/g/ - girl talk

After my breakup 3 years ago, a few months later a high school friend reached out, he had always been liking my posts for years but we never spoke. We start speaking and stupidly I urge this friendship on due to my feeling vulnerable and sad post breakup. We drink together online, chat, call etc. After he keeps making jokes of coming to see me, I panic and block him on all platforms. We don't talk for a year. A year goes by and I get lonely again. I have 2 girlfriends but they are almost 10 and 15 years older than me and have lives with kids and jobs and there is kind of an advice age gap there, meanwhile I work part time and have no other friends, I'm a little depressed and struggle to pick new hobbies. So of course, as I do, I reach out to him again. I explain that I needed the break as the friendship got too intense. Fastforward to today, I feel as though its getting intense again, and I fully blame myself for not setting up boundaries, I'm terrible at doing so and it is definitely a weakness of mine. And now, he tried to talk to me daily, and if we call on the weekends the calls last hours and I realize now that his presense overall is something that is not beneficial to me at all. While I enjoy our discussions and banter sometimes, he is still just a guy living at home, with addictions, who I entertained during a time I felt lonely.
My question is, how do I go about disconnecting from this friendship, should I just cut ties again no contact? Or do I slowly push away? Do I speak up and say something (I understand this is probably the most grown up answer). I just need help.. I can't get advice from anyone my own age (27) so I struggle to know how to deal with these situations. Thanks

>>555125
I moved to aus and dont regret it, the people are nice and its quite beautiful here. Its a bit expensive but the wages are much better so it works out. Small towns are cosy and big cities have lots to do. I prefer Aus to EU.

>>557912
I don't understand the issue. Maybe I'm reading wrong but is he currently in high school, and that's the problem? Or is it just an old friend that you don't like very much because he's kind of weird/a junkie? Or are you worried he has a crush on you and you don't feel the same way? Either way, if you don't want to outright tell him you're not interested in being friends, just fade from the friendship slowly and act distant. What are his addictions btw? What is it about the friendship that makes you uncomfortable? Above all anon, if something about this guy is weirding you out, then trust your gut.

Nonnas, what do you do when you feel ready to check out of this world?
I've gradated with a Comp Sci degree but feel nothing because it seems to be worthless in today's job market it seems. I want to get into cybersecurity btw, I know its not entry level but still. Only job I could get vaguely related to it was a shitty barely above minimum wage job that had me working three jobs at once with every chance of a raise or even a job title change blown off. I quit without new offers because I was on the verge of hanging myself after months of looking for other jobs unsuccessfully. I had a really nice prestigious job lined up but it fell through due to a certain job cut situation.
I keep applying for jobs in big cities outside my hometown, but once again, no success.
I've been looking up NDEs and other kind of spiritual things (call if woo woo if you want). I feel like I really want to call it quits on this world and go there. I feel like I'll find "real" love and connection there. Maintaining friends is exhausting for me, it feels like just endless obligations. I feel more connected to fictional characters than real people. I feel like there isn't much other than fear of regret tying me here. I haven't had great experiences being friends with girls my age in the past.
What do I do nonnas? I feel like I shouldn't just rely on my career as a reason to keep going but I'm not looking forward to 50 more years of this, I'm just so tired and disillusioned with it all.

>>558309
I'm in a similar boat, no friends and little desire to really stick around. I mostly cope by trying to appreciate small everyday things like nice food, music, being outside, stupid shit like that. I'd also suggest picking up some new hobbies, especially creative ones to help you feel more fulfilled and like you're actually reaching for a goal rather than living in monotony. Really anything that fulfills that role would be good. Wishing you luck nona.

i can’t tell if i want a best friend or a girlfriend and it’s stressing me out

>>557608
Speaking of books, has anyone else read The Well of Loneliness? Reading it now and it’s fucking me up.

My girlfriend lives a little over an hour away and we meet nearly once a week. But the time between dates is so hard to get through sometimes. It makes me feel a bit guilty because at least I have a gf now to look forward to, but god do I miss her

Anyone else dealt with “love triangles”? Really stings

>>557892
I'm finishing Orlando and reading Virginia and Vita's letters. I'm not ready for The Well of Loneliness, it would only further the despondency I refuse to give into.

>>558273
Forgot to mention, women don’t even like to openly discuss if they had a c section because some people don’t believe you’ve actually given a true birth. And others judge them for not being able to push their baby out.

>>557802
This is total bullshit, older mothers are statistically far better parents than young ones. I would say more but it's against the rules to call out what's really going on in this post.

>>557802
you're so full of shit lmfao what type of retarded psyop is this?

>Having kids/getting pregnant younger is better for the mom and baby because most people are more open and adaptable before they get set in their ways post-30s
set in their ways like having maturity and financial stability???
>I've seen so many women get super self-obssessed with their own needs, their therapy, their workouts, their vacations, their hustle, that they don't have any room for a child, family, or community - it's all me me me at the center of their lives that gets worse as they get older and older.
are we in agreement women are people who can make their own choices? I don't think so, right?
>Most women are not even willing to limit their screentime, so how are they going to handle a baby waking up at 5am every day or inconsistent schedules, pediatrician appointments, feeding - clothing - washing a child daily, and building a community with teachers and peers?
correct, which what makes you think 18yos should be popping out babies if they won't raise it correctly?
>So they stick their child in front of screens all day, microwave and get takeout for food, and enroll the child in long after school programs from 8am-6pm so they can maximize their own time without realizing their child sees them as their world, the one person they want to hold the most and spend time with the most.
god forbid working women try to make parenting easier. I know she has to because her scrote aint helping and doing shit despite both of them working. I guess his screentime is more important kek
>While an older parent I know need glasses to read the books (limits their abilities)
this is the weakest argument yet kek did you know 20yos also wear glasses?

5/10 for making me reply, I hope you burst in flames.

>>557802
>their therapy, their workouts, their vacations, their hustle, that they don't have any room for a child, family, or community - it's all me me me at the center of their lives that gets worse as they get older and older.
Therapy is necessary to be a good parent, "hustling" is necessary to provide your child with needs, workouts almost never intervene with children and vacations are beneficial to the child. If the best example you got is the mom takes care of her mental and physical health and gives her child fun experiences as "being a self absorbed mom" I sure as fuck wish my mom was a self absorbed as you're describing

>>557802

You all already destroyed this retarded post, but reading

>Most women are not even willing to limit their screentime, so how are they going to handle a baby waking up at 5am

Goes extra funny when you're browsing your phone while breastfeeding kek

>>557680
fwiw I completely understand and have sympathy for you. I think you got off on the wrong foot because your vent post was very us vs them about height and seemed to minimize other people's pain, and also people seem to want to argue whenever someone fixates on a certain feature, and I get it on their end too because a single feature is rarely make or break and it's tempting to argue is claiming that life would be perfect if only one single thing was different. but I'm sure it's really hard to be tall and self conscious about it. it's the same feeling of being too big that drives weight consciousness but you can't diet height away. I think height is a very pretty feature too, but I'm really sorry you feel bad about being ~5'8.5" nona.

>>556969
?? i feel like i only get privileges from being tall. granted i don’t belong here since i’m not ugly but still. maybe it’s about looks? i think if you shrunk me people would think i’m jailbait

>>557967
is this self posting? how do you find something with 1k views

>>558277
No it's not, if you look at the author of those videos she's actually attractive so she wouldn't be posting here. And I follow some blackpill female content so this channel popped up

>>557967
She's not pretty and her channel is retarded af. She sounds like she have arrested development and low EQ, does she think she's blackpilling by talking about stuff that everyone already knows?

I saw that meme and it reminded me of him so I had to make a version with him. It's so him. I even headcanon he's either a college or high-school drop out.

>>557034
She was intentionally trying to piss me off kek. plus I think a part of me was terrified at the idea of having Cyborg as my dad

>>557812
Oh cute, I think I do wanna pick up a pair of these with the pink ribbon, it would give just an extra touch of detail and coordination. Thanks nonnie! I appreciate the advice, everyone.

>>557867
Why? What defines non-lolitas and who says they can't enjoy our accessories? I love seeing my favorite brands sell out quickly. It means they're being supported and will continue to stay afloat. I don't care anyways because I already own all the basic accessories I want. If normies are appreciating the quality and beauty of lolita brands then that makes me happy. It beats seeing them in those fugly aliexpress headdresses.

>>558042
NTA. Come to think of it, rucksacks are always the item gen z girls notice and comment on the most. One zoomer even asked for the brand name so she could get one for herself, so sweet
>>556265
Wow, i usually don't care for AP but this is insanely pretty and satisfying to look at

>>557897
because half the releases of the season are usually ugly

>>557459
I heard Bodyline is going to rebrand as lolita only brand soon. I don't know where I read it so it might be a product of my feverish dreams from last week's flu.

>>557732
It might be coming back, not in the same way but regardless its kind of trendy, I keep seeing gyaruo guys on social media.

What do you nonnies think of d.i.a's new revival??

>>557930
unpopular opinion but i think full on gyaru makeup looks pretty awful most of the time on non-japanese girls. it's supposed to look quirky and cute but on gaijin gyaru often veers into straight up monstrous or uncanny valley territory. if you already have big eyes, doing huge gyaru eye makeup with your bottom lashline redrawn 3cm under your natural lashline is just gonna look crazy, especially when paired with the fake tan and venus flytrap lashes and white lips. if you want to go down the trashy route as foreigner, its probably best to go for the instathottie or jersey shore girl look, that does actually suit foreigners. and maybe add some gyaru clothing and accessories if you want.

>>557956
I agree nonna, I also think ''chinese gal'' makeup could suit non-japanese girls more as its more cutesy and non-exaggerated

>>557963
gyaru makeup is specifically made for chinese and japanese girls with tiny eyes, flat noses and big lips. thats why they redraw their eyes so huge, put pale lipstick on to make their lips look smaller, put a shit ton of highlight down their nose bridge to make it look higher etc. when caucasian women try to do it, it just looks nutty usually imo because (most) white women already have those features and it exaggerates them too much. like i said, caucasian people should follow makeup tips for caucasian features, and asians should follow asian makeup. there are some douyin looks that look really nice on caucasians, but they tend to be the more natural and subtle looks. gyaru makeup often looks whacky on non asian faces, but if thats the style theyre going for i wont stop them.

>>557895
it also has to do with the internet in the 90s the internet was closed off af so emulating a style exactly was harder. gyaru in the late 2010s looked like instathots and who was all over insta? japanese girls.

t. himegyaru for 15+ years

>>527578
cute

>>528107
>>528106
cos he just got done fignering me. virgins

>>549946
anon are you implying that there's dirt in your pussy and it got on his nails…

>>528096
way to stink up a thread, fuckin disgusting jfc. Ew.

So, my pelvic floor is pretty much nonexistent. I have to pee every hour, more often than that if I've been drinking water. I have to be careful with laughing too hard. Pretty much my entire life is scheduled around "do I have easy and immediate access to a bathroom?", to the point where I won't go to concerts or clubs unless I'm intentionally dehydrating myself because I just can't bear to wait in lines like that. What kinds of exercises can I do besides kegels? My lower core and diaphragm are totally destroyed from decades of slouching and shallow breathing and now I'm suffering the consequences.

>>557973
Sure, what do you want to know? Why are you scared?

>>557973
Yeah. I do. Be very careful to eat only extremely low-gas foods and try to fart out everything you have in you before you go because depending on how difficult your cysts or whatever are to find, they WILL be squeezed out of you when the technician pushes on your cervix with the force of 1000 pounds and there will be nothing you can do about it. And yeah, that hurts like absolute hell. I had it done twice and the stabbing of my cervix was almost intolerably painful. But I was told they only had to be so rough with me because one of my ovaries was hiding from the ultrasound wand and they needed to corner it to take its mugshot.

>>557973
I had one of these a few weeks ago, it was no where near as bad as I expected. It wasn't the most comfortable experience in the world but it will give you the answers you seek. What part of it is worrying you most?

>>558020
I feel you, nona. I had a similar issue several months ago, I thought I was dying because I pissed myself at work twice. Kegels helped a lot after a couple of months. I also started doing other exercises to strengthen my core in general, but I’m not sure if that helped. I was also drinking way too much water for my body and activity level. I measured how much water I was drinking every day and it was over 5 liters. For reference, I’m a five foot tall office lady, so it was too much for me. I decreased my water intake a bit, started exercising more and it got better over time.