/g/ - girl talk

This is going to sound esoteric as fuck, but I am so picky about my "horny content" that I only want artsy, sexually suggestive content that mustn't even be explicitly sexual - there just has to be so much intense sexual tension and sexual symbolism between the two characters that it feels basically the same as an actual sex scene. It's like I need to go beyond the sexual into the psychosexual to feel truly near to just humping my bedframe out of hornyness. Maybe it's because everything now is so porny but not at all erotic. I feel like David Lynch is the only person who truly gets what I mean by this. If I and David Lynch's brain could have sex with each other (while also being seperate from their bodies), I would.
>>436313
Sounds like you have enough self respect but just to reiterate - don't go down that road. It's not even fun.

>>436442
you mean you literally want to have sex with a human brain? Are you a serial killer?

>>436442
so nona i should start watching twin peaks? does it have this content you speak of?

>>436449
no, no, i want both of our brains to have sex. Somehow.
>>436451
I haven't seen Twin peaks apart from the first few episodes, but a lot of his movies are… Like that. Lost Highway and especially Mulholland Drive have the content similar to what I'm talking about. Blue Velvet is explicitly sexual, and it's pretty dark, so idk if i would count that one. Honestly Lynch is just a powerful Hollywood pervert but I can't lie that I think his stuff is pretty tasteful.

>>436442
>there just has to be so much intense sexual tension and sexual symbolism between the two characters that it feels basically the same as an actual sex scene
I totally get you nona. I enjoy plain, in-your-face sex depictions too but it's so much better with a good, long tension build up

>>436122
There are hospitals where you can volunteer to be a baby cuddler. You can help care for NICU babies or abandoned babies.

More parenting than baby talk but I don't really know where else to discuss this. I have a five year old daughter who is really into princesses, ballerinas, unicorns etc. and is now starting to get interested in makeup and jewellery, including piercings. She has friends her age who just got their ears pierced and now she wants it, too. She's also asking for makeup for Christmas. Her father and I agree we're not going to encourage this but we're surrounded by people who see nothing wrong with it. Her best friend's mom actually bought her a makeup kit for her 5th birthday but fortunately she forgot about it in the chaos of the party and we managed to hide it. I don't want my five year old wearing mascara and lipgloss. Just no.

Every feminist parenting discussion I read always revolves around gnc kids, meaning girls who don't want to be 'girly' and boys who do. The consensus is always to not force girls into dresses or forbid boys from liking the colour pink, because that just causes issues further down the line. But I don't think you can compare boys who like to dress up as Elsa for Halloween to girls who want to wear high heels to preschool. The boys will almost certainly grow out of it, and even if they don’t gnc men will still benefit from patriarchy while gender conforming women are exploited by it. How do I steer my girl away from harmful aspects of gender without making her feel bad for being a girl and liking relatively harmless ‘girly’ things? Most adults I know can’t seem to differentiate between the two and think that me not wanting my preschooler to get into makeup means I must’ve wanted a boy instead. I don’t care if she likes pink and unicorns, I just don’t want her to get sucked into beauty culture at five years old. Someone tell me I’m not crazy, please.

>>436394
You're not crazy. I wonder if you can shift the usage of makeup away from the traditional and turn it into something fun? For instance, use the makeup to paint a butterfly on her face or something. It turns it into a sort of creative expression and something that's again, fun, rather than the idea of having to correct or change appearance to appeal to others. Some makeup can even be used kind of like art supplies. This is unfortunately a really tough situation that's very hard to navigate.

>>436394
Hopefully you're already controlling her internet/tv usage and have blocked anything to do with makeup. Kids want these things because they see other people with them. Girls want makeup because they see their mom do it. So try not to wear or do your makeup in front of her.
I don't know if you can get her to stop wanting it, but you can get here to want other things instead. Lead by example and show her other cool things she can like, show that you and your partner are interested in them. If you show an interest in something, she'll likely want to copy you.

>>436124
>sperglets
Hard pass. I imagine if I had normie kids they would find a way to manipulate me. Thanks for the reminder.

>>435983
If your hair doesn't have problems with frizz and you can confidently maintain your waves it won't be a problem, just make sure you go to a reputable hairdresser and get the layers blended really well. You hair might sit weird unstyled for a week or two jsyk.
I have wavy hair, got a shag, and my biggest gripe is how I can't really keep it moisturized at the same time because the shorter layers are closer to my scalp and putting conditioner on my scalp means I will have greasy-ass hair on the second day. I really do not think shags are super beneficial towards growing out hair, but if you're happy with the length you're at then it's no biggie. They're really cute once you get the hang of it.

>>435986
Ayrt and my hair is super frizzy at times, thanks for the heads up

Hi Nonnas, I'm having some problems with my scalp recently. I've recently developed a stinky scalp after never having the issue before - the smell is like cat food or cheese I suppose. It's pretty gross. My bf also developed a stinky scalp around the time so I thought it might be fungal (gross I know), but nothing has managed to get rid of it for either of us.

What I've tried so far: replacing our bed pillows and washing the linens more regularly (pillow cases get washed twice a week), bleaching our towels, replacing and washing brushes, multiple rounds of dandruff treatment shampoo with ketaconazol, and generally increasing shampooing. I have really dry hair and I feel like it actually gets worse the more dry my hair is, which makes me feel like it's a sebum overproduction issue. I also considered it may be diet-related, however my boyfriend and I have very different diets with little overlap, so I don't think that could be the issue. I also drink a ton of water every day.

The only thing that has slightly improved the situation is using a few drops of tea tree oil in my shampoo and letting it sit on my hair for a bit, then shampooing again and absolutely slathering my hair in conditioner. However this only holds the smell off, as my scalp will still smell again as soon as I do any physical activity that results in sweating.

I typically use a rosemary clarifying shampoo and scalp brush when I wash my hair, and now sometimes the dandruff shampoo - though I don't have any "real" dandruff, and it really dries out my scalp which seems to make the smell worse. I also blow dry my hair after a shower. Any ideas?? I have a really strong sense of smell and it's absolutely driving me nuts. I can smell it as soon as I step out of the shower, and the smell becomes more noticeable if I sweat.

>>436048
If tea tree oil is working why not buy tea tree shampoo? Also perhaps time try any antibacterial topical medications. At least here topical ointments and creams are available without prescription not sure about where you are. I would switch off between using antifungals and antibacterials in addition to keeping everything clean or using a cheap travel kit for hair hygiene to dispose of later. If it doesnt help at all I would seek a professional.

Da have a haircut suggestion for thin fine 2B hair?

My face looks similar to Sevdaliza's, but not long as hers and a bit more broad. I cut it at collarbone length but it's still looks dull and flat

>>436212
You don't have to trip, just microdosing works wonders for a lot of the issues I had, not only depression, but also anxiety, focus, energy levels, learning, etc. afaik ketamine doesn't really heal anything in your brain, but shrooms cause neurogenesis

>>436215
How do you do that? Could you direct me to some trustworthy resources about it?

I've been taking venlafaxine since june due to recurring depressive episodes, avoidant personality disorder and anxiety. Started with 37,5 mg. I felt like shit for the first two weeks, had headaches and felt like I was playing a third person video game. At week 3 everything kind of normalized. My inhibitions were kind of down and I wasn't ruminating about social interactions anymore and people noticed it at work. I now have colleagues that want to have lunch with me and I got better at socializing. I did not know that I had a personality besides being shy and insecure. I am now at 75 mg and the doctor said that we don't have to increase the dosage anymore. I'll probably have to take the medication for a long while due to the recurring depressive episodes (had them since I was 12). I am also seeing a therapist for the avoidant personality disorder. I do have side effects like lowered libido and night sweats but to me that isn't too bad and I've always had issues with intimacy so nothings really lost.

>>436040
no but I adore it for recreational use !!!

>>266731
came back to this as its almost our seven year anniversary and felt like adding more.

>each others firsts everything
>grew up where the women in his family took care of the money and thus i manage the money
>this allows me not to have a job and buy a house in my name paid off. plus huge savings
>spending six months in europe in total that he paid for
>i can unabashedly be myself and all my retarded quirks, he loves me for me and i truly believe that
>he finds me beautiful when im haggard and i know deep down he does
>i can be the most nasty bitch but he will still be in my corner and hyping me up
>honestly my biggest supporter and cant say enough when he is proud of me
>a hidden bleeding heart, he loves cats and helping other people
>emotionally intelligent, hes introspective and humble.
>he can read me very well, we are very synced up and he can easily tell when something is off
>our values and politics align so well
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>>433327
i'm very distanced from my ex nowadays so idk a lot about him but I heard he got arrested (temporarily) and fired from his job and I saw his old friends laughing at him and posting screencaps of him having meltdowns over them trolling him. so it sounds like he is suffering

>>433485
nona, this is so sweet. i hope someday to find a love like this. best wishes to you both, seriously!

>>433855
thank you anon<3 I hope you find the one that fits right in your life as well.(emoji)

>>433485
I'm so happy for you nonna. I'm an earlier anon in this thread and we're coming up five years and the honeymoon period doesn't seem to exist because we're still so deeply in love and the butterflies happen and I just know he's my forever person. I hate moids but he's made me realise there's a couple good eggs out there.

>>434938
Bad idea to go abroad because if you experience any issues after the surgery, you won't be able to follow up. Some people have extreme swelling that doesn't go down without steroid shots and you need to be able to get back to the doc for that. Also not sure it would be worth the cost just for bulbousness. Depends on how much it bothers you daily, I guess. Mine was super wide (wider than my mouth) and had a big hump so it was worth it for me because the change was significant.

>>436017
Am I illiterate? how was your nose tip wider than your mouth. I think that’s physiologically impossible.

>>436028
Not the tip, I meant the nostrils.

>>426333
Unless you’ve never had a baby, a totally flat stomach is possible.
If you’ve ever been pregnant or have been a fatty mcbutterchubs, or have a hernia a flat stomach a tummy tuck or abdominal surgery might be the solution.
I have diastisis recti (or however you spell it) from 2 pregnancies, and before the pregnancies I was super skinny, till I had 2 c sections, which I wasn’t told about binding or wearing an abdominal binder, so no matter what I had a “pouch” of fat, and no matter how much excersises, fat burning treatments, dieting etc I still had loose skin below my belly button, that made me incredibly uncomfortable and the diastisis recti made my life hell (back pain, incontience when sneezing, and inability to do regular crunches without my guys coming thru the opening) yuck I know!
It’s incredibly sad that cosmetic surgery is our only relief for this shit.
I’m getting my mini tuxk with muscle repair and I’m so nervous nonies

How tf do you fix monkey lips? Aka, long ass philtrum, deep nasolabial folds, and weird maxilla protrusion

>>304881
I just asked my mom for a Revlon one-step for Christmas. I have super thick heavy hair and straightening it makes me look like snape.

>>214370
I miss cute, fun bras too. Hot Topic used to sell bras like picrel with skulls and such on them. I haven't been able to find anything like this currently sold in stores. I've seen some like this at Torrid, but I'm nowhere near a 38+ band. Killstar maybe, but they're all flimsy bralettes. I want patterned bras with structure, as of now most choices of bras are boring curtain floral or basic bland.

>>214213
Short shorts for men.

>>435925
I don't know about this one, men are largely out or shape now compared to when this was in style.

cute accessories

How do you even deal with bipolar i? I just can't figure out how to take care of myself, even though I've been through a variety of medications and therapists. My last manic episode went on for months and I still don't feel fully recovered, and now I'm worried I'm heading toward another. I am at a loss here. I'm tired of being a total piece of shit, but nothing has helped and I've been showing symptoms for years now.

>>424696
I don't know how to stop it and I'm pretty sure my BP2 is now BP1, I was going to try other therapies since traditional talk therapy combined with meds is no longer enough… maybe dbt but I'm very bad at completing my lessons last I tried.

>>424696
you need a really, really good psychiatrist that you TRUST and A LOT of medication. i found out recently that manic/psychosis episodes can be so traumatic they give you ptsd. i know i have that because i play out my manic psychosis episodes in my head over and over again and just feel guilty and hopeless and insane. but it's not true. you're a good person and you can get better. medication is by far the best way to treat bipolar and you have to continue taking those medications for the rest of your life.

My depression is getting worse and worse. I'm losing all faith in humanity. Most people honestly sicken me. I dont feel at home anywhere, I dont fit in anywhere. I feel like an alien. I have a bf but he doesnt understand me at all and gets mad when I express any kind of negative feelings, he almost always makes me feel worse too because of how superficial and selfish he is. I wonder if I should just shut myself in my room forever.

>>435920
Throw the whole scrote away first

i've never had many friends, as my family moved way too much due to my retarded dad being unable to keep one job, and he always wanted to reinvent himself somewhere new. so, i don't think i learned how to properly socialize. my parents also didn't have that many friends, besides our relatives who we varyingly saw spread out across 3 countries. i got no model for how human relationships work.

my family spent time in ukraine, turkey (parents countries) and the usa (my birthplace,) and i was homeschooled for part of the times in the usa because we lived in a ghetto area but then i also just switched schools a lot. so i would definitely play with other kids when i was younger, however, i didn't really get close to them or see them outside of school because i didn't ever feel it was permanent or that i could get attached to one place. i just made up all these imaginary friends to entertain myself, and when i was like 12 i just started spending all my time on the internet and making friends online.

in high school i was painfully shy and i didnt really make an effort to talk to anybody. i probably seemed closed-off and rude, but i literally just didnt know how to start conversations with people. i used to wish people would come up to me and start talking to me, but i'd just be on my phone talking to my internet friends during the school day lmao. in university i hoped i'd make more friends and some people would invite me to do things at first, but it genuinely did not occur to my retarded ass that if i wanted to build friendships i had to talk to people actively and invite them to do things outside of just talking in class. i think a lot of people just thought i was uninterested as i never initiated anything, even though i always got excited when someone asked me to hang out, i just expected the other person to always do it.

i dated online as a teenager and had one cringe real life boyfriend because he was the first person to ever give me romantic attention in my life, but that lasted very shortly. i dont want a relationship tbh, i dont feel like im missing out on that. i do wish i had one or a few female best friends but thats just another thing i sort of daydream about because i dont think its logistically feasible without significant effort i dont care enough to put in lol

i feel like i do not think of other people that much and dont naturally feel lonely, because of this. like i said, i'd be really happy if someone asked mePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I cannot wait for winter. There is something so depressing about waking up on a saturday & sunday morning in the summer with no plans so, I just stay home and scroll the internet and watch tv shows. I have been watching sharp objects and I really relate to Amy adam's character, listening to music to disassociate, drinking alone, etc. That is what I did last night and what I will do today. I do not drink everyday though,just the weekend.

>>426493
I had a solid friend group growing up, but I became severely depressed at 18 and by the time I felt well enough to not cry in my room all day me and my friends had just drifted too far apart. I did have one friend who'd occasionally check in and hang out with me once in a blue moon, but I haven't seen her since last year. Asked her out a few times in the last year but she always made an excuse to bail, even when we were meant to go out for my birthday. She discovered Christianity so I guess I just don't fit into her life anymore because of my sexuality and (non-Christian) religious background.
I didn't make friends in college either because I dropped out after a few months due to my mental health issues. And now I've lost all my social skills. I used to be able to hold a conversation like a normal person but now I can barely think of things to say. Even with my one friend I sometimes hung out with our conversations had awkward gaps despite us being childhood friends. And when I do rack my brains forcing myself to talk I just annoy people.
I really wish I could go back in time and smother the guy who SA'd me as a baby or something, because if he didn't exist I would be a normal twenty something with friends, a degree, and no history of mental illness.

I grew up as a only child so I'm not sure if that contributed to living a lonely life style, but I have a problem with liking people. I've always had problems relating to other people. One time a girl in high-school saw me sitting alone and made a compliment on my jewelry. She asked if I wanted to be friends I told her no. Nothing was wrong with her, she seemed nice, I just didn't want to make friends. When people force their way into my life, I feel like I make excuses as to why I don't like them. Someone could say one thing I find off putting and I convince myself that they probably suck. Maybe it's a defense mechanism due to childhood trauma and abandonment? Like I just want to get it over with. I don't know. Sometimes it is incredibly isolating and I feel like I can't talk to anyone when I do have a problem going on in life. But because I don't really reach out I feel like a burden even considering dumping my feelings on someone. It's my own fault really.

>>434572
her being christian shouldn't make her not want to be friends with you cause of a different religious or sexual background, it comes down to personal reasons like anything else

>>428556
That's real crochet anon

>>428645
Aww thank you nonna! I should be able to finish my cat this week if I don't break my two remaining needles.

Any ideas for small projects I can make while on a long plane ride? Thinking of maybe gifting it to some friends I'm meeting with.

>>428607
Nonna I wish you could see the reaction this is getting from me. I am so mesmerized. I can't crochet or knit for shit but fate simply brought me to this amulet

Can I do pic related with elastic thread to tighten up part of a garment in stocking stitch? I just finished knitting myself a sweater vest that was supposed to have negative ease in the waist but ended up stretchier than intended so now it’s a bit baggier than I would’ve liked. I’ve only seen people use this technique in ribbed cuffs and necklines.