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No. 48533[Reply]

Please feel free to vent or ask for advice in this thread pertaining to sexual abuse or harassment, etc



I'm looking for advice on how to build a healthy sexual relationship with my partner after my bad past. We've been married two years and he's fantastic. But my libido is very low and I have a feeling it might be tied to poor sexual relationships I'd had before. Starting at 8 years old and then on out. I'm not really bothered by the past but I think my mind is instantly associating sex with bad times, which shouldn't be the case since my husband is lovely. But my brain instantly is telling me that I dont want to do this or that its just a hassle. Often times when we begin fooling around I get stomach aches that will go away basically instantly when we stop, like he can tell I'm not in the mood so we wont continue. I never thought much of it, I always thought it was just something I ate. But today I figured out maybe it could be anxiety related.

I just want to be able to have a normal sex life with him where we can fool around and have fun, but I feel so bad for having something -wrong- with me. If anons have any advice i'd love to hear. I'm too poor for a therapist and I've scoured the internet for advice as well
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I feel like i'm dealing with it well after a while minus being completely unable to love/ not be extremely cynical about all people (or to stop excessively drinking to socialize?)? My mom and friends keep telling me it'll go away " when i meet the right man" but I feel like that "right" man doesn't exist and isn't worth pursuing, i just feel like every man will only ever see my body and how they can take advantage of it

No. 437308

>>437303
I don't think this feeling will ever fully fade. At least for me, I never stopped testing people in my head. I made all these walls around me and I will only expose myself when people pass several of my made up tests in my head. I don't see myself fully trusting anyone anymore, especially men. I always have some sort of wall keeping some distance.

No. 437444

Did anyone else develop an ED due to CSA? My abuser started just after I hit puberty so I became extremely ashamed of my body becoming more 'womanly' and started starving myself to get rid of my boobs and butt. I recovered but ended up with a really shitty abusive porn addicted moid when I was 19 who was obsessed with women with huge breasts and ass, so I starved myself even more because I was so disgusted by being sexualized and didnt feel like I could compete anyway. Few years later managed to get away from him but I'm still not recovered and totally ruined my health over this. I'm so tired. I will never get over it.

No. 437886

I feel so sad. Growing up, my dad sexually abused me. Even though I didn't recognize what it was I knew that he scared me and made me nervous. Instead, I used to fantasize about male characters and celebrities being my dads. I have this celebrity who I've been a fan of as a kid. Since I've been a fan since I was young I feel like I've really had him through it all, these father figures have been my safe space because I knew they'd never hurt me. I talked to a counsellor a while ago and she said this was my coping mechanism, a way to forge a safe space with my limited resources. I got emotional a few days ago, because one of my father figures was explaining something the way a teacher would, and I wished so bad he could just take care of me.
I always used to imagine being in the universe of my favorite shows. Everyone would love me and act like my family, and I'd disclose the abuse to someone and they'd comfort me. I dreamt of this so much. I lived in my daydreams.
I also used to watch CSA awareness videos on YouTube. They'd always end with the abuser being removed from the child, and I'd long for that to happen, but since he's my dad it didn't.
I wish this didn't happen. I have very bad parental issues now. I get attached to my friends' moms (my mom didn't sexually abuse me, she's just distant, and she wouldn't believe me if I disclosed about my dad). I used to dream that I'd get a step mother to do girly mom and daughter type stuff with. I even made up this universe in my head where I had a new mom and dad. I'm scared all the time of men raping me. As a kid I clung to girls braver than me and even now I want someone to keep me safe. I can't hate my dad because he's my dad. And the truth is what happened is not objectively as bad as some stories, he didn't rape or molest me. So I feel like I'm overreacting or faking, maybe even crying over nothing. But he scares me. I don't know how I can escape him. I know even if I do, I'll miss him. That's the part I hate.

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does anyone here feel like they have a fucked up view of their own sexual orientation because of the sexual abuse you've suffered? i worry that the reason why i don't find men arousing is because i've been coerced, assaulted, molested, raped, you name it, by them in my life and since women obviously never did any of those horrible things to me, that THAT'S why i find them arousing instead. but then i hear stories about men who were raped by other men and then wonder if the reason why they like men was also because of what happened to them and they wonder if their orientation is even real, if that makes sense.


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No. 176536[Reply]

if you have pcos how do you deal with the pain?my pcos is bad I am stuck in bed today with a fucking heating pad and a cat snoring on my head as I am typing this. The pain is bad enough that I have to take a pain pill and even then it only just dulls it.
Do any of you anons have pcos that makes your periods so bad you have to literally take presciption grade pain killers to not feel pain? I mean my doctors are only throwing pain medications at it instead of removing the cyst off my ovary and my insurance doesn't cover birth control, so pretty much fucked.
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No. 431235

Does anyone else just get so horrified they may be pregnant even though they have very minimal sexual contact? I haven't had a period since late May and I recently got diagnosed with PCOS and have taken tons of home and doctor pregnancy tests and all have been negative but the fear consumes me. I've never even had unprotected sex, just outercourse but I've been just cramping all most every single day and weird single days of bleeding. Does anyone else with PCOS have these symptoms?

No. 438952

Does anyone else here have "lean" PCOS but with a stubborn fat layer on the stomach that will never go away? I just want to be rid of it and have a flat stomach instead of looking and feeling slightly bloated constantly, I've never been anything but a healthy to low weight range but genetics screwed me over with this and a predisposition to diabetes. I took inositol daily for three months this year and didn't feel like it did anything, gone low/no carb, used to live on a lean diet with no added sugar but my body never really changes for the better.
>>218162
Like you, high T was one of my only known symptoms, the other being long, irregular cycles. I also attribute my hair loss and mental health issues to PCOS too but I can only claim a shaky correlation. The NHS diagnosed me and it was before COVID, with an endocrinologist who never actually saw me in person. They said as long as I met at least two or three criteria on the list of symptoms, then I had a PCOS diagnosis, even after they gave me an ultrasound showing I had no literal ovarian cysts (the ones I mentioned are the ones they accepted). Drives me crazy to feel this unsure still when I still have the literal confirmation letter from them, now I'm a believer that "PCOS" is a pretty lousy name for a bunch of several poorly understood, poorly related metabolic problems.

No. 439190

>>438952
>now I'm a believer that "PCOS" is a pretty lousy name for a bunch of several poorly understood, poorly related metabolic problems.

I hate how true this is. Women's health is so vastly understudied so they create this syndrome of which you have to have 3 or whatever symptoms to meet the criteria. So if you have thinning head hair, facial hair and no periods you have PCOS but a different woman has insulin resistance, super long periods and stubborn weight she can't shift has the same syndrome? When battling completely different symptoms. You don't even need to have cysts to have polycystic ovarian syndrome, wtf? It feels like PCOS means very little, it's like IBS. They don't know wtf is going on with our bodies. Sorry for a rant, I'll sage.

No. 439255

>>438952
>now I'm a believer that "PCOS" is a pretty lousy name for a bunch of several poorly understood, poorly related metabolic problems.

I agree. I thought being diagnosed with PCOS years ago would be an eye-opener and have doctors be able to help me, but my experience trying to navigate this it's more of an umbrella term. (I'm American though and you know how the healthcare is here, so YMMV.)

>>439190
>Women's health is so vastly understudied so they create this syndrome of which you have to have 3 or whatever symptoms to meet the criteria. So if you have thinning head hair, facial hair and no periods you have PCOS but a different woman has insulin resistance, super long periods and stubborn weight she can't shift has the same syndrome?

This is something that confused me too. When I was diagnosed, I was solely offered birth control to fix my testosterone/estrogen levels, even though my medical record shows I have regular periods and even though I'm strictly childfree, I could easily have a child if I wanted to. I just have trouble losing weight, which is what I was seeing a doctor for. I was hoping that knowing I have PCOS I could be prescribed something for insulin or have different tests done, but no. No prescription for anything but birth control.

No. 439605

The beard… it thickens.


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No. 215207[Reply]

Post men who are shilled as attractive but you think are ugly/overrated. Timmy was posted frequently last thread.
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No. 439113

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Mid

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>>439113

No. 439118

>>438492
I feel sorry for your mother having a daughter with such shitty taste

No. 439121

>>439113
Disgusting, my mother swears he is the second most attractive man after the even more disgusting Ryan Reynolds but I think she is just a biased marvelfag

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>>439113
This is probably what she sees in her mind


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No. 203417[Reply]

thread for talking about and celebrating (or simply being willing to accept, if that's where you are) our bodies in their natural form. completely unedited and unflitered. all bodies welcome - skin conditions such as acne, body hair, stretch marks, fat, lumps and bumps. you name it! all is welcome here.

picture and video editing is becoming more advanced and detecting what is real from what is fake is getting harder. posting of truly unedited pics is highly encouraged. if you know of any online accounts focused around the idea of embracing of the natural self, please share!
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No. 438082

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Bumping this thread since this is a topic that's really dear to me. I'm done with shaving entirely, the last thing I gave up was shaving the light mustache I have. It's hardly noticeable unless someone is really close to begin with so why feel insecure about it? I got a genuine unprompted compliment on it recently and was encouraged to continue to keep it, which made me really happy.

Tbh, sometimes I can't relate to body positivity stuff because it's coming at this angle of "let women be ugly! It's ok to have hideous nasty features!" Which I guess I agree with but I have genuinely grown to have not just neutral or accepting feelings about several things like body hair, stretch marks, and scars but actively positive ones. It makes me feel feminine and kinda naturalistically free. This might sound kinda autistic but when I see wild creatures of the earth with fur and patterns I find it really beautiful and I've evolved to see my own body in a similar light, of course women are more important than animals but my point is that we are still organic beings and not plastic figures or imagined concepts. The grass really is always greener on the other side because I honestly think I'd like to grow a little more, I genetically don't produce much and my hair is straight everywhere so it appears less dense

I admit though that it's easier to be positive about this stuff when you're young and healthy… I hope that I can maintain a confident outlook as I age and my body inevitably changes.

No. 438112

Interesting thread, I'm a total "legbeard" as the moids would put it, never got into the habit of shaving them, never cared, never will.

No. 438123

>>438082
I agree with you. I think body neutrality is much more relatable than body positivity or people saying “it’s okay to be ugly”. Why can’t I just exist.

No. 438947

20 years of only washing my hair with water and unfortunately it's starting to become smelly and unmanageable, I hope the no-poo method will surprise me in a few more days

No. 438964

>>438947
I understand being paranoid about parabens and the like but maybe you should switch to an all natural shampoo/conditioner


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No. 146601[Reply]

A thread for everything vintage fashion related

>What decades and subcultures of the past are you interested in?
>How did you get into collecting vintage?
>Do you go for authentic vintage or vintage inspired clothing?
>Who are the style icons you like to refer to when putting together a look?

And of course, questions from novices are welcome as well
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No. 426606

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i don't actually wear vintage fashion, but i love vintage sewing patterns (mostly from the 60s-70s), and as an artist i find them extremely useful for reference purposes. i just wish there were some sort of archive where i could find them all in high quality. i've been through the vintage patterns wiki, but there are lots missing and many pics are small. i've spent so many hours on etsy searching for them… scattered like dust in the wind…

No. 426608

>>395582
you and every 16 year old now kek

No. 426626

>>395582
that top is so nice with her cute boob shape

No. 436821

>>426606
I like to collect pictures of clothing patterns too. I've got probably thousands saved spanning several decades. I thought about creating a website that archives everything I've found. Obviously, it wouldn't be every pattern ever made or anything, but I wonder if other people would like something like that.

No. 438570

>>436821
YES. SHARE NONNY


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No. 91134[Reply]

What celebrities have you been told that you look like?

About 95%, it’s usually Bjork for me. Because I’m white but I also look vaguely Asian. I’ve also gotten Selena Gomez, Miranda Crosgrove, Jackie O and Six from Blossom. Also one time a crackhead compared me to Emma Stone (because of my man jaw) and another time, I got compared to Lindsay Lohan (probably because of my freckles). Being compared to Lindsay Lohan actually made me angry lol.

What celebrities/famous people have you guys been compared to?
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No. 437301

>>437298
it looks like the one thing the algorithm is certain of is that you have beautiful big brown eyes

No. 437307

I get Boxxy and Alyson Hannigan!

No. 437326

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I don’t know if it’s that accurate, but a long nose and brown eyes are probably the most prominent features on my face so makes sense. I’ve been told a few times I remind them of Anne Hathaway, which I’m not sure about either. Though my mom does look like her a lot.

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I'm not even Indian. I can see Begoña Vargas, Anya Chalotra, and Rakul Preet Singh though. I'm much plainer though.

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Jessica Chastain. My face looks exactly like hers, Chad jawline and all, but I’m brunette kek.


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No. 220643[Reply]

A thread for the loners here (all of us). Venting, how you deal with it, how you spend your time etc.
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No. 435891

>>434572
her being christian shouldn't make her not want to be friends with you cause of a different religious or sexual background, it comes down to personal reasons like anything else

No. 438253

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>>318006
I'm the anon that posted this 1 year ago, and things are basically the same if not even worse, but this reply >>318012 has stayed in my heart since reading it. It helped me a lot, if you're still around and reading this somehow, thank you.

I still dress up and go on weekly adventures, I even lost ton of weight to get some confidence and started to interact with more people online again. Still 0 friends irl, I feel I can't relate to anyone so it's not even worth the effort. Just exhausting.

No. 438268

I'm back. I made one friend and she was really cool white it lasted. She got a boyfriend and basically cut me off. This was months ago and I had to readjust to the silence. Today, she suddenly reached out to me but Im ignoring it. Im not leaving my corner anymore. Being alone is comfortable, its stable and its just so much easier. Everyone get away from me.

No. 438349

I'm missed by noone. No friends wished me happy birthday despite wishing them one, noone reaches out to me, my sister ignores me and tells me to go away when I try to talk to her. Hell, even my own mother forgets my fucking name every single day and keeps calling out for my sister when she really means to calll me. My father is absent and doesn't care if I live or die. Even my one online friend doesn't want to play games with me or watch a movie or do literally anything. I feel like an invisible ghost observing life. Not joking, people never notice me when I stand near them so I get stepped on and shoved all the time. When I was a child noone wanted to play with me, I once caught my "friends" out playing without me when I walked to go and get a snack alone. I've even noticed my classmates talking about me behind my back while I was literally there. Everyday is the same. I just play games alone or read to feel something. The only plus side is I can do whatever I want when alone without objections. I wonder what it's like to be a normie with hordes of friends to hit up when you want to go out and they always say yes, to be the group leader planning events and everyone wants to be around. Some people are just living completely different lives and it hurts

No. 438468

>>438349
We live the same life


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No. 230474[Reply]

This is a thread for biologically born women who decided to transition or play a part in the gender scene at some point and since have decided to stop. This thread welcomes women who chose to take hormones, have surgeries done, crossdress as a man, live as a man (on the internet/irl), or simply once thought to transition and then refrained from it no matter how far/not far into the process you were. Women who self identified as nonbinary or similar can also join the discussion.

Talk about your journey from transition to detransition and how it is going for you now.
>What made you do it?
>What made you go back?

Anyone is welcome to participate.
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No. 428434

>>426596
I'm impressed you managed to get out of it after so many years. It takes a lot of introspection to admit to yourself that you made a mistake, I'm proud of you for being able to do that nona. I know it feels rough, but life isn't over and you can still heal and build a good life for yourself. I highly recommend watching other detrans women on youtube, it helps knowing you're not the only one.

No. 437861

I have someone close to me who currently identifies as trans, I want to ask how would you have wanted someone you were romantically involved with to be there for you when you were actively identifying as trans? She doesn't have any plans of physical transitioning or anything, I might add.

No. 437906

>>437861
>doesn't have any plans of physical transitioning
Well that's good. Encourage aspects of her identities that have nothing to do with being trans, and discourage her urge to reframe normal experiences as a "trans thing".

No. 438062

How do you overcome lingering negative feelings stemming from being socially misfit from other women? I hold no beliefs that you can become the opposite sex, but when I try to socialize with women I still feel bombarded with a million little messages that say I'm not one of them. It makes me feel like a TiM honestly, even when I have "feminine" interests it's in a way that sets me apart from most women.
Even though I understand and accept the reality that my sex is female, I also can't escape the reality that I don't fit a lot of common cultural ideas and experiences relating to womanhood, and I have trouble talking to or befriending women. Kinda feels like I've been shadowbanned from cultural womanhood despite my biological womanhood. I have a more "masculine" communication style and have an easier time talking to men. It makes me feel somewhat defective, even though I know it doesn't make me less of a woman, it just sucks feeling like I'm locked out of the women's sphere.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone else relates? A lot of gender angst I hear about is based on hating your body or believing lies, but neither of those apply to me anymore and I still get pangs of dysphoria here and there.

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>>438062
I’ve felt alienated and excluded culturally from female experiences a lot of my life. Majority of it was symptomatic of classism, performative femininity, government assigned female “interests”, heterosexual fanaticism. None of that has made me feel disconnected from being a woman materially or mentally though, just made me extremely lonely. Sometimes the only commonality I can bring to surface with other women is our oppression which is depressing and doesn’t make me seem very fun to befriend… The worst is getting branded “male-brained” for straying from normieism but not being male-identifying or male-centered, I literally still have “girl” interests. I guess, try to remind yourself it’s only ever rigid gender-comformists who view you less than. Idk what kind of complex it is but I can’t stand the thought of the worst pick-me I know comfortable identifying with the cuckery of womanhood but I’m supposed to be psyoped in to doubting my literal woman existence.


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No. 65399[Reply]

Can we talk about body hair?

Here are some questions to get the thread started

>How often do you remove (shave/wax/epilate) your body hair?
>What's your favorite and least favorite method? Do you have a routine?
>How do you deal with hair on sensitive areas?

Post opinions, problems, horrors stories, anything
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No. 438077

>>438063
I just trim so it's easier to get at my clit.

No. 438080

>>438063
My crotch gets extremely itchy and sweaty if I don't regularly trim and shave. Same goes for my underarms. I am an outlier among pretty much everyone I know, though. Most people I've spoken to either trim occasionally or not at all.

No. 438142

Should I epilate my facial hair? It's venus thin. Would that cause any inflammation or discoloration on the area?

No. 438165

Has anyone epilated their vagina or chest hair? I can't shave my vagina for shit, all the hair just doesn't get off idk. And it's hard to explain, but I can't get that area where it transitions from your normal skin color to your vulva skin color. I don't wanna accidently shave the pinkish area, that's hurt like hell. I also have hair between my boobs. Epilating my vag and nipples might hurt too much but should I go through the pain ?

No. 438296

I don't know if this is related but my mother basically forced me to shave my pubic hair twice and I was crying so much throughout. Each time my pubic hair never grew back to full potential. Like it was always less than before even after being fully grown. Yeah that's it. I keep praying my pubic hair thickens again.


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No. 409345[Reply]

A thread for anons to discuss makeup and the cosmetics and skin care industry in a critical way. Feel free to critize and vent about societal norms that are expected of women around beauty in general. Important: anon's mileage and the way / situation they may or not use certain products in could vary, try not to infight.
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No. 438030

sometimes I seriously wonder if the "not wearing makeup is pickme behavior" is a psyop to trick women into wearing makeup. it's almost on the same level as "doing sex work is empowering" though not quite as bad

No. 438039

>>438030
A bit. There have been some really obnoxious anti-makeup women who used it put themselves as more desirable to men because they weren't catfishing and were "natural". It's only exclusively in that context talking about not wearing makeup is pickme behaviour. I think that stopped because being makeup free really isn't all that novel, now those same women are just your typical crunchy moms smearing themselves in animals fats and drinking raw milk. Any woman who claims that a woman is a pickme for not wearing makeup outside the aforementioned example is coping really hard. A lot of women just cannot fathom going out without any makeup on and don't want to hear any criticism of wearing makeup. They want to be seen as sexually desirable, "hot" and glamourous and really nothing you can tell them will make them give up makeup even if it's largely rooted in their own insecurities, even if you bring up how men have zero pressure to look airbrushed. I remember seeing a screenshot of some tiktok influencers doing a sponsored post for makeup where the tag line was about how real women wear makeup, trying to capitalise on women who don't want to address their over dependence on makeup.

No. 438055

>>438039
>I remember seeing a screenshot of some tiktok influencers doing a sponsored post for makeup where the tag line was about how real women wear makeup, trying to capitalise on women who don't want to address their over dependence on makeup.
That's hilarious, ngl but I also often play into "I don't need makeup to feel pretty" humble bragging when a woman condescendingly recommends make up to me as some sort of necessarily performance of femininity, tends to get the reaction I want.

No. 439984

>>438055
That’s exactly the thing to say if you want to silence a vain makeup junkie.
>I don’t need to hide my ugly with paint, sweaty

No. 440129

>>438039
>It's only exclusively in that context talking about not wearing makeup is pickme behaviour

it's not though. if you say you don't wear makeup you immediately get labelled a pickme (at least on the internet, Idk about irl) doesn't matter the context


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