/g/ - girl talk

>>495904
hi sivi

>>496155
Exactly, she just fell in love with a guy, how is that gold digging?

>>496155
>>497223
The point is that she intended to gold dig but ended up falling in love instead and still had a happy ending with money. The last line was sarcastic. Please get tested for autism or at least improve your reading comprehension.

My biggest regret in life is not marrying rich.

I married a nice STEM major who makes 150k a year which sounds pretty good, right? But in our high cost of living area that's not enough to send both of our kids to a good preschool without significantly cutting into our savings. It's not enough to hire nannies and maids, so all the housework and child care falls on our shoulders. It won't be enough to send my father who is starting to show signs of dementia to a nice nursing home when the time comes. Neither me or my husband have had a good night's sleep in years. We don't have time to take care of ourselves.

I had two complicated pregnancies from hell and I can't stop thinking about how if I had married a billionaire I could have spent that time relaxing in St.Bart's, eating Michelin star meals optimized for fetal health and I would have had a doctor with me at all times instead of having had to frantically google everything that went wrong before going to the hospital. Maybe we would have used surrogates and I wouldn't have had to put up with the physical toll of pregnancy at all. Maybe we would have used genetic editing to make sure our babies inherited no negative traits and they would be perfect angels instead of little avatars of chaos. If dad was rich and famous enough they would be guaranteed a good future based on their association with him.

Life would be so easy if my only job was to stay hot and I had infinite time and money to do so. Fuck everyone who shames women who opt to take this path in life.(bait)

>>587059
Holy bait.

>>586422
It depends on how tall you are. My ex was 20+ cm taller than me. I prefer sex with moids close to my height. I think it's easier to get things to fit together and angled correctly, especially during missionary. You can use props like pillows with tall moids so nothing is impossible, but short moids with big dick are superior imo.

Nonnas, basically I met this guy that is autistic like me through a dating app, and we have been vibing a lot. We are going to meet next Wednesday, thing is, I’m a virgin and even though I’m not expecting anything to happen in the next upcoming dates. I do keep fantasizing about it happening. My question is; Should I let my thoughts win? Is there anything I should know having sex for the first time? (Especially being autistic).
I’m just really excited to meet a potential friend or partner (who knows), after being isolated for so long. I appreciate some advice. Also, I’m in my early 20s.

>>586632
Don’t fuck him for at least six months if you’ve been so isolated like you said. Relegate him to just a friend and get good at masturbating on your own. Buy a few toys even to just try out. Take your time and don’t rush this bond because otherwise, moids will moid and take advantage of you, on purpose or accidentally (weaponized incompetence, blaming muh tism, etc)

>>586633
Yeah, that's a good point. Thank you for the rational advice, nonna. I won't rush anything, I have just been craving intimacy with someone, lately. I was wondering, if cuddling or kissing is giving the moid too much? I'm not sure..

>>586641
Cuddling is risky, unless he is super autistic or you both have good self control, it usually leads to more. You should still take your time getting to know him properly before doing anything physical anyway though, as early on, you won't know enough about him to be sure that you won't be putting yourself in danger, or end up regretting things. If he has any decency, he will wait. If things do end up going well after time has passed, be sure to have a discussion with him about sex before you actually do it, as this will allow you to scope out potential red flags. Not sex related, but you should also snoop around and look through his social media (if he has it), before going on the date.

>>584981
Also, about environmental conservation. She was pretty supportive of the fuckcars movement. If there is any form of activism I can do that anyone knows of, I will do it

>>584956
>>585186
>>585187
>>585188
You really managed to make her death all about you. You didn't even say anything nice about her, you only listed what she did for you. I feel mean but you are being selfish and need to learn to be more selfless if you really want to honor her. That means finding out what you can do by yourself and putting in the effort to find your own path. You can look up environmental activism yourself and find a way.

We just agreed to break up. I really hope this wasnt a mistake. He was super sweet and a good partner but our lifestyles and goals just clashed too much.

Ill allow to feel the sadness tonight. I sincerely hope this isn't the biggest mistake of my life.

>>586506
There is no such thing as “the one that got away”, there is only compatible relationships and incompatible ones. Maybe your lives would align in 5 years, but it’s not 5 years in the future, it’s right now, and it’s not working right now. Take care of yourself nona

>>562905
Same, except it was one long 5+ years relationship and i feel like absolute shit. I don't know anyone here (other friends are in nearby city), he was my best friend, my whole world. If i find a job here and stay i'll be in a city where everything reminds me of him, all alone. Worst of all is i'm the one who initiated this and yet… Whatever, your post is really heartwarming nona. It's great that you're not letting it get to you.
>I want go back to uni, make friends, find a normal job…I wonder if I'll ever fall in love again.
All of these things are within your reach

Just take it out, it doesn't hurt

>>586274
I can't it hurts

This is the pin btw

>>586276
Did you yank it yet? Good luck nonnie put some disinfectant on it and take it easy.

>>586087
You could try seitan. It's not beans, it's vital wheat gluten. You can also culture tempeh on basically whatever you want. I made some on red lentils. Not vegan, just like trying foods.

I was vegan for a few years, it had some big health benefits:
- Zero PMS. Zero. It was amazing. By far the best diet for my hormone levels. Mentally and physically I felt great on my period.
- It was the only time in my life that I wasn't underweight. I felt strong and even started weightlifting and had glorious muscles

Cons and why I stopped:
- I constantly felt hungry (probably why I finally gained weight). I'd eat large volumes of food compared to when I was an omnivore, and I would feel uncomfortably stuffed but still hungry.
- I craved more "substantial" fats, I'd douse every meal in copious amounts of olive oil and it still left me unsatisfied.
- It was extremely fucking inconvenient. My culture is very carnivorous and planning vegan meals was a huge pain in the ass

>>586193
I wonder if the best diet for you would be mostly plant-based with some diary? Interesting post nona

>>586238
Unfortunately, when I eat diary my PMS is still in full force, no difference from an unrestricted diet

>>586238
>>586239
You should really stop eating your diaries nonas

>>586213
You'll have to make do when all you've known were swamp mutts with asscrack hair. Sad story

>>585992
Came here to post this…

New thread: >>>/g/586233

>>586084
he doesn't consider himself Irish either. he calls himself a manc

>>439255
OP of >>438952 here, they put me on birth control too, not even to correct my high T but just to make sure I had more regular i.e shorter cycles. It doesn't benefit me at all to have periods more often so I stopped. Sorry to hear they didn't do shit for you besides a pointless prescription, I hope you can tail off if you think you don't need it, I think that basically doing HRT at our ages is a bit of a risk if we're not sure it's actually treating anything.

I will never look cute or even normal I have the largest eyebrows on anyone I've ever seen man or woman they take up half my forehead. I can wear a mask for the rest of my face but eyebrows can't even be lasered. Fml

Why the fuck do hormonal cysts exist, I fucking hate having to do salt baths for the cysts that show up on my vag and I hate that I can’t move or run without accidentally popping a cyst on my ovaries. I haven’t had them for almost a year but now they’re all coming back and it hurts to sit down

I went to a gyno yesterday looking for an endo diagnosis because now every time I need to shit on my period early on it feels like I'm passing glass and I want to die. But it turns out my right ovary is swollen something like 11oz. Doc said anything over 10oz is questionable and 12oz is most definitely PCOS. My left one is normal at around 7oz. She said my ovaries look like a chocolate chip cookie. And pointed to these dark spots on the ultrasound that could possibly endo. I always thought my pelvis looked lopsided to the right but I thought that was just how my uterus was situated. I tried to get tested for PCOS years ago but I went to a moid doctor, and because my hormones came back normal I was basically told to fuck off and pushed birth control pills before the bloodwork was even sent out. She told me there are varying severities of PCOS, and fitting into more than two criteria is enough for the diagnosis. I fit into a few of them mildly but I guess I just have what they call Type D. My periods were never clockwork but also never missing for months on end. I feel apathetic being diagnosed with what I knew I probably had for years now but it's also nice to have my pain acknowledged.

I think the saddest thing to come out of all of this is when I went to tell my boomer mother about the results. She had really bad PCOS, even now post-menopausal she has white stubble on her chin. They put her on birth control just so she could get a period because she would go months without one. The fact that I'm here and posting on lolcow is a miracle in itself. I asked her what ovary gave her issues to see if we had the same fucked-up one and she said that she "wasn't really sure", and "the doctors thought I had it and never tested me", and asked if there was a test. Nonnas I wanted to cry. They didn't even bother to try to test her and just told her to swallow some pills to try and fix her life. I got results from a transvaginal ultrasound and they've had them since the 80s. Hell they could've ran bloodwork on her and saw her hormones were most likely screwed up. I hate the current world we live in nonnas but I am so, so glad that I did not grow up when my mother did. I would've pulled a Sylvia Plath.

>>176536
Those aren't cyst that's just inflamed ovaries. It's like cutting of your nose to stop a nosebleed, it won't do anything and another part of your ovary would inflame.

The best way to stop hormonal problems is to live an active lifestyle. Then your various body processes will sort themselves out, as the root cause is likely multiple things in disharmony.

>>561324
omg i do this too but never realised its a habit from my previous disordered eating days. Do you work from home? Because for me it gets awkward at work every day when my coworkers can see that i am not having lunch lmao, I say I'm doing OMAD and prefer snacking throughout the day.

I have no idea how to 'snack' on food. I see people making snack videos all the time and I honestly can't relate as a binge eater. The minute food is in front of me its gone. For years I have tried snacking, and I find it impossible. If I eat something and wait, my brain doesn't allow that waiting period at all and immediately goes in for the next bite. Unrelated but this was the same problem with drinking, to which I developed an addiction to as well. For me its black and white, either its not in front of me, or if it is, its being eaten/drunk immediately. Have I tried all the breathing techniques, counting techniques, mindfulness things, yes I have. Have they worked? Not at all.

Literally what is the point in healing from this disorder if its one of the few things that makes me wanna kill myself a little bit less. Like theres very little to my life it fucking sucks

>>564645
Theres a gene in human body that makes you more suspectible to developing addictions I think its that. It is passed down from one of the parents, I think that having a type of brain that is naturally more suspectible to developing addictions (whether food or weed or alcohol or whatever) is a neurodivergency even though it is not aknowledged as one by the wider psychiatric community. Kind of makes me wonder if food just tastes better to us than non binge eaters. Really wish there was some sort of study one this

>>561324
I'm glad it's working for you, but be mindful whe there are changes in your habits or routines. I did the same, and what I was left with when I started studying again was normal regular eating cycle plus the binging.

>>586035
im not the original “spiritual” anon but yeah sure

>>586035
>both options are retarded
So having sex is retarded? You're free to think that.

ive never fucked anyone and hope i one day mutually lose my virginity to a hot guy even though its impossible atp because im old fat and ugly

>>586134
Based as hell

>>586134
ayrt, based. ty anon this gave me comfort

>>585051
When I started, Meta had only just begun to ship overseas and shipping and customs made it ridiculously expensive, like €400 for a basic JSK. Meta wasn’t exactly coveted back then either (with few exceptions) so I don’t know anyone who ordered from them. The only ‘shopping services’ were friends/family who travelled to Japan for work or holiday and could buy dresses in-store for you. The only other option was Bodyline, which was even shittier back then and sold for almost brand prices at conventions. Ironically my local comm was genuinely elitist then and the inner circle was this tiny club of girls who could afford to travel to Japan once a year and shop in-store. Everyone else was on the margins, kind of awkwardly socialising at cons and other public events but not allowed in the ‘official’ lolita community. I remember trying to talk to the brand girls after a fashion show they’d organised at a con once, wearing a handmade dress, and they completely ignored me, like pretended I wasn’t there and they couldn’t hear me talking. I was 14 and cried when I got home kek

Anyway it’s wild to me when people act like the lolita community in 2025 is elitist and the clothes are hard to get. It has never been easier to wear lolita or find a community that accepts you. There’s people in my comm now who post ‘coords’ that consist largely of Genshin Impact cosplay pieces and people still praise them. The bar is on the floor.

>>585943
That's very similar to my experience when I started out in maybe 2010. I would've killed for something like Lacemarket back then. However in Germany we had this small social media website to share coords with that also had a 2nd hand clothing section so it was possible to get your hands on burando already. There used to be a big section to help you coordinate and that helped explain rules too so everything you need to start out. RIP Dunkelsüß

>>585785
As >>585794 said you should try washing and air-drying first. Maybe add vinegar in the softener compartment if your piece can handle it as vinegar's really efficient at getting smells out. If you freeze your skirt don't stretch the shirring until it gets back to room temperature, that way the elastic should stay mostly intact.

New thread here >>>/g/585962
Nonna who made it didn't post link and I accidentally made a repeat and had to delete kek, so I'm posting it.