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>first crush?>what’s your local lesbian scene like?>cute stories about your gf>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?>coming out stories>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?>bitch about being lonely>tips for coping with being lonely>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?>what's your type?>when did you know you were gay?>f/f fanfic and book recs (pls)>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? a girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian? >get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc.>best date/match? worst?>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or old-school homophobia?>dating app horror stories>everything we hate about every other online lesbian community>lesbian friends, role models, or family members you appreciate>lesbian history, literature, and politicsprevious threads:
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FUCKFUCKSHITFUCK
I got her a Christman present
No. 459886
Forgive me while I answer some of the thread questions in my boredom.
>first crush?
Catherine Zeta Jones in Chicago
>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
Terrible but we make it work.
>cute stories about your gf
She's an athlete and sends me daily videos of her lifting weights and flexing just cause I told her I think it's cute when she does that like a year ago
>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?
Water Lilies, Carol, Fingersmith
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I have always considered myself somewhere in between, I do like to be the more femme in the relationship but these labels don't matter to me at all really. I think overemphasis on them as an identity marker is completely regressive.
>what's your type?
Clever, will argue with me, tall, not too sensitive, can have a good laugh together, mind of her own, nice tits, shy, introvert, passionate, driven
>when did you know you were gay?
Since I was around 12 or 13. I guess I struggle to understand how it takes some women so long to find their sexuality because of this.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? a girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Complete tomboy, even though I was always pretty feminine.
>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian?
Sexy wife who I have sex with everyday. House full of books. Maybe some kids. Well travelled. Healthy. Good lesbian community.
>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or old-school homophobia?
Not homophobic even though I am from a religious background. We never speak about it but it never bothered them.
>dating app horror stories
Woman I hooked up with on Tinder a few years back bit my labia while eating me out and I had to go to the ER so it wouldn't get infected. Never used them since then.
>everything we hate about every other online lesbian community
Reddit lesbian community is vomit inducing.
No. 460136
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would you go here kek
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this woman in red is a qt ngl. her face reminds me of charli xcx
No. 460293
>>460270Same nona she was the one I was looking at kek. So pretty. I could never go there because I’d be the only one visibly aroused kek
>>460276You might want to delete this with the Bechdel Test rule
No. 460353
>>460310Maybe this is a weird one but I’d be willing to share porn of myself with people I know? Like online. I don’t consume porn especially because it’s a turnoff that it doesn’t usually feature genuinely SSA women.
>>460347If it was in school I don’t think it’s necessarily bisexuality. My sexuality hit later than everyone else’s and I think if a moid was pressuring enough + I felt uncool I could have ended up doing sex I didn’t want, especially since I had homophobia ingrained into me at the time.
No. 460359
>>460305Shitty things that happened in the past could never taint you for life. You're a human being, not a car with a broken window, and you deserve the world. Even if you had a wonderful relationship at that time, it would still be over now, because time passes and things come and go. You have to remind yourself that the past is over and gone forever and all we'll ever have is the present and the future. You're completely free from the past.
>>460310Make better decisions than that so you aren't haunted by the potential for this to bite you in the ass, dude.
No. 460396
>>460376It’s like you didn’t read my message. I’m not even talking women here, I’m talking girls, do you really think girls can’t get pressured into sex? Reaally? And it’s funny you bring that up, a faggot could talk about having sex with a girl at 14 and how horrible it was and their community wouldn’t bat an eyelash. I’m not that anon but my friend group was very concerned about appearing cool and teased each other for being virgins to the point I lied about having sex. If they had pushed it I would have probably caved to whoever wanted to take advantage of me, and I know coming to terms with my sexuality would have been 10x more distressing because people like you would make me feel like I must just be a deluded straight girl or something.
I’m more suspicious of someone who dated one as a teenager than someone who had sex with one honestly, because then it’s more than that.
No. 460415
I'm kind of convinced the only women who give a fuck about "gold stars" are virgins. Someone makes one mistake or god forbid experiments and it defines her for the rest of her life?
>>460305It really doesn't matter. If you tried stuff with a man and didn't like it, and you know you only like women, then you don't need to give a fuck what turbovirgins on imageboards think. No lesbian I've ever been with has ever even questioned me on my sexual history. Some women hold the belief that men can permanently taint a woman, and that's on them.
No. 460478
>>460415At the same time gold star lesbians make everyone seethe outside of this space kek and I think it’s a testament to how captured lesbian spaces are right now.
It’s a non issue for me, if a woman had the luck and safety to be that good for her, I’m happy.
No. 460487
>>460415not even virgins, these
>>460376 /
>>460347 are just ragebait posts written by someone trying to make lesbians look cruel and irrational. everyone who's ever had a single female friend in their life knows that unwanted sex is a frequent staple of the teenage girl experience. lots of women vastly prefer women with more female-focused experience, whether that means goldstars over late bloomers or lesbians over bisexuals, but they don't talk like a poorly written feminazi antagonist in a shitty movie about it.
when I was a teenager, gold star discourse never looked like this. the term goldstar lesbian wasn't a huge controversial thing until recently and it's really obvious why this happened. as lgbt stuff has become more accepted in america, a lot of older bisexual women have come out of the closet, but coming out of the closet at an older age brings up in them this insecurity over their lack of experience, and some of the more annoying women who've done this become hyper aggressive whenever people point out that hey, not everyone in the lgbt community has the exact same experience, and a married woman with a couple of kids really isn't living the same life as someone who's been bullied for being gay since she was 14. this is why you see women lose their shit over the term goldstar–it was never thrown around in a supervillain
victim-blaming sort of way, but it makes some people feel less cool so they lash out over the mention of a woman who's never slept with a man like you called them a cunt or something. this is also why wlw and sapphic and queer have become more popular, obviously: bisexual women want to emphasize what they have in common with lesbians.
No. 460684
>>460305I'm so done with people looking for validation in lesbian spaces just because they had sex with a man. You're all exactly like the trannies asking over and over and over and over "am i enough of a lesbian guise??? im
valid rite???? PLS TELL ME IM
VALID FEEL BAD FOR ME BECAUSE I FUCKED A MAN!!!!" I don't give a fuck! Fuck off!
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 460692
>>460684>>460376You're right. If you weren't literally forced to do it by your religious parents or ended up being drugged by some shithead then simply stop trying to insert yourself in lesbian spaces when you had a choice to not fuck them. I am tired of going into lesbian spaces and constantly hearing if non-gs are
valid or not. Go hang out with bisexuals.
No. 460699
>>460692Nooooo
nonnie you don't get it, lesbians are the only stupid fucks stupid enough to fuck someone they don't like, sometimes even for decades! It works in mysterious ways because, you know, ~~~~sexuality~~~~ amirite. So so weird and confusing, and lesbians keep being the only ones overwhelmingly fucking the sex they don't like because they're just dumb like that! Stupid lesbos.
No. 460703
>>460684real women can tell the difference between being pressured into sex as a kid before you knew yourself and deciding you've only been straight because of comphet after a dozen happy straight relationships. this is just another troll attempt at sounding like a crazy evil lesbian like
>>460376 but come on.
No. 460711
>>460703Honestly that's a
valid complaint because I have it too. Not everyone fed up with that is a "crazy evil lesbian", what the hell? It's funny how you guys will be like we need to gatekeep lesbian communities harder but not if it's stuff you like lol. Gay men have been complaining about people like this for decades, why the fuck can't we.
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>>460715The non-goldstar OP didn't even specify when it happened and you all already made a headcanon that it happened when she was 12 or something. I agree with the anon that says unless you come from an hyper religious family or a third world country, it's very likely you already had an idea of what attracted you at 15+. You may disagree with me and that's fine, I disagree with you. At the end I won't be the one entertaining these people, and it's not our fault you or them are mentally unstable. And I will also point out that all the people who claim to have "OCD" about their sexuality are coping too hard. If you don't have any signs of OSA then what makes you think you might be OSA? 99% of people who say stuff like this don't even have an official OCD diagnosis, it's all internet self-diagnosed, so I can't come to believe this easily. If you think about men and sex with men on a daily basis to think it might be OCD I got news for you bro. Pic related is your average HOCD dumbass.
No. 460738
>>460720Ayrt, in my personal experience which I think I did bring up sometime already I just hit feelings late, as in like 18 late. I had already dropped out of school by then and was a NEET so even when I started getting feelings I assumed I would like men too when I resumed normal life. Just didn’t come. And I was in denial for a long time. Sorry for not realising earlier, sorry for not having the horny teen years you did, and sorry for teen me being dumb enough that I could hypothetically imagine a reality where I do felt pressure to be straight just like anon.
>>460723I think most teens have an idea but kidding yourself isn’t exactly strange? If it goes deep into adulthood I get the apprehension but you’re acting like this happening as a teenager is odd. It… really isn’t. Also, you may have an idea of
who you’re attracted to, but not rule out the idea that it could change. I really assumed at one point I would just find a man I like, I really had it in my head that it was just a matter of time and would surely happen.
That being said, it’s true I don’t know OP’s age, but they sounded young and said it was a decade ago. I would be curious to know when it was though
>If you think about men and sex with men on a daily basis to think it might be OCD I got news for you broI don’t know where you got that from…? You’re the only one bringing it up. I don’t know how else to describe it but OCD behaviour but yeah I’m not actually diagnosed with it so sorry for using the term. But discussions like these stress me out and I find myself going through every event in my life to try and figure out why I didn’t get it earlier or if I have some mental illness that’s deluding me into not realising I must be OSA or something
No. 460753
>>460748I’m talking about faggots who are gay but didn’t know from their tender toddler years like lesbians are meant to I guess
>>460752>Do you eat it?Anon… you are so fucking funny. I’m not the best person to ask because if I give oral when my love is on her period I always eat the clots ngl
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 460761
>>460758To be fair I said "something". Implying either or but with an example.
So in the case of one or the other, what do?
No. 460804
>>460802Tissues nearby
That makes sense, somehow I thought that wouldn't be allowed or something
I think I'd avoid eating it, I don't imagine it would have much of a taste but I feel like I'd choke on it like long spaghetti or something
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>>460804Vaginal lubrication is nearly identical to fresh aloe and not spaghetti anon. But safety should always come first, you do whatever you feel is best
No. 461155
>>461147Maybe she was close to her period?
An unrelated vent: I just want to hook up. I hate that this is so hard to find. I don't have the time or energy for a relationship and I don't want one. I just want sex every once in a while but that is apparently too much to ask for and everyone seems to hate it and be against it.
No. 461162
>>461051Madohomu isn't lame
But caitvi is
No. 461165
>>461051Sarah Waters is amazing! I can't recommend her enough.
>>461127I wouldn't normally consider myself terribly ugly, but my recent streak of only getting likes from obese women and trannies on Hinge is making me feel bad. I never really take photos of myself, and the issue is that I don't know how to present a photo of myself that feels authentic.
Actually, what are some good ways to open up a conversation with women at bars?
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I haven't been able to fully confess this to anyone but me and a longtime friend have hooked up after I've been trying to carefully curate no sex for myself this year and failed. She said I was good at it and that was cool but I also just wanted to see if I could not have sex with anyone for the challenge and I failed last second. Is there anyone else here that is a lesbian and trying to be celibate? I'm trying to do it to help fix my relationship with sex and I think I did on the most part.
No. 461299
>>461281I saw another woman put exactly that - "biological women only" in her bio. She was hot as fuck though, I doubt she has any trouble getting a gf quickly.
While researching if putting this in my bio can get me banned, I found a lot of people saying that unpopular accounts are sifted into the same pool, away from popular accounts. The more I learn, the more cold and loveless dating apps become. Maybe I am just that ugly…
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I'm butch and I need a butch gf so so so bad…I just want to be loved by a nice hardy woman. I think I'm fated for friends with benefits at most.
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>>461431You know, today I've been shown only beautiful, interesting women, but no one has liked me back yet. I guess I didn't know my place… When Hinge goes on a spree of only showing me obese women and they/them women, I close and reopen the app. Shows me normal women again. I really don't even think I'm that picky… I wish I could get someone to look over my profile. Maybe I just have weird prompts?
No. 461715
>>461708You're a fucking retard that thinks your enjoyment should be diminished by the other people that enjoy it.
With that logic, stop eating food because men enjoy it and they continue to exist and cause misogyny and objectify women when you support food business.
Stop watching Netflix because men subscribe and like Netflix too.
Dumbass.
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 461720
>>461718I don't care, I'm still going to enjoy my games while you sit around seething that they exist for an audience that isn't you.
I love how you think that playing games directly hurts women too. Lol
Stop dying your hair blue and go outside.
No. 461727
>>461725Being a picme is liking games with hot girls?
Damn, those are some low standards.
No. 461736
>>461730Arknights is great,tower defense gameplay is top tier, plus the base is fun too
I love gravel
Good waifu choices
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>>461685>waaaaah must purity policeAnyway I also love Infinity Nikki, and used to like Dream Girlfriend, but Infinity Nikki is way better for dress up… I loved Love Live in its heyday. My problem with gacha games now is that they're mostly Japanese, so all the female characters are just the same tired archetypes.
>tsundere>serious girl>stoic girl>nice girl who likes cooking or animals or something >shouting annoying girl>bratty girl>recently, mommy dom girl>shy insecure girlAlright got em all that's literally just about every gacha game in 2024. Just the same uninventive bland safe garbage for an audience who is too retarded to comprehend anything but the most surface level personalities they've already seen 1000 times before.
No. 461748
>>461746True with the archetypes
Most of the story is shallow and it's mainly about collecting waifus and the gameplay, so they'd probably completely ignore anything deep because of that
No. 461771
>>461685I used to play games like Dream Girlfriend but I was more in it for the dress up than actual waifu-ism since I'm kind of a retired weeb.
I mostly yume sometimes and femslash ship characters from media I watch/read, usually just imagination but also some writing.
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>>461730i miss arknight anyway anyone uses c.ai?
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>>462020that's true sis let's share our favore yaois to chase these waifutroon creeps away
pic related is mine i watched when i was 14 still my fave forever if you squint your eyes they even look like girls lol no wonder actual lesbians are actually reading and watching bl like no self respecting woman would want to see some triple d boob monster or 5 year old loli in her media plus those characters in their waifu media are not even written well they solely exist so that moids can masturbate while in bl there are many cute boys that just look like tomboys and you can easily imagine them that they have a pussy and the fandom isn't full of tims and the creators are female the waifutroons seethe so much because this is the truth
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>>461685I have dreamt that Ruan Mei from Honkai:Star Rail kissed me the other night, so probably her. I love mad scientists
No. 462224
>>462213lesbians are people who are exclusively sexually attracted to women. it's possible to have sex with someone you are not sexually attracted to. therefore non-goldstar lesbians are still lesbians as long as they are genuinely only sexually attracted to women. what is difficult about this for you?
this obsession with goldstars and having these purity arguments about lesbians every day feels like its breaking the bechdel rule tbh
No. 462449
>>462314I looked up the differences between crush and limerance and found that what I have actually fits the definition of crush better, oops lol. The gist of it was crushes are less permanent, non-disruptive of your normal life, and you don't idealize them into some icon that will fix your life's problems.
I asked my original question because I feel like I keep catching random feelings for women I'm not even that close to, and then I end up pissing myself off over it for every day that I have it due to all the (not disruptive… yet) daydreams I have about random shit regarding them. I feel like a massive sperg in how so many thoughts loop back to the women I'm obsessed with for the moment. And sometimes I just have straight up bad taste but I can't seem to make the "ick" I give myself over them stay. One of the women I'm crushing on who pisses me off is a "I am a gay man(bisexual woman)" TIF who horseshoe-theoried her way into misogyny. This describes like all of them, I know, but I like everything else about her and we're honestly pretty compatible save for everything regarding the troonism, which keeps reigniting the crush. I'll be having loveydovey daydreams about her in one second and then start malding on the inside at the reality of her homophobia and misogyny. By this point she definitely caught on to my crush but also how I go hot and cold, which grates on her as well (honestly fair).
Maybe all this is actually normal? Sorry if I sound like a massive sperg, I'm just rusty in this area.
No. 462489
>>462482Don't be sorry, I'm just glad I'm not alone kekk. I was worried for a second that some chadbians would bully me relentlessly for my shit taste.
Does your gendie take T too? Mine's a weedy nerd who takes the gel because she's scared of needles. She's so cute. She is SUCH a loserrr. I'm really sad that she lowkey
victim-blames women for taking protective measures against predatory men, I feel like she would therefore hold my bad experiences against me. We have so much fun just talking about jack shit. I hate her music taste. I need to benchpress her entire weight to imagine being able to literally sweep her off her feet. I want to gently bully her in bed and shove her stupid face that I haven't seen yet in my boobs.
No. 462534
>>462489Kek don’t worry. I’ve brought it up before and anons rightfully shat on me tbh. Mine seems to take T on and off, a smaller dose since she doesn’t seem to want to look too masculine. When she takes it regularly she has more muscle particularly in her hands but she’s not taking it right now, she looks really good either way.
Sorry I could sperg about it so much but her hands look so nice whether they’re slightly muscley or slender and delicate. Mine is a big loser too but honestly she seems to be moving in a better direction (not using strictly he anymore and this long period without T).
>I feel like she would therefore hold my bad experiences against meThat sucks, maybe you could convince her? Because if she can’t respect women’s precaution even then, you deserve more. Though it’d be hard to bring up so maybe not. I think they do this because they see themselves as the men in question and can’t separate themselves from it to look at it logically. They think being a man is just an identity and that since they can identify as a man, men aren’t any different.
Your current friendship with her seems sweet at the very least. Can’t relate to the hating her music taste, I listened to every song on her spotify kek, powered through it. Good luck on the benchpress goals.
No. 463056
>>462099Me and and my girlfriend dressed nice and she took me to Gardens by the Bay and held my hand the entire time through the beautiful night full of pretty lights. When we sat down for a bit, I commented on how romantic the whole thing was and how I could envision couples proposing there, to which she responds with "wait, did you know I'd do this??" and pulls the prettiest promise ring for me. I tear up a bit and kiss her and tell her I love her and she tells me she loves me.
That or the time she took me to the Aquarium and we honored the Yagakimi aesthetic. Or the time we got lost and ended up at a beach right before a pretty sunset took place and we watched it together as I'm holding her hand.
>pretty views>adventuring and getting lost finding new places>being with her literally anywhereshe's my ideal date nonas, I can't believe she's finally mine
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DAE worry they will never get a GF because of autism? I probably sound like a whiny incel but it makes me mad because I want a gf but my social skills have exponentially degraded since middle school and i have no relationship experience despite being 20.
Im not even ugly just my autism prevents me from being a normal person no matter how hard i try.
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I hate that I am naturally very friendly and happy go lucky with everyone at parties so men take it as me flirting. I keep getting mistaken as bi just because I'm nice to everyone and it's highkey pissing me off. Wondering how to look more lesbian as a hyperfemme. Every girlfriend I ever had swore up and down I did not need to change a thing but it's getting to me.
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>>463108One of us one of us
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can't really tell if you're incredibly assblown by a bad experience with a bi woman in the past, but as an actual goldstar lesbian, holy shit please don't stop seething, it's extremely entertaining to me
something about a mix of almost understanding where you're coming from, but ultimately choosing to laugh instead since you're wasting energy on a losing, invisible war
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>>463422no please nona do keep delivering
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>>463459Yuu a shit btw Sayacuck is best girl.
No. 463465
>>463461actual based taste tbh, though yuu makes for best face reactions
I can't believe nakatani stopped yurifying my life, what a disaster
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>>463465I know right? I'm reminded of it each time I go to the bookstore because I see her gross /ss/ manga there every time, makes me want to burn everything to the ground. Gross.
No. 463481
>>463451and do you live on planet earth? or maybe you're on some magical planet elsewhere, where lesbianism is not only accepted, but a ubiquitously good thing? and everyone around you can take one look at you, no matter what, and they just sort of intuitively know exactly who you are and what you want? and do waiters know your order before you even look at the menu…? and cars screach to a hault when you want to cross the street? and do the seas part for you too? must be a beautiful world, nonna, but it's not the one i live in. in my world, where even the butchest women i know still get hit up by people they're obviously not interested in, and everything that signs you off as a bona fide dyke is not enough, that doesn't really happen. must be nice
if i wanted to post in the new thread (which just seems to be people arguing about topics that are banned here) i would. maybe the new thread is just shit, have we thought of that?
No. 463522
>>463498The gold star discourse itt started because of this anon breaking the bechdel test
>>460305And then the sperging in the gold star thread started when an anon made the gold star are lescels comment. Like why are you even mad at lesbians who try to label things correctly when most of this was started by non-lesbian baiters breaking the bechdel rule??
No. 463592
Maybe the next thread can go back to a hard enforcement of the Bechdel test, and not allow posts that merely aren't "centered" around the opposite sex or any experiences with them. I feel like this would cover most of the repetitive sperging about bisexuals that get tired and unproductive fast, no matter your stance on the topic.
>>463535NTAYRT, it started out as seething before I kicked things off with a proper prompt about how anons were like growing up. The constant fighting just shows many anons (even excluding baiters and trolls) in both threads don't have anything to say that isn't about anyone-but-us.
No. 463617
>>463585Yeah but it doesn’t stop me from being a goldstar lesbian, does it? It’s not a fucking club.
>>463535So what about now? They’re still infighting, or is that all bishits, and if so which side is?
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Bait posted on Stupid Questions on /ot/. Proof that homophobic baiters are the ones participating in the conversations on the Goldstar thread. No surprise to anyone.
No. 463744
>>463639The answer is obvious from a sociological anthropological perspective. In pretty much all human societies, women cannot get by in life without partnering with a male. It’s only within the last like 50 years (if that), and only in the most progressive countries, that women have been able to reject male partnership and still have food to eat and a place to stay and social life. Before, you needed to be married to a man to get any of that. In most places population wise today, it still is that way.
Meanwhile, men can make names for themselves and have money and a career and social life pretty much unimpeded as a bachelor. And even if they marry for beard reasons, they’d have the freedom to go by themselves and cruise for male ass. They’d have more opportunity to meet men outside of the house and family duties, unlike women who would only be able to socialize within relatives or her husbands friends wives, keeping your childhood friends was not even a guarantee because you got dragged over to your husband’s home base.
Conclusion I’m getting at is there is no way we have accurate numbers on the unbiased rate of homosexuality in the sexes.
not a lesbian but a social science major No. 463760
>>463636this is a really dumb correlation lol and really highlights the difference between tradfags LARPing as radfems v actual radfems. Tradfags always resort to (no, not the tumblr definition) bioessentialism and think that because homosexuality is more common in males it means it must be a degenerate trait..?? That's like saying liking the color blue is somehow violent because males are more violent and like blue more than pink. both sexes are different, so sexuality manifests differently in both men and women, this tard also leaves out the fact that women are much more likely to be bisexual than males, infact, most lgbt women are bisexual. The fact that female homosexuality is rarer than male homosexuality doesn't prove anything other than the fact that sexuality manifests differently in the sexes. not to mention homosexuality in the modern day is still extremely rare in both sexes and I'd argue there isn't even
that much of a difference when considering how many gay men there are compared to lesbians. I don't see what that has to do with sexuality being immutable or not. This person clearly has no idea how sexuality works and is trying to do some retarded trad psyop to make retards think that being homophobic is woke
No. 464116
This is very small potatoes and not even a full complaint but I always see other lesbians saying "I want an older woman to do this and that and xyz to me" and it makes me think like ok is 1 year (our age gap) enough??? Or are you only looking for 5+ or even 10+ gaps…
>>464093Yesssss. The counterpoint is I also want someone to fix me back. But there are also lesbians who just want an entire project.
No. 464256
>>464093What's the best is two women who can both accept and give care being together. When she feels worse, you take care of her. When you're down, she'll take care of you. When you both feel good, you'll have an excellent time just being together and taking care of your life a day at a time. Yes it can be an appeal to want to fix or be fixed, but that's not a real partnership that can stand the test of time very often. Wanting help to grow, or needing support (even a lot of support) yes, but "fixing" is something else entirely, and you assume a position of brokenness.
Toxic dynamics are addictive and alluring but if you can overcome your desire to be in one you can find something much better.
No. 464276
>>462534>she seems to be moving in a better directionAhh congratulations anon! Not to count chickens before they hatch, of course, but that's a huge step up from mine who thinks T alone isn't enough to "fix" her. You two sound cute, I hope she peaks!
Speaking of muscles, does your TIF work out? I'm lowkey envious of you if she does, that's hot and she's basically just a bodybuilder at that point.
>maybe you could convince her?She's like kind of feminist, but then the troon logic always swoops in at the last second to garble her line of thought. She'd be sympathetic to my bad experiences, but if the conversation turns to extending that precaution on a sex-based class-wide scale, I think she'd start back-pedaling or start going "it's more complicated than that" no matter how careful she'd be to not put the blame on me.
The odd thing is, she recognizes that TIMs/nb-straight TIFs view SSA TIFs like her as the lowest tier of trans and also expects her to be their guard/attack dog, but she calls that transandrophobia. She recognizes that het TIFs make a mockery of gayness through things like het-tif-ying gay ships in order to fulfill their self-insert misogyny fetish, but she stops right there or swerves hard into left field.
I did bitch about this really hard to my supportive IRL (all straight) friends and they agreed I should find someone else to naturally redirect my attention to. Maybe my TIF will peak and change, but right now it's too far-fetched, and I'm better off just treating her as a friend and constantly reminding myself of her bad opinions.
…Ugh, but she's so cute though. I'm not going to "wait" for her but there's no harm in staying friends with an otherwise cool woman.
No. 464931
>>464929>My pettiest thing is a British/Australian/New Zealand accentPut that in your dating profile and set the location to
Melbourne. Post results hahaha.
No. 464933
>>464929Cool question nona. Pettiest… I think I wouldn’t date a woman who wouldn’t play video games with me at least sometimes kek. I enjoy them so if she just sat there bored I feel like it would make me feel bad/disconnected/cringe.
I also feel attracted to women through music taste, I feel like it’s so beautiful to find more about someone through the music they like. I love to fall in love with someone’s mind. Sometimes you can have really romantic moments to music that deeply affects the both of you too. I love it both when they share music taste with me or alternatively when they listen to music I’ve never tried; it opens my personal horizons while also making me feel close to them. I have a shameful but slightly impressive habit of, when I have a crush, online stalking them specifically to find their Spotify and/or Soundcloud account and I make it a goal to listen to every song on there… kek. Perhaps I’m overkill on things like that, if I see them reading a book I haven’t I might end up reading it too.
Other than that, other inconsequential attributes that make me interested… hm. Perhaps their items? A little odd but I find the things people collect very endearing. A cute scarf, a pretty brooch… stuff like that
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>>464929Putting something really boring in her dating profile on whatever app. No, I don’t expect everyone to have esoteric advanced taste but if you’re boring enough to say that you like Taylor swift or the office in your bio you probably aren’t a very interesting person.
No. 466299
>>466206An anon said it before pretty concisely, “Being homosexual is being exclusively attracted to the same sex, and it is possible to have had sex with someone you are not attracted to.” It didn’t happen to me but I can see how it could happen to someone else, ESPECIALLY since irl and even on here people will recommend “experimenting”. Kek a straight woman who’s had sex with a woman isn’t not straight either. Really not that difficult to understand.
>>466211Do they even have a “goldstar” equivalent? It seems like only an us thing.
No. 466316
>>464929>Pettiest thingWell I once broke up with someone because she looked eerily like her dad in a wig, had the same height, haircut, mannerisms and speaking cadence too and I just could never fully unsee it. But I think that was a one time thing kek. Most commonly I can’t stand women who talk with only their bottom teeth showing, makes my skin crawl.
>Inconsequential attraction I have a lot of these…good vocabulary, pretty nail shape with deep nail beds, messy baby hairs, like a general carelessness with handling their own belongings if that makes any sense
No. 466319
>>466299>Do they even have a “goldstar” equivalent? It seems like only an us thing.I'm pretty sure it's only seriously used in lesbian circles, gays might use it but only as a joke. Once again it's only women who suffer from purity spiraling
>>466211Not to mention the men who literally have whole marriages and children before randomly coming out. You see it way more often with men but no one cares somehow because men always get a free pass
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 467107
>>466299Are mods retarded? I got banned without even violating the rule, yet the post above me
>>466211 didn’t. Sick of retarded newfag mods, they can’t ban the baiters plagueing the SSA threads but powertrip over random shit. Fuck’s sake
(take it to /meta/) No. 468284
I feel like I will always see women differently to everyone else. Differently to … them and differently to OSA women, who see themselves through the lens of who they’re attracted to, and whose opinions are considered the end all, most important. Even their own opinions are always formed secondary to theirs, around theirs. I will admire a beautiful woman’s features, but I’ll always see her beauty in a different way to how she sees it, and how others see it. I see her trying to make herself smaller, phrase herself as more demure, and to my eyes it doesn’t seem like her. I like feminine features, and I like prettiness, cuteness, but the nature in which I see it isn’t the same as how it feels like they want to be viewed, in a sense, almost in a self-infantilising way? It’s this fellowship that I feel like other women grace each other with as mutually aspiring to this ideal, but it doesn’t really feel true… when I admire a woman, I see the fire she has, the “handsomeness” in her femininity, I can imagine her in more than what she wears and behind the makeup on her face, perhaps as a warrior, an uncivil human from the far past where she is truly liberated in conduct. But instead it feels like she cloaks herself, fulfils a role misattributed as inherent. Maybe this doesn’t make sense, I don’t know…
No. 469707
>>469610you're probably just overthinking it. maybe spend more time warming up via foreplay instead of spending too long feeling around in the dark. the more space you leave open for the right/wrong thing to happen, the worse it'll feel when you do miss the mark.
>>469696is that weird?
No. 470108
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what lesbian symbols do you like/use?
No. 470182
>>470108Love the labrys, and I've come to like the pink-orange one for its colors. Lavenders also came to mind for me, and I plan on growing a few soon. I also like the swallowtail versions of flags to symbolize cutting out tq+s, but that one's more for the general rainbow flag.
>>470174I never knew about the lambda thing till now, that's interesting!
No. 470248
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>>470236>a tumblrinaCan I just say that it's really milky how that person acts like taking the lipstick kiss off a tumblr pride flag was a monumental act in Lesbian History and is constantly e-begging for donations "as the inventor of the Lesbian Flag"
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Does anyone have any advice for dating etiquette for women? Online or not, it doesn't matter. I in general know very little about dating and am autistic.
Also if you have any advice on meeting women, it would be appreciated. I was thinking about dating apps, but I am not sure how to present myself on there.
No. 471150
>>471141Thank you nonna, I wasn't being specific enough
I would like to get into a serious relationship one day where we would build a life together. I worry about talking with and meeting women, because I don't want to come off as too pushy or cross a boundary, but I also don't want to act like I am talking to my straight friend and not a potential girlfriend. I only have experience with making friends
Also if you have any general dating advice, I would appreciate it a lot
No. 471293
>>470481Just let them wallow in their misery anon. They're sad to see.
>>470108I like the double venus and the rainbow flag. The sunset flag looks nice but it's made for the "queer" community so it can burn.
I don't use flags for anything though, even if I do own two pins with them, that I keep in a box. If I wore them, I would only want to attract the attention of normal SSA women anyway, not gendies and their affiliates.
Do any of you ITT walk around with lesbian pins or patches?
No. 471376
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>>470108I love the labrys and the purple, not so much the black triangle, because I think it's ahistoric to be used as a lesbian symbol specifically. It was mostly used for Romani people in the Nazi contraction camps, while lesbians were very rarely labeled with a black triangle for being a lesbian specifically. Usually it was used for political prisoners, and them being a lesbian was added just as an aggravating offense. I like the flag in the picrel, it's perfect imho.
I also love the double Venus symbol and the rainbow flag.
The Emily Gwen sunset flag is meh, one of the orange colors looks like piss from a dehydrated person, which I am not a fan of.
No. 472397
>>471788Kek I'm a weeb too but I'm glad this thread is more chill now. We don't need the constant infighting.
What do you like to read/ watch nonna? I always go for weeb shit by default but I wouldn't mind a rec for non-weeb media
No. 472458
>>471788Phrased badly but I agree, I think it says more if you’re non-GS but actually have actively had sex/relationships with multiple women, than someone who has never been near other women and has zero experience entirely.
>>472397Nta but seconded, I need more non-weeb media to consume tbh.
No. 473104
>>473102I can relate to finding most female characters boring, especially ones in anime or other shows for kids and immature adults. I do like crazy chicks though kek. Cate Blanchett really did it for me as Tàr. Asuka is too fem for me (also she's 15? I guess that didn't matter when I was a kid, I wasn't into her then either) but I can appreciate her batshit antics and aggressive ambition. The fact is that she wasn't made for people like us. She's a scrote fantasy, as most female characters are. It's frustrating but it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with lesbians for feeling dissatisfied.
I've only gotten celeb crushes as an adult now that female roles are expanding and I see more women of my race on TV. I don't always give a shit about the character she's portraying. I focus more on the talents and body of the actress, her voice, hair, clothes, choices while acting. I'm considering getting into women's sports to see more beautiful and talented women around.
Tldr is maybe fictional women rarely meet lesbian standards and that's not our fault. Good for the nonnies who have found ones they like but it's not a personal failure if you don't have any.
No. 473740
>>473648Seeing the shitfest lolcow has been in the past few days, you can't even expect lesbians to not be homophobic to one another, let alone straight women.
Watch as this posts gets copy pasted to the other thread, wildly misinterpreted, and taken as proof I'm bisexual somehow.>>472793What dating apps do you use? I don't have any advice regardless, I'm just always curious about lesbians who use dating apps since it seems so intimidating with all the queer bullshit going on.
No. 473787
>>473709disregard
>>473781. flirt obliquely in increasingly intense ways, then get drunk and make it messy.