/g/ - girl talk

>>393512
I can trade, let me know yours. Fem 28 Scorpio
What is my life lacking right now? Has to do with my lack of motivation I guess. There's days when I feel like I'm not supposed to exist. My manifestation levels are low.

I'd like a reading please. I'm 33; Aquarius Sun, Pisces Rising, and Pisces Moon. For the past two years, things in my life have fallen into place exactly as I dreamed they would, almost to the exact detail as if I unconsciously manifested it or something. But I need to know, is moving in with my boyfriend the right step? That's the course my life is naturally taking at this point, but I'd like to know if it's something I might regret later, or what the future holds for me in that regard.

>>393519
working on it, nona!

fem, 33, leo
am i overthinking things? should i try to do something about this situation or should i be patient and wait to see what happens next? or should i just give up and move on?

>>393178
Thank you for the reading, nonnita!

Just a small correction though: I'm trying/planning to do it next year, not this year. Not sure if that affects the reading that much!

>>393120
Yes, it is kek my former queen! >>393178
Thank you for the reading, nonnita!

Just a small correction though: I'm trying/planning to do it next year, not this year. Not sure if that affects the reading that much!

>>393120
Yes, it is kek my former queen!

>>393519

(sorry for crappy photo)

>what is my life lacking right now?

the will and discipline to overcome this sense of
isolation that is clouding your thoughts. although the grief is deep, the struggle is mostly mental, and if you decide to take matters into your own hands you will overcome it. let go of the past, cut ties with whatever and whoever hurts you, staying where you are is not good for you. focus on the path ahead, don't let yourself wallow in the negative thoughts. make a plan and set goals, push through the pain and see them through. even if you have to start with baby steps, just push yourself a little, it will get easier. tell yourself that things will get better until you believe it, and they will get better. your manifestation levels are on the rise now, so it's time to go for what you want.

Anyone else deal with a need to binge unhealthy stuff due to weather?
Basically weather has been crazy where I live, it went from mild spring temperature (as expected) to hot summer temperatures (went to the beach and even and swimmed around a bit lol) to winter cold temperatures, all in span of three weeks. It just threw me off balance and last three days Ive been sort of binging unhealthy stuff while completely losing my will to exercise

>>393465
Jealous tbh, it takes me ages to lose even a few pounds because my hormones are all fucked up kek. Good for you though! Keep at it nona

>>393570
Thanks, noña! My secret is just to be extra fat. kek, I was a little over 200 lbs and my hormones went crazy too. It'll only get slower from now on though. But persistence is queen. Keep going even when you trip up!

>>393474
Agreed with other anons here, there's a lot of stuff you can do at home and body weight exercises/calisthenics are a great place to start if you're nervous about starting in the gym. What kind of weights do you have? I can give some advice for upper body stuff if you need it.
>>393482
They're just kind of unnecessary imo, I'll put it this way I've never seen anyone who's not ortho talk about them lol.

>>393496
Different anon here but could you tell me more about rollerblading out in the open? I’ve been thinking about getting into it since I’m getting bored of going around in circles at the local rink ice skating or roller skating (quads). Are in-line skates easy to maneuver in when skating in the city or in nature? Is it a relatively smooth ride even when skating over curbs and sidewalk cracks?

>>393589
Most husbandofags aren't into women they just don't want to fuck men because irl men suck, anon is actively attracted to irl women.

>>393342
At the end of the day, everyone has their own opinions on whether or not a drawing is indicative of real life attraction so it really falls on the person experiencing the feelings towards drawings (you) to decide their sexuality. It also depends on how moralistically pure you think a lesbian has to be in order to be a "true lesbian"; can a lesbian ever like a fictional male character and appreciate him nonsexually (in the way you seem to appreciate the Jellyfish guy)? Can/Should a lesbian only enjoy fictional women? What does fiction have to say about how we engage with real life? Farmers predominantly believe that fiction = reality, so asking this population of users is 8/10 times going to garner a "bisexual" response, regardless of nuance or caveats.

>>393589
I call myself bi but honestly the only men I'm attracted to are 2D, I've never met a real guy hot enough to want to fuck.

>>393595
Are you sure you're not gay? Or do you think you could ever find a guy attractive enough?

>>393603
100% sure I'm not lesbian, I fantasize about having straight sex with my husbandos, which I'm pretty sure no gay woman does. As for real men I dunno, I have a very specific type but even when I see guys like that I don't feel much, I think I know what sex with men entails and I'm immediately turned off.

>>393501
I haven't been diagnosed with BPD, but I do this. It works too.

So what are some good books/therapy to help with bad attachment styles?

I'm definitely avoidant and been like that since I was a child. I stopped hanging out with some really good kids and I can't even explain why, I can't remember what I thought and felt back then, I just didn't want to go out and spend time with anyone, but I started thinking about it and regretting it much later in life. I would get stuck in toxic friendships where people ignored my avoidant tendencies (and my flimsy boundaries) and basically forced their "friendship" on me, and I couldn't stop it because I never fully realized my negative emotions. I kept hanging out with them because sometimes it was fun, and when these people were shitty to me I would just mostly repress my feelings about it automatically. I also sometimes believed one of them when she was guilt-tripping me. I ended up ghosting all three of them, although the relationships with two of them would gradually wither on its own because I changed and started reacting to their shit, we wouldn't talk for months and even years (not even because of conflict or something, that's just how it was), and I ghosted them when they made a final attempt at reconnecting. Maybe I didn't feel like I deserved good friendships deep down, which is pretty sad if this is the case. I would also sometimes encounter people that I could be friends with but I didn't initiate anything or failed to maintain it (stupid!), and I even remember being suspicious of some people that wanted to know me better.
The only two friendships that persevered were never demanding in a certain sense, one of them is kind of weird but it would be too long to describe and another one is kind of on-and-off thing, but it's never "off" because of conflict or anything, it just happens and then we start where we stopped so to say. It's pretty consistent for the last few years though, but my friend is in another country unfortunately. It's probably the only healthy friendship I ever had.

It's way more difficult with romantic relationships, and I'm not sure if I'll ever have one again. At first it feels like I want intimacy and special connection but then it becomes just too overwhelming and scary, and I think about breaking up very often. In all honesty, I think I even pick such relationships that are doomed from the beginning. I know why it's going to fail before it even starts, but for some time I ignore or diminish those things. These people didn't put effort and, fuck, I knew Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393557
Im not trying to medfag, but seriously first of all thank you for sharing. Feels to me like the things you did back then were caused by emotions you couldn’t understand back then, if you can carefully reflect on what the circumstances were leading up to that point, you will understand yourself better.

>>393520
EMDR therapy, read up on codependency too.

>>389479
No, this was from a different Starbucks each time.

>>392460
Do you have the same experience as my janitorial work were men's rooms are disproportionately more disgusting and need less paper and soap refills? A scrote in one place I worked always pissed on the floor in front of the urinal.
I wound up convinced men are too stupid to use urinals and they should be banned.

>>393576
Fuck I never cleaned bathrooms but whenever I went to the shared bathroom at my old workplace and in the hospital after men, it was often not flushed (someone even wrote an email about it to everyone at work), not cleaned properly with a brush or there was piss on the floor/toilet. Actually wtf

>>393576
I always see dumb shit about how "womens restrooms are sooo disgusting compared to mens'". It's become a meme at this point and I sincerely doubt the validity of that claim.

>>393598
The worst I see is maybe an unrolled pad

Fuck, it hurts to watch James's videos nonnies. They will never make nerds like him again, it hurts. I literally share so many interests and hobbies with him, and he's genuinely so fucking chill and cute. His wife is so lucky for snatching him while he was in his early 20s. I am never, ever going to met a cute boy who's into monster movies and kaijus and special effects, all modern fake '''nerds''' scrotes have ADHD and can't watch a single movie that doesn't have big tits and guns and explosions every 5 seconds. Dammit, i just want a cute boy i can hug and kiss while we watch Ultra Q.

How do you nerd loving nonies cope knowing that the cute, kind, autistic and chill nerd type is completly exctint and replaced by the soon to be trannoid gamergate faggot?

>>393513
I've been watching AVGN for a decade and while I only really share an interest in retro games with him, I definitely agree with you nonnie. He's so… comfy, for lack of a better word.
>How do you nerd loving nonies cope knowing that the cute, kind, autistic and chill nerd type is completly exctint and replaced by the soon to be trannoid gamergate faggot?
It hurts so fucking bad, it feels like an attack on female nerds in particular who just want someone similar to them. Fortunately for me my nigel is just as nerdy in the same ways as me and also laments the enshittification of nerd culture as we've both seen it happen in our interests.

>>393530
James sucks. He never understood what made his character or his channel work, it was Mike who kept the series going when James wanted to can it after the first three episodes. He blames his inability to do anything on having "no time" when actually he has plenty. He refuses to get on elevators because he is so stupid and autistic. Fuck James Rolfe

>>393533
Mike Matei is a total asshole but I guess you need to be to successfully tard wrangle someone like James.

>>375938
2 months late to this but Cameron Maynard from the band The Contortionist. He was cute but it's hard to find nice pics of him

Flat asses ruin everything. He could be a 10/10 but if he's 2-D from the side I just can't do it… Flat men can't fuck. They lack the humping muscles necessary for it. If he isn't at least a little hip-y Ijust can't see him in a sexual light! Bone or muscle, doesn't matter. He just needs to have curves. Picrel has got to be THE WORST bodytype. Looks like an alien bug. I've seen deathfats with better waistlines. Total wtf moment(not an ideal body, posted face, nitpicking)

>>393534
sounds like you just want john boyega tbh

>>393583
Kekkk

>>393534
I feel the exact opposite. I find men with fat asses so unattractive and faggy. What's him having a fat ass do for me? I ain't pegging or fingering a mans ass. Disgusting.

>>393551
I can see the character posted by that anonnete in the other thread being male, if that's what you're referring to. Still, if you're okay with the idea of a male, then you're probably bi/het.

>>393432
how is this pearl clutching? not liking aap doesn’t mean anyone thinks lesbians should “just hold hands”, kek. it’s not an ultimatum… i’m concerned for how you view sex. honestly i’m kind of just fucking exhausted of all the subconsciously wanting to be men shit, it’s in ftms and it’s even in lolcow users god where can i escape? i just want to be around women who want to be women. it’s like everyone’s lives revolve around men, hetties and dykes alike.

>>393574
That's sadly the crux of being born as a woman. Being a lesbian doesn't shield you from misogyny, sexism or being made to center men in your lives. But because of our lack of sexual attraction towards them the experience lesbians have regarding sexual behavior molded by being made to center men and consequently, heterosexuality in general, is very different from straight women and it's sad that a lot of (especially gnc) lesbians can't talk about it without everyone suddenly calling them repressed hettie betties when 50% of the general population with their greater social power somehow affect their lives and perception of themselves every day. If you're exhausted with hearing about it, imagine how it would be for the one who literally can't have an orgasm due to homophobia making them feel undeserving of it. And like said, ehen anons talk about "wanting to be men" it's an issue with heterosexuality-defined norms rather than "centering men".

>>393586
There is also an issue of certain users elevating lesbianism as the most enlightened orientation, which isn't helpful to anons dealing with internalized homophobia, especially those who feel like they're not "good enough" to be with women as women. I had to accept that sexual orientation is morally neutral and involuntary to start getting over all the weird baggage lesbianism is saddled with.

>>393597
Yeah. The "lesbians are enlightened and based radfems" rhetoric is still politicizing lesbianism and making it an ideology and implicating that it's a conscious choice. It's just a continuum of the control people want to exert over female sexuality and make it into something more than it is, just a different flavor. A ton of young lesbians identify simply as "queer" because they're made to feel on both sides that it's not enough that you're a woman exclusively sexually attracted to other women, you have to make it into a performance. We don't have any room to figure ourselves out because there's both an excessive amount of ideological puritanism and also sexualization attached to lesbianism to the point the term "lesbian" sounds more either like a politicized subculture or porn category to so many young people.

>>393381
Remember nonita, he's a moid. He's lucky you want to fuck him.

>>393366
Someone needs to dissect this because I swear I can tell too. I think it's their autism resulting in multiple minor discrepancies that our unconscious minds notice and form into a pattern, but idk. Or maybe it's the internal rot/degeneracy seeping through into the physical plane kek. I sometimes literally see a man's face and clock immediately if he's a degen even when he's dressed normal and without ever speaking to him

>>393381
Have fun and be cautious! How’d you score a date after all these years with your cutie?

How do I get my fiance to realize how strong he is? He grew up with all boys and sometimes I swear he treats me like I'm his brother. When we cuddle or tease each other he sometimes just fucking hurts me? He doesn't mean to either but it's like he doesn't know how to be gentle. I ask him for a hug and he hugs me so hard my ribs hurt. He's like a retarded large dog.

>>393549
Next time he does it roll up a newspaper and give him a good smack on the nose.

But really, you just have to emphasize that it is HURTING, and I think if he's worth his salt he will stop. If not, you know what I'm gonna say.

>>393461
God the shoe thing sounds so hot

>>393194
i also like feet and shoes. it is somewhat scrote coded but harmless.

So in my fantasy I'm sort of a high ranking military general in a fictional WW2 type setting and my country is at war, a spy from another nation is sent to get some information out of me but I know about this so I use that knowledge to toy with her.
She's shorter than me but is very muscular with deep tanned skin and short, shaggy, hair. She has a cold and grumpy personality and is usually very composed which makes it all the more better when I break her. She works as my assistant/secretary so I have her constantly at my disposition.
I make her do all sort of things and she grudgingly obliges for the sake of her mission, unaware that I know who she is.
I have my own private office and sometimes on work days I chain her up under my big fancy desk and make her eat me out all day long, she has her hands tied behind her back and isn't allowed to touch herself or ever stop. At points people walk into my office for different meetings and she has to keeps going in secret, other people unaware that's she's under there.
It's unbearable, suffocating, moist and her jaw hurts but she forces herself to keep going because upsetting me would compromise her mission. At the end of the day she's dripping wet and extremely sensitive so I finish her off with my fingers, I'm very aggressive doing this and it doesn't take long for her to cum.
Another thing I'd do to her would be shoving different vibrators deep inside and sending her to do her work while I control the intensity at which the toys vibrate. When I see that she's talking to someone I up the intensity and watch her try to keep her composure.

>>352984 oh nona i want this too. if i could cosplay my otp with another fujo i could die happily

>>393524
I need this done to me holy shit