No. 557912>>558098
After my breakup 3 years ago, a few months later a high school friend reached out, he had always been liking my posts for years but we never spoke. We start speaking and stupidly I urge this friendship on due to my feeling vulnerable and sad post breakup. We drink together online, chat, call etc. After he keeps making jokes of coming to see me, I panic and block him on all platforms. We don't talk for a year. A year goes by and I get lonely again. I have 2 girlfriends but they are almost 10 and 15 years older than me and have lives with kids and jobs and there is kind of an advice age gap there, meanwhile I work part time and have no other friends, I'm a little depressed and struggle to pick new hobbies. So of course, as I do, I reach out to him again. I explain that I needed the break as the friendship got too intense. Fastforward to today, I feel as though its getting intense again, and I fully blame myself for not setting up boundaries, I'm terrible at doing so and it is definitely a weakness of mine. And now, he tried to talk to me daily, and if we call on the weekends the calls last hours and I realize now that his presense overall is something that is not beneficial to me at all. While I enjoy our discussions and banter sometimes, he is still just a guy living at home, with addictions, who I entertained during a time I felt lonely.
My question is, how do I go about disconnecting from this friendship, should I just cut ties again no contact? Or do I slowly push away? Do I speak up and say something (I understand this is probably the most grown up answer). I just need help.. I can't get advice from anyone my own age (27) so I struggle to know how to deal with these situations. Thanks