/ot/ - off-topic

>>2592116
Insecurity, retard strength is all they have left.

>>2585288
You can't properly argue against him that's why he's doing it. He claims it's a circular argument even when she gives her defense because he's constantly reiterating "how is that bad?" He's causing the circular argument. It's what people do when they want to argue in bad faith. They'll split hairs and ask completely innocuous and stupid questions to confuse you and make you look like an idiot.

>>2592116
"I was once a lover of women" I doubt

>>2592116
this is why you get a gun and shoot them

>>2592116
And its always the most defective, disgusting, repulsive, unhygienic, out-of-shape moids. We should put them in a ring with a tigress or a lioness and watch them get torn to shreds. Bring back gladiators but its only women who are allowed to watch.

>>2581196
Boy, I can relate, I hate my HOA so fucking much.

>>2581295
>>2581196
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>>2581310
I was doing small talk with some woman at my job and I remember talking about my neighbors just for some small conversation. I guess I mentioned one of them not cutting their grass because I remember her getting snarky and saying that I can call the HOA on them and get them in trouble for not cutting their grass. I had to pause right there to digest that people are so fucking nosey and anal about non-issues that there's people who would call the "house police" on someone who not mowing their backyard. Like this bitch really wanted me to snitch and report some random family for not cutting enough grass. Fucking weirdo.

>>2577349
They go the path of the least resistance, so that’s people who are mild and nonviolent and they let the antisocial scrotes get away with everything because they’re cowards.

Another day of sorting garbage and recycling for people who just throw their refuse near the dumpster. Whoever throws out improperly contained cat litter should be drawn and quartered. Our neighbor spits on the stairs, so I have tiptoe around it. Cigarette butts everywhere. The landlord has started fining tenants for poor housekeeping (and believe me the threshold is high) after multiple cockroach infestations. I’ve got to move, nonas. These people are little more than animals. I’m too old for this

My neighbor likes to play the same three songs very loudly and my parents always say "Oh I guess his mother isn't home" and I was like oh so the guy's just a stupid teen. Nope. He's in his 40s. I'm in my early 20s so I'm kinda scared of talking to him. No one else can do anything because he does that during the day. Why he can't just wear headphones the music isn't good enough to torture the whole neighborhood!!!

>>2593516
get a vibrator nonnie, you'll never worry about moids again

I use one of these hair clips to clean my ears. I do it for years and it works so much better that Q tips! I never had an issue or hurt myself, of course you need to be careful. I wipe it off with a tissue and cleanse it afterwards.

>>2593568
Nonna, these exist for like a buck kek

>>2593570
The clip works fine for me so I don’t feel the need to buy these

I think I developed an allergy to the toilet paper we use. What the hell. I use to not have any problems like this and within the last year my skin is suddenly developing sensitivities to everything. I can’t believe I have to care about stuff like the fiber content and treatment of toilet paper now to get through my day

>>2588899
I have dyspraxia and I struggle with this. My entire spatial awareness and sense of my own body is completely off. It’s not hopeless but it’s nowhere near as good as the average person.

People who whine about having no friends are 90% of the time the problem.
>Inb4 what if someone was just a loner or different socioeconomically or autistic
That's all valid when you're a kid in school because kids suck, but if you're a grown adult and actively complain about having no friends, you're probably the problem.(wrong thread)

>>2557527
Marfans is brutal sorry

>>2592826
Exactly! It's just their way of making sense of other people while still preserving their ego. They'll reduce everyone they've ever known to a ~toxic narcissist~ and look for a bunch of reasons to hate them when more likely your personalities just don't match or it was the wrong time for each other. I'll never forget when an ex friend who was like this ended a friendship because her friend gave her a birthday present she thought was too low effort when she gave her a bunch of handmade stuff that wasn't perfect but definitely took some time to make. God I'm so glad I cut ties with her.

Anxious attachment types are just one step away from full blown BPD and are sometimes much worse than avoidants.
If you say that then the anxiousfags will comment "well ackshually being anxious is a response to horrible mean avoidants treating us bad" kek
They always have the logic that both attachment styles are equally as unhealthy, which is weird because why don't they also realise plenty of people become avoidant thanks to being with an anxious partner draining the ever loving hell out of them too? Who wouldn't want to leave a micromanaging retard who's constantly paranoid you're going to cheat or obsessively freaks out about you hanging out with your friends?
At least from experience avoidant partners or friends of mine blocked out of nowhere, packed their bags and fucked off in the middle of the night. Hurt like hell but at least they didn't slowly drain the shit out of me. They'd make good prosecutors with all the paranoid bullshit they claim.
>We just want to be loved!
You know who else also says that annoying shit? Bippies and narcs. If everyone has left you because you're such a loverboy/lovergirl and they're evil avoidants, maybe it's you.
Whenever annoying therapyfag moids with anxious attachment describe their fears and desires in a relationship, it literally is textbook inceldom. Always be around me! Always show me everything to sate my anxiety you're a cheating lying whore who'll leave! Fuck off.

Brie cheese

>>2593230
I've always wanted to try tiramisu

>>2593252
Make it! It's pretty simple tbh. Tastes absolutely delicious and it's impossible to tell it has eggs in it I was shocked when I made it myself and tasted it. Just follow a true Italian recipe and you'll be alright. The ingredients can be a pain to find but tbh any biscuits and cream cheese work. I use instant coffee instead of espresso.

Good wine and good company

I have been craving this for the last two days. I can't remember the last time I had mashed potatoes omg..

>>2581677
Look I don't want to sound like I'm special but I come from a bit of a particular family situation that's forced me to be isolated for years. It's not that I didn't try to socialize or didn't want to get a life. I've been alone for most of my life and I managed to get friends at the end of high school but as I said it felt like I had to do all the work because they just wouldn't be interested in me. Now it's worse because a lot of people aren't willing to befriend a neet because they have nothing in common. I have hobbies, I go out, I talk to people but that's it, it's all small talk. I'm glad you managed to go out with friends even as a neet but you had friends that were willing to go out with you. I kept inviting this one friend to hang out (though it's hard if you have no money) and she agreed twice in 5 years. It is in fact not that easy if you live in a rural town where all the young people with a job have left and there are no "club meets". But sure the art of conversation will help me with talking to the old ladies down the street.

>>2582171
i dont really know what to say to help but i relate to your situation a lot. i have some online friends and theyre great but not having the irl experiences going outside and doing stuff really sucks

not technically a neet but a hikki, only because i do art commissions to pay my expenses so i guess that counst as work. Don't even make much but its just enough to just get by in my third world country. I also don't ever leave my apartment.

When that doesn't work anymore because of AI or something like that its time to face the rope, i am too autistic and not fit to work, i am too old and retarded and socially stunted to do anything. Not that anyone would even hire me when my cv is "graduated from now obsolete profession, then 10 years of nothing"

My end will be me seeing my saving dwindle until i can't afford food then do something about it before starvation kills me. Im not there yet, but its just a matter of time. Truth is, if it weren't for money concerns i'd be happy being a neet, i really don't care about socialization or being part of society anymore.

you often see waggies complain they don't have the time to do anything anymore, but I have all the time in the world and no energy or motivation to do anything anyway, that includes all low effort hobbies like watching movies or playing videogames, all I do all day is just laying in bed, maybe scrolling through my phone or listening to ASMR, only ever getting up to eat maybe once per day, it's comatose

>>2582171
I'm in a similar situation and I have accepted that I will have to live with small talk and I will most likely not have any meaningful deeper relationships with people anymore. It has improved my mental health to accept this and it made me nicer in a way. I'm always trying to be nice to people but I know nobody will befriend me in a way that school kind of forces you to. And that's ok. I only do this with women though, in similar age brackets and a bit older, I don't feel like talking to men in this way much, depends on the person.

I dislike pursuing friendships super hard and I dislike forcing people to get to know me. It just doesn't work. In therapy, my psychologist told me to "just talk to people and put yourself out there and keep talking". But just like lichen, friendships only grow in very specific conditions and cannot be lab grown. Most people already have their own friend group and it's better if we don't get to know about each other much. Hedgehog's dilemma and all that. But I like having open arms and welcome people and I like genuinely complimenting them. At least if we don't become friends, maybe in the future we can talk again and it'll be a positive interaction. I could say more but I don't want my post to be super long, I hope this helps you nonna, you aren't alone.

>>2593223
Yeah, I've seen it. I've also seen an increase in the amount of job listings and rental listings that only accept Indian applicants too.

>>2593223
The A&W commercial? I saw it online but not on tv. There was also the time they sung the national anthem in Punjabi at an NHL game

>>2591639
Don’t forget heritage park in Calgary

>>2593223
I saw one for Amazon and skip the dishes, very obviously geared towards an Indian audience

>>2594078
I just saw the A&W one on YouTube. “Here for good” kek.

>>2482006
Are they called that because they look the part?

>>2592501
I'm not surprised, they pump you full of drugs before donating eggs.

>>2592501
Does this count for women who do ivf too

>>2592515
A little bit, their scientific name is emoia nigra. Emoia is the genus for skinks, and I think emo must've became their unofficial name since they're black.

>>2592587
probably, I think they just the same drugs as >>2592522

>>2592807
kek what an incel faggot he's obviously resentful of you being a woman

>>2592815
i think a boyfriend is a level 4 human activity and you still need to clear level 1

>>2592813
I’m actually considering it kek that’s what pisses me off the most

>>2592807
Literally jealous of you as a woman. Ive had a friend with a moid who randomly seethed her and spread rumors to our friends

>>2592812
Did you ask? Sounds like you only interacted with employment agents. I'm registered at mine and didn't know there was even an option to see a councilor during the first few months until I told the agent that I have no idea what I want to do for work at all. I'm not british either. The lady I met with was very helpful and had multiple sessions over more than one year

>>2592323
yes, i do agree the "women never worked" meme is stupid, but you're acting in bad faith by insinuating that most women had easy and independent access to money. women weren't allowed to have credit cards in the US until 1974.

>>2592323
it’s not completely false. it’s sort of like how someone could say that in the U.S. before 2013, gay marriage wasn’t legal. it was, in certain states. and without federal law, it wasn’t guaranteed. that’s the same with the woman and bank accounts. women were allowed to have bank accounts though a majority of banks required them to have a male co-signer like a family member or husband. but this was all dependent on basically the bank they chose and the employee they saw that day. there was no law against discrimination based on gender and marital status. that’s what the Equal Credit Opportunity Act was for. it eliminated the chance of discrimination nationwide. so yes, the women in your family lucked out. millions of women did not until 1974.

>>2592351
Except unlike gay marriage which functionally was impossible for most Americans outside of those states, having a bank account was the norm for most women, especially unmarried women. It's this really weird antifeminist infantilization fantasy to pretend that women didn't use banks prior to the 1970s when almost all women had their own accounts long prior to that. Like I said, the laws second-wavers supported that forced non-discrimination in lending and mortgages were very important, but I wish we would stop spreading blatant disinfo that makes it sound like women were helpless children prior to the 1970s. Also not all of us are American, keep in mind. The women in my family did not 'luck out,' it was the norm and all the other women they knew also had jobs and bank accounts, otherwise they would not survive.

>>2592323
not everyone kept their money in the bank. the point is that women could have menial jobs in support roles or care work but not serious careers.

I'm tired of land acknowledgments before conferences and workshops. I have a colleague in the Levant who wrote an amazing rant about them, but if he ever put it in the public view, he'd be at risk of cancellation from various groups (all sides of the Hamas-IDF-Hezbollah conflict). What point is there to stating you are holding an academic event on "stolen land" and then proceeding as normal? It's not like you are deciding to hold the event elsewhere because of this acknowledgment. Furthermore, please, what land hasn't changed hands over the past millennia?

I agree that colonialism was horrific and continues to be problematic as a lens through which modern society is viewed. I'm not a BIPOC so I try to listen & learn & support BIPOC in my field, especially other women, and this is so fucking easy because the few in my inner circle are hands-down the most talented women I know.

But I find these statements about land ownership apologies empty time-wasters. If you're not going to give the land back, why talk about who lived there before the French (Canadians) set up shop? Just leave it and donate a portion of registration fees to an indigenous charity. But these weird solemn apologies aren't limited to Canadian conferences, they are popping up everywhere. Maybe there's a point if the conference has something to do with colonialism, but that wasn't the case. It's also funny when it happens on Zoom. Are we going to go around the Zoomroom and confess our guilt for being wherever we are? Listen, if I just packed up and returned to some random country my ancestors came from, that country has changed hands hundreds of times throughout history, too. well whatever.

Canada is, however, the worst offender for this virtue-signaling BS, which is ironic considering how indigenous people continue to struggle with institutions & police there. No offense to Canada but I feel like they are really desperate to whitewash their land grabs purely to "distinguish" themselves from the US. The press has only in the past years been covering more of the historic abuses and current discrimination/apathy toward First Peoples. So they are desperate to bury it or apologize it all away. Just my take though.

Since I ranted about Canada, I also want to say that their allegedly open attitude toward immigrants does not apply to established scholars. I chuckle at every pronouncement about CanadPost too long. Click here to view the full text.