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No. 626276[Reply]

There seem to be quite a few diagnosed bpdchans in this forum, so let’s make a space to share our experiences, struggles, & current states relating to the disorder
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No. 1937398

>>1158542
That's actually a really interesting question.

Firstly, current psychological orthodoxy suggests (going off the ICD-10) that CPTSD and BPD are probably the same thing. Personality disorders like NPD and BPD are virtually indistinguishable from CPTSD. However, autism spectrum disorder is a neurological condition and thus ASD is a developmental disorder characterized by challenges with social communication and interaction, along with restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior or interests. The symptoms of autism appear in early childhood and affect daily functioning. Unlike BPD and CPTSD, which are related to trauma and emotional regulation difficulties, ASD's origins are strongly linked to genetic and neurodevelopmental factors. Individuals with autism have trouble understanding social cues, whereas NPD's and BPD's generally don't.

CPTSD (therefore BPD) results from prolonged exposure to traumatic stress, especially in contexts where escape is not possible, such as childhood abuse and neglect in a dysfunctional family. The symptoms include difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness development, self-perception, distorted perceptions of the perpetrator (such as a preoccupation with revenge), and relational issues. CPTSD also involves significant disturbances in feelings of safety, trust, and self-worth, as well as a sense of being different from others. Typically, if you analyze BPD patients you'll find that they have experienced tremendous chronic stress at the hands of their parents yet they've also repressed the possibility of "fighting back" against them.

So, instead of turning their anger back on, say, their father's, they'll take it out, unconsciously, on "men" as a class instead of on the "man" who occupies a privileged position as father. You'll notice that BPD's will go absolutely ballistic on their partners for minor things but won't so much as speak ill of a highly abusive father.

No. 1938225

>>1937398
>So, instead of turning their anger back on, say, their father's, they'll take it out, unconsciously, on "men" as a class instead of on the "man" who occupies a privileged position as father. You'll notice that BPD's will go absolutely ballistic on their partners for minor things but won't so much as speak ill of a highly abusive father.

This is interesting. Does this father logic also apply to other abusive men in a BPD's life?
I have been in two abusive relationships, one with a BPD moid, the other probably some kind of cluster B himself but in the more malignant narc category. The BPD one did horrible things to me but I was a lot more passive about the abuse and repressed it, I think. I just jumped from guy to guy after expecting to be rescued then demonizing them when they got tired of me. They were much kinder but ultimately abandoned me for being a hot and cold BPD mess, rightfully so, yet that hurt me much more than his abuse did. Which is totally illogical. It's almost like I took my hurt out on the rest of my partners moving forward instead of consciously acknowledging his abuse. I pushed him out of my mind pretty quickly for a long time but after 10 years it hit me like a ton of bricks finally.

No. 1938922

>>1938225
If you have BPD then you're going to view intimacy as threatening and abuse as a form of intimacy and intimacy as a form of abuse.

BPD's have an extremely predictable pattern of behavior when it comes to their partners called approach/avoidance repetition compulsion. You should definitely Google it.

It's quite complex but the reason you stayed with your abusive partner is very likely because he was abusive, and this behavior helps keep BPD's from slipping into an overt state of idealization. The two biggest fears of BPD's are abandonment and "engulfment." If a healthy partner tries to get to know you, express intimacy with you, love you in a healthy way them you'll feel as if they're "disappearing" or "dying." This is because intimacy with your fucked up parents was highly dangerous and involved the risk of psychological disintegration, so you become panicked and abusive towards your partners as a means of putting emotional distance between you and them. However, this causes your fear of abandonment to flare up, and you'll begin exhibiting the classic BPD behaviors of acting childlike, asking for emotional regulation, being submissive, etc. This then causes the partner to attempt intimacy again, and the loop starts over.

An abusive or emotionally dead partner, like a narcissist, is ideal for a BPD because he doesn't actually love you and is incapable of intimacy and is also very likely to use abusive techniques on you yo control you. This actually helps alleviate certain types of anxiety because it gets rid of the fear of "engulfment" or becoming too dependent on them to help guide your thoughts and regulate your sense of self.

No. 1938924

>>1938922
>>1938225
*as if you're disappearing or dying.

No. 1940315

>>1937379
Wrong. One of my parents died, the one who was most abusive, and I'm still BPD. If anything things got worse because now I'm isolating more.



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No. 1201446[Reply]

I know that threads dedicated to specific countries are technically banned, but the Suomillanka, North Africa and German threads are fine and since I've been seeing a lot of Dutchfags (perhaps summerfags, who knows) I thought a Dutchfag thread could be fun. Especially since we have a lot of cows, whether it's on tv or just social media. Also, feel free to discuss anything fun! Like music, food, Dutch habits/manners. Vent about the housing crisis, overregulation, Americanisation, all of it!

Major cows:

Family de Mol
>Johnny the Mol beats up his wife multiple times, allegedly daddy paid all witnesses 5000 euros and gave his wife a house in Ibiza so she would shut her mouth.
>Knew about the Voice kids scandal (multiple children and teens were molested and some even raped), did not do anything at all.
>John de Mol has control over the public television, does not allow criticism on him or any associates.

Marco Borsato
>Singer, former coach for the Voice Kids.
>Molested 2 girls (if not more), one was 15, the other 13 at his home barbecue (which was for the participants of the Voice Kids).
>Keeps acting like it's all untrue despite evidence.

Ali B
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No. 1914405

>>1912620
Oeps sorry ik lees dit bericht nu pas, vanavond wanneer ik thuis ben zal ik je de invite sturen!

>>1912219
>>1913210
Dit is inderdaad behoorlijk kut, ik ben ook single en is echt onmogelijk om hier in Noord Holland te kopen

No. 1914813

>>1912620
Ik heb een mailtje terug gestuurd met de invite link!

No. 1915004

>>1914813

Heb net gekeken en helaas niks ontvangen. Zat ook niks in de spam. Zou je het nog eens willen sturen? Mijn email begint met wolken rat in het Engels.

No. 1915060

>>1915004
Mijn fout, er was nog iemand die een mailtje had gestuurd. Als het goed is heb je nu een invite!

No. 1938694

De sport discussie laait nu ook hier op dankzij de darter (weet niet eens wat het goede woord is voor die sport) en ik ben gewoon zo moe van het "maar wat maakt het uit!!!" of mijn favoriet "nee ze zijn gewoon jaloers!"



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Featuring the Hindu cow goddess Kamadhenu

Have you found out that if you express anything about a cow inside their thread you get banned or dunked on? Well this is the thread for you!

Do you want to rant about how much you hate a cow without disrupting the thread? Go ahead!
Do you want to sympathize with the cow and talk about how it's not too late to change? Do it sister!
Do you want to talk about your life (blogpost) and compare it to the cow in question? Here's the place?
Express yourself etc. Have fun!

Post your pessimistic, optimistic, negative, controversial, rude, or relatable takes.

(Also this is not a thread to complain about threads, bans, or mods, do that on /meta/. However you can complain about the fanbase of the cow or the people who dislike the cow here.)

Previous thread: >>1539480
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No. 1938539

I wish I'd stop holding onto hope that Venus will stop shitting up her life and acting like a destructive dumbfuck. It isn't fucking happening, the only change that might come from all of this is that she will do something even stupider than being a loser whore before her early death in nippon. Venus is so immature and so stupid that she thinks pretending to be a drunk schizo is fun and cool. Even 18 year olds would be childish and immature to think this way but this woman is 26(?). Yeah she needs help with her trauma, but there's no fixing that shit if she thinks being a drunk traumatised schizo is cool and makes her special uwu. I wish she was self aware. If this was any other lolcow I'd have moved on ages ago but many of us witnessed the drama when she left her mum's and felt so hopeful for her, it's hard to believe everything crashed and burned this fucking much. I wish we'd all lose interest in her and that she would fully fade into obscurity, maybe that'd wake her up and motivate her enough to live her life better offline but I won't hold my breath.

No. 1938641

>>1938435
I'm no expert sewer but I think it's actually pretty cute. I am a little obsessed with the "icing" part. I don't like how the bow turned out personally but I find bows never look as cute irl as they do in drawings because they can be so much bigger and poofier in them
>>1938539
I'm still holding on to hope that she and Luna will break out of their cycles one day. They both got fucked over in childhood but unfortunately are living a fantasy cope that their shit lives are romantic or ok in some form. Luna's still with the pedofuck who groomed her and hooked on drugs, Venus is away from her mom but spiraling hard in Japan presumably from all the built up emotional issues from childhood and not addressing them and instead drinking away the feelings which means it'll just be longer until she's improved herself because she can't if she never confronts her past properly. As terrible an experience as it can be, I kind of hope both of them get institutionalized or something so they can be kept away from their environments and drugs long enough to hopefully see their lives from a proper perspective. Mathew and Margo dying would probably help too in that regard though unfortunately at this rate I think they're both going to live a long time. Margo is not that old and Mathew probably won't overdose and die anytime soon unfortunately.

No. 1938723

>>1923184
L8 but I don't think she's ugly but she's very plain looking. If I saw someone like her walking down the street I'd think she's pretty but forget what she'd looked like five minutes later.

No. 1938820

>>1938435
I don't think the dress looks super great quality, but I do generally think it's cute and good on her for finally making something for content that isn't related to her DID larp. Anons shit on her for not doing anything related to fashion, but when she does they immediately criticize her, sometimes cows can't win.

No. 1939160

>>1938435
I like it too. As someone who has been around cosplayers, this is right up there is basic sewing cosplayers. She's not awesome for sure, but she isn't terrible. I think its pretty cute. A whole group of little cupcake dresses with different flavors would make for such a cute photoshoot if Jill ever did something like that. Sometimes I think anons just hate fun. I personally don't even find it cringe. Dressing up randomly for photoshoots is fun, occasion or no.



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No. 1291989[Reply]

Share stories about your freak neighbors
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No. 1922130

>>1847319
I know, this is old, but if you have male friends or family, invite them over at the beginning, so everyone will know that there is a man in your life. I did live alone for a long time and always had slippers from my brother very noticeable in my hallway, so that everyone would think I'm not living alone. It's just very tiresome that we have to think about stuff like that. Right now I have a neighbour who would always leave the house when I left, no matter what time it was in the morning and that only stopped after a male friend moved in with me. Most neighbours will leave you alone, but I'd rather be a little bit too carefully than having a guy stand in front of my door thinking he is in love with me or stuff like that.

No. 1922391

Every few weeks my neighbor screams things like "I dont wanna do this anymore" while banging on walls pretty loudly, sounding like a mental breakdown.
I felt sorry for her and put a note out for her in case she wanted someone to talk or chat to when depressed. But now I overheard her talking to some older dude, saying how it's "embarassing that she heard [us]" plus some weird shit about DID/discordesque lingo I didn't understand, so now I'm thinking it's all part of a weird RP with this moid.
Never reaching out again…

No. 1926611

I think my next door neighbors are tweaking out right now. They're banging stuff around and occasionally screaming.

No. 1927990

My neighbor's boyfriend just almost killed her and I had to call 911. They were fighting and screaming and she suddenly went silent and he starts screaming for help. The police did the interview in front of my apartment door and the boyfriend says that he pushed her and that she fell and hit her head. An ambulance took her away and she did not look good.
Also, the police took their sweet goddamn time getting up here. They stopped to interview people by the pool about what they saw while she lay unconscious on the floor.

No. 1938436

Last night I could actually breathe because the human cigarette who lives below us left his apartment for his once in a blue moon social interaction. I hate this fat moid so much hope he dies of cancer or heart disease soon



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No. 1913634[Reply]

Thread to post the antics, cringefests, drama and LARPing of the modern punk movement, from crusties, riot grrrls, gutter-punks and other related subgroups
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No. 1938268

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>homeless children being raped are actually trans, queer and punk

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>>1938268
>Terfs are the new punk

No. 1938311

>>1938302
love you terf Azumarill nonna.

No. 1938328

>>1938269
>trans women have historically been very commonly driven into sex work
you would think they'd be at the very least critical of prostitution then, and yet trans "women" are at the forefront of the "sex work is work" movement. why should anyone care about trans women being prostituted when they're the ones going on about how selling hole is no more degrading than flipping burgers at mcdonalds?



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No. 621465[Reply]

I didn’t see a copy pasta thread, so here it is! Pasta all of your copies here:
>the fresh
>the stale
>the gross
>the milky
>the dairy free
>others’ pasta
>even those in your own pockets
And so much more! If you could add pictures related to them, that would be even better.
Let’s try saving all those huge spergs that have been posted on lolcow by cows and farmers alike!
this is my first thread so no bully pls
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No. 1909990

>>1909987
Carreychan is my favorite poster of all time and it was incredible when she'd make edits of him with his eyes censored

No. 1910103

hey, sorry I saw your profile and I just thought you looked cute in your picture, I really wanted to tell you that)) It's really rare to see girls playing video games haha! I don't know why its a guy thing honestly im like really against misogyny and like ill be the one in the kitchen making sandwiches. We should really play l4d2 sometime its a really cool zombie game with a lot of scary moments, but don't worry ill be there to protect you ;) sorry that wasnt flirting I swear Im just trying to be friendly I really like your profile picture sorry was that too far? Really sorry i'm really shy I don't go out much haha add me on skype we should talk more you look really nice and fun xxx

No. 1917541

i hate storytelling and humans obsession with it. i only care about objective reality. i hate movies. i hate fiction. i hate imagination and "creative" media. i hate most art. i only read non fiction and listen to music performed by attractive people but dont enjoy the music itself

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>18 years and 1 day old
>Im 5'9 so he would have to be 6'2 at least
>Is juiced up, pumps iron every day
>Testicular implants to compensate for steroid side effects (He never complains about them and will accept his heart attack at 25 as fate.) Pectoral implants to enhance his boy milkers. His meat is sculpted and forward projecting, NOT lean.
>Body fat not higher than 7℅.
>All hair south of his eyelashes is waxed off.
>Hair is bleached platinum blonde with NO dark roots showing. Shiny, very light fake tan.
>Obedient, mostly quiet, humble and hard working. Smiles coyly in my presence only! Positive motherly energy. GENEROUS. He spends all of his disposable income on me and plastic surgeries.
>Urethra is as tight as a needle point because he only shoots spunk for reproductive purposes. Bullies males who have loose dick holes and calls them whores. Never masturbates or has sex for fun.
>No teeth. Oral feels like I'm scissoring a pussy. I guess this implies years of childhood meth abuse which I'm OK with if it makes me cum harder.
>Actively violent against other males and fucking hates them (except my dad of course)
>Is an orphan. No crazy parents in law for me!
>Balls are tight, perfectly symmetrical orbs. He doesn't get a uniball even if he's literally developing hypothermia as we speak. Absolutely no sag. Just two juicy eggs.
>Circumsized with no Neapolitan discoloration. Cockhead is moisturised with products and isn't shaped like a mushroom! The shortest I can go (if he's extremely girthy ONLY!) is six inches. Is open to wearing hallow straps when he's inadequate.
>Cunt eating lips, thick tweezed eyebrows and a strong wide jaw supported by a horse neck are MUST-HAVE features.

No. 1938208

>it's
You mean HE, he is a goddamned penguin. I get your angle, I really do but I feel that King Dedede doesn't count as a furry or anthro or animal. Yes, he's a penguin but he's more of an abstraction of the image, traits and ideas of a penguin. Not even a real penguin, he's like the abstraction of the concepts of a cartoon penguin. I'll go as far as to say he's a penguin shaped mascot. Unless you're an artist who goes severely off model and actively adds physical bird-like and avian furry traits he doesn't really fall under that sort of thing which I don't find appealing. The only thing you'll get from me is finding the idea of him having a tiny itty bitty triangular tail cute and him having a cloaca hot. That's where it ends though, I nope the fuck out when they start making him an actual penguin with bird traits and shit. Also, it was my first husbando, Meta Knight, birthday on the 23rd. He's 31! I couldn't do much to celebrate his big day other than eat something chocolate related in his honor. Others may cry that he's old and he's a daddy and he's a dilf, but I don't really like that sort of implication or depiction. Like Kirby, I adore a Meta Knight who's cool, stoic, and mature but retains an eternally youthful vigor and charm that's breaks through his stoicism occasionally when it comes to things that makes him particularly excited. I was tempted to dye my hair a jet-black with navy blue undertones in celebration but I feel that'd be too much so I settled on jet-black. Happy Birthday Meta Knight!



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No. 1628600[Reply]

For random things we like or love, like the Things we hate thread but the opposite.
Anything you wanna talk about is allowed. You might post physical things, ideas, links to random corners of the internet, etc. The things you might post don't have to necessarily be milky/not milky, go as controversial, weird, complicated, pure, simple or vanilla as you'd like
>No infighting
>No things you hate or dislike

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No. 1936699

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I love it when I crack a pomegranate open and its seeds are arranged like a rolled-up isopods tiny feet. Looks cute.

No. 1936768

>>1929322
this is butt rock

No. 1938164

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No. 1938191

>>1938164
>pretty
>intelligent
>can stab men and get away with it
god has its favourites

No. 1938195

>>1938164
Bestie goals



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No. 1511554[Reply]

Tell us your daydreams, nona!
For fantasies that don't fit the /g/ sexual fantasy threads.
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No. 1922801

>>1922799
Wow all kinds of content to interact with on /ot/ and the only thing you guys have interest in replying to in any serious measure is shit like eugenics.

No. 1934733

Whenever I'm at work, I daydream about my best friend and I meeting in school and being retarded together.
Sometimes I also daydream about us working together and making everything less boring or stressful which wouldn't happen because she's kind of mean.

No. 1934872

>>1913650
You said your friend would be a full time artist had she lived in the West, that means being able to make a living from your art. The majority of artists keep art their hobby or a side gig and have a regular day job because they can't live off their art.
>As far as I know, in some first world countries, medicines are free for their people and even some services like therapy or the sorts.
Yeah "free" because the majority of the population works hard and pays very high taxes and mandatory insurances. Not saying first world living is bad by any means but don't be illusioned about the work that makes health care accesible or "free" in the first place either.

No. 1937805

I want to be a part of a self-sufficient group of women that is prepared for any crisis with bunkers full of food and water.

No. 1937824

When I listen to a song I like I imagine I sang it and plan out a whole choreography + music video



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No. 1561582[Reply]

Can't remember where you saw that thing? Want to know the name of someone? Ask here.



Previous threads:
#1 - >>>/ot/861432
#2 - >>>/ot/1068958
#3 - >>>/ot/1288369
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No. 1937419

>>1937412
Maybe Do You Fear (For Your Child)? by My Life With The Thrill Kill Kult. I personally prefer the Klub Hell Mix

No. 1937430

>>1937419
Holy shit, haha, yeah! Thank you lots! I almost got the words right, glad you could make out what I meant.

No. 1937677

someone made a post on /ot/ the other day that said something like "men cant be real communists because they all desire private property(wife)" and i thought it was in unpopular opinions but now I can't find it. help?

No. 1937678

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No. 1939077

Was there a thread where you post about fictional characters like they’re cows? I can’t find it, I’m not sure if I dreamt it up or something



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No. 879593[Reply]

Share goals, tips and resources. Not everyone can have their own land, but incorporating some homesteading ways saves $ and increases independence. Please no just recommending products, the more diy the better. For example, using Soapwort to make your own liquid soap. It's easily passed over as a weed and can be stealthily sown along public trails and fields.
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No. 1728467

>>1719890
Smart! Thanks, I'm going to look that up!

>>1719981
>>1720995
>This board is for feminine health, advice, and beauty oriented topics. Direct everything else to /ot/ or /m/
As per the rules page. This thread isn't about any those topics so it should be here in /ot/ indeed.

No. 1937390

>>1677800
Samefag. I just picked and processed a fresh batch of young blackberry leaves soooo wish me luck. I hope this one works out.

No. 1937467

>>1937390
Tell us how it goes! I know very little about fermented blackberry leaf tea, so is the result similar to a kombucha taste/fizziness?

No. 1937508

>>1937467
I've never tried kombucha, so I don't know what it tastes likes, it's been on my list to try at some point. Fermented blackberry leaf tea isn't supposed to fizz though. You ferment the leaves, dry them and make tea from the dried leaves like regular loose leaf tea so it's not that the drink itself is fermented like kombucha.

No. 1937523

>>1295913
this is literally my life rn. I wanna get started on some trees before I officially move in



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