/ot/ - off-topic

>>2469024
This was obviously racebaiting

>>2469024
don't know the context, probably should've been banned for racebaiting but self-censoring isn't allowed on here. i assume that's what that ban is

>>2469038
WRONG
>>>/ot/1633680

>>2469053
…that's still racebaiting.

>>2469038
>>2469053
>>2469071
If you can read, the ban message says "h0e" because "h0e" is a self-censored way of saying "hoe." Self-censoring is against the rules like >>2469052 said.

>>2338430
I love your list!
>Get as much things done as possible… just do as much as possible instead of going directly to the couch and scrolling. It will be 10 times harder to get up afterwards.
I read a tumblr post or something years ago that summarized this sentiment as “Don’t sit down, it’s a trap.” Sometimes I repeat that to myself to prevent me from couch and bed rotting. Similarly, the foreboding obelisks in picrel have been a good reminder for me. The quote is fine too.

The biggest change I have tried to make is replace my scrolling habit before bed with reading a book. Instead I catch up on my cows over my morning coffee. It’s a work in progress and I am not totally successful, but it’s a start.

Does anyone have any advice on how to reclaim your sexuality? And I'm not talking about trying to look hot in preparation to get fucked by men. Frankly I'm done with that shit. But my abusive ex did everything he could to make me feel asexual, ugly, unsexy, undesirable. He used porn as a way to neg my self esteem and make me feel like I wasn't good enough to arouse any man. I know that's BS because I don't struggle getting attention from men or bfs, but he really knocked my self esteem down. I went from being outgoing, bubbly, confident and happy, to miserable, hiding myself and my body all the time, trying to dull my outfits and dress as boringly and asexually as possible, not wearing makeup etc. I used to love wearing nice clothes and makeup for myself, he made me not even want to pick up an eyeliner. I miss who I was before meeting him. Is there any quick way to feel attractive and beautiful again?

>>2448291
Well, men will fuck raw chickens and burgers. Just be yourself and you will find someone.

>>2448291
I was the same and i just started going after younger guys.

>>2448291
I have had the same issues because of sexual traumas. Honestly there's no quick fix, you have to accept that he has done a lot of damage to you and it will take time to build that up. But it should be your top priority to build your self-worth back and love yourself. This is your root issue and things like not wanting to dress up, being shy, losing libido are only symptoms. Also, lacking self-worth puts you at risk of being abused once again.

The easiest thing I did to fix that issue seems kinda silly but it worked quickly : I just told myself things like "I love myself, I look good, I feel good, I'm confident, I feel grateful" while staring at myself in the mirror, atleast once a day. After a week or two my brain automatically spurs positive thoughts when seeing my reflection, instead of the usual "I look tired today, I have a huge pimple, I don't even wan't to go out". In the same vein, when I'm anxious before a social interaction, I'll repeat in my heads encouraging things like "I'm a confident, nice person, and others enjoy my company". It may sound stupid but you probably already do this with negative thoughts, and those negative thoughts have shaped your perception of yourself with enough repetition and time - the goal is to reverse that process.

Pair that with something more engaging but that you won't regret: find a sport you like, yoga, going to the gym, running, stretching or whatever. Something that will make you feel great in your body and proud of yourself. Really stick with something, even if it's just a few minutes a day. It's not an instant fix but just a month of daily activity will make you feel better about yourself, guaranteed.

Just take care of yourself in general, body and mind. Say nice things to yourself. Act like you're a mom taking care of an hurt child, so be gentle and patient with yourself. Change will come in time but you will not go back to who you were before, you'll be an even stronger and better version of yourself. This guy doesn't hold any power over you anymore, you have the power and will to grow out of this and reclaim your love back. Good luck nona, I believe in you.

>>2467742
Eikä edes sellainen ~eksoottinen~ itäkarjalainen vaan ihan perustallukka kannakselta, joka mitä luultavammin piti itseään ihan tasan suomalaisena. Niin kuin omatkin isovanhemmat. Ei tulis mieleenkään alkaa vetää mitään karjalalarppia

>>2464685
Pystyt siihen! Uskon suhun nyymeröinen. Jos tytykiki on olemassa niin pojutisu on ihan yhtä validi.

>>2467859
Joo oma evakkona tullut isoäitinikin piti itseään suomalaisena ja karjalaisena samalla tavalla kuin joku pitää itseään vaikka pohjalaisena, mutta silti suomalaisena. Koskaan ennen karjalalarppaajia en ollut kuullut, että karjalaiset ei olisi suomalaisia.

>>2468210
Omassa suvussa kyllä oltiin aika tarkkaan sitä mieltä, että karjalaiset ovat eri porukkaa kuin suomalaiset, mm. isomummi käytti suomalaisista sanaa "ruotsi." Suku oli ihan Suomen itäosista ja ortodokseja, ja sodan jälkeen saatiin kuulla aika paljon ryssittelyä ym. eli se varmasti vaikutti. Pidän nykypäivän uhriutujia aika naurettavana sakkina mutta pakko sanoa että niillä on pari hyvää pointtia mitä menneisyyteen tulee. Lisäksi Venäjällä on paljon karjalaisia joille ei tulisi mieleenkään kutsua itseään suomalaisiksi.

>>2468898
Ihan sivuhuomautus, mutta aika törkeää kutsua suomalaisia ruotsalaisiksi. Ehkä ne onkin karjalaiset, joiden pitäisi oppia kulttuurisesta sensitiivisyydestä. Kek.

>>2463505
I will look into that thank you nona

I'm starting a new job in a few days and I'm nervous as hell. I feel like I've become so maladjusted during my bouts of neetdom, I just forget how to have polite conversation. I'm excited to start but I'm also scared I might be too much of an autist for this. The people I had my interview with seem so nice and I doubt I'll be able to match their friendliness. I've been trying to make more conversation with people and see my friends more but I've been depressed at every job I've had (even a nice one) and I'm already scared of getting fired for it. I hope I'll be able to stock more than sit at the register but they say it can get busy so I don't know. Pray for me nonnies.

>>2468867
the secret of small talk is just to have questions ready to ask other people about themselves. people love talking about themselves! also, keep a list in mind (or on your phone if you need to) of stuff you did over the weekend/after work/good things you’ve been watching on TV/your hobbies etc - that way when someone is like oh so what did you do this weekend? you’ll have a vaguely interesting answer that can prompt more convo instead of just saying ‘oh nothing really, you?’. good luck! you can do this

I've officially been employed for a month and a half after being a NEET for years. I don't really like it but I like getting money in my account every week even if it's basic minimum wage.
It's still hard to think of myself as not being a NEET even though I'm working 7-4 most days. I just get there, do what I have to do, and stare at the clock till I can leave. It doesn't feel like a real job somehow. I don't know how to explain it kek but it's more like roleplaying or a video game somehow to me even though it's an actual job that's not particularly fun

>>2468963
Better to kind of disassociate with it than it being something that brings more stress I assume.

>>2434900
Late but yes, kind of. Anxiety over accidents specifically. I eat and I can't stop thinking about my teeth slicing through my tongue. I drive on the highway and think about getting in a rollover accident. I walk down the stairs and think about falling and breaking my jaw. Cutting vegetables always makes me think about cutting my fingers off. It's all very visceral and vivid, it feels more like a "vision" than a thought. I get an almost magical thinking-y feeling like it's going to happen for sure and feel panic and doom trying to come up with a way to prevent it. It's distracting and really hard for me to focus on other things, especially because it happens on a loop until the "danger" has passed.

>>2468573
How does any of that relate to ADHD. Your boyfriend from new york is dumb as fuck

>>2434900
I keep intrusively imagining the pain of getting stabbed on the tongue and the upper inner arms. Idk why those spots specifically. I know they're just intrusive crap but they're so annoying

>>2468652
>>2434900
Never been diagnosed with OCD but I’m pretty sure I have it. I also have trichotillomania but not sure if that’s related. I’m the same with accidents/something horrible happening out of my control. Sometimes when I’m a passenger in a car, it’s like I can’t stop thinking about/seeing extremely detailed visuals of what would happen if we got into an accident (doesn’t help that my current city is known for horrible drivers and deadly accidents - lots of DUIs, tons of people running red lights and texting while driving). It’s like I can see what it looks like when the glass breaks, feeling the metal cave in around me and slicing me, what it feels like to have my head slammed with force by a huge object going 90mph, what the cops would see at the scene, what my body would look like when I’m mangled and bloody with my guts or brains out on the road, the horror of seeing my partner dead, etc. Really gory shit, it’s awful. And yes same, it’s like I feel this paranoia that because I can “see” it so clearly, it must mean that it’s real and an inevitable event or something. I’ve never been afraid of flying before, but when I was on an airplane last month, I was looking out the window and couldn’t stop thinking about the horror of a plane crash, and what the aftermath would look like - my leg ripped off somewhere in that field below, my torso partially impaled in that orchard, my skin burned, and then my partner or parents hearing the news, and then I start spiraling about the vulnerability of my body “oh god my flesh is so soft and tender, anything could happen, oh no I’m scared…” and it’s like I can physically start feeling the pain. I remember seeing horrible photos online from the aftermath of a plane crash over a city and what the locals saw on the ground, and it hadn’t left my mind, I guess. I hate it and I hate that I can’t “logic” my way out of this one. If it was a completely irrational fear that would be one thing, but the fact that “yes, I and everyone else I love will die and some in sudden, horrible ways” is really fucking with me lately.

>>2468806
Another one I forgot to add: Every morning when my husband leaves for work, I have to say “I love you, drive safe!” as he goes out the door because it might be the last thing I ever say to him, and that if I don’t add “drive safe!”, then something bad might happen on the way and I failed to protect him.

>>2469214
Yeah, agreed! I’ve visited almost exclusively in the summer but I’ve also lived there for a year. You must become one with the sweat, I was always drenched. It’s terrible when you can feel the sweat and humidity condensing on your back and the droplets just running down. Bring your own deodorant because it will super hard to find some here. Also a parasol is a must, the sun can be so intense in August and September and well October too. I wore a a UV cut light hoodie from Uniqlo all the time.

>>2454304
another video, this one is interesting as she is looking around tiny apartments

>>2469729
speaking of tiny/micro apartments, I love this guys channel, he goes and views them

>>2469290
>droplet of sweat down the back

My nightmare lol. once I feel it, it’s over for me. Wearing black and usually breathable fabrics like cotton is the only way for it not to “show.” I saw another guy fully drenched and you can see the staining all along the back and underarms on his clothes and I felt bad for the dude and everyone was staring at him. From that moment on, I exclusively wear cooling tanks or breathable cotton tops in black. Always my fan on me no matter what. Parasols help tremendously, just kinda annoying to walk around with one in crowded spaces. Exactly. Great tip nonna that I forgot to mention. Bring your own deodorant! The brands here have never been useful in the slightest. Also for those that wear makeup, I recommend a waterproof mascara, because it will transfer and the humidity will make it melt. you’ll look like a raccoon, but not in the cute way.

>>2467904
You have less than 8000k injuries/fatalities between 1959-2017 due to powerlines in Japan than the 8000k injuries/fatalities annually in the US. Yeah, it is safer. The US and some other countries go the cheapest route possible without care to the public. Japan luckily puts money into their public infrastructure.

>>2466732
>>2466751
They won’t stop because they want to mine/rape Greenland for the resources. It’s got a shitload of rare earth minerals including gold, ruby, and URANIUM!

>>2468537
Elon Musk really inspired Trump with his dad destroying lives to mine emeralds

>>2468537
He’s 78 years old and his appearance is looking more and more like it each day. I would be shocked if he was around long enough to see a third term on that fact alone.

>>2467840
Nonna I was going to say the same thing.

>>2468537
Please God, if you exist, have this fucker choke on a McRib.

>>2462069
what model of laptop do you have? i've seen this touchpad issue happen with some specific models that have trackpads from some smaller companies that require installing their drivers separately. Those kinds of non-generic special drivers sometimes break with updates.
Generally you could try something like https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/how-to-uninstall-a-windows-update-c77b8f9b-e4dc-4e9f-a803-fdec12e59fb0, it'd help you narrow down if the update was really the problem.

wtf happened to those extremely durable iphone cases that were like putting your phone in an aquarium? there was like a plastic cover for the screen that made it hard to touch and a very hard bulky case that couldn't fit into any pocket. i want one. am i making up that these used to be a thing in the 2010s?

>>2468583
youre thinking of otterbox i think, they made and still make these chunky cases. though they have more slim but still sturdy options now i use one and it saves my clumsy ass all the time

>>2468583
I like to use Unicorn Beetle cases. Thanks to that, I've never cracked the screen on any phone I've ever owned.

>>2468585
THAT is the shit i like. there used to be videos of people testing cases by hitting them with hammers and running them over with their car.
>>2468588
really? it's pretty but why are the cases so thin looking now? i'm scared to put my phone in these dainty cases.

>>2465677
Yeah raw Kratom by itself tastes like mud. This stuff’s got other things in it. It’s still not the best tasting drink out there but I don’t drink it for the taste.

>>2465693
Oh definitely. I limit myself to about 2 a week at most.

I had a really great time on 2C-I once. Initially wanted to buy acid, but i ended up with some random capsules. It was definitely worth it. Don't think i have ever hallucinated like I did on 2C-I.
My worst experience was when I had a freak out after smoking spice. So gross.

>>2423915
The opiate I have done is codeine, feels very good and calm even though it is mild. Started to feel dependent, all I though of was when Im going to do it next time. Never touching any opioids, I feel like it would be the end of me. Please be careful nonnas!

>>2465208
The only thing I agree with Musky is his taste in drugs kek.

What are your favorite drug combos? I have only tried
>weed with alcohol
pretty much the only way I can smoke without getting anxious but still dont really care for it
>speed with alcohol
my usual choice for partying, I like how I dont get so messed up being drunk and am still able to sleep when I go home, however there is a risk drinking too much when you dont notice the effects of booze.

I took a 10 month break and mdma still isn't working right for me. I'm going to give it up. Goodbye mdma, you were my favourite chemical and I'll always treasure the times we spend touching things and grooving.

I wish Ketamine lasted longer. I miss it and I feel like it's the only thing that makes my brain feel normal, but whenever I buy it I just end up binging, re-dosing every 30 mins just to sustain the feeling. I'm terrified of K bladder so I've just been abstaining all together because I know it's bad news. But I love the feeling so much, I wish I could take one dose and it would last a few hours and I could leave it at that. It's too fleeting to be truly enjoyable.

>>2459656
I think. Maybe those high functioning autists have something else wrong with them. Even at my most mentally ill I wasn't wasting time getting into retarded internet arguments, much less about troons.
The situation about being married giving you less benefits is true in the US as well. It's why disability rights activists have "the right to marry" as one of their talking points. You will be forced to rely on your spouse or family members if you try to be on disability and married, which then leads to increased rates of domestic violence against the disabled. I should have clarified in my response, but the other disability benefits like food stamps and reduced rent keep me from having to rely on family. Which is good, because if my parents die when I need to rely on them, I'm totally fucked.
Sorry I couldn't answer your questions more in depth since I am amerifag, hopefully someone else with more helpful info will be by soon.

>>2459662
>Even at my most mentally ill I wasn't wasting time getting into retarded internet arguments, much less about troons.
We're all nerdy late millennial women in Europe so tbh some of my friends care too much about this topic without even being autistic. I think in the case of the two women I'm talking about it's really just that they were on tumblr and twitter as teenagers and then young adults to talk about fandoms and arguing on the internet became their new special interest later. If we were zoomers maybe things would have been different because we would have been exposed to different information and opinions, I believe it's a matter of wrong time and wrong place here. They both were diagnosed a few years ago as adults too. One of my close friends is a neet too and she does the same thing but she has anxiety on top of that and has been doing a lot better since she started taking antidepressants recently so maybe you're right and they all have both issues at the same time or something similar.

>Sorry I couldn't answer your questions more in depth since I am amerifag
No need to apologize, I just want to have personal experiences and opinions so I can see what I should do next before my job gives me a mental breakdown and I suspect I should try and be a neet for some time to "recover" and use my free time on hobbies.

>>2452217
I don’t get why our society(american at least) thinks everyone lives in poverty or shitty circumstances because they are an idiot or deserves it or it’s there fault when it’s far more complicated than that. Im a retarded NEET who did not earn this at all and would be a homeless SPED otherwise but because i have loving wealthy parents i get to be in my warm room all day playing minecraft lmao. I do feel bad for wagies and hate our cutthroat selfish culture that doesn’t care about the future of society or society as a whole.

>>2468071
Maybe retarded of me, but the way you described your neet situation made me feel a lot better.
My neetbux were recently cut off and I'm in a long appeal process. I would have been homeless were it not for my dad and stepmom helping me move out of my apartment and taking me back in. I've been feeling so awful about it, but something about "warm in my room, playing minecraft" makes it feel less like the end of the world.

>>2458708
damn, describes my parents perfectly