/g/ - girl talk

>>574946
Thank you, I need to wait a bit
>>574941
What a beautiful painting. I am praying for you and Leonnonas from global world (changed Adonis with Leon)

Come, whether you ride your swan-drawn chariot over the sea’s billows,
joying in the creatures of the deep as they dance in circles,
or you delight in the company of the dark-faced nymphs on land,
(as, light-footed, they frisk over the sandy beaches).
Come, lady, even if you are in Cyprus that cherishes you,
sing of you, O blessed one, and of immortal, pure Leon.
Come, O beautiful and comely goddess;
I summon you with holy words and pious soul.

>>574947
I love this thread and nonnas here too. I wish you good rest and sweet dreams moreover

I need a body pillow of him NOW

Probably super cringe edgefag confession but god I need more guro of him. I can't draw so writing it is I guess for me. Just wanna see what's inside him, that's love, isn't it, simply put… I just love when arrogant dumbass men like him get what they fucking deserve too.

>>574959
Same for mine. There's one out there but it doesn't ship to where I'm from… time to draw my own but I don't really get off to my own art unfortunately

>>574959
I tried to draw daki art and couldn't stop giggling and blushing

>>574160
anon, why did you grab such an unflattering screenshot of her? kek

>>574168
for the lulz
jk because it was the first pic I found of her

Hi nonnies, this might belong in the stupid questions thread, but how would I go about hair oiling while also using dry shampoo between washes? I work outside and have kind of combination hair (normal/oily scalp, dry ends) so I try to make my washes last four to five days. I want to start oiling my scalp, but it seems kind of nasty to seal all that hair product in with oil. Should I wash first and then oil on wet hair? Or should I just do it on top?

>>574385
What do you need to oil your scalp for if your scalp already produces enough or too much oil as is?

>>574385
You only oil your scalp a little bit before you wash your hair. Please don't get shit information like this from tiktok. It's very harmful for your scalp to clog it up with oil and dry shampoo. Also don't sleep in hair oil or on your scalp, it's skin, it needs to breathe!

Hey anons, so I'm >>459736 who talked about how my sister suddenly wanted to get into goth that more than likely came about with how popular it has become in recent times on social media and it's been a few months in and she's still somewhat doing it.

Though again, I do feel that this interest is only because of how trendy "goth" is on the internet. I've still been keeping my distance when it comes to goth because I still stand by what I told myself which is that I just want to keep goth to myself and I don't want to engage in it with her. Recently though, she had started bugging me about wanting me to ocme thrift shopping with her and she got really upset with me that I didn't want to go.

Besides the fact that I already have enough clothes and I'm not trying to add anymore to my closet, I just know that this sudden interest in thrifting is from social media. We've all heard (and seen) how thrifting has become a trend now, especially thrift hauls to where thrift shops have even started raising their prices. And I know that this has to be social media driven on her part because when I would do thrifting back in the early 2010s, she would poke fun at me for buying "old musty clothes" and thought it was a waste of time and that I should just shop at "normal stores". Anyway, she's tried to get me to go thrifting with her 3 times and I declined and the last time I did, she got snappy at me saying that I'm being mean not wanting to thrift with her and I explained that I'm not looking to buy more clothes and that I didn't feel like walking around on my days off from work. to which she said I should come just to be company for her and I just made up some excuse.

Something I forgot to mention about my sister is that she's someone who is very co-dependent when wanting to go out. Aside from work, she won't go out unless she's with her boyfriend or her friend and something tells me that she's trying to use me for that as well because she doesn't feel entirely comfortable with her new getup and being seen in public alone dressed in it.

Anyway, I still have my doubts that this interest is genuine because she's been posting her new look on her Instagram and just looking at the tags she uses like #baddie & #gothbaddie , it kinda gives me an idea of what this is about. She also put the "I am strange and unusual" quote as her quote but get this, she doePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I hate that I can't achieve the hairstyle I want without obliterating my hair. Bat's nests are so cool but you need to comb "backwards", like from the tips to the roots, and it's so unhealthy for the hair

>>574122
We've had a few TikTok bands touring with older bands lately, and it's really funny watching the crowd shift through the night from the polished online types on their phones to grumpy older goths in band tees one-upping each other with gigs they've been to.

>>574277
Yep, those of us innthe 2000s who would dye or tease the hell out of our hair just had to deal with potential hair damage. Your best bet is to make sure that you practice as best haircare as you can.

>>574144
I remember your posts from the previous thread. It could still be a fleeting phase for her. If she's not really into the music, she might not keep it up for much longer.

>Anyway, she's tried to get me to go thrifting with her 3 times and I declined and the last time I did, she got snappy at me saying that I'm being mean not wanting to thrift with her
Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like she's trying hard to "prove" how goth she is. Thrifting came out of rebelling against society and also necessity; unless you could afford the clothes you wanted, you had to make them yourself. I still thrift even though I can afford new clothes because I like modifying. I get ideas from Lip Service circa 2000s. It's a creative outlet and I like having original pieces. In your sisters case, the motivation might be Instagram selfies. Then people on social media thinks she genuinely lives the goth lifestyle even though you know it isn't true. This probably stems from insecurity on her part. Not having her own identity and holding onto one that seems cool. If only she knew. Being goth in the early 2000s would get you ridiculed, not praised. So she attaches to you for being OG and hoping she can take some of the authenticity that you have. If you don't encourage her, she'll eventually move onto something else. Granted it could also be her trying to bond with you in some way, but I get how hard that could be if she's superficially into goth. If she genuinely isn't into the music and only the "look" then you'll have to wait for her to move on eventually. People who follow trends leave the current one and then follow the next.

>>574557
This is an assumption but he may be compensating for his emotional unavailability by spoiling you, I'm assuming this is how his parents raised him. When someone isn't taught how to recognise and deal with their own feelings, they can't deal with someone else's in a healthy way either, on top of that patriarchal male culture encourages emotional disconnect as a virtue.

He may need therapy to bring out his emotions and it will provide some stability during the process. However, he may end up becoming unstable because it may bring up a lot of unwanted memories, such as times he felt he experienced injustice, this may lead to a mental state that is quick to anger. Since he is your boyfriend and you both actually have the same interests, I am assuming he cares about you a lot he most likely doesn't want to risk anything and lose you, but his upbringing clearly did not equip him for strong emotions and until he deals with it he may end up losing you. It's a question of if he wants to continue the cycle or break it.

>>574605
It's not really responsible of you to pathologize it as an issue of just him being emotionally constipated due to his upbringing because it could be due to way more reasons, most of which don't reflect kindly on him nor how he's treating her. The most likely issue is a lack of empathy and basic partnership, and I don't understand how to you shared interests means someone must care a lot about someone because while that's great, that's mostly surface-level. And devil's advocate let's say you're correct, actually mostly doesn't matter because it's extremely unlikely she's going to be able to easily get him into therapy when he's acting this way and how disadvantageous this is or how you think he may get angry or maybe even violent. And she's probably college-aged, and most accounts I've heard of such women trying to fix much older men like this don't go well.

>>574587
I'm not exactly married but functionally (live in a place with common law so we're spouses for most legal/tax purposes) and I can tell you no, I do not think it is normal. Can't imagine living with someone I feel 'random hate' for. I would find that concerning and would ask myself what is causing that, because it almost 100% isn't actually random. You're probably just suppressing something and then it's coming to the surface sometimes, so try to figure out what it is.

>>574665
Agree with you. OP's description of her relationship just sounded like a 'fairweather boyfriend' who doesn't want his girlfriend to 'bother' him with anything 'important' but likes her around to have a fun time with. This type of man is common and it almost never has anything to do with emotional constipation, it's just typical moidish selfishness. I would be very wary of a person like that.

>>574720
yeah, I'm totally open to the idea that there's something vaguely sympathetic buried beneath the questionable behavior but I don't buy that it completely recolors the nature of someone's behavior either and it can easily go badly deal with it as a romantic partner. I don't think partners should be treated like projects either.

people expect too much from relationships. im not here to complete you, im here to add to something already full and not take away. as long as we are not fighting all the time, exhausting each other, generally making each other's lives worse– if we're making it better by being a safe place to fall and a shoulder to rest on, that is all I desire.
I got broken up with for literally not being extroverted enough, even though I was sweet to him and spent time with him watching movies and going out for little things– im just not into big road trips or sleepovers, I want my space, I can't sleep with another person in my bed or in a bed that isnt mine. which I think is perfectly fine for a dating relationship, its not like its marriage.
im considered very pretty like people make a big deal out of my looks, and guys are always impressed by the fact that i look the way I do and share some of their nerdy interests, so you'd think id have an easy time with dating. but nope, these men out here want princess treatment and for me to be able to read their mind and drive to see them and be desperate to claw my way under their skin and bare our souls. im not doing that shit, especially when I met you on a dating app and have known you for under a year. a dude should be more than satisfied by a cute girl who is nice to him, since when have they developed standards like they can afford to be so picky? men are the pursuers and i will not be matching your effort, its literally your job to woo me. bro you are not going to find a hot girl who never says no to anything you want to do and is your literal soulmate carved from clay, good luck tho

>Discord
yung_storm
>How long this contact will remain active?
Indefinitely
>Timezone
EST
>Age
25
>What age range are you most comfortable with for new potential friendships?
21+
>How would you describe yourself?
Introverted loner type
>Hobbies and pastimes
Music, movies, video games, diamond painting, crochet, aspiring content creator
>Favorite movies/shows/music/books/etc
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>Contact
email: penpenrepen@gmail.com, will give you my discord after.
>How long this contact will remain active?
Forever. It's a pact.
>Timezone
GMT-3
>Age
20, 21 very soon.
>What age range are you most comfortable with for new potential friendships?
Someone my age, but if you feel like you can interact with someone younger as an older woman, feel free to add me too.
>How would you describe yourself?
Silly, kinda retarded humor, but i also really like to talk about sentimental things and i am a sensitive person. I am ESL so keep it in mind. My english is not the best, however, if that makes you curious, im a good writer in my native language. I will care deeply about your sentimental struggles if you trust me enough to share them. Looking for real, judgment-free friendship where we can be both stupid and profound. Very flexible, very chill. You can be TMI, i don't care, i'm a very hard-to-disgust person, so you can feel completely free to be yourself to the max.

I don't get out of my house frequently and follow that as a sort of personal culture at this point. I believe some people naturally are more comfortable being at home as much as possible (i also believe that there's a balance needed to keep a good health, of course) I haven't lived much, to be honest, i don't really relate to the troubles of people who have lived lives full of experiences. I have no social media, my hair is curly… I love unique and different things, and relate to that one passage of "We need to talk about Kevin" where his mother talks about how every country has different customs about greetings, but every country has customs about greetings. If this makes sense to you maybe we will relate to eachother.

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>>569328
>a fellow londoner undead fan in my age range on lc
Wtf, I am no longer into enstars but this is crazy. Sadly I'm way too anxious to add anyone here

>>574033
nta and that’s at least 3 of us now, reconsider~

>Contact
yellasubmarine@protonmail.com
>How long this contact will remain active?
Forever, hopefully
>Timezone
Eastern Daylight Time
>Age
20
>What age range are you most comfortable with for new potential friendships?
As long as you aren't underage.
>How would you describe yourself?
I consider myself kind of skittish, but I can talk for hours on end if I get comfortable enough. I have an easy to crack shell. I am not good at comforting people but I will listen. I like to have fun and laugh loud and make other people happy.
>Hobbies and pastimes
Art in the most broad sense, I like to draw weird shit and mess around with air dry clay. I like to make little plushies of characters I like and other threadwork.
>Favorite movies/shows/music/books/etc
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May I get a reading on how my childhood trauma is affecting my adult life? I always thought I was over it, but I feel like I'm behind my peers and not as functional.

>>572237
Same, seconded, I want the exact same reading hehe

I received an Ace of Cups card in a package I got from an occult shop. If anyone is knowledgeable in tarot I'd appreciate a breakdown of what it might symbolize or what message is being given to me. Thank you to anyone who takes a venture.

>>574118
It's a good card

>>571443
Thank for your reading, nona

>>574167
nonna that's so cool i hope you lurk the emergency room thread and the birth control thread kek

>>573482
Librarian. Though I want to get out because of the low pay.

>>566364
thanks nona, glad to see a fellow sally ride lover here. can't help but gush about how cute and nerdy she is.

>>573482
Software engineer. I don't know where the stereotype of women in IT being lesbians come from though, I haven't met one in my life.

>>572268
I knew from a young age that I was a lesbian but I suppressed it for a long, long time. I love being a lesbian, and I vehemently hate how society treats us. That's the only thing that's stood in the way of accepting my sexuality really

Nonnas, I'm so sad. I ordered some braiding hair from amazon. I usually wear color 30 (which is also what my natural hair is dyed to) but I guess I wasn't paying attention and ordered FIVE packs of color 4! It's so dark basically black, and I just dont like black right now. Do you guys think doing extra small braids would do a good job of hide the color difference between my hair and the braids? Im not too good at tucking, tbh.

>>574630
I say see if you can do an exchange. Or try bleaching the hair to your hair colour. I think if you do decide to go with the braiding then you'd just have to be ok with the contrast between the braiding hair and your own.

I am so sick of my mom trying to get me into the idea of marrying and having kids.Dating is already hard enough as a black woman but coupling that with me not liking black men/them being very likely to leave their offspring and not marry at all,me being into mainly non-black guys,and no one wanting to stay with black women in relationships makes it impossible.I get so unreasonably angry sometimes because I feel like she should know it is but she still bugs me about it.Ive became content with not being with anyone but it’s strange to me how,as another black women,she doesn’t get why I can’t just do that.(integrate)

Have any other lesbians here felt like they've been masculinized by white or non-black lesbians? It almost like unless you present yourself as extremely hyperfeminine, they will just assume you're masculine by default and its fucking annoying.

>>574933
Yes, even before I started presenting as a stud. Just nonblacks being on their fuckery in general. Pay them no mind and pour into your sisters and brothers nonna nonblacks, especially nonblack qweers are literally nothing without us

>>574288
Ughhhhhh she is so beautiful I might tear up kek

>>574038
Try changing your diet to more whole foods and protein, but eating the same amount of calories.

Turns out I have PCOS wtf (or at least polycystic ovaries without it being a full on syndrome). I didn't expect it because I'm not hairy and I've always had a normal BMI, but I've never been quite as thin as I want and I've always struggled with binging/a massive sweet tooth so maybe it's not that shocking.

I'm starting metformin and although it's not a weight loss drug I've heard it lowers your sugar cravings and reduces food noise, I'm praying that's the case. I guess I've gotta do a low carb low sugar diet either way but I'm gonna need all the help I can get resisting dessert.

>>574832
Could you maybe share how you got your PCOS diagnosis? Since you didn't have the common symptoms, what made the doctor look into possible PCOS diagnosis?

>>574921
I probably shouldn't have said I have PCOS, I was panicking kek. After doing more googling I just have 'PCO' which is different.

Anyway I had an ultrasound (for unrelated reasons) which showed polycystic ovaries ie a super high number of follicles. That's one criteria for PCOS but you need to also have hyperandrogenism and/or irregular periods. I was on BC for so long up until recently that I have no clue how regular my periods are, so I guess it could be either.