/g/ - girl talk

>>141965
I agree with this anon

Being tall is awesome. Who cares about being uwu smol and cute? If you're tall you can look like a goddess. Just don't get fat because that looks unfortunate and clunky. Thankfully it's easier to be slim when you're tall.

Models are 5'10+ and they're the most beautiful people in the world. I don't think anyone would go "ew no but she's too tall" unless they're an insecure man.

Im a 5'2 girl and i would kill to be a tall girl.
Tall women are so beautiful and stand out. Y'all are so lucky. Please never feel down.

5'3 womanlette here
Tall women, I love you so fucking much. What I'd give to be one of you. Tall, powerful, strong. I like myself and the way I am too but damnit!!!!! I'd love to be tall. I'd love to intimidate loser short men like that. Your height alone filters the weaklings. You ladies are gorgeous and I love you, have a great fucking night. AND day. Have a great existence.

Fellow womanlettes, reflect. Do better. Buy the boots with the heels-stop letting men look down on you. Throw away the kitten heels, get at least the 3inchers and look him in his eyes. If you see fear, stop wasting your time and leave him already.

5 ft even here. I just wish I could shop in the womens section instead of jrs.
I tried to justify a trade off in fooling myself to believe that atleast I never have trouble getting a man since they are drawn to smaller women. But, fuck that I don't need a man to make me happy. I just want to wear stylish adult clothes and not look like an out of place child.

I'm tall and I'm sad that my dating pool is limited by this fact. I tried dating shorter guys but taller guys are just sexier. When fucking with a shorter guy I can never get over the idea that he's climbing around on me instead of holding me. When I held my shorter ex during sex something odd happened in my head and I was suddenly imagining that I was the guy and he was the girl. It was a bit unsettling. Oh to be a smol bean. But it will never be.

Wrong board, this should go to /m/

Moved to >>>/m/96783.

>>142206
There are several threads about being/feeling ugly, self-improvement and even a stacy-maxing thread. lurk moar.

>>142273
How narcissistic do you have to be to say the general population is ugly.
It's not the first time I see this kind of post and it still amazes me.

>>142280
Get real. We all can't be supermodels, bitch.

>>142281
Except for you, narc.

>>142283
I never said the general population was ugly. Go get some reading comprehension, you misrepresentative narc.

>>142131
To get welfare is usually the main reason, although there is "treatment" in the sense of therapy to manage certain stressors or basically just teach you how to socialize better.

>>142131
peace of mind, basically. also it's in the nature of autism itself to want to know this stuff

When I was googling info on getting the assessment for ASD as an adult I kept seeing articles about how valid self-diagnosis is when it comes to autism.

I have mixed feelings because in one way I understand that for me all the pieces came together when I learnt about autism, every quirk or sensory issue suddenly made alot of sense and it explained a whole range of things I'd struggled with since childhood. Now I haven't been assessed but like I said here >>142117 my mental health team did confirm to me that they highly suspect it. If I do persue assessment it will take 3 years to be seen. I feel relatively confident that I do have it but how do you guys feel about full on self diagnosis without any professional opinion?

Every time, I read up on autism, I barely understand the difference between it, being socially awkward, or being socially surrounded by autists.

My parents always knew in bad autism but refused to take me to a doctor. Do I get gibs for getting officially diagnosed? I'm retarded and can't work.

>>93278
op pic makes me uncomfortable and unhappy all the time

My brother is alright. He's six years younger than me and I have no complaints. I wish he would stop screeching at 3am over video games though. My favourite sibling tbh. My sister is a fucking bitch and I hope she dies and we both share a collective hatred towards her.

I have four older brothers but the age gap between them and I is pretty big. I'm not really close to any of them and one of them I haven't even seen or spoken to since the age of seven. When I was a young child up until the age of like eight I was really close to the youngest brother. We used to watch and play pokemon together and I would follow him around, I really admired him. He even punched a kid in the stomach for picking on me lol. Unfortunately once he hit puberty we grew apart and he started to hang around the bad crowd. I do still look back on the short period we were close fondly.

Got a brother and a sister, both older than me. Brother was the spoiled golden child and literally got everything handed to him, my dad in particular loved him and never gave two shits about us daughters. Brother got to do basically anything he wanted and he was never disciplined which lead to him becoming a smug fucking cunt who loved to fuck me over and beat me up just for the fun of it despite being much older and stronger than I was. Even as an adult he's still a judgemental, nasty cunt and never lost his golden child status. I'm in my early 30's and I don't even consider him a brother, he's just someone I had to grow up with. I barely have any contact with him.

Having a protective or even a normal older brother sounds like something that only happens in movies, the whole concept is so alien to me.

>>142197
Dude, are you me? My family dynamic is the exact same right down to the age gap
But yes, having a brother is pretty cool as you can be more goofy with them and go full retard. Sisters are always pretty bitchy so I definitely like having my little brother to keep me sane

>>141489
You could always adopt. If you go ahead and become a parent just make sure you have a support system because having a child can trigger wicked postnatal depression etc even in someone without a background like yours. You don't need to wall yourself off from ever having children but you do need to make sure, for yourself and your child, that you have the support you need if you feel your mental health hits a bumpy road.

It's so unpredictable whether or not generations of mental health issues are genetic or just passed on from seeing that behaviour constantly from a young age. If you want to have your own biological baby honestly I wouldn't worry about that as much as healing from any issues you think you might have and making sure to give them a stable and loving upbringing. Trauma raises trauma, if you don't seek help for anything you're struggling with, having a child will absolutely dig it all up and amplify it whether you're ready or not. You need to tough love yourself, hardcore, and get your shit together to have a baby.


>>141439
I don't think anyone ever feels fully ready or feels definite confirmation that it's the right time, once you get over that initial weird panic about doing it, a few years in you just end up at that place. There's always going to be some nerves and fear.
I knew I wanted a child,but had no idea when. My husband and I planned to start trying when we got married but I actually got pregnant unexpectedly the year before that, aged 21 and my child is the centre. Of. My. Fucking. Universe. She changed me entirely, I would and will do anything for her, she will always be the love of my life. It was unexpected and a difficult pregnancy and there's always more to learn but you learn as you go.
Even though I had my child young, I don't bat an eyelid when I see women having their first child in their late thirties. It's all cool as long as you work hard and do your best. (Your actual best, not just "love is enough!" Best)
You don't need to be prepared for everything and know everything, at all, you need to be stable and secure and strong enough to work hard enough to prepare for what you can and adapt as you go and put your child first




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>>141661
Anon, you are so cute and I am so happy for you!!! Wishing you and your family all the best.
I think you need to be prepared at least income-wise, right…? All the baby stuff seems to be way too expensive… I want to have a child but I am worried about money, even though we are pretty stable.

>>141676
Thank you angel! One thing that made a massive difference for us was that we pretty much got everything secondhand, I love having something that's already been loved anyway and it's cool to know some other kids have had the things you had. For example, co sleeper, body pillow, breast pumps, high chair, 3 years worth of clothes, crib, toys, band t shirts, baby monitor, blankets and countless other things were kindly passed on to us by friends and people we knew, which makes such a crazy dent in costs. As a mom myself now, I've even passed all of the stuff I'm finished with on to other moms and will continue to do that. There's basically a ton of moms everywhere who have loads of stuff their kid is finished with who do the same, you can find so many Facebook groups that offer it too. You definitely need a stable source of income and savings helps for any unexpected things but you don't need to be super loaded or have a fuck ton of savings. You'd also be surprised the amount of stuff that's marketed to you that you don't need at all. We've also always bought all the nappies and supplies at Aldi, so they're literally a quarter of the price of insanely expensive shit everywhere else and the exact same quality. Ngl we had no savings when I got knocked up but it was doable. However idk where you're from and if the hospital and process of giving birth is expensive for you, that wasn't an issue for us. For real if you want a kid there's bound to be so many women around who would gladly pass stuff on, its the number 1 thing I recommend (if I knew you irl I would gladly contribute too lmao it's just so much easier!)

How do you stop thinking about babies.
I literally burst into tears because I can't have one yet. It's like my bodies screaming for one every single day and my mind is suffering for it.

>>142113
Has the baby fever cloud hit you recently or been there a while? You really just need to work hard at focusing on everything else in your life until it dissipates. It's difficult when you don't have one to imagine the 24hrs a day of yelling and shitting, and never feeling truly alone with your thoughts or being able to have a write-off day in bed. Theres lots of little self indulgent things you can do to focus on yourself. You say you can't have one yet so I assume you plan to some day, if it doesn't make your baby fever 10x worse you can find solace in maybe making a Pinterest board of ideas and cute pics when you're daydreaming about your future family. Like, you will have your baby, just not yet, but you can look forward to it

>>141543
an absolute queen

Ngl I always thought creepy-chan's huge eyes were cute.

Kris grikiate, she has a amazing combo of the facial proportions of a really attractive man with super feminine features, I wish I looked like this

>>136182
That’s a weird complaint, I would understand if it was girls crying about unrealistic standards but most editorial models in the west look kinda weird. She’s really pretty anyways,

Has anyone made significant improvements in how good they look naked?

I've spent this summer losing a few vanity pounds and it's going well. I seemingly have a cute slim hourglass silhouette, and when I wear well-fitting clothes I'm really happy with my body… but when I take my clothes off, it's like there's no difference no matter how much weight I lose. I look skinnyfat and doughy despite my ribs sticking out, also in an unappealing way. My breasts are so saggy and kind of far apart. A few years ago I was <110lbs at 5'6'' after going through a similar glowup project and I'm soon at that weight again, but even then I never seemed to look nice without clothes despite being a bit underweight already.

I know the solution is improving body composition with strength training, but I guess what I worry about is that I might never be able to get a good-looking body because of how I carry fat and muscle. Looking at real, less edited pictures of women who train a lot (e.g. on Reddit rather than Insta lol), so many end up with a slightly muscular but still kinda skelly anachan look maybe with a small pouch, not really feminine and attractive. And so many of the nice progress photos are obviously shopped or posed in a highly specific way, it's getting hard for me to believe people with normal genetics can look actually attractive even with effort lmfao.

I know it's silly but it makes me so sad. When I started dating my last boyfriend, I wore sheer tights a few times and he was in awe of my legs and always complimented how long they were and how crazy he was about them… but once we got to the stage where I was fully naked, he never said anything about them again kek. I feel like this applies to my whole body too.

Also I feel like getting the toned, healthy, and defined look would still require losing a lot of body fat. Getting toned this way means my breasts will deflate further, and while I'm considering a lift, I don't want implants. I also can't lift heavy because I have bad joints and my sister really damaged hers that way… will higher rep, moderate weight training even make your muscles significantly more defined?

Random googled pic related, it gives me hope, but is it just tricks with flattering lighting?? I just want to look healthy, slim but curvy like I do with clothes pls help

>>141682
This is gonna sound odd but how about getting a spray tan? Tans seem to show off musculature better than paler skin.

>>57461
I wanna make an accountability post.
My daily life atm is really sad. I used to be such an optimistic person and had so many hobbies but I feel almost dead because of shift work/being in a new place/weight gain. I'm having so much trouble feeling confident. I feel like such an outcast and it sucks not being able to even console in myself by feeling confident.


> 23F, 190 lbs (gained 40 in a year)
> Spend ALL my time in front of the computer, unless I work
> Not in school (my biggest goal) and can't work much right now because my lower back hurts like fuck
> Wear my husband's hoodies/long sleeves and slouchy shorts everyday
> Hair looks like trash because I have 2B hair but have no motivation to take care of it because I typically don't leave the house lmao
> Scared to leave the house because new country (despite being here a year) and unfit now.

Hopefully I can check back in a year and have a better life.

>>141708
Thanks anon, this is actually great advice! I'm really pale and it probably makes things look way worse and vaguely less healthy. My style is kinda low key goth so being pasty works with that but maybe a subtler tan would already improve things.

So do those skin/hair/nail pills actually work? And if so, what is the timer frame where you start to see results? A month or longer? And are fish oil pills a meme?

>>141858
well if you want the -I never once got a cut or cared for my hair ever-look then this is it

>>141860
>>141859
why are you both trying so bad to sound smart?

>>141860
sorry you only know hair that you see in shampoo ads, I always wished my hair cloud that long and yes pretty way before I started losing hair.

Help, chemicals leaked onto my face while I was getting an organic perm, and now I have a neon pink mark on my face that really stings. What do

>>141470
Most dentist won’t give a fuck, also even if you have damage they won’t think much about it because some people just have naturally weaker teeth, plenty of people take very good care of their teeth and still have issues like yellowing and caries. It seems like there’s quite a bit of luck involved in tooth health, Im a bit of an airhead and always forget to brush frequently enough but i never had any issues, people sometimes comment on how i have a pretty smile lol

>>141472
>>141473
you're right anons, I'm going to make an appointment tomorrow.

I'll report back (to keep myself accountable)

I’m quite worried about my teeth.
I’m only 22 but my teeth are all thinned-out and worn.
I didn’t realise i had a misalignment until I was like 17-18 because no dentist ever told me that I had an overbite.
I remember my dentist saying I didn’t need braces when my dad asked for them. I then just assumed I had normal teeth since they’re otherwise quite straight. But then the front teeth became visibly thin and chipped and now i even have trouble biting into tougher food and can barely drink anything cold or hot.

I moved to another country where the dentists are all shit. They fucked up my teeth multiple times already so I’m afraid to ask for braces. I also never had the money for it but now I’m seriously considering it. But then I’m also scared of my teeth breaking since they’re so weak already.
I don’t even know if braces will help my overbite. It could be a jaw issue too.

Smile Direct Club - do I risk it or stick with a dentist supervised Invisalign programme?

>>144448
Your best bet would be to go to a dentist. Better to be safe than sorry