>What was your relationship with your mom like as a child?
Growing up, my mom made herself seem like she was the nicest person in the world. She gave me permission to do things behind my dad's back, like eat extra candy and watch TV shows and listen to music with bad words in them. She also let me hang out with kids in the neighborhood and friends from school were able to come over at anytime, as long as before my dad got home they were supposed to go home so I wouldn't get yelled at. Dad was the enemy. I remember writing a blog post back on MySpace about how I was so afraid of my dad because of the memories of him spanking me and our family would be better off without him, they always talked about how they were going to divorce and I got happier each time they said it would happen. There was a time we left him to go live with my aunt for about half a year, but he came back. I also remember the time she told me how my dad was playing favorites between me and my sister and how my dad's side of the family bought my sister so many presents for Christmas and not me. I also felt closer to her because my grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins I spent the most time with growing up were on my mom's side. The biggest struggle our family had were financial issues and from my young childhood until I was in high school, I always heard from my mom about how poor we were. How we always didn't have money and how my dad would spend so much money and leave us with nothing.>What's your relationship with your mom like now?
I've gone no contact with her. I haven't directly spoken to her for almost 8 years now.
After I got my first job, my friends started pointing out to me how my mom wasn't innocent either for demanding money from me and demanding I get a higher paying job when my paycheck wasn't enough for what she wanted money for. She tried making me pay for car insurance for a new car, which was about $400 a month. Eventually I moved out. Even after moving out, she tried to get money out of me through phone bills, because the phone I used was on my family's line, I calculated it was going to be $30 a month, but she said it'd be $175, and I remember going to my dad saying that wasn't right because then it's like I'm paying for my grandpa and sister's line. There was a point I didn't have a job and stayed with my aunt and she realized I didn't know how to properly take care of my hygiene, shePost too long. Click here to view the full text.