/g/ - girl talk

>>518757
He can't even keep his own rules consistent though

>>518757
kek

>>518512
Him and his wife dress like cartoon characters

I just need to bitch about the fact that being a Romantic fucking sucks nowadays kek. The trendier items all look wonky on me and the stuff that does ‘suit’ me usually has some annoying flaw that ruins the silhouette. My personal style seems to constantly be at odds with what’s available. It feels impossible finding flare pants that aren’t denim, and when they are a different material they are high waters or are too tight in the butt and too loose in the waist etc. The recommended essences are all vibes I would never go for kek. Anything that’s not skintight makes me look frumpy as hell. If the fabrics have any thickness I look frumpy. If there is any cute detailing like ruffles or bows that is decently sized I look massive. I have an oversized jacket I use because it’s there but I swear I look 30 lbs heavier when it’s zipped up. I’m not fat but I’m not rail thin anymore either so when I’m thrifting the cute stuff almost none of it fits me. The few modern day brands that do cater to Romantics are also uber-sexy which I’m not super about either. I love cute bralettes but most either don’t run large enough for my boobs or fit weirdly. I’m a DD, got an XL bralette from Free People and it’s still too small. I buy a medium shirt and it’s suffocating my chest but when I get a large the sleeves are loose and look weird. Natural fibres sit weirdly on me, and cheap polyester looks good the first few wears but then gets disgusting over time. I hate being a Romantic so much kek. The right top is cute but it’s not going to keep me warm like a crew neck!

>>519174
Nona i feel your pain so deep i learned how to sew and fix clothes myself. If you learn simple stitches it really helps pull together those cloths that look almost right.

>>509730
Did something happen or was I just ghosted? Damn, I was hoping to talk to fellow Latina nonnas.

>>518715
Why did you already repost this again? It has only been 2 months

>>518918
Nta but who cares, it's not like this thread is getting ten posts a day.

>>519074
That's my point, you only need to scroll up a little and can already find her other post

>>509730
Estás todavía ahí, nonita? Sage por las dudas, espero que puedas volver.

>>434994

Are you literally me? Because this is the same experience that I'm having right now. I didn't have a lot of irls growing up and not a lot of friends except online since I was like 12 and up until recently I kinda have more irl friends now (not a lot but still at least people to hang out with) but yeah explaining how I grew up, mentioning being a shut in neet and how it took me until I was like 23 to socialize normally is hard for people to understand or relate. The more I do socialize with normies though the more I realize I like that I enjoy my own company more but I wish I had more female friends who are socially stupid like me irl.

>>513230
i don't mind being banned for replying. do you know that women can actually talk in the real world and that most have shitty attitudes about other women? i don't feel bad for pushing her and for wanting my childhood friend to stop saying that teen girls are mini adults or that she didn't deserve to get raped and it should've been a whore instead. maybe you're used to being around conservative women who stick their heads in the sand but i don't want someone i'm vulnerable with to spout the same unimaginative and self-hating bullshit
>>515301
thank you. it feels like every friendship i've had has some kind of invisible wall that prevents us from being serious. i want to be more honest with people

>>434994
This is me minus a relationship, which frustrates me since I'm the odd one out IRL for that. I feel like you're (general you) kinda screwed if you never got the formative socialization of having childhood or adolescent friends. Even as a wagie that makes decent money instead of a NEET, I never understood how coworkers can socialize and just joke around like I never understood how classmates could. But I just find online interactions annoying, most memes and social media is obnoxious and I can't stand how undersocialized people are. Even as an autistic I hate how other spergs purposely ignore social cues and rules and act shocked when people dislike them.

How am i supposed to relate to other women around me when i am a diagnosed autismo living in a country where everyone places importance in swimming/tanning (i do not partake cause my skin is too sensitive and i like the pale look) and most importantly everyone is super social while i am an introverted loner. Even when i went to artschool for some months before i quit, i still got ostracized because everyone instantly hanged out in a large yet close loud group(i also have audio processing issues) which i just could not fit in.

I just never felt a connection with anyone here since i do not posses the trait of doing well in large friend groups which makes me look insane, being an introvert i feel is seen as extra creepy/psychotic here. Idk maybe i am wrong if there is another gr nona here who can correct me. Only people i ever had connection with to this day as a grown woman is foreigners from online. Even writing this down and remembering/rethinking about it hurts

>>519137
You were born to live in Finland.

I’m 33 and have been with my bf for 2, almost 3 years. 1 year into our relationship I found he had been looking up specific women on TikTok and Instagram and jerking it. At the start of our relationship I made it clear how I felt that idolising specific women online / OnlyFans felt like cheating to me and I wouldn’t tolerate it. Since that happened I stopped dressing up in nice lingerie for him, stopped making effort in bed because I felt like I was competing for his sexual interest with the girls in his phone. I love him but I don’t trust him. The last time he hurt me was in December when I looked at his YouTube history and saw he looked up all Sabrina Carpenter’s sexual positions in her Juno song (she bends over and shows her vag and pretends to do blow jobs etc.) He excused himself saying it was “only tame” and that people at work were talking about it and he was curious. I was like “so curious you had to watch all 4 minutes of it? And you definitely didn’t watch this at work”

I love him but ugh. Am I wrong for expecting more? Men disgust me. Why can’t they stop consuming women constantly? I even said to him before the Sabrina thing, “if you want other women that aren’t me, if you want porn and only fans or whatever, then don’t be with me because I’ll never be okay with it” yet he does it behind my back.

>>519041
Sorry just to add, I have trauma with this. In my previous long term relationship I discovered my bf was talking to underage trannies in maid dresses on a secret Facebook account, read tons of rape/cp manga and was obsessed with a porn star who looked identical to me but had a penis. I gave my ex his much needed “muh privacy” for 4 years and only when I was done with him I decided to check his history.

My ex before this cheated on me a ton, men/women/trannies, even let old men on Grindr fuck him in the ass and I had to get a HIV test. So yeah. My trust in men is already ruined kek

>>519041
You’re not wrong and not wanting this is the bare minimum. Dump, he clearly doesn’t care

>>519042
That’s horrible but you really don’t need to explain that you have trauma to justify a very reasonable boundary. Porn is harmful to relationships, the people participating in it, and the people consuming it, and that can be proven with a quick google search. There are really men out there who will not watch porn or at the very least stop when you make a clear boundary around it. Don’t let anyone make you feel that that’s unreasonable. 30 years ago this would never be an issue and people that don’t see the rapid overconsumption of porn as disturbing have their heads buried in the sand. You can do better Nona.

>>519041
You needed to drop him the moment he started behaving like this.
>I made it clear how I felt that idolising specific women online / OnlyFans felt like cheating to me and I wouldn’t tolerate it
Staying is tolerating it. Most men are disgusting, but it's up to you to protect yourself by leaving. Let him jerk off to other woman alone in his basement.

>>478647
I used to post on /tttt/ back when it was first introduced (I still remember the pop tart memes in the ftm threads) and it is wiiild that men are still spouting this bs about women being able to be more gnc. It's on par with them claiming they didn't get male socialized because they got called faggots for being bad at footyball or something, it's beyond retarded.

They don't know what it's like to be a woman and assume because a woman can wear pants while they can't wear their shitty schoolgirl skirts from aliexpress, that any woman who's actually GNC (not just a "tomboy" a la anime porn where it's a girl with short hair and a curvy body with huge boobs), it's socially acceptable.

>>477260
>>477285
Thank you for taking the time to give real advice, idk what to say but it genuinely helps.

>>477593
No you just can't read.

When I was a teen I was an FTM, and I did a bit of binding but thankfully detransitioned before taking T or doing anything drastic. I had typical low self-esteem from being bullied for most of my childhood. Hated my body after SA. I was also a total handmaiden, and a libfem who only knew shit through circles of Tumblr. Total SJW. Then I started hearing those arguments made by trannies where cis people had to date them or else it was transphobic, and it didn't sit right with me (I can't believe I didn't peak because of all the other shit they were saying going around too, but hindsight is 20/20), because I believed people didn't have to date anyone they didn't want to date. Didn't matter if you had a thing about race, religion, or just because you didn't like the same sports team (which I would have thought is stupid af but people can do what they want), but on the other hand I was conflicted because it was still MuH TRanSpHobia. So, wanting to have a conversation about it, I made a thread on a trans forum with snippets I had found from arguments against it, and my own opinion asking what other people thought.

The thread BLEW UP with posts, and there was like one person who responded rationally to it, where they explained their side (which amounted to "It hurts trans persons feefees so it must be wrong. Anything that hurts feefees is wrong") and the rest of the comments were either calling my post bait, or calling me a fucking retard because it's totally not okay to not date trans people just because they're trans at all ever and how dare I even ask if it could be okay, even though they never gave any explanation as to why (majority of responses were from TIMs if you couldn't already tell kek). I felt really bad about offending the tranny cult, feeling like I had done something wrong, even though I was just asking because I was conflicted on the matter. It actually made me cry, because I felt so bad to have even asked the question. I was a stupid teenager. But this experience caused me to go outside of the echochamber I was in because now I felt distanced from them, and I read some arguments from the other side, and eventually I peaked myself because all of their arguments made more and more sense to me.

I don't know where I'd be, or how fucked up my body would be at this point, had I not made that forum post. I'd like to think that I would have peaked eventually anyway, but I don't know how long it would have taken because back then I baPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I'm not an actual detransitioner (maybe more like desister?) and I don't wish to make light of/compare myself to actual detransitioners, but I wasn't sure where to post this, so apologies in advance.

I struggled making friends at school as a 13 year old, and due to my interests I ended up on reddit. I would always lurk, but I saw these people as my "friends" in a collective sense, and also as many of them were adults I always saw them as smarter, more mature and more informed than myself. I had little by way of interaction with either sex as a teenager, but especially as I went further in to these online communities I started seeing how women and girls were treated and viewed there: the nasty DMs from pedophiles and sex-pests, the constant jokes at their expense that wasn't a thing for boys, etc. The general consensus on these things was that they were normal, and there were often comments from "women" I realised later that many of these people were probably not actually women at all saying these things were fine, that accepting them is just part of being a woman, and that many of these gross compliments and interactions were flattering to them. As I had no opinions from other girls and women in real life to reference this with, and considering there were so many of these type of comments, and many of them seemed to be by adults, I believed this (but could not accept it for myself). I thought there must have been something wrong with me, that was until I saw upon people talking about transgenderism in this context (suggesting to the heavily downvoted comments that expressed discomfort with it that real women did not have an issue with it, and if they did they might be trans men). While I didn't really understand transgenderism because it's bullshit that makes no fucking sense it did seem to line up with how I felt: discomfort with (what I now know is called misogyny), discomfort in my body and secondary sex characteristics (something which made my peers and parents consider me abnormal, despite it being a fairly common teenage experience), and interests more associated with boys. I trusted these adults to know better than me, but I nonetheless did my own research (in complete good faith) to try to understand how this phenomenon worked. I read through all the (peer reviewed!) medical documents they linked, went through wikipedia sources to find them, went through medical journals to find thePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Probably doesn't count but I used to really hate attention or being looked at/perceived as anything. I just didn't want to be anything and felt like a theythem because female was something and I didn't feel like something, I didn't feel male, so guess I was another thing. But theythem is still a "something" so I ditched that too and went back to defaults kek. Still don't want to be seen, but at least don't buy into the gendie shit

Actual previous threads:
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Sorry nonnies, I thought I had successfully deleted the thread after I noticed the typo but the April Fool’s CSS got the better of me.

im so glad i never killed myself. i finally dont feel extreme anxiety and depression and panic attacks every day. i feel like a functioning member of society lately but i also feel a lot of emotional blunting. but at the moment idc cuz its better than extreme mental suffering

>>516186
>Attractive Women You’d Want to Fuck
lowkey all of you
But particularly the goff ones

>>516363
and her

>>516364
and also her

Wanted to post this but there's a moid. Sorry for the shoddy emojis

>>516650
Does the perm involve any significant heat or chemicals at all? If not, perm. If yes, stay frizzy, use a lot of gel, and try to regrow healthy hair again.

hi! i have long (mid-back length) and thick 3a curly hair. i'm biracial (black + white) and can use products for natural hair comfortably. i've been a bit of a hermit for a couple years while finishing my degree so i've just been letting it grow and throwing it in a braid, but i'm starting an outdoorsy job this summer and i need to do… something with it. it's a bit unruly and gets frizzy if i leave it out of protective styles for too long.

my curls are healthy, but i've never really taken care of long curly hair. the humid weather where i live now also affects it a lot.

so two questions, i guess. 1. how do people cut 3a hair so it actually has a bit of shape/style? 2. products for keeping it tame while it's out of braids? i currently use 'not your mother's' curl cream, it works okay. i've also used almond oil but i'm not a huge fan of it. like i said, i can use heavier products and my hair will just eat it up, so not too concerned about that.

I wanted a lighter brown but stylist gave me auburn brown and now dark brown. I want to get it lighter and dye it a lighter brown with box dye myself.
Would you recommend using a color remover like pic related or the classic baking soda, vitamin c and head and shoulders diy thing? I want the best integrity for my hair possible. Im not trying to lift the color a lot just a lighter brown but not blonde. Not looking for bleach. I used color oops years ago and it made my hair damaged imo so I’m thinking of using color fix now.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a hair product to use in order to keep braids sleek? Braids are one of the only hair styles I can do but they look so frizzy.

>>517148
I've got thick long hair but a bit looser (2C-3A) so take this with a grain of salt, but a recent game changer has been to apply a strong hold gel then NOT scrunch out the gel cast after drying the hair. By letting the wear of the day and sleep do the work of removing the cast you end up with curls that stay in place with minimal frizz for a few days. I would suggest something like a curl custard since it'll have ingredients that both moisturize and lock in that moisture (picrel is my recommendation). As far as haircuts go, you can't go wrong with layers. They'll free up some weight to allow the curls to spring up and create fun textures around the head. You don't necessarily have to spend $200+ on a curly cut these days but when shopping for hairdressers definitely look at their portfolio/before and afters

Another xhs male

>>518584
I like imagining /fit/ moids have an inside joke that’s just a butt

>>518800
eww why did it give me a rance pfp

>>518801
Sounds about right. Gayasses.

>>516123
I think I have a fetish for backwards-hat frat boys. I would never fuck one, but it would be fun to watch them fuck each other.

Manifesting I get hit by a bus badly enough to survive but not have to work ever again.

>>461090
>>474811
>>487241
I get pregnant in april

I am happy and healthy, as are my family members and friends. I have a great job that fills me with joy and is really well paid, way better than I expected. I rent my own cute apartment, it is so cozy and wonderful, I enjoy living here very much. I have a boyfriend who adores me and is handsome, sweet and chill. Things are going great for my friends as well and I get to see them often and we travel together.

I don't have an incurable std, I'm just being paranoid or it's an easily treatable infection like syphilis

I’m so happy that I have my dream job here in L.A. I’m so so happy that I have INDEPENDENCE! I love going to concerts here, I always meet wonderful people and even some artists.
Also I’m so glad that my family is healthy and doing AWESOME, can’t wait to visit them again and go to the beachside like we always do. Also I’m so happy with my body, my legs and ass look phenomenal lol I can see that everyone is always asking for my workout routine. I’m so glad for everything!