval European shit because I have my own rich culture and history (I also wouldn't be bothered if some Americans made a fictional piece based on it and changed races because I'm not insecure lol), and it doesn't bother me one way or the other what race whichever character is, I just don't see why it gets people like you so pressed that you throw huge tantrums when there's like one (1) dark-skinned character in a fantasy game or movie or TV show. And then you pay for the media piece anyway, which means you rewarded them both publicity and cash for making you upset.
I don't care for K-drama either, but since Korean stuff isn't really popular outside of in Korea and with Koreaboos, I'm not surrounded by any controversy around their shit the same way I am with things like this, which is why I don't engage with it. I also wouldn't understand if I saw people screeching over there being a white girl in some Korean video game or drama. It's fiction. There's no agenda to hurt your fee-fees (except, maybe on the part of the creators, who are probably doing it to get a rise out of you).
You've really just confirmed my suspicions with this weird post. There's no logic behind it. You have personal issues, and you're not living in reality. Fiction won't help you, only therapy can.

No. 294811

>>294754
For the show it is an issue because people want them to stick to the books and in the books she's white. If they change her race they'll also have to change her parents race etc. People have said that they're okay with random background actors and other not-so-important actors to be a differen race, but Ciri is an incredibly important character (literally one of the three in the series) and people reeeally want them to stick to the books. That's it.

No. 294820

>>294811
Imagine the anger if they changed the race of Emhyr aka Ciri's father to black when first he's a cursed half human, half hedgehog who fucked the underage princess and later on it's revealed that he is actually the big evil who murdered his wife and hunted his daughter, among other things
I could see sjw screaching that of course the one black person is a freakshow and evil to the core and that's racist… all that so black/mixed Ciri can happen

No. 294828

>>294618
So I met my husband when we were still in college and he was a barista. I just asked him out and gave him my number. Why not try asking him what he’s doing this weekend? Sounds like he might like you.

No. 294842

>>294820
Yup. Aldo once Ciri gets adopted by Geralt and Yen, it could be seen as "white saviour" complex, do there's that too

No. 294849

>>294842
Oh my God, you are right… didn't think that far but that would be even worse. Imagine all the bitching caused by 'problems' that would not be there if not for bending to the SJWs and forced diversity.

No. 294851

I just don't get that specific strand of notlikeothergirls that are also tradthots who only have "feminine hobbies". How are you going to prefer male friends when all you do is makeup and Pinterest-tier baking/crafting?

No. 294913

Small deal, but I hate the cravings I get when I go on a diet. I'm not even feeling hungry as such, I just have this powerful urge to eat a box of cadburys fingers dipped in nutella. Which is something I'd never normally do, or even think of.

But right now it sounds fucking amazing.

No. 294961

My job is trying to get me to quit, and i'm getting really frustrating. they are pulling all the shit tactics, like trying to force me to get a doctor's note for ONE day i called out sick. this has never been an issue before and i want to call HR about it

No. 294974

I'm pissed because a few weeks ago I saw a midwife at my OB practice and I was talking in depth about my mental health because she asked and needed to put it on my chart, ok fine whatever.
I go back today and see a doctor and he thought I was in the hospital a MONTH AGO for attempting suicide when it was really 4 fucking years ago.
I hate saying anything AT ALL about my mental health to these people because as soon as I do they act like I need some sort of tard wrangler when I've been doing perfectly fine since I left the situation that was causing me to be stressed enough to want to die.
I had issues with "medical professionals" not knowing how to read when I had my daughter so it gave me war flashbacks and I'm just expecting the worst when I go to the hospital to have this one.

No. 294986

>>294974
Fuck them, most doctors and health professionals are utterly incopetent.
What was the situation that made you want to kill yourself?

No. 294996

>>294771
So Jesus was white?

No. 294998

>>294996
Nah, Jesus was just not real.

No. 295001

>>294986
I was in a very psychologically abusive relationship with one of those tumblr genderspecials. Obviously I've moved on and married with kids since then but apparently I still need someone to hold my hand and treat me like I'm nuts even when I'm stable.

No. 295007

>>295001
I'm glad you moved over that, people really underestimate how toxic environments and people can fuck your mental health.

No. 295038

I wanna fuck, I'm so horny all the time. I keep forcing myself not to look lewdly at women anywhere, just, looking at a fixed point nowhere because I'm afraid they'll realize I'm fucking desperate.
I've been trying to hook up with women on dating apps, I've widened my standards, I honestly don't care who as long as she has a pussy but everyone keeps cancelling me or just aren't available when I can. I'm fucking stressed over college and work and having to commute for fucking hours and only have 1 free day.
I just wanna fuck.

No. 295039

>>295038
…Are you a prostate bearer?

No. 295044

>>295038
Make a Tinder lame ass. You won’t find a bootyful wymon to put your greasy wiener into here.

No. 295045

>>295039
of course not. I'm a woman. I'm even forcing myself to not care about their politic stance or their whole non binary/genderfluid/whatever spiel, that's how desperate I am.

>>295044
I am, I'm on three different dating apps. I didn't have issues a year ago, now it's hard as shit to get a date. I'm not even ugly, I'm thin, conventionally attractive, have an ok fashion sense. I guess they can sense I'm desperate.

No. 295050

>>295045
every word in this post sounds like a LARP

No. 295052

>>295050
I guess all the tranny shit made us come this far, not believing I'm just a lesbian on women populated forum feeling horny. I just came to vent, anon.

No. 295055

>>295045
If you're hot and can't find a hookup on a hookup app, maybe change how you're approaching people? They might find something offputting about the way you're speaking to them.

No. 295059

>>295055
That could be it. I kinda suspected that, I have to calm down a bit I guess

No. 295086

>mums asshole roommate plays music super loud every day, every time he comes home all evening AND throughout the night
>does it on purpose to piss me and my mum off
>literally cant focus on uni schoolwork
>mum and i wont say anything because it'll cause a fight and he's a whiny manchild who goes batshit over the smallest thing
>wish i could call the police but they wont care because the whole thing is super petty
Wtf do I do? This is just really ignorant and it's some new thing he's been doing for the last few months.

No. 295111

>>295086
Break his stuff. Do it in a way where it looks like it malfunctioned. that's super shitty and i'm sorry to hear that, anon. I used to have a room mate who didnt work (his mom paid his bills) and he would play xbox games into the night when i had to be up at 5am for work.

No. 295232

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i’m a 19 y/o neet high school dropout with bulimia and agoraphobia do i just fucking kill myself at this point? i can’t see myself ever amounting to anything. i don’t want to traumatize my siblings but i can tell my parents are getting to their breaking point with my shit.

i’m such a fucking failure. always have been always will be.

No. 295261

>>295232
>>295232
anon you're only 19, you still have your entire life in front of you and it's only going to get better.
People don't tell you this but as you get older, you also stop caring as much about the little things and you will find yourself more.
But you're gonna have to do this yourself, you're gonna have to pick yourself up and either go back to school or get a job. You could even work for a year and then go back to school if you're not sure what you want? Having a job or going to school will also give you a purpose and make you feel a lot better about yourself. And after a while you can even move out and start your own life.
If you're not already doing it, I also suggest you to see a psychiatrist (or psychologist? I don't know, the one that talks with you, not the one that just covers it up with medicine)
Don't give up until you've tried everything, killing yourself might seem like the easiest way out right now but in a few years you will be happy that you didn't.
Besides, your parents and siblings love you, don't put them through the pain of losing you.

No. 295263

My husband won't fuck me. It's not like he's not attracted to me anymore, but he always has something more important going on than sleeping with me. When we do have sex (once a week, if that) he's all
>This is the greatest thing ever, we should do it more often
and then he never acts on that. In the last 6 months he's told me maybe twice that he wants to fuck, otherwise it's always me who has to approach and I get pushed off like 90% of the time. He probably has low testosterone, we're trying to conceive and so I did some test at the doctor's the other day to look at sperm retention and there was practically nothing. Haven't told him that yet though.
He's a great guy, and I can make myself cum better and faster anyways, but god I'd just like some dick.

No. 295266

My dad's birthday is in 3 days, I completely forgot about it and have no idea what to gift him

No. 295270

>>295266
Make a homemade card for him. If you have any old photos of him when he was younger or a baby that would be nice to include too.

No. 295271

>>295266
If you don't really care about the gift being a surprise you should ask him if he wants or needs anything. I straight up ask my sisters what they want for their birthday and since it's usually clothes or makeup we go shopping together so they can try things.

No. 295296

>>295261
>not the one who just covers it up with medicine.

I dunno, anon. Zoloft completely changed my life. I went from being a NEET body pillow fucker who didn't shower for a few days to a thriving human being. Sometimes a little booster shot helps a fuckton. If that anon really is depressed, medicine may help much more than you think.

No. 295339

>>295266
You can treat him with a fancy dinner

No. 295340

>>295296
That’s promising to hear… different anon, but I just started Zoloft a week ago and have been afraid of how it will make me once it starts to work.

No. 295348

>>295296
>>295340
My bf is on Zoloft for OCD and has to change the medication cause for the last half of year he turned to zombie that is unable to take a shower, help me clean or do anything beyond going to work and back… so observe how it's affecting you in long term

No. 295383

When i was a senior at hs i befriended this particular girl at school,she was fairly cool at first and we hit it of instantly…but the problem is she's always reading fanfiction or doing shit on her fucking phone all the time.Whenever i tried talking or doing shit with her,bitch still whips out her phone out even when we were on school trips or hanging out.Im so tired,i cut ties with her immediately and avoid her at all cost,still think that i act like a big baby and worsen the situation till this day

No. 295385

>>295232
anon I went through agoraphobia/emetophobia anxiety but during high school, at 17. I fully understand how helpless you feel, and how tiring it is. It's hard but you can get through it if you push yourself to do so. I know everyone is different , but please seek help, see a therapist if you can afford it, or go to a psychiastrist to help you with medicine. I spent 3 months scared of going out, but everyday I tried to go as far as I could. If you can dress up, shower, eat normally, it's great. If you want to sleep, sleep. Don't force yourself but do as much as you feel mentally able to at the moment. idk if it makes sense, but try to live during the moment and see day by day how you feel, it'll give you an idea of the extent of your problem.
Try to go to public places with someone you trust (if possible), but only places from which you can exit fast without causing a fuss (the mall, and such) .
(blogpost but knowing that I could escape immediately if I wanted helped me tremendously , the thought made me feel safe. It's not an immediate result but a work you need to try. I was very lucky and I'm not denying it, my teachers let me stay next to an open door and would allow me to exit without asking if needed). What I mean is don't force yourself too much or you won't want to try, but do as much as you feel comfortable to do at the moment it's happening you know ? sorry for the long ass rambling, if you want I can give you a throw away email if you wanna talk. (btw I'm 18 and I relapsed a few months ago, I'm still on Zoloft and it helps tremendously, so please consider a treatment))

No. 295388

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>tfw becoming more productive because the new shitty porn ads on 4chan made me stop phoneposting

No. 295390

>be me renting a room at a place with two older women
>one of them is always in a bad mood
>unhealthy as hell
>smokes, eats shit, hates exercizing
>be me trying to stay healthy
>go for runs in the morning
>try to eat organic
>have lots of teas for digestion and stuff
>moody old lady catches me having tea
>says tea is bad for the health
>ask her why since I don't even add sugar to it
>"b-because of things that are unhealthy inside the tea leaves…~
>sure-Jen.jpg
Told her that tea is my drug of choice then and went to my room.
Lmao, I don't understand why a sick person that refuses to do anything for her own health thinks she can judge my habits as unhealthy.

No. 295392

i'm really into writing but i'm not into YA or fantasy or anything magical and it's really fucking hard to try and fit in into writing communities online as an edgelord writing almost exclusively about crime or creepy/unsettling things but set in the real world. its hard to find someone willing to get feedback too so i feel like i'll stagnate forever and write like the poor man's bret easton ellis without decent criticism, i want to improve and write about the inner workings of crime syndicates or shit like cryptography without coming off as shallow and edgy. most of my friends are into fantasy or genderpolitical bs too so i can't really seek feedback there either, and my bf doesn't read. feels bad man. i don't even want popularity cause i don't have delusions that my novels are revolutionary and i don't want my life all over social media, but man, it's discouraging not seeing any interest for what i write and i don't wanna lower myself to slinging creepypastas on reddit for at least some kind of feedback

No. 295431

I am so annoyed with myself and my shitty memory. It's always been a problem for me and I think I'm just stupid. I've been sitting here trying to remember this cow's name for an hour straight and google isn't even helping. She was one of the early twee bloggers looked like a parrot and was friends with Nubby Twiglet and held like $400 positivity blogger sessions.

No. 295483

>>295390
blame teavana

No. 295484

>>295390
Good for you, anon! Health is important

Anyone who smokes cigarettes should not be allowed to give health advice. dumb as hell

No. 295491

>>295392
Same but I write about other things. Still no community to fit in, though. But afaik there's quite a few people writing weird shit nowadays, maybe we should start a subreddit for weird writing in general

No. 295497

im so depressed over the obvious sex trafficking and abuse of children that happens on a day to day basis in mid daylight it feels like no one gives a fuck

and i also feel the governments all over the world are actively funding and participating and nothing can be done
it just makes me rage so much

No. 295498

>>295491
>>295392
omg same! I want to find a writer friend but I dunno how… I would love the subreddit. I struggle with mental health issues so forcing myself to write…

No. 295506

>>295491
>>295498
not to be a downer but from personal experience, writing subs and discussions on reddit tend to be elitist. they remind me of /lit/ a lot, except they're more accepting of "nerdy" literature like GRRM or cyberpunk. /r/destructivereaders in particular is garbage

No. 295527

I don't know what's wrong with me.

During primary and high schoool I was always a good student but now it seems like I have lost the ability to study completely.

Already long before writing the test I decide that I'm probably going to fail anyways and paint out horror scenes of what's going to happen afterwards if that's the case.
When I sit down on my desk I spend the first hours of the day browsing the internet instead of actually looking at what I have to learn. So I either end up staying up late or don't do it at all ("tomorrow")
If I start studying a strange nervousness overcomes me, I always fantasise about what I'm going to do once I'm finished. If I actually read I also hurry too much and jump to the next line without even finishing reading the former sentence first. I can barely concentrate for more than 10 minutes without taking a break again.

No. 295533

>>295506
we could make it invitation only, though in this case, a discord would be better I suppose

No. 295537

>>295497
I'm not a Trump-tard by any means but maybe you can find solace in that Trumps been cracking down on organized child trafficking (in the US atleast, which could effect others outside). Not sure how effective he's been but at-least someone with enough power is doing something. The whole topic is really depressing stuff, so I don't blame you for feeling depressed.
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefings-statements/president-donald-j-trump-working-end-human-trafficking/

No. 295552

>go on a date
>immediately hate myself afterwards
>after that subsides, start hating my date
>paranoia about him stringing me along despite evidence to the contrary

I just want to be a reasonable person but I'm not. I shouldn't have asked him out in the first place. I can't get along with normfags they'll always end up resenting me.

No. 295555

>>295533
i'd be down with joining something like that honestly, but i'm more of an awkward lurker and not very proactive when it comes to being admin of something so i can't exactly show initiative, sadkek

No. 295570

>>295527
I had the same issues and one thing that helped me lots was the "pomodoro" or timer method. Basically you study for 10 minutes until the timer rings, then you completely stop and do 2-3 minutes of break (where you do literally nothing, no reading anything or music just resting) until it rings again. This is great cause once it starts mentally you're thinking "boy can't wait for my break soon" and actually do the 10 minutes of work. Do 12 of these and you've done a lot of studying without even realising it.

Anyway I find it helps to figure out how long your concentration lasts, most people can only stay concentrated for 20-40 minutes at a time before dozing off and going online, skipping sentences, or having to reread things again, like you said. So it's good to time your breaks accordingly. My sessions for instance last 23 minutes and I do 2 minute breaks, I can go on for hours and it never tires me out.

It's scary having to relearn how to study, but I promise it's something everyone goes through and it doesn't mean you're not or never were smart. Don't feel like there's something wrong with you.

No. 295603

i…might be a lesbian? i had a new co-worker who is very much a lesbian hitting on me and i was genuinely interested instead of being uncomfortable (like when men do it). i feel stupid as fuck because i'm 21 and i've questioned my sexuality since high school (had a really intense crush on a girl in class) but at the same time i've never been in a relationship with a man so how can i know for sure? i can't tell if its just some sort of weird phase or if i am a lesbian

No. 295612

>>295603
If you feel sexually attracted to other women, chances are you like women. It's a better life anyway. Not needing to deal with men has been a plus for me. I've been with my wife 10 years.

You can always talk to her and tell her you're new at things and still trying to figure it out. Go on a date, maybe?

No. 295619

>>295552
I feel you anon. I always force myself to go on dates with people I don't even like, problem is I never catch feelings for anyone.
Last time I went out with a Chad-type and started ghosting him right after. Bet my friends would kill me for letting this hot guy get away if they knew but I just can't do it. It's exhausting tbh.. I don't mind being single but it sucks seeing everyone but you dating around

No. 295628

I’m insecure because I’m nearly 20 and haven’t made out with anyone or had sex. It’s not that I haven’t had offers, it’s just the fact that even in high school, no one wanted to date me. They just wanted a quick fling. And I kept waiting for a relationship that never happened.
Now I’m a adult and have no experience. It makes me want to avoid dating anyone because I can’t admit to anyone that I don’t have experience without seeming “naive” or making things awkward.

No. 295631

>>295603
Anon are you me? I've been dealing with this for a while and I always dread when men try to talk to me.

No. 295632

>>295628
It’s okay anon, a lot more people lose their virginity during their 20’s than you’d think.

No. 295634

>>295628
i lost my virginity as soon as i turned 21. it's not a big deal, and you're not even 20 yet! relax. guys really don't care if you haven't had experience.

No. 295638

>>295628
like >>295632 said a TON of people lose their virginities in their 20s, they just lie and say they aren't virgins bc it's seen as socially unacceptable. another thing is, guys probably aren't going to ask if you're a virgin (don't think people ask that past like 16 haha) and a lot of dudes may even find it hot. if you want to tell them you're a virgin go ahead, don't think any dude will find it to be a big deal, but also you're not obligated to tell them you're a virgin. I didn't tell the first guy I had sex with that I was a virgin

No. 295646

>>295628
I agree with the other anons here, you don't have to disclose this if you aren't comfortable. It can be kept private. Personally I did not tell the guy and he never found out, I wanted it to be a personal experience and him knowing seemed to me like an intrusion on an emotional experience I did not want to share.

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>>295638
Same! When I lost my virginity, I was too embarrassed to tell the guy, so I just told him it had been a while.
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, and he still has no idea kek

No. 295697

not abused, but neglected. my brother took all my parent's (dad you weren't home lol) attention due to him having developmental issues and I have resented by brother so. much. for that

I'm so isolated. I don't even know how to begin connecting sincerely with others, since all I've done since I was a child is sit by my own in my room and escape into various media

I have no motivation or self-control, no basic life skills, have never had an actual job at 21, and have no idea what I actually want. I keep giving up and self-sabotaging everything

fuck my whiny self. fuck my childish, passive, retarded habits. I can't go on like this but I've been too lazy to change.

No. 295698

>>295697
wow did I fuck up the spacing

No. 295713

>>295619
Nayrt but this exact thing happened to me a while ago, a stereotype hot chad type blatantly hitting on me but all it did was make me uncomfortable as fuck. I'm amused someone else also went through this. Don't know if I'm a lesbian or I just have issues with dudes though.

No. 295718

>>295628
I'm nearly 30 and I'm a virgin too.
Get on my level.
And no, I'm not a guy.

Also, I don't think being a virgin by 27-28 years of age is a big deal but I think after that, such as in my case, it's already weird.

But I'd rather be a virgin than get rushed into sex in order to have a bf and it seems every guy is impatient to have sex. There's no more waiting to get to know each other.

I don't understand why there's a shame in being a virgin. It's not like it's harming anyone, right?

No. 295721

>>295619
The thing is that I am very attracted to and interested in him. I was even the one who asked him out. I just feel like we're very different people and its too intimidating to me. He's not even a Chad type visually (he's quite small and his face is equally as awkward as my own kek. Which appeals to me, I should add), but he is extroverted and funny. Chances are he's more experienced than I am despite being younger. Although if he follows up by messaging me I might go along with it just to see how it goes.

Anyway, what I've moatly learned from this experience is that the bots/incels are wrong about brown manlets doing the worst in the dating scene. I've been rejected by one and another turned out to be a fucking Chad lite personality-wise. I've also learned that I'm going to die alone most likely.

>>295713
I'm pretty interested in men and big chiseled Chad don't appeal to me either. But I'm also bisexual. idk maybe pure straight women are more likely to be into a full on masculine type of guy due to the polarization?

No. 295727

Everytime i do abs or squats I end up feeling so shitty the next day. I don't even do much, like 10-15 squats max.
I'm in crazy pain and just feel so bad. I don't know if I have a low threeshold for pain or if something is legit wrong with me. What even the fuck?

No. 295741

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I've barely left the house in 2 years cos fat and ugly but there's a chance I might be getting a job now cos my sibling referred me and I'm freaking out I just want to drink into oblivion. I know I'm gonna go back into my anachan ways again to lose all this weight (yes I'm actually overweight and I'm suffering for it) but fuck there gonna judge me so hard I'm not gonna be able to do the job properly. I need to lose weight the proper way once and for all and stop this madness of restricting and binging but I don't know how. I don't know how to stop thinking and behaving this way. It feels impossible. Drinking everyday for 2 years too, don't know how I'm gonna stop that I literally need alcohol to leave the house. Maybe I'll have a glass before going to the job to stop the heart racing. I look like the walking dead cos I've been neglecting basic health care for the last 2 years. I just don't know how I'm going to be able do this.

No. 295743

There is this ex from my boyfriend which was with him together for like 4 months (?) and they broke up last year Halloween. Now she stalked me at the beginning of the year when me and my boyfriend got freshly together on December last year until June.
I had to block her from my instagram Story and softblocked her so that she would stop stalking me. She still has feelings for him I think and may lie about it that she doesn’t have them anymore, because just recently she posted something on twitter like
“guess who is not over his ex” and deleted this tweet afterwards he wrote her.
Now I have the problem that she visits us tomorrow and I’m totally not in the mood to sit there together with a liar ex gf who is salty at me. When I asked her back then why she stalked me, she just answered
“I was bored and your content seems cool” and started following me so that she can stalk regularly and has an excuse, even though she never liked any of my stuff (:

… my boyfriend said he doesn’t want drama anymore because he was in a lot of drama involved / grew tired of it and she started some as well, but should I accept as a girlfriend that this kind of girl visits us ? ……

No. 295745

>>295743
Why is she visiting you guys? Sounds weird

No. 295746

>>295741
You can do it, anon!!

For the weight loss I would suggest finding out your TDEE/BMR, downloading MFP, and just start tracking everything. I've been doing this since June and gradually have gone from 160 -> 130 with out much effort. Sometimes I splurge on weekends but I don't let it destroy me and just keep on with tracking the next day.

For sobriety, I think this is much trickier especially if you have a history of addictive behavior. You either have to REALLY REALLY want it or you have to hit rock bottom. For me it was crashing my bf's car and very narrowly avoiding a DUI, I had been a daily drinker for several years up until that point. I know, I'm a piece of shit, but it was a real turning point for me because I never want to feel that way again. Basically getting "scared straight" can be very effective. It is possible to get and stay sober though, even if you're using it as a crutch of sorts your body will eventually adjust to the new reality of no alcohol.

No. 295747

>>295746
Thanks anon.

>For the weight loss I would suggest finding out your TDEE/BMR, downloading MFP, and just start tracking everything. I've been doing this since June and gradually have gone from 160 -> 130 with out much effort. Sometimes I splurge on weekends but I don't let it destroy me and just keep on with tracking the next day.


I've done that failed every time not with losing the weight but just staying happy and normal like not weighing every lettuce leaf and not going places cos food. It's ALL OR NOTHING.

No. 295748

When I was anorexic I lost fat in my face and chest that hasn't come back now that I'm at a normal weight. So I went from skinny and haggard, to pudgy and haggard. Great.

No. 295753

>>295748
Consider getting your fat transferred to your cheeks! Also possible your face was gonna thin out due to age, starts in your early to mid 20s.

No. 295754

>>295745
Well she wants to see our dog apparently .. but she drives like 2-3 hours until here, so it sounds like nonsense to me

No. 295822

coming to the realisation and acceptance you'll never be in a relationship/be loved and thus not a normal adult is really fucking crushing but its good to end it now. Some people just are alone in life and always will be. its very pain and hard not to think about and hope for because humans are social creatures and crave that connection but I need to stop once and for all and accept no ones ever gonna wanna overlook my flaws. I hope I can officially end it and just focus on my life and other things and live it the best I can, alone.

No. 295826

>>295743
>>295754
if she visits there's going to be a lot of drama. people who "don't want drama" yet keep people around who cause the drama are fucking stupid and annoying.

No. 295828

>>295822
I'm with you on this trip, too. People either disappoint me or I disappoint them. Usually both.
Feels bad.

No. 295831

Some white redneck looking dude came into my job with a shirt that said in giant letters : CHOOSE LIFE on it and it made me pretty annoyed..

No. 295838

>>295831
>>Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, Choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players, and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol and dental insurance. Choose fixed-interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisure wear and matching luggage. Choose a three piece suite on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked-up brats you have spawned to replace yourselves. Choose your future. Choose life . . . But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life: I chose something else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?

Feel better by assuming that he was referencing trainspotting kek

No. 295843

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>>295838
I love you, anon! You made my entire afternoon

No. 295846

>>295747
Ya, I feel you. Counting calories is definitely not my favorite thing to do lol. I eat a lot of frozen and pre-packaged food with the calories already labeled, so that makes things a little more manageable.

Tho when I make my own meals I almost will always end up over-eating because it's too much hassle to research the calorie content of every single ingredient and then calculate the portions.

But.. if you can practice teh disciprine and track your intake even 75% of the time, you'll see results! It just takes effort and that's the first and main hurdle. Once you start seeing losses on the scale, that in itself will become your new motivator. At least that's how it's going for me.

Good luck to you and your new job! You'll do great either way. Remember most people do not give one single fuck what you look like - they are usually more concerned with themselves to care. And the ones who do care? Who would judge you for being fat?? FUCK EM!!

No. 295858

>>295843
I'm so glad that I cheered you up!
I have just read this quote yesterday in an unrelated book, can't believe that I stumbled on your post which reminded me of it <3

>>295846
NTAYRT but how do you make sure you eat the exact portion of the frozen food? I need to start doing this too, I suck at not binging mood food and eating correct amount…

No. 295863

>>295858
nta but just weigh the frozen or prepacked stuff. i personally try to buy stuff for one person or stuff that has the weight per serving, even if it says 'one piece' or something, you can guess based on the number of servings vs the weight (like if an item is 2 servings and 640g the serving size is gonna be 320g)

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>>295858
Gah hoping not to get crucified over diet choices here lol, but when I say frozen I mean stuff like pic related. This one is my fav, but I like it best in the oven and it takes like 35m.

It just says 420 cal right on the box. Easy peasy! Or like frozen edamame packs you can just heat on the stove/microwave, or frozen veg burgers from Aldi are pretty decent imo. They had like 10 different varieties last time I was there!

Also most calorie tracking apps have a barcode scanner which makes it even more simple if you're eating packaged things.

No. 295980

>>295498
>>295506

I would be so down for this. Mot of my work combines supernatural fantasy with true crime. theres a local womens' writers group in my town, but it's for romance writers and it's not my bag.

No. 296008

>>295968
I fucking love frozen meals when I'm dieting. It's not the wisest financial choice or the most healthy option, sure, but I can get suprisingly delicious and filling meals for 250-350 calories. It makes a diet sustainable and tolerable for me and that's the important thing.

No. 296017

>>295968
Amy’s Cheddar Mac and Cheese is amazing. Their pesto tortellini is pretty good too.

No. 296074

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>hate fakebois
>follow the thread on the regular
>one of the flakes in the thread is someone i knew irl
>follow the thread pretty hard
>realize over time that my close friend's perfect girl is just a fakeboi

i don't know what feels to feel.

No. 296076

I was fine being broken up with my ex bf for the first 8 months but the past few weeks have been really getting to me and I just wish I could talk to him

No. 296101

>>295826
I already see drama because he is getting judgemental towards me and my mental health is already really bad. When she doesn’t wanna talk to me he is probably gonna say
“you should talk to her more, it’s obvious that you hate her” and when I talk to her I just feel like I am lying to myself and to her.
She is fat, a liar and stinky and I don’t think he wants a relationship with her ever again, but I am really anxious of her starting drama and ruin our day in the end, just because she is still salty that he has me

No. 296115

>been working hard on my relationship after we hit 7 year crisis
>it's been going better and better after hellish months of new jobs, moving and general existential crisis for us both
>my ex shows up and propositions me out of nowhere

I told him to fuck off but damn, it was kinda hard and it makes me even more confused.

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No. 296131

>>296121
like the type of girl my friend wants to date. when he describes a girl he'd want he's just describing a fakeboi.

No. 296146

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i've gained weight and everyone is okay with it because I look "healthy" and good for my size/height. im on the higher end of correct bmi for my height but I feel so disgusting with my new body. My boobs, ass, and thighs are bigger and it grosses me out being possibly perceived in a sexual light more often than when I was what they considered skelly. some of the things I had when I was thinner were pretty low cut and now I have a good amount of cleavage wearing normal bras I absolutely hate it. tank tops, sweaters being tighter around my chest, etc, all of this makes my skin crawl. I hate feeling this way because seeing other girls with huge chests wearing tight or low cut clothing doesnt bother me at all but when I see myself it feels wrong. My chest isnt particularly big to begin with (I'm a b-c at most) but seeing myself in the mirror with a more "womanly" body is giving me anxiety. I want to wear pretty cute bras but I feel happiest wearing sports bras. Debating cutting calories like woah and working out like crazy again because of it…

No. 296150

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I love hanging out with the girls in my comm, but none of them host meets, and when I host a meet they only want to come if it's something dainty like drinking tea. The moment anyone suggests anything more out of the ordinary than a potluck, no one wants to come.

I booked a restaurant for 45 people since that's how many were interested.
Five are coming. FIVE!!!

I almost want to cancel and say FUCK IT, host your own meets!

No. 296167

With the new Bojack Horseman season I was so ready to go read some good old /co/ threads, but then I remembered there is filled with sexist robot assholes now that have this huge rageboner for Diane event though she is just as lost and sympathetic as Bojack.
Guess I'll just have to watch it by myself or find some girlfriends to watch it with lol
;_;

No. 296176

I hate wearing revealing and tight clothes because the idea of some man ogling me fills me with disgust, why the are fashion companies only churning out ugly revealing outfits. There are so few options if someone wants to be modest/covered up, the only companies I've seen making decent modest clothing are either ridiculously expensive and/or are catered more towards muslim women, so if i wore those clothes id probably be accused of cultural appropriation or something lol. And also why do womens clothes have the thickness and texture of paper?

No. 296186

>>296167
I love Bojack and am after 3rd episode of the new season. I plan to binge watch the rest today. I would love to talk to you here about it, maybe in a tv show thread if it exists? If not, we can make a new tv series or even western animation thread.

Glad you mentioned Diane cause the 2nd episode destroyed m

No. 296188

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>tfw you go to a mental health forum and anonymously talk, for the first time, about mental/emotional abuse you went through as a child in a bid to seek advice on how to get rid of the aftereffects
>tfw people who aren't even part of the demographic you were chiefly seeking help from decide to insert themselves into the conversation, mock you and accuse you of making things up
I just told them if I wanted to lie, I'd make up something that's actually sensible and way more interesting, and that the fact that they simply can't relate is kind of good, because it's a shitty experience. One insisted that parts of my story "weren't adding up" because my parent's actions didn't mirror their words (I guess abusive, semi-narc parents who come from abusive backgrounds themselves are known for being beacons of logic and not complete hypocrites, right?) and then gave me some fake BS apology. The other person just didn't respond.
Literally everyone else in the thread said they understood, because they were from similar family backgrounds/upbringing. Some had even heard the exact same shit my parents had said to me, verbatim. But somehow, these two chucklefucks from completely different backgrounds thought they knew better. All this has done for me is further affirm that I should keep quiet about my life. I don't know how I would've reacted if I tried talking about this to a therapist and they told me that.
Expecting empathy from 99% of the human race is idiotic. Unless you know for a fact that the person you're talking to has been through something similar or even worse, they'll just internally disbelieve you, or accuse you of lying, because it's too far outside of their experience.

No. 296208

>>296167
As sad as the state of discussion is on /co/, it's been pretty great to revel in incels watching a full season of feminist writing to get their tiny dosage of ~smart guy nihilism~ and then seeing their devastating butthurt after.

No. 296209

>>296167
A lot of friends recommended Bojack. I couldn't watch it. I hated the titular character so hard it was impossible to watch. A fucking crybaby who never does anything to improve, doesn't consider anyone but himself and shits all over efforts of other people to help him. I mean the whole "people try to help him, not tell him to fuck off and cut contact" schtick is extremely unrealistic. No wonder neckbeards at /co/ like him so much, since he's the prototype of every "do nothing but expect something" man. Fuck them and fuck bojack. I felt bad for Diane for staying close to that gaping asshole. In real life a smart woman would leave the situation.

No. 296217

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This post might be disorganized and long but I really just need to get this out.

First of all, I'm considering joining the Navy, my step father is the one who gave me the idea for it. I just graduated in August (yes, August..That's a vent for another time) and I met with a recruiter who clicked really well with me and wasn't super pressuring or anything like I was expecting after reading stories on the internet about them. I got all my paper work in and the next step I have to take is my ASVAB (she said I have a month after the I take the test to go to the next step) So, I haven't done it yet since I had plans I didn't want to miss. (keep in mind I just graduated last month and all of this took place a week or two after) My step dad is now on my case about the whole thing, I was dumb and didn't do as much research on it as I should've and now I'm having second thoughts about the whole thing. I'm a very anxious person and have been depressed before, none of these things have been enough for me to go to a professional about it.

I just don't know if Military is for me, I really just was listening to all the good things he was saying about it while not looking into the bad. It just got to much for me to decide right now, I'm 19 and the thought of making the choice that I'll have to deal with for at least 4 years is scary as lame as that sounds. It's not even all of this but he keeps pressuring to make the decision right now, when I'm just trying to enjoy a month of vacation. He thinks just because I haven't talked about it in a coupe weeks that it's just gone from my mind completely, even after I reassure him it's not. I just want some time to cool down, and have fun before I do something like this. This is the only time he seems interested in my life, or what I do with it and keeps telling how proud of me he will be, he's never been this nice or supportive with anything else in my life…it feels odd.

I'm just going to ignore him and focus on my vacation. Not sure if that's the best thing to do but I just can't deal with him right now. It's too much.

No. 296218

>>296188
>anonymous forums
>advice
isn't that where you go to get metal issues?

No. 296219

>>296218
Nta but, wow anon what a clever girl you are. You must be proud.

No. 296220

>>296217
4 girls walk into the army
3 girls limp out with physical trauma
make of it what you want

No. 296221

I was supposed to super seriously start my diet today.
Guess what?
I ate two pain au chocolat and one croissant from Lidl

No. 296232

>>296217
Personally I wouldn't do the Navy as a woman. They have problems of sexual harassment and discrimination towards women, just my opinion but I wouldn't join any organization that is more than 95% male.

No. 296233

>>296217
Join the reserve instead? My coworker did that for the chair force and it’s going well for her

No. 296238

Why do people always look down on me and act like im an idiot? I understand that im slow and quiet but that doesnt mean im not human.I swear to god i always got tease (and not the good kind) in middle school from asshole friends…i recently commented on an old middle school accquaitance to catch up with her and those assholes never seem to cut the act,they never stop…they dont even feel regret.Things gets worse in highschool tho,theres this teacher whom at first i was fairly cool with but when i ask a question,he jokingly ask back VERY slowy ''Do you understand?'' and when i did sth fairly out of my comfort zone,people act suprise,i hate that…Am i too sentive? I swear to god i understand more than you think,i felt to bad these days.Im a uni freshman now,i promise to myself i wont let anybody look down on me and always look up to me with admiring eyes

No. 296243

>>296233
>>296220
>>296232
Thanks for the feedback, I hadn't thought much about the reserves. Or the Airforce really…I'll look into it. I think looking at all my options is the right thing to do but my step dad thinks I'm wasting time. Seems better than rushing into something I would regret though.

No. 296255

>>296238
I have the same problem sometimes anon, it was worse way back in highschool, I think it has to do with your facial expression.
Try to do some mirror work, distance yourself and try to understand what people are seeing when you make your default look or question look, then try to change it to one of a confident person. At first it will feel like playing a character, but then it will become your standard facial expression.
(also mind your blinking, not blinking enough or blinking slowly makes you look "special" in a bad way)

No. 296264

>>296243
prior air force here, the enlistment age has gone up to almost 40 for the air force so you have plenty of time. seriously its a huge decision and i wouldn't put it lightly, you literally sign your life away and will be thrown in jail for not doing your time. yep sounds like prison because it is…sorta. theres huge perks like getting your healthcare covered and getting any degree/vocation/training/licensing for free with the GI bill and getting tuition assistance while you're in so you dont need to use the gi bill until you get out, the cool places you can travel, the cool people you can meet…but you literally belong to them. you can be guaranteed a certain job/base/etc and they can take that away because you signed a contract signing your rights to autonomy away. "sorry we said that, but we need you to do this instead. you agreed to belong to the government so suck it up buttercup." also other anon was right about harassment, i was in the "smart" military and i was assaulted twice in my 6 year career. they're a lot better about it now in terms of helping you but that shit fucks with your head. i'll never regret joining because ive made the best friends of my life, had a steady paycheck, and i had experiences i would have never seen without it (pulled me out of a shitty town and helped me grow into my own) but there was a lot of fucking bad too. ps even if you're guard/reserves they can call you to active duty if need be and you'll be drawn into the suck anyway. don't let your stepdad pressure you and really think about why you want to join and how long you're willing to do it if you do because once you agree you can't back out with a lot of negative consequences.

No. 296272

I watched an interview with Nicole Kidman from a year ago, and a lot of people in the comments pointed out how she looks unnatural, and how she should accept that she's old and ugly. Not one similar comment was addressed to her costar, a man who is approximately her age.

But the comments were really mean. It's like they can't possibly feel empathy towards a woman that is in a merciless industry where looks are everything, especially if you're female. And I do think she still acts great all things considered, but I hate how people invalidate her work with superficial observations.

I just hate how everybody, both men and women, are so keen on attacking older women who do their best to look good. The hatred is palpable from some comments. Men really do have it easy.

No. 296274

>>296264
Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to reply here. The advice of giving it time and thinking it through from someone who was in the airforce really makes me feel better about it, less doubting myself and all that. On the topic of harassment, that part really scares me, but my stepdad sort of brushes it off whenever I would bring it up as a genuine concern. And he also thinks that I'm psyching myself out by wanting to know what experiences people who are in have, which I'm not, just want to be sure I'm somewhat prepared for things that might happen. I've been doing all my research on the Navy, but the more I found out about it the more I don't think it would be for me. I'm going to look into the Airforce now too, no sense in limiting my options.

No. 296276

>>296272
if we're talking about the same interview, then i have to agree we the commentors, she did look extremely plastic and creepy to me. theyre really reaching by calling her old and ugly tho. i agree with you on everything else, especially that women are judged much more harshly in aging, even though men age a lot worse than women. you dont see many 30 year old women walking around with receding hairlines and beer bellies lmfao

No. 296278

>>296272
People are insane about women aging. It doesn't matter how wrinkly a mans face is compared to a woman, he is just rugged and manly. A woman has a couple of smile lines and she's an old hag who hit the wall.

Gonna go on a tangent here about something I've noticed, I have long since accepted that men despise women over 30, but I truly can't handle when they bring skincare into it. Most women put 10000x more effort into their skincare routines, spend less time in the sun, smoke and rink at lower rates, and men have the fucking nerve to claim wearing makeup causes premature aging and therefore the woman is at fault for daring to age even a little. Men do fucking nothing for their skin so they physically age far worse, people just don't hold them to the same standards as us - wrinkles are acceptable on men, but anything less than a perfect, doll-like face on a woman is heinous. And if they DO manage to maintain their skin better than a woman, it's more likely because of their extra collagen and melanin than anything they did themselves.

No. 296304

>>296272
I agree. It really saddens and scares me. At 21 I already feel old (I know that's not true, but I feel like my good years are going). I think wrinkly men are just as likely to look good or bad as wrinkly women, but george clooney is a hunky silver fox while nicole kidman is hitting the wall.

Everything to do with appearance is so much harsher on women. Sure, someone's going to butt in with a 'MeN hAvE iT bAd ToO', and sure, whatever. But there's an obvious difference in attitude towards the genders. There is.

No. 296309

I'm damn close to just resigning myself to being alone. And I don't mean just romantically. Its harder to make friends than getting a boyfriend. I've been trying years now and at this point I'm damn near done trying. I'm not very happy with dating either and haven't had a relationship I can say was good (maybe just "OK") so I can't fall back on that either. I guess that is just how life is for some people. I'm trying to get new work I can like better so at least I can throw myself into being a workaholic.

No. 296310

I’ve been fucking this guy at work for about two months now. Starting to realize that he’s flakey and immature. He pratically ghosted me last week and thought it was funny that I was mad at him for it (He did apologize for ghosting me but not laughing at me). Yesterday was my birthday and he didn’t bother to wish me happy birthday thru text or the day before since we worked together. At first, I thought he forgot (even though he told me quite a few times that virtually all of his exes were born in September, so you think he would remember). Well, we worked together this morning and he asked me how my birthday went.

Are you fucking kidding me?

I straight up ignored him and walked past him when he said that. I know we were never “official” but I thought he would care about me as a friend at least. I’m not even mad but disappointed.

No. 296315

>>296208
Am I the only one who found the obvious feminist filler episodes in season 5 (well, maybe not so filler as they were setting up shit for Bojack choking Gina and realizing that he's just as big piece of shit) the weakest ones? It feels to me like preaching to the converted. Yeah, praising ~male feminists~ for reaching the bare minimum for being a decent human being while women who say the same shit are being harrassed is both idiotic and angering. Now can we please move on with the plot?
I felt like Bojack the Feminist did not say anything new about the issue or was not particularly clever about it. At least Thoughts and prayers nailed the hypocrisy and Hank after Dark felt more fresh (IMHO). I did not enjoy this season's Very Special Feminist episodes, but I love that Bojack embraces the feminist narrative while luring in neckbeards just to kick them in the balls.
As much as I appreciate the depiction of Todd's asexuality (cause it will inform and help a lot of people find themselves) I also found the episodes putting it to the front a bit too anvilicious for their own good. But whatever, still enjoyed 5th season the Hanoi and funeral episodes were the best, dunno yet how I feel about the two final ones

>>296209
Spoilering this for the sake of people that might want to see Bojack - mild spoiler about plot direction in seasons 2-4 if you kept watching, you would find out that people being sick of Bojack's bullshit cut him out. You do have to wait for it, and the main characters do get together later, on but there are definite consequences of Bojack being a shitbag. He does try to become a better person, though each step in the right direction is followed by two missteps hindering his progress

Obviously you do not have to slog through the Bojack hoping that you will like the show someday, just felt like mentioning this

No. 296323

>>296310
you shouldn't be disappointed, you both are just using each other for sex not to be buddy-buddy with each other. i'm sure he wouldn't be mad at you for not remembering his birthday either, you're just a good fuck to him and that's all you should see him as well. it's almost like you're fucking a fuckboi and expect him to respect you as an adult, it is just not going to happen so don't get too emotional about this.

No. 296325

>>296310
He finds your reactions to his immature bullshit entertaining and he doesn’t respect you. Just get rid of him.

No. 296330

>>296323
I’ll admit, I probably took the relationship a bit too seriously. Not that I never seriously thought that he was “the one” or that our relationship would go anywhere but he at least seemed to care about me beyond sex. Occasionally, I would yell him about my problems and he would at least try to give me advice. Maybe at the end of the day, he just saw me as a warm tight hole to put his dick in. I don’t know. I guess the reason I indulged is because I’m lonely and I don’t have a lot of friends. I’m used to this shit happening with guys which is why I’m not
even that disappointed. I’m not even mad at him. I just thought he did was kinda shitty and that he needs to grow up. I’m willing to talk things out but he’s probably to dense to get my hints. Oh well.
>>296325
Agreed. I feel like I’ve should’ve figured out he was immature the way that other coworkers talked about him but I guess I learned the hard way.

No. 296335

>>283640
I moved to a new country on a whim and finding a full-time job that isn't a minimum wage under-the-table kind of deal is so hard. I'm not losing hope but damn, it's hard.

I'm sharing an apartment with girls and I thought they'd be all from different countries but they all ended up from the same south american country. So they're sometimes acting miffed when they have to speak english around me and stop their jajaja, like I'm the one who made them come to an english speaking country.

And holy fuck are they LOUD. They have no concept of inside voice and will downright yell just speaking to someone in front of their face. Why, just why.
Also they just turn up the TV randomly loud at like 2am when they can't even understand what's going on and take their calls on speakers. I just don't get it.

Besides that they're nice so that's cool.

No. 296344

>>296335
>moved to a new country on a whim

so you're like an illegal or you live in EU? either way you're a fucking retard holy shit.

No. 296380

>>296330
it's literally a knee jerk reaction to give advice when confronted with someone's complaint. it doesn't mean he gives a shit about you beyond your vagina. don't dump relationship tier issues all over him when you mutually agreed to be fwb.

No. 296384

>>296330
you're thinking of this in way too black and white terms imo. i'm sure he likes you somewhat and doesn't dehumanize you that badly if you've had some nice conversations, but he also doesn't want a relationship which is why he's not going out of his way to remember your birthday. He's probably just trying to have a fun fling doesn't want to think too much about it. That doesn't mean he thinks of you as a blow up doll, it just means he doesn't think of you as a potential girlfriend. If that grosses you out, end it and make that clear.

No. 296406

>>296344
Not an illegal, and eurofag but not in Europe currently. I don't see how I'm retarded, I'm a freelance and I'm making good money, sorry to disappoint. I moved countries a bunch of times so it's not my first rodeo.

Freelancing is chill but securing a visa would allow me to stay longer than what I'm currently allowed and I want a good international reference.

No. 296407

>>296406
yea no you're retarded.

No. 296436

>>296406
sounds like you're trying to live and work there illegally to me if you don't have an actual work visa
>>296407 is right, you're a fucking retard and you brought your issues on yourself

No. 296437

>>296310
>>296330
If you don't respect yourself, how do you expect anyone else to? He saw that, took advantage of it, and got a good few nuts out of it. Now the conquest is over and it's boring. Casual sex is inherently more emotionally damaging for women than men, imo. The sooner you realize that the better, even if it takes a few hard knocks.

No. 296441

>>296310
drop him. This shit doesn't ever end well. Like the other anon said, casual sex or Friends with benefits never works out for women. I dont wanna sound like i'm assuming here, but we tend to get a bit more emotionally attached when it comes to sex, even if we know it's only casual. It's better to stop right now before it gets worse, esp if you're fucking someone are your job.

Don't shit where you eat.

No. 296442

>>296441
Samefag, but i had a similar experience in my mid 20s. I was doing friends with benefits with a guy who was about 5 years younger than me and it was okay for the first week, but then it got really bad.

I bought condoms once and the next time i came back, they were almost gone because he fucked some other girl without telling me. I felt hurt, even though it was stupid and none of us were dating anyone else and had no reason to tell each other. But yeah, it felt bad– like i was being used. Next time i know, he stopped answering my calls or email. No idea what happened, but it bugged me for a year. Never saw him again.

So just get rid of this dude and love yourself, anon

No. 296448

>>296436
You guys are retarded. I'm on a legit visa that allows me to stay and work there but I can stay longer if I get a sponsorship. And I can apply for a sponsorship by directly searching for a job and going through interviews.

The struggle is finding a company that is ok going through the paperwork and motions to hire me instead of a local cause it's a process. I'd rather do that than be an expat bartender or just freelance for 2 years then be back home.

No. 296460

my back is killing me. I can't wait to start taking care of myself again, buy new bra's and get a boob job, my boobs disgust me and cause me so much pain. fuck.

No. 296465

Getting tired of the fact that any time I ask my husband to help me do anything he acts like a retard with zero autonomy.
This morning I accidentally dropped some cereal so I swept it into a pile, but I'm heavily pregnant and can't bend easily without hurting myself so I asked him to please just sweep it in the dust pan and throw it away. He then invites our kid to come step on the cereal/pick it up and eat it just to be spiteful and gets mad at me when I say I'm sick of his shit. Apparently most grown men act this way so whatever, I'll just keep resorting to escapism during my free time.

No. 296466

>>296310
been there! I would stop immediately, sleeping with someone you work with never ends well

No. 296469

>>296441

I'm fucking fat and hate myself for it. I've been eating because I'm depressed and lack self control and I've literally ballooned into a literal landwhale. I hit 200+ and want to kms lol

No. 296477

>>296465
Wow anon, I’m sorry you let this ape knock you up (twice!), but most adult men absolutely do not act like this. You really deluded yourself there, not only marrying, having children, but convincing yourself that it’s normal. So sad that you’re stuck with a guy that sounds like he’s larping as onision. Personally, I’d divorce him but you sound pretty content.

No. 296492

>>296465
I don't know why but I find it hilarious that a pregnant mother of two would browse lolcow.

No. 296531

>>296492
>>296477
Not the anon you guys were responding to, but you guys kinda sound like dicks. I don't have kids but what's wrong with someone here being a mother?

No. 296538

>>296531
I think the first response is pretty bitchy (even though OP’s husband sounds like a manchild) but the second one isn’t so bad. I think they just find it so amusing that someone who is a wife and mother browses lolcow.

No. 296554

>>296448
maybe if you didn't state that you're not trying to find a job "under the table" it would sound like you were actually there legally. why not say all this shit in the first place, retard :^)

No. 296555

>>296441
tbh it's not even an issue of emotional attachment. Even if you really don't like the guy, you WILL see it as a rejection when he doesn't eventually fall for you and want a relationship. Your feelings will be hurt even if you don't want him, because it's an insult if he 'only' wants you for sex, regardless of whatever the arrangement is, and it's an insult if he wants other women at the same time.

Men won't see it as rejection because just sexual acceptance alone is enough to satisfy their egos, it's meaningless for us.

No. 296560

i went to a party yesterday because it seemed like it would be fun to meet some artsy and chill people. turned out that nobody there was interested in meeting me. idk i guess everyone was there with their friends and only interested in listening to music and hanging out with people they know.

also it's frustrating hearing about how other girls my age constantly have to turn down guys but i get nothing. i feel like i'm pretty sweet, cute, and fun in bed. maybe not the top but sometimes i feel like i'm at the bottom 10% or something. which is weird because i love the way i look personally.

No. 296569

i can't find the willpower to hang out with or even talk to my friends. it feels so good to just stay at home and do my own thing, not communicating with them.

No. 296571

The best sex I ever had was with a damn sociopath I had zero future with, and zero reasons for giving him the time of day in the first place.

No. 296573

I have never had a friend that didnt use me. I've only been a replacement while others are gone, or a therapist and an emotional well for people to drain. I wish I knew how to form mutual relationships with people.

No. 296586

>>296573
i’m the same way anon. recently i cut myself off from my friend group although we’ve known one another for years. i’m getting too old for that shit.

No. 296618

>>296554
Ya I'm done with arguing with your retarded ass because you couldn't read my first post properly. Casual jobs or under-the-table jobs are really common for foreigners. Lots of people study and officially work 20h but do the rest cash in hand, which I'm not interested in. So finding a proper full-time job in a specific field is difficult, as opposed to casual illegal ones.

I'd still encourage anyone to try their luck and move countries if their financial situation permits it. Look into visa lotteries, work visa and skilled occupations. Esp. if you're not a native english speaker, that can be a really good opportunity to live abroad and open doors for you back home.

No. 296620

My mother has never helped me to stand up, she only brings me down all the time

It's no wonder I'm so fucked up, I have absolutely no one to talk to

No. 296622

>>296618
under the table jobs are illegal you trash.

No. 296623

>>296448
how the fuck are you planning on getting sponsered by working under the table you idiot?

No. 296642

I hate myself and every time I get a crush to like me back I stop liking them. I have plenty of secrets and the idea of getting into a relationship and having to reveal all of that shit to someone I love and admire makes me avoid real love like the plague.

No. 296652

>>296642 same anon.
Except I stop liking them because I'm afraid once I get into the relationship that my lack of experience will fuck me over again. I've only been in one relationship and it ended badly because I didn't know what to do as a Girlfriend. I thought It would just be being a friend with commitment. Guess I was wrong lol.

No. 296669

I’m extremely stressed out from work, doing everyone’s jobs on top of my own has left me depressed, overwhelmed and even suicidal
On top of that my girlfriend is dealing with her own issues which makes me feel like I have to baby sit her
She cries and wakes me up in the night so she’s not alone
Needs to be around me at all times, and talks about her anxiety bothering her every minute

Tomorrow I go back to work and I work all day while she’ll be at home and she doesn’t know what to do and thinks about dying
So on top of being stressed from my job I have a suicidal person to deal with and I’m like past the point of dealing with everything right now

No. 296670

>>296669
I was in a very similar situation way back and I'll give you my advice: drop the bitch. She won't kill herself. People who are actually suicidal rarely talk about it, she's just a BPD mess looking for attention and uses the suicide threats to keep you under her control. I know it's really hard and takes time but just trust me, she's not going to off herself if you start telling her to stop messing up your life. You deserve better.

>She cries and wakes me up in the night so she’s not alone

This especially is just sick and another sign that she wants to be in complete control of you.

No. 296675

>>296669
ultimatum time: tell her to get therapy or you're out.

No. 296702

I got a kitten from a breeder a few weeks ago (three month old) and she is the cutest. I decided to get another kitten from a rescue so she is not alone.
The new kitten (five month old) had to be flied to my country and I had no chance to visit her before I got her.
The thing is the new cat bites when she cuddles. And it hurts!
What can I do that she stops?

Right now I'm hiding from them in another room and feel depressed. I just want to love and cuddle her but it hurts so much.

The kittens get along really great btw.

No. 296714

I /need /help pronto / does /anyone /know /how /to /fix /my /macbook /pro /keyboard. /Every /time /I /click /the /space /bar a /slash /also /appears /and /when /I /click /delete button /it /turns /off /the /screen light. How /do /I /fix /this ?

No. 296716

>>296714
google /it

No. 296717

I didn't do any ab exercises this weekend but my abs are killing me.
Only slightly concerned.

No. 296719

>>296702
gently pinch the skin on her neck and move her away when she bites, then pet her again in a minute. She'll get the message pretty soon

No. 296722

>>296716
I did.

No. 296732

>>296714
Macbook keyboards are fucking shit. I know, because since my "e", "y", "r" and "t" keys stopped working (one by one, they spazzed out just before dying, and I ended up having each letter appear involuntarily whenever I typed, much like what you're dealing with now), I've been forced to use the on-screen keyboard. This sort of thing never happened on any of my Windows laptops.
Once, my space bar temporarily stopped working and I freaked the fuck out. It came back after I restarted a few times, though, so I recommend you try that. To avoid a headache, if there are any spaces or "/"s in your password(s), get rid of them.
Know that in all likelihood, you'll either lose manual use of the "/" key, or the space bar (hopefully it's the former). Your best bet is probably to buy a USB keyboard, or a new laptop altogether, if things get too tiresome. Fuck Apple for this, honestly.

No. 296739

>>296732
The new butterfly keys are terrible. Why the fuck do they have to make everything thinner to the point where it becomes complete shit? I can already throw my laptop across the room with one hand, why does it need to be smaller?

I am thankful that my 2015 macbook doesn't have the piece of shit keyboard the new ones have.

No. 296740

>>296719
This, plus make a sharp and loud sound like 'oh!' before pushing it away, it'll make easier for the kitten to understand that it's not ok.
Worked all of my cats to make them stop biting/clawing at hands.

No. 296755

I went on a tinder date with a guy and we got along really well and had a lot of the same interests (we're both vegan too), and we fucked after the second date. Now he's not texting me and he's turned down 3 different attempts to hang out. He keeps replying to my messages but doesn't try to continue conversation at all. I feel like such an idiot for fucking him so fast.

No. 296759

>>296755
Never fuck a guy faster than a month. Men look for relationships to find sex and then they accidently fall in love. The hope of one day getting sex is the bait that keeps a man around long enough to get to know you and start to care. If you give him sex early on he already got what he wanted so there's no way to trick him into getting to know you. It is twisted but this is how the male brain works.

No. 296768

>>296759
Why do men do that? It makes more sense to get the girl who is best fit for you and have sex with her regularly. Non-stop supply.
I only want a male partner for sex, he would serve no other purpose for me. But getting one to use whenever you both want is easier than having to go out there an introduce yourself to a new stranger every time.
Stupid.

No. 296778

I hate my roommates dog. I love dogs, I want to adopt one when I live on my own and have a stable income. But I just can't stand this one annoying yappy rat in a dog form.

The dog smells absolutely awful and everything it touches smells too. One time the dog had been on my pillow and I actually gagged when I laid my head on it. I thought schanuzer's were supposed to be generally odorless?

We have been living in this complex for two years now and it still yaps and barks at every little noise from other apartments. My roommate refuses to teach it not to.

My roommate doesn't walk it nearly enough and every time I try to take it out to pee whenever it whines when my roommate is sleeping late, it just whines some more like "Not you!"
You know what the dog does instead of letting me take it out? Sneaks into our kitchen and pees and poops on the floor.

The dog has bitten literally everyone that has visited our apartment. It bit me when I tried to sit on the couch where it was sitting, it bit my roommates girlfriend out of nowhere when she was changing the dog's water, it bit my girlfriend who had the gall just sit on the kitchen table and ignore it. The last straw was when the dog tried to bite my four year old niece who I was babysitting and who was just watching tv.

Now the dog has started aggressively begging for food. My roommate gives it anything he is eating at the moment which made it think it's entitled to anything we are eating. I was eating potato chips yesterday and the dog yanked one from my hand.

I know it's not really the dogs fault and I do blame my roommate for all this. But I still hate that furry cunt with all my heart.

No. 296779

>>296778
schnauzers are a lovely breed of dog. its not the dogs fault at all, you should really talk to you roommate about what a shit owner he is instead of ranting about the dog.

No. 296783

>>296778
>I want to adopt one
Please never get a dog that you will end up abandoning because it barks jfc.

No. 296785

>>296759
I feel so stupid. He said he wanted to hang out again too but now he's just ignoring my existence (but looking at my insta stories lmao). He also told me he hasn't fucked since he broke up with his ex but now I feel like he was lying about that

No. 296786

>>296783
I'm not about to abandon a dog because it barks. My problem with this dog is that my roommate refuses to teach his dog to not bark bloody murder every time our upstairs neighbors drop something.
Most dogs can be taught not to bark and I'm willing to train a dog not to bark so much, or find a place to stay somewhere where I won't get evicted because the dog is too loud.
>>296779
I actually like the breed. I have tried to tell my roommate to take the dog out more because I feel like most of the problems stem either from the dogs boredom or roommates shitty and lazy attitude.

No. 296803

I know there are probably some good men out there but some irl experiences and a lot of time spent on the internet made me too wary.

I like ASMR so I went to visit 8ch.net/asmr and it was a really bad mistake. Hatred and vitriol against women everywhere.

I wasn't surprised to learn that those incels started a witch hunt and managed to get some asmrtists that they deemed whores, funds frozen/accounts banned in PayPal, Patreon, and Youtube.

Here's the link https://www.engadget.com/2018/09/14/paypal-ban-asmr-sound-art-therapy/?guccounter=1

I know it's just the internet and supposedly a minority but I can't shake the feeling that a lot of men are like this.

I'd like a relationship eventually but there's no escaping the manosphere.
It's literally everywhere and a constant reminder that you don't have much good men left.
Or so it appears.

I feel like romance doesn't exist.

No. 296815

>>296803
dear god
idk whether to be amused because a lot of these girls really are complete and utter cunts and are actually useless to asmr and giving it a bad rep which is a legit concern, or disgusted because the messenger putting a stop to it is disgruntled sexually frustrated retards

No. 296829

>>296759
This is bs in my opinion. Many men will happily wait a long time until you put out, just to drop you immediately after because they weren't interested in you as a person in the first place. If a guy thinks you're awesome and is truly interested in you it does not matter whether you sleep with him on your first date our your 8th. In that case he'll only want more from you instead of losing interest because he ~got what he wanted~.

>>296785
It really sucks that this has happened to you, but I really don't think the fact that you slept with him on your second date had anything to do with him not being interested in pursuing anything further than that, so don't beat yourself up over it.

No. 296831

I have never had true feelings for someone until now and it hurts.
He keeps flirting with me and I want to strangle him because he never means it, or at least doesn’t have the balls to confess. I don’t know what I am to him but I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone then I do with him. He’s charming, patient and loving. He’s so charismatic I wouldn’t hesitate to believe he might be a manipulative sociopath, not that it matters since I’m the same. But I won’t confess, ever. I won’t give him the power to say no. Our relationship is the epitome of ‘will they won’t they’ for the unforeseeable and my patience is dwindling.

No. 296833

>>296831
stop wasting your time and cut him off. nobody adult has time for this shit.

No. 296842

i’m trying to come to terms with the fact that my cousin molested me when i was in high school but i can’t help but feel disgusted with myself for being too afraid to try to stop it from happening and being too ashamed to tell anyone

tfw you need to go back to therapy but you broke lol

No. 296852

So I just found out I'm related to a serial killer / rapist. I don't know how to feel about it, to be honest. We have no relationship with that side of the family but it's still a bizarre feeling.

No. 296853

>>296759
I have a different theory. Most (especially single) men will just try to fuck anything (ok, almost anything) they can get, and worry about endgame later, since that's the biggest hurdle they usually have. They will happily have sex with women they don't find that attractive, and of course will never have a relationship with. It's a predictable strategy to pick. If the challenge is how to get women sexually/romantically interested and you have to throw many hooks into the water, so to speak, then it's best to try with everyone and if you by sheer chance find one you like, then it's typically easy to go from being sexual partners to being in a relationship. The other direction being friends first, sexual partner later is less likely.

if you're waiting for months to have sex, then consider that there's nothing stopping the man from trying to open up other new leads on tinder while you're counting the week. At least in my personal experience, since I've seen cases where they had sex after months and the girl still got instantly dumped.

That being said, I think it's still a smart move to wait a little, but for other reasons. Namely, it hard to spot all the red flags in just a couple of meets. By waiting longer you have more opportunities to see if there's anything wrong with him, which can save you tons of problems.

No. 296854

tfw u read a comment on this thread and you totally think it‘s about yourself …

No. 296855

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When I was young I always thought dark circles under the eyes were cute and charming, and that I would love to have them. Now that I'm 20 I have the dark circles of a dehydrated 70 year old insomniac and I hate it, I look so dull and worn out. When I first noticed them I thought it was eyeliner residue but it just wouldn't wipe off.

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>>296618
>im not the retarded one YEW AREEE
says the imbecile who thinks that anything under the table is legal. you know why they call it under the table right?

No. 296875

>>296855
They are charming! Embrace your spoop, become the vampire you were meant to be.

No. 296886

>>296854
Which comment, anon?

No. 296892

>>296783
I mean..Theres a good chance anon will be fine with their own dog because they won’t neglect to train it or care for it like anons roommate has with the schnauzer.

>>296852
That would be weird as hell. Were you close to them previously?

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>>296622
>>296623
>>296873
It's sad to be this retarded at this point I'm legit worried for some of yall. Yup I know that under-the-table = illegal. That is why I won't do it and I'm not doing it. Still, it's extremely easy to find cause that's what they offer to a lot of foreigners.
Wait I'm gonna type it again for some of you short bus riding inbreds : I'm not working illegaly, I'm doing freelance work under a legit visa, I'm searching for a legit job not an illegal one.

It's basically the usual soul-crushing job search with some added difficulty, because I'm not local.

No. 296929

I'm so fucking annoyed by people who live in my apartment building and go into the common outdoor area (it's in the middle of all of the apartments) at 10 pm every night and play beer pong, blast music, scream, yell, break into the pool (it's gated off and locked after sunset) etc. They're my age (College, probs go to same school as me) and I know it seems so stick-up-the-ass of me but IT DRIVES ME FUCKING NUTS. I confronted them and asked them to please be quiet once and they didn't listen, just laughed at me and kept playing their music. I know it's the same group of people (pretty sure only one of them is actually a resident and the rest are his friends) and they've woken me up at all hours of the night climbing over the fence into the pool and yelling (like at 4 am on a tuesday). I'm guessing they go outside instead of stay in the apartment bc they don't want their neighbors to complain, but now the WHOLE building has to deal with them being loud. I've thought about calling the cops several times but idk if they would even come to bust them bc cops here don't care about noise complaints at all it seems like. Sorry just needed to vent and I'm sick of them playing their shitty music and listening to these girls squeal all night. Just because you don't have class in the morning doesn't mean everyone's in the same boat (not to mention most people that live in the building have 9-5 jobs).

No. 296964

I searched back for Pixielock's Japan thread to reread about her trip. What a ride! I can't believe it's been over a year ago now. Loved all the exposed Mystery.jpg jelly-posting too lol. I forgot how bad blogposting used to be.

Low key I was reading it because I remembered how despite having a high budget and traveling with her mom, her trip was culturally lacking and really tacky. What pastel pleb spends the entirety of a two week itinerary in Tokyo with 3g buying shit she could just buy online and eating hamburgers?

I'm glad I got something out of my trip in spite of having little shopping money. It's so ridiculous and shallow to go to Japan, or any country for that matter, to not experience any of the culture and waste money buying foods or stuff one could get back home.

Jill hasn't changed of course.

No. 296978

>>296929
Have you said anything to the managemet/landlord? If not, then do that. If nothing is done after that, get a paintball gun or fill a super soaker with piss and firebaway when they get too loud.

No. 296985

I took too many benzos before this job introduction and interview at this hotel and I'm fresking I don't know how to speak I'm fucking melting which is making my anxiety fight the benzos. Fuck I'm sitting in the lobby waiting cos no ones here. Pray for me anons

No. 296987

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>>296985
you will do great. i believe in you.

No. 297037

>>296987
Thank you but I failed badly not cos of the benzos but because I'm a bozo…chilleee you don't throw an agoraphobic NEET into the fire like that.

No. 297038

>>297037
Sorry to hear that anon.
I'm an agoraphobic NEET too (5+ years agoraphobia) and I have interviews coming up next week so I know very well how you feel.

I had one interview this Monday but I chickened out. Went straight to the building, wore my finest clothes, then I saw people in there through the glass door which made me vomit.

But I believe in you. I believe we can both do it. It might take some time, but eventually we'll get there.
Though my father will probably kick me out before that lol

No. 297047

I started self harming which is a dumb thing to do anyway, but I'm really mad at myself because I'm a grown ass adult. Cutting is a stupid teenager thing to do and it pisses me off that I started in the first place, let alone don't have the self control to stop.

No. 297048

>>297038
>>297037
why don't you guys just get like online only jobs with amazon that you do at home ?

No. 297049

>>297048
I mean… I actually want to try and transition out of agoraphobic NEETdom and salvage my life.

>>297038
I'll keep you in my prayers, anon. I really understand what you're going through.

No. 297052

>>297049
yea, and getting a job you can do online sounds smarter than jumping right into it.

No. 297054

>>297048
I honestly wouldn't mind it as something temporary. If I could have a small source of income while trying to slowly integrate back into society. That way I could continue to do my job search while improving on my social skills. Alas, I'm in Europe and remote jobs are scarce.

>>297049
Thanks, anon. I'll pray for you too. Please, post a success story once you make it. I'll do the same but I have doubts in my case.

No. 297066

The place I work at was merged into another business and I keep getting scheduled weird hours. My manager gave me most of this week off because I worked so much last week, but now they want me to work 4pm-1am on Friday and 4-9pm on Saturday. I think I’ll just do it but I’m really angry about it.

I’m also in college and at the beginning of the merger they scheduled me to work on days when I had class without asking if it was ok first (and after they said I wouldn’t have to work on school days). I would’ve been at school for 10-12 hours and then working for 4 hours after.

No. 297117

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>>296908
cracking up because you’re so fanny flustered over a bunch of anonymous fucks calling you out on your stupid wording. the point still stands you’re an idiot for moving to another country and bawwing about roommates when you’re the dumb fuck who moved there with no real job prospects. theres no rule that says we can’t reply to your post, retard. maybe try thinking for a change before uprooting your life and making shit hard for you?

No. 297124

my skin is such a bitch. i'm prone to random bouts of cystic acne or clogged pores (later i think is allergy related tbh) however it seems like it is not related to anyhting i'm doing.

this august i went home and was quite depressed about it lol and cba to eat decently and ate basically only ice cream and crisps for a month straight, yet my skin was basically crystal clear despite that. my skincare routine was the same as now.
now i'm back and having a healthy balanced diet again, minimal dairy, one snack a day, all that stuff, yet the painful pimples have returned as well. the only things i can think of that could affect this are stress levels (but being home was hell so idk about that) and maybe hardness of tap water but idk why it would do anything. air pollution shouldn't be a factor as both places are similarly populated. i think my skin just hates me

No. 297160

I have anxiety issues that make it near impossible for me to leave my house and it's just going to get worse the longer I have people ignore me and refuse to help. I can't just get up and fix my life. I still live with my parents, they've ignored every single thing they're supposed to do for their child and since I'm over 18 they think they have a choice in not helping, not like they would anyway. I can't drive, I live in the middle of nowhere, I have nowhere else to go. I'm just stuck and have been for years.
I used to deal with being isolated and lacking control by cutting myself but that just gave them more reason to neglect me so I stopped a few years later. I don't even have local friends to help me because I dropped out of school in 7th grade.
I'm so fucked it'd be so much easier to kill myself than to keep waiting it out hoping someone will remember I exist.

No. 297165

every anon instead of lol or i laughed has to say
>i laughed way more than i should
>damnit i laughed at this
>i laughed more than i thought i would at this
>shit, i laughed
what is this weird coy modesty tic

No. 297223

>>296978
yeah I have, unfortunately idk the names of any of the people and the management office closes at 5pm so they wouldn't be able to go bust them ugh. but maybe I should go buy a paintball gun hahah

No. 297228

My sister is so fucking creepy I'm afraid she could be a pedo.
In the past I've found borderline sexual art of young boys with older women on a laptop we shared. She never dates guys even close to her age.

No. 297232

>>297124
sometimes something in your body just shifts.but you mentioned it happens in "cycles" so probably hormone related. go to a dermatologist

No. 297241

Amberlynn Reid is like an obese, brunette version of ShayGnaw

No. 297245

>>297165
We are bitter and vulnerable.

No. 297248

>>297228
how old is she and how old are the guys?

No. 297253

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Yep, just confirmed my package is indeed MIA and very likely stolen. Man, fuck the assholes who do this sort of thing. I'm going to report this to USPS but I doubt anything's actually going to be done.

No. 297254

The sorority I thought they were in a shoo-in for cut me. What makes things really weird is that they are on the verge of closing because not having enough members. And I thought things were going pretty good. Oh well.

No. 297258

>>297248
She's mid 20s and the latest guy is 18. In the past she has been with underage guys within age of consent.

No. 297298

I'm starting to make myself poorly staying up so late talking to this guy, I wish he was around in more normal hours, but he does work. I really enjoy talking with him but I need more sleep than this. I'm sitting here and I can just feel my body starting to punish me for the morning before I've even gone to sleep. Life truly is suffering…

No. 297302

>>297254
i’m sorry but why would you want to be part of a greek system anyway

from what i’ve seen all there’s to gain is date rape and eating disorders

No. 297306

>>297302
Greek life is pretty big here. It just doesn't seem like you can really participate in the school culture without being in it. It's also good for networking and meeting people.

The girls at the sorority were rushing seemed pretty nerdy like me. And some of the girls I met were kinda fat. kek

No. 297308

>>297298
Your health is more important. It sucks, but maybe you should consider sending each other e-mails instead. At-least for the mean time, until you guys can figure out something else.

No. 297309

>>297306
Do you think you could reapply? If you know anyone that's already in, maybe they could put in a good word for you and reconsider.

No. 297315

Honestly this site has made me realize how fucking normal I am and I love it. Most of the people on here are legitimately autistic and insufferable losers. Before I found this site I thought I was a huge loser but damn, you guys have shown me the light. Don't get me wrong I love gossiping but I can't believe there are anons who legit spend $$ on cows' snapchats just to get info and thank god I'm not that crazy. I like to follow along on these threads but would never go out of my way stalking people like anons do on dumdolly's thread.

Reading in /ot/ and /g/ has made me realize that I'm living a completely different life than most of the anons on here. I'm not meeting up with guys from 4chan, dating dudes with mommy issues, going around wearing weird ass outfits, assuming all men are secret pedophile trannies, getting triggered and sperging over the smallest things, living in maggot infested apartments… the relationship advice and red flag thread especially are very eye opening. So thanks anons for helping me realize that in the grand scheme of things I'm not an autistic loser outcast. Just slightly weird.

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No. 297328

>>297315
maybe not, but you sound so insufferable to brag to a group of outcast women.

>assuming all men are secret pedophile trannies,

no one is assuming they're secret pedo trannies, they're assuming they're pedophilic because it's common as fuck and popular media grooms children and men prey on them.

No. 297330

>>296785
>>296755
Update, I talked to him and he said he thinks we'd be better off as friends with benefits lmfao. And then he immediately went back to ignoring my offers to hang out. Glad he decided he didn't wanna date me after we fucked. I feel really fucking stupid and upset.

No. 297355

>>297315
>feeling the need to tell a bunch of weird autists how much better off you are than them
Not even the weirdest autists here try to have dick measuring contests like this, anon. That's some real loser bitch behavior. Do you not have friends you could've said this to that can relate, or is social isolation one of the reasons you came here, only to bite the hand that feeds?

At least the insane spergs here dress however they like, and can tell wild stories about their lives. They have seen/done/learned things outside the conventions and expectations of society, and lived to tell the tale. It sounds like all you have going for you is not being crazy, but it's not really a trade-off, as you also have so little social standing that even you consider yourself a "huge loser" in the real world, and you seem to have come here solely because you couldn't really manage to make it among "normies". Feel free to keep misrepresenting your own mediocrity as a strength on anonymous forums if it helps you cope with the reality of things, but understand that no one else is fooled.

No. 297356

>>297315
At least the weird autistic farmers are funny and interesting, you sound like a massive insecure cunt, that's the only kind of person I can see bragging about being "nomal" to bunch a insecure virgins dressed up in J fashion.

No. 297357

>>297315
You sound boring and insecure anon, but it's ok. You fit right in.

No. 297358

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>>297355
holy shit
absolutely fucking destroyed, GG anon

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>>297315
>>297355
Farmer status: B T F O

No. 297425

>>297315
Dude, if you actually felt secure in yourself you wouldn't need to talk down to other farmers. Like I'm married, steady employment at an internationally known company, living the weeb dream, and while some anons weird me out I'd never judge anons who grew up in circumstances a lot harder than mine and are struggling more. No need to pull someone else down to feel good about yourself.

No. 297451

lately I've realised I have a hairy face and I've started to hyper focus on it (yay the next thing). I looked at my mums face yesterday and saw she has a really hairy face, as does my sister not as bas as hers but they don't seem to notice or care. No its not just an upper lip thing. The hair is not dark its light but its still noticeable. I'm confused because we're not mediterranean or Italian or anything we're white as could be although I'm not really sure of my mums ancestry but she's a white Australian.

I really want to start shaving my whole face but I'm unsure if the hair will just grow back even more and coarser.

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No. 297454

>tfw you realize your best friend and you are compatible in terms of personality, interests, and sexuality but neither of you are attracted to each other.
Why?

No. 297465

>>297315
wow that's so… fucking rude.
I'm also "normal", I have very few cool stories to tell as the other anon said, I'm boring, mediocre and content with my life, but I love reading farmers' experiences. It makes me feel like… it's okay to fuck up sometimes? You know, the bad experience after a while becomes just a funny story to tell people on the Internet. I also learned a lot, I think. I never thought about others here as insufferable losers. The community in /g is so supportive. Jesus. Anon, I gotta tell you that you are not normal. You must have a horrible personality. Don't lump us normies with you, you're just a vile person.

No. 297468

>>297315
the lack of empathy and need to state their mind regardless if it's necessary or not as well as the fear she's not a normie made me think of an aspie in denial kek
sorry to the quality aspies for armchairing this trainwreck with your condition

No. 297469

>>297465
How do normies end up here? Curious, not hating.

No. 297473

Wow, that's some effective bait upthread.

Serious PSA:
Normies aren't found browsing spinoff 4chan websites to high key compare their lives to the lowest denominator so they can feel better about their supposed "normalcy."
That's the opposite of what a normal, well-adjusted person does.

I don't mean for this to sound rude and judgemental: I don't believe anyone who frequently posts or contributed here is all that normal. Because normies have different priorities and mindsets. Not to mention having actual family, friends, or therapists to air their dirty laundries to, making the purpose of posting anonymously to randos online completely moot.

Like anon said herself, she's considered fucking weird irl and the only thing that makes her feel better about her own plight is reading abusive bf stories.

No. 297475

>>297469
Nta, but I'm what the majority of people here would call a normie also. In my case, as a kid, I was part of the outcast group and found imageboards in junior high or so. Grew to love the anonymity and freedom to say whatever, but also found a lot of like minded people. Over the years, I've shifted from 4chan to here even as my real life got more normal some time during high school. Now that I've been out of school for a while, have a man and a child, I'm still that outcast kid on the inside, I guess. Still love anime as a secret hobby (because I remember when I was bullied for it and it was far from hitting the mainstream) and have that obligatory weird, internet humor. You guys keep me laughing all the time over in the random image threads and around the site in general. Obviously, I also have a flake thread or two that I lurk. I can't relate to any of the mental illness discussions, but for the most part, I feel a sense of sisterhood here in vent, gender crit, and makeup/skin care threads.

No. 297476

>>297473
>Muh speshul autistic only space

Do you guys even live in the real world or are you stuck in 2007? Normies are everywhere online now.

No. 297477

>>297475
You're a weirdo with a mask and that's more transparent than you think.

No. 297478

>>297476
i think what she's trying to say is that people on imageboards can't really be normies. like, normie anon isn't actually a normie, just an arrogant weirdo (hell, saying what she did isn't a normie thing anyway) most normies use reddit and are scared of imageboards because believe it or not, there's still a huge consensus about any image board being /b/.

No. 297479

>>297476
Did I hurt your feelings or something? Not a normal reaction, you sound a little autist tbh since "special spaces" isn't what was described at all.

No. 297480

>>297477
That's probably the case. I wouldn't doubt that I'm flagged as not totally normal in my daily life, but I look and act ordinary enough.

No. 297482

>>297478
That's exactly it.

But anyway, I look forward to all the "normie" replies insisting to the contrary, even though normies don't really do this or should care about what losers say on this website anyway hm.

No. 297484

>>297482
>This is how losers behave
>This is how normies behave
>There aren't any overlap between the two

Anon are you autistic?

No. 297485

>>297469
I tried to look up something about the Youtuber I liked, ended up on PULL, saw lolcow being mentioned there, ended up on here, liked it a lot more. I was shocked there's an internet space like this for women only, this really impressed me.
I've never used any other imageboard.

I'm not anal on insisting I'm such a normie uwu, it also depends on your definition of it. I just called myself that based on sperg-anon's "definition" and what an anon that rekt her wrote.
I agree with >>297484

No. 297486

>>297478
Normies use Reddit?
I'm starting to wonder what it means to be a normie here.

No. 297487

>>297484
>there's overlap

That's exactly what I said though?
Being a part weirdo doesn't make you completely normal, hence the definition of "overlap" and why it's so silly for one of those posters to act like they're that much better than the other weirdos here.

Sounds more like you hate to admit you might be more weirdo than normie. Not autistic, sorry.

No. 297490

>>297486
Lmao. Yes, normies use reddit. That's been a meme for 5ever. Are you over 18?

No. 297491

>>297486
Reddit has 542 million monthly visitors and is the 6th most visited website in the world.

No. 297493

>>297451
I shave my face (unfortunately I am Mediterranean and have a gorilla face lol) and I'd recommend it if you want to remove the hair on your face. It doesn't make my hair grow back faster/coarser at all, and my hair is pretty thick and dark already. I don't even get blunt stubble like the kind you get when you shave your legs. I use a tinkle razor, they're meant for your eyebrows but I use mine all over my face and haven't had any problems.

No. 297496

>>297486
No, anon, you're not underground for using reddit, one of the most governed sites in the world.

No. 297501

>>297486
It's like the most used website after Twitter, google things and facebook.

No. 297502

Thank you all for proving my point about how you're all easily triggered autists

>>297355
wow you fuCkIng rEkT mE! nah i'm not socially isolated, like I said you guys help me realized I'm -not- a loser! so thanks for that. I came here to gossip about a youtuber, not because I have no social standing and "can't manage to make it" hahahahah stop projecting

The fact that you think what you wrote is gonna hurt my feelings or something shows how fucking autistic you are. Yeah I also dress how I like and have plenty of stories about my life, I don't dress like a 12 year old school girl or fuck dudes from a 4chan board tho. It's kind of funny how upset I got you all honestly! I never claimed to be a ~~good nice girl who is perfect in every way~~ just not an unemployed, uneducated loser who still lives at home and fucks smelly fat dudes out of desperation.

No. 297504

>>297502
Maybe you don't dress like a 12yo but you sure sound like one.
Take a chill pill and fuck off.

No. 297505

>>297502
ily sperg-chan, keep going

No. 297507

>>297502
okay very nice now go masturbate to your pics or whatever you like to do

No. 297510

Don't kid yourselves, you're all normies.

No. 297514

>>297502
I didn't read all that shit after the caps lock BS, but the fact that you really came back to try and defend yourself after pretending to be above us just proves all our points. Someone who really doesn't give a fuck would have made exactly one post, then bounced, and maybe sat back to enjoy the flames. Instead, you got upset that everyone mocked you, and that even "autists" who dress funny and have dated insane 4chan guys find you pitiful. You really, really care what we think.

The truth is, only a pathetic human needs to surround themselves with people who they perceive to be "worse" than them for reassurance.
You may not be able to accomplish things in real life that can actually give you some self-esteem, and you may also not even be a fascinating enough person to be worth paying attention to for the "what the fuck, this is peculiar" factor, but at least you can enter venues full of questionable people and RP that you are somehow better than them for being wholly unremarkable. Good job, "anon". Keep doing what you're doing.

No. 297519

>>297486
It's litreally advertised as the "Front Page of the Internet" thats as normie as Facebook kek

No. 297527

i've had this song and disturbia stuck in my head for almost a week now. please someone make it stop.

No. 297531

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>>297502
>I'm -not- a loser!

You ain't fooling anyone.

No. 297588

I had a boyfriend not too long ago, we recently broke up due to different things. His best friend introduced me to my then bf when we first met. His best friend was a friend of mine and was really really nice. He’d invite me to play video games with him and was just really inviting (although I barely ever said yes because I’m too shy lmao). But after I started to date, he got really rude and mean to me. I get being skeptical of whoever your best friend is dating but he was straight up mean. He’d accuse me of fake liking video games or anime just to impress my bf (?) and it was confusing because I’d talk about those things before I even dated him. Plus….I have no reason to do that? I know that sounds childish of me to get butthurt over but it really annoyed me. He’d be really passive aggressive towards me and try to make me look bad whenever he could. Idk how to explain it but it was just childish shit. Now that I broke up with my bf, he’s been way nicer to me. I know I probably shouldn’t care anymore but whenever he talks to me it just pisses me off. Like you acted fake and rude to me but now pretending it never happened lol. I guess it mainly pissed me off because this dude had a GF of his own and would do shitty stuff himself. He’d cheat (still was way too friendly with his ex gf) and follow a bunch of camgirls, he’d flirt with me and my friends really low key yet would judge me for watching a dude streamer I like. He was also really rude to his best friend I was dating and telling him he was manipulating me lol. Idk this whole vent sounds retarded but I needed to get it off my chest.

No. 297607

>>297531
>>297514
>>297507
>>297505
>>297504
>>297502
Wow guys leave her alone. can't you read, She said she's NOT a loser.

Surely a loser wouldn't feel the need to make 3 post (assuming the anon in the /g/ bad relationship thread is her) about how she is NOT a loser, super interested and better then the posters on this site (despite being a poster herself), right?

No. 297613

>>297502
Wew, lad. No ones triggered except you. We're all laughing at you because you're the retarded, autistic sperg and you know it but you're trying to desperately say you aren't while also admitting in ur first post that you indeed are. The fact that you're still here and came back to check for replies is even more hilarious. Stop embarrassing yourself. You do sound incredibly hurt.

No. 297619

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>>297502
How does it feel being laughed at by a bunch of losers? If we're such losers, you must be bottom of the barrel. Please come back!

No. 297642

>>297588
He was probably jealous of the attention you got tbh

No. 297675

>>297588
Not retarded, you need to drop his ass. He's not a friend at all and sounds like he just wanted to get in your pants but once you were "unavailable", decided to show his true feelings. That's typical pig behaviour and you should stop talking to him asap.

No. 297683

I hate how when I talk shit on a (female) celebrity I dislike, my gay guy friends always try to tell me I’m jealous. Like no? If I say I think nicki minaj’s ass looks like shit, it doesn’t mean I’m jealous. It means it looks like shit. Like it’s not even that deep dude.

No. 297688

not a vent just loving the solidarity here after that ~totally normal and not insecure~ anon’s post

No. 297702

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i know complaining makes me sound like a lazy cunt and everyone’s going through it so i should just shut up, but i’m so exhausted by beauty standards especially re:weight. it feels like a battle some people are destined to lose. i’ve been at a healthy bmi my entire life besides when my eating disorder got bad in high school (bulimia weight fluctuations!!!) but i still feel like a landwhale because my wrists and collarbones don’t jut out. i’m so tired of losing weight to gain it back because real life gets in the way and i can’t handle the combined stress of depriving myself and also working through chronic depression and anxiety so i can just function in the real world. there’s no escaping it. i know this is the wrong place to complain, but still.

i’ve had a string of illness this year that made me briefly grossly underweight and i’ve never received so many compliments in my life. now that i’m back to my regular weight — 125 at 5’1 — i feel like i’ve let down everybody and become invisible again. eating disorders run deep in my family so it’s basically ingrained in me to have a terrible relationship with food. i’m pathetic!

No. 297724

>>297702

Just because it's common doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt, anon. I'm feeling similarly–on a new medication that's finally helping my migraines and it means I'm healthier and happier, but it's made me gain a little weight. And people say they don't care or notice, but they do. It sucks. I'd gotten to a place of accepting myself, accepting that I was never going to be rail thin, that no one in my family is, that it's ok….and then this happens. But I gotta believe I can get back to that better place mentally, and I gotta believe you can too. Sucks in the meantime for real though.

No. 297727

My aunt tried to kill herself, was dead for 10 minutes, was brought back, and is now in a coma.
Her and my uncle were in the middle of a divorce. She had 5 kids one right after the other and my uncle is 18 years her senior, she’s only like 35 developed really bad postpartum depression and bipolar. She started having homicial ideatons towards their children and was living with her family / in and out of facilities for the past few years. I feel so bad for her. I also feel bad for my uncle but I can’t help but partially blame him. He’s devastated right now and said that he still loves her and that they were separating because he thought it was best for their children. Idk. The whole situation has always made me uncomfortable, but now that she tried basically succeeded to kill herself and is a vegetable is fucking with me. My emotions are all over the place.

No. 297741

>>297727
Geez, I’m very sorry that you’re going through that, anon. My heart goes out to you and your family.

No. 297748

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im so tired of the girls going on and on about how uWu xqc is

i dont really care about his personality and the so called "shitty" things he says which were nothing everybody else doesnt say when they are an immature spergy kid

but look wise he looks disgustingly like aaron carter at the height of his first round of drug issues and eating disorders back when he was on the family reality show
it grosses me out so bad

No. 297749

>>297727
That's horrible anon. i'm so sorry to hear that … Men are disgusting. they will find a way to fuck up a woman's life, even if they are married with children. I really hope your aunt can pull through…

No. 297751

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>be me, dating guy online for 3 years starting when i was 17
>voice chat everyday and video chat, we are "in love"
>his mom knows my mom and we are very involved in each other's lives albeit from different states
>we both plan on moving to the same state for different reasons
>he is going to college in ohio, i am also moving there because that is where my family is from
>we are so excited to be in the same place at the same time
>he moves there with family (before me)
>i thought i was moving there at the start of the summer, soon 2 months go by from when i thought i would leave all because i cant find a job there yet
>working my ASS off trying to get an interview at companies there but no luck
>LDR bf is finally growing impatient
>he essentially says "this is taking too long" even though it has only been about 3 months now since i said i would move there
>"i promise ill keep looking!!" i assure him
>he starts college
>i am still looking for a job, i got 2 interviews but no word back yet so still can't move
>he stops messaging me as much
>i try to talk to him but he leaves me on seen and stops talking to me on voice chat
>meanwhile scrambling to find job
>messages me out of the blue "i hope you will get to move where you want and that things go well for you, but i'm moving on now"
>i am crushed over this
>i basically tell him "fuck you for not being able to wait a couple more months until i find a job" "fuck you for wasting 3 years of my life and not being able to wait just a little longer for me to get there"
>block him on everything but forget to block his number
>he texts me days later trying to be friends
>i tell him to fuck off
>weeks go by of me feeling sad and lonely and purposeless and no longer excited to move to this new place
>check (ex)bf's instagram when i knew i shouldnt have
>i see that during the time he was starting to ghost me he's posting pictures of some russian instagram thot that he met in ohio with hearts
>check her instagram and they have been interacting since he started college basically
>she's been posting tons of photos of him with little romantic comments
>cry in my pillow and block him from my instagram so i don't check it

i just nailed an interview for a job there too so fuck that guy for not being able to wait THREE MONTHS. he wasn't that great anyway. he constantly emotionally abused me and disapproved of everything that i enjoyed and my passions. also it's funny he's dating this russian chick now after he told me in the past that "russians are mongoloids." the worse side of me wants to message her and show her things that he has said about russians but i know that's petty and i'm just working on forgetting his ass now. i am just so disappointed in myself for being hypnotized while this guy treated me like i was worthless, for years! here's to a new start though. i'll move there but i'll live my life without him and find somebody better.

No. 297755

>>297751
I’m so sorry. I know exactly how you feel and how this shit goes. I had a boyfriend of 4 years cheat on me after we just got back together from a break. It sucks so bad and makes you feel worthless lmao. But trust me, it’ll get better. You’ll be sad for awhile but it’ll slowly go away and you’ll wonder why you even cared. It’s good you block him everywhere, stalking makes it worse even though it’s hard not to. I believe in you!!

No. 297756

>>297751
I'm sorry, anon. Work on giving yourself a beautiful life and finding someone who will truly love you.
I totally would message her, maybe from a dummy account, with something like "Hey, not to intrude, but in case you didn't already know, [ex's name] is kind of a racist and he attacked Russian people around me and others in his personal circle for some reason. Since you're Russian, I thought you should know (assuming he hasn't already talked to you about it). Stay safe", then just dump all the screenshots. If I was dating a guy that hated people of my ethnicity, I'd rather know and handle it in my own heart/mind. I'd feel like a damn fool if I had no idea. There's like a 50% chance she'll just lash out at you and call them fake, or ignore it, depending on what kind of person she is, but she should still know. It's almost like a favor.

No. 297757

>>297751

I am sorry anon, but honestly? Good riddance. I've been in a abusive LDR before, and that's why I'll never have LDR ever again. You deserve much better than that scumbag and be glad that you didn't move in with him, shit could get much worse if that was the case.

No. 297760

>>297751
that’s funny, post pic of Russian thot

No. 297771

>>297751
You deserve better, anon. Focus on you. You might have dodged a bullet to be real with this asshole.

No. 297775

>>297751
Omg what an impatient prick! If he wants to throw away 3 years with you for some girl who's probably not even really interested in his sleazy ass, then so be it. He is disgusting and what happened to you was horrible. At least now you can focus on yourself until you find someone who will appreciate you and treat you right.

No. 297800

>>297751
you guys weren't really dating, online like that isn't dating. online dating like that is only for people who have careers and ones that make it easy to just get a job elsewhere or transfer. get over it.

No. 297801

>>297751
also, he's probably been banging/dating girls the entire time and was trying to ditch you when it became feasible that you'd meet IRL.

No. 297802

>>297800
>>297801
it's 2018, that's your opinion, but plenty of people nowadays have married through online dating/LDR's or at least experienced one. sorry that you're stuck in the 90's

No. 297804

>>297802
like i said, mature adults with lives and careers can make them work and be very happy, but 17 year olds and college students cannot and anyone who thinks so is naive as fuck.

No. 297820

>>297802
Ah, the classic "it's [current year], not [previous decade]" argument. Definitely a personal fav, never gets old.

No. 297829

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>>297820
yeah for real.

it's 2018, isn't it finally time we move past the idea of linear development and realize history constantly repeats itself?

No. 297842

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I’m so tired of people crying over spoilers for tv shows, movies, etc. Most of the people bitching about spoilers never make an effort to watch new movies or episodes of tv shows even somewhat relatively around the time they are released. I’m mostly annoyed by this because me and a group of friends all watch a reality show, and one of my friends never watches the episodes on time but still gets triggered when I accidentally mention a “spoiler” in the group chat. It’s not like they’re constantly busy that they can never watch the episodes, they just don’t want to. If you cared so much about a show to shit your pants over spoilers, then you wouldn’t wait to watch episodes that aired weeks ago. This spoiler culture is cancerous and sucks the life out of media.

No. 297843

>>297829
what i want to know is why is this shitty highschool relationship suddenly "real" just because it's online? relationships between high schoolers rarely work out IRL, let alone states away. and it sounds like anon was trying to move for the guy, i'm surprised people are being so sympathetic.

No. 297845

>>297843
i was not trying to move "for" the guy if you had actually read what i wrote. i was moving there because that is where my family is from. it was familial affairs. if i were moving there for him then why would i STILL be moving to that state. work on your reading comprehension

No. 297862

>>297842
Spoiler culture can be this or that, but rofl that tweet response was pretty funny. You can't be mad 2 years after a super popular show has aired. I havent even watched it and I know how it ends.

No. 297871

>>297842
I don't mind people not wanting spoilers for recent things, but it pisses me off when people get mad over getting spoiled for really old stuff. You have no right to get mad if you go into a thread for a 10+ year old game and see people talking about the events of the game.

No. 297876

>>297842
God my boyfriend is such a bitch when it comes to spoilers.
He's such a lovely person but his anger at spoilers annoys me.
I was reading a book that he wanted to read after me and I was saying 'it's really good' I gave away literally nothing to do with the story but he still screeched at me to stop talking about it because he wanred to read it.

He also gets pissed off when he walks past a poster of a new franchise because he'll claim the poster gave shit away. I asked how and he literally doesn't want to know ANYTHING about the movie including even seeing new characters on the poster.
Like if there's a girl on the poster he'll be like 'oh great…now I know there's a girl in it'

I hate it.
Mind you,he tends to guess the endings to movies almost everytime correctly so maybe spoilers are frustrating to him because of this reason.

No. 298000

I'amm shocked I just finished the 9th season of The X Files a few nights a go and went to watch season 10, I had NO idea season 10 and 11 were made in 2015/2016. It looks so shitty and gay I don't even wanna bother watching especially cos mulder hit the wall and all. It's just so un-appealing now. (when I watch a series I try to not look up any of the casts social medias or info about them cos I only want to see them as that character and don't want to read crap about them that spoils the character for me and I was ~triggered~ by some things I read about Duchovny.) lel. this sounds really autistic.

Any other anons who watch this show..are seasons 10 and 11 worth the watch?

No. 298006

>>298000
honestly i prefer duchovny in californication because i feel he's literally just playing >himself the character
but man did that show jump the shark after season 4 glad they cancelled it

No. 298010

>>298006
>jump the shark
californication or the x files?

No. 298013

>>298010
californication

No. 298017

I'm actually getting genuinely annoyed at how my boyfriend treats his family. We're both young, he lives with his sisters but his mum moved out a few months ago so they all pay rent to her. I still live at home too. While he's at work some days I'll do the washing up, and he always tells me "you don't have to, you're a guest", but if I don't do it his mum comes around on her work breaks to do all their chores. I get we're all young people (his youngest sister is 18, I'm 20, he's 22 and his older sister is 26, though she does actually chip in) and don't always have the motivation to do chores, but I can't bear the thought of taking his mum for granted and letting her clear up after me so I end up doing a few chores so she doesn't have to. She was really grateful this morning and it just really struck me how used to doing it she is, like she doesn't even expect it to be done. And whenever his sisters ask him to help out with chores he'll always get annoyed at them and say "I'm not the one who made all the mess". He always has to have the last say when it comes to them and always thinks he's right which is why I usually avoid conflict with him in general. I get having arguments with family, I've had my fair share with my own, but he always interjects on my (very poor) relationship with my mum, yet if I try to calm him down or help him see their side he gets mad that he feels like we're all ganging up on him.

I just remember that phrase about how seeing how your boyfriend treats the women in his life shows how he'll treat you, and it almost makes me NOT want to do the chores so he doesn't ever get used to it, but his mum is so overworked I feel bad not doing the chores before she gets her break and making her a cup of tea if she comes in so she can just relax. He hates it because he says he feels shown up and guilty but I'm genuinely just doing what I would do for my own mum and I don't understand how he just doesn't seem to think about doing the smallest tasks to help her out a bit, like it doesn't cross his mind. He's actually really thoughtful when it comes to me as well, I know he has the ability to be, he just doesn't seem to want to be.

and he's so annoying when it comes to spending money on food. There will be loads of stuff in the house and we'll be really broke but he will STILL go out to the shop and buy his own food because he "fancies" something specific. He doesn't even check the cupboards for stuff, he just looks in one, pulls a face and goes "I want chips". I've literally had to lend him the last of my change because he wanted something and I felt bad saying no because I still want him to eat, even if he is a child about it.

No. 298019

>>298013
do you think season 10 and 11 of the x files are worth the watch?

No. 298020

>>298019
i havent watch xfiles in a really long time i dont even remember which seasons ive seen or not
lel

No. 298095

>>297845
lol sorry you're so butthurt, you were trying to move quickly for the guy, so yeah in a sense you were.

No. 298099

>>298017
Word of warning: this is how he will treat you if you guys marry. He will want you to step in for mommy and continue cleaning after him.

No. 298102

I checked up on an old friend from highschool and she's doing so well. The girl was a genius but stuck with a poorfag shit dad so she suffered quite a bit; now she's studying at an awesome out of state school, has an entire squad of friends, looking great from all that walking she has to do around campus,

I guess I'm a bit sad about it? Don't get me wrong I really am happy for her. But as someone with shit parents it makes me depressed that I'm still doing pretty badly, and at a community college to boot.

And by badly I mean, everything but my grades is awful.

No. 298107

>>298095
nah it was just coincidental because of the things i had to do over in that state. sorry that you care so much about a little detail that doesn't really matter

No. 298110

>>298017
i had an ex boyfriend whose mother would drive two hours from another city just to give him a little container full of varenyky that she had cooked (staple slavic food). and i remember whenever she would be a little late he would start bitching at her through text and complaining that she was taking too long and how frustrated he was that she was late. whenever she would bring us tea at the house or other snacks he would get annoyed at her and try to get her our of the room as soon as possible. that kind of disregard for her was a huge red flag for me and later on he ended up treating me the exact same way. basically moral of the story is the way a man treats his mother does say a lot about how he will treat you in the future and i know from first hand experience. you should really talk to him about this and be more vocal about how unacceptable it is for him to treat his mother that way, or just do the easy thing and get out asap before he treats you like shit too

No. 298128

>>298000
they are absolutely not worth it and honestly i'd even say they ruin the story some (to think i was looking forward to them kek). there was one legitimately good episode but it was only good in the context of those two seasons and not the entire thing. also yes, duchovny got real fugly, he looks like a blobfish or something, in scully's place would be going for skinner lmao

imo it got shit in season 7 (the one where mulder gets abducted, i think that's the 7th).

No. 298130

I think my friend has BPD and it sucks.

No. 298137

>>298130
Why do you suspect that?

It's really difficult to have any kind of relationship with someone who is borderline.
I became friends with a girl with BPD. It was nice and intense, then she started to act rude and uncaring towards me and not call me for months. Finally she called me just to vent at me (literally just talking at me) for a hour about people she didn't like. Whew….

No. 298139

>>298128
>imo it got shit in season 7 (the one where mulder gets abducted, i think that's the 7th).
Yeah, I agree. I don't know why they went that way with the story.

>also yes, duchovny got real fugly

It's devastating.

Oh well, guess I'll just watch for shits n gigs. No doubt they ruin the story. The X Files just doesn't suit an aesthetic outside of the 90's.

What about that X files movie I think they made in 2008? was that shit?

No. 298141

>>298137
Having the same experience now. I randomly saw a BPD checklist and realized they hit every mark. I'm scared of picking up the same traits. It's painful to still care for someone knowing you don't register in their thoughts anymore.

No. 298150

>>298141
Yes, it is painful.

In the end I stopped wanting to spend time with her since she acted so rude towards me - I basically got dumped as a friend then used as a human venting thread. It made me lose interest in ever hanging out again.

It doesn't have to be a romantic breakup to hurt. Losing a friendship you thought was good hurts too.

No. 298161

>>298150
Exactly! My friend found a new person and I was phased out. I thought maybe it hurts so much because I accidentally fell in love but no I truly treasured them only as a dear friend. It hurts equally. I've lost interest in meeting new people but I know this will pass.

I'm sorry that happened to you anon. It's really not fair to be drained like that. Thank you for understanding.

No. 298169

>>298161
Thank you as well, hope you find a good non-BPD friend in the future.

I recommend everyone here to look up red flags for personality disorders. Best thing I did.

No. 298265

>>298139
uh i saw it as a teen some years ago so my perception was different but i remember it being an alright standalone movie. iirc it does tie into mythology but you won't miss much of the plot if you skip it. had some cute mulder scully moments

No. 298266

>>298265
>>298139
omg wait you are talking abt fight the future not something else right?

No. 298272

I have a bachelorette party to go to this weekend that I am not looking forward to because the Maid of Honor didn't ask for any sort of range people would be willing to pay for the weekend… so 5 girls are staying in one, 2-bed hotel room.
That she booked for ~$500. She doesn't even remember if it's a suite or not. If it's not, this is going to suck hardcore.

I asked her about it because at the same hotel, if you booked 2 rooms, you could do that for $600. More than likely, people would be more comfortable and we could still hangout in one room together and do whatever, but at least have room to actually get ready for when we go out and not have to bring in a damn rolling bed or air mattress (which takes up more space).


Like, I don't understand.


I would've asked about it sooner, but when she was wanting ~$100/person, my mind figured that would be for two rooms… because that makes sense. Hotel rates per night are usually around $100-125. Something like that. Maybe she found a good deal. I didn't know until yesterday when she mentioned she'd get there early and try and get 5 keys for us.


But seriously.


Why would you even think about booking one room for a weekend for 5 people? I don't fucking understand.



…I sound like such a bitch. I'm sorry.

No. 298283

My 24th birthday was yesterday and I know I sound like a spoiled brat, but it bums me out that my family didnt make an effort to celebrate with a cake or get me a gift. Shit sucks because I know my mum is only doing it because I’m such a poorfag who cant buy her expensive gifts or tries to make up with it by baking her a cake and dinners on mothers day/her birthday. She’s been whinging all week about “whats the fucking point” in terms of me and my sisters birthdays (hers is Saturday).

Like I’m fine without her gifts or money or whatever, but it fucking depresses me because I know her motives behind this all. She’s the type to throw a hissy fit over doing secret santa with the extended family because she is extremely picky and always ends up with something she hates, so why bother wasting her money and time. She’s such an immature cow sometimes i swear to fucking god.

I think my dad felt a bit bad about the whole thing and dropped off a small bag filled with my favorite snacks on his way back from work. Its funny to think my only gift this year was a bag of granola bars and some gum.

No. 298322

>>298272
Our bridesmaid group had 7 of us not including the bride in one hotel room. Two beds, one pull out futon, and I think someone took the couch.

Idk, we were too busy getting drunk and having fun to worry about the accomodation. I barely even remember the hotel, and I was quarreling with one horrid bitch in the group too.

I don't think it's gonna be as big a deal as you think. Unless your party trip was centered around spending the majority of your time in the hotel. Without knowing where this hotel is or what rating, $100 for two nights could be a deal. Hope your room is nice.

No. 298329

>>298283
>secret santa
>pointless and stupid
I agree with your mama. Unless the ss is done with an intimate group of people who actually care about finding out each other's likes and needs, someone always gets the shaft, a thoughtless gift, or a white elephant.

Better ways to Christmas homie.

Why doesn't your family have a gigantic bash for all three of you at the same time if your birthdays are so close together? That way no one feels left out or assblasted, and save money too.

No. 298337

>>298322
I only know of one event planned, and it's not until late afternoon on Saturday. So it may end up in the room for a lot of the time. And the other bridesmaids (or the bride, for that matter) aren't really the 'drink to get drunk' kind of people so I probably won't be able to get drunk enough without being the odd one out lol.


It just doesn't seem planned out all that well and we should have communicated more. The reason why she didn't get two rooms was because she wouldn't be able to pay the upfront charge. Had I known that, I could've put them on my card, or at least had one room put under my name nd she could have taken the other. There were ways things could've been solved, but she didn't ask anyone for input. Even a simple "hey, do you guys want one or two rooms?" and we could've gone from there.

No. 298353

>>298337
She doesn't sound like a party planner, and you know what, that's okay considering this is a group of friends pulling something together for you on their own time because they care about your special day. They're not professionals and probably not involved in the bridal industry at all. Her first time being a MoH? Expect hiccups, it's a learning process for the people putting things on for you.

Usually bachelorette parties are a surprise deal, so I think it makes perfect sense why the MoH wouldn't have asked you for your credit card for the deposit. She probably should have asked someone else in the group, but to ask you would've been tacky. None of the planning should ever fall on one person only, communication needs to happen in the bridal group and tbh if none of the other bridesmaids have seen problems enough to speak up then maybe you're having a bride moment. It'll be alright.

No. 298355

Same anon from two threads ago, still chewing on my fucking thumbs I really want to stop it looks disgusting

No. 298356

>>298283
She couldn't even bake a cake from a box? Wtf it's like 10 minutes of effort and a few dollars/euros. I'm sorry anon that's so shitty. If it was me I'd bake my own cake and ignore her, but >>298329 is the better advice. Happy birthday anon.

No. 298358

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No. 298363

>>298283
don't worry anon, my mom rarely celebrated my bday when i was younger, sometimes we did it on 4th of july (weeks later) once and sometimes i made my own cake.

No. 298380

>>298353
shit. I'm sorry if it made it sound like I'm the bride. I'm only a disgruntled bridesmaid lol. That's the reason why I felt the lack of communication was an issue. We could have worked together on this, and why I would have offered to put my card on it. That's my complaint, haha.

No. 298393

>>298392
New thread

No. 299827

I'm 28 and I keep losing interest in my bfs as soon as they hit a certain age. All my bfs have been barely legals but as soon as they start looking older I lose interest and end up leaving…idk how I'm going to ever be in a real relationship or if I'm going to spend the rest of my life jumping from young thang to young thang

No. 300374

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Don't know what's up with me.
>woke up today feeling nauseous
>threwup mostly water and a little of last nights meal (maybe it was bad)
>feel better for an hour afterwards but nausea kicks in again
>have that ill pit in my stomach for the rest of the day
>laying in bed and almost literally sleeping all day
>every time i wake up my eyes feel painfully tired
>body aching, esp lower back
>super cold all day, shivering, but head feels warm
>feel dehydrated all the time
I'm worried I'm going to have another vasovagal syncope. I feel so miserable.

No. 302525

I hate the fact that I have boobs! I have had stints of anorexia and bulimia throughout my life so I’m guessing it stems from dysmorphia. Either way I’ve started taking birth control to get my pmdd under control and it has taken me from barely an A cup to not fitting in most of my bras. I hate them! I hate having fat deposits like this on my body. I dream about just cutting them off or getting all of the fat sucked out of them so regular. I don’t really know any other girl that wants to have no boobs. No one I’ve talked to has understood it and honestly I don’t understand it either. I’m not a Troon I just fucking hate having any type of boobs?



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