/g/ - girl talk

A really handsome GNC woman I was infatuated with more than anyone else in my life got married to an obese older man and I think I legitimately have trauma from it. If I remember it when I’m not expecting it, I wind up having panic attacks. I am a grown woman.

Due to this, my self esteem could literally not be lower. What do I do? I am such a mental dumpster fire. Like seriously, no one knows how much this one dumb thing has completely destroyed me mentally. I wish memory erasing was real because aside from that idk how to fix myself.

>>518733
That's horrible nonnie. I can relate, unfortunately. I bet you also thought "my GNC QUEEN would NEVER fall head over heels for a moid and start transforming into a tradwife" before reality hit you out of nowhere.

I really feel like I'm going insane. I'm 26 and I've never had any romantic or sexual experience. It didn't bother me at all to live without that until the last couple years, and suddenly it's like the very most basal part of my monkey brain finally turned on and started screaming that it's touch starved. All I daydream about is being skin to skin with another person, I have dreams about sharing a bed with someone and intertwining our legs, a bare chested hug with someone sounds amazing, I need intimate skin contact so bad. But I can't imagine who I could possibly ever want to do this with that I could encounter in my daily life. I just don't find the people around me attractive in that way. How am I interested in both sexes AND touch-starved, and yet still no natural sexual reaction to anyone I encounter? How? Why? I'm seriously considering buying a weighted blanket to see if it can make that basal part of my monkey brain stop screaming 24/7

>be me, >30, frequent sites such as fetlife and lgbt/queer socials
>woman or she/they who is partnered with a man and has no clear history of dating or even fucking women says she's bi
>still fall for it every time and even attempt to approach at times hoping for chemistry

Why why why am I so autistic

>>518932
>spoiler
Wtf

>>510560
ntayrt but as someone who also suffers with really bad pms and already lifts, I highly doubt lifting weights is a cure and recommending microdosing drugs to someone who is already feeling like absolute shit is really bad advice and could end up making her worse. exercise is good for you but it's not a cure-all for something that's fundamentally wrong with your hormones.

>>510433
please try and look into PMDD it's unfortunately more common than we think and it's under reported due to a lot of women thinking it's normal. i've heard that antihistamines are good for bad pms/pmdd symptoms but like every women's issue there's not a lot of research on it.

>>513540
I'm just sharing what helped me and microdosing drugs doesn't have any perceivable effect and it's completely unheard of that it would make people feel worse. In fact mushrooms are very safe (probably safer than antidepressants that are being prescribed like candy) even at higher doses but the suggestion comes from the fact that they help with serotonin inbalance as well as other things. I'm not ordering anyone to do anything and people on this board should really stop treating suggestions in this way and the recipients like mindless children. You have to be an adult to post here, everyone is responsible for their own actions and suggesting something is just showing that there are options that can improve their situation rather than sitting around doing nothing and complaining, like a lot of people unfortunately tend to do. In my experience, microdosing mushrooms for extended periods of time actually completely removed all the mental issues caused by pms that included extreme suicidal ideation, extreme irritability that caused me to argue over anything, anxiety, lack of motivation, wanting to self harm, being hysterical etc. you get the idea. Now I don't have any pms symptoms at all except for some cramps. It all stopped when I started taking shrooms and working out regularly. So I'm not pulling the advice out of my ass, genuinely want to help

My doctor prescribed me Prozac for perimenopause symptoms but I don't even know if I am in perimenopause. I told her I was having more mood swings and spotting between periods. I have PCOS so I figured my meds needed to be adjusted but instead I got prozac? Has anyone been put on prozac for pms, pmdd or menopause symptoms? Did it work? I don't really want to add another medication to my list.

Has anyone experienced a desidual cast before (your whole vagina sheds the uterine lining all in one go)? It feels like labour pains and really intense cramps and once it’s out it’s a regular to light period with regular period cramps. They commonly happen to women who use a progesterone birth control method for the first time and tbh I’ve been using the combination pill since I was 14 so over a decade now. So idk why I got a desidual cast? Like why now??

I experienced one for the first time yesterday and it wasn’t excruciating where I fainted. I think I’ve experienced it once before but thought nothing of it because it wasn’t too bad but this time it was worse. I felt lightheaded and dizzy and nauseous before and after. My dumbass actually managed to go to the gym and run for 50mins and I thought I was dizzy because of the exercise. Also I had an intense urge to poop around the desidual cast shedding, I went 3 times.

But today I got light flow and feel much better. Desidual casts aren’t dangerous or anything unless it’s an ectopic pregnancy (which I don’t have). Dunno if I should visit the gyn office…

As I get older (late 20s now), my periods have change. They’re either regular and light flow for 6 days or I get spotting first day followed by heavy cramps and heavy uterine shedding by the second day and light flow for the rest of the week. I’m wondering if I need to get off my pill because the pill is supposed to give you lighter periods not simulated birth/labour cramps.

>>518757
kek

>>518512
Him and his wife dress like cartoon characters

I just need to bitch about the fact that being a Romantic fucking sucks nowadays kek. The trendier items all look wonky on me and the stuff that does ‘suit’ me usually has some annoying flaw that ruins the silhouette. My personal style seems to constantly be at odds with what’s available. It feels impossible finding flare pants that aren’t denim, and when they are a different material they are high waters or are too tight in the butt and too loose in the waist etc. The recommended essences are all vibes I would never go for kek. Anything that’s not skintight makes me look frumpy as hell. If the fabrics have any thickness I look frumpy. If there is any cute detailing like ruffles or bows that is decently sized I look massive. I have an oversized jacket I use because it’s there but I swear I look 30 lbs heavier when it’s zipped up. I’m not fat but I’m not rail thin anymore either so when I’m thrifting the cute stuff almost none of it fits me. The few modern day brands that do cater to Romantics are also uber-sexy which I’m not super about either. I love cute bralettes but most either don’t run large enough for my boobs or fit weirdly. I’m a DD, got an XL bralette from Free People and it’s still too small. I buy a medium shirt and it’s suffocating my chest but when I get a large the sleeves are loose and look weird. Natural fibres sit weirdly on me, and cheap polyester looks good the first few wears but then gets disgusting over time. I hate being a Romantic so much kek. The right top is cute but it’s not going to keep me warm like a crew neck!

>>519174
Nona i feel your pain so deep i learned how to sew and fix clothes myself. If you learn simple stitches it really helps pull together those cloths that look almost right.

>>488529
>Also, how much do faces matter?
From what I've learned Kibbe does actually take faces into consideration and the idea of faces not mattering at all was like a game of telephone/misinterpretation. What he actually said was that beginners shouldn't focus on the face too much (because sometimes they overly focus on one or two specific facial features instead of the look as a whole). When he himself types clients in person and types celebrities he does include the face. So it can matter to an extent.

>>509730
Did something happen or was I just ghosted? Damn, I was hoping to talk to fellow Latina nonnas.

>>518715
Why did you already repost this again? It has only been 2 months

>>518918
Nta but who cares, it's not like this thread is getting ten posts a day.

>>519074
That's my point, you only need to scroll up a little and can already find her other post

>>509730
Estás todavía ahí, nonita? Sage por las dudas, espero que puedas volver.

>>513230
i don't mind being banned for replying. do you know that women can actually talk in the real world and that most have shitty attitudes about other women? i don't feel bad for pushing her and for wanting my childhood friend to stop saying that teen girls are mini adults or that she didn't deserve to get raped and it should've been a whore instead. maybe you're used to being around conservative women who stick their heads in the sand but i don't want someone i'm vulnerable with to spout the same unimaginative and self-hating bullshit
>>515301
thank you. it feels like every friendship i've had has some kind of invisible wall that prevents us from being serious. i want to be more honest with people

>>434994
This is me minus a relationship, which frustrates me since I'm the odd one out IRL for that. I feel like you're (general you) kinda screwed if you never got the formative socialization of having childhood or adolescent friends. Even as a wagie that makes decent money instead of a NEET, I never understood how coworkers can socialize and just joke around like I never understood how classmates could. But I just find online interactions annoying, most memes and social media is obnoxious and I can't stand how undersocialized people are. Even as an autistic I hate how other spergs purposely ignore social cues and rules and act shocked when people dislike them.

How am i supposed to relate to other women around me when i am a diagnosed autismo living in a country where everyone places importance in swimming/tanning (i do not partake cause my skin is too sensitive and i like the pale look) and most importantly everyone is super social while i am an introverted loner. Even when i went to artschool for some months before i quit, i still got ostracized because everyone instantly hanged out in a large yet close loud group(i also have audio processing issues) which i just could not fit in.

I just never felt a connection with anyone here since i do not posses the trait of doing well in large friend groups which makes me look insane, being an introvert i feel is seen as extra creepy/psychotic here. Idk maybe i am wrong if there is another gr nona here who can correct me. Only people i ever had connection with to this day as a grown woman is foreigners from online. Even writing this down and remembering/rethinking about it hurts

>>519137
You were born to live in Finland.

>>519185
kek nonny

i mean i am sure being tismos is hard everywhere but maybe i should lol

>>478647
I used to post on /tttt/ back when it was first introduced (I still remember the pop tart memes in the ftm threads) and it is wiiild that men are still spouting this bs about women being able to be more gnc. It's on par with them claiming they didn't get male socialized because they got called faggots for being bad at footyball or something, it's beyond retarded.

They don't know what it's like to be a woman and assume because a woman can wear pants while they can't wear their shitty schoolgirl skirts from aliexpress, that any woman who's actually GNC (not just a "tomboy" a la anime porn where it's a girl with short hair and a curvy body with huge boobs), it's socially acceptable.

>>477260
>>477285
Thank you for taking the time to give real advice, idk what to say but it genuinely helps.

>>477593
No you just can't read.

When I was a teen I was an FTM, and I did a bit of binding but thankfully detransitioned before taking T or doing anything drastic. I had typical low self-esteem from being bullied for most of my childhood. Hated my body after SA. I was also a total handmaiden, and a libfem who only knew shit through circles of Tumblr. Total SJW. Then I started hearing those arguments made by trannies where cis people had to date them or else it was transphobic, and it didn't sit right with me (I can't believe I didn't peak because of all the other shit they were saying going around too, but hindsight is 20/20), because I believed people didn't have to date anyone they didn't want to date. Didn't matter if you had a thing about race, religion, or just because you didn't like the same sports team (which I would have thought is stupid af but people can do what they want), but on the other hand I was conflicted because it was still MuH TRanSpHobia. So, wanting to have a conversation about it, I made a thread on a trans forum with snippets I had found from arguments against it, and my own opinion asking what other people thought.

The thread BLEW UP with posts, and there was like one person who responded rationally to it, where they explained their side (which amounted to "It hurts trans persons feefees so it must be wrong. Anything that hurts feefees is wrong") and the rest of the comments were either calling my post bait, or calling me a fucking retard because it's totally not okay to not date trans people just because they're trans at all ever and how dare I even ask if it could be okay, even though they never gave any explanation as to why (majority of responses were from TIMs if you couldn't already tell kek). I felt really bad about offending the tranny cult, feeling like I had done something wrong, even though I was just asking because I was conflicted on the matter. It actually made me cry, because I felt so bad to have even asked the question. I was a stupid teenager. But this experience caused me to go outside of the echochamber I was in because now I felt distanced from them, and I read some arguments from the other side, and eventually I peaked myself because all of their arguments made more and more sense to me.

I don't know where I'd be, or how fucked up my body would be at this point, had I not made that forum post. I'd like to think that I would have peaked eventually anyway, but I don't know how long it would have taken because back then I baPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I'm not an actual detransitioner (maybe more like desister?) and I don't wish to make light of/compare myself to actual detransitioners, but I wasn't sure where to post this, so apologies in advance.

I struggled making friends at school as a 13 year old, and due to my interests I ended up on reddit. I would always lurk, but I saw these people as my "friends" in a collective sense, and also as many of them were adults I always saw them as smarter, more mature and more informed than myself. I had little by way of interaction with either sex as a teenager, but especially as I went further in to these online communities I started seeing how women and girls were treated and viewed there: the nasty DMs from pedophiles and sex-pests, the constant jokes at their expense that wasn't a thing for boys, etc. The general consensus on these things was that they were normal, and there were often comments from "women" I realised later that many of these people were probably not actually women at all saying these things were fine, that accepting them is just part of being a woman, and that many of these gross compliments and interactions were flattering to them. As I had no opinions from other girls and women in real life to reference this with, and considering there were so many of these type of comments, and many of them seemed to be by adults, I believed this (but could not accept it for myself). I thought there must have been something wrong with me, that was until I saw upon people talking about transgenderism in this context (suggesting to the heavily downvoted comments that expressed discomfort with it that real women did not have an issue with it, and if they did they might be trans men). While I didn't really understand transgenderism because it's bullshit that makes no fucking sense it did seem to line up with how I felt: discomfort with (what I now know is called misogyny), discomfort in my body and secondary sex characteristics (something which made my peers and parents consider me abnormal, despite it being a fairly common teenage experience), and interests more associated with boys. I trusted these adults to know better than me, but I nonetheless did my own research (in complete good faith) to try to understand how this phenomenon worked. I read through all the (peer reviewed!) medical documents they linked, went through wikipedia sources to find them, went through medical journals to find thePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Probably doesn't count but I used to really hate attention or being looked at/perceived as anything. I just didn't want to be anything and felt like a theythem because female was something and I didn't feel like something, I didn't feel male, so guess I was another thing. But theythem is still a "something" so I ditched that too and went back to defaults kek. Still don't want to be seen, but at least don't buy into the gendie shit

Actual previous threads:
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Sorry nonnies, I thought I had successfully deleted the thread after I noticed the typo but the April Fool’s CSS got the better of me.

im so glad i never killed myself. i finally dont feel extreme anxiety and depression and panic attacks every day. i feel like a functioning member of society lately but i also feel a lot of emotional blunting. but at the moment idc cuz its better than extreme mental suffering

Manifesting I get hit by a bus badly enough to survive but not have to work ever again.

>>461090
>>474811
>>487241
I get pregnant in april

I am happy and healthy, as are my family members and friends. I have a great job that fills me with joy and is really well paid, way better than I expected. I rent my own cute apartment, it is so cozy and wonderful, I enjoy living here very much. I have a boyfriend who adores me and is handsome, sweet and chill. Things are going great for my friends as well and I get to see them often and we travel together.

I don't have an incurable std, I'm just being paranoid or it's an easily treatable infection like syphilis

I’m so happy that I have my dream job here in L.A. I’m so so happy that I have INDEPENDENCE! I love going to concerts here, I always meet wonderful people and even some artists.
Also I’m so glad that my family is healthy and doing AWESOME, can’t wait to visit them again and go to the beachside like we always do. Also I’m so happy with my body, my legs and ass look phenomenal lol I can see that everyone is always asking for my workout routine. I’m so glad for everything!

>>501175
Femcels arent real and neither are incels. Most 'femcels' are black, brown and Asian women who aimed for a white guy who was out of their league, got pumped and dumped by him or rejected for a blonde Stacy, and now have a hateboner for white women and think not being able to get a top tier model bf makes them celibate. Incels are the exact same, 3/10 guys who wont settle for anything less than a 8/10 woman.

>>501175
I guess thats a fair conclusion, though like you mentioned I wouldn't exactly conflate activity for prescence.White women likely consist of the majority just going based on Demographics of english users

I definitely noticed dogma in the vein of -cel thought on here racially. The whole yellow fever thing is kind of a new thing for me and I just cannot for the life of me believe it. I grew up in Hawaii and white moids going after asian women happens ig but not like how its potrayed here. Mainland racism isnt as fun as back home.

>>502687
>white moids going after asian women happens ig
>The whole yellow fever thing is kind of a new thing for me
literally you

Hope this doesn't count as racebait. Are white parents generally just not as physically affectionate with their kids? I remember my mom kissing me on the head and cheeks a lot in public as an older child and she was seen as a fucking creep for it by my white peers/teachers when it happened at school. It wasn't even on the lips or some shit. I was so confused and still am to this day.

>>518538
Depends on what you mean by white and depends on what someone’s parents are like. I don’t know about Americans but in Europe there’s a lot of cultural differences as well as personal. Some people have jealous demon mothers, some have helicopter parents, some have nice affectionate parents just like anywhere else. My mom did the same and it’s considered normal where I am from, she still kisses my cheeks and forehead and I’m a grown adult. Maybe somewhere like Norway or Sweden it isn’t but I’m sure they have loads of different kinds there too.

I broke up with him last night. I still love him so much but it was the right decision for me. I'm just so torn apart I don't know how to move forward.

>>517765
long distance, our careers meant that we have to live in separate cities far away from each other. I’ve been looking for jobs in his city but the few that come up just don’t pay enough to make it feasible. His job is really niche so he has to stay there. So we agreed to separate since we never had the chance to see each other (like once every other month at max). It really fucking sucks and I don’t want to move on, and the idea of him moving on without me is just ughhhhh.

>>518493
why is a temporary long distance thing impossible

>>518517
you say temporary but i’ve been looking/applying for an appropriate job there for like 2 years and nothing. He doesn’t have enough money to support me if I took a job making less than I do now, and I couldn’t support myself making less than I do now.

Finally left my BPDemon boyfriend the other day. I cannot believe at my big age I thought I could fix a man. He really made me believe it was possible. He was so sweet in the beginning, he worshipped me. He swore off porn and let me check his phone and promised to work on himself, but eventually he began snapping at me and demeaning my intelligence. He developed a habit of accusing me of saying things he himself had said, sometimes within minutes of saying it (i.e. "you told me to fuck off and have a nice life" minutes after he told me to fuck off and have a nice life). Real psycho shit. I reached a point of apathy where it no longer made me sad to think about him falling apart in my absence. I am just depressed it took me as long as it did.

Today I logged into an old social media account of mine and could see that he he has been reposting weird fetish porn for months to a locked account that I believed he no longer used. I feel pathetic. Why? Why did I spend a year with him? Why does some part of me still feel a little hurt?

I had to block him everywhere. I fortunately did not have any of his shit at my apartment, but I'm sure I'll never get my belongings back from his place. He threatened to tell everyone we know that I swindled him. I don't care anymore. He is so obviously deranged, I don't know who would believe him. I'm so ashamed of myself. I cannot believe I put myself into this situation. I might be retarded.