/g/ - girl talk

>>281772
ayrt, and nah I never said that. I share your opinion when it comes to normies who are just 'normal' insecure and get memed into thinking they need surgery or fillers. But that is surface level stuff and tough love, body neutrality concepts can snap them out of it. I just don't think it's the best approach when it comes to deeper issues like EDs, BDD etc.

>>281778
Nonna, you are spiraling. It's not going to stop once you reach a certain weight and you know that. Your have to power to stop this now before it gets any more out of control.

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>>281767
im the anon, i just wanted to vent lol thank you. i know its good advice i just cant rewire 20something years worth of being told starving is better than being full overnight and be told im pathetic for it.

At what point can I just stop with this bullshit? When I was briefly on a medical ward last year I told myself I was going to stop and felt positive about my future and then I just… didn't. I was convinced then that if I ate once a day I was doing good and was somehow surprised when I didn't gain much weight. Now it's been nearly a year since then and my BMI hasn't been above 14/15 at all. I found out I have osteopenia in my hip, I'm exhausted all the time and I'm hungry as fuck and bored. I haven't eaten anything besides cereal since about May. I just want to stop.

"I'm worried for you, you are too skinny. You don't look sick but something isn't right."
>you don't look sick

And I was doing so good today.

>>281895
Do the same thing as >>270950 and use a real celebrity's name instead of your husbando's kek
>>282020
No, you fuck off. NTA by the way.

>>282054
No she's right, this is the devoted thread. So you should be devoted. If you want to talk shallowly about hot guys there's other threads.

>>282020
based

>>282078
That anon never said anything about liking anime guys shallowly, or even having more than one husbando at a time, that's only what the gatekeeping retard assumed. So to me that sounded like "if you have had more than one husbando in your life, you're not a tr00 husbandofag" when that's not the case at all. You can be completely dedicated to one husbando and have a different one a few years later and still be a husbandofag (what I think first anon meant), that's not the same thing as calling any popular character you want to fuck your husbando.

>>281895
Sounds like middle school changing room gossip, who asks about crushing in a working environment? And even then is it that weird not to have any IRL crushes?
It reminds when I get asked why I say I'm bi if guys disgust me, I can't answer the only men I find attractive are the 2D ones lol.

>>281964
Same anon. Up your protein and complex carbs. Give it a few weeks and see if you redistribute. Same thing happened and now I’m filling back out with muscle. Just took longer.

>>281974
Ok I see where I fucked up now. I wasn't factoring in how many calories I burn commuting to work and it made things higher than my intake

I know in general high protein is good, high carb is bad but what about high fat? How does that affect your body composition?

>>282076
Fats can be the purest form of energy and satiety.

>>282076
Honestly I grew up with so much talk of ‘high cholesterol bad’ but I gave up sugar to reduce my acne, and flat out stopped craving it.
My diet would be called high cholesterol/fatty. Eggs every day, fatty stuff like cheese, fish and milk, and minimal sugar. Now I can actually build muscle easier, my hair’s thicker, I’m not skinny fat, and I don’t really gain chub. Meals are more satiating too, and I even feel more energetic. I swear we get taught that we need a huge serving of carbs and minimal fats, but I disagree from experience.
>>282090 this video talks sense.

>>272384
i just wanted to let you know that i read your posts nonna. i read them a while back and forgot to reply. i wish i could give you advice but everyone in this thread has experienced something different, no two experiences are perfectly alike… but i noticed one thing in your post about not wanting to burden your siblings with what happened to you. i understand that, but are you sure they aren’t strong enough to share it with you? maybe they are. maybe you don’t have to do it alone. the ironic thing is that in some ways you might be the healthiest person in your family. youre in therapy and youre at least trying to process these things, even though it feels insurmountable, im proud of you nonna.

i just want to get this off my chest anonymously because i feel like such a drama queen and j don’t want to be that irl… but i want to ask my mom if something happened to me when i was a young kid, bc some things happened between me and an adult man when i was a teenager and maybe i just want to blame my gullibility and bad decision making on something else. but something just doesnt feel right. i dont know where i learned to just let people touch me, i dont know why i started to like the things i liked at such a young age where no one ever put those thoughts in my mind. my parents were great and taught me to say no, to have high self esteem, etc. but for instance i am so uncomfortable with one of my family members hugging me/showing physical affection even though he’s never given me anything except security. i wonder if something happened when i was little and i associated it with the wrong person subconsciously. my neighbor friend was molested for years by our neighbor boy and i remember playing with him too just no memories of being touched. i had some unhealthy behaviors as a little kid that i dont think were normal for my age (restricting, self harming) and i guess im just wanting to attribute them to something. something feels like its missing. i just have a hard time believing that those experiences as a teenager with someone i loved and who never technically touched me could have corrupted my sexuality this badly. i hate what its become and im ashamed of the things that ive found arousing in the past. im so ashamed. i never wanted to be like this and i cant even call myself a feminist because the things that have turned me on in the past are always situations where someone violated my boundaries. idk where that comes from, I started feeling that way even before i was introduced to porn so fuck. i dont know anymore

>>188885
Old ass post and I'm probably getting major shit for saying this but this sounds off. I'm probably uneducated or something but what sort of drug forces you to rub some guy's dick, your ex probably thought you were cheating on him.
If this is a legitimate story godspeed but this just reads as a fanfiction or, deflecting responsibility or I'm missing something. We don't make excuses for cheating while drunk, and to me it feels as though you had the opportunity to at least resist and you didn't take it because arousal or whatever. Now don't get me wrong those frat guys are horrible people nonetheless but I can't be the only one finding the anon questionable. Anyways ngl if I were the anon's ex I'd also feel very betrayed, that is if a coomer didn't write that post

I was raped last night, i got raped a year ago too and sexually abused by my step dad. Where am i going wrong?? Why am i a target for abuse? Am i unworthy of respect? Honestly i just feel like a retard.
I cant really think clearly right now, im still in shock

>>282055
you're not a retard nonna and im so sorry that you had to go thru this, you dont deserve it. please reach an irl support group as soon as possible, venting on internet isnt a lot to get the support you need, what you need is a social support therapy group, and i hope you can find one, i wish you the best. talk with your friends too so they can give you the endless amount of care and support that you need, do not feel ashamed to talk with them about this. and please next time take some pepper spray, deodorant, pair of scissors, just to defend yourself if you get assaulted.

>>276839
No. I like taking an assertive role in a relationship regardless.
My ideal is to be treated a bit like a gentle ""husband"" in the traditional sense. Not strictly, but I enjoy the idea of being the provider/support and a quiet presence. Like you know the Wife Guy meme? I feel the spirit of that. A bit socially dumb and shy compared to [her] wife, but gets things done and is so clearly devoted and in love.

Due to this and other general preferences, dating men was uncomfortable when I was still attempting it. Even the way a healthy man acts in a relationship is incompatible with me.

>>276873
Kek oh my god not everything is BPD/whatever. You are different with different people, that's normal.

>>276839
Anon this is so fucking relatable you have no idea. As I get older I really get shook at how intense and deep the effects of socialization are or wtf it is. Loving a man and loving a woman is different, point blank period, and fighting against it messes me up sometimes

>>276778
My best friend and I have recently discussed something similar. We are both bisexual, yet we have that want to have a family and give birth to our own children. The more i learn about adoption and fostering, the more i want to avoid it. At one point i thought, "Hey I could be a mother, maybe with another woman too!" This was when i had a fear of becoming pregnant and once the years passed i started slowly getting over that fear. I think having that boundary of ensuring I find the right man to eventually have children with definitely helped me be even more picky with the scrotes I've come across and not waste time. But i do get you, i have sexual attractions towards women, but now it's me knowing i couldn't be long term with her because i want to have a family that includes my own biological children.
It's difficult to describe, I don't think I could find my forever being another woman and I think a huge part of that connection I need in my life comes from my desire to have biological children.

>>278513
Obviously it's up to you and I understand the het family dynamic may be part of the appeal but couldn't you use donor sperm? Either from a bank or from one of her family members?

I'm febfem and tokophobic plus repulsed by piv, but if my partner wished to be pregnant I always figured I could ask a cousin to donate so we could have (roughly) bio kids.
Sorry if this is just a 50/50 struggle I can't get. I don't mean any ill will!

>>281938
Balloon sleeves I think

I’m not particularly interested in fashion but I found out about the undercover ss 19 show. Inspired by the 1979 film ‘the warriors’ ,Jun Takahashi created fake gangs

>>281952
Doubleposting but I’d say may favorites are the 2nd, 5th and 7th. Though the 1st is also pretty good too

I swear I’ve seen young adults in my local college wear clothes similar to the 4th and 8th .Hell, I’m pretty sure some of them listen to music similar to the stuff being played on the 4th

>>281938
This dress is cute but WTF is with this gross cummy pose

>>281958
Idk anon, I just found it on pinterest.

>>280963
I used to watch him play Amnesia back in the day but lost interest after a while.

>>281033
I actually meant real husbands. Like that “Sister Wives” shit minus anything religious. I’m sorry if it’s weird and off putting.

>>281857
sage your posts next time

>>281867
nta but what? you only need to sage on cow boards, this isn't /snow/ /pt/ or /w/ so saging is not needed here

>>281870
its kind of annoying to see a post bumped while the last anon didnt posted smthg relevant to the thread, its sure not an obligation to sage, but its kinda recommanded kek

>>281077
I still keep in touch with someone who added me in early 2021 (right before the previous thread was closed). We also happened to share some servers by coincidence at some point which too helped since I tend to be more active in groups rather than 1 on 1.

i’m obsessed with male stomachs, skinny and skinnyfat ones. abs ruin the effect for me. i think i like it because it’s the softest most vulnerable part of the body and exposing it is associated with surrender? i bet they’d make great pillows too. whenever i see a guy stretching and catch a glimpse of belly, or the way it hangs over the waistband i go insane even if i don’t find the guy very attractive.

>>281823
Kek you reminded me of my mom telling me about this guy who had a crush on her in college, he was riding his bike and tried to get her attention by yelling at her but didn't see the curb, ended up flipping the bike & face planting into the concrete

>>281814
Good taste, anon

When a person writes "your" instead of "you're". It can be so endearing to me. Also a good signature is super hot

>>281841
Thanks anon. Beautiful hands also really get me.

>>153246
i have been in a cycle of relationships with unattractive men with terrible personalities, and some that are chill but i just get bored after a few months of dating? like, i just wish we could be really good friends with no feelings between us all of a sudden. i think i really seek out Male Validation due to past trauma and shit and i also semi worry that the "love" i feel for men in the honeymoon phase is purely just really enjoying someones company, getting to cuddle. and then having to kiss them or have sex sometimes if they wanted but it always feels way more like im doing a favor for my male partner and im not really getting much out of it sexually.
im not really a sexual person, but i think reading hentai doujins ruined my view on sex, in the sense that it is so male-centered and doesnt consider the womans pleasure i guess
i feel like i could never really be close with men romantically or have those feelings towards them after the honeymoon phase ends and i feel kind of like heartless? i feel like i could only ever truly be "in love" with another woman because there's just no reality in which a man could fulfill my needs or even understand me
sorry for high rant and typos if there are any

>>278920
Dreams don't really indicate anything ime, I've had sexual dreams about birds and dragons, kek.

>>278555
"WLW" and the possibility of interacting with same sex genitalia is not at all normalized in our society unlike straight couplings. That you were attracted but can't work out the pussy part can go either way. Your brain may just be focused on the gender role that you're super invested in and ignoring the sex as you said, but you could also be bi. Some people require a strong connection to want to fuck and have that animal desire take over. What you are like alone with another woman in bed may surprise you… Or not. Basically it's not a cut and dry thing, most people grow up never actually being shown natural, healthy same sex scenarios where they can think of themselves in that context. It's sometimes a lack of imagination, for lack of a better word.

I'm confused why I have a soft spot for really short manlets, think men/boys who are less than or around 5'4" and are really boney. There was one I knew back in high school and I thought I had a crush on him most of my senior year. I haven't had that feeling toward a moid before or since. I used to dream fearing he would find me out somehow because I tried never making advances despite being friends. When I told friends of mine about this, I teared up because I thought it was kinda wrong and predatory, because having a shorter, younger boyfriend is incredibly uncommon. I'm not talking about femboys, just the type of moids who lie about their height. There's a guy I work with that has a similar bodytype, but I have no same "crush" feeling with him. Though, his bodytype makes me like him more than other guys I work with without thinking about it. Some times I feel like I’m “hyperaware” of where he is and I hate that feeling.

I thought I was straight in high school, but I'm a lesbian. Realizing that was great for my sex drive because I'm penis repulsed and vagina attracted. I'm not sexually attracted to men at all and always feared having a relationship with any of them, and that fear doesn't apply to women. But if I'm fully les, why does the bodytype of a moid subconsciously change my view of him? It shouldn't matter at all, right? Is this a common thing for lesbians? Some tomboys, (as in, that's a tag they use,) I see on Instagram scratch a similar itch but I don't tend to look at those much. I really don't believe I'm Bisexual. I'm sexually inexperienced too so maybe this is some part of myself I subconsciously try to avoid addressing, but dating a woman would fulfill my romantic desire in every way when dating a man would not.

>>281851
Maybe you just find them endearing? Like a little creature? It doesn't have to be sexual since many people can find people not of the sex they're attracted to "cute" in a platonic way. As far as men go, they do also come off as less immediately imposing than the tall ones.

I got diagnosed with PCOS and started birth control a month ago. The problem is, I had a regular period, every 31 days, and my only symptoms are hormonal acne and mild hirsutism.
Should I reconsider it? I understand that the risk of cancer is caused by not having a regular period, if I don’t have this risk why would my obgyn push me towards birth control?
It made me gain a ton of weight and emotional/aggressive. I also don’t need the contraceptive part because im a lesbian.

>>279431
Definitely get second opinions, PCOS is way overdiagnosed since it's an easy way to pick at women's insecurities. Had an irregular period and extremely heavy bleeding with acne, got diagnosed with PCOS, birth control did fuck all, went to another doctor and it turns out I had endometriomas on my ovaries

I got Paragard (copper IUD) inserted a little over two weeks ago. It's been nonstop spotting and cramping ever since. The cramping has been letting up and getting better so I'm not too concerned about that but the constant spotting is really a drag. Everything I see online indicates it's normal and part of your body adjusting to the IUD but it's still making me nervous. My anxiety is making me think it'll never go away. Anyone with this IUD, when did your spotting let up?

>>281395
It's hard for me to remember the spotting and cramping. But I remember my first actual period with it was absolutely miserable. I was crying and in so much pain I had to go back into the gyno. Her advice was "just wait and see at the next one" and I thought she was crazy, but she was right. My second period was way less painful and more normal. Since then, my periods have been slightly more painful than before but not too terrible.

So I'd give it a shot for at least a couple months. If it still winds up being an issue, then sure, maybe get it taken out. Before then, I wouldn't.

>>281628
The spotting appears to have stopped today so fingers crossed it stays that way. I also had COVID not too long ago and was dealing with a bit of spotting after that before having the Paragard put it so it could be a bad combination of the two.

My period is due this upcoming week and I'm dreading it because I've heard the first one is the worst. That makes me feel a lot better though knowing yours improved over time and are mostly the same as before. I've always had bad cramps the first 1-2 days of my period anyway so fingers crossed I'll be the same!