/g/ - girl talk

>>286793
I used to dye my hair red (as in ginger) because I loved the contrast with dark clothing. I did try black at some point but it just looks better on other people. With make-up, I borrowed more from japanese fashion magazines and used muted browns and plums, sometimes blues, to create "pseudo-black" eyeshadow looks that would look more flattering on my skin tone and features, and bitten lip look in the darkest red I could find.
I'm not going to blog my entire life story but basically I couldn't afford to be ugly and it forced me to come up with my own stuff and experiment and my hairmake ended up becoming my "brand". Now I'm more like you.

It's very possible to keep an interesting style even if you don't use make-up or hair dye imo. I think it's better to focus on your personal influences, rather than whether your look will be perceived as Undeniably Goth or not. You'll never be able to flex on the Killstar alt zoomers kek don't waste your time

>>286871
Agree. Also I'd love to know what your staple outfits are like, my sensory issues only get worse and I can't find anything wearable anymore.

>>286793
the white base and black hair aesthetic depends a lot on ethnicity imo. i'd never dye my hair black because it is already dark brown and my skin is also brown, it would only enhance my ethnicity instead of giving me a ghostly look. but a black eyeliner is more than enough to make an outfit.

>>286793
Analyzing what you have said here, it makes me think you're focusing too much on the physical appearance and thinking that in order to be a true goth, you have to look a certain way by wearing a ton of makeup and having a certain hair color.
My response to that is just don't sweat it. Don't worry about dressing a certain way and doing things that you may not want to do aesthetically. Goth is music-based and all you need is to just listen to the music among the other music you listen to.

Now if you're just asking this question with genuine interest on what goths think of when it comes to not dressing like a stereotypical goth or alternative person? I don't mind at all. I do tend to wear mostly black because I simply like how it looks on me but I've also worn other colors. And I nope, I don't buy gOfF fashion like Killstar neither, most of my stuff is either basic or thrifted.
I have kept my hair black though because I just don't think I'd look good with other hair colors but that's just my personal choice.

>>286871
All of this, is so right on.
>Personally, since I'm an autist and have my sensitivity issues, I've dropped nail polish, heavy jewelry, certain synthetic fabrics. Makeup, as in full face, I reserve for band concerts. For daily life a simple black eyeliner is enough.

I'm kinda the same way as well as a fellow autist. I'll still occasionally paint my nails but not as much as I used to and I rarely ever do full on makeup looks anymore neither since it just made me feel uncomfortable and I find that I'm more than fine with good old black eyeliner and the occasional subtle black eyeshadow paired with it when the mood strikes.

>>286975
>I did try black at some point but it just looks better on other people
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>>287141
Thank you for your replies, nonnies!
>>287421
I think you're under the wrong impression, I was rather arguing the opposite and just asking for personal opinions. Thanks for your reply too, nona!

old BBC documentary about goth/punk/alt fashion in 1983

>>288253
Sent you a mail earlier this morning with my alt

>>288119
>Were you able to trust again and eventually found someone worthy?

Yes, but never as quickly. Manipulators cant wear masks forever and the overwhelming majority cant do so for very long. Taking things slowly with a person when it comes to opening up is the easiest way of weeding these types of people out even if it is never perfect.

>>288119

i broke up with the ‘ebf’ and now i feel so alone i don wanna go back to him but i need someone to throw words at. im friendless both irl and online what do i do

>>289082
Post on LC. Make new online friends. Get a pen pal. Take up a hobby that you can share with others. Join a group or club IRL. I don't mean to be harsh but your situation is not hopeless, nor is it unique. There's tons of advice on making friends all over /g/ and /ot/ and the web in general. You may be lonely, and that is very difficult and sad, but it won't kill you, and you have the power to make new connections and seek new friends. Less self pity, more action please! You're already on the right track by reaching out like this.

>>289090
thank you anon, i’ll take steps to put myself out there

>>285684
The rest sounds fine, like you're straight from an anime but
>chokers
it's kinda in the name, you don't think that could potentially be dangerous if it gets caught on anything? kek

So basically like killing eve, but worse. I want an older woman to be obsessed with me to an unhealthy degree. I want her to be so devoted she'd kill for me. In return I would be the perfect little housewife and worship her, let her take the lead. I want to give myself over completely to her and let her abuse me whatever ways she wants. It all comes back to control for me…Would it be healthy? No but it would turn me on. In my head she's very intelligent, a professor or lawyer or something, and she treats me like I'm stupid when she talks to me. Bonus points if she demeans me in front of her friends while I serve them.

>>288880
are you me? i've been obsessed with almost this exact scenario lately except i'm having career/money stress so it's taken on a sugar mama/boss angle kek

>>288891
Lol the boss angle is also good. Where do we find these older women is the question though kek

the fantasy is any woman tolerating my ugly, dumpy, diseased loser leper self.

now… the -fantasy- is being absolutely bullied by a slightly taller, more preppy/polished woman in an office setting. she laughs while aggressively making fun of me and my work, sure, but it isn't high school and she doesn't have an audience to laugh with her anymore. she still bullies me a bit at work, not as often but the little things. tries to trip me when I'm too near the cubicles or in the tiny break room. "God anon! look where the fuck you're walking for once! Is the floor that interesting, yet you somehow missed my _expensive brand name nice leather shoes_?!"

"God anon, you've been working on that fucking credit card statement sheet for maintenance crew, what, all fucking day? How hard is it to punch some numbers? Its already half done when you get it! I could have been done hours ago. God."

I muster an apology, but never able to really look her in the eye or at her, really.

Maybe she escalates a bit. "accidentally" spilling water or food on my plain button up shirt. "Ugh, god," she thinks, "you really need to learn how to dress yourself anyway, that shirt was disgusting even before you got my tea on it, God anon, how did you even manage to do that? It's called walking like a fucking normal human being. Look up sometimes. God."

Just a tall, mild bully. she enjoys it but it starts to feel too childish. it's kind of silly isn't it isn't? isn't she a professional now? her paychecks say so. she's whittled that student loan almost all the way down. She can actually start living soon, the way adults are supposed to. new apartment.. maybe one day,, townhome? condo? regardless, maybe it's time to stop. isn't she too old for this stuff? we're professionals. why the focus on me? I'm just a crappy worker, not a criminal or something.

She decides to lay off, see how it feels for a few days. But walking by my desk, she can't help but scoff at how disorganized I am. "What the fuck are you working on, anon, tornado clean up? Did a typhoon blow through the perimeter of just your desk?" I give a shy, nervous laugh. Any attention is good. Any acknowledgement? Good.

She looks me over and thinks to herself, "she just looks so nerdy in those big glasses. fucking grandma aesthetic, not even in the cute cottageshit insta way. maybe cute in a gross retro way but… no, just ridiculois. too autistic for contacts. loser.Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>288794
HELP

>>288794
BAREPRO longwear lipstick in boysenberry? If you cant get that one then I'd find a high rated one and look for swatch charts

>>288933
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>>288934
Nta but I feel like Raisin is closer! It depends on nonna's skin tone, too I think. It's a pretty color

being a loner is somewhat tolerable when you live in a disassociative state with no connection to what goes on in other people's lives, as soon i take the leap to reassimilate it rips the wound open all over again. i have no idea what its like to not be a background character anymore

I unironically do just use dating apps to get some kind of a socialization rush. Even know I'm drinking and thinking about how fun it'd be just to go out and talk about life and shit with a stranger shitfaced, I'm not even interested in sex stuff, I just want to be out downtown having drunk fun. I have no friends and college-aged kids feel way too young to leech onto for company. And I don't want to actually ask any guy out because they'll think I want a lay, while I just want that stupid early adulthood stuff I mostly missed out on.

Internet has ruined me to the point where i find it difficult socialising with people thinking they are too normie and predictable. The guys I meet IRL seem like they have no personality, and therefore spark no interest in me meanwhile the guys I meet on random discord servers seem much more interesting. I don't think I can ever find genuine friends with this type of outlook and know I sound like a horrible person.

>>288907
I don't think you're horrible, just used to instant gratification. People are so much more interesting online, perhaps because they can be more candid and outlandish? And if these are interest-based servers you're likely to run into people very similar to you, with an almost immediate camaraderie or mutual understanding. Nothing like offline interactions where you get stuck in small talk and trying to appear socialiable and it takes forever to get to the really interesting stuff people have in their heads. Maybe try to stick it out a bit longer? I can't vouch for any man being worth talking to (they're all empty inside lol) but normies in general may have some unique thoughts, things they can teach you, or just offer you good company if you're willing to relax and open up to the experience. Could it be you're afraid of them having written you off in much the same way— like "oh she's too weird"— so you deride and reject them preemptively? Not trying to therapise, I just know I can get like that at times myself. Anyways I hope you can make some good friends and have a riveting conversation or too. I'm rooting for you Nonette

>>288907
I'm the same way since I'm terminally online even though I'm busy with grad school. I really wish I had female friends though. All my online friends happen to be men and I guess it's because I'm more comfortable speaking my mind around them. All my classmates just seem way too normie for me and I have doubts I'll ever really be friends with them.

>>288922
>Could it be you're afraid of them having written you off in much the same way— like "oh she's too weird"— so you deride and reject them preemptively?
Really guilty of this btw. I'm a diagnosed autist so years and years of poor social experiences among other things has made my mindset default to preemptively reject normies. Rejection and traumatic events in my life furthermore has also made me super closed off to everyone.

Monica Belucci was 36 in this movie.

>>267913
she supported polanski so i have mixed feelings about her

>>267045
>>267276
That's so cool! Never heard of her, but now I will check her work out. I love seeing women ruling.

>>201923
She seems like such a wonderful and kind woman. Good for her. It's terrifying what she's doing, but we need this change. this is why i dont understand women who support islam or that horrible culture where marrying children off and not allowing women to go to school is 'normal.' I truly hope she succeeds and make the change we need.

>>207951
Cassandra has always been my hero and it made me so happy for her when she came out. She is so amazing.

i used to love binge eating. i don’t really binge anymore but i love the feeling of being full after eating.

>>286025
progress isn't linear, nona. you will be ok <3

Does anyone have experience with Wellbutrin as an appetite suppressant combined with exercise and attempts at portion control (I relapse once a month)? I can't afford Vyvanse so this may be my only option.

>>286025
Under 800 sounds super restrictive

>>288775
I currently use 150mg and I guess it's somewhat effective. You still need to have your own sense of self control not to eat when you are not hungry.

I have a canker sore right by my unerupted wisdom tooth and it hurts like a bitch. I keep on applying benzocaine gel to it but it keeps on wearing off within half an hour. Should I try to seek medical assistance? The pain is unbearable without any numbing but I can't apply anymore gel without getting scared of methemoglobinemia kek

>>272804
Yup. My dad wore his gums away from using a really hard toothbrush when he was a kid. Had to get corrective surgery for it.

Does anyone have experience with facings?

>>272804
Yes! Soft bristle brushes are the way to go. Often times, we brush harder than we need to because we like the “clean” feeling it provides, I catch myself going too hard all the time. But a light exfoliation of the teeth twice daily is enough!

>>273318
Keep the area clean nona! Maybe some salt water rinses to placate the canker, if you’re a chronic canker sore sufferer, a dentist could prescribe medicated “magic” mouthwash. The proximity of the sore to the wisdom tooth is worrisome though. If you’ve got the insurance for it or the extra cash, make a “limited exam” with your dentist. They can evaluate the area without the super high treatment costs.

>>288833
I have plenty of experience gluing them back on when they inevitably fall off! I’m a little bias, but I really dislike facings/veneers. As a dental-fag, I think a comparable result can be accomplished with aesthetic composite work!

I’m so excited to find this thread! I’ll help as many people as I can!! Luv u nonas

>>268118
Even professional whitening will cause a little sensitivity afterward, but it should be temporary. I know you did so as a child, but there’s really no good “DIY” whitening method, but what you used shouldn’t be permanently damaging. It’s difficult to say what the holes in your teeth are without a picture. As a starting point, I would invest in a nice sensitivity tooth paste like Sensodyne pronamel. I would also pick up ACT fluoride mouthwash, this will also help with sensitivity and protect that enamel!! I also recommend limiting your coffee/soda consumption. Easier said than done, but the acid in those beverages are exacerbating everything. Please don’t feel so self conscious about it. Teeth are never naturally white, and never naturally perfect.

As for the chip you noticed, if it’s straight across and lacking a jagged edge it could still be attrition. If you have the means, I implore you to see a dentist for a general cleaning/exam. If you have any anxiety about showing the dentists your teeth, please know they LIVE for cases like yours. There’s really nothing you can show us that would scare us away!! I hope this helps a little!

>>288724
I'm glad to share! Feels good to learn more about female anatomy.

I'm thinking about getting a copper IUD. I've been on the pill since I was about 16 to help manage my period, but I'm not sure that I like how I feel when I'm on it. The main thing that's stopping me from making the switch is that I'm really freaked out by gynecology and the actual insertion of the IUD itself. I enjoy sex and have no problems with penetration, but medical procedures involving my vagina really freak me out, to the point where I can feel nauseous or even faint just thinking about them. I think I had some traumatic childhood events involving the puberty talk/pregnancy at school that made me like this lol Can anyone offer some support or advice about going through with it?

im in my mid twenties and autistic. never masturbated, had sex or used tampons and i've always hated having to reach down there to wash myself but yesterday I grabbed a mirror and looked at myself for the first time. feel like a loser for feeling proud of something that seems like an adult woman has done many times already. i wish i could shave but im too scared of hurting myself there

>>288715
Speaking of bartholin glands, I had a cyst on one of them back when I was a teen and when it went away, the gland turned into loose saggy skin and actually hangs out of my vag. I'm extremely insecure about how lopsided and ugly it all is. Is it over for me? Nothing I can do except surgery? Looked up surgery pics before and the surgery stitches looked awful too

Is it normal for your cervix to just open and close throughout the day? My period's due this week and I read that your cervix is supposed to be firm and closed, but mine has been alternating between soft and kinda open (almost like during ovulation) to closed up like it should be. I have my usual PMS symptoms and normal levels of discharge (really thick and white, not a lot of it) so idk if I'm just being paranoid over nothing or if I should get it checked out.

Where can I find old 2ch lolita thread translations? I read some ages ago and can't find them again

Nonas, how do you dress when you're not in lolita? Are any of you lifestylers? I wear gothic and old school and my regular clothes were always pretty similar in style, I used to dress like a tradgoth when I was a teen and really into darkwave. I went through some realizations and reflected on a lot of things and now more often than not dress in baggy, masculine clothes and tbh I really like the contrast and how surprised people are when they see me wearing lolita/fred durst looking shit for the first time

>>288536
When I am not dressed up in a Lolita coordinate I am wearing some sort of mall goth/cute punk style. Hysteric Glamour, ETC, Milk, and Putumayo are all cycling my daily wear… but Metamorphose and Moitie are the brands I am more delicate with.

>>288536
You’re transgender

>>288613
Funny because my reflection was that I should embrace dressing gnc more often and not focus on performing feminity so much, keep dilating though