/g/ - girl talk

>>203652
>>203597
like i literally said people keep saying I am a chad chaser when my husband looks like the ugly virgin freak

>>203596
Stop posting in whatever place you're doing it that has people talking to you that way. Come on girl.

>>203654
ive just been on image boards for 12 years, and nobody on reddit ever replies to my posts

I'm in a weird situation because I was initially dating up with this guy since I was fat/crazy/didn't know how to dress and he was just a slightly chubby guy who had his shit together. But now, a few years into the relationship, I lost all of the excess weight, started dressing nice again and taking care of myself and stopped being a mentally ill neet and it definitely feels like I'm dating down. I feel horrible even saying this because I love him a lot but I'm just not really sexually attracted to fat men (he gained weight) with no fashion sense (he really tries but he's just awful at it). I don't know how to bring up his weight without offending him. I catch myself fantasizing about attractive men who aren't him almost every day and it feels so wrong

>>203679
If you want to try to work things out with him you have to say something. It’s true appearance is not the most important thing in relationships but it is a factor and being fat truly is bad for the body. Tell him you want the best for his health and that you’ve enjoyed losing some weight and how it’s made you feel and would like to include him. I would assume you live together? Help him with meal planning, dump all snacks and unhealthy foods in the house, ask to involve him in whatever workouts you do. Wardrobe ought to fix itself if he loses weight since his clothes won’t be the right size anymore. When he eventually needs replacements tell him you’d like to come along and help him pick better stuff. Give lots of compliments and say what you find attractive, and when he sees himself in something half decent he should go along with it.

>>203495
Sports clubs.

>>203495
book clubs? You gotta go out and just hang around a specific area consistently. Preferably somewhere where talking is necessary

>>174646
>>174654
>>202747
Sorry if this is newfagging, but to second what >>202869 is saying, everyone here keeps mentioning woman-only Discord servers, but no one's saying where to look for them or how to find them. Is there a lolcow Discord somewhere?

>>203544
I found the first one I joined through Ovarit. They required voice confirmation and a full interview process. Ended up joining other women's servers from members advertising in the original one (for more niche interests). Sorry, like everyone else I don't want to get doxxed or bring scrotes to women's spaces but if you do minimal searching you should be able to find some options.

I think there was a lc Discord at some point but it immediately devolved into a bunch of underage trolling and idiocy.

>>203495
That honestly sounds perfect. I don't like going out too much either, the occasional stroll around town just chatting is perfect though. Watching a movie or reading together is also really nice.

I also just have convenience friendships, but for me it's also hard because I work from home and didn't go to university.

I'm considering picking a new place in my city every week and going there - like a museum or book store. I also like fitness so I can sign up to a club maybe.

What country are you in?

>>203345
this is giving me komaeda-chan vibes what even is this lol
>>203385
is the priest fucked either literally or metaphorically bc if not i have no interest. AHS asylum was way too much of a tease with it and too fucked up in other ways for my brain to justify ever rewatching that shit just because seducing a priest & turning him away from god is an S-tier fetish

>>203658
ntayart but yeah she does actually have sex with the priest

The amount of weight gain anons I've seen in the thread almost makes me feel less embarassed about mine… But I've developed a thing for it, specifically belly inflation and pregnancy lesser-so. Developed a fear of weight gain years before this started due to family pressure, and somehow it morphed into finding stories online to be a degenerate with.

Also developed a slight padding fetish by simulating said belly-gaining. I'd do it more often if I didn't live with family.

>>203974
Quarantine forcing people to stay inside and not exercising - weight gain - boom a lot of people adopt it as a fetish

>>201870
Mine stay open for way longer than they're meant to, except when it comes to helix piercings. Though helix piercings have always given me trouble, painful bumps, hard to sleep on, then close up in no time if I try to take jewelery out to relive pressure on them. I just can't keep a helix but I know pretty pretty common.

>>201883
Cartilage piercings can take up to a year to heal, yours was still very fresh

>>201876 i got my third set a couple days ago and i love them! i just have the basic studs in rn but ive been wearing simple hoops on the other two and i feel fancy af. go for it tbh if you hate it just take em out

Any tips on removing piercings? I really want to change some of my jewelry like my helix piercings and my rook but I can't for the life of me get those out! I've tried gloves so many times and all it does is hurt. i've even broken a nail once while trying to twist it off. Out of my cartilage piercings, the conch is the only one I've been able to remove successfully

>>203482
Could you go back to your piercer and ask them to do it? The only thing is they might not put the new jewellery in unless it's the grade they usually use, in case it gives you irritation or something.

>>201779
>the California cosplay scene in the mid to late 2000s was where a lot of this gross stuff started
That honestly explains so much about why these people are the way they are

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CRXIH3lI-5I/?utm_medium=copy_link

On mobile but yeah I've noticed that there is an overlap with poly "people" and autistics it's like it comes with the mental illness

>>201779
This checks out. I basically came of age & discovered my sexuality in the anime convention community while having orgies with all of my close con friends and now I don't know if I'll ever develop meaningful sexual relationships as a result.

>>138309
Not a choice? Is it 2008 again?

>>203333
are you really saying you think being gay is a choice?

>>201306
What is this pathetic shit and how was it relevant as a reply to that anon.

I'm addicted to buying coins and banknotes. There's so much variety of stuff to buy in terms of countries, time periods, varieties and errors, etc. Plus I like the feeling of owning historical items if they're old like 100+ years. I spend a HUGE chunk of my days looking at stuff on ebay. I want to block ebay but I get FOMO.

I have a really bad, mostly secret shopping addiction. I buy almost entirely designer clothing (I'm really stingy when it comes to eating out or vacations), and I spend a categorically retarded amount of money on it. I've successfully put off doing the math for a couple of years, but I finally got the courage yesterday and it's in the six figures…

Even thinking about that makes me feel weak and sweaty. I'm so fucking stupid, I could have paid for a house with that money. For someone reason I get fixated on one brand or one collection at a time, and I get autistic about getting individual pieces that I obsess over. I don't have any debt or family obligations (have been estranged since high school), and I make enough to cover my spending and not that much more.

I've tried to quit before, but it's never lasted for more than a week or so. It's hard when I'm like a magpie and need to have any shiny object that catches my attention, and films/television are filled with people wearing picturesque clothing. My bf knows about my problem, but no one else does and I'd be mortified if anyone found out I was this retarded. Idk what to do and am open to any advice.

I'm getting more and more depressed for some reason and I want to spend money to treat myself to whatever but I also promised myself I would stop buying things I won't use so I'm spending too much money on food delivery. Sometimes I think about the amount of money on things I bought when I started getting my own money and wasn't poor anymore and I get embarrassed and frustrated, I spent money on makeup I didn't even use or that weren't even my shade, the few things I used just disappeared from my room and I have no idea where I can find them anymore, I have such a hard time finding clothes my size that when I found some clothes that fit me I used to buy them and not wear them because they were either too basic or too ugly anyway, and there are so many books and video games I sold after not liking them that I got like 200 or 300€ back from that even though I sold them for very cheap last year. I'd say even if I'm doing better with spending money responsibly now it's not going to last very long.

I am doing a shopping free month, aiming for a year. I want to focus on hobbies instead of overspending on fashion. So far i have made it through a week. It kind of gives me a kick to not shop now, to look at my bank account and see that the money is still there.

>>181501
>I'm shocked this gets so many accolades.
Same, this book is being recommended EVERYWHERE. Even among (radical) feminists, who in my opinion really should know better. I understand that the rest of the book might be extremely helpful, but it's weird that it's recommended without any disclaimer. Who knows what other harmful passages may be in it? I'm not for censoring works from the past in order to not offend current sensibilities, but since it's a book for victims of trauma, I wished there was some revised version specifically for patients. They don't deserve to be directly compared to their abusers. The med professionals can keep reading the original though kek. Or IDK, maybe a new book should be written based on the valuable content from The Body Keeps The Score and modern psychology research. I don't think that a self-help book with such harmful content should be considered a go-to material for trauma victims.

>>176176
I can't relate on the stress of possibly being physically attacked in person, and I'm so sorry that you dealt / are dealing with that. I work customer service as part of my job online but sometimes I can't bare the idea of having to log in in the morning, I get stomach butterflies thinking about having to deal with bad customers. Last month I had a customer threaten to harass me and kept making new accounts just to throw insults. I've had therapy for childhood trauma but I didn't think something like my job would trigger my fear of being berated. I'm moving back home soon so I'm hoping I can take a few weeks off just to rethink what I want to do or how I'm going to handle it better.

TRIGGER WARNING
Don’t read if you’re triggered by sexual abuse
Hey Nonitas
I was constantly subjected to sexual jokes by my father (bio father as I would like to call him), he would describe his sex life in detail to me (cheated on mom) when I was a minor, told me someday I would enjoy “dick” when I told him it grosses me out, made fun my gender ever since I was able to talk by calling me camel toe, and once he fondled my boobs and said they’ve grown a lot lately.

I think I’ve avoided rape solely because I’m not his type. He’s a narc and I’ve suffered tons of emotional abuse, he would often call me ugly and said he would never date a woman like me.

I’ve always brushed it off as emotional abuse but now I think I’ve had sexual abuse as well. What do you think?

>>203131
Well he flat out grabbed your boobs and constantly made sexually charged comments at you. I'd say that's definitely sexual abuse.

Just a weird trigger I want to get off my chest.

Fucking vacuums. It's so stupid to me. I know why, and I understand why - growing up, my mom had a lot of chronic pains and issues with her back so she never did things like vacuum, she delegated that to me most of the time. So hearing the sound of a vacuum when I or my brothers weren't cleaning meant that she was awake and angry. She only ever vacuumed when she was angry.

I didn't even realize it triggered anything outside of the context of being at my parent's house until I spent the night with my friend when I was 17 and her mom vacuumed the floor above my friend's room. I can't even describe what it felt like, looking back. When I dissociate, it's like playing a VR game. Even while dissociating hard, I had to stay functional or else worse things could happen. But being in an environment that my brain perceived as "safe" - i.e., away from my mother, it's more like I stopped being able to rationalize anything. Those five minutes of vacuuming are engraved into my brain. I couldn't do anything. Luckily my friend and I had already chilled out for the evening at that point, her being on her phone and me hanging at the side of her bed looking out her window watching whatever last bit of dusk there was left. I couldn't think at all, and I was mortified that my friend would talk to me, and I wouldn't be able to talk back, or even understand what she was saying - but at the same time I couldn't even feel the fear I was experiencing. It's stupid to say, but it's like my entire existence was replaced with the sound of a vacuum upstairs for those five or so minutes. I kept trying to think and rationalize it, that I wasn't at home and this was my friend's mom, but I couldn't think. It's like I forgot language entirely. Desperately trying to cling onto some word, any word or sound, but nothing was there. Just what was around me, and that noise.

It's a ramble, but I don't know why I can't forget that. I've forgotten most all of what I experienced at the hands of my parents and still have a good relationship with them. Still very close with the friend in question, too. But that moment won't leave me, and as much as I hate how horrible my memory is, it's the one thing I want to forget. It's not even the worst I've felt due to things like dissociation or panic attacks. I don't know why it's stuPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Just left this sub for the constant hatred and blaming toward white women. Why black """"feminists""" can't understand that hating other women for their race (which has 0 to do with women's issues. Men hate us because we are women. What color our vaginas come in is completely irrelevant to sex-based oppression) is counterproductive. One poster today actually LITERALLY said that in the days before internet, white women used to be abused less because white men would just take out their frustrations on black women. WHAT? Historically and statistically absurd. Yet it had thousands of upvotes. Absolutely retarded sub full of delusional nigfems. Keep blaming muh Karen's instead of Tyrone beating your ass

Every group of women is almost exclusively sexually harmed by their same race of males. Arguing otherwise is denying proven reality. Black feminists would rather hate white women than solve or acknowledge the issues that are inherent in their gross population of males. Yet they still feel entitled to the support and catering of white women. Sub 0 IQ and complete cope. Black "feminism" is beyond hope and they don't deserve support from white women or any other women for that matter, they dug their own grave

>>202210
It isn't absurd though that is what happened during slavery
What's with this racebaiting today anyways lel

>>202210 are you seriously mad that black women were specifically abused more during slavery? Also yes, race does come into feminism because men will act accordingly by how men of other races have labeled their women as, example: western soldiers going to middle eastern countries raping arab women/children en masse but when they come home to their white wife/girlfriend they act like gentlemen.

>>202212
To be fair, white and black women dont have the best history with each other(the slavery, jimcrow, the becky and tyrone thing) So they tend to have a hard time trusting women of other races. not to mention with the recent exposure to "white woman tears."

>Black "feminism"
But what even is black feminism? isnt it just regular feminism but a black women is speaking? The only reason people who say radical feminism is white are tranny blacks/spics, self hating white people, and delusional "women of color"(who still think terfs are their worst enemy).

Most left leaning modern black (liberal)feminists are the result of media fear mongering, negging from black men, and the tranny agenda.
(conservative black feminists are useless because they parrot their husbands)

The one thing I've noticed lately is that FDS mods like to take down posts on FDS members calling out other FDS members for being a bit hypocritical. I am all for calling the men out and leveling up but let's not turn into women that shame other women for their preference, or shame men for their ugly face.

I can’t believe I have fantasies of hate fucking a sexist cluster of pixels. FC4 was hard to finish bc of it.

>>200726
i watched stranger things just because of him. his body was great, not the dehydrated look you usually see.

>>202950
Yeah his body is exactly my type, I'm really not into overly lean guys. Muscular but with just enough fat to avoid being vascular and shredded is ideal.

>>196748
I cannot agree with this more. # #There's something about him that's so fucking smug, and I want to take control of him and give him a fucking he doesn't forget. You know he's cycling men and woman on the regular but you want to pin him down and ride him until he has the orgasm of his life and never achieves such a thing again# #

>>196748
He looks like goth Princess Diana

Any reccomendations on toothpaste and mouthwash with no menthol?
II hAtE menthol it makes me want to puke. Please tell me i'm not the only one.
Sometimes I find those 'cinnamon' toothpastes such as the crest one but its got that same exaggerated minty freshness and none of the cinnamon warmth.

>>202850
my gf has the same problem and she uses kids toothpaste, any brand is fine, just choose whatever flavour doesn't offend you (she uses vademecum, or whichever one is with the crocodile mascot)

>>202855
my mom uses kid toothpaste too, I wonder if this is why

>>202855
Ahhhh the memories!! I used to use that when I was a kid and LOVED the taste haha

>>202850
Tom's of Maine fennel