>>169405same Anon, I've smoked a couple times (and drink very occasionally too) so I don't really have a "sober date" but I have been sober 99% of my life since this post. I think making the rule "if someone offers it to me I can participate, but I'm not allowed to buy it/have it in my apartment" has really been enough for me to kick the habit. if I have it in my home then I'll be stoned 24/7 so that has to be the rule, and it's very simple. and there have been a couple close calls (when I have a terrible day) but I've stayed strong and talked myself out of it because I know it'd be a temporary mood boost that would leave me feeling even worse after.
I just don't want to be high all the time anymore, it's not enjoyable when I smoke alone. I like being sober and clearheaded and I've been going to the gym and library and stuff too. things are so much better than they were at this time last year.