/g/ - girl talk

>>392049
kek. periods can just change, your body is always fluctuating. i got my period when i was 11 and it was hell on earth, but they died down in my teens, nothing to do with menopause. even if you were getting it super early the symptoms are more to do with irregular periods and negative symptoms like hot flashes.

>>392049
samefagging, have you talked to the doctor about your pms?

>get ready to finally fix your fucked up sleep schedule and go to sleep earlier
>"ok I still only need to wash my menstrual cup"
>hand in vagener
>get a good handle on the stem and pull slightly
>stem breaks
>ohfug.jpeg
>scared I might have to actually go to the ER
>use every finger combination imaginable to try to grip the cup
>twist yourself into pretzels trying to find a workable position
>cry
>in a moment of desperation, try to use tweezers
>stab vegane, cry
>finally manage to pull the cup out with lube-soaked fingers
>took me an hour

gotta go get a new cup tomorrow kek

>>392713
This is my new fear. Pads it is.

I just need to know I’m not the only one with such crippling PMDD/periods that I frequently miss class and fall behind at these points in my cycle… I’m working on balancing my hormones, but it is truly a work in progress and such a struggle to become “unwell” so often. I wish there was more recognition for the reality of the hormonal troubles that women face, and perhaps accommodations

>>392816
Aw thanks nona, this made my day! And don't worry, all is forgiven kek. Have fun with the guided tours, they're super fun.
>>392829
Arthurfag! I had a feeling it was you, but didn't want to say in case I was wrong KEKK
London is awesome! I went there last summer and I'm going again this summer. Both my childhood bestfriends moved there a couple years ago, Lucky them. It's fun thinking I'm exploring Arthur's body, ooh la la. I hope you get to visit again soon!
>>392830
I'm so glad Hima finally created Ireland too, he's perfect. Our Lord and saviour Hima never disappoints. And damn, nona, you always post the cutest pictures ever kek. I love em all. It took me ages to notice Alfred in the back though, KEKKK He's so DAMN CUTE. I love how Americans celebrate St Paddy's so enthusiastically

just joining in

I have a new interest, unfortunately. My taste just gets worse and worse.

>>392017
every gen Z nonnies first experience with crushing on a gay guy was spongebob lets be real

>>392939
SPUNCHPOP IS GAY???!!!!

>>392235
I have a very similar past to you nonita but I don't feel the slut shaming aspect. When those things happened I didn't know the things I did now, I was naive and believed that a man's desire was the most valuable thing. Be kind to your younger self, she didn't know any better and many young girls fall into this same trap. Our sexual agency when we're younger is influenced by a patriarchal world that prioritises a man's sexuality over our own, it's fairly normal (while also not a good thing) that when our sexuality develops we fall into the trap of being sexually provocative.
I'm in a loving relationship now and much less sexual in that nature, and I can tell you I've been actively trying to figure out what pleasure means to me, what sexual agency means to me, and how I can feel happy and in control when intimate with my boyfriend. Give yourself time and space to work it out, and be gentle. You're out of that rough patch now and can explore the joys of a normal, happy sex life.

>>392242
Thank you for your kind words nona. I know it's a common experience among our generation, and I feel like I've forgiven myself and shifted the blame on those moids a long time ago already. But I feel that I'm still blocked internally and can't manifest that change into action, like there is an unconscious dam that is still blocking the free flow of my own erotic essence and sexual freedom. Maybe I just have to go for it and force myself to take control, like you said. That's a good way of putting things, it seems like I'm in the passenger seat and going for a nice ride but not driving myself.

>>392281
Ayrt, I see what you mean, I have the same thing too and there's still a lot of internal blocks I have that I can't seem to find the words for. I found a huge help was just chatting to my bf about them, putting words to the things I'm feeling in front of him to interpret, ask questions about and sympathise with materialises those feelings to be able to then better interpret them yourself. Sorry if that doesn't make much sense as I just woke up lol, but I can tell you talking about it (and allowing time to heal and grow) makes all the difference.

Not really sex advice I guess but uhm, I'm pretty sure my neighbors can hear me in the bedroom, would I be rude and terrible to have non silent sex in there? I don't want to do it in the living room because the couch sucks and there are cats in there lol

>>392815
you're gonna get different opinions on this but in my opinion it's not rude to make noise in your own apartment. You all pay rent, you all live lives, you can't live completely silently. Natural sounds of living like talking, having sex, walking around and cooking are not ever "rude". Hearing your neighbors is just part of living in a shitty apartment with thin walls.

>>322355
Same fag… Un-fucking-recognizable at Coachella this year

This doesn't seem to be a celeb-only thread so I'm posting the first 'literal who' here.

>>392540
freshly divorced ex mormon mom of 4 energy

>>392540
I'm incredibly surprised he hasn't trooned out yet. I hope he doesn't because lord knows feminine/androgynous men are dropping like flies catching strays from the alphabet mafia, but he's really been leaning into the commercial queerification.

>>390273
He looks polyamorous now.

>>390110
I didn't yet, fuck me. I keep wanting to but it's hard breaking up with someone who made me so happy once and who's family has been so nice to me. Anyway I don't deserve to be treated like a bangmaid, I need to get up the nerve to do it.

>>62343
>>62272
reading this is so funny.
Seeing the current trend of Nonnitas shouting they only want to date younger guys from the rooftops.

>>390117
it will only get worse if you don't do it. one more day with him is one less day with a guy who will "make you so happy" ALL the time. I believe in you anon

dated a retarded fat moid because I thought he was just shy. he wouldn't even talk to me in public and he was so fucking ugly. I'm ashamed I made excuses for him. I thought ugly guys would be nicer and more honest.

>>157088
I do believe my grandma and mom when they tell me this, but I’ve never been super into wanting kids. I really didn’t want kids until I met my current partner, just because I think he’d be such a good dad. I feel like I would have the kids and just be absent then, like my dad who worked a lot and didn’t spend much time with us. My man would do all the child rearing. But then I just think of all the time I would miss out on with him, and all the time we’d waste on these kids, which sucks. It’s such an insane choice, to give up all your time and energy and make it someone else’s who doesn’t even have a fully developed brain.

Recently family has been visiting with two young kids and it’s been awful hanging out with them. They don’t listen when you want to chat, they want to watch the same YouTube meme videos over and over and over and over, they have terrible attention spans, and they whine and cry because they have no patience. We went to a theme park and they didn’t even want to ride the rides. I love their parents so it’s weird to have this struggle, like seeing them give their kids unregulated access to the internet when I know what’s on YouTube and what they are likely stumbling across. I like to think if I ever had kids they would love to be outside and we would have a lot of fun, but kids are people and they might hate all the things I like. Not to mention if I’m cursed with one of those born-violent moids that make your life hell until they run away from home and are in and out of jail for the rest of their lives. I couldn’t forgive myself if I brought that into the world.

I also feel like being pregnant would be horrible. I would love to be doted on and treated gently, but I don’t like that fetish moids would get off looking at me, or that people would still be fucking rude anyway because people are assholes, or that basically everyone who looks at me is just recognizing me as a uterus. When I think about it, it feels like being pregnant in public is like being at the gynecologist in public. It’s hard to explain, maybe somebody else knows what I’m talking about. It’s like your uterus walks into the room before you do. I just don’t know if it’s worth it, maybe I’ll secretly change my IUD and just tell my moid we’re infertile. I am also terrified of having post-partum psychosis. I think PPD is a guarantee for me.

>>274593
Kek yes please come to The Villages, we can be old lady nonnas together

after struggling relentlessly with different forms of birth control for the last decade i’m finally scheduled to have my tubes removed next month and i’m so excited!!!! i can’t wait to never be scared of being pregnant again and there’s a part of me that feels so empowered by this decision, like i can’t be dictated by the miserable politics surrounding women’s reproductive rights anymore

>>156644
this. I always found other kids too loud (any surprise that i'm autistic), and it only got worse. My mom dragged me to informal church playgroups with kids half my age and I was expected to babysit them, because guess who was responsible when they misbehaved?

My parents are shitty even without that aspect of my childhood.

>>392766
my trashy mother forced me to take care of my younger brother starting when i was six so she could sleep all day. he was seriously disturbed, not least of all due to our dysfunctional home environment. sometimes he would scream and break things and hit me and i'd just have to deal with it because waking up our mother meant her flying into a rage of her own. i remember one afternoon i came home from school and saw that her arms were covered in bloody scratch marks because he had clawed at her while she was holding him. because my mother is retarded she would laugh off incidents like him trying to stab our goldfish or beat him with a belt, which in turn made him act worse. the thought of giving birth to an unhinged child like that and having to deal with him for the rest of my life (after i moved out she had no choice but to actually parent him herself) terrifies me.

>>390145
I don't think you're being paranoid, you may not have repressed memories but you may have picked up on a pattern. For instance, I had a similar discomfort around my father that started around when I found depraved bdsm porn on his computer. This added context to why my mom always looked like she was dead inside, and I realized he was an abusive piece of shit, but attempted to deny that fact. He also said creepy things about me that I was only able to fully understand later, but was in denial about at the time. None of these things were repressed, I just didn't allow myself to put the pieces together at the time if that makes sense.

>>392508
Personally I know people have their own choices but it would be honest to discuss such things with a partner. Not everyone wants to date a survivor for example.

I feel like I only look good at certain angles/positions. I lost 100 lbs a couple of years ago and my tits never recovered, I went from a full D to an A. My vagina looks all saggy when I sit up but if I'm laying down or bending over it looks plump and full. It makes me never want to do certain positions (like face-sitting) cuz of how not-tight my body looks.

Massive wall of text incoming, sorry.
posting some jumbled thoughts i never got out of my system.
i was molested by my mother from early childhood, until-my late teens. it decreased as soon as i became strong enough to fight back her physical abuse. she was also insanely obsessive and protective, breaking down in rage fits if i was outside for more than half an hour, daily meltdowns etc.
i was also harassed, molested and raped (by men) later in life, but the abuse i think about the most is hers, unsurprisingly. i never repressed memories and became a 'numbed' kind of person rather than purely over-sensitive (more on that later).
this left me with an STD i caught early in life, it is treatable (i just keep postponing the doctor visit bc i'm retarded and ashamed) and vaginismus.
another consequence was feeling like i was some kind of monstruous thing that could explode like a bomb, hurting other girls and women. It started around my late teens, kind of abruptly. i think it was mostly typical teenage angst, internalized homophobia and porn use (i was exposed to it super early, started watching it regulalry in mid-teens), but it felt almost delusional. I believed i was committing a crime just by existing around other girls. This feeling faded quickly after i stopped watching porn and 'purging' my mind from it, and i'm in a much better place now (yayyy).
im mostly attracted to women (have been my whole life), although i quite like men these days. but i'm in a weird position. i kind of 'freeze' internally whenever there's mutual interest w/ a woman and i never managed to go further than flirting and occasional touch, even if i really savored those little moments. It's like my mind reaches for them, filling up with love and desire, only to curl up and become tiny at the slightest sign of reciprocity.
i used to worry that i prefer women because of CSA, but i don't care anymore. i think that stuff can permanently influence your sexual orientation (controversial i know, kek) but you can integrate it in a healthy way. i just know i've had so much affection and desire for them, it can't be all trauma reenactment.
i've been in one relationship as an adult, it's good but mostly asexual (we're more of an 'old couple' in spirit, it's cozy but it was never passionate, even in the beginning, at least on my end).
i very much want to try having a more satisfactory sex life, but there's a weird worry. see, i am incapable of feeling Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>392894
I don't have advice for everything in your post, nonna, but I just wanna say your abuse wasn't any easier just because it was from your mom than from your dad. I think most of the mental pain is the same, and there's a whole lot of weird stigma that comes from being abused by someone of the same gender because people won't 'believe' you in the same way. It's also okay to understand that a parent who abused you had shit circumstances themselves, but they are still a shit person (speaking from my own experiences with my parents). I also feel extremely angry but can't bring myself to cut off my family completely. But it is okay to be angry and confused. I think familial abuse is really hard to navigate.
Also, before you focus on increasing your sex life, maybe you could work up the courage to go see a gynecologist first? And you could even as the gynecologist to not do a pap smear or anything the first time. Maybe just go and talk about what your expectations or worries are.
Good luck. It's not easy.

>>391883
Maybe Demeter Fragrances? They sell unusual scents such as Earthworm, Dust, Funeral Home, etc. They're around $24 if you get the ounce of perfume but prices go cheaper if you get the body oil or lotion forms

>>375596
I bought a sample of Fantomas recently. Certainly unsettling. It begins with an intensely sweet honeydew melon note and it gets smokier on the drydown. There's also a plastickyness to it, maybe like rubber gloves. My friend told me it reminded her of a hospital.

Nasomatto also has a scent called Nudiflorum which I find very beautiful but could never wear in public… extremely leathery, rhubarby, sweaty/animalic, and sweet

>>391883
Axe body spray.

>>392738
The notes for this is mind boggling

I recently ordered a bunch of gourmands. I can't wait for them to get here!!
I'm thinking about selling the stuff I bought at the start of my frag obsession (designer stuff that I can get cheap alternatives of).

I hope it's okay to bump this thread.
>How many pairs of shoes do you own?
>Would you buy more shoes or do you think you should get rid of some?
>What's your favourite pair of shoes right now?
>Do you prefer summer shoes (sandals, flip flops, slippers..), medium weather shoes (sneakers, moccasins…) or winter shoes (boots and other warm shoes)? Why?
>Do you own any heels? What are the tallest and shortest heels you own?
I own about 17-18 pairs of shoes and I actually just bought 3 more. I buy a lot of second hand shoes at a very reasonable price. I really don't mind if they're a little bit worn out or dirty because I own specific cleaning products and shoe deodorant, and sometimes I risk putting sport shoes on the washing machine. I am (hopefully) selling some of my shoes because I don't want to own that many. My favourite pair of shoes are these Gel Galaxy 9 black and purple Asics I bought for 6€, I use them when I go running but I also wear them with jeans and informal ourfits because they are super comfortable. I'm a winter person, I absolutely prefer my wardrobe for colder seasons, including footwear. I own a simple pair of flat leather black boots, no zippers, no lacing, just wide cut leather. They become my everyday casual shoes once the temperature is cold enough. I very much prefer boots than sandals. I also own one pair of platform boots with a 9 cm heel, that's the tallest shoe I have right now. They are thigh-high boots and the heel is square-shaped and heavy as fuck, so these are perfect candidates for the a resell because I have only used them twice in one year. Some years ago I was really into kitten heels and I still own two pairs, 3-4cm tall each. I don't wear them anymore but they are authentic leather so I'm not sure about selling them.

>>392688
i've been wanting to try asics so thank you for the rec. i mostly wear skechers since they're insanely soft and comfortable so i'd love to find a pair that feels as nice but is less ugly.

>>392688
I own 2 pairs of sneakers I regularly wear and like 3 pairs of heels I haven't worn in 5+ years, that's it. I need to get a pair of sandals. Idk where I'd store 20 pairs though.

I’ve always hated heels due to how uncomfy they are. Then I bought a pair of 6 inch heels from Japan, just to experiment with walking in I guess. And they were sooooo comfortable wtf. Like super cushioned sole. And a slight platform to reduce pressure on the ball of the foot. I have no idea where those heels are now but every pair of western heels I’ve tried since hurts my feet so bad since.

>>392691
I'm really happy with all the shoes I've bought from that brand, although I always look for 1 size more than I'd normaly use. I guess it's because it's a Japanese brand.
>>392695
I have a big shelf in my closet full of shoes (in boxes). It really is a waste of space.
>>392696
What brand, anon? Would you post a picture of a similar pair?

>>391538
I'll admit to having read a few of these, yes they're weird and I think it's just a fetish the same way there are women who exclusively date east asians/afro-latinos etc. There is a lot of romanticised imagery around long haired, well built native americans in touch with nature who are less 'repressed' than white men.

>>391538
there are lots of americans and we very specific kind of brainworms when it comes to race unfortunately

>>391521
Indigenous erasure nona, it’s always indigenous erasure. Aboriginal people are often also very dark skinned, so colorism/anti-black sentiment could also play a role.
>>391538
Yes, race fetishism makes me uncomfortable

>>391577
Why do only Americans have these brainworms though? Colonization happened all over the globe but there's no spicy Spaniard x native Phillipino romance novels.

>>392681
Nonna Americans own Hollywood and are the wealthiest, most "popular" nation on earth. Of course you hear about their brainworms more often.