/ot/ - off-topic

Life is sooooo good omg broke up with moid, tried on some outfits for the upcoming days and now I'm drinking cogniac mmmm it's kinda gross but i don't want beer I want it. Can't wait up on my friends to meet up and drink i wanna naw. Cheers I finished my bachlors and i need someone nice to make out with (not a man please god not a man)

>>2584527
The riot what did huh? Nona where are you? Did you go to get a beer in a high risk country? I'm sure there were stores closer to you.

>>2592317
I wish this feeling could last forever omg it feels soo good being single, I'm not chained to a lazy mf who can't even handle me. This should prob be in vent but man I wish I felt something. I'm soo sick of disociateing and not feeling anyhting. Ok I see why I was an alcoholich in highschool.

Is it fucked up if i really wanna kiss a friend of mine? Idk she kissed me randolmy while givving me a haircut, i wish I was more aware. It felt nice thoug.

Drinking wine and getting drank on a Sundayyyyy

>>2592793
Samefag. Sometimes you drink and sometimes it drinks you. Deep wise musings

Took one singular sip of sake and I am drunk now. lightweight getting faded on a Monday..

>>2501536
This is based on a comment I made ages ago but will help you and probably anyone with large amounts of unstructured time. Although I'm not on lc much anymore I look back at the Jill threads and badly want to lock her in a room and force her through this method

>before you even consider 'detoxing,' make a clear list of things you would rather do than doomscroll. Academic/work tasks, maintenance tasks, reading (do you have a stash of physical books you keep meaning to read?), hobbies you have abandoned, new hobbies you want to try, etc.
>for inspiration, look through your bookmarks/saved posts on social media (copy anything useful from there into a text file and it'll be a great start, can even print it if you have a printer)
>reformat the list into a to-do list, with clear time limits and endpoints ('read for 30 minutes' 'draw for 30 minutes')
>put the list into a random number generator and let it generate a task for you
>continue until you've gone all the way through the list
>as you get back into new hobbies, you can be a bit clearer about the actual list items. You can look through instructional books (so like 'finish all tasks in chapter 3'), or look up online 'roadmaps,' or just stay blasé ('I'd like to do 300 hours of drawing this year and see what I've made afterwards' 'I hear it takes 600 hours to become fluent in French, I wonder how true that is')
>always have some kind of timer going, it helps to put things in perspective

Also most spreadsheet software has a 'random' function so you can just make a daily to-do list and it'll assign you a single task on keypress. I always type how I'm feeling into a cell and it feels like it's giving me tasks to do as therapy kek

The key is to NEVER give yourself even a small choice beyond your initial plan/roadmap because your lizard brain will just freak out and default to the easiest thing which is scrolling. You can even turn down a 'random' answer but you'll still be way more inclined to do something else the computer picks for you

The detox mentality is great because you can be terrible at any skill you try and just go 'well at least I wasn'tPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I managed to unintentionally cure my phone addiction which is crazy to me. I dropped my phone a couple months ago and it broke the thermal sensor, which basically meant that my phone would restart itself every 2-3 minutes. For two months I lived like this and it was honestly so liberating. If I wanted to use my phone, I only had three minutes to do what I needed - which meant no dilly dallying, no fucking around, and most importantly no mindless scrolling. The only annoying part was I couldn’t make any phone calls longer than two minutes or listen to music when I was outside. But it didn’t really affect me as I work from home, and I started bringing books with me so I could read a few pages while on the bus or whatever. I felt so free and untethered. I was seriously considering getting a landline and an iPod and calling it a day. Unfortunately, I work in tech as a web developer and eventually needed a smartphone to test websites on (I will never be free). However, I’ve had my iPhone 16 for three weeks now and I’ve noticed I have no desire to waste time on it. It was even sitting on my desk in the box for a week before I begrudgingly set it up. It’s strictly utilitarian to me now. It’s like I rewired the circuit in my brain that would crave those easy dopamine hits from scrolling on my phone. That said, I still struggle with this behaviour sometimes when using my laptop but it’s much less severe. Something about having a computer in your pocket makes compulsive scrolling much more appealing. TL;DR Accidentally bricking your phone is based, actually.

I've deleted lots of my SocMed accounts, Instagram, Xitter, Spotify, and even a Reddit account I forgot existed. I'm in the process of getting rid of my YT account too as it's the app I'm most addicted by.

I'm looking at YouTube comments that I've liked and disliked and it was a real eye opener as to how much I was wasting my time with it. Literally everyday in like 2022 for example I was doing nothing but watching videos and liking or disliking comments (and maybe getting into a petty internet slapfight too). It's so depressing that I could've used that time more productively but I was just pissing it away. I'm in the process of deleting them all manually to scrub the embarrassment. I turned off my YouTube history and added an add-on that prevents me from searching videos, so far I have been using it less and less.

Honestly i just wish i could detox from social media and the internet in general, i'm addicted to scrolling and checking up random drama online. I wanna be productive both online and offline but i always get sucked back in the scrolling and searching loop.

internet addiction feels like it never ends. i convince myself i'm satisfied, then i get distracted and keep scrolling. i feel so stupid and hopeless.

This YouTuber sounds like his constipated

The thumbnail made me think Michelle Obama had a mental breakdown, but these two are gasping and overreacting at the most generic interview about motherhood possible. Of course, maybe they both just don't know a lot of mothers, I don't believe conservative media bimbos are any more normal than the liberal ones.

>>2592702
that's why i do appreciate the commentary youtubers that try creative videos, even if they're a lil cringe like danny and drew.

The channel that posted vidrel has thousands more featuring people I've never heard of.

There's no way in Hades that an audiobook's gonna replace paper and ink.

Nonnies, how can one tone down their fixiation? This is the first time I've became obssesed with a real person, it's unsettling. Is this my punishment for being isolated for so long?
He's a cute musician from my city. I never actually spoke to him until recently, I just watched him from a distance. My incompetent ass somehow managed to go for coffee with him.
I thought meeting him would make me stop idealizing him but no, I crave him even more. He probably just pretended to be nice to me because that's what people with better social skills do, but still. I can't get that day out of my mind. I want to talk to him again so badly.
Those hazel eyes and long curly blonde hair shining bright under the sun, his gentle voice, I want to appreciate them up close again. I want to be able to hug him when I'm feeling down. I'm not even sure if this is romantic, I just want him to comfort me and spend time with me.

>>2581125
Sage for I can't help you anon, I just I'm really envious (in a good way!)
Good luck, nonita

This will be a long one but I want to tell the full story of what might have led to this obsession of mine. I would like to start by saying I have a really good memory, especially when it comes to random things about random people and that I have effectively socially isolated myself for at least two years which had its effects on me. As a teenager I've had crushes, friends and such but aside from a random girl on facebook whom I'd check the profile of (which I think I mostly did for the funny stuff she would post rather than her personality), I never had something close to an obsession. In highschool I "met" a girl on discord who made me actually confirm that I was a lesbian, she was the only person I've actually romantically liked on that level in my entire life. Unfortunately though, it was never more than an online "friendship" for a couple of years and after getting annoyed at her clearly not showing interest in me (which, even then, was clearly understandable considering she never even heard my voice or knew my exact age) I cut off my contact. After some months actively thinking about her I stopped holding the same interest for her and went my own way. By "went my own way", I mean never finding someone like her again and with the monk-esque life I led, working all day and still thinking about her once in every few nights which actually sounds like some kind of buddhist idealization ritual now that I think about it. In these years I've only really stalked one person online which was mostly a sarcastic thing with me coincidentally getting into the same major and university as someone in a facebook group I was active in and although I've done my fair share of reading through all his posts (I think it was out of boredom) I've never held any feeling commonly attached with obsession towards him (obviously not anything romantic kek). After 4 years have passed since I stopped talking with the girl that keeps reappearing in my head everytime I think about anything related to romance, on a random night I decided to join my old discord servers. This was mainly because I wanted to find old messages of myself but it quickly turned to reading messages from her, I searched my username on a server and immediately saw that she mentioned me even after a year of not talking. Maybe emotionally making a big deal out of nothing, I tried to find older messages to remember if she was actually how I remembered her (and again, I gotta give my memory credit because I rememberePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I've been obsessed with a cosplayer/artist for 3 years. It went from hate to me confessing to her after agonising over her for so long. This ended in rejection last year after on and off ghosting online. I don't know if it's love or me just wanting to be as close to her as possible. I've seen her in real life a few times and she has even come to stay over once because it was convenient for her and she knows my sister. I keep beating myself up for acting like a sperg back then, because I want to know things no one knows about her. It feels special. I feel like there's a layer to her I'm dying to get to but I can't. There is an element of wanting her easy, exciting life but also wanting to be closest to her. I'm fairly certain we would be good friends if she didn't get filtered by me being an ugly retard but I will never know for sure and it kills me. No one else really interests me. If I lived near her it'd be my only goal to create a tricky situation so she would have to meet with me somehow. This makes me feel like a loser or a creep honestly. I've thought about moving there but she will probably move to somewhere else soon. I'm learning to lucid dream so I can eventually dream about us having a life together

>>2594665
Sounds like jealousy and you fixate on her because she's physically nearer than others. Please realize she's not special and put time into working on yourself instead and stop looking her up. She doesn't care about you and never will.

Hola nonitas, como les va?

Que opinan de la mona caballo de Uma Musume que es latina y habla en español? ojala añadan una yegua chilena o argentina.

>>2593753
creo que es forma corta del nombre “Yuridia” no se el español tan bien lo estoy aprendiendo

>>2594596
no sé, me lo recomiendas? solía jugar Bellasara y me encantaba cuidar caballitos bonitos

>>2594626
El juego es mas como Princess Maker, tienes turnos donde tenes que subirles los stats a tus monas y depues ponerlas a correr para ganar carreras y fans. Si perdes las mandas a la fabrica de pegamento.

>>2594470
Insanely exploitative and trashy

>>2594470
>>2594489
Why is that bad or unusual? There's a tonne of tourism to the 9/11 memorial, Auschwitz, Anne Frank house, the Cambodian killing fields…
I feel like if Americans are going to do shit like that in other countries and attract all the heat from authorities, that dirt-poor country should get to take tour groups there nearly 50 years later.

>>2594470
I hope they sell kool-aid at the gift shop

>>2594470
What lessons lol? When your religious leader wants to move the church to some bumfuck forest in a bumfuck country, maybe stay home?

I just saw this. I heard of the Nicole Kidman dads csa/hunting ring before. Any thoughts on anything discussed in vidrel? Anyone know about it?


>>2567084
I haven’t got to read all of your posts on her but I think loftus has been discredited and her research, whatever its flaws, is obviously not relevant to memories of traumatic abuse. Even Loftus won’t stand behind the validity of her research.

> But when Fitzgerald got his chance to cross-examine Loftus about her findings, he had her stuttering to explain her own writings and backpedaling from her earlier assertions. Citing several of her publications, footnotes and the work of her peers, Fitzgerald got Loftus to acknowledge that the methodology she had used at times in her long academic career was not that scientific, that her conclusions about memory were conflicting, and that she had exaggerated a figure and a statement from her survey of D.C. jurors that favored the defense.

https://web.archive.org/web/20230201220217/https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/politics/2006/10/27/in-the-libby-case-a-grilling-to-remember/f5b3a032-2929-4925-aea9-013c57204cca/

I don’t know what you included in your comments, but it’s crazy that anyone is acting like she’s legit.

She’s just a defense witness for abusers and has always been in it for money. She resigned from the APA after an ethics complaint against her. She was recruited to fmsf by an mk ultra psychiatrist (Martin Orne is the one who asked her to join)

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idk if it will really be that big of an issue? Pretty soon people will use AI to write the AI prompts because it really seems like an intellectual race to the bottom

>>2594286
it's called thinking abilities and been a thing for nearly a year, look it up

>>2594396
>it's called thinking abilities and been a thing for nearly a year, look it up
I'm an old fogey because what does this mean in an AI context? The ability to think has been around for more than a year… do you mean the decline of thinking ability?

>>2593946
People can worry about two things at once just saying. AI is also coming for all of us not just artists.

technically I've only been a full NEET for a couple of weeks at this point, having graduated a shitty community college recently, but i've always been a NEET in spirit. as everyone else from my class combined studying with a full time job, i'd come home and dive back into escapism. tried getting a job a couple of times, couldn't deal with the pressure of customer service due to severe social anxiety and quit almost immediately, then procrastinate trying again until at last i graduated and have no excuse to be unemployed anymore.
my life is about to drastically change, and i'm extremely anxious about it.
family is supportive but i feel really guilty for relying on them for so long, so i need to find some sort of job asap. it's probably gonna be a shitty one since most local jobs in my field (design) require experience. my only friend is leaving the country for good in a couple of months, so i'm going to be alone as well. i don't really have any internet friends either. kinda devastating but i hope i'll get out of this period having become a stronger person.

I took a week off and now I never want to return to my stupid job again.

Former NEETs, I'm a current NEET, and I've been offered a helping hand that would be a really good partial step towards getting my life back together. It's been a week and I haven't done anything. What the fuck is wrong with me?

>>2594433
change is scary

>>2594433
Fried dopamine receptors maybe? For most of my life I couldn't do anything that wasn't immediately rewarding e.g. playing video games. Cleaning up my environment, sending an email, following up on an obligation, it was like my brain just didn't want to do it, instead it wanted to do fun things now now now. About 6 months after I started new meds, I realized I was finally capable to put the vidya down an feel rewarded by finishing a chore, applying for a job, etc. I got out of neetdom a year after starting new meds. You could have an actual chemical imbalance that makes anything that isn't superficially rewarding seem like an impossible task that you just refuse to do.
Or you could be scared of change. Or, very likely, neetdom has fucked up your notion of time and you didn't realize how much time had gone by.

left my cousin's family hangout for weekend, got a free joint from my aunt's stoner bf. saving it for tomorrow wake and bake, so now im smoking the one I rolled before the party and left behind. listening to music and hoping everyone nonna gets a break or time off to smoke some really good indica

>>2592282
if it weren't for my country's retarded communist goverment I'd sell you cheap and very potetnt cookies, i'd sell it to everyone. My cookies best cookies.

I hope you all fellow nonnies have a good day today. smiles ♥

thirty minutes out and I'm smoking that slop, that green grizzy goop got me chopping a cop, spillin all my beans someone get me a mop, her man looks real fancy I'll ask her to swap

>>2592728
Thank you nonna I hope it gets legalized there somehow. Sometimes I don't realize how blessed I am to be born in Weed Country.

>>2566073
Further proof that dogs are angels. I can't unsee the wings now, that's so cute!

I love pink on pastries, also I love the combo pink and yellow.

I love pixie cuts on other women. I love the way it doesn't hide their face and when they smile it looks brighter and makes them glow. I just think it's such a cute and flattering hair cut, wish I got to see it more often.

>>2566073
Mine will have her ears up if she's on her own and as soon as she sees me or a family member she instantly lowers them and puts on the puppy eyes. She's so funny and cute. I love when dogs make themselves rounder and softer when they meet someone they like.

I like kissing even more than sex. Feeling a woman's mouth against mine and hearing all the noises we collaborate on is so awesome.