/g/ - girl talk

Any tips on handling wedding photos? I don't want them. But I know they'll be done.

>>297347
Damn the right side is totally "face filler, not even once". Thank god for being broke and stingy kek.

>>419305
if the issue is you hate having your photo taken and end up looking awkward in the photos, then it is possible to find a photographer who specialises in candid wedding photography / street photography adjacent type work.

>>354349
Are you non white?

>>428703
It's unfortunately probably AI, I've never seen this painting before.

>>428664
Thank you for the kind advice, nonna. I really didn’t expect to get such a compassionate response. I hope you have a very nice day.
>>428703
I saved it from pinterest, but after doing a reverse image search, I think it was AI generated like >>428736 said. Damn… I feel bad that I didn’t realize.

Fell too hard for this moid. I felt like I've been led on. He presented to me his shortcomings and I thought it wasn't a big deal, other than him being courageous, but he was right. I'm retarded. He's got a lot of messed up emotions and feelings. To me, he came off as this guy who was loyal, couldn't have the idea of casual sex cross his mind, etc, because he said things like "the thing that sucks about the women I want to fuck is they have to be my best friend" during our little group chats. I guess compared to some of the friends we share, he seemed like a diamond in the rough. As it turns out he's the opposite of that. He's worse. He had this vocally moral high ground against this friend of ours who had an open relationship with her husband, and the fact they just had a baby. All of us would say how terrible this would be for the marriage. And from what information this friend told me, he was trying to hookup with her a few months ago. She's got her issues, she's young, been abused, etc, but that's besides the point, her and her husband are monogamous now because many of us convinced her it was a bad idea to let it continue. This moid was taking advantage of my friend's mental instability to get his dick happy. The fact he was going to be a part of that whole mess and then go "Um that's terrible, how could you do that." He's so fucking cruel. He's evil. I can't see him the same anymore. He approached me saying that because we had sex, and it made him feel guilty to commit to someone else because he's still attached to his baby mama, it made him feel like he should just stay single and have no strings attached sex, and hopefully that'll help him not feel so terrible. Like, he could've hooked up with someone else before I was in the picture, literally anyone else, but he purposely chose to try to hookup with a mentally ill married woman who has a family, because that's the easier choice, I guess.

i got dumped almost 6 months ago, over life circumstances more than anything. we decided to "stay friends", because we had been friends before dating and it would be a shame to give up on like 6 years of good feelings. he hasn't contacted me in almost one month though. i thought i was getting over it, doing better, gaining back some confidence.
i downloaded a language exchange app because i don't have any friends to talk to in my target language, and i got bombarded by messages from guys (that are from the same country as my ex). the amount of weirdos, perverts, or people who start of super nice and fun to talk to but get weird really put a damper on my mood. most recently, a dude who was singing my praises, saying shit like he wants to make sure he can keep talking to me/being close to me no matter what suddenly told me he can't continue holding a conversation with me, because i get "mad suddenly"; which is his response to me telling him to just cut the flirting bs because i'm not interested in being played with (" but i'm not playing with you!! i really like you!! but you got mad so suddenly, i think i cant keep talking to you.")
i made one girl friend and added her on a messaging app that is used a lot in that country, but i failed to realize i pavlo'd myself into thinking my ex is messaging me everytime i hear that fucking chime. so she said hi on there and i almost broke down crying. for 6 years i only heard that chime when talking to him.
i think it's the mourning of a great relationship coupled with the realization that so many moids suck so bad. i genuinely was doing so well, but now i think i never have a chance of finding a decent, non pervert person willing to love me and my ex was a once in a lifetime lucky experience. i got dumped for dumb reasons, haven't been contacted in a month, got too sensitive over shitty people on an app, and somehow i still feel like i'm the one who lost out on something. i feel pathetic. moids make me sad and girls don't message me back. i don't think i even saw one bi or lesbian girl from that country yet, even though i know they exist.
and i still have nobody to fucking practice with or talk to. maybe i really am unlovable
sorry for the sad pathetic rant nonnies.i don't know how to move on

>>428831
>my ex was a once in a lifetime lucky experience
No, he was not. Even if he seemed like your Prince Charming, he was not. Take off your rose-colored glasses and look at the facts. He dumped you. He hasn’t contacted you in a month. It benefits him to keep you uncertain and clinging on to hope, to keep you in love with him, because then you’ll be at his beck and call whenever he wants some validation (or sex). When I’ve had trouble moving on, it has helped me to count the ways in which my ex has wronged me. It’s easier to remember to good things you lost after you’ve been dumped, but it doesn’t do you any good. He’s gone. And that’s okay, because you’ll find better!
>>428790
>He approached me saying that because we had sex, and it made him feel guilty to commit to someone else because he's still attached to his baby mama, it made him feel like he should just stay single and have no strings attached sex, and hopefully that'll help him not feel so terrible.
Run for the fucking hills. This moid is a scumbag.

any of you try squid by zoologist/zoologist in general? it's a bit pricey for me but i loved the sample and just wondering the general consensus on the brand

>>429114
I hate the bottle designs, the art looks like drawings a hipster who lives just outside Portland or Seattle who wears steampunk influenced clothes, thinks they're special for listening to Edward Sharpe and and makes pickles for no reason other than they think it makes them quirky would have posted on Tumblr in 2011.
That having been said I think the idea of making perfume themed around different animals is interesting though

>>428868
I mean a 30ml isn’t that big. I say go for it if it’ll make you happy

>>429081
I’m getting into my fall mood and this looks so tempting

>>429114
>>429129
Lol your assessment of the art is honestly spot on and I can’t argue with it, but I still really like it. I read a lot of fantasy genre books, so I think the art is fun. The packaging almost makes it look like a potion bottle, but I get how that’s not a plus for people who aren’t into that genre

>>428868
omg nonny thank you for making me know about it. i checked the notes and i love it and bottle is so pretty, i love finding more interesting 90s scents which are still available

>>429114
I have tried it, I have the Zoologist sample set. Sweet but not to the point where it's gourmand, a bit salty. Reminds me of the smell of browned butter. A little waxy like a candle. It's pretty comforting and unique but it's not super dark or aquatic imo.

My favorites from Zoologist are probably Moth and Civet, but Squid is definitely up there.

>>428556
Nonna… The thread was made 8 years ago.

>>428555
Well my cat blob looks like an eldritch abomination so far but that's ok. Was tempted to abandon this one but I'll try to embrace how cursed it looks and continue kek Spoilered because I don't want people on the front page to see my cursed felt cat.

>>428607
It looks good!!! Using multiple colors like that is a bit tricky when you’re just starting out so I think you did a very good job for your first pass!

>>428556
That's real crochet anon

>>428645
Aww thank you nonna! I should be able to finish my cat this week if I don't break my two remaining needles.

>>422493
Omg same nonita. My paranoia gets really bad before my period, and I tend to delete fucking everything  off my social media accounts kek

I swear to god I don't radically change my diet or lifestyle from month to month, so why is it that sometimes it's just so incredibly painful? Jesus h christ it feels like a bunch of juggalos are having a hatchet throwing competition in my uterus right now.

My period has always been heavy, thankfully I have never experienced anemia or anything like that, but it had a psychological impact on me because during my period I would not wear anything cute with fear of staining my clothes and also had to use 40 pads during the 6-7 days it lasted. I got Jadelle and so far I've been doing great, other than having like 3 periods (just period stains) per month but finally no heavy flow! I buy less pads now and can sleep without anxiety and washing everyday my underwear despite wearing two pads at once. I've had absolute 0 sexual desire though, pretty noticeable but now I feel so happy and comfortable, it's like I don't need that dopamine anymore, I've been focusing my time on thinking about fashion and shopping for outfits. It has changed my life for the better I think.

>>416890
Samefag, well my period came 2 weeks early unexpectedly so I bought a couple pairs yesterday and wore them to work today and my god this is my best purchase of the year. This is so much better than pads or tampons, it holds so much liquid I was able to work a full shift with them. So much nicer than having to stop working to change a pad/tampon. And the blood didn’t leak at all! I swear by these now

>>422493
Same my anxiety goes through the roof before my period, I have so much aggro could start a fight in an empty room, and I want to kill myself. It's insane how badly period hormones can affect your mental health.

>>427570
Tilt your pelvis forward and insert your thumb and another finger (index or middle finger) joined at the tip at the entrance, like .5 cm deep and then start pulling them apart. There will be some resistance but you should be able to do it. If it's rock hard it can be vaginismus but I had that too it's just a stress response, relax and desensitize yourself to it

is it normal for my uterus to be tilted to one side inside of me…more specifically my cervix is pointing to the left. I’m on my period so it’s sitting a lot lower and I reached up there to check on my iud and it’s like completely decentered. I was having intercourse the other day and was on top and had to stop because I hit something wrong (???) and started having the most debilitating cramps I’ve ever had. I was completely paralyzed in pain until it eventually passed after about ten minutes. This was what prompted me to check on my iud. Can you knock your uterus out of place? Will it go back to normal after my period passes and my uterus pulls back up? I don’t have health insurance so I don’t want to go to the doctor. I’m fine otherwise just worried.

Any nonas have experience with vulvodynia/vestibulodynia?

I've had it for a while and while I don't really have hypertonic pelvic muscles, the entry of my vagina always hurts like a mofo when I have sex.

I got put on a gabapentin topical cream 15% and that's helped a bit but I have to get a vestibulectomy for my posterior fourchette which keeps tearing.

Have any of you had a vestibulectomy? If so please tell me your experience because i'm so nervous to have surgery there.

>>428023

Do you have endo by any chance? I've heard that scar tissue from endo can actually pull your uterus to the left.

The pain could've been due to your partner hitting your cervix, some women experience pain when that is hit, and some don't.

It is normal for uterusses to not be perfectly straight though. Afaik my vaginal canal makes a weird bend too and my uterus is in anteroversion which means it's tilted forwards. Uterusses come in all shapes and sizes.

If I was you i'd keep an eye out for weird spotting, excessive cramping or unusual discharge, if you experience any of those please please please visit your care provider!

>>428413
I have vulvodynia/pelvic floor issues after getting a chronic UTI. My pain now is almost completely in the entrance/vestibule. My therapist does internal massages and when she tries to stretch the vaginal entrance it hurts so fucking much, it's like someone is burning me.
I've read that a vestibulectomy has a very high success rate so I wouldn't worry.

>>428843
Idk about compliments, it's not something that is done often in the country I live in and I do not care about outside validation.
I work out every day weight lifting and cardio and been doing yoga for over 18 years now. I walk 10+km as often as possible. I take a lot of supplements, do microneedling at home and facial massage every day because I can't really afford any beauty treatments at the moment. I use SPF all the time. I also do a lot of practices that lower cortisol because that is one thing that will make you look like shit in a matter of days and try to stay on top of my diet but it's not great 100% of the time.

And I looked really horrible a few years ago due to life circumstances. I try to have as much fun as I can every day and taught myself how not to react to other people's misery which was always making me feel worse. If you feel happy then it really makes you look more youthful.

>>428817
I just found pics of me (high school thru early 20s) in an album at my parents' house and I'm definitely better looking now than I ever was. 35 now. It's pretty undebatable when you see the pics. Until my late 20s, I hardly brushed my hair so it looked like a hippie rat nest, wore unflattering clothes, horrid glasses, and had terrible acne. After 30 the acne just went away on its own. I also stopped drinking all the time. I used to drink … a lot.

I have visible wrinkles at the corners of my eyes, but no nasolabial folds (yet, kek). I look younger now than in a pic I have of me at 28, at the height of my drinking. It was just a matter of starting to take care of myself better, and it wasn't even that extreme. Less alcohol, a lot more water, actually exercising, and maintaining a good hairstyle. Also, I am incredibly neurotic about sleep and must get at least 8 hrs per night, and I've learned to live my life around that sleep schedule pretty religiously. Used to sleep 4 - 5.

>>428844
I’ll look into microneedling, my skin texture is just shit lately. You’re probably right tbh I’m discontent with my whole life, my relationship and quietly very depressed

>>428850
This is so true. When I’m happy I’m beautiful. I’m just so depressed these days. I don’t know how to handle it. Funnily I was really happy and having the time of my life six months ago. That’s bipolar disorder for yah.

How do you lower your cortisol? I should probably look into that.

>>428804
i don't mean this in an unkind way at all but genuinely no one gives as much of a fuck about your age as you do. do you think the gestapo is going to come down on you for wearing a slutty halloween costume if you're over 29? i'd say do whatever you want and quit caring what other people think about you not being in your twenties anymore but nobody is even thinking about that in the first place, only you.

I can’t take being ugly anymore. I just can’t take it. I’m against plastic surgery but I’m getting really close to just throwing away my moral code and just doing it. But the thing is, it’s a lose lose situation because
>Option 1: don’t get the surgery, people continue to make fun of me, I never date, too jealous of other people to make friends
>Option 2: get the surgery, look better, people stop treating me differently, maybe even get to date, but will forever be beating myself up and feeling horrible and guilty and selfish for caving and getting surgery against my principles and at the expense of societal progress.
I’m at an impasse and there’s no good choice to make.

>>428813

Just get it and get over yourself. You will likely not regret it. Just go for a heavy hitter that will change your facial balance the most like a nose job so you can have the most improvement in just one procedure. Small procedures tend to have underwhelming effects.

>>428821
I really wish I could figure out how. But I’m someone who has written essays about the harms of the plastic surgery industry and I’m also very strict with making sure my actions align with my principles, I really never do anything that goes against what I think is right, and I don’t know how I could live with myself if I got plastic surgery. But at the same time, spending the rest of my life like this is equally unfathomable. I’m just so miserable. Im so ugly that even I am revolted by my own reflection or pictures, and I’ve had my whole life to get used to what I look like. I can’t imagine how severe the disgust is in people who see me for the first time.

>>428846
It's your life nona. Fuck principles if they are making you so miserable then they have to go. It's not written in stone. You have only this one life. If you have the means and possibility to improve the thing that is making you miserable then there is no reason to not do it. There is no punishment other than the one you are giving yourself. You can change your mind. You don't have to keep growing in one direction that you decided on years ago.

>>428688
Gee chill out, don't hang yourself for having long philtrum lol. Get surgery if you think it's bad enough to make you isolate yourself from people

Are there any good female F4F or at least F4A creators that actually create content for women instead of troons or men pretending to be women? Whenever I try to listen to NSFW audio that advertises itself as F4F it still ends up being obviously filtered through male gaze, I absolutely hate fake, obnoxiously loud porny moaning screaming "fuck" over and over again. I want something more sensual that's actually made for female tastes by another woman. Can be in Japanese or English.

I feel terrible for liking YSF but that voice… yum..

>>428726
Dr.Osterhagen just did it for me. I loved his audios and I can unashamedly say that I would get wet AF while listening, too bad that after his scandal (he was cheating I think or he was flirting with fans I don’t remember) he vanished and deleted everything.

I am in love with august. I'm anxiously awaiting for his kemono to get updated.
Every single one of his audios is just incredible. At this point I just trust him, I just trust that I'll enjoy whatever he puts out.
Any other august nonas who can rec other guys they enjoy? I worry about my mental health if I keep obsessing over august.

>>428767
My following list:
Useless_Timidity
Bloom
GEDAudio
EyesofSuggestion
SkylarStirling
Rum_N-Coke
BadFantasyASMR
This_Guy_Eli
LateNightFeels_
AntiquaVa

Why are you bumping a thread when you already have the unconventional tractions? You autistic retarded bitches need to be euthanized for bumping threads for no reason, seriously(alogging)

younger michael knowles (political commentator)

>>410285
Mormon missionaries as well, they dress so nicely

I started watching Dr House… He's the kind of moid I hate the most, he was the Patrick Bateman/Joker of 2010 Facebook where everyone wanted to be him and loved his sarcasm.
I just can't help but want to fuck him. I want him to call me retarded and tell me my antidepressants are causing damage to my neurological system or some shit. Thankfully he doesn't actually exist and lately I've been allergic to moids, God bless.

>>428653
you can probably fuck a janky version of him if you go looking in the history department of a party school in the american southeast, picrel is a mock up I made years ago of my history professor there because of his uncanny resemblance in looks and attitude.